“You’re in Such a Mess, I Don’t Even Know Where To Start”

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 461

  • @liveyourbestlife1878
    @liveyourbestlife1878 26 днів тому +96

    Never mix money with family!

    • @mdaniels6311
      @mdaniels6311 25 днів тому +5

      Boy oh boy so glad I learnt that before it became a situation like this. I just lost small amounts.

    • @seaor2k122
      @seaor2k122 23 дні тому +2

      Amen!

    • @daniella8400
      @daniella8400 21 день тому +1

      Yup! I stop allowing family to even borrow money

    • @Polo22546
      @Polo22546 20 днів тому +1

      EVER!!

    • @kbanghart
      @kbanghart 11 днів тому

      ​@@daniella8400I allow it

  • @pegzpat
    @pegzpat 27 днів тому +38

    Dave is absolutely right when he says theres nothing wrong with renting when you cant afford a house.

  • @kokoskokso
    @kokoskokso 27 днів тому +197

    Oh boy, seems like one of those Ramsey videos that makes me grateful for my own situation.

    • @ugabuga1361
      @ugabuga1361 27 днів тому

      Basically dad and mom screwed their kid… bless their hearts.
      Parents probably not good with money so as to be expected

    • @joelfenner9179
      @joelfenner9179 27 днів тому +12

      That's most Ramsey videos

    • @RoccoRyg
      @RoccoRyg 27 днів тому +12

      That's pretty much the only reason I watch this show.

    • @miketheyunggod2534
      @miketheyunggod2534 27 днів тому

      You’re horrible.

    • @lisahinkofer2085
      @lisahinkofer2085 27 днів тому +3

      Amen right. Glad I’m where I’m at. What a mess this is.

  • @cathy7824
    @cathy7824 27 днів тому +59

    Can't pay his bills so he buys a bigger house

    • @jimj2388
      @jimj2388 17 днів тому +2

      this happens all the time

  • @diceportz7107
    @diceportz7107 27 днів тому +109

    We out grew our current house. Whaaaaat??I came from a large family, we slept multiple kids to a bed. We made it work because that was the house that my parents had.

    • @vickieclark5931
      @vickieclark5931 27 днів тому +22

      It's just a justification to spend more money and get a bigger house. Just like when people go into 80k debt for a brand new car. People justify their stupidity.

    • @dudeorduuude5211
      @dudeorduuude5211 26 днів тому +17

      Agreed. My husband and I live in a 1 bedroom condo, with a baby on the way. We don't have enough yet for a down-payment for a house. We will make it work.

    • @mamamoney3746
      @mamamoney3746 26 днів тому +12

      I have 9 kids and we built a 960 sq foot home in cash and lived there until we sold and used the sale to buy double the sq foot - 969 was tight but not horrible. They didn’t need the space that’s an excuse !

    • @aanfimova
      @aanfimova 26 днів тому +2

      Don’t be! Sometimes you learn way more hearing what’s NOT to do 😉

    • @Josh-lp2ng
      @Josh-lp2ng 26 днів тому

      @@mamamoney374611 people in under 1000 square feet sounds pretty uncomfortable to me!

  • @Elizabeth_lowkeyluxuries
    @Elizabeth_lowkeyluxuries 26 днів тому +32

    Anytime a parent comes to you with a "deal", have a talk with an attorney before you do anything.

  • @noahsgarden7072
    @noahsgarden7072 27 днів тому +68

    Ashamed to admit this is my favorite type of ramsey content

    • @KB-sg7tv
      @KB-sg7tv 27 днів тому +10

      I learn the most from these types of situations

    • @PInk77W1
      @PInk77W1 27 днів тому +3

      Train Wreck

    • @danlc95
      @danlc95 27 днів тому +1

      Hey, you like what you like.

    • @nailatiylluf
      @nailatiylluf 27 днів тому +3

      It might sound silly but hearing this stuff over and over scared me into realizing you have to assume things will go sideways and it’s not your fault if someone else didn’t prepare for it.

    • @robertthompson5908
      @robertthompson5908 27 днів тому +1

      Same here.

  • @mikemcconeghy4658
    @mikemcconeghy4658 27 днів тому +10

    If your name is not on the loan, then you can't call the mortgage company to ask about it.

  • @cutehumor
    @cutehumor 27 днів тому +201

    The parents are using their son for their retirement income. reverse screw

    • @jimmymcgill6778
      @jimmymcgill6778 27 днів тому +6

      How did they screw him?

    • @SpicyKimchi-
      @SpicyKimchi- 27 днів тому +7

      They haven’t gotten a dime from him and they “sold it” below market value

    • @cutehumor
      @cutehumor 27 днів тому +16

      @@SpicyKimchi- relisten to the phone call, he doesn't "own" the home. The home is still in his parent's name. He is renting the home from the parents. All this 'home equity" stuff hasn't happened yet. The reverse screw: The parents are getting their son to pay off their mortgage. The parents probably know the son's income is not high enough to qualify for a home loan.

    • @TitoMolina604
      @TitoMolina604 26 днів тому +1

      ​@@cutehumorson could've said no.

    • @garykeith1048
      @garykeith1048 25 днів тому

      @@TitoMolina604 The son sounds like a clueless idiot. He doesn't seem to realize you don't own a car or a house unless your name is on the title. He doesn't seem to know the basics of buying a house or financing a house. I real sorry for his wife marrying such a clueless financial illiterate.

  • @wildfire4175
    @wildfire4175 27 днів тому +139

    I refuse to be house poor. I'll live in an RV before I go broke for a house

    • @victorkreitner754
      @victorkreitner754 27 днів тому +10

      Even worse striking deals with family members. A sure way to be hearing about it 24/7 when something goes wrong. I want to strike out and learn on my own with no family involved. My old man always told me no free lunches in the world, well there's no free lunches when it comes to family wheeling and dealing. It always ends in a disaster and with someone getting hurt.

    • @crowtservo
      @crowtservo 27 днів тому +6

      My uncle has a friend whose wife kicked him out. He took his RV to my uncle’s house and pays him $200 a month for “rent”. Has his RV hooked up to my uncle’s electricity and water/sewer.

    • @davidmercado2329
      @davidmercado2329 27 днів тому +1

      I also refused to that after hearing horror histories in Dave Ramsey show and also listening to Warren buffets talk about the margin of safety concept

    • @tonytoni1150
      @tonytoni1150 27 днів тому +1

      @@crowtservo that’s crazy 😂
      That electric bill is gonna be thru the roof lol

    • @parler8698
      @parler8698 27 днів тому

      Same

  • @robloxvids2233
    @robloxvids2233 27 днів тому +75

    The son is basically a reverse mortgage company now. But with no legal recourse. Ridiculous. People please don't "help your parents out" by buying their home from them. Tell them to put it on the open market and get the best deal. And you live wherever the FLIP you want. I don't trust your parents.

    • @thomasdalton1508
      @thomasdalton1508 27 днів тому

      They should have legal recourse, just secondary to the bank that has the mortgage. If the parents don't have any other assets, they might be judgment proof after the house is foreclosed on, though.

    • @tywebbgolfenthusiast8950
      @tywebbgolfenthusiast8950 27 днів тому +1

      I bought my parents house. Paid appraised value for 5 acres of land with a house my dad built himself. We’ve been here for 17 years and couldn’t be happier.

    • @SpicyKimchi-
      @SpicyKimchi- 27 днів тому +5

      What makes you think he’s helping his parents out by buying below market value, especially he said he needed a bigger home since he outgrew his?

  • @TitaAnderson
    @TitaAnderson 27 днів тому +292

    I have been a dividend focused investor for a long time. This does not mean I don't own growth stocks, I do. A well rounded portfolio should be a mixture of both categories. One way to minimize the anxiety out of stock market investing, is to make sure you keep a large cash cushion. I invest in the market, but never put all my money in market.

    • @softy-bf5eg
      @softy-bf5eg 27 днів тому +1

      Dividends are dope. Personally, I sometimes use my dividends to buy other dividend and growth stocks for diversification instead of reinvesting in the same stock. To each their own methods though. The good thing is that you’re investing in the first place and that’s what’s important. Salute for the content!

    • @marlisamirabal
      @marlisamirabal 27 днів тому +2

      A lot of folks downplay the role of advisors until being burnt by their own emotions. I remember couple summers back, after my lengthy divorce, I needed a good boost to help my business stay afloat, hence I researched for licensed advisors and came across someone of utmost qualifications. She's helped grow my reserve notwithstanding inflation, from $275k to $850k.

    • @Manselus
      @Manselus 27 днів тому +1

      That does make a lot of sense, unlike us, you seem to have the Market figured out. Who is this coach?

    • @marlisamirabal
      @marlisamirabal 27 днів тому

      Angela Lynn Shilling is the licensed advisor I use. Just research the name. You’d find necessary details to work with a correspondence to set up an appointment.

    • @Manselus
      @Manselus 27 днів тому

      Thank you for the lead. I searched her up, and I have sent her an email. I hope she gets back to me soon.

  • @enricopallazzo3244
    @enricopallazzo3244 27 днів тому +11

    Dave is being overly dramatic here. If they just get like 4-6 roommates they will be fine.

  • @DoctorSmartyPants
    @DoctorSmartyPants 27 днів тому +10

    Dave, the 90k left on the mortgage does not tell you what the mortgage payment is. You were thinking 90k re-amortized. The mortgage payment could easily be 2k and that is what they are asking in rent to own.

  • @theresa5158
    @theresa5158 27 днів тому +19

    Also if one of the parents ends up in a nursing home… they’ll take the house.

    • @ronaldlindeman6136
      @ronaldlindeman6136 17 днів тому +1

      Or, the kids (adult children) will be encouraged to help the parents for as long as they can.

    • @kbanghart
      @kbanghart 11 днів тому

      ​@@ronaldlindeman6136what's wrong with helping?

    • @kbanghart
      @kbanghart 11 днів тому

      Who will take the house?

    • @theresa5158
      @theresa5158 11 днів тому +1

      @@kbanghart Medicaid reimbursement lien
      A Medicaid lien on a home must eventually be satisfied. Typically, a Medicaid lien is placed on real property when an individual is receiving benefits through the Medicaid program during his or her lifetime and still owns a primary residence. Even when the home is exempt, it can become subject to a lien when the Medicaid recipient passes away.

  • @nightreader1264
    @nightreader1264 26 днів тому +11

    Property taxes are brutal in Texas!

    • @llcross04
      @llcross04 14 днів тому

      Yep, I deal with it every year!

  • @Whiskerman
    @Whiskerman 27 днів тому +72

    People need to work on their self worth and insecurities. Buying these house when you know you can’t afford is solely because they have bruised ego and insecurity.

    • @colbyallen5750
      @colbyallen5750 27 днів тому +3

      Also “family” so it “will just work out.” As someone who did a hard money deal on a house with parents that fell through, it doesn’t always work.

    • @garykeith1048
      @garykeith1048 25 днів тому

      The guy is not even close to buying the house. He needs to get his vocabulary and thought processes in line with reality. He seems to be totally clueless about real estate and financing a home purchase. He needs to disengage from his parents, act like a grown man, and buy a house from an outsider. This nonsense of depending on the parents to purchase a home needs to go.

  • @SteveC484
    @SteveC484 27 днів тому +22

    “We outgrew that house” 🤣

    • @PInk77W1
      @PInk77W1 27 днів тому +15

      Me grew up in a 1200sq ft home
      With 2 parents and 8 kids

    • @debruntz4196
      @debruntz4196 23 дні тому +5

      We moved into a house just under 1000 sq ft with six kids, my mom and dad, and my grandparents. And then my youngest brother was born.

    • @choicemeatrandy6572
      @choicemeatrandy6572 21 день тому

      1st world problems

    • @kbanghart
      @kbanghart 11 днів тому

      ​@@debruntz4196I'm sorry

    • @kbanghart
      @kbanghart 11 днів тому

      ​@@choicemeatrandy6572 not sure that fits. How many single family homes in America have so many people residing?

  • @Poooridge123
    @Poooridge123 27 днів тому +21

    Bro said he made 75k a year and his take home is 72k? The IRS has questions

    • @BearsRule777
      @BearsRule777 26 днів тому +4

      I'm confused as well. The caller has no idea what "take home" pay is.

    • @justinschexnayder8485
      @justinschexnayder8485 8 днів тому

      Prob just paying state tax

    • @eguevara4803
      @eguevara4803 6 днів тому

      @@justinschexnayder8485Texas has no State tax

  • @robertthompson5908
    @robertthompson5908 27 днів тому +7

    1) should have gotten out of debt before trying to upgrade their house. 2) shouldn’t have tried to buy a house they couldn’t afford 3) shouldn’t have gotten into a deal with their relatives.

  • @matthewmchenry9331
    @matthewmchenry9331 17 днів тому +3

    Missed opportunity to find out how many cars these people dont own.

  • @JhamEntertainment
    @JhamEntertainment 27 днів тому +21

    People are in such a frenzy to buy a house, they will do anything to technically “own” one right now.

    • @TimGreen-co3vp
      @TimGreen-co3vp 26 днів тому +2

      and truthfully, you never own it until it is paid off. Just like your fancy car, motorcycle, boat, etc.

    • @FreeAgent797
      @FreeAgent797 26 днів тому +5

      Even if its paid off, you never truly own it. You still have to pay property taxes, or they'll rip that property right from under you.

    • @garykeith1048
      @garykeith1048 25 днів тому +1

      You either own it with the deed in your name or you don't. Basic real estate 101.

    • @TimGreen-co3vp
      @TimGreen-co3vp 24 дні тому

      @@FreeAgent797 Well that is true. However, I think it is easier to pay taxes when you do not owe any money on it.

  • @DudeDude491
    @DudeDude491 27 днів тому +63

    John would have asked if the callers Parents are safe

    • @Times397
      @Times397 27 днів тому +4

      💯

    • @Steve-lk1eb
      @Steve-lk1eb 27 днів тому +5

      Lmao

    • @bryandelcid4065
      @bryandelcid4065 27 днів тому +11

      “Dude, I know ya’ll made a mess out of this but are your parents safe right now?”

    • @DudeDude491
      @DudeDude491 27 днів тому

      @@bryandelcid4065 Lol

    • @Times397
      @Times397 27 днів тому

      @@bryandelcid4065 “it’s important you get them in touch with a good pastor, uncle, cousin, or a true friend who can walk with them through this…”

  • @Shun_Lovette
    @Shun_Lovette 27 днів тому +2

    USDA offers $0 down payment mortgages. There’s also programs to help w/ down payment assistance. Find a builder who pays closing costs as well.

  • @garys.1415
    @garys.1415 26 днів тому +3

    Correct me if I’m wrong but the original loan was for 300k+. The parents are locked in at whatever that payment is. So, the mortgage payment could be $2k and the majority of it is going to equity on the $90k remaining.

  • @kendrapratt2098
    @kendrapratt2098 27 днів тому +50

    Dude can’t even explain what kinda situation they have going on here 😆 1:46 Dave’s face cracked me up 😆

    • @TheSecondWitness
      @TheSecondWitness 27 днів тому +2

      Exactly. It's like pulling teeth getting information out of this guy. He just babbles on and on, is super unclear, and I don't think he even knows what he's saying.

    • @robertjetski8736
      @robertjetski8736 26 днів тому +2

      What about 3:15 when Dave learns how much savings they got?😣

    • @garykeith1048
      @garykeith1048 25 днів тому

      @@TheSecondWitness I feel sorry for his wife marrying this jerk.

  • @Lon1001
    @Lon1001 26 днів тому +3

    It's not necessarily a bad deal for any of the parties involved, it's just that the paperwork is totally lacking and jeopardizes the caller's financial future. Probably should have used lawyers to structure the transfer of ownership and payments to satisfy all the interests on this property.

  • @user-ob1oi7kn2w
    @user-ob1oi7kn2w 27 днів тому +5

    Git on da rice n beans yall 😮

  • @marcenelj
    @marcenelj 27 днів тому +42

    $2k mortgage payment on a $6k monthly take-home pay income is not bad at all these days.. what in the world is Dave thinking? Is he aware of what's been going on in the housing market lately?

    • @joesmith3590
      @joesmith3590 27 днів тому +3

      The thing is it may be tough at first but the kids can go to school and the wife can then work. Now you can afford it. If they wait until the kids are grown they are unlikely able to afford it. They can pick up 1-2k extra work until the kids are grown also.

    • @aorg9793
      @aorg9793 27 днів тому +6

      The average USA single detached home is $397K. Using Ramsey's 25% over 15 years rule, a household would need to be grossing at least $130K a year for the average single detached home. The percentile for those USA households making at least $130K a year is the 75th percentile.
      So, according to Ramsey logic, only a quarter of US households can afford the average house.

    • @Tashas_Travels
      @Tashas_Travels 27 днів тому +3

      Not when you have 2 kids who need food, clothes, shoes that get smaller every few months and every year and a wife who doesn't work.

    • @dobia4486
      @dobia4486 27 днів тому +8

      They're fine, it doesn't cost $4k a month to feed 3 people when you don't have to pay a babysitter

    • @marcenelj
      @marcenelj 27 днів тому +1

      @Tashas_Travels the wife who doesn't is maybe a plus.. Day care cost is averaging 2k a month.. unless the wife can go to work and net 4k a month.. enough to cover daycare and some leftover.

  • @GAFB1122
    @GAFB1122 27 днів тому +21

    Rule of thumb... if you cannot easily explain it to a layman then stop what your doing, take a step back and consider other options. The more complicated and creative it is tells me you most likely can't afford it anyway.

    • @getinthespace7715
      @getinthespace7715 27 днів тому +1

      Exactly. If the deal takes more than 10 seconds to explain something is wrong. Step back, turn around, walk away.

    • @kennedyjefferson
      @kennedyjefferson 27 днів тому +1

      Thats an excellent rule of thumb. I'm gonna use that. Thanks!

    • @mike112079
      @mike112079 27 днів тому +2

      Haha Awesome!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾. Most of it is them trying to word/phrase it better so it doesn’t sound dumb!

    • @PoyTroy
      @PoyTroy 26 днів тому

      I like this, if you can explain it to a 4yr old in 5 seconds. Then it’s not so simple

  • @evans4751
    @evans4751 22 дні тому +2

    Renting a property would be cheaper for this couple.

  • @Coffee4commonsense
    @Coffee4commonsense 23 дні тому +2

    I’m wondering if the parents have a reverse mortgage on this house and didn’t bother telling their daughter and son-in-law this.

  • @codyp8728
    @codyp8728 10 днів тому

    The mortgage payment is based off the original loan amount. 90k left from whatever the OG loan was.

  • @victorkreitner754
    @victorkreitner754 27 днів тому +1

    The look on Ramseys face at 3:15 said it all. If it's too good to be true, especially within the family it usually is. I'd rather be dirt poor than doing financial business with family members. It always ends up slapping you in the face, and creates a friction within relations. Learn to handles your own stuff and keep family out of your affairs.

  • @bryandelcid4065
    @bryandelcid4065 27 днів тому +62

    Parents taking advantage of the housing situation and decided to make profit off their kid. Sad. He should’ve stuck with his previous house and said “no thank you, go hustle someone else.”

    • @UsernameUnkwn21
      @UsernameUnkwn21 27 днів тому +9

      Just bc he is their kid they should take a bath and have nothing to retire on?? He said he needed a bigger home , they are selling him their bigger home below market, he could have stayed in his little house and built on

    • @SpicyKimchi-
      @SpicyKimchi- 27 днів тому +2

      I actually think asked his parents to do that since he said his family outgrew the old house and didn’t have enough money for a bigger one, so they sold it to him below market value.

    • @jimroscovius
      @jimroscovius 27 днів тому

      ​@@UsernameUnkwn21No, they aren't selling it to him. If they were, his name would be on the mortgage. They're just renting it to him. Bad deal all around.

  • @rudolphteperberry3888
    @rudolphteperberry3888 24 дні тому +2

    Just "rent" from the parents until the mortgage is paid off then they "give" it to you and you give them asking price minus £90k in monthly installments. Verbal agreement!

  • @littlevuggey7821
    @littlevuggey7821 24 дні тому +2

    6 jobs? I am working 3 jobs and barely have any sleep, life, or cook. And I'm struggling like heck.

  • @JustinCase780
    @JustinCase780 27 днів тому +41

    Caller: Need your advice.
    Show: You're an idiot that has screwed up everything.
    Audiance: Yeaa!...I feel better about me!!!

    • @cesaravegah3787
      @cesaravegah3787 27 днів тому +1

      Well, yes, the callers however get valuable advice and sometimes they actually start the process of improving their lives so Is not entirely a "Jerry Springfield" kind of show.

    • @wittenberg5
      @wittenberg5 27 днів тому +3

      LOL! That's the gig in a nutshell!

  • @raymondmadowo9424
    @raymondmadowo9424 27 днів тому +4

    Hi Dave. I discovered your channel a few days ago, and boy, have I been helped. The five-step process just opened my eyes. I'm from Nairobi Kenya. I need your every dollar app, but it's not available here. How can I access it coz I really need to straighten out my debt situation. Many thanks for the great work that you and your team are doing.

  • @steve2474
    @steve2474 16 днів тому

    Dave's expression at 3:15 says it all.

  • @JasonGroom
    @JasonGroom 26 днів тому

    It's a $2000 payment because the payment is based on the price they bought it for, not what is left to pay. It was probably a 250,000 dollar mortgage.

  • @0_1_2
    @0_1_2 27 днів тому +6

    Thumbs up if you only watch videos with Dave in them and not the other clowns.

    • @TdcThompson
      @TdcThompson 27 днів тому +2

      Relax

    • @Kaktus965
      @Kaktus965 27 днів тому +2

      @@TdcThompson Nope, he’s right

    • @Neoquaker1
      @Neoquaker1 27 днів тому +1

      I like Ken Coleman. His daughter Rachel is ok but it's obvious nepotism.

    • @Kaktus965
      @Kaktus965 27 днів тому

      @@Neoquaker1 She hot tho

    • @thinkforyourself9334
      @thinkforyourself9334 27 днів тому

      ​@@Kaktus965 No she's not.

  • @jenniferlaughlin9600
    @jenniferlaughlin9600 23 дні тому +1

    Mom and Dad can give a gift of equity which will cover the Down Payment and closing costs.

  • @gayle2276
    @gayle2276 27 днів тому +1

    They're making payments on a $300,000 plus house. Parents owe just $90,000 and probably just paid approximately $150,000 plus for the house. Parents could rent it to them, still make a profit and they'd be paying a comfortable amount for rent.

  • @sjaykay9884
    @sjaykay9884 27 днів тому +18

    $72,000 a year and the wife stays at home? He doesn’t make enough for that lifestyle. Let’s start there. So no wonder they were able to be tricked into taking that mortgage on. They already live in delusion

    • @eriks442
      @eriks442 26 днів тому +8

      That's about my salary. My wife stays home with my two boys in So California. $360K mortgage, no car payments, paying down debt, high cost of living and we live quite comfortably. It's all about management.

    • @eriks442
      @eriks442 26 днів тому +9

      ​@@sarahjaynescott545 I didn't force the stay-at-home life on her either. We planned it together long before kids came. That doesn't work for everyone but for us, we feel it's best for our kids. I didn't want my children being raised at a day-care center. With budgets, please don't simply blame the man. It's not a husbands job to do alone. Both partners need to be involved regardless of who the breadwinner is. If the wife isn't an active participant in managing finances then she can't blame the husband when thing go bad.

    • @reviewsbygen5591
      @reviewsbygen5591 26 днів тому +9

      We live off $70k as a family of 6 and I also am a sahm. It makes no financial sense for me to work when daycare is $1000 more than what I would be making as a teacher. My husband makes $130k but we live off $70k of it. It’s definitely possible but people need to have their priorities right and don’t be afraid of making kids share a room. With me being home with the kids, it gives me time to meal plan, find free/cheap things to do on the weekend, cook daily, clean the home, budget for everything else, etc.

    • @cnh7262
      @cnh7262 24 дні тому

      @@eriks442is too! We make it work , well worth it.

    • @TheSonyExperience
      @TheSonyExperience 22 дні тому

      @@sarahjaynescott545whaaaaat

  • @dudeorduuude5211
    @dudeorduuude5211 26 днів тому +3

    They could have waited until they were out of debt. And yes, should have stayed in their house because they can afford it. Too late.

    • @Lil-Whiskies
      @Lil-Whiskies 23 дні тому +1

      I don't think they are the kind of people who will ever be out of debt.

  • @lorecarabailey935
    @lorecarabailey935 26 днів тому

    Yes

  • @Whiskerman
    @Whiskerman 27 днів тому +33

    With their income they can’t afford that mortgage. How is it hard to figure it out? It’s simple math

    • @scotttracy9333
      @scotttracy9333 27 днів тому +3

      They needed a bigger house and thought this would be a good way to clear their debt and get a house on the cheap, paying $2k a month while bringing in $6k a month
      Sounds good in theory doesn't it ?

    • @getinthespace7715
      @getinthespace7715 27 днів тому +4

      ​@scotttracy9333 , I think the parents talked them into this...
      The guy sounded like he just walked blindly into this "deal" the parents setup.
      My guess is they bought a new place and this one sat on the market and wouldn't sell, or they just figured it would be easier to offload it on the kids.

    • @scotttracy9333
      @scotttracy9333 27 днів тому

      @@getinthespace7715
      Yes. The bigger question is, where will the parents live ? If they continue living there, then the parents now have someone to pay their mortgage. That's a good deal for them

    • @adamseidel9780
      @adamseidel9780 27 днів тому +4

      They absolutely can afford the mortgage, this is very reasonable and a good deal

    • @jimmymcgill6778
      @jimmymcgill6778 27 днів тому +1

      Simple math, they can afford it. More then likely, it's the same payment as their old house.

  • @user-tt9cg2le1s
    @user-tt9cg2le1s 27 днів тому +14

    They should cut their losses and go rent something cheaper until they raise enough money for another mortgage. The parents can sell their home to someone else

  • @versiec
    @versiec 27 днів тому

    The parents can gift a portion of their equity to them to purchase the home and they can use that towards their down payment and closing costs
    It’s called “gift of equity”

  • @darthenx2585
    @darthenx2585 27 днів тому +2

    I mean he can just talk to his parents and renegotiate and tell them he just cant afford it. Try and come to a rental peuce agreement or else go rent a small apartment till your out of debt.

  • @daveavemian5940
    @daveavemian5940 27 днів тому +4

    Good ole dave ramsey giving nonsensical advice. 2k mortgage in todays market is very reasonable. Mortgages that are 25% of take home pay DON'T EXIST. Why won't someone call Dave out on this?

    • @stephaniem4565
      @stephaniem4565 27 днів тому

      This is so true

    • @romeoj30
      @romeoj30 26 днів тому

      Unfortunately, with Biden and congress spending and covid etc. the average is moving closer to 50% when you exclude family help, life insurance, gifts etc. So much salary is getting eaten up by just about everything else that is a monthly bill. These days it cost money just waking up.

  • @lisecarolina
    @lisecarolina 27 днів тому +2

    Parents should just pay off their mortgage and then provide a private mortgage to the son. So the son pays the parents but can have the house under his name. The problem with this scenario is that the parents are skipping the step of paying off their mortgage first.

    • @DoctorSmartyPants
      @DoctorSmartyPants 27 днів тому

      You're assuming parents have cash laying around to pay off the house.

  • @chadmcelhaney4006
    @chadmcelhaney4006 26 днів тому

    Sometimes direct family members are exceptions to due on sale depending on bank, why not suggest to call them and ask ?

  • @Bonsai-Miata2020
    @Bonsai-Miata2020 26 днів тому +2

    And we out grew our 2 year old SUV and we needed a full size new Suburban so while I watch the kids and wife can drive to yoga lol

  • @firegirljen
    @firegirljen 26 днів тому

    Actually, there are some loans that are no money down like a USDA loan

  • @iracohen3864
    @iracohen3864 23 дні тому

    The chances of getting approved to take on the old mortgage are nil. Pull out of the house, go rent a smaller home or apt for a couple of years, pay off your debt, then start building up a new down payment...and don't keep looking for a big house you can't afford...The old "growing out of a house" often means you saw a big house you liked and justified the expense that you really couldn't afford.
    But you were foolish to sell your old house considering your 60K debt...
    It's not hopeless, you just have to reimagine your dream of home ownership

  • @bkhoops9113
    @bkhoops9113 26 днів тому

    He can buy the property subject to the existing mortgage .

  • @robertjetski8736
    @robertjetski8736 26 днів тому +1

    Maybe they, the parents, could remorgage for a longer period?

  • @exceedinglyaverage1179
    @exceedinglyaverage1179 27 днів тому

    The best kind of Ramsey videos!

  • @jerryfarmer5989
    @jerryfarmer5989 6 днів тому

    Man oh man. They owe 6 figures and parents owe a 5 figure. Them making money and what a mess. I owe around $5,000.00 on credit cards and thought I had it bad.

  • @oshkoshbegone
    @oshkoshbegone 27 днів тому +2

    What the heck... it's not that bad. Parents should pay off the house and sign the title over to child with a vendor financing agreement. They don't need a down payment unless the parents want one. This is done all the time without realtors or banks. Typically just a real estate lawyer completes the agreement.

    • @alinatamashevich3354
      @alinatamashevich3354 27 днів тому

      When the parents OWN it, they can. There is a lien holder who owns it now

  • @drmumble5287
    @drmumble5287 27 днів тому

    How about negotiating with parents to put house in trust ? Sorry if this is stupid question

  • @catherinewilke5583
    @catherinewilke5583 27 днів тому +1

    I usually agree with DR but Jade is the voice of reason here. Yes it’s a mess. This caller should move out and rent an apartment. Let the parents pay their own house. Work the baby steps from an apartment. DR is trying to make them stay committed to the bad decision. I say reverse it. I made the mistake of buying the family home from my mom for market value. She said she would come back and help clean it out. News flash, she didn’t. I really couldn’t afford it, so I ended up selling at a loss and having to clean the home. Never gain. Mom laughed all the way to the bank.

    • @Kaktus965
      @Kaktus965 27 днів тому

      She was just nurturing you in her own way 😊

  • @Comeoffitman
    @Comeoffitman 6 днів тому

    I bought a house for 12,000 buckaroos in 1977 and sold it and bought a house for 24,000 in 1980 than built a garage with a apartment above it and moved my mom’s brother in and she said she shouldn’t have to make her brother replace the hot water heater because he’s family. What do you suggest?

  • @CJ2023Incognito
    @CJ2023Incognito 27 днів тому +4

    3:03 I heard the exactly what Dave initially heard about the 60 & 30k. Lol

  • @ericolens3
    @ericolens3 26 днів тому

    what even is wrong with renting from your parents?
    especially if you did i right.
    here's a few hypotheticals
    1) its your childhood family home
    a) your parents want to retire and downsize
    b) you're either the only heir OR want to buy your birthright from other siblings. (i mean you pay, you own)
    c) your folks need less overhead or an income stream
    idk, if you rent from them freeing up their money and when they eventually pass its your property anyways.
    only thing that I'd see as a problem from renting from a parent is taxes, but even then its called a step up in basis which would mean the property is NOT appreciated with capital gains taxes but rather the new owner/heir has the CURRENT appraisal value. (so that if you sold it, theres no Cap Gain Tax)

  • @brooklynzoo81
    @brooklynzoo81 26 днів тому +2

    When you're in a hole, you keep on digging! Grab a few credit cards and have another kid 😅

    • @BrianWaller-qe7gr
      @BrianWaller-qe7gr 25 днів тому

      Don’t forget to buy a bigger car for the growing family

  • @johndone8045
    @johndone8045 27 днів тому +14

    2k mortgage is not a lot AT ALL

    • @Nicolllld
      @Nicolllld 27 днів тому +3

      Depends on a lot of variables

    • @despairasite
      @despairasite 27 днів тому +6

      It is a lot when the household income is $72k. Mortgage payments taking 1/3 of income is not a good situation.

    • @aorg9793
      @aorg9793 27 днів тому +5

      Yeah, $2000 a month out of $6000 total a month is fine. Dave's 25% rule is oblivious to the actual world of property ownership.

    • @DatBoiLui
      @DatBoiLui 27 днів тому +4

      It's a lot for me, I'm in Houston and mine is $824 for a 2 bedroom 2 bathroom townhouse

    • @raymondmiller2538
      @raymondmiller2538 27 днів тому +2

      He has 2 kids and a wife 2 support so 2000 is a lot

  • @deborahmaehs7604
    @deborahmaehs7604 14 днів тому

    I could be wrong but based on his income, I don’t think he would qualify for a mortgage on a $300,000 house unless the wife got a job and they both get second jobs. Dave has made many valid points here, some I hadn’t even considered. I think Jade’s idea about renting is probably the only option for the short term until they can increase their income.

  • @WachoDude
    @WachoDude 22 дні тому

    Mortgage companies DO give 100% loans I can prove it I did one myself. So when Dave says they DONT and yet they do he’s wrong. Oh and before I get attacked I went with a credit union and there’s no PMI.

  • @arh1234
    @arh1234 27 днів тому +2

    Jade - looking fabulous today! Kudos on the styling
    Also of course I appreciate your insights😁

  • @26Bluegb
    @26Bluegb 21 день тому

    So he is paying off their house plus some (because the mortgage is below assessed) and he and his family have nothing. Always talk to a real estate lawyer!

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    @Jennifer-oy4ws 27 днів тому +6

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      @Lizamariagriffin 27 днів тому

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      @NoelazEsteban 27 днів тому

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      @lorijackson1467 27 днів тому

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  • @s5101984
    @s5101984 14 днів тому

    If he had the money he could "outgrow" the house anytime he wants but he DOESN'T!

  • @marys.fanara8078
    @marys.fanara8078 27 днів тому +1

    His parents did that to him. Be hard on them!

  • @r.rodriguez4991
    @r.rodriguez4991 26 днів тому

    If the house is worth more than they're asking which is more than the balance why wouldn't the mortgage company approve a zero down loan against a house that is significantly more valuable than the loan amount?
    That way he gets the money to pay his parents, they get their payout and can pay off the balance, and he gets the house with his own mortgage and the bank gets a great deal on the house if everything goes belly up.

  • @laserwizard2
    @laserwizard2 21 день тому

    Dave doss not mince words. He deals in Realville

  • @mrskitty7929
    @mrskitty7929 27 днів тому +1

    Parents can add him to title with a deed of gift

  • @chriswander3537
    @chriswander3537 25 днів тому

    Wrong. He can did an assumption since he is a blood relative with the mortgage company and essentially take over the existing loan same rate/same term length.
    He would still have to qualify but no DP required. Great opportunity especially if the parents have a low interest rate. Probably have to take out a personal loan or continued payment plan to your parents.

  • @buffett1000
    @buffett1000 27 днів тому +1

    Just buy a tent and save.

  • @crowtservo
    @crowtservo 27 днів тому +6

    I’m 1 minute in, yeah what a mess.

  • @bowilliams8403
    @bowilliams8403 18 днів тому

    Meanwhile I’m paying 2K for a 1 bedroom apartment 🙃

  • @FortuneSeek3rz
    @FortuneSeek3rz 27 днів тому +14

    They have nowhere to go to pay off the 30k. Wife doesn't work, two kids, energy bill just went up trying to heat and cool the bigger home. Dude needs a raise very soon.

    • @andidede3653
      @andidede3653 27 днів тому

      He needs a wake up to reality moment before a raise.

  • @Jaybird-be1tt
    @Jaybird-be1tt 27 днів тому +10

    If you can't afford to gift your children a home. I say don't sale it to them. Looks like wife needs to get an online job.

  • @zacharyfair6738
    @zacharyfair6738 26 днів тому +1

    Am I the only one going to comment about how hot she looks with that hair?????????????

  • @3rddegreeburns494
    @3rddegreeburns494 13 днів тому

    Everyone is missing the point. He got to post all those pictures on Facebook, showing his new big house & how he's living the dream. That's worth going into bankruptcy...right? SMH.

  • @shayna8324
    @shayna8324 27 днів тому

    30% of income on housing isn’t a big deal…it’s actually pretty good…and you can definitely cut out the mortgage company by paying it off but that’s totally reliant on the parents for sure

    • @autumnjerene
      @autumnjerene 27 днів тому

      It is when you still have $30k in other debt.

    • @shayna8324
      @shayna8324 26 днів тому

      @@autumnjerene Not even then...if they are diligent and pay off a little every paycheck they will pay it off...it just might not be soon

  • @jimmymcgill6778
    @jimmymcgill6778 27 днів тому

    What does paying 2k have to do with them owing 90k on the house?
    They did not sell it to them for 90k.

  • @Mr.Boring_Man
    @Mr.Boring_Man 27 днів тому +1

    What are the terms? They just gonna pay $2K until they get to the city assessment value of last year. That amount will continue to increase. I hope a contract was atleast signed. This was some sloppy work.

  • @dbdb4962
    @dbdb4962 27 днів тому +2

    Clearly dave had never heard of buying houses subto. It is done all the time w/o loans being called due, it just has to be structured the correct way. Dave needs to open up his realm of reality here. Either way his advice on this is useless. Go hurry and qualify for a mortgage that you couldn't afford...get the house in your name on a payment that you couldn't afford under your parents interest rate, at current interest rates good luck to this couple.

    • @alinatamashevich3354
      @alinatamashevich3354 27 днів тому

      Dave knows all about how that works. Try and get that past the lien holder.

    • @whosaidthat9265
      @whosaidthat9265 27 днів тому

      That is not what’s happening here. The caller was clear that he is paying his parents ‘rent to own’ meaning they are paying the parents based on an agreed upon amount. If he had a subject to SIGNED agreement, he would have specified that. He did not.

  • @evanwrenn402
    @evanwrenn402 27 днів тому +1

    I don’t understand what the plan is? How are they going to pay the parents for the house? Monthly after the mortgage is paid?

  • @lefromthecity
    @lefromthecity 27 днів тому +1

    Smh his take home after retirement savings and healthcare is 72k….even though he said he makes 75k? No way , thats not 6k a month at all.

    • @autumnjerene
      @autumnjerene 27 днів тому

      How do you figure that? $6k X 12 months = $72k

    • @nawson
      @nawson 25 днів тому

      I don't think he understood what the term, "take home pay," actually means. That, or, he sensed the badger coming after him and went into defense mode.

  • @joshw7415
    @joshw7415 26 днів тому

    0% chance he can afford a $340K mortgage or even a $268K mortgage on a $72k income. Not happening with today’s interest rates.

  • @wittenberg5
    @wittenberg5 27 днів тому +7

    3:15 Working for Dave would be tough. He interrupts constantly, wants to micromanage every call, doesn't train his people well and doesn't pay great either (these "personalities" are probably making around 100K).

    • @TMPS93
      @TMPS93 27 днів тому +8

      In what world is 100K not a lot? 🤣🤣🤣 I'd pay off all my debt by Christmas if I made that much!

    • @wittenberg5
      @wittenberg5 27 днів тому +2

      @@TMPS93 It puts you in about the 80th percentile of income earners, or top 20%. Not much for being one of the faces of a large company, and you could make substantially more in marketing or sales in most tech startups.

    • @thebeegood1731
      @thebeegood1731 27 днів тому +2

      @@wittenberg5They’re essentially Internet personalities and podcasters. The vast majority don’t clear six figures. Jade, George, John and Ken are great but the odds they’d be making 100K+ without that Ramsey decal in the background are not good.

    • @zachpierce641
      @zachpierce641 27 днів тому +1

      Have you read reviews online of what it’s like to work for him if you’re not one of the highly paid tv personalities? It sounds awful

    • @amireallythatgrumpy6508
      @amireallythatgrumpy6508 27 днів тому

      @@zachpierce641 Living in the USA sounds awful.

  • @tjr4459
    @tjr4459 22 дні тому

    The wife needs to find a job asap. That income is not for stay at home parenting!

  • @Trackpad12
    @Trackpad12 27 днів тому +1

    On crack!! Just make the 2K payment.

  • @queen.kristal8395
    @queen.kristal8395 27 днів тому +7

    Parents are ridiculous why didn’t they just gift him the house and transfer the mortgage ?if it’s only $90k he could have easily paid that off parents care more about money than the child .

    • @xsgtxbigboy1655
      @xsgtxbigboy1655 27 днів тому +4

      Ur one entitled person lmao lose 250k in equity? Not everyone has 5 mil to retire on they shouldn’t have to lose 250k

    • @queen.kristal8395
      @queen.kristal8395 27 днів тому

      @@xsgtxbigboy1655 well sell it to someone else then

    • @thomasdalton1508
      @thomasdalton1508 27 днів тому +1

      They care about money because they need money. They need a roof over their heads and food on their table, just like everyone else. I'm guessing this house is pretty much their only asset. They can't just give it away.

    • @queen.kristal8395
      @queen.kristal8395 27 днів тому

      @@thomasdalton1508 well just sell it to someone else then don’t screw your son over

    • @thomasdalton1508
      @thomasdalton1508 27 днів тому

      @@queen.kristal8395 They're not screwing him over. They've sold the house to him at below market value and are providing him with financing with no down payment that he probably couldn't get from a bank. I don't know what interest they are charging, but $2,000 a month on a $340,000 suggests it isn't very high. And they'll probably be much more forgiving than the bank if he misses a payment. They are giving him a great deal. They just need to speak to a lawyer if they haven't already and get the title sorted out. They need to get a secondary charge over the property so no-one other than the bank that already has a charge can get it before them.

  • @ChrisBoulas
    @ChrisBoulas 27 днів тому

    They essentially bought the home under what's called Subject To or "Subto" for short. The deed to the home isn't tied to the mortgage. So the debt stays in the parents name but the son gets the deed. Contracts are typically written with a clause that protects the parents in that they can reclaim their asset if he defaults on his payments back to them.

  • @adamseidel9780
    @adamseidel9780 27 днів тому +1

    The only problem here is the lack of anything in writing, this is a very reasonable and beneficial mortgage size and setup