Yes. I've only regretted oversharing, but never regretted not sharing enough. People can be so judgemental and critical which can impact your sense of self worth if you let it. Better off not sharing anything.
I was right with you; "Yes...yes...yes...wha?" That last line shows a rigidity, a black/white thinking in which I wish not to partake. Consider your silence a sign of monkhood, wherein for a while acceptance of self lets us sharpen our skills at picking who/when we do share more of ourselves. Don't think there's no love/intimacy for you in life! That's just too sad, and unnecessary I believe
I have learned this as I get older and it’s wonderful. I hold most people at a distance unless you’re really a close friend or family. I have been told I’m difficult to get to know and I consider that a compliment.
I'm delighted I found this, all my life I've felt I've had to explain myself to and share in case people thought I didn't like them or was offended but now I'm going to try live more this way, after reading it his thank you and heard hoping
This is how I live it is amazing ❤ I see people now and it is like they are begging for acceptance, validation and it comes across so sad! Do it for you ❤
A still tongue keep a wise head. I heard that growing up from my mom regularly, and she is 100% correct. Absolutely believe talking too much can lead to some people sabotaging you who are insecure, jealous and generally don't have good intentions, because they don't want you to realize your dreams. Also, over sharing can be weaponized against you when people want to do you harm. Unfortunately, some people don't want the best for you & definitely don't want you to level up beyond them. Share wisely and only with a few. I believe silence is a great protective weapon, & can destabilize your enemies.
Thank you Jesus for spiritual discernment and wisdom so I understand what people's true intentions are🌾. God help us to hold our tongue and not expose our life, Amen
I think sharing only what you'd be ok with in a crowd. But, I also feel if you keep your thoughts too close to the vest, you can never have a true friend. I have 3 best friends that I trust would never repeat to others what I've shared with them over the years. I have other women I have regrets that I shared too much with. It's a fine line to walk. Because if you never go deep, you will also never have best friends to count on. True friendship takes time.
There are some who resent that you hold yourself close! Sometimes they think you are some kind of snob or something. These days of Social media everyone's life is an open book and I can't really get comfortable with it all. Some focus on promoting their fame or career, then personal life separate, but still. If you open up, just make sure the other person does too or does not ignore you being your genuine self.
I show people who I am and tell people who i am so i can look at people's reactions. I watch people very closely. It's the best way to filter and organize people i meet. I don't waste my time by putting up a walk between. people who they think i am. Because people assume at first and they often assume wrong. I used to be like you but then I found myself wasting time, sometimes years with the wrong people.
I would say only share those aspects of your depth that you have accepted. If you still have questions about something in your experience keep it safe, but if you feel settled and validated don’t be afraid to share if you think it might help in some way.
That's what I do and it's funny because my Facebook profile has everything set to "public" which makes it look like I'm being reckless when in reality I'm not even there with my real name and I'm very, very careful what I share!
Be careful of sharing especially at mandated work trainings where oversharing is at times required. What you share can and probably will be used against you.
Beene talks about vulnerability so this is almost the opposite perspective. Also, don’t forget we are also artists, musicians and poets. There is need for depth in our world.
She’s not saying not to be vulnerable. It’s about carefully choosing who you are vulnerable with. I’m an artist too and my creative tank is full of raw fuel that not everyone has access to. Only the output of the feelings generated by what I went through I choose to share. The people that see you will see you because you are an energetic match ir close to it. Very few people know the actual experience I went through. And look at the artists and musicians who shared too much. Amy Winehouse for example.
Is it because you are seeking to be understood? Or.. just got things to say? or things you feel like you need to talk about, to share with others about what you are feeling? Do you have someone you feel like you can trust to talk with about stuff?
From the queen of vulnerability, this does seem to be a rapid about-face 🤔 also, I've never heard her talk that slow. Something's funky. This is a popular wisdom. Just isn't what she's been teaching
@@IAmLovesLightTHANK YOU! I just commented about what I didn't appreciate about this lecture, kind of assuming it was just me. Since I don't usually follow her.
Well, there was a clear shift in speakers. So, you are thinking all of it was AI? Well, it was those cheesy text lines on the screen too.. hmm yup, it's a duck!
I know what she's getting at here, but... As someone who has always been very open, which comes from a very strong sense of self , in other words, its by choice and is natural, and not about needing people to understand, I feel uncomfortable about the way this is presented. It comes across as a lecture about what not to do. That message is repeated in so many times in so many different forms, all with the possible negative consequences that could occur and how it could make others feel or be perceived in undesirable ways. I know she is really popular and that shes got a lot of devoted fans who believe shes the best, and that most people she's talking to are likely to appreciate having someone guide them to whats good and not good behavior. BUT, the longer this goes on the more I feel like shes really being critical about people who are very open, without adding that for some people, they might just be naturally open and comfortable expressing more than other people might. And add that "if they are able to do this without feeling hurt or angry by the way people respond to them, its likely that they arent sharing with an expectation of being understood in a certain way. I dont want her followers , of which there are many, assessing my behavior based on her interpretation of that as somehow wrong. I dont want someone judging me without understanding, or God forbid, trying to help me by explaining why i shouldn't really be so open. All in all, i understand Ms Browns methods and intent, but this was on in the background, and it felt very much like a lecture of why being too open is bad. And i guess ive just experienced to many people here making assumptions about what they think i need to know. But, if that happens, i will try not to get irritated by their well intended behavior. I just rarely get treated with respect for who i am here, so yeah, i guess i needed to vent.😊😅 Carry on, ignore me.
Why waste time??? What you're teaching only works in a professional work place where you have to hide and blend into the group at one's work place. You might waste years with the wrong friends if you dont explain who you are and what you value. I show people who i am and tell people who i am so i can look at people's reactions. I watch people very closely. Its the best way to filter and organize people i meet. I don't waste my time by putting up a walk between people who they think i am unless im at work. Because people assume at first and they often assume wrong. Life is short so please tell people who you are without being embarrassed because we have all has trauma and we all have different things we value.
Her advice on being vulnerable ended up in me becoming a victim of a psychopath… so be vulnerable alright. Now she changes her message. Too late for me I guess
Omg, this is totally AI, altered by this producer Empowered Minds. Check the info about this video. There is nothing authentic about Brene Brown on this, but they definitely lead you to believe it is.
But what if you're just an open book? This goes against who you are. You have to force yourself to be somebody you're not and I didn't believe that's healthy either.
I would say only share those aspects of your depth that you have accepted. If you still have questions about something in your experience keep it safe, but if you feel settled and validated don’t be afraid to share if you think it might help in some way.
Yes, be careful about sharing. Some will use it against you.
Pray for wisdom and discernment!
Yes. I've only regretted oversharing, but never regretted not sharing enough. People can be so judgemental and critical which can impact your sense of self worth if you let it. Better off not sharing anything.
I was right with you; "Yes...yes...yes...wha?" That last line shows a rigidity, a black/white thinking in which I wish not to partake. Consider your silence a sign of monkhood, wherein for a while acceptance of self lets us sharpen our skills at picking who/when we do share more of ourselves. Don't think there's no love/intimacy for you in life! That's just too sad, and unnecessary I believe
Proverbs 4:23 "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it"!! 🙏🏻
True , but is that Proverb more about guarding against incoming influences, rather than keeping some things private? Can be both
@williamchamberlain2263 Yes, William!! I think it applies for both!! Blessings!! 🙏🏻
I have learned this as I get older and it’s wonderful. I hold most people at a distance unless you’re really a close friend or family. I have been told I’m difficult to get to know and I consider that a compliment.
Do not cast pearls before swine,
For they will trample them,
Then turn and attack you.
💯
I'm delighted I found this, all my life I've felt I've had to explain myself to and share in case people thought I didn't like them or was offended but now I'm going to try live more this way, after reading it his thank you and heard hoping
This is how I live it is amazing ❤ I see people now and it is like they are begging for acceptance, validation and it comes across so sad! Do it for you ❤
💯 it is a sad thing.
Oh this is what I was talking about..😬 please be careful not to assume that about everyone.
A still tongue keep a wise head. I heard that growing up from my mom regularly, and she is 100% correct. Absolutely believe talking too much can lead to some people sabotaging you who are insecure, jealous and generally don't have good intentions, because they don't want you to realize your dreams. Also, over sharing can be weaponized against you when people want to do you harm. Unfortunately, some people don't want the best for you & definitely don't want you to level up beyond them. Share wisely and only with a few. I believe silence is a great protective weapon, & can destabilize your enemies.
Thank you Jesus for spiritual discernment and wisdom so I understand what people's true intentions are🌾. God help us to hold our tongue and not expose our life, Amen
Amen 🙏🏾 Amen 🙏🏾 Amen 🙏🏾
Amen!🙏
Whoever is giving this message doesnt matter. Whether its Ms Brene or ai its the content that is valuable.
Wow! So true !! I just moved into an newer apartment & Quickly saw I needed to hold myself close . Thank you for the reminder !!🥰 Blessings to All 🙏
I think sharing only what you'd be ok with in a crowd. But, I also feel if you keep your thoughts too close to the vest, you can never have a true friend. I have 3 best friends that I trust would never repeat to others what I've shared with them over the years. I have other women I have regrets that I shared too much with. It's a fine line to walk. Because if you never go deep, you will also never have best friends to count on. True friendship takes time.
There are some who resent that you hold yourself close! Sometimes they think you are some kind of snob or something. These days of Social media everyone's life is an open book and I can't really get comfortable with it all. Some focus on promoting their fame or career, then personal life separate, but still. If you open up, just make sure the other person does too or does not ignore you being your genuine self.
I show people who I am and tell people who i am so i can look at people's reactions. I watch people very closely. It's the best way to filter and organize people i meet. I don't waste my time by putting up a walk between. people who they think i am. Because people assume at first and they often assume wrong. I used to be like you but then I found myself wasting time, sometimes years with the wrong people.
Spot on !! 👌👏
This is really excellent advice and helpful to me. Thank you.
Only ever share with someone who cares and loves you. Everybody else will use it against you.
I would say only share those aspects of your depth that you have accepted. If you still have questions about something in your experience keep it safe, but if you feel settled and validated don’t be afraid to share if you think it might help in some way.
So perfectly and wisely worded and detailed. Thank you so much. I truly needed these truths today.
You have to give to yourself first before you can give to others
This is so true, I have been this way all my life ❤
What an amazing talk
That's what I do and it's funny because my Facebook profile has everything set to "public" which makes it look like I'm being reckless when in reality I'm not even there with my real name and I'm very, very careful what I share!
I get it now. Thank you!
Be careful of sharing especially at mandated work trainings where oversharing is at times required. What you share can and probably will be used against you.
Thank you, amen😊
Beene talks about vulnerability so this is almost the opposite perspective. Also, don’t forget we are also artists, musicians and poets. There is need for depth in our world.
This is fake AI
She’s not saying not to be vulnerable. It’s about carefully choosing who you are vulnerable with. I’m an artist too and my creative tank is full of raw fuel that not everyone has access to. Only the output of the feelings generated by what I went through I choose to share. The people that see you will see you because you are an energetic match ir close to it. Very few people know the actual experience I went through. And look at the artists and musicians who shared too much. Amy Winehouse for example.
This is fake AI generated script and voice. These videos are popping up all over YT to manipulate people. These are not Brene Brown's ideas
YES! YES! YES!
Having a heard time to keep quiet about myself
Is it because you are seeking to be understood? Or.. just got things to say? or things you feel like you need to talk about, to share with others about what you are feeling? Do you have someone you feel like you can trust to talk with about stuff?
Brene Brown: be vulnerable, be authentic ! .. also Brene Brown: don’t let people know about you.. make it make sense
This could be AI - using her voice
This appears to be AI and not actually Brene
Yes, very disappointing and kind of scary. I will definitely not be following.
@danaregalado1983 something seemed off to me is this AI?
From the queen of vulnerability, this does seem to be a rapid about-face 🤔 also, I've never heard her talk that slow. Something's funky.
This is a popular wisdom. Just isn't what she's been teaching
@@IAmLovesLightTHANK YOU! I just commented about what I didn't appreciate about this lecture, kind of assuming it was just me. Since I don't usually follow her.
Well, there was a clear shift in speakers. So, you are thinking all of it was AI? Well, it was those cheesy text lines on the screen too.. hmm yup, it's a duck!
I know what she's getting at here, but...
As someone who has always been very open, which comes from a very strong sense of self , in other words, its by choice and is natural, and not about needing people to understand,
I feel uncomfortable about the way this is presented. It comes across as a lecture about what not to do. That message is repeated in so many times in so many different forms, all with the possible negative consequences that could occur and how it could make others feel or be perceived in undesirable ways.
I know she is really popular and that shes got a lot of devoted fans who believe shes the best, and that most people she's talking to are likely to appreciate having someone guide them to whats good and not good behavior.
BUT, the longer this goes on the more I feel like shes really being critical about people who are very open, without adding that for some people, they might just be naturally open and comfortable expressing more than other people might. And add that "if they are able to do this without feeling hurt or angry by the way people respond to them, its likely that they arent sharing with an expectation of being understood in a certain way.
I dont want her followers , of which there are many, assessing my behavior based on her interpretation of that as somehow wrong. I dont want someone judging me without understanding, or God forbid, trying to help me by explaining why i shouldn't really be so open.
All in all, i understand Ms Browns methods and intent, but this was on in the background, and it felt very much like a lecture of why being too open is bad. And i guess ive just experienced to many people here making assumptions about what they think i need to know.
But, if that happens, i will try not to get irritated by their well intended behavior. I just rarely get treated with respect for who i am here, so yeah, i guess i needed to vent.😊😅 Carry on, ignore me.
@PHanomaly I agree with you. You are spot on.
My motto is no one needs to know shit!
This sounds like very ego-based solution. We are here to help others so we can share and let to know the wisdom.
1:19 there is a typo here “death “ instead of depth 😮
Why waste time??? What you're teaching only works in a professional work place where you have to hide and blend into the group at one's work place. You might waste years with the wrong friends if you dont explain who you are and what you value. I show people who i am and tell people who i am so i can look at people's reactions. I watch people very closely. Its the best way to filter and organize people i meet. I don't waste my time by putting up a walk between people who they think i am unless im at work. Because people assume at first and they often assume wrong. Life is short so please tell people who you are without being embarrassed because we have all has trauma and we all have different things we value.
This is an A.I voice over. Hahaha
Wow the voice changes about 12 mins in. Weird.
Is it Brene Brown??
@@Livingourbestlife929no
@@leeannlee I agree. Some odd emphases and the breathing is weird.
Is this you Brenee? Sounds like a machine.
So Brene’s voice changes midway through ( after 12 min mark) … so is this an A.I generated video leveraging some of Brene’s ideas ?
Her advice on being vulnerable ended up in me becoming a victim of a psychopath… so be vulnerable alright. Now she changes her message. Too late for me I guess
It’s hard to count for the willful ignorance.
I started watching Brene Brown when she did the power of vulnerability, now it’s all about isolation, what happened here?
Omg, this is totally AI, altered by this producer Empowered Minds. Check the info about this video. There is nothing authentic about Brene Brown on this, but they definitely lead you to believe it is.
IA voice
❤
But what if you're just an open book? This goes against who you are. You have to force yourself to be somebody you're not and I didn't believe that's healthy either.
I don't think this is Brene Brown voice. Looks like AI voice.
It's a robot.
THIS IS NOT BRENE BROWN. It’s AI GENERATED. Beware of the content on this account.
FAKE
And then gen-z wonders why they have no friends lol...this is the worst advice ever unless you are a criminal.
Poor quality AI deserves a better reader.
AI
Really just saying the same thing over and over again.
Hard to listen to this AI use of her voice. Intonation often inappropriate
This voice is from a female jew
It’s a Sad sad situation and it is getting more and more absurd. History will repeat itself and it is hard and harsh to know and stand by and watch. 📔
I would say only share those aspects of your depth that you have accepted. If you still have questions about something in your experience keep it safe, but if you feel settled and validated don’t be afraid to share if you think it might help in some way.