I think what people mean by sapiosexual is that personality is more overall important than looks. For instance I could see a guy and not feel anything, but then hear him talk and how he acts/moves his body and then have a crush. I think most people are like that, thankfully. I think these labels are trends and fashions, and they'll fade away but new ones will come, they are fun to use to spark debate, like we are doing now :)
Came here just for the fun part... stayed for the joy of having something else I can learn about... This terms and definitions are very specific for our species, part of what makes us a human tribe: the quest for meaning in our lives. Gracias Dan, divertido y excelente video
This felt like common sense to me for a long time, so learning that a lot of people base their identities on things that are not only external but also out of their control, at least for the most part, was quite a shock. To my mind, the one who should have the most control over who you are is you.
Male Sapiosexual ENFP here... And, it's pronounced: "Say-pee-oh-sexual" Think: "Homosapien." You wouldn't say: "Homo-'sap'-ien." 💪🏼😎 PS And I both agree (& can-firsthand-confirm) your "pain in the ass" hypothesis 🤣 PPS On a side (albeit somewhat/somehow related) note: I *love* the challenging of common cultural use of terms btw. I feel the same way about how the "mass" (mis)uses the term: "Anecdotal." Nowadays, that term is used as a tragicomically generic/pseudo intellectual way to discredit someone's experiences & opinions... I.E. as a covert straw man &/or red herring... And mostly because we aren't appealing to *their* own presupposed & totally out of context "authority." Hey, it works. On people who fail to do their own due diligence, that is 🤷🏽🙅🏽 This one's for the predators: 🖕🏽🤓
There is a lot of negativity and judgemental sentiment in this video. I don't think ENFPs need to be the caricature of a sparkley unicorn and yeaaah I will admit that sometimes we think we're special snowflakes... But this is a level of haterade and vitriol (and also weird subtext of unfounded views on gender norms) that feels weird to hear coming from anyone ... let alone a fellow ENFP who has made it their life mission to inspire people to grow. Sure sometimes that means tough love, but boy-oh-boy does this approach seem ineffective and off-putting. Where is the innate ability to make people feel seen, understood and unjudged? That talent is what makes our message more impactful and likely to effect real change. Kindness and warmth are not a sign of weakness they are a sign of trustworthiness. The people who use the term sapiosexual are not going to watch this and see the error of their ways. The people who don't are not going to think you seem enlightened for your opinion, they're going to see that you're attacking something that really isn't that onerous. Sincerely another ENFP who spends his life helping people self-actualize, make good healthy decisions and non-judgmentally meets people where they are to help them make important choices. In general though I love your videos and I'm excited to read more of your work but Just figured I'd share the feedback that this is extremely off-putting and would be embarrassing if seen by people who don't know much about ENFPs. POOR example of who we are and what we can do. 😞 You did mention that this is a video you are making for yourself and not for anyone else and that's your prerogative on your platform but I wonder if it was important to put up 🤷♂️
I think what people mean by sapiosexual is that personality is more overall important than looks. For instance I could see a guy and not feel anything, but then hear him talk and how he acts/moves his body and then have a crush. I think most people are like that, thankfully. I think these labels are trends and fashions, and they'll fade away but new ones will come, they are fun to use to spark debate, like we are doing now :)
Came here just for the fun part... stayed for the joy of having something else I can learn about...
This terms and definitions are very specific for our species, part of what makes us a human tribe: the quest for meaning in our lives.
Gracias Dan, divertido y excelente video
This felt like common sense to me for a long time, so learning that a lot of people base their identities on things that are not only external but also out of their control, at least for the most part, was quite a shock. To my mind, the one who should have the most control over who you are is you.
It's a really dangerous game people play!
Super interesting video. You made a lot of important points.
Glad you enjoyed it
Male Sapiosexual ENFP here...
And, it's pronounced:
"Say-pee-oh-sexual"
Think:
"Homosapien."
You wouldn't say:
"Homo-'sap'-ien."
💪🏼😎
PS
And I both agree (& can-firsthand-confirm) your "pain in the ass" hypothesis 🤣
PPS
On a side (albeit somewhat/somehow related) note:
I *love* the challenging of common cultural use of terms btw.
I feel the same way about how the "mass" (mis)uses the term:
"Anecdotal."
Nowadays, that term is used as a tragicomically generic/pseudo intellectual way to discredit someone's experiences & opinions...
I.E. as a covert straw man &/or red herring...
And mostly because we aren't appealing to *their* own presupposed & totally out of context "authority."
Hey, it works.
On people who fail to do their own due diligence, that is 🤷🏽🙅🏽
This one's for the predators:
🖕🏽🤓
Well that's embarrassing. Thank god I'm not trying to date any sapiosexuals who would be unimpressed
@@enfp
BAJAJAJAAA!
Amen, Brother, A_MEN!
💪🏼💜🙏🏼
When's the release?
Wait.
Wut.
I meant the book.
What did *you* think I meant?
wait.
huh?
🤣
Great as always😂
Thank you Dan!
My pleasure!
I love these life lessons though
He’s so smart. I find that soooo hot!
Wait, am I a……nah.
Hahaha
Why would I need to join a tribe in order to like the concept?
💦 promo sm
There is a lot of negativity and judgemental sentiment in this video. I don't think ENFPs need to be the caricature of a sparkley unicorn and yeaaah I will admit that sometimes we think we're special snowflakes... But this is a level of haterade and vitriol (and also weird subtext of unfounded views on gender norms) that feels weird to hear coming from anyone ... let alone a fellow ENFP who has made it their life mission to inspire people to grow.
Sure sometimes that means tough love, but boy-oh-boy does this approach seem ineffective and off-putting. Where is the innate ability to make people feel seen, understood and unjudged? That talent is what makes our message more impactful and likely to effect real change. Kindness and warmth are not a sign of weakness they are a sign of trustworthiness. The people who use the term sapiosexual are not going to watch this and see the error of their ways. The people who don't are not going to think you seem enlightened for your opinion, they're going to see that you're attacking something that really isn't that onerous.
Sincerely another ENFP who spends his life helping people self-actualize, make good healthy decisions and non-judgmentally meets people where they are to help them make important choices.
In general though I love your videos and I'm excited to read more of your work but Just figured I'd share the feedback that this is extremely off-putting and would be embarrassing if seen by people who don't know much about ENFPs. POOR example of who we are and what we can do. 😞
You did mention that this is a video you are making for yourself and not for anyone else and that's your prerogative on your platform but I wonder if it was important to put up 🤷♂️