I learned something in my life knowing so many people, if they leave without saying anything and want their own space, let them go. If they want you, they will come back and talk. If they don’t, thank God that they left and that is definitely for a reason, and this reason is God answering your prayers to remove negative souls from your path.
In my experience, during the time they're gone, they're with another dude (who they probably met while being with you). I'd be hesistant to take them back. Don't get used.
@@Justsomeguysomewhere exactly, men must do the same and level up and never look back. they follow the same ol pattern, first its cuffing season, then hot girl summer lol
Yep, there was a girl I met in the cafeteria at my hospital I worked at. I didn’t even make contact with her, she was just around the condiment section and I ask her if she seen any ketchup. She then started being all friendly with me and decided to follow and sit by me. I was surprised. I made the move to ask for her number. That same week I saw her sitting by herself in the cafeteria. I came by and said hi, she started fidgeting and acted cold like she didn’t know me. I sat down and she was ready to go. Never knew what came over her. Never saw her again but thought there was something there but faded out. I decided to delete her number. 😅 her loss
They don't know if they are coming or going. That's just what it comes down to. That's most people anymore. She did you a favor just imagine if you were a long term relationship with them, which would have been nice to have... but then one day they just leave. Had a family member do that to their spouse. After 25 years they just ended up leaving their spouse because they felt like they were living in a life of regret. Very sad all of that for one single thought and belief to destroy something good after 25 years. No thanks!
Did you text or call her after you got her number? If you hadn't contacted her by the time you saw her again, she may have felt rejected? You never really know what's going on with other people.
I've had numerous women do this and they come right back within a week, couple weeks, maybe a month. They all say the same thing about catching feelings and getting a little freaked out. He speaks 100% facts
If a woman or guy does that to you it’s called avoidant attachment style. Nit talking to them and leaving them alone is just walking away and eventually their walls are going to go down and they will try to come back. The key is to set boundaries and don’t let them do it again. If you don’t, this cycle will continue.
Great wisdom LFA. Women implement the pull away because their ego can’t take your eventual rejection of them. During your vetting process you’ll discover she’s a Cluster B. To preserve her emotional state, she has to breakup with you, before you eventually break up with her. LFA keep rockin’!!!
This literally happened to me last sat night.2nd date,her house,she snuggled up,didn't make a move.vibe totally changed.she said she'd hit me up the next day.never did.lesson learned,moving on.
Let me just lay it all out for the ones that's confused .... They tend to leave when showing high interest is because they can see when you like her more than she likes you... Even if it's true you have to show her that you don't give a shit about a relationship or even her show her that you just here to enjoy the time nothing else ... And don't come off too thirsty.
I mean we can pretend but there comes a time when that game gets old and you just prioritize your time doing something that gives you enjoyment or fulfilment instead of trying to appease to people who are broken lol Then again im 35 and see that this whole not showing interest and being nonchalant when you do like someone is a waste of time and to find someone who values you and your time
@@garthyahudahandrews8504thanks for writing that. Im younger and thanks to your message hopeful that i can find someone that values me for whom I really am
You’re just regurgitating game tactics and basic red pill talking points. At a certain age you realize it’s more draining pretending. Either she likes you or she doesn’t
Humans have behaved the same way since the beginning of time. Because we're going through life for the first time all this stuff seems new, that's why a master of the universe like this dude is so important.
One of the things my teacher told me don’t overthink it holds true to this day . Lots of times guys think too much and that’s where the anxiety comes from go about your business fellas
As a 56 year old man that has had a fair amount of live experience with women, I totally concur with LFA. This video is genius. His insight on this situation is unique but worth a million bucks. Most younger men and older to be honest need to take heed on his opinion. Keep up the perspicacity.
Dude, you're right on point with this. I've seen it a ton and I have a lady friend who does this a lot and it's not personal at all. It has been a good experience in building confidence honestly.
Summary The video discusses why women may disappear after showing initial interest, emphasizing it’s often about their personal issues rather than something the man did. Highlights 🤔 Understanding Disappearance: Women may ghost due to personal issues, not because of something you did. 🌅 Privacy Matters: High interest can lead to women feeling exposed, prompting them to pull back. 🏃♂️ Give Space: Allowing privacy can lead to women realizing they may have overreacted and will often return. 🧠 Overanalyzing Hurts: Men should avoid overthinking the situation to maintain confidence and composure. 🎭 Not Personal: It’s usually not about the man; it’s a personal struggle the woman is facing. 🕵️♂️ Avoiding Pressure: Chasing or grand gestures can come off as needy and unattractive. 🔄 The Cycle: Women often revisit their decisions, leading them to reach out after taking space. Key Insights 🔍 Personal Struggles: Women disappearing often reflects their internal conflicts, not a reflection of your worth. Recognizing this can alleviate self-doubt. 🏖️ Importance of Space: Providing space allows women to process their feelings, often leading them to reassess their interest and feelings for you. 🧘♂️ Avoid Overthinking: Men should focus on maintaining their mental strength and not overanalyze situations to avoid appearing needy or insecure. 📉 Privacy as a Factor: Just like the neighbor’s blinds closing, a woman might pull back due to feeling exposed or overwhelmed by intimacy. 🎢 Emotional Tests: Women may subconsciously test men’s reactions to gauge their interest or commitment, leading to temporary withdrawal. 🚪 Letting Go: Accepting that it’s a “them” issue relieves pressure and allows for a more natural reconnection when they are ready. 💪 Confidence is Key: A confident demeanor during tough times can significantly impact the outcome, as it reflects stability and self-assuredness.
A girl i met on bumble , initially showed me really high interest , asked me if i lived alone , if there is bed available at my place or do i like to sleep on the floor, hinted she is a great cook and would love to come by and make dinner. She passively flirted a lot too. I immediately felt something was wrong so initially i acted neutral , but after a week she started acting cold and uninterested , so i felt maybe i did not reciprocate her vibe thats why she got like that so i invited her but she was like i'm busy with my work and all, i pursued even more for 2 weeks straight i felt i messed up big time thinking she clearly was interested in me but due to my own foolishness i ruined the vibe. But as days and weeks passed , i began to uncover her real strategy, she is one of those people who likes to guilt trip men and manipulate them into chasing her , so as soon i realised that i thought maybe i should just dissappear but then i decided to stay and play the same card. The ending was really satisfactory 😂 Anyways beware of such women guys.
A former coworker showed interest. Then, 1 day, she ignored me. It was just me, she ignored. Then, I later found out from another co-worker that her ex bf was trying to get back with her. 2 years ago, I did not hear from 1 of my friends. He didn't reply to text. Later on, when he did reply and we met up, he mentioned his dad passed away. When someone is bothered on a personal issue, he/she can just go missing in action without saying a word. You don't hear anything from them for a while. Until he/she is ready to finally talk.
there are women especially young ones who don't look that great that are simply immature and therefore insecure. There is nothing anyone can do about but themselves. Maturity is a very personal issue.
True. I granted privacy and it is coming up a year since....More going on than initially noticed. Dismissive avoidant, eating disorder, Daddy issues come to mind. Hope she can drag herself outta the quicksand sometime
Long ass post incoming, sorry in advance and thank you LFA for the video. Been talking to this gal from work, almost non stop texting day and night, hanging out after work whenever we could. Sometimes at my place or going out somewhere. Through out that time there was some flirting and physical playing but nothing beyond that. Anyhow, a couple months ago she invites me out to a concert, even pays for my ticket. We go to the concert with some of her friends and we're having a good time. She's dancing in front of me and after all this time I think it's now or never to make a move. I bring her close to me, now we're dancing together for a couple minutes. Then she tells me she has to go to the bathroom, we go as a group, the girls go to the bathroom together. As we get back to our spot, I definitely feel like there's a sudden shift in mood. Things feel awkward. On the car ride home, she never once looks over to me or makes an effort to talk to me. We get back to the place we were staying the night with her friends and immediately goes to her room and doesn't come out for the rest of the night. I'm now all kinds of fucked up, wondering what the hell just happened, can't sleep. Morning comes and I talk to her friend about what happened. She confirms that when they went to the bathroom they talked about me dancing with her but doesn't really get too into it except to say, that I didn't do anything wrong. Gal I'm talking to finally comes out the room, we talk for a bit, watch some netflix. Coworker and I have a moment to ourselves so I bring up what happened at the concert, she doesn't really wanna talk about and just tells me not to worry about it, it's not a big deal, it's fine (this only makes me overthink things even more). We hangout for the rest of day and eventually we all go back home for the night. The following day, she reaches out to me asks how I'm doing. I again bring up the dancing and she again tells me not to worry about it. I tell her okay, okay I'll drop it and we just talk about how fun the concert was, other random shit. Over the next couple day, texting gets less and less until finally she just ghosts me. At work, things were pretty normal but in my head this had me overanalyzing every moment we had together and thinking all kinds of stupid shit about myself. Eventually I got over it after about a month but fuck man, I wish I had this video back then. 😂
@@rn4013 luckily there wasn't any work related issues. So that's gotta count for something. 😂 Even now, things are still playful at work or she'll go out of her way to make conversation with me. Unless we cross paths at work, I don't ever seek her out.
@ look man, I’mma put it like this. Everyone’s going through shit, and it’s true that sometimes people don’t want a relationship. But if she really likes you and likes and APPRECIATES your company, she won’t be asking for space, unless you’re giving her too much attention. I’ll give you my example, I met this girl on Tinder when I was in a different city, and I f*cked her brains out and she went crazy for me. Eventually I had to leave, and even though I know she likes me still, I’m not there physically, so I know she probably has option B and even option C and D. When I first left the city where she and I met, we would text everyday, send videos and pics, etc. Eventually I started hearing less from her, and I started getting depressed bro, for real. I realized I was depending too much on this chick I just met, so I met like 2 other girls from dating apps and kept going. She actually just called me now, and asked me why I don’t text her anymore and shit, which is funny. But usually, they take you for granted when you’re giving too much, especially when you’re not getting much in return. If she really likes you and misses you, she’ll hit you back eventually after you give her the space she wants and needs, to truly realize that she actually wants you. Hope this helps man, it’s cold with women but we gotta understand them and realize that we’re living different lives. We gotta learn how to love them without losing our minds and “falling in love”.
If a woman initially displays high interest but suddenly withdraws, the underlying cause is often social influence-particularly the involvement of her close friends. When a woman has a "best friend," that friend often becomes a gatekeeper of sorts, prying for details and exposing vulnerabilities. This dynamic is not always rooted in concern but can stem from jealousy or subconscious competition. Women, much like crabs in a bucket, often regulate each other’s choices in ways that hinder individual progress. This competition isn't always overtly malicious, but it operates on an instinctual level-shaped by both social conditioning and evolutionary psychology. Older women, for instance, may offer misleading advice to younger women, not necessarily out of malice, but because they project their past mistakes onto them. Whether consciously or unconsciously, they discourage certain paths, reinforcing the same cycles they once fell into. The psychology behind these interactions is complex, shaped by both personal insecurities and broader social structures. Understanding this dynamic offers insight into the intricate ways women navigate friendships, competition, and romantic choices. Just remember- she's the same person who ran through a bunch of bystanders, and now she's SETTLING WITH YOU, for her self preservation. Juice is never worth the squeeze.
Very good stuff. Been going through a thing with a girl for a year who was way into me, and then got completely pissed off and tried to friend zone me. I angrily declined the friend request and cut ties, but can't forget about her. Get frustrated about it most days cause I talked to my male friends, so this video has really helped.
One of mine recently ended up saying she had feelings for someone else after having love bombed me like no one else before, possibly an ex it didn't end the way she wanted with. She didn't even care when I told her we wouldn't see each other again, not likely she will want to start anything up again. That's dating past 30 for you, a whole lot of emotionally unavailable women...
There are plenty of emotionally unavailable men, too. I experienced the above too, I was really into him, and he ghosted me out of nowhere. I learned to love myself and walk away from that. So there are emotionally available women out there, but the fact we go for these types suggests a lot of inner work needs to be done so we don't attract these types in the future. Best of luck to you 🍀
i remember feeling like i was always the one fading into the background while others stood out effortlessly. it was frustrating and made me doubt myself a lot. then i came across this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it showed me things i’d never even considered. it’s not just a self-help book; it’s like a guide to understanding your own energy and using it to connect with people. if you’ve ever felt like you’re not seen, this book might change everything.
You're maybe gonna laugh now, but you are something incredibly valuable in today's society. You're something that so many men lack today, especially those who grew up with single mothers. And perhaps more than a few who grew up with a society-cucked father. You're a male role model. Thank you for your work!
Regarding what you said at the end of your video, that's is exactly why you u are the only one I m listening to since 2017. I am skeptical person, so for me you brilliantly passed the test. You are a real and genuine character. You share what you really believe or experience. The situations or events that you mention are archetypal, therefore timely and useful for a wide range of people. Listen to you from France by the way as you usually say that only native english speakers listen to you.
Good point about the manosphere being swamped with course sellers (even though that wasn't the main topic). I respect this channel for not caving in to this trend.
When women who do this, I feel won't make a good partner for you. Why? Here you are putting in effort and she decides to disappear because of being caught up in her feelings. Women are on their phones all day everyday and they can't send you a message back saying I have some personal related stuff or something to let you know that she won't be able to talk for the next x days is a more reasonable and thoughtful response then just ghosting you and then trying to come back. And if she needs space she should be telling you that and you can just let her be, and support her when she is ready to receive it from you. That's how it's supposed to be done. All this disappearing stuff is why we have a lot of the issues we face today when it comes to matchmaking. The only time where ghosting is legit is if something does not feel right with that person like if the person is psychotic / narcissistic / dangerous / straight up asking for sex.
there was a time when i kept wondering why some people seemed to naturally draw others in while i was just…there. no matter what i tried, i couldn’t figure out how they did it. then someone mentioned the book Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and i decided to check it out. the way it explains how your aura affects everything around you? it blew me away. it’s like having a secret code to unlock your magnetic energy. this book is a game-changer.
You and rich cooper have some of the best stuff brotha thank you yeah it’s funny happened to me lately and it all comes down to women in general are all over the place with their emotions and a lot of the times it’s for the dumbest things too
Yeah it's happening to me now with the girl I really like better than the dozens of girls I dated. We met nearly 10 years ago and for 3 years there was mad tension because there was a big attraction but I didn't do anything as I had a gf at the time. 7 Years ago we ended messing around when I was single. And then she moved away to a different town. Now she is back but just ended a long-term relationship. We both like each other crazily but she runs hot and cold with me. One day, we meet and have a great time and she even plans to be with me, then a few days later she says she is not ready for a relationship, even though I told her I don't want a relationship, just want to meet up, clap them cheeks and see later if we should be together. She is too undecisive and it's making me lose interest. So I told her that I will not talk to her for a few weeks. And see what's up later. I consider it a loss but I honestly wish she would make up her mind and figure her sht out, solid yes or solid no. She told me she fears she will miss out on having her chance with me.
Girls often times never try to reconnect today man, maybe back in 2003. A girl today will get the ick so quick and have 20 messages in their inbox from new guys that night. You’ll be left in the dust, let me repeat they will not come back no matter how good of a guy you are. Often times you’re giving these videos as if social media doesn’t exist and we’re stuck in the early 2000’s
A lot of his advice is from his point of view. If you don’t relate to him and his general experience with women then it’s probably just that you’re not that guy yet.
In my youth i can relate to all your saying played the game..but now most women are going through health problems.or been divorced health is failing. im not gonna chase after young girls cause i ain't that desperate.better off alone or carry someone elses burden.
This same exact thing happened to me 4 years ago when I met a very young lady I knew I wanted the very second I met her. If I had known what you just explained back then we would probably be together right now cos the interest level was off the charts and the chemistry was sizzling but I messed it up. 😢
Damn, this happen to me today. This girl at my work pretty damn sure she like me but I stop eye contact with her so after a while when we cross each other she ignored me so ignored her.
I’m going through the same situation right now, and have gone through this many times before. I see women as people dipping their toes into the water, because they’re actually very timid. It’s a public demonstration of their illogical thinking. Most women who do this are not really worth your time. If a woman doesn’t play games, she’s worth your time. Unfortunately, 95% of them play games.
My problem was that I simply said ”if you’re not interested just tell me” and that was beta as hell but I learn. Thing is I learn so much recently. I mean it sucks when a good one goes but there’s more 😅
1 month for me with that one girl, I did really nothing since I don't care she had a boyfriend I don't know if there still is, if she prefers him that's cool I have moved on
Im my opinion woman act like they are into you to get you to open up, meanwhile they are ticking and crossing boxes. If you get enough crosses you are out. It can also depend on her personality style and her situation at the time regarding other relationships. The only hope you have of getting her back or knowing if she is genuinely interested is by going no contact.
I got a girls number and texted her about 48hrs ago. I havent gotten a response yet. How long should i wait? Should i send a follow up after a week? Or just move on?
I learned something in my life knowing so many people, if they leave without saying anything and want their own space, let them go. If they want you, they will come back and talk. If they don’t, thank God that they left and that is definitely for a reason, and this reason is God answering your prayers to remove negative souls from your path.
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In my experience, during the time they're gone, they're with another dude (who they probably met while being with you).
I'd be hesistant to take them back.
Don't get used.
They can’t come back because I block them the first time they leave without saying anything
@@Justsomeguysomewhere exactly, men must do the same and level up and never look back. they follow the same ol pattern, first its cuffing season, then hot girl summer lol
@@littleberrygenealogy no second chance
Because they don’t know what they want and we shouldn’t take them serious… period
Hi Brothers , may I ask for prayers for healing my prostate cancer. GB you all.
Sending you prayers brother
Prayers 🙏
Don't goon too much prayers for you 🙏🙏🙏
Prayers for a powerful healing for you 🙏🏾✅
You got this brother!! Please update me with the good news!
In an era of grifters and fakes, LFA genuinely cares about the futures of young men.
This dudes the truth
I do appreciate that he's not constantly "buy my course" like most other channels that claim they care about our wellbeing
Best way to start the morning is with some coffee and one of these videos. This man is doing great work.
Yep, there was a girl I met in the cafeteria at my hospital I worked at. I didn’t even make contact with her, she was just around the condiment section and I ask her if she seen any ketchup. She then started being all friendly with me and decided to follow and sit by me. I was surprised. I made the move to ask for her number. That same week I saw her sitting by herself in the cafeteria. I came by and said hi, she started fidgeting and acted cold like she didn’t know me. I sat down and she was ready to go. Never knew what came over her. Never saw her again but thought there was something there but faded out. I decided to delete her number. 😅 her loss
They don't know if they are coming or going. That's just what it comes down to. That's most people anymore. She did you a favor just imagine if you were a long term relationship with them, which would have been nice to have... but then one day they just leave. Had a family member do that to their spouse. After 25 years they just ended up leaving their spouse because they felt like they were living in a life of regret. Very sad all of that for one single thought and belief to destroy something good after 25 years. No thanks!
Did you text or call her after you got her number? If you hadn't contacted her by the time you saw her again, she may have felt rejected? You never really know what's going on with other people.
I've had numerous women do this and they come right back within a week, couple weeks, maybe a month. They all say the same thing about catching feelings and getting a little freaked out. He speaks 100% facts
"Hey stranger how are you?" They all do the same shit
@@stayingfitandfocused Hey stranger means they want it.
The ones that do that can kiss my a$$ ! I never take them back.
They do? I've personally never had a woman come back. They're always on to a new guy
@@philipramsden4975 hey stranger means she’s finally hypergamous enough for you
If a woman or guy does that to you it’s called avoidant attachment style.
Nit talking to them and leaving them alone is just walking away and eventually their walls are going to go down and they will try to come back.
The key is to set boundaries and don’t let them do it again. If you don’t, this cycle will continue.
Seen this too many times to count. Flavor of the month at the workplace. Rinse and repeat.
You don’t mess with chicks in the workplace rule #1
Do not crap where you eat.
Great wisdom LFA. Women implement the pull away because their ego can’t take your eventual rejection of them. During your vetting process you’ll discover she’s a Cluster B. To preserve her emotional state, she has to breakup with you, before you eventually break up with her. LFA keep rockin’!!!
This literally happened to me last sat night.2nd date,her house,she snuggled up,didn't make a move.vibe totally changed.she said she'd hit me up the next day.never did.lesson learned,moving on.
Nothing ventured. Nothing gained you good big dog. She’ll be back blow her back out and keep it pushing brah
Don't contact her
Go silnce
Trust me
She’ll be back. Nothing ventured nothing gained. You got this dude
Bro you took a step back for mankind. At that point the cat was out of the bag. Close the deal.
If they are snuggling up, it's their way of letting you know that they are comfortable with you. That's when it is time to make your move.
Let me just lay it all out for the ones that's confused .... They tend to leave when showing high interest is because they can see when you like her more than she likes you... Even if it's true you have to show her that you don't give a shit about a relationship or even her show her that you just here to enjoy the time nothing else ... And don't come off too thirsty.
Yep
I mean we can pretend but there comes a time when that game gets old and you just prioritize your time doing something that gives you enjoyment or fulfilment instead of trying to appease to people who are broken lol Then again im 35 and see that this whole not showing interest and being nonchalant when you do like someone is a waste of time and to find someone who values you and your time
@@garthyahudahandrews8504thanks for writing that. Im younger and thanks to your message hopeful that i can find someone that values me for whom I really am
You’re just regurgitating game tactics and basic red pill talking points. At a certain age you realize it’s more draining pretending. Either she likes you or she doesn’t
@@garthyahudahandrews8504have you found someone like that?
People who need people sometimes don’t need people at all.
They're narcissists with way too many options, choices, and attention
exaclty. Thats nothing to do with "personal" stuff. They have other men giving her what they want, thats all. She getting dicked.
That's why you have them on rotation. You won't even notice if one is doing this cause you got the other ones.
Facts!
Humans have behaved the same way since the beginning of time. Because we're going through life for the first time all this stuff seems new, that's why a master of the universe like this dude is so important.
If a girl ghost me I’m gone. I’m too old to play these games. Most of my experience with ghosting is they are interested in someone else
They have a roster in their phones to replace you
This shit happens a lot…that’s why you go on and keep going on.
you have no idea how many times your vids saved me from myself... no bs.
One of the things my teacher told me don’t overthink it holds true to this day . Lots of times guys think too much and that’s where the anxiety comes from go about your business fellas
As a 56 year old man that has had a fair amount of live experience with women, I totally concur with LFA. This video is genius. His insight on this situation is unique but worth a million bucks. Most younger men and older to be honest need to take heed on his opinion. Keep up the perspicacity.
Dude, you're right on point with this. I've seen it a ton and I have a lady friend who does this a lot and it's not personal at all. It has been a good experience in building confidence honestly.
Summary
The video discusses why women may disappear after showing initial interest, emphasizing it’s often about their personal issues rather than something the man did.
Highlights
🤔 Understanding Disappearance: Women may ghost due to personal issues, not because of something you did.
🌅 Privacy Matters: High interest can lead to women feeling exposed, prompting them to pull back.
🏃♂️ Give Space: Allowing privacy can lead to women realizing they may have overreacted and will often return.
🧠 Overanalyzing Hurts: Men should avoid overthinking the situation to maintain confidence and composure.
🎭 Not Personal: It’s usually not about the man; it’s a personal struggle the woman is facing.
🕵️♂️ Avoiding Pressure: Chasing or grand gestures can come off as needy and unattractive.
🔄 The Cycle: Women often revisit their decisions, leading them to reach out after taking space.
Key Insights
🔍 Personal Struggles: Women disappearing often reflects their internal conflicts, not a reflection of your worth. Recognizing this can alleviate self-doubt.
🏖️ Importance of Space: Providing space allows women to process their feelings, often leading them to reassess their interest and feelings for you.
🧘♂️ Avoid Overthinking: Men should focus on maintaining their mental strength and not overanalyze situations to avoid appearing needy or insecure.
📉 Privacy as a Factor: Just like the neighbor’s blinds closing, a woman might pull back due to feeling exposed or overwhelmed by intimacy.
🎢 Emotional Tests: Women may subconsciously test men’s reactions to gauge their interest or commitment, leading to temporary withdrawal.
🚪 Letting Go: Accepting that it’s a “them” issue relieves pressure and allows for a more natural reconnection when they are ready.
💪 Confidence is Key: A confident demeanor during tough times can significantly impact the outcome, as it reflects stability and self-assuredness.
😂 Who has got this much time? Let them go to hell.
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u r crazy thx
Holy shit, on point 🫱🏽🫲🏾
Thanks man this dude wasn’t getting to the point just saying the same shi over and over differently
A girl i met on bumble , initially showed me really high interest , asked me if i lived alone , if there is bed available at my place or do i like to sleep on the floor, hinted she is a great cook and would love to come by and make dinner. She passively flirted a lot too.
I immediately felt something was wrong so initially i acted neutral , but after a week she started acting cold and uninterested , so i felt maybe i did not reciprocate her vibe thats why she got like that so i invited her but she was like i'm busy with my work and all, i pursued even more for 2 weeks straight i felt i messed up big time thinking she clearly was interested in me but due to my own foolishness i ruined the vibe.
But as days and weeks passed , i began to uncover her real strategy, she is one of those people who likes to guilt trip men and manipulate them into chasing her , so as soon i realised that i thought maybe i should just dissappear but then i decided to stay and play the same card. The ending was really satisfactory 😂 Anyways beware of such women guys.
A former coworker showed interest. Then, 1 day, she ignored me. It was just me, she ignored. Then, I later found out from another co-worker that her ex bf was trying to get back with her.
2 years ago, I did not hear from 1 of my friends. He didn't reply to text. Later on, when he did reply and we met up, he mentioned his dad passed away.
When someone is bothered on a personal issue, he/she can just go missing in action without saying a word. You don't hear anything from them for a while. Until he/she is ready to finally talk.
This title is unbelievably relatable at the moment - I hope this answers my current situation
Did it?
@@LFAis been 52 minutes
lol 😂 My man LFA moves quick!
there are women especially young ones who don't look that great that are simply immature and therefore insecure. There is nothing anyone can do about but themselves. Maturity is a very personal issue.
True. I granted privacy and it is coming up a year since....More going on than initially noticed. Dismissive avoidant, eating disorder, Daddy issues come to mind. Hope she can drag herself outta the quicksand sometime
.. .if you love(lust) someone(thing), let it go... if it comes back, so be it... if it doesn't, .....
Long ass post incoming, sorry in advance and thank you LFA for the video.
Been talking to this gal from work, almost non stop texting day and night, hanging out after work whenever we could. Sometimes at my place or going out somewhere. Through out that time there was some flirting and physical playing but nothing beyond that.
Anyhow, a couple months ago she invites me out to a concert, even pays for my ticket. We go to the concert with some of her friends and we're having a good time. She's dancing in front of me and after all this time I think it's now or never to make a move. I bring her close to me, now we're dancing together for a couple minutes. Then she tells me she has to go to the bathroom, we go as a group, the girls go to the bathroom together. As we get back to our spot, I definitely feel like there's a sudden shift in mood. Things feel awkward.
On the car ride home, she never once looks over to me or makes an effort to talk to me. We get back to the place we were staying the night with her friends and immediately goes to her room and doesn't come out for the rest of the night. I'm now all kinds of fucked up, wondering what the hell just happened, can't sleep. Morning comes and I talk to her friend about what happened. She confirms that when they went to the bathroom they talked about me dancing with her but doesn't really get too into it except to say, that I didn't do anything wrong. Gal I'm talking to finally comes out the room, we talk for a bit, watch some netflix. Coworker and I have a moment to ourselves so I bring up what happened at the concert, she doesn't really wanna talk about and just tells me not to worry about it, it's not a big deal, it's fine (this only makes me overthink things even more). We hangout for the rest of day and eventually we all go back home for the night.
The following day, she reaches out to me asks how I'm doing. I again bring up the dancing and she again tells me not to worry about it. I tell her okay, okay I'll drop it and we just talk about how fun the concert was, other random shit. Over the next couple day, texting gets less and less until finally she just ghosts me.
At work, things were pretty normal but in my head this had me overanalyzing every moment we had together and thinking all kinds of stupid shit about myself. Eventually I got over it after about a month but fuck man, I wish I had this video back then. 😂
It might have been a test to see if you would chase. Just match her energy and don't chase. If she really likes you she will come around.
Gotta be careful when "putting your pen in company ink"
@@rn4013 luckily there wasn't any work related issues. So that's gotta count for something. 😂 Even now, things are still playful at work or she'll go out of her way to make conversation with me. Unless we cross paths at work, I don't ever seek her out.
Never date co workers
This just happened to me, and it’s some sad shit. But it’s much better than getting completely manipulated and fucked .
Does saying she isn’t ready for a relationship right now but would date me if she was ready Count?
She also asked for space
@ look man, I’mma put it like this.
Everyone’s going through shit, and it’s true that sometimes people don’t want a relationship. But if she really likes you and likes and APPRECIATES your company, she won’t be asking for space, unless you’re giving her too much attention.
I’ll give you my example, I met this girl on Tinder when I was in a different city, and I f*cked her brains out and she went crazy for me. Eventually I had to leave, and even though I know she likes me still, I’m not there physically, so I know she probably has option B and even option C and D. When I first left the city where she and I met, we would text everyday, send videos and pics, etc. Eventually I started hearing less from her, and I started getting depressed bro, for real.
I realized I was depending too much on this chick I just met, so I met like 2 other girls from dating apps and kept going.
She actually just called me now, and asked me why I don’t text her anymore and shit, which is funny. But usually, they take you for granted when you’re giving too much, especially when you’re not getting much in return.
If she really likes you and misses you, she’ll hit you back eventually after you give her the space she wants and needs, to truly realize that she actually wants you.
Hope this helps man, it’s cold with women but we gotta understand them and realize that we’re living different lives. We gotta learn how to love them without losing our minds and “falling in love”.
@SkyrimEnjoyer253asking for space aka seeing other dudes you best move on
Unfortunately most of us men have learned this the hard way. Hopefully LFA can reach some of the younger guys before they go through it
To give her privacy you mean?
I’m 19 and just went through it, but at least I now have enough knowledge to know how to deal with it in the event it might happen again
If a woman initially displays high interest but suddenly withdraws, the underlying cause is often social influence-particularly the involvement of her close friends. When a woman has a "best friend," that friend often becomes a gatekeeper of sorts, prying for details and exposing vulnerabilities. This dynamic is not always rooted in concern but can stem from jealousy or subconscious competition.
Women, much like crabs in a bucket, often regulate each other’s choices in ways that hinder individual progress. This competition isn't always overtly malicious, but it operates on an instinctual level-shaped by both social conditioning and evolutionary psychology. Older women, for instance, may offer misleading advice to younger women, not necessarily out of malice, but because they project their past mistakes onto them. Whether consciously or unconsciously, they discourage certain paths, reinforcing the same cycles they once fell into.
The psychology behind these interactions is complex, shaped by both personal insecurities and broader social structures. Understanding this dynamic offers insight into the intricate ways women navigate friendships, competition, and romantic choices.
Just remember- she's the same person who ran through a bunch of bystanders, and now she's SETTLING WITH YOU, for her self preservation. Juice is never worth the squeeze.
Women don't want to be sqeezed and loose our juice for men...
In two days it will be 3 weeks since we last texted each other. I was thinking she would reach out but now i’m not so sure…
Forget about her.
Very good stuff. Been going through a thing with a girl for a year who was way into me, and then got completely pissed off and tried to friend zone me. I angrily declined the friend request and cut ties, but can't forget about her. Get frustrated about it most days cause I talked to my male friends, so this video has really helped.
One of mine recently ended up saying she had feelings for someone else after having love bombed me like no one else before, possibly an ex it didn't end the way she wanted with. She didn't even care when I told her we wouldn't see each other again, not likely she will want to start anything up again. That's dating past 30 for you, a whole lot of emotionally unavailable women...
Emotionally unavailable and unstable too. :/
There are plenty of emotionally unavailable men, too. I experienced the above too, I was really into him, and he ghosted me out of nowhere. I learned to love myself and walk away from that. So there are emotionally available women out there, but the fact we go for these types suggests a lot of inner work needs to be done so we don't attract these types in the future. Best of luck to you 🍀
It only gets worse. At 50, its a desert of destruction.
rejection is usually more about the people doing the rejecting than it is about you (assuming you weren't a weird jerk or something).
i remember feeling like i was always the one fading into the background while others stood out effortlessly. it was frustrating and made me doubt myself a lot. then i came across this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it showed me things i’d never even considered. it’s not just a self-help book; it’s like a guide to understanding your own energy and using it to connect with people. if you’ve ever felt like you’re not seen, this book might change everything.
You're maybe gonna laugh now, but you are something incredibly valuable in today's society. You're something that so many men lack today, especially those who grew up with single mothers. And perhaps more than a few who grew up with a society-cucked father. You're a male role model. Thank you for your work!
Morning coffee, workout, and LFA vid!
Ya, I download LFA content to my phone and listen while working out, quite entertaining and Informative !
Your channel is awesome !! I had a friend text me just a bit ago going through this so I sent him this video . Keep killing it man !
As soon as I pulled you Tube up here's your video.
Incredible video LFA!
Regarding what you said at the end of your video, that's is exactly why you u are the only one I m listening to since 2017. I am skeptical person, so for me you brilliantly passed the test. You are a real and genuine character. You share what you really believe or experience. The situations or events that you mention are archetypal, therefore timely and useful for a wide range of people. Listen to you from France by the way as you usually say that only native english speakers listen to you.
This title alone hit hard for me regarding the past few weeks to now
"you're eating a banana and catch eye contact with a dude"...LMAO, that is def a privacy issue. 😂
Timing was on point
Im not dealing with any women rn, far too busy, but this explanation is pure gold man, completely changing the way of looking at things.
Excellent video and analises!
Good point about the manosphere being swamped with course sellers (even though that wasn't the main topic). I respect this channel for not caving in to this trend.
When women who do this, I feel won't make a good partner for you. Why? Here you are putting in effort and she decides to disappear because of being caught up in her feelings. Women are on their phones all day everyday and they can't send you a message back saying I have some personal related stuff or something to let you know that she won't be able to talk for the next x days is a more reasonable and thoughtful response then just ghosting you and then trying to come back. And if she needs space she should be telling you that and you can just let her be, and support her when she is ready to receive it from you. That's how it's supposed to be done. All this disappearing stuff is why we have a lot of the issues we face today when it comes to matchmaking. The only time where ghosting is legit is if something does not feel right with that person like if the person is psychotic / narcissistic / dangerous / straight up asking for sex.
Thank you brother I needed to hear this today 🤝💪
All the games... No thanks, I'm good.
I just needed this video in my life to remind that everything is ok with me. Its okay.
As allways all your points are spot on..thank for all the help you give us good guys
Good way of explaining how women act in a respectful way. You have them all figured out.
Man you 100 correct. just went through this with coworker.
there was a time when i kept wondering why some people seemed to naturally draw others in while i was just…there. no matter what i tried, i couldn’t figure out how they did it. then someone mentioned the book Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and i decided to check it out. the way it explains how your aura affects everything around you? it blew me away. it’s like having a secret code to unlock your magnetic energy. this book is a game-changer.
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I love your videos, man. You seem like the kind of person I would hangout with.
You and rich cooper have some of the best stuff brotha thank you yeah it’s funny happened to me lately and it all comes down to women in general are all over the place with their emotions and a lot of the times it’s for the dumbest things too
This was a much needed video, thank you
I appreciate your content and perspective brother. Thanks
One of the best videos I've seen from you LFA. Very relatable content.
Yeah it's happening to me now with the girl I really like better than the dozens of girls I dated. We met nearly 10 years ago and for 3 years there was mad tension because there was a big attraction but I didn't do anything as I had a gf at the time. 7 Years ago we ended messing around when I was single. And then she moved away to a different town.
Now she is back but just ended a long-term relationship. We both like each other crazily but she runs hot and cold with me. One day, we meet and have a great time and she even plans to be with me, then a few days later she says she is not ready for a relationship, even though I told her I don't want a relationship, just want to meet up, clap them cheeks and see later if we should be together. She is too undecisive and it's making me lose interest.
So I told her that I will not talk to her for a few weeks. And see what's up later. I consider it a loss but I honestly wish she would make up her mind and figure her sht out, solid yes or solid no.
She told me she fears she will miss out on having her chance with me.
Girls often times never try to reconnect today man, maybe back in 2003. A girl today will get the ick so quick and have 20 messages in their inbox from new guys that night. You’ll be left in the dust, let me repeat they will not come back no matter how good of a guy you are.
Often times you’re giving these videos as if social media doesn’t exist and we’re stuck in the early 2000’s
Not in my experience.
A lot of his advice is from his point of view. If you don’t relate to him and his general experience with women then it’s probably just that you’re not that guy yet.
100% you know it.
Women will forget about a guy superquick.
Same thing if you are rich man - spoilt for choice .
On to the next 1
@@adrianlemus2768wrong
i agree, girls these days don't bother to reconnect, they just go for the next one.. they have so much advantages as a woman, it's unfair
That was a really good analogy!
The banana analogy legitimately made me guffaw out loud!
More good stuff again from LFA.
In my youth i can relate to all your saying played the game..but now most women are going through health problems.or been divorced health is failing. im not gonna chase after young girls cause i ain't that desperate.better off alone or carry someone elses burden.
Very informative brother
You’re the shit, even if what you’re saying isn’t relevant at the moment in my life I know you’re saying something real and therefore valuable. Thanks
thank you for this!
This same exact thing happened to me 4 years ago when I met a very young lady I knew I wanted the very second I met her. If I had known what you just explained back then we would probably be together right now cos the interest level was off the charts and the chemistry was sizzling but I messed it up. 😢
Bummer. It happens.
He always speak about weather :D
Keep it simple,,love yourself first. Don't be needy.
Im just checking out the situation and doing well out there
I showed high interest, and he freaked out, ghosted me and returned, but then repeated the same patterns. I walked away. The End ‼️💯
still rollin on the floor from the banana comment...
😂😂that was brilliant 😂😂
a girl from my college broke her 4 years relationship to be with me, we stayed for 2 months then she went back to her.
hey im 24,feels good to be here
Thank you dad
Being a singing drummer in 2 bands I get this all the time. Move on and don't get hung up. I've heard it all!
Man i wish i had a this information a few years ago.
This sounds a lot like avoidant attachment, u get too close to them and then it is a "privacy" issue for them so they ghost.
Damn, this happen to me today. This girl at my work pretty damn sure she like me but I stop eye contact with her so after a while when we cross each other she ignored me so ignored her.
Well understood sir❤😊
I’m going through the same situation right now, and have gone through this many times before.
I see women as people dipping their toes into the water, because they’re actually very timid. It’s a public demonstration of their illogical thinking.
Most women who do this are not really worth your time. If a woman doesn’t play games, she’s worth your time. Unfortunately, 95% of them play games.
38 Speical - Hold on loosely but don't let go.
I Respect your words LFA 💯👏🏻👏🏻
My problem was that I simply said ”if you’re not interested just tell me” and that was beta as hell but I learn. Thing is I learn so much recently.
I mean it sucks when a good one goes but there’s more 😅
Why do you consider it beta to ask for clarity? I think it's actually a good thing. When you ask for clarity there is no room for mind games
@ it was the way I asked and what led up to it. You have a point but if I could show my convo you understand
@livsnjutaresverige3802 fair enough bro
All the best out there
LFA is right.
1 month for me with that one girl, I did really nothing since I don't care
she had a boyfriend I don't know if there still is, if she prefers him that's cool I have moved on
I did sort of chortle to myself when he came to the “as long as she didn’t cheat on you” part. That you know of.
Cheating is a deal breaker.
Bro, anyone ever tell you that you could play as Johnny Cage from Mortal Kombat?
Happening right now to me. Was love you love you really love you and then gone. I am so pissed off and will not let her back in.
Well said....
thank You...
Im my opinion woman act like they are into you to get you to open up, meanwhile they are ticking and crossing boxes. If you get enough crosses you are out. It can also depend on her personality style and her situation at the time regarding other relationships. The only hope you have of getting her back or knowing if she is genuinely interested is by going no contact.
Keep this video, listen to this every once and remember to walk away from her. I am a man, and she needs to stop, I’m not a friend.
Don’t freak out. Check!
I got a girls number and texted her about 48hrs ago. I havent gotten a response yet. How long should i wait? Should i send a follow up after a week? Or just move on?
move on.
move on bro...if she wants you she will give you response..its only about her ego..if she text you in few days, ghost her
Thanks for the responses