I'd say, based on observation, the guys who get the most girl are often the guys who care the least. Now by not caring I don't mean being apathetic or a psycho, but rather not caring in the sense that you're not bothered at all by the status of your dating life, and continue to have a good life and smile regardless of if you're with a girl or not. Applying this to your life is not only great for dating, but also best for your mental health and serenity.
@@scottverge938 put it this way, would you like to date a woman who desperately wants male validation? To the point of it being dead obvious? Ofcourse not, no matter how good she may looks, being extremely needy is an immediate turn off, since the dynamic of modern day relationships are based off of shared contribution. I personally would't want to risk my life being with someone who didn't have their shit together, so I can't fault women for being the same.
“Your repeated behaviors become obligations” is true 💯 I’ve learned that it’s a bad idea to do things for someone consistently unless they’re mature enough to make an effort to stay grateful for it. If they’re not able to do that, it can still work though- you just gotta do it inconsistently so they aren’t tempted to take it for granted. Fucked up but it’s the best I’ve managed to come up with 😂
So true brother, I just spent 10 months doing everything I could for someone. I did learn alot from it though, so I can't say I got nothing back but I found this channel after I had already adopted a positive outlook from it.
Ain’t that the truth. It’s just human psychology. Same rule applies for standing your ground and many other things in life. If you let people walk over you for too long, it’ll be expected of you to be walked over like it’s a normal thing. One day you’ll be done with it & when you stand up for yourself, then you’ll be the one in the wrong in their eyes.
@@seewhyaneyeseethe problem with that, is that’s a very people pleaser behavior. People pleasers rarely bring up behaviors that bother them, then they get resentful, add a story to the behavior, and then blow up (stand up for themselves). People pleasers think they are justified but the reality is that they are an adult, that wants adult relationships, but can’t communicate like an adult. If people do crap you don’t like, you should be kind enough to tell them before you start throwing a fit. And if they don’t care about your feelings or vulnerability then they aren’t worth being friends with.
Totally agree. The bar is really low. I live in a fairly prosperous midwestern state with great economy. I'm an older guy, but when I look around and see what younger wome have to choose from, it shocks me. Yes, I'm 6'3 and fit. But, the fact that I stand up straight, no tats, piercings, scraggly hillbilly fur, and I wear nice jeans and button down shirt should be no suprise that younger women notice. My fiance' is 15 years younger and does no social media. She is very traditional, speaks 4 languages, and studies art and history in her free time. So guess what. I'm taking her to these places now. Yes guys, they do exist. Don't give up. Women care about how you make them feel. Learn a 2nd language, or at least some key phrases. Learn guitar. Be passionate about something other than work and gaming.
This whole video was spot on, a long one like this and the other ones of you reacting to other videos are nice little treats from the usual style of content, but the usual style are pure quality as well. I couldn’t agree more when it comes to being cold to be a player, it becomes difficult and painful when having to let go of girls that you really like, or watching them leave and having to see them with another guy not to long after because the other guy decided to take them serious from the start. I have a girl right now who understands my “player” lifestyle and if it were up to her she would prefer it otherwise but she’s still with me regardless of the situation, and according to her she’s understanding of it “just as long as I don’t catch deep emotional feelings for the other girls.”
I totally disagree with momentum. The most difficult part is consistency. It's not that difficult to start, it's hard to stick to it, way more difficult. Of course it's easier to not move at all, but make the first step can be done just by motivation, while consistency is a matter of discipline.
masterclass here, thanks for your valuable insights. No BS reflection . Talks about self-overcoming and this seems like the natural order of things for the ones willing to go through the journey. A life philosophy I suppose.
The shame and pride thing you questioned comes back to hurt egos. The male brain finds confidence in finding results from effort. Dating is the only area of life where you HAVE to have your perspective on point to even BEGIN to see results. Male people pleasers are thrown away no matter how successful they are in other areas. So when they show up to your coaching calls struggling to receive advice, it's generally because they don't know how to regulate their shame in this area of life. Especially since they tend to be the "outsider" kid growing up who feels socially rejected.
Therapy is my best friend. I’m a naturally passionate person that turns into emotion. It helped when I was playing ball and it helps me for reaching goals but in a relationship, that passion is too much, it’s too intense. My therapist told me to start back working out again and get into something physical to release the valve or pressure in a sense. Controlling my emotion has to be exploded on those things I named, instead on individual that can’t meet my demands. I just lost a side chick because of my intense passion. I don’t know if she will come back or not but that’s the least of my problems. I know it will be tough to find another man as passionate as me in bed 😂. Overall, hit the gym, take up jujitsu and stop caring so much 🤷🏾♂️
Problem is, u can listen to all this stuff, truly understand it and still end up with no relationships or just get back to whatever brought u to this video and that's what happens to most, which then begs the question as to what is the point of even watching these type of videos
Knowledge. I mean you got a point, but think about it this way... How does a doctor become a doctor? Yeah theres a big aspect of actually dealing with patients, doing manual job in the lab or assiting a head doctor during training, but there's also a "books" aspect. You cannot be a proper doctor if you don't have the knowledge, you may have all the practical knowledge you want, but you are always gonna be missing that theorical edge to make a doctor into a great doctor. Same case here, the best way to get better at talking with women, getting and mantaining a relationship is well.. actually going out to do those things. But that doesnt the theorical aspect of things can be completely disregarded.
Typical dating pleb: works on game, style, dress, career, confidence, puts himself out there, watches 80 min video on 17 years of compiled wisdom. Gets occasional success or even no success. CHAD: “sup”. Girl = *omg hoooot yess yesss”
So you have this mindset and yet you still (presumably) chose to spend 80 minutes watching this vid and then went out of your way to leave a comment... just why?
The best way to maximize the results through cold approach is night game. Clubs, bars, festivals, concerts ... those places usually are full of hot women, giving you the oportunity to meet several hotties in a matter of a few hours. And as a bonus you can make new friends, increasing your social circle.
quality over quantity is absolutely true, I just met and dated with a very beautiful woman, and boy, I unlocked the powers in me I didn't even knew existed)))
I’ve had successes and rejections. Best thing I can say is use every rejection as motivation to keeps improving your looks, presentation, and personality. Basically, have the drive that if that same girl sees you or runs into you a year from now, the only person doing any rejecting will be you. It fuels me to keep wanting to get better. Keeping my purpose and destiny in mind helps a ton too
I found plenty of useful insights here, thank you. Why is the base mindset dating multiple women, rather than cultivating a serious, long term relationship? It seems to me like it perpetuates the disconnection and the issues meant to be addressed.
Attraction is not a choice. She likes you and will let you know, or she doesn’t. And if you’re dating and the attraction drops to a low enough level where she leaves, let her go. Move on. Even though it’s incredibly difficult. I had to learn this the hard way.
Hey, Danny I have a question. You talked about leveraging "social circle in a very strategic way" but didn't elaborate any further and what that means. Are you referring to places you frequent like gym,school,work,etc. Or are you talking about making friends with specific types of people that will enable you to more leads with women? Would love this clarification, I appreciate you and what you do, sir.
Well he said it here too. Women take on traits of the men they are with. If a man is just using girls for entertainment and stepping stones towards confidence, then a woman will be shaped due to that treatemen, usually in a negative manner.
@@ThePestilentDefiler I definitely did a bit of using women as stepping stones when I was young. I somewhat regret it but could I really help that I felt like I could do better as I dated better and better looking women?
@@scottverge938 yeah it is a pretty tricky dilema. I think that dating many women can be done in a positive manner. When a good man is still portraying his good values and is witnessed by them as a stand up guy it can possibly leave the women that he doesnt want to be with anymore with a check on reality, ideally leaving them with a time of introspection on what they could do better on. But i know there definitely isnt a lot of women that keep accountable to their own improvments. So maybe im talking out my ass, maybe thats the closest it can possibly get to a positive outcome for both parties to grow in this environment.
8:54 this… this is so important.. I lost a girl who doesn’t a shit about guys because her toxic friends polluted her mind because they have bad experiences with guys
Made that priority mistake with a good girl. And it’s so strange because I didn’t need her I was just trying to be a better person for her and I guess she saw it as I needed her
I've only had 2 girlfriends and they both have been for 8 years! My next girl will probably be longer ! Only bc I know how to make a lasting relationship, but now I know how to identify red flags alot faster and what to do! I never really learned the whole cold approach I remember being obsessed with learning the PUA stuff. I got a training and stuff but I never really got the chance to use it! And it's been like 15 years since I've learned it! Now I'm sticking to "coach corey Wayne's" advice! But I'm willing to learn
4:50 We convince ourselves that we are that way, we're not. We've been brainwashed from childhood and we grow up thinking we have to approach them and treat them like in a fairy tale. Guys that keep saying that don't realize they're not acting their true self. Most people are not aware they're not in control
"If you cannot lure a woman with who you are, you do not want that women". Well, you don't want to have her *now*. But it probably also a sign that you still have a lot of improvement to do.
Agree with most parts except for the biology part: survival and reproduction are fundamental human traits, not gender specific. Also, most men (in general) don't like confrontation, easier for me to say since I'm more introverted, but my observations have indicated that most people won't become confrontational unless it's a last resort to fend themselves or loved ones. And last, if a woman goes after a man for status, she likes his clout, not him.
Honestly my biggest issue is I just don't know how to generate more leads. I'm a very fit, well paid guys with a good social circle and I even cold approach in the moment but every girl in my community seems to be not single unless they're fat. I'm also Indian living in a very white and east Asian town in California so that also doesn't really help.....
They lie about having a boyfriend because you're Indian because lots of girls find Indians unattractive. I saw a video of a guy asking girls on the street what race would they never date and like 99% of them said Indian. It's really tough for you guys out there.
So, who has better advice the guy with 1 marriage and a small history of girlfriends? Or is this guy with 17 years dating experience? Also, are you looking for dating advice? Or marriage advice? Obtaining a girl is a different objective from keeping her. 2 different ball parks
@@alonsoalcantar7847 That would depend on your personal goals. I'd go to this guy for dating advice rather than marriage advice. But on the other hand a guy with a long marriage doesn't necessarily know everything about marriage either. I thought I did until my divorce after 26 years. Then I started learning a fuck ton about relationships, attraction and dating dynamics. Paradoxically I'd say the person to ask about marriage might be people that have had long marriages but also had those marriages fail. It's a case of, you don't know what you don't know.
One thing that I’ve learned over the years that nobody ever taught me was one simple phrase. How do you put out a fire? you smother it. If you apply this to your women, life will become very easy. You gotta think of a relationship as a fire and you have to feed it like a fire. If you wanna put it out throw something over top of it.
10 years I've been "single" since I ended my 18 year long marriage in 2014... I've dated everything for a 19 year old, to many women in their mid 20's, so several in their 30's and many in their 40's.. a handful in their 50's.. over 100... 5 of which were medium term relationships .... I ended most of them, bar one... What did I learn in all of this? Read the book "Evolution of Desire" by Dr. David M Buss, you'll know... wish I had read it 10 years ago, would have saved a lot of time, money and effort.
That's it work on your self to be successful and high quality man and the woman will be a by-product of that success, the mistake most males fall for nowadays is that they put all their energy and focus and energy on a certain woman and they get drained of their resources which are the time and energy that could have been invested to be better and successful as a man eventually they end up loosers due to tge lack of awareness and discernment...
It's almost like some sort of luck and when u are aligned with it u don't even have do much, I used to get all types of girls and I didn't know any of this shit these coaches be talking about
I really liked this. At first (in your 'Delusions' section) I thought it was gonna be the typical incel bullshit that attractiveness is physically and genetically pre-determined and that your personality/choices have little or no impact. But no, I ended up watching the whole thing and you clearly lay out how that's not the case.
Don’t hate the player hate the game…. This is straight facts based on biology and psychology, we need to adapt back to the way men used to be. Technology has made us weak good luck and God bless
i would love it if there were some real life examples attached to all the advises. now it seems to be very theoretical and interpretation is very difficult
1:02 most women, especially heavy make up users have faces that look worse than most mens faces when the woman has no make up on. So i definitely will judge a women on wearing make up because she dug herself a hole where he face looks blotchy and has a terrible complextion due to the poor choice of wearing make up. It becomes a charade they must upkeep now and i definitely dont want a girl who wears make up on a regular basis due to the time it wastes for the both of us. Also extends into fillers and surgery.
Is it possible to make an ambivalent women attracted to you by pursuing her and talking with her once per week ? Also, I think she is a wonderful person (really I do). Will. me being very into her make her more likely to become into me ? Or does she either fancy who I am or doesn`t ?
This was excellent - one advice I can give you is be more expressive with your voice and WAYYYY less monotonous.. You sound like an AI generated voice and for people who aren’t super interested in the subject like me can be very very hard to listen to over time
As a 45 year old GenX female. With 45 years of experience on the earth, one thing that wasn’t discussed that is really important to teach the younger generation is insulting, making fun of, or mocking the girl or teasing her or insulting her interests or clothing or makeup or looks or life decisions etc,, …..which young men love to do towards women in their face…..will NOT get you laid, the girls just might pull out their concealed carry weapon on you . I don’t recommend it? She most likely will try to crash her car into yours as you get in the car to get back at you. Beware if her favorite film genre is Westerns
The pimp game is ice in the veins. My oldest brother was a quarter pimp. Lol! We got along really well he was my favorite. Me and him were total opposites in many ways but we shared a lot of things in common. I am a Christian he was an atheist My personal story is touching one. I got him saved by prayer. So the trajectory of my life changed with the presence of Jesus Christ. I dealt with one lady at a time. It's been difficult to watch guys with so many women. I admire guys with multiple women for a moment then realize this doesn't fit my values. My personal experience with beautiful women isn't a good one I don't think they're worth the trouble they can cause. I prefer an average looking woman who can cook and clean. In addition to supporting me and be submissive.
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What is your Mic Stand in this video?
I'd say, based on observation, the guys who get the most girl are often the guys who care the least. Now by not caring I don't mean being apathetic or a psycho, but rather not caring in the sense that you're not bothered at all by the status of your dating life, and continue to have a good life and smile regardless of if you're with a girl or not.
Applying this to your life is not only great for dating, but also best for your mental health and serenity.
You're absolutely correct. Unfortunately that's extremely hard for some of us. But yeah the guys that don't care are exactly who most women want.
@@scottverge938 put it this way, would you like to date a woman who desperately wants male validation? To the point of it being dead obvious? Ofcourse not, no matter how good she may looks, being extremely needy is an immediate turn off, since the dynamic of modern day relationships are based off of shared contribution. I personally would't want to risk my life being with someone who didn't have their shit together, so I can't fault women for being the same.
“Your repeated behaviors become obligations” is true 💯
I’ve learned that it’s a bad idea to do things for someone consistently unless they’re mature enough to make an effort to stay grateful for it. If they’re not able to do that, it can still work though- you just gotta do it inconsistently so they aren’t tempted to take it for granted. Fucked up but it’s the best I’ve managed to come up with 😂
So true brother, I just spent 10 months doing everything I could for someone. I did learn alot from it though, so I can't say I got nothing back but I found this channel after I had already adopted a positive outlook from it.
Ain’t that the truth. It’s just human psychology.
Same rule applies for standing your ground and many other things in life. If you let people walk over you for too long, it’ll be expected of you to be walked over like it’s a normal thing.
One day you’ll be done with it & when you stand up for yourself, then you’ll be the one in the wrong in their eyes.
Good line
@@seewhyaneyeseethe problem with that, is that’s a very people pleaser behavior. People pleasers rarely bring up behaviors that bother them, then they get resentful, add a story to the behavior, and then blow up (stand up for themselves). People pleasers think they are justified but the reality is that they are an adult, that wants adult relationships, but can’t communicate like an adult. If people do crap you don’t like, you should be kind enough to tell them before you start throwing a fit. And if they don’t care about your feelings or vulnerability then they aren’t worth being friends with.
Can't find anything here I disagree with, aligns with everything I've learned about women. It's always helpful to give your conscious mind a refresher
Agree
I agree. This definitely reset my mind after bad break up
Danny, you're extremely skilled in summarizing concepts concisely. "Brevity is the soul of wit." Great job and thanks for your work.
One of the best videos out there on dating. Great way to summarize.
I can't believe there is video on UA-cam with quality THIS high. Thank you, Danny.
Nothing but pure gold in this video. Great stuff
Totally agree. The bar is really low. I live in a fairly prosperous midwestern state with great economy. I'm an older guy, but when I look around and see what younger wome have to choose from, it shocks me. Yes, I'm 6'3 and fit. But, the fact that I stand up straight, no tats, piercings, scraggly hillbilly fur, and I wear nice jeans and button down shirt should be no suprise that younger women notice. My fiance' is 15 years younger and does no social media. She is very traditional, speaks 4 languages, and studies art and history in her free time. So guess what. I'm taking her to these places now. Yes guys, they do exist. Don't give up.
Women care about how you make them feel. Learn a 2nd language, or at least some key phrases. Learn guitar. Be passionate about something other than work and gaming.
This whole video was spot on, a long one like this and the other ones of you reacting to other videos are nice little treats from the usual style of content, but the usual style are pure quality as well.
I couldn’t agree more when it comes to being cold to be a player, it becomes difficult and painful when having to let go of girls that you really like, or watching them leave and having to see them with another guy not to long after because the other guy decided to take them serious from the start. I have a girl right now who understands my “player” lifestyle and if it were up to her she would prefer it otherwise but she’s still with me regardless of the situation, and according to her she’s understanding of it “just as long as I don’t catch deep emotional feelings for the other girls.”
Easily one of the best I've ever heard. Classic and first class. Thank you.
I have watched about a quarter of this video and he is spot on with just about everything. His quality and communication in his videos are great.
Then we went back to PORNHUB.
This is one of the best dating advice videos. A lot of good information.
I totally disagree with momentum. The most difficult part is consistency. It's not that difficult to start, it's hard to stick to it, way more difficult. Of course it's easier to not move at all, but make the first step can be done just by motivation, while consistency is a matter of discipline.
Every sentence very well sad, very well put. Great job, thank you!
Real wealth of knowledge here. Excellent vid. Love your content bro 💯
Great video and lots of value, I hate how the internet exaggerates things and makes people lose hope sometimes.
masterclass here, thanks for your valuable insights. No BS reflection . Talks about self-overcoming and this seems like the natural order of things for the ones willing to go through the journey. A life philosophy I suppose.
First comment 😁 Mr. Vera I appriciate the content you put out, hope you're well. God bless bro
Some good stuff. Thanks.
The shame and pride thing you questioned comes back to hurt egos. The male brain finds confidence in finding results from effort. Dating is the only area of life where you HAVE to have your perspective on point to even BEGIN to see results. Male people pleasers are thrown away no matter how successful they are in other areas. So when they show up to your coaching calls struggling to receive advice, it's generally because they don't know how to regulate their shame in this area of life. Especially since they tend to be the "outsider" kid growing up who feels socially rejected.
Therapy is my best friend. I’m a naturally passionate person that turns into emotion. It helped when I was playing ball and it helps me for reaching goals but in a relationship, that passion is too much, it’s too intense. My therapist told me to start back working out again and get into something physical to release the valve or pressure in a sense. Controlling my emotion has to be exploded on those things I named, instead on individual that can’t meet my demands. I just lost a side chick because of my intense passion. I don’t know if she will come back or not but that’s the least of my problems. I know it will be tough to find another man as passionate as me in bed 😂. Overall, hit the gym, take up jujitsu and stop caring so much 🤷🏾♂️
Problem is, u can listen to all this stuff, truly understand it and still end up with no relationships or just get back to whatever brought u to this video and that's what happens to most, which then begs the question as to what is the point of even watching these type of videos
Knowledge. I mean you got a point, but think about it this way... How does a doctor become a doctor? Yeah theres a big aspect of actually dealing with patients, doing manual job in the lab or assiting a head doctor during training, but there's also a "books" aspect. You cannot be a proper doctor if you don't have the knowledge, you may have all the practical knowledge you want, but you are always gonna be missing that theorical edge to make a doctor into a great doctor.
Same case here, the best way to get better at talking with women, getting and mantaining a relationship is well.. actually going out to do those things. But that doesnt the theorical aspect of things can be completely disregarded.
To take action, nothing happens without it.
This video earned my sub. You are level headed and there is much common sense coming through.
Some of these guys don't know what it's like. You ARE judged for your height and I have 20 years experience.
Typical dating pleb: works on game, style, dress, career, confidence, puts himself out there, watches 80 min video on 17 years of compiled wisdom. Gets occasional success or even no success.
CHAD: “sup”. Girl = *omg hoooot yess yesss”
Just memorize an 80 minute video to get girls bro.
@@AIRJAC33 “youre so close bro, you just have to touch her upper thigh at a 63 degree angle vs a 65 degree angle bro”
So you have this mindset and yet you still (presumably) chose to spend 80 minutes watching this vid and then went out of your way to leave a comment... just why?
The best way to maximize the results through cold approach is night game. Clubs, bars, festivals, concerts ... those places usually are full of hot women, giving you the oportunity to meet several hotties in a matter of a few hours. And as a bonus you can make new friends, increasing your social circle.
Yeah..no doubt you'll meet quality women there lmao
@@deconstructingnarcissism3062 just try man.
quality over quantity is absolutely true, I just met and dated with a very beautiful woman, and boy, I unlocked the powers in me I didn't even knew existed)))
Fantastic and very true helpful video. God bless you Sir !
Ngl it’s kinda hard to stay motivated, when it’s just constant rejection
I’ve had successes and rejections. Best thing I can say is use every rejection as motivation to keeps improving your looks, presentation, and personality. Basically, have the drive that if that same girl sees you or runs into you a year from now, the only person doing any rejecting will be you. It fuels me to keep wanting to get better. Keeping my purpose and destiny in mind helps a ton too
This is gold. Wish I would’ve had this breakdown when I was 16.
1:13:27
24, here. Just lost my first love and relationship of almost 3 years. It’s hard.
Shit. Initially thought this was a death.
So glad it was just a breakup.
If she left you, you're better off not having her.
Bless up brother.
Legendary video, cheers Danny
I found plenty of useful insights here, thank you. Why is the base mindset dating multiple women, rather than cultivating a serious, long term relationship? It seems to me like it perpetuates the disconnection and the issues meant to be addressed.
Attraction is not a choice. She likes you and will let you know, or she doesn’t. And if you’re dating and the attraction drops to a low enough level where she leaves, let her go. Move on. Even though it’s incredibly difficult. I had to learn this the hard way.
Hey, Danny I have a question. You talked about leveraging "social circle in a very strategic way" but didn't elaborate any further and what that means. Are you referring to places you frequent like gym,school,work,etc. Or are you talking about making friends with specific types of people that will enable you to more leads with women? Would love this clarification, I appreciate you and what you do, sir.
I needed this
Being a player is detrimental on a lot of layers.
Even if I had the skills I just don't think I have it in me. I'm more of a relationship kinda guy. With an extra woman included occasionally LOL
Well he said it here too. Women take on traits of the men they are with. If a man is just using girls for entertainment and stepping stones towards confidence, then a woman will be shaped due to that treatemen, usually in a negative manner.
@@ThePestilentDefiler I definitely did a bit of using women as stepping stones when I was young. I somewhat regret it but could I really help that I felt like I could do better as I dated better and better looking women?
@@scottverge938 yeah it is a pretty tricky dilema. I think that dating many women can be done in a positive manner. When a good man is still portraying his good values and is witnessed by them as a stand up guy it can possibly leave the women that he doesnt want to be with anymore with a check on reality, ideally leaving them with a time of introspection on what they could do better on. But i know there definitely isnt a lot of women that keep accountable to their own improvments. So maybe im talking out my ass, maybe thats the closest it can possibly get to a positive outcome for both parties to grow in this environment.
Very interesting 👌 👍 🤔
8:54 this… this is so important.. I lost a girl who doesn’t a shit about guys because her toxic friends polluted her mind because they have bad experiences with guys
I can’t imagine the woman it would take to lock me down. she would have to truly be incredible.
Made that priority mistake with a good girl. And it’s so strange because I didn’t need her I was just trying to be a better person for her and I guess she saw it as I needed her
"The true test" is deep. Love that.
start a community
This video has bought the most awareness 😢 shit crazy appreciate you Danny ✊
This is great advice.
fantastic and easy to follow
this video is pure gold
This is a goldmine
Oh boi am I excited for this !!!!
Glad you brought these things up. I'm on the shorter side and I get dates. Plus every woman always insists they split the bill.
Danny have you ever thought about getting into Podcasts ? Think this format would work well as one !
This dude made a true gem of a video
I unintentionally short term date. My 1 month free trial ends and I can’t buy the subscription
I've only had 2 girlfriends and they both have been for 8 years! My next girl will probably be longer ! Only bc I know how to make a lasting relationship, but now I know how to identify red flags alot faster and what to do!
I never really learned the whole cold approach I remember being obsessed with learning the PUA stuff. I got a training and stuff but I never really got the chance to use it! And it's been like 15 years since I've learned it! Now I'm sticking to "coach corey Wayne's" advice! But I'm willing to learn
4:50 We convince ourselves that we are that way, we're not. We've been brainwashed from childhood and we grow up thinking we have to approach them and treat them like in a fairy tale. Guys that keep saying that don't realize they're not acting their true self. Most people are not aware they're not in control
"If you cannot lure a woman with who you are, you do not want that women". Well, you don't want to have her *now*. But it probably also a sign that you still have a lot of improvement to do.
very good video well done.
Agree with most parts except for the biology part: survival and reproduction are fundamental human traits, not gender specific. Also, most men (in general) don't like confrontation, easier for me to say since I'm more introverted, but my observations have indicated that most people won't become confrontational unless it's a last resort to fend themselves or loved ones. And last, if a woman goes after a man for status, she likes his clout, not him.
this is just life changing,
Great video, agreed on every point
How/ where to learn strategy/game/ conversation?
Honestly my biggest issue is I just don't know how to generate more leads. I'm a very fit, well paid guys with a good social circle and I even cold approach in the moment but every girl in my community seems to be not single unless they're fat. I'm also Indian living in a very white and east Asian town in California so that also doesn't really help.....
They lie about having a boyfriend because you're Indian because lots of girls find Indians unattractive. I saw a video of a guy asking girls on the street what race would they never date and like 99% of them said Indian. It's really tough for you guys out there.
I’m convinced no woman is ever single today, majority have 2-3 dudes on speed dial whenever. It’s kinda insane
im sure many south asians are available
If you have 17 years of experience and you're single, double the advice and pass it to the next person because it can't be any good lmao
Have considered that he chooses to be single?
Nah
So, who has better advice the guy with 1 marriage and a small history of girlfriends? Or is this guy with 17 years dating experience? Also, are you looking for dating advice? Or marriage advice? Obtaining a girl is a different objective from keeping her. 2 different ball parks
@@alonsoalcantar7847 That would depend on your personal goals. I'd go to this guy for dating advice rather than marriage advice.
But on the other hand a guy with a long marriage doesn't necessarily know everything about marriage either. I thought I did until my divorce after 26 years. Then I started learning a fuck ton about relationships, attraction and dating dynamics. Paradoxically I'd say the person to ask about marriage might be people that have had long marriages but also had those marriages fail.
It's a case of, you don't know what you don't know.
Yes anybody single has 0 experience to share..
Ordinary ppl never breakup, they stay together forever, and only they have wisdom to share. Dumbass...
Trying to impress women.. it's always a mistake.. just be yourself
Do you have a video on perspective/people pleasing around 23:50
Great video
nothing but facts fellas. bring the ruckus
The height thing isn’t true at all. I’m 5’8” and a 6’3” girl was choosing
Speaking as a girl, that’s only true if she’s looking for the superficial things
Yeah bro. Make a Video on Breakups.
Nice Video
One thing that I’ve learned over the years that nobody ever taught me was one simple phrase. How do you put out a fire? you smother it. If you apply this to your women, life will become very easy. You gotta think of a relationship as a fire and you have to feed it like a fire. If you wanna put it out throw something over top of it.
Straight up gold
Can you please thoroughly explain what it means for someone to "live through you vicariously".
My man, I agree with what you’re saying, but how am I supposed to remember all this
The only reason why I need a one on one after this is for emotional support :D
10 years I've been "single" since I ended my 18 year long marriage in 2014... I've dated everything for a 19 year old, to many women in their mid 20's, so several in their 30's and many in their 40's.. a handful in their 50's.. over 100... 5 of which were medium term relationships .... I ended most of them, bar one... What did I learn in all of this? Read the book "Evolution of Desire" by Dr. David M Buss, you'll know... wish I had read it 10 years ago, would have saved a lot of time, money and effort.
I dont really care now tbh its too much work and for what? Im just going to focus on me and if it happens it happens
100% Working ten times as hard as our ancestors for a high mileage car
That's it work on your self to be successful and high quality man and the woman will be a by-product of that success, the mistake most males fall for nowadays is that they put all their energy and focus and energy on a certain woman and they get drained of their resources which are the time and energy that could have been invested to be better and successful as a man eventually they end up loosers due to tge lack of awareness and discernment...
I understand
It's almost like some sort of luck and when u are aligned with it u don't even have do much, I used to get all types of girls and I didn't know any of this shit these coaches be talking about
Horrible mindset trust me. I did that and ended up being a 35 year old virgin
I really liked this. At first (in your 'Delusions' section) I thought it was gonna be the typical incel bullshit that attractiveness is physically and genetically pre-determined and that your personality/choices have little or no impact. But no, I ended up watching the whole thing and you clearly lay out how that's not the case.
gold.
great video
Thank you Ryan Gosling. 😂
Don’t hate the player hate the game…. This is straight facts based on biology and psychology, we need to adapt back to the way men used to be. Technology has made us weak good luck and God bless
55 is a blessing because I seem to be entering the seriously not even wanting to date era….
Peaceful
I'm 34 and have already reached that point lol
I hear ya bro, I'm in it for keeps.
goated 🔥
Sound advice.
i would love it if there were some real life examples attached to all the advises. now it seems to be very theoretical and interpretation is very difficult
that thumbnail looks 1:1 like those of alex hormozi lmao
1:02 most women, especially heavy make up users have faces that look worse than most mens faces when the woman has no make up on. So i definitely will judge a women on wearing make up because she dug herself a hole where he face looks blotchy and has a terrible complextion due to the poor choice of wearing make up. It becomes a charade they must upkeep now and i definitely dont want a girl who wears make up on a regular basis due to the time it wastes for the both of us. Also extends into fillers and surgery.
22:50 🤌🏾
Thanks for the honest plug for type A women, coming from a type A woman, you nailed it!
Is it possible to make an ambivalent women attracted to you by pursuing her and talking with her once per week ?
Also, I think she is a wonderful person (really I do). Will. me being very into her make her more likely to become into me ? Or does she either fancy who I am or doesn`t ?
save yourself the time and tell her upfront first. she wont apppreciate anything you do for her if you dont let your intention be clear
Nice hat brother
Being positive doesn't mean circling the wagons around your own delusions.
This was excellent - one advice I can give you is be more expressive with your voice and WAYYYY less monotonous.. You sound like an AI generated voice and for people who aren’t super interested in the subject like me can be very very hard to listen to over time
58:52 any tips on how to transition the girl from the aggressive teasing style to submissive?
As a 45 year old GenX female. With 45 years of experience on the earth, one thing that wasn’t discussed that is really important to teach the younger generation is insulting, making fun of, or mocking the girl or teasing her or insulting her interests or clothing or makeup or looks or life decisions etc,, …..which young men love to do towards women in their face…..will NOT get you laid, the girls just might pull out their concealed carry weapon on you . I don’t recommend it? She most likely will try to crash her car into yours as you get in the car to get back at you. Beware if her favorite film genre is Westerns
You're obviously bitter towards men coming in with a comment like that...
And you are not an immature one. One misunderstanding and decent guys get verbal aggression.
The pimp game is ice in the veins. My oldest brother was a quarter pimp. Lol! We got along really well he was my favorite. Me and him were total opposites in many ways but we shared a lot of things in common. I am a Christian he was an atheist My personal story is touching one. I got him saved by prayer. So the trajectory of my life changed with the presence of Jesus Christ. I dealt with one lady at a time. It's been difficult to watch guys with so many women. I admire guys with multiple women for a moment then realize this doesn't fit my values. My personal experience with beautiful women isn't a good one I don't think they're worth the trouble they can cause. I prefer an average looking woman who can cook and clean. In addition to supporting me and be submissive.
1:03:45
80s minutes damn!
15 minutes in and it's all on point.
It’s hard to tell who’s advice to follow because there’s no objective success metric