I love it! The way I see it, Depression often goes with the abandonment of important meanings & a downregulating of important values, creating a dissociated state. It’s often an emptiness or lack of accessing values. Anger on the other hand, often points us toward what is vitally important and needs protecting. We become angry when what is sacred to us is being threatened in some way. When we are angry, we are implicitly aware of what we value deeply. So moving from depression to anger is also moving from deleting important values back to being aware of and caring about them. Great reminder, Damon. Many thanks!
yeah. from personal experience it seems like a lot of depression might come from supressed anger anyway. Something makes you angry, but you can't feel or attend to the anger for some reason, which leads to frustration and a feeling that you don't have any control in your life. Which turns into depression.
In general, when we try to numb ourselves from feeling negative feelings, like anger, it can take us in a number of bad directions. Depression is one of them and so is addiction. When we numb ourselves to bad feelings we also have to numb ourselves from the good feelings as well. At least when you're angry you're allowing yourself to feel and that can be a first step to moving out of depression. Thank you for your comment.
A lot of us do. Sometimes when we're angry it's the only time we really feel alive so we hold onto it, but we can feel just as alive if not more without the negativity of anger.
Great video! I think it's is often about not expressing emotions in general (in a healthy way), so not only anger, but also crying for example. If you suppress sadness it turns inward as well. Same for joy! And in a lot of cases it is anger. So really good you talk about this! Thank you!
I am glad I have found you my friend now I know the reason why. This makes so much sense. Thank you. Thank you very much. I feel so fucking angry now. Fuck!!!!! But while being on a good trip. I now feel good. Can't stay mad or hopeless for now.
I have had a crushing depression for months after a situation that opened a floodgate of stuff, mostly complex trauma. The problem is I cannot feel anger, I wish I could I access it. I feel depressed, hopeless and helpless. It usually comes out as resentment and then I just feel shame . I have toxic shame issues and internalize things. Even if the person was disrespectful, because I was people pleasing and had bad boundaries, I never said it in the moment. So by the time I sent a somewhat harsh message I just felt humiliated and shame by the thought that I probably looked “crazy” 😓. So now I just feel sad at the loss even though there are so many things to feel angry about, I cannot get that state. I wish I could because it would be much more useful and action oriented. I think the problem is that one of my characteristics I’ve always had is being very quickly to forgive. I could never stay angry even with really terrible actions. So i don’t think these tips can help me :( I’ve even tried punching pillows to access this energy 😂
I suggest seeing a therapist. There's no shame in it. I've worked with multiple therapists throughout the years. There are some bad ones but there are many good ones.
@@DamonCart thanks! I’ve been looking into NLP recently and found your videos to be most down to earth so far. Yes I think I need more than self administered Nlp techniques right now. Thanks for reply
From my personal expérience i gave depression another meaning, i get ungry about my situation , about all the things that hapened to me , what hapened i'm going to change , i'm going to prouve to any body they are wrong i will have anything that i deserve
Depression is characterized by a feeling of hopelessness and helplessness, a low energy state in other words with little or no action. Anger is more energetic and can be used to motivate yourself to action. They're very different.
There could be a number of causes. You mention that it has to do with old age so that might be regret and probably not regret over things he did but regret over things he didn't do and maybe he feels like it's too late. This is also what a lot of people go through in midlife called the midlife crisis. Anger might be a bridge state for him to get out of the hopeless and helpless feeling he might have about reengaging in life. It's better to let go of whatever dreams he may have had and do what he can now. What makes us happy is the doing, not so much the having.
Yes. it's happening since my mother passed away one and half year ago.yet he is not recovered from this trauma. He can't stop thinking of her memories. And it becomes cause of his depression.
Sounds like you care about him a lot. That's good that he has you. Steve & Connirae Andreas created a process for resolving grief that's extremely effective and when done right let's you take all of the good memories and allows you to let go of the pain. I've used it on myself when I suffered a loss and it worked. Maybe gently approach your father about giving it a try. He's got nothing to lose and you would get a chance to practice a dynamic NLP process. Make sure you go through every step. Leave nothing out. Here is the process: www.steveandreas.com/Articles/grief02.html
@@DamonCart lol i wish we could do that i watch your videos on NLP oh men i get empowered ...sometimes i wish i could afford threapy but im still in highschool but if there is any way we can contact eachother it would really make me happy
NLP Gym depresion came becouse de problemen, stres and Break samething in the brain , Evert bady Have Different the diagnose but we or i dont couse to be depresion but becouse the situassion to make my Pain, machteloos , onunust enz.
I love it! The way I see it, Depression often goes with the abandonment of important meanings & a downregulating of important values, creating a dissociated state. It’s often an emptiness or lack of accessing values. Anger on the other hand, often points us toward what is vitally important and needs protecting. We become angry when what is sacred to us is being threatened in some way. When we are angry, we are implicitly aware of what we value deeply. So moving from depression to anger is also moving from deleting important values back to being aware of and caring about them. Great reminder, Damon. Many thanks!
Thank you. Great insights.
Excellent observation. Thanks.
yeah. from personal experience it seems like a lot of depression might come from supressed anger anyway. Something makes you angry, but you can't feel or attend to the anger for some reason, which leads to frustration and a feeling that you don't have any control in your life. Which turns into depression.
In general, when we try to numb ourselves from feeling negative feelings, like anger, it can take us in a number of bad directions. Depression is one of them and so is addiction. When we numb ourselves to bad feelings we also have to numb ourselves from the good feelings as well. At least when you're angry you're allowing yourself to feel and that can be a first step to moving out of depression. Thank you for your comment.
I've used anger incorrectly because of the energy it gave me
Tony Patricelli Excellent comment 🙏
A lot of us do. Sometimes when we're angry it's the only time we really feel alive so we hold onto it, but we can feel just as alive if not more without the negativity of anger.
"How much longer are you going to wait?" All we have is NOW. Great video! Thank you! 🙏
You're welcome. Really appreciate your comment.
I struggled with this just yesterday. It's the hardest thing to get out of. Thanks for the great insights.
Thank you. Glad you enjoyed it.
Great video! I think it's is often about not expressing emotions in general (in a healthy way), so not only anger, but also crying for example. If you suppress sadness it turns inward as well. Same for joy! And in a lot of cases it is anger. So really good you talk about this! Thank you!
Thank you for your comment and for watching.
I appreciate your perspective man
Appreciate your comment
As always! Thumb up!
Thank you!
Really good advice! Simple clear insight and logic!
Thank you.
I am glad I have found you my friend now I know the reason why.
This makes so much sense.
Thank you.
Thank you very much.
I feel so fucking angry now.
Fuck!!!!!
But while being on a good trip.
I now feel good.
Can't stay mad or hopeless for now.
You're welcome and thank you for watching and commenting.
like # 19 great share my friend! new supporter and friend here😇👍
Thank you. I'm not sure though what you mean by #19.
I have had a crushing depression for months after a situation that opened a floodgate of stuff, mostly complex trauma. The problem is I cannot feel anger, I wish I could I access it. I feel depressed, hopeless and helpless.
It usually comes out as resentment and then I just feel shame . I have toxic shame issues and internalize things. Even if the person was disrespectful, because I was people pleasing and had bad boundaries, I never said it in the moment. So by the time I sent a somewhat harsh message I just felt humiliated and shame by the thought that I probably looked “crazy” 😓. So now I just feel sad at the loss even though there are so many things to feel angry about, I cannot get that state. I wish I could because it would be much more useful and action oriented.
I think the problem is that one of my characteristics I’ve always had is being very quickly to forgive. I could never stay angry even with really terrible actions.
So i don’t think these tips can help me :(
I’ve even tried punching pillows to access this energy 😂
I suggest seeing a therapist. There's no shame in it. I've worked with multiple therapists throughout the years. There are some bad ones but there are many good ones.
@@DamonCart thanks! I’ve been looking into NLP recently and found your videos to be most down to earth so far. Yes I think I need more than self administered Nlp techniques right now. Thanks for reply
From my personal expérience i gave depression another meaning, i get ungry about my situation , about all the things that hapened to me , what hapened i'm going to change , i'm going to prouve to any body they are wrong i will have anything that i deserve
Depression is characterized by a feeling of hopelessness and helplessness, a low energy state in other words with little or no action. Anger is more energetic and can be used to motivate yourself to action. They're very different.
My dad is suffering from old age depression, this might be helpful for him.
There could be a number of causes. You mention that it has to do with old age so that might be regret and probably not regret over things he did but regret over things he didn't do and maybe he feels like it's too late. This is also what a lot of people go through in midlife called the midlife crisis. Anger might be a bridge state for him to get out of the hopeless and helpless feeling he might have about reengaging in life. It's better to let go of whatever dreams he may have had and do what he can now. What makes us happy is the doing, not so much the having.
Yes. it's happening since my mother passed away one and half year ago.yet he is not recovered from this trauma. He can't stop thinking of her memories. And it becomes cause of his depression.
Sounds like you care about him a lot. That's good that he has you. Steve & Connirae Andreas created a process for resolving grief that's extremely effective and when done right let's you take all of the good memories and allows you to let go of the pain. I've used it on myself when I suffered a loss and it worked. Maybe gently approach your father about giving it a try. He's got nothing to lose and you would get a chance to practice a dynamic NLP process. Make sure you go through every step. Leave nothing out. Here is the process: www.steveandreas.com/Articles/grief02.html
Thank you very much.
You're welcome. Hope things work out.
Btw why do we get angry when we are sad?
Usually we're one or the other, angry or sad. I can't explain exactly why you're feeling either unless I assessed you one-on-one.
@@DamonCart lol i wish we could do that i watch your videos on NLP oh men i get empowered ...sometimes i wish i could afford threapy but im still in highschool
but if there is any way we can contact eachother it would really make me happy
@@timothy897 you can email me at damon@lifemasterygym.com
Depressie not becouce we want but because we het from evrery thing we want couse its happen 👍
I'm not quite sure what you're saying.
NLP Gym depresion came becouse de problemen, stres and Break samething in the brain , Evert bady Have Different the diagnose but we or i dont couse to be depresion but becouse the situassion to make my Pain, machteloos , onunust enz.
🤔mmmm... being depressed, accompanied with horrible toothache??...good times🎉
Sorry to hear that. Let me know if I can help.