I love the more 'serious' keep it 100's as much as I love the 'fun ones'. Its people being able to 'tell their story' in a quick snippet. It really helps to open my eyes to different points of view, different lives, being able to see people as humans.
As a teen (info: I'm a male) I thought "society tells me it's sad but it sounds meh to me" Now, after years of seeing multiple ppl go through miscarriages and miscarriage scares, I cannot possibly imagine the experience. Forget the ppl saying you weren't a mom. YOU WERE. A tremendously strong one too
Miscarriages are honestly not as uncommon as one might think - my mother had one before me and another one before my sister - tbh it should be spoken about more often.
So true. We had a premature child who passed and then a miscarriages. I was so surprised at how many people had experiences with one. But at first you think you're alone or that somethings wrong with you cause most people never talk about it.
I've had 3 miscarriages and went through them all alone. I'm 36 and don't know if I'll ever have kids. As someone who is constantly being asked about kids or being reminded that my 'body clock is ticking', it definitely makes you feel like your body isn't capable of doing what it's "supposed" to do. I'm grateful for being able to go through something that allows me to relate to so many other mothers of loss. We are not alone, we are not broken 💜
The time thing is just not too realistic anymore. Medicine has comes a long way. Alot of people having babies in their 30s now because of various life circumstances they are pushing it back. I have seen people pregnant in 40s. Good luck.
@trippypen8879 because the cost of being pregnant, and raising a child is expensive. People are having more difficulty progressing to financial stability in order to have children. There are also so many methods to having children. Reproductive technology has come a long way. There's also the path of seeking a surrogate or adoption if all else doesn't work out. I think everyone with a uterus that wants to be pregnant is told by society that their bodies are made to produce life. But some people simply cannot for whatever medical reasons, and that can be difficult to process. That's why there are these improvements in medicine and tech to help families that are planning to have a child. Miscarriages are quite common, especially when so many pregnant people are high risk with gest diabetes, hypertension, etc
@Goodgodgetagripgirl I worked in obgyn office for 6+ years you are not saying anything I don't already know or that other people probably already don't know. It is more helpful being hopeful than just piling on all the negatives that can come with childbearing. Especially if you are a person trying for a baby.
My mom has a miscarriage before I was born and she was blamed for it by her in-laws. She is now coming to terms that it was not her fault but she recalls the pressure that she felt to have a baby in order to keep her in-laws at bay.
I did have a miscarriage. I liked that they also showed people who were not that upset about it. I wasn't. It felt weird to not be sad about it, but I actually had an appointment for an abortion the day I started bleeding. I was caring for a dying relative and I was still a student, didn't have money, didn't even have a stable place to call home. I got pregnant again almost 10 years later, and couldn't be happier about it.
I can relate to not being upset about a miscarriage. I was indifferent to whether I wanted to keep the baby. Even though I was taking prenatal pills, I might've gone through with the pregnancy and given the baby up. I got pregnant again at 20 years old, my boyfriend was supportive with whatever decision I made. He's no longer my boyfriend, he's my husband cause he wanted to do what was right for the child.
Had a 2nd trimester miscarriage at 13 weeks 2 years ago. Without a doubt, the HARDEST thing I have EVER experienced. It rocked my world in a way I never knew could happen. It completely changed my outlook on life, how I see myself, and how I go through life. Whenever I talk to someone who had a miscarriage, I tell them this: It's like being in a club that no one wants to be in, but you don't know how many members there are until you join.
For women under 35, the miscarriage rate is about 15%. For women between 35 and 45 years old, the miscarriage rate is about 20-35%. Despite it being so common, you hardly hear anyone talk about it. I thank these women for sharing their story and helping people feel less alone.
As someone who as lost a pregnancy, this conversation is so important. I remember feeling not only ashamed but betrayed by my own body and every woman around me that didn’t talk to me about it. It was the hardest time in my life hands down.
This past Friday I gave birth to my daughter via c-section. She is 2 months early and I am still scared of losing her. I know she’s strong but not holding her and going on the days worrying doesn’t help. I’m sorry for all the moms who go through the loss of their child. May peace be along your sides.
I had my baby a month early (via emergency c section) and spent like a week at the hospital and I was scared af and now he is 2 years old and strong bouncy baby. Your baby girl is going to grow into the best person you’ve ever met, and that will be because of you and the love you have for her. Sending you love, hugs and prayers for you and your beautiful family.🫶🏽🫂🫶🏽
Had a coworker who is my friend to this day that had seven miscarriages before having her daughter. She showed me the tattoos she got dedicated for each one. It was really touching and I really felt for her. I can’t imagine the pain of the loss and the what-ifs. More women need to be able to speak openly about this and be comforted.
Yes ectopic pregnancy that was rupturing. Emergency surgery to save my life and remove my tube 😢I was so much pain and bawled my eyes out for weeks. I had IVF 3 years later and got pregnant first time. My child is now 10 he's a gamer and an athlete😅. There's definitely hope and I wish all the luck love and baby dust to every person who desires to carry a child ❤
I went through this almost two months ago when I was 14 weeks. It’s so healing to hear from other women who understand. This can be one of the loneliest experiences. I love this channel and my heart skipped a beat when I saw the title of this video come up in my notifications. Thanks for doing this 🩷
I had a missed miscarriage a few months ago. The fetus had stopped growing, but my body didn’t trigger a natural miscarriage on its own so I had to have a procedure to remove it. It was so heartbreaking and sad, and the process of trying to get pregnant afterwards has been emotional and difficult. I feel like I don’t know my body anymore, and my hormones are just all over the place. I wish that I had been more educated about it before I got pregnant. Even though missed miscarriages aren’t common, miscarriages in general are, and I feel like no one talks about them.
I had one a few years ago. I was bleeding off and on for 5 weeks before the heart activity finally stopped. I had noticed from ultrasounds that the fetus had stopped growing several weeks before the official medical confirmation. I hated that no medical person would just tell me that I might be having a miscarriage in that time. I am knowledgeable enough that I prepared myself, but I know many people would be oblivious with the professionals staying upbeat and just keep hoping it would be fine. My husband did.
I was my parents' rainbow baby. I'm grateful for my mum every day, even more so knowing what she had to go through just to have me. Then she had my little brother 💌
I had a miscarriage 4 years ago. I think about that baby every day and think about how old my child would've been.. what they'd be doing, experiencing and learning now etc. Cried for almost a year after
My first born son was a fullterm stillborn at 37w in 2020 and regardless of how far along, I feel every loss is deep. Mine is no greater to anyone else. The grief of losing your baby and that “would be” future is tremendous. Time doesn’t heal. It only makes you feel farther from your loss. Only grieving heals, self care, and finding a way to celebrate and feel close to your baby heals. I wish nothing but happiness and love for those who know the loss of their own children. My condolences 💐👼🏽🤍🦋
I wish I’d known before I started trying/having kids that they were so common. It is not talked about enough & it devastates you so much bc most time we have no answer why, so we blame ourselves 😢💔
I had one 2 years ago. Some days are better than others but I look at my two boys and just know I should have three kids to run after. I had to go through it alone due to Covid, coming out of the appointment and trying not to cry until I got into the car with my husband was hard, I still feel ashamed like why did my body nurture my other two but this one it didn’t? I shouldn’t have taken different prenatals I should’ve taken the ones I did before. It’s hard not to blame yourself for some of us
my mom had 2 miscarriages and 1 stillbirth. one of my sisters had a miscarriage as well. the pain that you feel from experiencing this is so real, and i'm glad that us as a society are finally talking about it.
I've been with 2 women with a total of 3. my experience as the father is different than the mothers but it still fucking hurts. especially since I'm a guy who really wants to be a father. and Ladies: IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! I'm so sorry for everyone's loss. may they watch over you.
when I had one at first, I thought it was a period, and then it got very painful. It was so heavy on my heart when it happened. I will never forget how I felt. If anyone is going through that, my thoughts will always be with you.
2:15 - 2:31 Gosh damn. Got no common sense or bedside manners. That person wasn't even responsible for their care. What they doing in other patients' room?
I’ve been through one before and in the moment I was devastated. But the person I was with was very toxic and I think if I did have my child I would’ve been stuck in a very toxic environment. It is something I’ll never forget but it pushed me to move on and realize how important my life is. One day maybe I’ll experience it again but it really opened my eyes and definitely changed my life in a more positive way which I will be grateful for.
I went through my miscarriage when I was only 17. It was the hardest thing I think I’ve ever had to go through. But I was lucky enough that two years later I got pregnant with my son, and I feel very humbled and blessed that I get to look at him everyday and thank god for giving me that second chance! My son is now 6 years old and thriving ❤️
Damn I just had to get this recommendation .. 2 years ago around this time I was enjoying my first pregnancy not knowing the next month I’d miscarry smh. But I type this as I hold my 8month baby girl in my arms.. my rainbow 🌈 ❤. To anyone who has went through one I promise your rainbow WILL come! Please try not to be silent.. I announced my miscarriage months after and the amount of love and support and people thanking me for telling my story because they also went through one was most rewarding.
I thought my miscarriage was rare and uncommon and shameful. It wasn’t until I told my mom that I found out she had miscarried, as bad my grandmother and my great grandmother birthed a stillborn. It shouldn’t be as taboo as it is. And we shouldn’t feel shame for something we couldn’t control.
Went through 2 miscarriages and a DNC. Babies I wanted so bad. The first is when I found out I was diabetic. It’s hard to know you have all these hopes and dreams for these little ones. My son is a rainbow baby and I’m having my 2nd rainbow son due September. There’s a rainbow after every storm. We as woman are strong.
I've had two miscarriages. One was a missed miscarriage and one was a spontaneous miscarriage. For my first, I was working full-time. What's not talked about is that you're expected to continue with life as it is. There's no time off to process and grieve. I went to work the next day, knowing that I was carrying my baby who didn't have a heartbeat. It was brutal for those few days until I could have what was technically an abortion (my doctor wanted to wait and see if my body would miscarry on its own first). I ended up breaking down after a few hours and told my boss I was clocking out and going home. I ended up getting pregnant with my daughter (who is now five) right after. I still grieve both the babies I lost even though I have two rainbow babies I wouldn't have had otherwise.
I had one in 2011 and in 2014. After the first one, I became pregnant again 2 months later but it still hurt. The second I lost was devastating. That baby would have been 8 today. Struggled to get pregnant again and went through depression. It's the hardest thing to be happy when others around you are expanding their families while you wait for a miracle to happen. It took me a while but I was able to accept that I would probably never have another baby. I already had 2 kids so considered myself blessed with my boys. Plus my husband and I were approaching 40 so we felt it was best to let go of the dream of one more baby.....but God has a sense of humor lol. At 36, I became pregnant with twin girls. My boys were 16 and 8 and I was like, really God lol. It was scary but a welcomed surpise. Now they are 3 and we are forever thankful. Still, i'll never forget my two angel babies. They will forever be loved by us❤
I had a friend that had a miscarriage and I remember her being so happy posting but then she stopped and her cousin told me she lost her baby so it was rough on her but luckily today she has two healthy baby boys 😊 I just didn’t know how to bring it up or say sorry when she would occasionally text me or if I even should :/ bc she never told me and we aren’t super close but we’re good friends in high school so I’d always just wish her the best in her marriage
Pregnancy loss is so traumatic and no one prepares you for it. Its a very taboo topic for how common it is. Everyone is hyping you up until the worst happens and then pure silence or they gaslight you with religious/positive shit. Society sucks at dealing with grief, especially tragic or unexpected losses. My baby nephew died a few days after birth. I lived it all with my sister and to this day remains the darkest moment of my life. It changed me forever and I no longer believe in any god or want children
My parents had a baby girl who died the day after she was born (full-term baby). I was born afterwards. My mother never really got over losing that baby.
Other than cancer, having a miscarriage is the hardest thing I’ve ever experienced. We went through 6 rounds of fertility treatments and after it finally worked I found out it was an ectopic pregnancy. After 3 weeks I still wasn’t miscarrying so I had to get a shot of a medication to induce the process. I keep thinking about the women who are in the same situation, a very wanted but not viable pregnancy. In the physical and emotional pain I was experiencing, I would have had to drive out of state to get the medication. It’s insane 😔
We need to talk about this more. This is a good topic for pro choice or pro life. People need to know the emotion on how hard it is loosing a baby even if it's not born.
My mom talks about who would’ve been our eldest sister often but very lightly. She miscarried way way late into her pregnancy. Still born, she had to go into labor and push out a dead baby. Ik it hurts her so much, but she does the “stay strong pull it together” approach. Hurts my heart. I often wonder what she would be like. Your family loves you Vanessa 🤍🕊 My sister on the other hand got pregnant young around 16/17. Tubal pregnancy. I remember rushing to the ER, her going into emergency surgery. She couldn’t keep it. She’s in her 30’s now. I pray one day she is able to bare children. She would make a wonderful mother.
I have never had one, I was never a women who wanted kids. For the fear of miscarriage and family history. I also at 19 had my right ovary removed. At that point I was 100% on my stance of no babies. At 22 I went into unexpected labor (yes I didn't know) and had the most amazing gift ever. I cherish the little moments with him. I love each and every one of you ladies that shared your story ❤❤❤
Me and my wife have had 11 miscarriages and as a result I am a broken man it has completely destroyed me. As a man there is no one to talk to on how I feel. 😢
I commend everyone who chose to share their stories and their pain. I know two people who lost their children. One was my mom. She had a miscarriage a year after I was born. Thankfully that was the only miscarriage she had out of her four pregnancies, which she had to go through IVF treatments and had a hard time getting pregnant, so that was lucky. The other one is my god mother. She gave birth to twins and one of them didn’t end up making it. It was a devastating time for her and her family. I hope this conversation is one that continues to be more common because, just like abortion, it’s not something people should be ashamed of and the more we discuss it, the more people who have dealt with it can heal and get proper support.
I had one and didn't even know I was pregnant. Now, every year, I'm like, my baby would be 8 years old. I had my mom, and she recognized the signs and symptoms. Now, oh how I wish I could have one little one. ❤❤
I went through a miscarriage back in 2019. I believe it was God’s way of getting me out of a terrible relationship. He did what I couldn’t do. I definitely have PTSD when I have cramps during my period. I remember crying to God the day after I found out, telling him that if this your way of telling me that this person isn’t for me…I hear you. I still get pretty sad about it but I know it was for the best. My heart goes out to all of the Mothers and Fathers that have gone through a miscarriage and a HUGE shoutout to the men that were a support system to the mothers during a difficult time. The father of my child preferred to run and hide.😢
Ive had two miscarriages. The first hurt my mentally than anything else but the second was very scary. It was a missed miscarriage and I was medically pregnant carrying my dead baby. I didn’t want a dnc or to take the pill the doctors offered me at least in the moment but I had a spontaneous abortion in the middle of the night after finally getting some sleep after cramps that were 100xs worse than any period I’ve had. I was bleeding severely and blood clot were practically falling out of me. My husband was so scarred but I tried to make it seem like it wasn’t a big deal by being my usual bubbly self but I was terrified. I thought I was going to die but thankfully I didn’t. I still want children but at the same time I’m scared to try again
One of my friends almost died from her baby dying inside her and her doctors were not diligent about it at all, made me afraid to even carry a child but you can't blame yourself, happens more often than you think. Just sometimes not in the cards for people.
A lot of women don't even know that they've had a miscarriage when it happens really early. A lot of times people think it's just their period that came late.
My grandma had a miscarriage after she had already gave birth to my mom and aunt. She has never talked about and I kinda wish she did because she has had so much trauma in her life and it should not be stigmatized 😢
That sucks. It can happen to both young and older women. That's why it's important to when you decide to have children to do what you can such as attending prenatal appointments or avoiding more mature ages b/c Biology is what it is. Any other means can be helpful, but usually SUPER expensive.
2:35 WHAT THE HECK I FEEL BAD ANGRY FOR HER BECAUSE WHAT. THE. FUCK. IS WRONG WITH THAT EMPLOYEE……..literally wtf. They need to get fired. Absolutely inappropriate and extremely disrespectful
❤ for everyone who had a miscarriage and who has a hard time because of it. I personally luckily do not have had a miscarriage. And I hope to never have one. I am pregnant now, 11 weeks. And I am scared that it will go wrong, even when I try to have trust that it will be fine. I know many people who had a miscarriage and I hope that it will become more normal to talk about it. Because talking is the best healer!
I think about the babies almost everyday and what they would be like, how they’d fit into our family with the kids I was able to carry to term and birth. It’s a very weird feeling and grief and only those that have suffered a loss of wanting a baby can understand. ❤
I was in tears watching this..🥹😭🖤 I got pregnant with twins on the Depo shot & I didn't even find out I was pregnant until I miscarried with a twin in the first trimester & went to the hospital. My surviving twin is now about to be 10 yrs old & I'm currently 28wks pregnant. The pain, trauma and fear had me TERRIFIED to ever have more kids.. But i couldn't be happier now even though I'm damn near constantly worried. When people ask how many kids I have I always used to say "I have a daughter; she's a twinless twin." But now ive been practicing saying "I have three daughters, two on earth & one who's spirit has passed." Miscarriage is always a part of a person, spoken aloud or not, and I hope that every person who's been through it knows that their experiences are felt by myself and I'm sure the millions of people who've lived through it.
Wow early This one made. Me cry already and I'm not finished I'm young bud u have had a miscarriage and I really feel the ones that have mentioned that it was a blessing in the end, it was a bittersweet moment, it hurt I cried b7t after a long while I realised after getting out of the situation it was for the best
My first miscarriage was my first pregnancy. I was thankful, I was 17 and my boyfriend was 23 and ghosted me after I told him. It was like the universe told me, "Don't replicate that dude." I was relieved. I didn't have any pain and I planned on keeping the baby because I was naïve. I did no harm to cause this to happen and was taking pre-natal pills. I was in a state of shock that I could be pregnant. The father got another woman pregnant and had twins; The last time I seen him ~ I was married with three children. My ex-bf that got me pregnant looked homeless and anorexic. He tried getting my attention and I ignored him. I wished I said something cool like, "I'm sorry, I don't carry change." I just walked through him like he wanted to be treated ~ like a ghost.
I lost 4 pregnancies and it was the hardest time in my life. I truly felt like I was broken and I would never be happy. I will say that my miscarriages led to me finding out I had a medical issue that was corrected by 2 surgeries. I now have 2 beautiful daughters.
Miscarriage is never easy to talk about it can weigh a person down but people should talk about it more it gets better I also believe things happen for a reason
My mom had a lot of miscarriages before me and my twin were born, we were her first kids. I think there were about 5. The worst part was, is that it never got easier for her when we were born, because we had to have a lot of surgeries, but we ended up okay. I love my mom, she's so strong. 💗
remember that your body will not release a healthy baby. care for yourself as if you went through labor, delivery, and post partum, because you did. have the baby at home(versus in a doctors office) so that you can take the time to acknowledge the loss.
Was by my mum's side when I was 12 after she lost a baby and then Had a miscarriage after 4 years of trying in October last year and find it so hard not getting pregnant again
I’ve had 2 miscarriages and it was a very horrible experience. The first one especially because I had never gone through that before and I had already heard it’s heartbeat and seen them in an ultrasound. I was surprised at how physically painful it was. It really is like labor and there is a lot of bleeding. I was in the fetal position in my bed sobbing from both the emotional and physical pain. It’s a very lonely experience and I’m sad that I had to go through it. My second miscarriage was two months ago and I wasn’t as far along so it wasn’t as painful. But it’s disappointing. I found out I had PCOS and it’s going to be very difficult for me to conceive.
I'm not sure if I have room to talk but I'll explain my story: So my half brother had been sexually touching me in ways he shouldn't have been, and at 12, I suffered a miscarriage. I knew in my heart I was pregnant, and I've kept that secret for years, my family doesn't know and I'm currently going through a court thing with my uncle who had been molesting me since I was 9. I may not have been ready for that baby at all, but I do think of them and miss them. All the mothers out there who lost their babies, I'm so sorry. And I understand you. ❤
I had a miscarriage 2 years ago around 10-11 weeks. I'd been bleeding off and on for 5 weeks, and we learned it probably wasn't genetically compatible with life. Knowing these things, I basically shrugged it off, but my husband still thinks about what could have been.
I love the more 'serious' keep it 100's as much as I love the 'fun ones'. Its people being able to 'tell their story' in a quick snippet. It really helps to open my eyes to different points of view, different lives, being able to see people as humans.
yeah, they're my favorite.
@user-iu4my2tb7ly’all say this every year
As a teen (info: I'm a male) I thought "society tells me it's sad but it sounds meh to me"
Now, after years of seeing multiple ppl go through miscarriages and miscarriage scares, I cannot possibly imagine the experience. Forget the ppl saying you weren't a mom. YOU WERE. A tremendously strong one too
I would add that in my opinion you not only were, you still are. Once a mother always a mother.
Thank you ❤
@@Para__Noia You're correct on that. I guess I use "were" cause my sister doesn't use "am"
mad respect for this
Miscarriages are honestly not as uncommon as one might think - my mother had one before me and another one before my sister - tbh it should be spoken about more often.
So true. We had a premature child who passed and then a miscarriages. I was so surprised at how many people had experiences with one. But at first you think you're alone or that somethings wrong with you cause most people never talk about it.
same with me, there was a miscarriage before my young brother and before my oldest brother
When I 17 I knew like at least 5 other teens that had miss carried and were sad
Yeah it's estimated that 1 in 4 women will experience a known miscarriage, even more who don't know they go through one in the first 6 weeks
the older the female gets, the higher the risks and that sucks
I like that they included women who struggled with the miscarriage and women who didn’t struggle
I lost my twins in February from miscarriage … I really needed to hear this ❤
Sorry for you loss❤
@@alyssamary7132 ❤️❤️
im sorry babe
I send you love and strengh.♥️
Sending you so so much love. 💗 please be gentle with yourself.
I've had 3 miscarriages and went through them all alone. I'm 36 and don't know if I'll ever have kids. As someone who is constantly being asked about kids or being reminded that my 'body clock is ticking', it definitely makes you feel like your body isn't capable of doing what it's "supposed" to do. I'm grateful for being able to go through something that allows me to relate to so many other mothers of loss. We are not alone, we are not broken 💜
did you try when you were really young?
@@Gigi0990 My first pregnancy was at 20, my second was at 23 and my third was at 33
The time thing is just not too realistic anymore. Medicine has comes a long way. Alot of people having babies in their 30s now because of various life circumstances they are pushing it back. I have seen people pregnant in 40s. Good luck.
@trippypen8879 because the cost of being pregnant, and raising a child is expensive. People are having more difficulty progressing to financial stability in order to have children. There are also so many methods to having children. Reproductive technology has come a long way. There's also the path of seeking a surrogate or adoption if all else doesn't work out. I think everyone with a uterus that wants to be pregnant is told by society that their bodies are made to produce life. But some people simply cannot for whatever medical reasons, and that can be difficult to process. That's why there are these improvements in medicine and tech to help families that are planning to have a child. Miscarriages are quite common, especially when so many pregnant people are high risk with gest diabetes, hypertension, etc
@Goodgodgetagripgirl I worked in obgyn office for 6+ years you are not saying anything I don't already know or that other people probably already don't know.
It is more helpful being hopeful than just piling on all the negatives that can come with childbearing. Especially if you are a person trying for a baby.
As a dad, our miscarriage was probably the hardest time of our lives. Changed me as a person.
2 years ago or so I experienced my first miscarriage with my ex girlfriend. It still affects me to this day.
My husband feels this too. It was so hard on us. I am sorry for your loss.
My mom has a miscarriage before I was born and she was blamed for it by her in-laws. She is now coming to terms that it was not her fault but she recalls the pressure that she felt to have a baby in order to keep her in-laws at bay.
I did have a miscarriage. I liked that they also showed people who were not that upset about it. I wasn't. It felt weird to not be sad about it, but I actually had an appointment for an abortion the day I started bleeding. I was caring for a dying relative and I was still a student, didn't have money, didn't even have a stable place to call home. I got pregnant again almost 10 years later, and couldn't be happier about it.
I can relate to not being upset about a miscarriage. I was indifferent to whether I wanted to keep the baby. Even though I was taking prenatal pills, I might've gone through with the pregnancy and given the baby up. I got pregnant again at 20 years old, my boyfriend was supportive with whatever decision I made. He's no longer my boyfriend, he's my husband cause he wanted to do what was right for the child.
Had a 2nd trimester miscarriage at 13 weeks 2 years ago. Without a doubt, the HARDEST thing I have EVER experienced. It rocked my world in a way I never knew could happen. It completely changed my outlook on life, how I see myself, and how I go through life. Whenever I talk to someone who had a miscarriage, I tell them this: It's like being in a club that no one wants to be in, but you don't know how many members there are until you join.
For women under 35, the miscarriage rate is about 15%. For women between 35 and 45 years old, the miscarriage rate is about 20-35%. Despite it being so common, you hardly hear anyone talk about it. I thank these women for sharing their story and helping people feel less alone.
As someone who as lost a pregnancy, this conversation is so important. I remember feeling not only ashamed but betrayed by my own body and every woman around me that didn’t talk to me about it. It was the hardest time in my life hands down.
This past Friday I gave birth to my daughter via c-section. She is 2 months early and I am still scared of losing her. I know she’s strong but not holding her and going on the days worrying doesn’t help. I’m sorry for all the moms who go through the loss of their child. May peace be along your sides.
Hang in there 🖤 i hope you have a lot of support
I had my baby a month early (via emergency c section) and spent like a week at the hospital and I was scared af and now he is 2 years old and strong bouncy baby.
Your baby girl is going to grow into the best person you’ve ever met, and that will be because of you and the love you have for her.
Sending you love, hugs and prayers for you and your beautiful family.🫶🏽🫂🫶🏽
Had a coworker who is my friend to this day that had seven miscarriages before having her daughter. She showed me the tattoos she got dedicated for each one. It was really touching and I really felt for her. I can’t imagine the pain of the loss and the what-ifs. More women need to be able to speak openly about this and be comforted.
Yes ectopic pregnancy that was rupturing. Emergency surgery to save my life and remove my tube 😢I was so much pain and bawled my eyes out for weeks. I had IVF 3 years later and got pregnant first time. My child is now 10 he's a gamer and an athlete😅. There's definitely hope and I wish all the luck love and baby dust to every person who desires to carry a child ❤
I went through this almost two months ago when I was 14 weeks. It’s so healing to hear from other women who understand. This can be one of the loneliest experiences.
I love this channel and my heart skipped a beat when I saw the title of this video come up in my notifications. Thanks for doing this 🩷
I rarely get pregnant and I’ve lost all my babies…this was good to hear. I hope we talk about it more.
I had a missed miscarriage a few months ago. The fetus had stopped growing, but my body didn’t trigger a natural miscarriage on its own so I had to have a procedure to remove it. It was so heartbreaking and sad, and the process of trying to get pregnant afterwards has been emotional and difficult. I feel like I don’t know my body anymore, and my hormones are just all over the place. I wish that I had been more educated about it before I got pregnant. Even though missed miscarriages aren’t common, miscarriages in general are, and I feel like no one talks about them.
I had one a few years ago. I was bleeding off and on for 5 weeks before the heart activity finally stopped. I had noticed from ultrasounds that the fetus had stopped growing several weeks before the official medical confirmation. I hated that no medical person would just tell me that I might be having a miscarriage in that time. I am knowledgeable enough that I prepared myself, but I know many people would be oblivious with the professionals staying upbeat and just keep hoping it would be fine. My husband did.
My heart goes out to these women. ♥️
I was my parents' rainbow baby. I'm grateful for my mum every day, even more so knowing what she had to go through just to have me. Then she had my little brother 💌
Thank you, CUT, for choosing this topic. Thank you for sharing, everyone. ❤️
I had 4 miscarriages and it was so heartbreaking 💔 😢
My bff has had 3 and is pregnant now, did you ever have your rainbow baby off you don’t mind me asking? ❤
I had a miscarriage 4 years ago. I think about that baby every day and think about how old my child would've been.. what they'd be doing, experiencing and learning now etc.
Cried for almost a year after
My heart goes out to all these beautiful mamas. I’m so sorry for your loss, and I thank you all for sharing a vulnerable piece of your lives with us.❤
My first born son was a fullterm stillborn at 37w in 2020 and regardless of how far along, I feel every loss is deep. Mine is no greater to anyone else. The grief of losing your baby and that “would be” future is tremendous. Time doesn’t heal. It only makes you feel farther from your loss. Only grieving heals, self care, and finding a way to celebrate and feel close to your baby heals. I wish nothing but happiness and love for those who know the loss of their own children. My condolences 💐👼🏽🤍🦋
I wish I’d known before I started trying/having kids that they were so common. It is not talked about enough & it devastates you so much bc most time we have no answer why, so we blame ourselves 😢💔
I had one 2 years ago. Some days are better than others but I look at my two boys and just know I should have three kids to run after. I had to go through it alone due to Covid, coming out of the appointment and trying not to cry until I got into the car with my husband was hard, I still feel ashamed like why did my body nurture my other two but this one it didn’t? I shouldn’t have taken different prenatals I should’ve taken the ones I did before. It’s hard not to blame yourself for some of us
How terrible to congratulate someone after a miscarriage. I had a friend thank God when I told them. It hurt me so deeply.
So much love to these women and every woman touched by miscarriage/natural pregnancy loss.
Thank you strong mamas for sharing your stories! It is so important to normalize this topic and talk about it! Stay strong!
my mom had 2 miscarriages and 1 stillbirth. one of my sisters had a miscarriage as well. the pain that you feel from experiencing this is so real, and i'm glad that us as a society are finally talking about it.
I've been with 2 women with a total of 3. my experience as the father is different than the mothers but it still fucking hurts. especially since I'm a guy who really wants to be a father.
and Ladies: IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!
I'm so sorry for everyone's loss. may they watch over you.
I had a great aunt who had 18 known miscarriages/infant deaths before finally having one child that lived.
when I had one at first, I thought it was a period, and then it got very painful. It was so heavy on my heart when it happened. I will never forget how I felt. If anyone is going through that, my thoughts will always be with you.
2:15 - 2:31 Gosh damn. Got no common sense or bedside manners. That person wasn't even responsible for their care. What they doing in other patients' room?
Been there.. thoughts and prayers for these women who have gone through this.. it’s very hard ❤️
I’ve been through one before and in the moment I was devastated. But the person I was with was very toxic and I think if I did have my child I would’ve been stuck in a very toxic environment. It is something I’ll never forget but it pushed me to move on and realize how important my life is. One day maybe I’ll experience it again but it really opened my eyes and definitely changed my life in a more positive way which I will be grateful for.
I went through my miscarriage when I was only 17. It was the hardest thing I think I’ve ever had to go through. But I was lucky enough that two years later I got pregnant with my son, and I feel very humbled and blessed that I get to look at him everyday and thank god for giving me that second chance! My son is now 6 years old and thriving ❤️
Damn I just had to get this recommendation .. 2 years ago around this time I was enjoying my first pregnancy not knowing the next month I’d miscarry smh. But I type this as I hold my 8month baby girl in my arms.. my rainbow 🌈 ❤. To anyone who has went through one I promise your rainbow WILL come! Please try not to be silent.. I announced my miscarriage months after and the amount of love and support and people thanking me for telling my story because they also went through one was most rewarding.
I thought my miscarriage was rare and uncommon and shameful. It wasn’t until I told my mom that I found out she had miscarried, as bad my grandmother and my great grandmother birthed a stillborn.
It shouldn’t be as taboo as it is. And we shouldn’t feel shame for something we couldn’t control.
Went through 2 miscarriages and a DNC. Babies I wanted so bad. The first is when I found out I was diabetic. It’s hard to know you have all these hopes and dreams for these little ones. My son is a rainbow baby and I’m having my 2nd rainbow son due September. There’s a rainbow after every storm. We as woman are strong.
I've had two miscarriages. One was a missed miscarriage and one was a spontaneous miscarriage. For my first, I was working full-time. What's not talked about is that you're expected to continue with life as it is. There's no time off to process and grieve. I went to work the next day, knowing that I was carrying my baby who didn't have a heartbeat. It was brutal for those few days until I could have what was technically an abortion (my doctor wanted to wait and see if my body would miscarry on its own first). I ended up breaking down after a few hours and told my boss I was clocking out and going home. I ended up getting pregnant with my daughter (who is now five) right after. I still grieve both the babies I lost even though I have two rainbow babies I wouldn't have had otherwise.
I had one in 2011 and in 2014. After the first one, I became pregnant again 2 months later but it still hurt. The second I lost was devastating. That baby would have been 8 today. Struggled to get pregnant again and went through depression. It's the hardest thing to be happy when others around you are expanding their families while you wait for a miracle to happen. It took me a while but I was able to accept that I would probably never have another baby. I already had 2 kids so considered myself blessed with my boys. Plus my husband and I were approaching 40 so we felt it was best to let go of the dream of one more baby.....but God has a sense of humor lol. At 36, I became pregnant with twin girls. My boys were 16 and 8 and I was like, really God lol. It was scary but a welcomed surpise. Now they are 3 and we are forever thankful. Still, i'll never forget my two angel babies. They will forever be loved by us❤
I had a friend that had a miscarriage and I remember her being so happy posting but then she stopped and her cousin told me she lost her baby so it was rough on her but luckily today she has two healthy baby boys 😊 I just didn’t know how to bring it up or say sorry when she would occasionally text me or if I even should :/ bc she never told me and we aren’t super close but we’re good friends in high school so I’d always just wish her the best in her marriage
Pregnancy loss is so traumatic and no one prepares you for it. Its a very taboo topic for how common it is. Everyone is hyping you up until the worst happens and then pure silence or they gaslight you with religious/positive shit. Society sucks at dealing with grief, especially tragic or unexpected losses. My baby nephew died a few days after birth. I lived it all with my sister and to this day remains the darkest moment of my life. It changed me forever and I no longer believe in any god or want children
My parents had a baby girl who died the day after she was born (full-term baby). I was born afterwards. My mother never really got over losing that baby.
I found a whole community amongst people I already knew that had miscarriages. In shock with how common this pain is.
Other than cancer, having a miscarriage is the hardest thing I’ve ever experienced. We went through 6 rounds of fertility treatments and after it finally worked I found out it was an ectopic pregnancy. After 3 weeks I still wasn’t miscarrying so I had to get a shot of a medication to induce the process. I keep thinking about the women who are in the same situation, a very wanted but not viable pregnancy. In the physical and emotional pain I was experiencing, I would have had to drive out of state to get the medication. It’s insane 😔
We need to talk about this more. This is a good topic for pro choice or pro life. People need to know the emotion on how hard it is loosing a baby even if it's not born.
miscarriages and abuse go hand in hand in many ways… it’s so sad and hard to be a woman🫶
Thank for this video, I had a miscarriage last month and this has been so eye opening 💕
My mom talks about who would’ve been our eldest sister often but very lightly. She miscarried way way late into her pregnancy. Still born, she had to go into labor and push out a dead baby. Ik it hurts her so much, but she does the “stay strong pull it together” approach. Hurts my heart. I often wonder what she would be like. Your family loves you Vanessa 🤍🕊
My sister on the other hand got pregnant young around 16/17. Tubal pregnancy. I remember rushing to the ER, her going into emergency surgery. She couldn’t keep it. She’s in her 30’s now. I pray one day she is able to bare children. She would make a wonderful mother.
I have never had one, I was never a women who wanted kids. For the fear of miscarriage and family history.
I also at 19 had my right ovary removed. At that point I was 100% on my stance of no babies.
At 22 I went into unexpected labor (yes I didn't know) and had the most amazing gift ever. I cherish the little moments with him.
I love each and every one of you ladies that shared your story ❤❤❤
Me and my wife have had 11 miscarriages and as a result I am a broken man it has completely destroyed me. As a man there is no one to talk to on how I feel. 😢
I commend everyone who chose to share their stories and their pain. I know two people who lost their children. One was my mom. She had a miscarriage a year after I was born. Thankfully that was the only miscarriage she had out of her four pregnancies, which she had to go through IVF treatments and had a hard time getting pregnant, so that was lucky. The other one is my god mother. She gave birth to twins and one of them didn’t end up making it. It was a devastating time for her and her family. I hope this conversation is one that continues to be more common because, just like abortion, it’s not something people should be ashamed of and the more we discuss it, the more people who have dealt with it can heal and get proper support.
So much better than the usual sex and sex postings from you. Thought provoking.
I had one and didn't even know I was pregnant. Now, every year, I'm like, my baby would be 8 years old. I had my mom, and she recognized the signs and symptoms. Now, oh how I wish I could have one little one. ❤❤
You could adopt
I went through a miscarriage back in 2019. I believe it was God’s way of getting me out of a terrible relationship. He did what I couldn’t do. I definitely have PTSD when I have cramps during my period. I remember crying to God the day after I found out, telling him that if this your way of telling me that this person isn’t for me…I hear you. I still get pretty sad about it but I know it was for the best. My heart goes out to all of the Mothers and Fathers that have gone through a miscarriage and a HUGE shoutout to the men that were a support system to the mothers during a difficult time. The father of my child preferred to run and hide.😢
Ive had two miscarriages. The first hurt my mentally than anything else but the second was very scary. It was a missed miscarriage and I was medically pregnant carrying my dead baby. I didn’t want a dnc or to take the pill the doctors offered me at least in the moment but I had a spontaneous abortion in the middle of the night after finally getting some sleep after cramps that were 100xs worse than any period I’ve had. I was bleeding severely and blood clot were practically falling out of me. My husband was so scarred but I tried to make it seem like it wasn’t a big deal by being my usual bubbly self but I was terrified. I thought I was going to die but thankfully I didn’t. I still want children but at the same time I’m scared to try again
One of my friends almost died from her baby dying inside her and her doctors were not diligent about it at all, made me afraid to even carry a child but you can't blame yourself, happens more often than you think. Just sometimes not in the cards for people.
A lot of women don't even know that they've had a miscarriage when it happens really early. A lot of times people think it's just their period that came late.
My grandma had a miscarriage after she had already gave birth to my mom and aunt. She has never talked about and I kinda wish she did because she has had so much trauma in her life and it should not be stigmatized 😢
Listening to this while I lost my baby girl yesterday…
cut rlly keepin it 100 damn 😭
Thank you for this 💗
It has helped me in more ways then I can express in words
That sucks. It can happen to both young and older women. That's why it's important to when you decide to have children to do what you can such as attending prenatal appointments or avoiding more mature ages b/c Biology is what it is. Any other means can be helpful, but usually SUPER expensive.
2:35 WHAT THE HECK I FEEL BAD ANGRY FOR HER BECAUSE WHAT. THE. FUCK. IS WRONG WITH THAT EMPLOYEE……..literally wtf. They need to get fired. Absolutely inappropriate and extremely disrespectful
I was looking for this comment because ain’t no fucking way they had the audacity to say that!!!?????
❤ for everyone who had a miscarriage and who has a hard time because of it.
I personally luckily do not have had a miscarriage. And I hope to never have one. I am pregnant now, 11 weeks. And I am scared that it will go wrong, even when I try to have trust that it will be fine.
I know many people who had a miscarriage and I hope that it will become more normal to talk about it. Because talking is the best healer!
Women👑 are strong af and inspire me everyday!💪🏾
I really pray that this doesn't happen to me
Ouch. I'll have to come back and watch. 👼🏽👼🏽👼🏽👼🏽👼🏽👼🏽🌈👧🏽
Sending love to all these women 💜
I think about the babies almost everyday and what they would be like, how they’d fit into our family with the kids I was able to carry to term and birth. It’s a very weird feeling and grief and only those that have suffered a loss of wanting a baby can understand. ❤
I was in tears watching this..🥹😭🖤 I got pregnant with twins on the Depo shot & I didn't even find out I was pregnant until I miscarried with a twin in the first trimester & went to the hospital. My surviving twin is now about to be 10 yrs old & I'm currently 28wks pregnant. The pain, trauma and fear had me TERRIFIED to ever have more kids.. But i couldn't be happier now even though I'm damn near constantly worried. When people ask how many kids I have I always used to say "I have a daughter; she's a twinless twin." But now ive been practicing saying "I have three daughters, two on earth & one who's spirit has passed." Miscarriage is always a part of a person, spoken aloud or not, and I hope that every person who's been through it knows that their experiences are felt by myself and I'm sure the millions of people who've lived through it.
Wow early
This one made. Me cry already and I'm not finished I'm young bud u have had a miscarriage and I really feel the ones that have mentioned that it was a blessing in the end, it was a bittersweet moment, it hurt I cried b7t after a long while I realised after getting out of the situation it was for the best
the fact that i’m watching this on the day that was suposed to be my sister’s birthday.
Yes I did. And I never even mentioned that one to anybody
Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.-😊
Its completely alright to grieve and call them a baby if you want.
My first miscarriage was my first pregnancy. I was thankful, I was 17 and my boyfriend was 23 and ghosted me after I told him. It was like the universe told me, "Don't replicate that dude." I was relieved. I didn't have any pain and I planned on keeping the baby because I was naïve. I did no harm to cause this to happen and was taking pre-natal pills.
I was in a state of shock that I could be pregnant. The father got another woman pregnant and had twins; The last time I seen him ~ I was married with three children. My ex-bf that got me pregnant looked homeless and anorexic. He tried getting my attention and I ignored him. I wished I said something cool like, "I'm sorry, I don't carry change." I just walked through him like he wanted to be treated ~ like a ghost.
I lost 4 pregnancies and it was the hardest time in my life. I truly felt like I was broken and I would never be happy. I will say that my miscarriages led to me finding out I had a medical issue that was corrected by 2 surgeries. I now have 2 beautiful daughters.
0:06 this one hit hard
Miscarriage is never easy to talk about it can weigh a person down but people should talk about it more it gets better I also believe things happen for a reason
glad to know that i’m not alone and sad that a lot of women face this 😢
My mom's friend had multiple miscarries... and then a still born.
But she has a child now!!!
My mom had a lot of miscarriages before me and my twin were born, we were her first kids. I think there were about 5. The worst part was, is that it never got easier for her when we were born, because we had to have a lot of surgeries, but we ended up okay. I love my mom, she's so strong. 💗
Very heart breaking. I pray it won’t happen to me but any advice on how to deal with it?
remember that your body will not release a healthy baby. care for yourself as if you went through labor, delivery, and post partum, because you did. have the baby at home(versus in a doctors office) so that you can take the time to acknowledge the loss.
Love the serious topic discussion
Wasn’t aware it was so common
Was by my mum's side when I was 12 after she lost a baby and then Had a miscarriage after 4 years of trying in October last year and find it so hard not getting pregnant again
"Yay! You did it!" is not the right thing to say after a miscarriage lol
It’ll be one year in two days since my miscarriage. It was early. We weren’t trying and didn’t know. But, it hasn’t been easy.
I’ve had 2 miscarriages and it was a very horrible experience. The first one especially because I had never gone through that before and I had already heard it’s heartbeat and seen them in an ultrasound. I was surprised at how physically painful it was. It really is like labor and there is a lot of bleeding. I was in the fetal position in my bed sobbing from both the emotional and physical pain. It’s a very lonely experience and I’m sad that I had to go through it. My second miscarriage was two months ago and I wasn’t as far along so it wasn’t as painful. But it’s disappointing. I found out I had PCOS and it’s going to be very difficult for me to conceive.
I'm not sure if I have room to talk but I'll explain my story:
So my half brother had been sexually touching me in ways he shouldn't have been, and at 12, I suffered a miscarriage. I knew in my heart I was pregnant, and I've kept that secret for years, my family doesn't know and I'm currently going through a court thing with my uncle who had been molesting me since I was 9. I may not have been ready for that baby at all, but I do think of them and miss them.
All the mothers out there who lost their babies, I'm so sorry. And I understand you. ❤
This is such a fear of mine and this made me sob.
I had a miscarriage 2 years ago around 10-11 weeks. I'd been bleeding off and on for 5 weeks, and we learned it probably wasn't genetically compatible with life. Knowing these things, I basically shrugged it off, but my husband still thinks about what could have been.
I've had three. I wish I've made it to an ultrasound, but all three have been at six weeks or before.
Beautiful women’s, strong women’s
This made me cry
I feel very weird about being this close early
I had no idea it was this common!!!