My wife has suffered from Hallucinations and Delusions for several years. It started with the red and white fire hydrant down the road being the little girl with the white hat and concern that her parents are not taking care of her. She would say, "See that little girl down there? She is by herself all of the time. I wonder where her parents are. She is going to run out into the street and get hurt." Mailbox's became "those people!" Bushes became kids. She sees people in our house all of the time. Most recently she has been having night terrors. She wakes up in cold sweats screaming about the bad men trying to come and take her away. I'll ask about them and she says, "They are big and all I can see are their eyes. They laugh at me and tell me they want to take me away and hurt me. Why do these men want to hurt me? I didn't do anything to them. Make them go away, please!" She has had 4 or these episodes. As a spiritual person, these dreams scare the heck out of me. I envision something like the closing scenes of the movie "Ghost" in which the demons come and take away the villain. She constantly asks for her mother and father but has not yet said she sees them. She does see our deceased dog running around the house all of the time. She will whisper to me, "Who are those people sitting over there?" In the past, she has accused me of kidnapping her and wanting to hurt her. She had a meltdown at Church when she confused an elderly couple with her mother and father and wanted to go with them. When I tried to get her into our car, she started screaming that I was kidnapping her and, "Please call the police. Don't let him take me." That got the Priest and other onlookers involves who didn't know if she was telling the truth or not. We have not been to Church again in the past 3 years. We will be eating dinner and she will say, "Well thank you, but it's time for me to leave and go home now." It is quite concerning and most of all it is emotionally draining. You are spot on about 24x7 care. I retired earlier than planned to take care of my wife. Now her bed is in the living room and I sleep on the couch next to her with one arm across hers. She has had a stroke and a broken hip so I have bed alarms to alert me when she attempts to get up. She cannot do anything independently. She is not yet incontinent, but I suspect that is coming soon. I will admit, I don't always handle these situations properly. When I try to explain that I am her husband and I love her, she gets very defensive and says, "No that cannot be." I have since stopped trying to convince her I am her husband and just say, "My name is Tom and I take care of you. You are safe and I will make sure you are warm, fed, and clean. That's what I do, I'll be here for you. I care for you." Sometimes she doesn't believe me and other times she will say, "Ohh thank-you, but why do you do that for me?" We have been living with this disease for over 10 years and are pretty much homebound now. I can't take her anywhere for fear she will have a meltdown. If we even go for a short walk down the sidewalk and back, it results in a complete reset and she doesn't recognize her home which leads to anxiety and fear. I suspect we are nearing the end as she now sleeps most of the time. I cry in my closet every night and pray for Jesus to just take her home and make her well again. Alzheimer's is a horrible disease. As you said, it robs a person of everything. It has robbed me of my beautiful bride. We've been married for 51 years. The first 38 were glorious! The last 12 I have seen my wife disappear and turn into a shell of a person and it has been hell on earth. God bless all of the caregivers out there and people like you who try to make this disease a little more understandable.
Thank you so much for your advices i really appreciate what you are doing to help us carers...there are so many things we didn't know about this desease and we are still on the learning process as we experience such and such behaviors....where your advices are a great help...bless you
My Dad has dementia and five nights ago I found him trying to make a phone call on an old cell phone that wasn't even turned on. It was the middle of the night so I asked him why he wasn't in bed and he told me that he didn't know how to get to bed so I helped him do that. Lately, he has been more docile and last night he seemed almost like his old self and he asked me point blank if he was losing it so I told him point blank that he was. I told him everything and he surprised me. He told me that I should shoot him or maybe put him in an institution because it would be better for everyone, especially for his children though and it broke my heart. Then, surprisingly, he suggested that if he got like this again, I should keep track of how many times per day he asked me the same questions since I mentioned that that was one of the things he's been doing lately. I told him I didn't think that would help cause I had been doing that the first few days though without writing them down as he suggested. Last night he made me promise to write it down and show it to him if he does it again and if his future self complains about it I should remind him that he asked me to do it. But I wonder now if that's a good idea or not.
My sister has dementia😂 and isn’t willing to accept that fact. She hallucinates and talks to people only she can see! And she hates 😂me and family members who have helped keep her in a nice assisted living - we are older or work and feel we can’t deal with her. She is bossy and mean .- we’d like to die in peace when our time comes . She was a home health aid and suggested to many of her clients they needed to put their parent into an assisted living where they’d get better care - but she can’t see that with her! No one goes to see her anymore - she’s so hateful. And her texts to me are X rated ! She’s never talked like that before,.
My wife has suffered from Hallucinations and Delusions for several years. It started with the red and white fire hydrant down the road being the little girl with the white hat and concern that her parents are not taking care of her. She would say, "See that little girl down there? She is by herself all of the time. I wonder where her parents are. She is going to run out into the street and get hurt." Mailbox's became "those people!" Bushes became kids. She sees people in our house all of the time. Most recently she has been having night terrors. She wakes up in cold sweats screaming about the bad men trying to come and take her away. I'll ask about them and she says, "They are big and all I can see are their eyes. They laugh at me and tell me they want to take me away and hurt me. Why do these men want to hurt me? I didn't do anything to them. Make them go away, please!" She has had 4 or these episodes. As a spiritual person, these dreams scare the heck out of me. I envision something like the closing scenes of the movie "Ghost" in which the demons come and take away the villain. She constantly asks for her mother and father but has not yet said she sees them. She does see our deceased dog running around the house all of the time. She will whisper to me, "Who are those people sitting over there?" In the past, she has accused me of kidnapping her and wanting to hurt her. She had a meltdown at Church when she confused an elderly couple with her mother and father and wanted to go with them. When I tried to get her into our car, she started screaming that I was kidnapping her and, "Please call the police. Don't let him take me." That got the Priest and other onlookers involves who didn't know if she was telling the truth or not. We have not been to Church again in the past 3 years. We will be eating dinner and she will say, "Well thank you, but it's time for me to leave and go home now." It is quite concerning and most of all it is emotionally draining. You are spot on about 24x7 care. I retired earlier than planned to take care of my wife. Now her bed is in the living room and I sleep on the couch next to her with one arm across hers. She has had a stroke and a broken hip so I have bed alarms to alert me when she attempts to get up. She cannot do anything independently. She is not yet incontinent, but I suspect that is coming soon. I will admit, I don't always handle these situations properly. When I try to explain that I am her husband and I love her, she gets very defensive and says, "No that cannot be." I have since stopped trying to convince her I am her husband and just say, "My name is Tom and I take care of you. You are safe and I will make sure you are warm, fed, and clean. That's what I do, I'll be here for you. I care for you." Sometimes she doesn't believe me and other times she will say, "Ohh thank-you, but why do you do that for me?" We have been living with this disease for over 10 years and are pretty much homebound now. I can't take her anywhere for fear she will have a meltdown. If we even go for a short walk down the sidewalk and back, it results in a complete reset and she doesn't recognize her home which leads to anxiety and fear. I suspect we are nearing the end as she now sleeps most of the time. I cry in my closet every night and pray for Jesus to just take her home and make her well again. Alzheimer's is a horrible disease. As you said, it robs a person of everything. It has robbed me of my beautiful bride. We've been married for 51 years. The first 38 were glorious! The last 12 I have seen my wife disappear and turn into a shell of a person and it has been hell on earth. God bless all of the caregivers out there and people like you who try to make this disease a little more understandable.
I’m so sorry for what you are going through. I know all too well how hard it is. God bless you.
Thank you so much for your advices i really appreciate what you are doing to help us carers...there are so many things we didn't know about this desease and we are still on the learning process as we experience such and such behaviors....where your advices are a great help...bless you
My husband is in early stages of Alz. I appreciate all your advice
my wife as dementia should i give her b6 vitamin?
@@phillipbell3393 I don't give advice for meds or vitamins. Sorry. That's a question for the dr.
My Dad has dementia and five nights ago I found him trying to make a phone call on an old cell phone that wasn't even turned on. It was the middle of the night so I asked him why he wasn't in bed and he told me that he didn't know how to get to bed so I helped him do that. Lately, he has been more docile and last night he seemed almost like his old self and he asked me point blank if he was losing it so I told him point blank that he was. I told him everything and he surprised me. He told me that I should shoot him or maybe put him in an institution because it would be better for everyone, especially for his children though and it broke my heart. Then, surprisingly, he suggested that if he got like this again, I should keep track of how many times per day he asked me the same questions since I mentioned that that was one of the things he's been doing lately. I told him I didn't think that would help cause I had been doing that the first few days though without writing them down as he suggested. Last night he made me promise to write it down and show it to him if he does it again and if his future self complains about it I should remind him that he asked me to do it. But I wonder now if that's a good idea or not.
My sister has dementia😂 and isn’t willing to accept that fact. She hallucinates and talks to people only she can see! And she hates 😂me and family members who have helped keep her in a nice assisted living - we are older or work and feel we can’t deal with her. She is bossy and mean .- we’d like to die in peace when our time comes . She was a home health aid and suggested to many of her clients they needed to put their parent into an assisted living where they’d get better care - but she can’t see that with her! No one goes to see her anymore - she’s so hateful. And her texts to me are X rated ! She’s never talked like that before,.
@@sherrywoodard8562 that s all due to her brain damage
How would i know if the patient having hallucination if shes already not speaking