People are nice to me at first, but soon they realize I'm boring or they feel a lack of connection with me and ignore me for the rest of the year (I also feel a lack of connection with them). I always felt anxiety since I was a little child, so When another kids called me to play around, I would reject them and pull them away. I was rude with them. I couldn't understand why: maybe because I was not interested in playing (instead I prefered to read a book), and I was not going to lie and be forced to play with them.... ( I hated being forced to that) But maybe I was not very confortable with them, either. Maybe it's what you said in this video: you're so scared of people leaving you, that you pull them away even before that happens. Anyways I never knew how to deal with people. Now I am an adult with 22 years old and I am destroying my life because of Social Anxiety. I stopped going to school, I am very late in School years Because I developed a Social Anxiety about being in a classroom, part of a group or something. I always feel like I will not belong there and people will exclude me.
Wow I just watched your video. I have recently developed anxiety as well. The way you describe your approach to realtionships is also what I do as well. I have been hurt by a lot of people and I did not think that I tried to do things to push them away but after listening to you I realize I do the same thing you do. I am so sorry for what you are having to go through. Thank you for this video it has made me see something about myself that I need to work on. Thank you so much for having the courage to put this video up.
I am SO sorry that I am only replying to this now. I'm sorry that these kind of things have happened to you =\. It's definitely hard to even realize that you're pushing people away to protect yourself, and it's definitely hard to stop doing so. Good luck to you
Girl, I am 25 years old and still on the same page as you. I'm not sure if I should be depressed or not about that…anyway, I've had a couple of friendships in the past, strong ones, that I have tried to push away when I sensed they were coming to an end as well. In the end (or is it the end?), time goes on…and now these people are successful and happy, and I am happy for them. I think it is always difficult at those crossroads, but in the end, if you are truly friends, you will be happy for one another and let each other lead their prosperous lives. That being said, I'm pretty socially awkward, so any advice from me should be deemed questionable. I admire you for posting these videos, though. If you want a friend, I can be one. I hope that didn't come off as too creepy.
I definitely get where you're coming from. I think my issue is that I am SO terrified by the idea of someone becoming just a memory, if that makes any sense ... I get way too attached to people but it seems that no one gets attached to me? I think it's also just honestly that I'm probably emotionally immature. Didn't sound creepy at all by the way! Thank you!
I'm so sorry I just watched this and I feel like that too a lot. I had so many good friends last summer and since I've seen them they have treated me so crappy. It's a long story but I haven't talked to them :/ I do that with guys more then friendships. But I feel like my news friends I had are just gone:/ it sucks. I wish I had friends but I have a couple close ones and that's good. But none of them live near me. Stay strong
damn just to talk with you i'd love to be your friend ! =) i've got some issues to with the others that makes me stay in front of my door for like 5 minutes reminding myself "you won't be ridiculous you're like everyone else " and it's creepy seeing people looking at me but anyway that's not your problem ^^ you're damn smart that's why you are anxious you overthink (is that proper english at least ?? i'm not using google translate i swear ! ) this is why dumb people are the happiest (and i'm sometimes really happy ! =D ) if you wanna talk about your anxiety send me a message (i'm on skype , fb and my phone is loaded ! ) i don't sleep a lot (i'm insomniac (i wish it's a transparent word ) ) so you won't annoy me try to stay strong erin you're not alone =)
No I understand that completely. The idea of people seeing me and my own self-hatred are the main roots of my social anxiety and not being able to leave the house. I'm sorry that you have to deal with that =\. Thank you.
People are nice to me at first, but soon they realize I'm boring or they feel a lack of connection with me and ignore me for the rest of the year (I also feel a lack of connection with them).
I always felt anxiety since I was a little child, so When another kids called me to play around, I would reject them and pull them away. I was rude with them. I couldn't understand why: maybe because I was not interested in playing (instead I prefered to read a book), and I was not going to lie and be forced to play with them.... ( I hated being forced to that) But maybe I was not very confortable with them, either.
Maybe it's what you said in this video: you're so scared of people leaving you, that you pull them away even before that happens.
Anyways I never knew how to deal with people. Now I am an adult with 22 years old and I am destroying my life because of Social Anxiety. I stopped going to school, I am very late in School years Because I developed a Social Anxiety about being in a classroom, part of a group or something. I always feel like I will not belong there and people will exclude me.
I suffer with general and social anxiety also Ocd. This hits home and thanks for the chit chat :)
Well, thank YOU for watching ! I'm sorry that you deal with these things =\.
Wow I just watched your video. I have recently developed anxiety as well. The way you describe your approach to realtionships is also what I do as well. I have been hurt by a lot of people and I did not think that I tried to do things to push them away but after listening to you I realize I do the same thing you do. I am so sorry for what you are having to go through. Thank you for this video it has made me see something about myself that I need to work on. Thank you so much for having the courage to put this video up.
I am SO sorry that I am only replying to this now. I'm sorry that these kind of things have happened to you =\. It's definitely hard to even realize that you're pushing people away to protect yourself, and it's definitely hard to stop doing so. Good luck to you
Girl, I am 25 years old and still on the same page as you. I'm not sure if I should be depressed or not about that…anyway, I've had a couple of friendships in the past, strong ones, that I have tried to push away when I sensed they were coming to an end as well. In the end (or is it the end?), time goes on…and now these people are successful and happy, and I am happy for them. I think it is always difficult at those crossroads, but in the end, if you are truly friends, you will be happy for one another and let each other lead their prosperous lives. That being said, I'm pretty socially awkward, so any advice from me should be deemed questionable. I admire you for posting these videos, though. If you want a friend, I can be one. I hope that didn't come off as too creepy.
I definitely get where you're coming from. I think my issue is that I am SO terrified by the idea of someone becoming just a memory, if that makes any sense ... I get way too attached to people but it seems that no one gets attached to me? I think it's also just honestly that I'm probably emotionally immature. Didn't sound creepy at all by the way! Thank you!
I'm so sorry I just watched this and I feel like that too a lot. I had so many good friends last summer and since I've seen them they have treated me so crappy. It's a long story but I haven't talked to them :/ I do that with guys more then friendships. But I feel like my news friends I had are just gone:/ it sucks. I wish I had friends but I have a couple close ones and that's good. But none of them live near me. Stay strong
I'm really sorry that you had people treat you badly =\. It's good that you have some good friends in your life though!! Thank you. Same to you
damn just to talk with you i'd love to be your friend ! =)
i've got some issues to with the others that makes me stay in front of my door for like 5 minutes reminding myself "you won't be ridiculous you're like everyone else " and it's creepy seeing people looking at me but anyway that's not your problem ^^
you're damn smart that's why you are anxious you overthink (is that proper english at least ?? i'm not using google translate i swear ! ) this is why dumb people are the happiest (and i'm sometimes really happy ! =D )
if you wanna talk about your anxiety send me a message (i'm on skype , fb and my phone is loaded ! ) i don't sleep a lot (i'm insomniac (i wish it's a transparent word ) ) so you won't annoy me
try to stay strong erin you're not alone =)
No I understand that completely. The idea of people seeing me and my own self-hatred are the main roots of my social anxiety and not being able to leave the house. I'm sorry that you have to deal with that =\.
Thank you.