I was made to be an archivist. I learnt today that I'm going to have to retake my second year of university due to mental health issues. Now I have to plan out what I'm doing with the next few months, and keep up the fight for treatment that I've been trying to do since September. I've had to intermit uni for anorexia, and now for depression, but I will get there! 'Do what you think you can't do' has become my mantra, thank you for being there Frey Life x
I would love to see a day in the life of Oliver. I love seeing how he works/helps you. I've seen him get your meds, alert you when your blood sugar is down and carry the laundry basic. He is so special.
I was made to be my son's mother. Not just a mother but specifically my son's mother. His creation was very unexpected, I thought I would never have children, and since the day he was born, people, especially children and the very old, are very drawn to him. I know that God put me on this earth to raise this young man who is going to do something very special.
I think I was made to be a nurse! I'm definitely a people person (like you Mary) and I'm so excited to start nursing school next year! I'm really excited to get to share my caring and giving nature with those who need a little extra love and support during a difficult time.
Mary, I was just thinking, if you are using meds for your headaches daily, you may be having rebound headaches. I get them if I use meds for my headaches often. The rebounds are way worse than the original headache.
+Missy Kern She gets the headaches from coughing so hard & so much. I have asthma & chronic Rhinitis and cough a lot. I'm always getting headaches from coughing (or from the constant sinus infections). Never heard of a rebound headache, what is that? OK...just went to Mayo clinic website and now know what rebound headaches are. Mary uses Ibuprofen and it says it is low risk for it. She does take 2 other meds once in a while but I don't remember what she called it. Hopefully shell pop in and answer u. Curious minds wanna know. ;)
annaroseannadanna I started going to CHIRO ONE it has helped my neck pain, headaches, and sinuses. The chiropractor adjusts my neck and spine. Then I do the physical therapy there, to strengthen the muscles in my neck and spine. So the muscles memory hold the adjusted spine. Or you could always look up neck physical therapy videos on UA-cam.
I need to take muscle relaxers everyday to keep from getting migraines and help my chest being open and not all constricted so I can breath a tad easier
I was meant to be a nurses aid. Did it for 30 yrs. And then arthritis got the best of me and could no longer do that type of work. Went back to school & became a CRTA (Certified Restorative Therapist Aide) and did that for 10 yrs until I could barely walk. Now I sit at home & watch your video's. It helps tremendously with my depression. I just went to your website & watched the 2/19/17 sermon of Peters and loved it. My preacher gave a sermon on prayer last year that really touched me. I no longer go to church because I can't sit comfortably in the pews. I fidget and reposition...I know it's distracting to the other ppl even though I always try to sit on the back row. It's still distracting to the ppl sitting in the same row. I've tried several other churches but truthfully there are not many baptist churches in my city, at least none that I wouldn't have to drive 20-30 minutes to get to. I also have anxiety/panic issues so I usually don't go too far out of my comfort zone. I tried watching church on tv and it all seems so fake I gave up on it. Tried a few podcasts and it wasn't for me. Now I can go and watch Peter preach. I'm so excited. I really enjoyed the 1 I watched! Thanks Peter!!!
I was made to be a Geologist. I've wanted to be a Geologist since I was 10 years old when my aunt and uncle took me to the Mt. St. Helens visitors center. I remember just being fascinated by the concept of volcanoes and earthquakes and it was that day that I decided that I wanted to be a Geologist. 10 years, 13 surgeries and 9 kidney stones later and I am going to my dream school pursuing a degree in geology. I have encountered many setbacks but I keep going because this is what I was made to do. I love rocks so much that I make my own (in my kidneys).
I'd recommend seeing a physio. There are simple exercises that you can do that won't take that long and don't require any fancy equipment. A good physio after examining your neck will give you specific ones. One approach could be to strengthen the deep neck flexor muscles, that way the superficial muscles can relax better. They might also check whether there is hypo- or hypermobility in your neck? The downside of seeing a chiropractor is in my opinion that you might get reliant on them ( i.e. you have to see them often or even regularly). In addition, there is a risk with neck manipulations, especially if done for the upper cervical spine (if that is a treatment route a chiro would want to take?). I don't want to bash anybody or turn this into a discussion about chiro vs physio. Since so many people recommended seing a chiro, I just wanted to give a different viewpoint on this. Everybody obviously has to choose what seems best for them.
Mary, you were questioning who you should see about your neck, I would suggest a chiropractor. I see one and an adjustment might help your neck and headaches as it has helped me.
I believe from a very young age I loved helping people. My mother was always worry for me that many would take advantage of my kindness. Yes, many have taken advantage, but I continue to do what I feel I was born to do,helping others. I don't know how I began watching your vlog,but I have been tuning into your channel for about two years. During that time, I have spoken to people about your vlog,encouraged my friends to purchase your lovely watercolor prints and Christmas ornaments. Thank you, for allowing us into your daily life.
I'm so relieved to see you both self-caring a little and taking some time to recover from...well, just everything - grieving, organizing, producing audios, etc... You have just been through a big thing and now it's time for recovery. Be well, take it a little slow, and ressssssst! xxx
5:35 Peter, a docket is the court calendar/schedule for the day listing the type of proceeding, the time of & the amount of time set aside for each case and of course, the case names. Think of it as a courtroom Google calendar or these days, a courtroom Siri. lol.
You could also get checked my a chiropractor if you don't already. We swear by adjustments. They really help my wife's back, sciatic, and neck pain as well as allowing muscles to relax that have tightened as her coughing has pulled her spine out of alignment. She also occasionally dislocates ribs coughing and the chiropractic adjustments relieve that pain by putting the ribs back in place.
I was made to be a veterinarian. I never thought I was smart enough to be one growing up since I had a learning disability and when I finally started veterinary school I thought my dream of being in private practice was gone because the extend of my mitochondrial disease reared its ugly head. Now that I am 5 years out of vet school and six months in to being a full time emergency veterinarian I know this is what I was meant to be doing. Granted I have had nights that I see a patient, lay on the treatment room floor for twenty minutes because I was vomiting half the night and I was tachycardic and hypotensive but I get through it. It has taken TPN, IVIG, lots of PT, and way to many meds to get me here but it is what I am meant to do.
love how positive and content you are even in difficult times. thank you for showing us your life. you two are such an inspiration. I don't have CF however I have pretty bad asthma so they tested me for CF before. There are many times I get to coughing spells and get discouraged. I am so happy to have found your blog.
You would be absolutely incredible in any caring role helping people! You have that gentle kindness that would draw people to you that you could work with.
you guys are the videos i reach for when im feeling extra bad and today is one of those days but i was made to share my experiences with cleft lip and palate as well as chronic illness and neurodiversity. i want to create and make art that helps people love themselves a little more and give cleft kids someone to look at and understand everythings going to be amazing
I was made to take care of the elderly ..my mom would take me to nursing homes and visit the people there and at 8 years old there was this little old lady who became my best friend ..we would go out into the garden and pick the tomatoes and walk around and talk and laugh ..and ever since then I knew in my heart that's what God wanted me to do ..so I take care of patients in thier homes mostly those with ahlzhiemers dementia and Parkinson disease ..and on occasion I'll have patients who are younger fighting cancer ect ..I'm like thier service human lol ..and I love it ..
I'm 26 and I still wonder what I'm made to do. I feel bad because this sparked a bit of panic. I'm $50,000 in debt for engineering and maths but it isn't for me. I'm about to graduate but I feel stuck. I'm scared I'll end up in a cube typing away for an automotive company - which I sit and argue that i can't complain - I will have work. But. I'm sick too. I found out after months of testing and guessing that I have neuromyelitis, I have panic disorder, agoraphobia, and I want to help people. I had to miss class yesterday because I was ill. I just woke up at 4PM wondering how I'm going to do this. I wonder what God has in store for me. I dream of being a photographer. Dreamt of it my whole life - but I went blind from the myelitis under 2 years ago and there's a strong chance I'll lose my sight again and again until it disappears entirely. Then again, i know photography is a dream and not entirely sustainable. I apologize Community. I just do wonder. What do you do when you're trapped in student debt with a degree you don't particularly enjoy, and told your dreams may not be feasible otherwise because those eyes will shut down more and more. I'm so grateful I had gotten an education even if it cost me 30 years of debt, and I'm grateful I will get to work and such, but my heart will break. I'm sorry Frey family if I ruined this. Lots of love to all.
Sounds all too familiar. What type of engineering are you going for and how far from graduating are you? The beauty of engineering is we devise new ways of working with things. Your perceived weaknesses can become your strengths if you can get into the right sort of role.
utube101x I'm in computer science engineering with a second degree in mathematics. I guess the problem was that I came from a pretty poor family, so I was pushed into engineering as opposed to spending some time figuring things out. I had to run off of student loans and grants so I couldn't turn back. Now my father as passed and my mother is just about to, so I REALLY can't turn back. I am petrified that I'll have a flare up and lose my job, or I'll have a panic attack and cause issues. I'd do anything to be a strong, working individual. Thank you very much. I am looking into health IT and maybe trying to find ways into assisting with adaptive technology for those less able bodied. I'm 3 classes away. Broken up into 2 semesters while we figure out a treatment plan and I go through an eye surgery to fix some damaged tissues from my first flare. It's close! I do feel privileged regardless, because I was blessed to get an education regardless of the fact that I succumbed to debt, but in reality, it's no worse than a mid-level car and much less than a home. I just wish I was able to choose something that would be helpful to people directly. I've been playing with cameras my whole life and I wish more than anything that I could spend my energy and what's left of my eyes to share our world to as many people as possible. I don't want a lavish life, I just want a roof, food, and to see people smile.
recycleonwednesdays thank you very much. I guess my issue is I didn't have too much of a choice. I ended up in computer science and engineering because it is versatile and can change with the times because my family is gone. Unfortunately when I first went blind, they weren't sure I was going to get my sight back at all and they broke it to me that photography might be something I have to give up. I do have to get eye surgery and hopefully that will fix some of the damage done before. But I feel like I'm playing a waiting game. I do feel blessed that I got an education. Not everyone gets one. Even if I had to go through government loans, i got an education. I just do wish I had more time to see what I could do. Thank you so much for your reply. It helped a lot. I will continue to do my best for the people around me.
I'm a hairdresser. I make people feel better about themselves by making them look better than they came in the door. I like to say I'm a hair psychiatrist. I listen to people's troubles and joy. I give advice when needed and a shoulder to cry when needed.
today i feel i need to go watch a sermon. i was put here to serve. when younger i was in service in the medical field. then, after injury i continued to teach and care for children who were not in school yet. now, by God's grace im serving by making hats for my community. and giving to those who would not have a hat otherwise (homeless, birthing center and NICU, cancer center, and schools for grades k - 6. im working with friends who donate yarn and i knit or crochet. this is a miracle as in march of 2015 i became paralyzed from the neck down and by gods grace and mercy it was reversed. i have spent the last 2 years reprograming my body and im still working on some issues, buti can continue to use my hands to knit or crochet or sew or quilt. i can use my arms to give a hug. i can use my legs to walk to deliver the hats (only short distances at this point, but working on endurance). i would never ask for this again, but i would never change it if i could because of all the amazing things i have seen and learned. im here to be in service of others...however God decides to use me.
I have no idea what I was made to do, and I will be 36 in April. I was raised in a cult, I have PTSD, BPD, GAD, Major Depressive Disorder, possible attachment disorder and agoraphobia (I can leave the house and I work outside the house but I have a MAJOR fear of people). My service dog in training (owner training) helps but he is still early in the training and we are still learning how to calm down around people so he can't go into many places with me yet but when he can that will help a great deal. I also fell 3 stories and now have chronic pain, I have a pain pump in me delivery medication directly to my spine and neuropathy down my legs. I cannot do much physically which is by itself depressing. It is predicted I will be at least partially wheelchair bound in as little as 5 years. I am an artist and I also build and program computers. I also love learning and so I am always learning something new (like the last was how to pick locks and now I am learning paracord knotting and will be making a lot of things needed for my service dog in training to help me mobility wise). But yeah, I am still learning who I am outside of what I grew up in.
recycleonwednesdays Thank you! I forgot to say in that comment that The Frey Life's "god talk" is the only one I don't bolt from lol. I think I have said that before though when its my real name I am hesident to say it. My family all don't believe me so its hard. If you asked my therapist he would say I was put here to be a dog trainer as I apparently have a knack for it (owner training my service dog in training). Its so nice, aside from the major pain I have, to not just benefit from his tasks but also from the exposure this is giving me and just the training itself is very benefital. I say it mocks DBT quite well. Anyway, thank you for your kind comment!
kkisinger100 Why thank you! I don't think of myself as a survivor but more of a waste of perfectly good air but hopefully one day. Its been a long journey. It began and age 6 and just so normal to me that I feel like I am learning life all over again. Life without it I mean. Anyway, thank you!
You really help put things into perspective for me Mary. Here I am worrying about gaining 5 pounds which is unnoticeable and I can only tell from the scale. I'm still healthy over here and I know you would be ecstatic to gain those pounds. I should be happy to have the priveledge to go out and enjoy good food and gain that weight. I know I can lose it if I want to and being five pounds heavier than normal has no effect on anything. Anyways, I just want you to know how amazing you are and how much you really do help people every day even in ways you don't know of. Thank you Mary❤
Hi Lily, thank you for sharing those thoughts. That is really sweet of you to think of me in relation to being grateful for the weight you do have. That is so kind of you to think of me. Sending you a hug!
I believe I was made to help people with mental and chronic illness. I feel a very strong pull to help others around me, communicate with them, inspire them, or even let them know that they aren't broken. I also want to use social media to give them a voice, because I know what it feels like to feel like lil alien because of medical stuff. Also the LGBT community, I feel the same pull in that area. 💕 💕
Made to be a pastoral Care worker. Love caring for people with emotional or physical illness, whether they are young or old. Was a pastoral care support worker at a hospital for 5 years. Due to Epilepsy have not been able to continue. Yet still able to encourage and support others through emails or messages. Hope to get back to the Pastoral Care when health is stable. You guys are an inspiration as always!
Mary I have a special needs son with complex needs and his care is a ton of work, its SO hard to find a nurse with a heart like yours. I so wish you could do that for some family, they'd be so unbelievably lucky!
I was born to be a caregiver . I work in activities at a nursing home with people who have dementia and I LOVE it! I get to do fun activities with my residents like cooking, music and reminiscing. One of my favorite parts of the job is getting to know people and their interests and strengths. Someday I will get a standard poodle like Ollie to be a therapy dog to take with me to work. My parents had a standard poodle Lucy for 14 years that I raised as a puppy. Such a great breed of dog! I enjoy your videos and how you both are so encouraging in the Lord. Take care, Hannah
I was made to be a nurse. I have been a nurse now for almost 4 years and I absolutely love every minute of it. The pure joy and pleasure I get from helping someone who is at their weakest point really opens up my eyes to why I truly love my job!!!
a chiropractor my dear ... when my neck muscles and bones get out of whack I get headaches more often ... then i usually go see the chiropractor a couple times a week for a few weeks and I'm much better for a while .... I even used to go once a week just so it didn't get so bad .... love you guys!
I was made to nurse, I love advocating for my people and educate them about their condition and also I'm a councillor, shoulder to cry on, a person they can chat to and a inventor. But my first job that I give everything up for is being a mum to my boy his my world and everything love him to bits n pieces ❤️ I'm currently trying to finish my Bachelor of Nursing then to study midwifery and neonatal nursing to support parents for both good times but be there for the sad times. But I have a huge interest in cystic fibrosis and genetic conditions For the record you both would make great nurses ❤️
Hi Mary! In reference to your neck/headache issue, your physiotherapist can teach you stretches that help. I use a scarf and pull on my neck to stretch.
I was made to tutor reading and do other volunteer jobs. I'm a tax accountant and I've reduced my practice to have more volunteer time! PS A docket is a list of court cases in the order in which they will be heard.
Mary! find a good chiropractor and you can get your neck adjusted! it works. I had really bad neck pains and I would get such bad headaches of would pass out. prayers!!!!
I was made to care for and be an advocate of animals and to spread information about Aspergers in women (it's often often overlooked) and ehlers danlos syndrome.
I can envision you as a nurse Mary, but since it's a physical impossibility for you what you do online with your vlogs is the next best thing. You and Peter are educating, teaching and showing by example everything from the medical aspects of taking care of someone with an illness to just showing that it's possible to keep on living life as a gift (most of the time).
I saw this question before but never saw the answer. Why do you call yourselves Mary and Peter to Ollie instead of Mama and daddy? I have dogs and call hubby, daddy, and me, mama to them.
I was born to be a RN and have always loved taking care of people. I treat each patient as if they are my family and love to use my God given gifts with all of those around me. It also allowed me to care for my father in his last days and not have to bring a stranger into our home to care for him, loved this experience but that being said it was really hard. I think back now and most of the time think of the funny or weird situations that came up. At work I find satisfaction in doing my job well and being an advocate for all of my patients and sometimes their family.
I was made to be a nurse 😊 Psych nursing for 7 years and pediatric nursing going on 3 years! Graduating class of 08' and proud to serve those that are under my care 💖
Mary I recommend going to a chiropractor! If you find the right one that's gentle enough (or whatever you need) it can be super useful! I hated going until i found a chiropractic college where there were lots of nice ladies in like their 20s that i found where gentle enough but still very effective (lol not trying to sound creepy, I'm only 15)
I was born to be a mum and because of lupus that almost wasn't to be but a miracle happened once and I am eternally thankful . I like you Mary have a medical mind simply because of the repetition of hanging with doctors and nurses. I should have been a doctor but my body would never have allowed it. I have been a lupus therapist for those in remote country areas and now I just shut my brain down to be able to recharge. Xoxox
To everyone who liked and commented on my post - thank you! :D I'm overwhelmed by your support x I thought I would share something that followed from me logging on to view all your comments :) Something made me search for the end of The Frey's trip to Scotland. I'm no longer religious myself but this blog really spoke to me. To clarify I had to fight to overcome anorexia to make it to university I have now had to return home half way through my second year due to complex mental health conditions including depression. But when Mary and Peter said in this blog that having to go back from Scotland was not failure but part of the journey I had to rewind and listen again. It is so consoling to me that they could see this as part of their plan, and look at the immediate challenges and not force themselves to know what they can't. This video, and your comments have really helped me to begin to accept that I am in the right place to look after me, and to take one day at a time x I hope you can all find peace where you are :)
Right now at 23, I feel like I'm meant to be sailor. I work in naval communications and IT, and I really feel like this is where I can thrive. Who knows if that will be my purpose later in life, but in this moment it is, and I'm loving every second of my journey/ travels.
I was made for healthcare and educating people. I am an RN but due to current health issues I am currently a barista at Starbucks! I find myself being able to educate fellow coworkers and customers and I am still able to delegate to other coworkers also. This job has been a godsend! Mary & Peter, you guys are so inspiring to me and on my bad days I find myself saying "do what you think you can do, uh huh" :-D
I was made to be a boss, I know that sounds strange but I lead a huge group of women of all ages and I kinda chamged our office so now it includes kids a cat and a few dogs. Women , moms especially single moms cant always get sitters or have half days etc and when the owner comes to town and sees the kiddy pool in the back or a trike out front he says Do we really have to have the kids here too? I just laugh, and for 22 years he puts up with my unconventional ways but in our World Wide biz our crazy loud funny tearful diverce office, we manage to be number one so he is happy too!I love my girls couldnt imagine my life without them!
Watching your videos reminds me of why I became a doctor and, more importantly, the kind of doctor i promised myself I'd strive to be. I'm a couple of years into surgery residency and about to be unemployed in four months (long story about how residency works, and how messed up our medical education system and medical system in general can be). It's hard to express everything that's going on in my life succinctly, but I just wanted to thank you. I started watching your videos in january of 2016 and they've helped me through a lot of moments of doubt and a lot of rough, long hours spent at the hospital. It's sometimes all too easy to forget about the patient on the other side and lose sight of why we do what we do. Thanks and all my sincerest best wishes as you go through your journey!
I was made to be a surgeon. I cannot imagine doing anything else. To hold someone's life in your hands is such a huge blessing and responsibility. When I was in high school I went to a mini med school day at my local college and also dream medical school. Part of our day was to see and hold the organs from the first year's gross anatomy lab. I was over the moon excited and as intellectually stimulated as I was it was such a spiritual moment. That was the first time I held a human brain. I held in my hands what was someone's entire life. Every thought they ever had, every person they ever loved, every choice they ever made was right there and it was beautiful. Immediately after I got to hold a heart which is my dream. I want to be a cardiothoracic surgeon. I cried for a long time. I was so excited and overwhelmed. That was everything I could ever dream of and yet someone had to die to give me that experience. I will never forget that moment for as long as I live but I know for sure that I was made to be a surgeon.
One of my (Jon's) favorite movie scenes of all time. Eric's letter to his sister in Chariots of Fire. I love what I do. I don't think I'd change anything. Excited to see what God has for all of us.
Mary if you see a chiropractor if you go for a couple of times until they get your neck back to normal you should only have to go once a month or every two months. Should get rid of your headaches. I think your more prone to get headaches because of your coughing.
I was made for working with animals, I'm styding my last year to become a animal care taker/ animal keeper and I love it! I have always had a pasion for animals and working with them just makes me happy 😊
I was born to be a nurse and I love it! My days are not always the brightest or the most cheerful days. My days can be filled with a lot of sorrow and tears. My days ARE filled with reward, rewards that may not be seen from the patient or their families. Just knowing that I had caring moments for every patient that I took care of that day is reward!
I have a digestive disorder that makes me very sick, and I have trouble digesting food. Most people with this condition lose a lot of weight very quickly, but for me, I actually gain weight! It is super-frustrating, and sometimes doctors don't take you seriously when you don't 'look' like you are starving. I've been tracking my meals, and I average about 800 calories a day. I think I need to add some shakes!!! Hope you get things figured out, Mary!
Hi Mary, I think the people commenting were also thinking of going to the chiropractor for an adjustment of your neck. You won't believe how amazing you'll feel....yes....your strong coughing surely could be putting you out of alignment. Our chiropractor has a massage therapist in the office...sometimes I get a massage first then get adjusted but mostly I just get adjusted.
You should definitely try seeing a chiropractor Mary, I know some people view them sorta as quacks but they can use a tens unit to help with muscular issues you could be having with your neck and you'd be AMAZED at how much getting an adjustment can help
I truly believe that I was made to work with preschool age children and nurture them and their families. Even on the days when everything seems to be exhausting and crazy and even heartbreaking. I am now expanding that to volunteering with our church elementary through high school kiddos. I love it.
I was made to be an occupational therapist! I have many health conditions and a degenerative nerve disease that makes me deal with a large amount of chronic pain, but I'm not letting that stop me. I am in an entry level OT program and although I have had to take some time off of school I have flourished since joining this program. I believe that God created me to work with children who have experienced some sort of trauma and need rehabilitative therapy. I fall more and more in love with my field and truly believe I was meant to do this. I am not letting any condition stop me! You are one of my biggest inspirations!! Love you guys and can't thank you enough for all that you do!
I'm catching up on the last few days since I've been too unwell to watch which always makes me sad! I'm made to live with my horses, to cherish them daily, take care of them (when I was well enough to do this I loved it more than anything), to ride and feel totally free of my wheelchair and health issues, to share the joy with those around me through teaching and the enjoyment of seeing others ride my wonderful horses, to see joy on their faces makes me feel the world is complete! There is nothing in this world I love more than being surrounded by horses, they bring myself and those around me unlimited joy and nothing will ever compare to that feeling! I have loved reading everyone else's comments. Sending love to you all ❤️ xx
A while ago I would have said I was made to be a Mom. My children have grown and have started their own families now and I have refreshed my mind set to me to just be a wife, friend, compassionate listener and grandmother.
For your neck pain, I would recommend a chiropractor. I don't know if y'all have "the joint" where y'all live, but it's a chiropractor that has offices everywhere and you get a key card (like a gym membership) and go when ever and to what ever location you want to go! It's supper great! I have IC and Pelvic Floor Dysfunction and it helps me soooo much!!
Mary, I get a spasm issue with my neck about once a year called torticollis (aka wry neck) and, when I feel it coming on, I stop using my pillow and use, instead, a rolled-up towel under my neck when I sleep. It helps a LOT.
hi! going to a chiropractor might help your neck pain. I have had neck pain from sleeping too and going to the chiropractor really helps! I hope this is helpful to you!
I worked for 20 yrs. I'm not permanent disabled. even though I have pain all the time, I actually have been able to spend the time with my son, who is a senior in high school. he is in marching band and I have been able to go to games and contests. something I never had a chance to do while I worked.
My husband had horrible headaches for years. One trip to the chiropractor and his headache issues were gone. He did have to go for follow up appt for a while to keep his adjustment in line while the muscles learned where they should be but he has been headache free for over 5 years. I hope your headache issues are resolved soon.
i was made to be a mom of 4 great girls,a 4H leader and a great listener...i am a former EMT,which i miss doing greatly,but my MS had other plans so now i help my best friend with her insulin shots every day,some days are challenges but i wouldn't trade my life for nothing
I loved being a emt,even got emt of year award but my right hand is affected by my ms and i was trained to do iv's so when my hand got weaker i decided it was time to stop...i take care of my kids and my best friend now for that i am very happy and blessed
In Jewish tradition we recite the Torah on Mondays, Thursdays and Saturdays so that we're never more than three days without the inspiration of G-d's word. #ShabbatShalom guys! *waves from damp old London* I was made to be a nurse, but sadly my spine wasn't strong enough for the task that G-d called me to do. So now I help my adult friends with special needs and run my Girl Guides instead.
Thank you! I've been a Girl Guide leader since I was 18, so have been involved as an adult for 34 years. I look after not only my own Unit of Guides but also a whole District (or neighbourhood in the US) as Thor Commissioner too. It's a challenge, but I love it xx
I was made to help people. I'm taking a degree right now, and hopefully I can work at the hospital. Right now I work in a nursing home for people with dementia, and I love it so much! It brings me so much joy being able to help someone that needs me, and it makes waking up at the crack of dawn so worth it! My goal is to work at the hospital at some point, but in the meantime I'm more than happy to help the elderly and sick at nursing homes❤ I feel so lucky to be able to do what I do.
I was a nurse before my health got bad and I am so much a people person. Loved being on the fire department after high school,enjoyed the hospital and just love people. Dreams can come true.. TFS
Mary you should consider visiting a chiropractor a couple times a month. It will help with neck pain as well as help preventing barrel chest. You never realize how out of alignment you are until you start getting adjusted. Chiro day is my favorite day of the month/week.
I was made to take care of animals. I have always known that I wanted a career that involves being around animals. After being diagnosed with severe mental health issues and training my own service dog to assist me out in public, I decided that I wanted to train service dogs for others who really need them. I am almost done with my dog trainer/instructor course and I am so excited to take the next step!
I've had sad neck, back, and shoulders since high school and I've found that heat therapy works well. I've read that moist heat (hot moist towels) works better than dry heat (hot water bottles and gel packs) but haven't tried moist heat yet. Hopefully you find some relief soon. Also, I went to a chiropractor for a little while but it didn't really help my neck. NECK MANIPULATIONS ARE ALSO RISKIER. Do some research if you're considering it and decide for yourself. Take care!
Mary, you do share so much of yourself but I know what you mean. I worked with people with special needs for many years in my nursing career. Most of the ones I worked with had developmental disabilities. I also worked with people needing skilled care such as geriatrics and terminally ill. It's very satisfying and rewarding to know you've been there for that person. I believe God meant that for my life. I certainly had a burn for it. In 1996 I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, which wasn't nearly as severe a level as my major depressive disorder. It took me a while to come to terms with that. I wasn't up to the task of being a nurse anymore. I'd never learned to take care of myself in the process of caring for others. I guess that comes from being one of the second child and oldest daughter of a family with 6 children. I think that served me well, though. I went back to college and got a degree in business but instead of getting involved in an existing business, my lungs decided they didn't like my lifestyle anymore. I was a stress smoker. I developed COPD and was at the point where I was losing my ability to engage in physical activity. Was God done with me? Absolutely not. Now, I'm doing the other thing I feel God gives me a burn for and I still connect with people. I write and have a few books out and I'm here building my own vlog about my life and passing on information about COPD. So, even though you don't get to be physically one on one with people, you are physically making their lives better by sharing and giving them a way to get out of themselves. You share your art and love of Kinder Eggs, Ollie and of course Peter who is a special person of God as well. You two are a gift from our Lord God. Thank you.
Neck Muscles! I am a Kinesiology student and chronic tight neck muscles cause frontal headaches, I don't just know this through school but I get them too! something that helps is taking a tennis ball (but more firm - i like a large bouncy ball) and roll it over those muscles (origin of your trapezius at the occipital protuberance pretty much) but only for a few minutes, don't overdo it! Careful with stretching as it can be tedious and more harmful if not done correctly, don't just throw your neck around because it feels good. Hope this helps!
We just finished watching The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe before watching your vlog and when you mentioned one of your favorite parts we all looked at each other and laughed.
Oh I hear you Mary! I love working with children too! I have a daughter with autism, she is older now, and I went through so much with her through the years. This family at our church is just starting there journey with a child with autism. I feel like god made me able to help them and love them. I just love that little girl like she was my own. I feel like god really gave me a mission on this earth, and understanding children with autism is definitely a gift from god. Can you see a physical therapist for you neck? They will massage you and give you exercises to do to strengthen your neck. I could see how coughing could give you whiplash and hurt your neck.
Mary I. I am Alan RN and suffered with migraines for 8 yrs. until a colleague at work recommended seeing a chiropractor, which I did. He realigned my spine and I have been migraine free for 15 yrs now. Please try a chiropractor for your headaches.
I was meant to be a caregiver.I have 8 grandchildren and 3 adult kids. I'm also a caregiver for 2 adult women that are developmentally disabled. Two of my grandkids and my youngest son have autism. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed and exhausted but I keep on keeping on.
I was made to do agility, currently not that good at it but I dreamed of doing it a long time ago and then became poorly but battled back and now train and compete in my wheelchair. Tomorrow is my first agility class with my SDIT, my older dog retired last September :)
Mary I already left a comment but I forgot to say, there are U shaped neck massagers with heat too if that helps. My rheumatologist has me wearing a soft neck collar/ brace sometimes for another kind of pain but it might help your pain too.You could wear it to bed.
Hi Mary, I have a question! Are there any videos where you describe whether or not you identify as having a disability? I'm chronically ill/have a disability and am trying to decide whether or not I want to use "person with a disability," "disabled person," or something else. I'm just curious to hear your thoughts :) Thanks!
I was created to help and work with kids! I'm just finishing up my BA degree in Early Childhood Development! It's a challenge right now to finish up this degree, you know when your almost at the end of a goal obstacles are always there to try and take you away from achieving that goal! Anyways great question!
Live in New Orleans. I grew up in Wisconsin and moved to New Orleans a year ago. I think everything I have went through in the past has prepared me for my life here. I moved here and everything in my life has fallen into place.
Yes Docket is a proper word, the definition is (a calendar or list of cases for trial or people having cases pending) I'm sure you already knew that, I just can't really tell if you were being sarcastic because of my TBI but just incase you really didn't know lol. I had to learn to speak, read and write over again after my TBI so I like to look it up if I don't know, and I didn't ether.
Peter I agree CS Lewis is amazing. Those movies are my absolute favorite. Make me cry every time. I love how much he incorporates the Bible into his movies for kids and all really. 🌸🌼🌺 praying for you guys. Love to you.🐾
Mary, about the headaches-have you talked to your doctor about running an arterial blood gas to see if you are retaining carbon dioxide? Especially when you sleep. If your CO2 level is rising when you sleep it will cause you to wake up with that killer headache due to the change in CO2/O2 pressure. It was happening to me so my doctor put me on a bi-pap. High CO2 can also be toxic to your brain and can be a common thing with CF
I was made to be an archivist. I learnt today that I'm going to have to retake my second year of university due to mental health issues. Now I have to plan out what I'm doing with the next few months, and keep up the fight for treatment that I've been trying to do since September. I've had to intermit uni for anorexia, and now for depression, but I will get there! 'Do what you think you can't do' has become my mantra, thank you for being there Frey Life x
Phoebe Brunt keep fighting!
Jennifer Watkins Thank you for the encouragement Jennifer, and well done on your amazing achievement of recovery! :)
Missy Kern Thank you Missy :)
Phoebe Brunt you can do it.
Lee Sanchez nightcrew Thank you :)
I would love to see a day in the life of Oliver. I love seeing how he works/helps you. I've seen him get your meds, alert you when your blood sugar is down and carry the laundry basic. He is so special.
I was made to be my son's mother. Not just a mother but specifically my son's mother. His creation was very unexpected, I thought I would never have children, and since the day he was born, people, especially children and the very old, are very drawn to him. I know that God put me on this earth to raise this young man who is going to do something very special.
It sounds like he will live a very blessed life.
I was made to be a servant. I have been a butler for the past 35 years. Finally, next month, I will retire and take care of myself!
I think I was made to be a nurse! I'm definitely a people person (like you Mary) and I'm so excited to start nursing school next year! I'm really excited to get to share my caring and giving nature with those who need a little extra love and support during a difficult time.
Mary and Peter, You have a wonderful ministry here. Just showing your normal everyday life is such a blessing to everyone who watches you on UA-cam.
Mary, I was just thinking, if you are using meds for your headaches daily, you may be having rebound headaches. I get them if I use meds for my headaches often. The rebounds are way worse than the original headache.
Missy Kern thanks for the tip. today my head started hurting and now it's worse than this morning
+Missy Kern She gets the headaches from coughing so hard & so much. I have asthma & chronic Rhinitis and cough a lot. I'm always getting headaches from coughing (or from the constant sinus infections). Never heard of a rebound headache, what is that? OK...just went to Mayo clinic website and now know what rebound headaches are. Mary uses Ibuprofen and it says it is low risk for it. She does take 2 other meds once in a while but I don't remember what she called it. Hopefully shell pop in and answer u. Curious minds wanna know. ;)
annaroseannadanna I started going to CHIRO ONE it has helped my neck pain, headaches, and sinuses. The chiropractor adjusts my neck and spine. Then I do the physical therapy there, to strengthen the muscles in my neck and spine. So the muscles memory hold the adjusted spine. Or you could always look up neck physical therapy videos on UA-cam.
Missy Kern that's a good thought! my sister had that:)
I need to take muscle relaxers everyday to keep from getting migraines and help my chest being open and not all constricted so I can breath a tad easier
I was meant to be a nurses aid. Did it for 30 yrs. And then arthritis got the best of me and could no longer do that type of work. Went back to school & became a CRTA (Certified Restorative Therapist Aide) and did that for 10 yrs until I could barely walk. Now I sit at home & watch your video's. It helps tremendously with my depression. I just went to your website & watched the 2/19/17 sermon of Peters and loved it. My preacher gave a sermon on prayer last year that really touched me. I no longer go to church because I can't sit comfortably in the pews. I fidget and reposition...I know it's distracting to the other ppl even though I always try to sit on the back row. It's still distracting to the ppl sitting in the same row. I've tried several other churches but truthfully there are not many baptist churches in my city, at least none that I wouldn't have to drive 20-30 minutes to get to. I also have anxiety/panic issues so I usually don't go too far out of my comfort zone. I tried watching church on tv and it all seems so fake I gave up on it. Tried a few podcasts and it wasn't for me. Now I can go and watch Peter preach. I'm so excited. I really enjoyed the 1 I watched! Thanks Peter!!!
I was made to be a Geologist. I've wanted to be a Geologist since I was 10 years old when my aunt and uncle took me to the Mt. St. Helens visitors center. I remember just being fascinated by the concept of volcanoes and earthquakes and it was that day that I decided that I wanted to be a Geologist. 10 years, 13 surgeries and 9 kidney stones later and I am going to my dream school pursuing a degree in geology. I have encountered many setbacks but I keep going because this is what I was made to do. I love rocks so much that I make my own (in my kidneys).
I'd recommend seeing a physio. There are simple exercises that you can do that won't take that long and don't require any fancy equipment. A good physio after examining your neck will give you specific ones. One approach could be to strengthen the deep neck flexor muscles, that way the superficial muscles can relax better. They might also check whether there is hypo- or hypermobility in your neck?
The downside of seeing a chiropractor is in my opinion that you might get reliant on them ( i.e. you have to see them often or even regularly). In addition, there is a risk with neck manipulations, especially if done for the upper cervical spine (if that is a treatment route a chiro would want to take?).
I don't want to bash anybody or turn this into a discussion about chiro vs physio. Since so many people recommended seing a chiro, I just wanted to give a different viewpoint on this. Everybody obviously has to choose what seems best for them.
Mary, you were questioning who you should see about your neck, I would suggest a chiropractor. I see one and an adjustment might help your neck and headaches as it has helped me.
As tired and burnt out you are Mary, you look gorgeous! Be strong, fight hard, stay beautiful - love watching your videos!
I believe from a very young age I loved helping people. My mother was always worry for me that many would take advantage of my kindness. Yes, many have taken advantage, but I continue to do what I feel I was born to do,helping others. I don't know how I began watching your vlog,but I have been tuning into your channel for about two years. During that time, I have spoken to people about your vlog,encouraged my friends to purchase your lovely watercolor prints and Christmas ornaments. Thank you, for allowing us into your daily life.
I'm so relieved to see you both self-caring a little and taking some time to recover from...well, just everything - grieving, organizing, producing audios, etc... You have just been through a big thing and now it's time for recovery. Be well, take it a little slow, and ressssssst! xxx
5:35 Peter, a docket is the court calendar/schedule for the day listing the type of proceeding, the time of & the amount of time set aside for each case and of course, the case names. Think of it as a courtroom Google calendar or these days, a courtroom Siri. lol.
You could also get checked my a chiropractor if you don't already. We swear by adjustments. They really help my wife's back, sciatic, and neck pain as well as allowing muscles to relax that have tightened as her coughing has pulled her spine out of alignment. She also occasionally dislocates ribs coughing and the chiropractic adjustments relieve that pain by putting the ribs back in place.
I was made to be a veterinarian. I never thought I was smart enough to be one growing up since I had a learning disability and when I finally started veterinary school I thought my dream of being in private practice was gone because the extend of my mitochondrial disease reared its ugly head. Now that I am 5 years out of vet school and six months in to being a full time emergency veterinarian I know this is what I was meant to be doing. Granted I have had nights that I see a patient, lay on the treatment room floor for twenty minutes because I was vomiting half the night and I was tachycardic and hypotensive but I get through it. It has taken TPN, IVIG, lots of PT, and way to many meds to get me here but it is what I am meant to do.
love how positive and content you are even in difficult times. thank you for showing us your life. you two are such an inspiration. I don't have CF however I have pretty bad asthma so they tested me for CF before. There are many times I get to coughing spells and get discouraged. I am so happy to have found your blog.
You would be absolutely incredible in any caring role helping people! You have that gentle kindness that would draw people to you that you could work with.
you guys are the videos i reach for when im feeling extra bad and today is one of those days but i was made to share my experiences with cleft lip and palate as well as chronic illness and neurodiversity. i want to create and make art that helps people love themselves a little more and give cleft kids someone to look at and understand everythings going to be amazing
I was made to take care of the elderly ..my mom would take me to nursing homes and visit the people there and at 8 years old there was this little old lady who became my best friend ..we would go out into the garden and pick the tomatoes and walk around and talk and laugh ..and ever since then I knew in my heart that's what God wanted me to do ..so I take care of patients in thier homes mostly those with ahlzhiemers dementia and Parkinson disease ..and on occasion I'll have patients who are younger fighting cancer ect ..I'm like thier service human lol ..and I love it ..
I'm 26 and I still wonder what I'm made to do. I feel bad because this sparked a bit of panic. I'm $50,000 in debt for engineering and maths but it isn't for me. I'm about to graduate but I feel stuck. I'm scared I'll end up in a cube typing away for an automotive company - which I sit and argue that i can't complain - I will have work.
But. I'm sick too. I found out after months of testing and guessing that I have neuromyelitis, I have panic disorder, agoraphobia, and I want to help people.
I had to miss class yesterday because I was ill. I just woke up at 4PM wondering how I'm going to do this. I wonder what God has in store for me.
I dream of being a photographer. Dreamt of it my whole life - but I went blind from the myelitis under 2 years ago and there's a strong chance I'll lose my sight again and again until it disappears entirely. Then again, i know photography is a dream and not entirely sustainable.
I apologize Community. I just do wonder. What do you do when you're trapped in student debt with a degree you don't particularly enjoy, and told your dreams may not be feasible otherwise because those eyes will shut down more and more. I'm so grateful I had gotten an education even if it cost me 30 years of debt, and I'm grateful I will get to work and such, but my heart will break.
I'm sorry Frey family if I ruined this.
Lots of love to all.
Lindsay Song Stay strong! Just follow your heart and don't let anything hold you back!🙏🏼
there are no late bloomers just thoughtful careful people-you will find your way!
Sounds all too familiar. What type of engineering are you going for and how far from graduating are you? The beauty of engineering is we devise new ways of working with things. Your perceived weaknesses can become your strengths if you can get into the right sort of role.
utube101x I'm in computer science engineering with a second degree in mathematics.
I guess the problem was that I came from a pretty poor family, so I was pushed into engineering as opposed to spending some time figuring things out. I had to run off of student loans and grants so I couldn't turn back. Now my father as passed and my mother is just about to, so I REALLY can't turn back. I am petrified that I'll have a flare up and lose my job, or I'll have a panic attack and cause issues. I'd do anything to be a strong, working individual.
Thank you very much. I am looking into health IT and maybe trying to find ways into assisting with adaptive technology for those less able bodied.
I'm 3 classes away. Broken up into 2 semesters while we figure out a treatment plan and I go through an eye surgery to fix some damaged tissues from my first flare. It's close!
I do feel privileged regardless, because I was blessed to get an education regardless of the fact that I succumbed to debt, but in reality, it's no worse than a mid-level car and much less than a home. I just wish I was able to choose something that would be helpful to people directly. I've been playing with cameras my whole life and I wish more than anything that I could spend my energy and what's left of my eyes to share our world to as many people as possible. I don't want a lavish life, I just want a roof, food, and to see people smile.
recycleonwednesdays thank you very much. I guess my issue is I didn't have too much of a choice. I ended up in computer science and engineering because it is versatile and can change with the times because my family is gone. Unfortunately when I first went blind, they weren't sure I was going to get my sight back at all and they broke it to me that photography might be something I have to give up. I do have to get eye surgery and hopefully that will fix some of the damage done before. But I feel like I'm playing a waiting game.
I do feel blessed that I got an education. Not everyone gets one. Even if I had to go through government loans, i got an education. I just do wish I had more time to see what I could do.
Thank you so much for your reply. It helped a lot. I will continue to do my best for the people around me.
I'm a hairdresser. I make people feel better about themselves by making them look better than they came in the door. I like to say I'm a hair psychiatrist. I listen to people's troubles and joy. I give advice when needed and a shoulder to cry when needed.
today i feel i need to go watch a sermon. i was put here to serve. when younger i was in service in the medical field. then, after injury i continued to teach and care for children who were not in school yet. now, by God's grace im serving by making hats for my community. and giving to those who would not have a hat otherwise (homeless, birthing center and NICU, cancer center, and schools for grades k - 6. im working with friends who donate yarn and i knit or crochet. this is a miracle as in march of 2015 i became paralyzed from the neck down and by gods grace and mercy it was reversed. i have spent the last 2 years reprograming my body and im still working on some issues, buti can continue to use my hands to knit or crochet or sew or quilt. i can use my arms to give a hug. i can use my legs to walk to deliver the hats (only short distances at this point, but working on endurance). i would never ask for this again, but i would never change it if i could because of all the amazing things i have seen and learned. im here to be in service of others...however God decides to use me.
I have no idea what I was made to do, and I will be 36 in April. I was raised in a cult, I have PTSD, BPD, GAD, Major Depressive Disorder, possible attachment disorder and agoraphobia (I can leave the house and I work outside the house but I have a MAJOR fear of people). My service dog in training (owner training) helps but he is still early in the training and we are still learning how to calm down around people so he can't go into many places with me yet but when he can that will help a great deal. I also fell 3 stories and now have chronic pain, I have a pain pump in me delivery medication directly to my spine and neuropathy down my legs. I cannot do much physically which is by itself depressing. It is predicted I will be at least partially wheelchair bound in as little as 5 years. I am an artist and I also build and program computers. I also love learning and so I am always learning something new (like the last was how to pick locks and now I am learning paracord knotting and will be making a lot of things needed for my service dog in training to help me mobility wise). But yeah, I am still learning who I am outside of what I grew up in.
recycleonwednesdays Thank you! I forgot to say in that comment that The Frey Life's "god talk" is the only one I don't bolt from lol. I think I have said that before though when its my real name I am hesident to say it. My family all don't believe me so its hard. If you asked my therapist he would say I was put here to be a dog trainer as I apparently have a knack for it (owner training my service dog in training). Its so nice, aside from the major pain I have, to not just benefit from his tasks but also from the exposure this is giving me and just the training itself is very benefital. I say it mocks DBT quite well. Anyway, thank you for your kind comment!
kkisinger100 Why thank you! I don't think of myself as a survivor but more of a waste of perfectly good air but hopefully one day. Its been a long journey. It began and age 6 and just so normal to me that I feel like I am learning life all over again. Life without it I mean. Anyway, thank you!
Bambi Sloan
It's not about your scars, it's all about your heart... ❤️
RayaGeo :)
You really help put things into perspective for me Mary. Here I am worrying about gaining 5 pounds which is unnoticeable and I can only tell from the scale. I'm still healthy over here and I know you would be ecstatic to gain those pounds. I should be happy to have the priveledge to go out and enjoy good food and gain that weight. I know I can lose it if I want to and being five pounds heavier than normal has no effect on anything.
Anyways, I just want you to know how amazing you are and how much you really do help people every day even in ways you don't know of. Thank you Mary❤
Hi Lily, thank you for sharing those thoughts. That is really sweet of you to think of me in relation to being grateful for the weight you do have. That is so kind of you to think of me. Sending you a hug!
Mary has the best attitude! Such an inspiration!
I believe I was made to help people with mental and chronic illness. I feel a very strong pull to help others around me, communicate with them, inspire them, or even let them know that they aren't broken. I also want to use social media to give them a voice, because I know what it feels like to feel like lil alien because of medical stuff. Also the LGBT community, I feel the same pull in that area. 💕 💕
Made to be a pastoral Care worker. Love caring for people with emotional or physical illness, whether they are young or old. Was a pastoral care support worker at a hospital for 5 years. Due to Epilepsy have not been able to continue. Yet still able to encourage and support others through emails or messages. Hope to get back to the Pastoral Care when health is stable. You guys are an inspiration as always!
Mary I have a special needs son with complex needs and his care is a ton of work, its SO hard to find a nurse with a heart like yours. I so wish you could do that for some family, they'd be so unbelievably lucky!
I was born to be a caregiver . I work in activities at a nursing home with people who have dementia and I LOVE it! I get to do fun activities with my residents like cooking, music and reminiscing. One of my favorite parts of the job is getting to know people and their interests and strengths. Someday I will get a standard poodle like Ollie to be a therapy dog to take with me to work. My parents had a standard poodle Lucy for 14 years that I raised as a puppy. Such a great breed of dog! I enjoy your videos and how you both are so encouraging in the Lord. Take care, Hannah
I always loved older folks, so many stories now Im getting there lol
They're so inspirational aren't they! They're a wealth of experience & knowledge, but with an awesome personality to match.
I was made to be a nurse. I have been a nurse now for almost 4 years and I absolutely love every minute of it. The pure joy and pleasure I get from helping someone who is at their weakest point really opens up my eyes to why I truly love my job!!!
a chiropractor my dear ... when my neck muscles and bones get out of whack I get headaches more often ... then i usually go see the chiropractor a couple times a week for a few weeks and I'm much better for a while .... I even used to go once a week just so it didn't get so bad .... love you guys!
I was made to nurse, I love advocating for my people and educate them about their condition and also I'm a councillor, shoulder to cry on, a person they can chat to and a inventor. But my first job that I give everything up for is being a mum to my boy his my world and everything love him to bits n pieces ❤️
I'm currently trying to finish my Bachelor of Nursing then to study midwifery and neonatal nursing to support parents for both good times but be there for the sad times. But I have a huge interest in cystic fibrosis and genetic conditions
For the record you both would make great nurses ❤️
Hi Mary! In reference to your neck/headache issue, your physiotherapist can teach you stretches that help. I use a scarf and pull on my neck to stretch.
I was made to tutor reading and do other volunteer jobs. I'm a tax accountant and I've reduced my practice to have more volunteer time!
PS A docket is a list of court cases in the order in which they will be heard.
Prayers, Mary and Peter. I am home sick myself today with diabetes. I think of you often, and pray for you.
Mary! find a good chiropractor and you can get your neck adjusted! it works. I had really bad neck pains and I would get such bad headaches of would pass out. prayers!!!!
I was made to care for and be an advocate of animals and to spread information about Aspergers in women (it's often often overlooked) and ehlers danlos syndrome.
I can envision you as a nurse Mary, but since it's a physical impossibility for you what you do online with your vlogs is the next best thing. You and Peter are educating, teaching and showing by example everything from the medical aspects of taking care of someone with an illness to just showing that it's possible to keep on living life as a gift (most of the time).
I saw this question before but never saw the answer. Why do you call yourselves Mary and Peter to Ollie instead of Mama and daddy? I have dogs and call hubby, daddy, and me, mama to them.
I was born to be a RN and have always loved taking care of people. I treat each patient as if they are my family and love to use my God given gifts with all of those around me. It also allowed me to care for my father in his last days and not have to bring a stranger into our home to care for him, loved this experience but that being said it was really hard. I think back now and most of the time think of the funny or weird situations that came up. At work I find satisfaction in doing my job well and being an advocate for all of my patients and sometimes their family.
Waiting patiently until I can order a Mary blanket. They look so comfy! :)
I was made to be a nurse 😊 Psych nursing for 7 years and pediatric nursing going on 3 years! Graduating class of 08' and proud to serve those that are under my care 💖
Mary I recommend going to a chiropractor! If you find the right one that's gentle enough (or whatever you need) it can be super useful! I hated going until i found a chiropractic college where there were lots of nice ladies in like their 20s that i found where gentle enough but still very effective (lol not trying to sound creepy, I'm only 15)
I was born to be a mum and because of lupus that almost wasn't to be but a miracle happened once and I am eternally thankful . I like you Mary have a medical mind simply because of the repetition of hanging with doctors and nurses. I should have been a doctor but my body would never have allowed it. I have been a lupus therapist for those in remote country areas and now I just shut my brain down to be able to recharge. Xoxox
To everyone who liked and commented on my post - thank you! :D I'm overwhelmed by your support x I thought I would share something that followed from me logging on to view all your comments :) Something made me search for the end of The Frey's trip to Scotland. I'm no longer religious myself but this blog really spoke to me. To clarify I had to fight to overcome anorexia to make it to university I have now had to return home half way through my second year due to complex mental health conditions including depression. But when Mary and Peter said in this blog that having to go back from Scotland was not failure but part of the journey I had to rewind and listen again. It is so consoling to me that they could see this as part of their plan, and look at the immediate challenges and not force themselves to know what they can't.
This video, and your comments have really helped me to begin to accept that I am in the right place to look after me, and to take one day at a time x I hope you can all find peace where you are :)
Right now at 23, I feel like I'm meant to be sailor. I work in naval communications and IT, and I really feel like this is where I can thrive. Who knows if that will be my purpose later in life, but in this moment it is, and I'm loving every second of my journey/ travels.
We the people ♥️ The Frey Life!
I was made for healthcare and educating people. I am an RN but due to current health issues I am currently a barista at Starbucks! I find myself being able to educate fellow coworkers and customers and I am still able to delegate to other coworkers also. This job has been a godsend! Mary & Peter, you guys are so inspiring to me and on my bad days I find myself saying "do what you think you can do, uh huh" :-D
I was made to be a boss, I know that sounds strange but I lead a huge group of women of all ages and I kinda chamged our office so now it includes kids a cat and a few dogs. Women , moms especially single moms cant always get sitters or have half days etc and when the owner comes to town and sees the kiddy pool in the back or a trike out front he says Do we really have to have the kids here too? I just laugh, and for 22 years he puts up with my unconventional ways but in our World Wide biz our crazy loud funny tearful diverce office, we manage to be number one so he is happy too!I love my girls couldnt imagine my life without them!
Watching your videos reminds me of why I became a doctor and, more importantly, the kind of doctor i promised myself I'd strive to be. I'm a couple of years into surgery residency and about to be unemployed in four months (long story about how residency works, and how messed up our medical education system and medical system in general can be). It's hard to express everything that's going on in my life succinctly, but I just wanted to thank you. I started watching your videos in january of 2016 and they've helped me through a lot of moments of doubt and a lot of rough, long hours spent at the hospital. It's sometimes all too easy to forget about the patient on the other side and lose sight of why we do what we do. Thanks and all my sincerest best wishes as you go through your journey!
I was made to be a surgeon. I cannot imagine doing anything else. To hold someone's life in your hands is such a huge blessing and responsibility. When I was in high school I went to a mini med school day at my local college and also dream medical school. Part of our day was to see and hold the organs from the first year's gross anatomy lab. I was over the moon excited and as intellectually stimulated as I was it was such a spiritual moment. That was the first time I held a human brain. I held in my hands what was someone's entire life. Every thought they ever had, every person they ever loved, every choice they ever made was right there and it was beautiful. Immediately after I got to hold a heart which is my dream. I want to be a cardiothoracic surgeon. I cried for a long time. I was so excited and overwhelmed. That was everything I could ever dream of and yet someone had to die to give me that experience. I will never forget that moment for as long as I live but I know for sure that I was made to be a surgeon.
One of my (Jon's) favorite movie scenes of all time. Eric's letter to his sister in Chariots of Fire.
I love what I do. I don't think I'd change anything. Excited to see what God has for all of us.
I was made to help people. I've been a 911 dispatcher for 5 years and love every minute of it. to help/touch lives everyday is what I was born to do.
I love helping people in whatever way I can and just being kind and listening to them and giving big hugs 🖒
Mary if you see a chiropractor if you go for a couple of times until they get your neck back to normal you should only have to go once a month or every two months. Should get rid of your headaches. I think your more prone to get headaches because of your coughing.
I was made for working with animals, I'm styding my last year to become a animal care taker/ animal keeper and I love it! I have always had a pasion for animals and working with them just makes me happy 😊
I was born to be a nurse and I love it! My days are not always the brightest or the most cheerful days. My days can be filled with a lot of sorrow and tears. My days ARE filled with reward, rewards that may not be seen from the patient or their families. Just knowing that I had caring moments for every patient that I took care of that day is reward!
I have a digestive disorder that makes me very sick, and I have trouble digesting food. Most people with this condition lose a lot of weight very quickly, but for me, I actually gain weight! It is super-frustrating, and sometimes doctors don't take you seriously when you don't 'look' like you are starving. I've been tracking my meals, and I average about 800 calories a day. I think I need to add some shakes!!! Hope you get things figured out, Mary!
Hi Mary, I think the people commenting were also thinking of going to the chiropractor for an adjustment of your neck. You won't believe how amazing you'll feel....yes....your strong coughing surely could be putting you out of alignment. Our chiropractor has a massage therapist in the office...sometimes I get a massage first then get adjusted but mostly I just get adjusted.
You should definitely try seeing a chiropractor Mary, I know some people view them sorta as quacks but they can use a tens unit to help with muscular issues you could be having with your neck and you'd be AMAZED at how much getting an adjustment can help
I truly believe that I was made to work with preschool age children and nurture them and their families. Even on the days when everything seems to be exhausting and crazy and even heartbreaking. I am now expanding that to volunteering with our church elementary through high school kiddos. I love it.
I was made to be an occupational therapist! I have many health conditions and a degenerative nerve disease that makes me deal with a large amount of chronic pain, but I'm not letting that stop me. I am in an entry level OT program and although I have had to take some time off of school I have flourished since joining this program. I believe that God created me to work with children who have experienced some sort of trauma and need rehabilitative therapy. I fall more and more in love with my field and truly believe I was meant to do this. I am not letting any condition stop me! You are one of my biggest inspirations!! Love you guys and can't thank you enough for all that you do!
can't wait to see the new store products :D
I'm catching up on the last few days since I've been too unwell to watch which always makes me sad! I'm made to live with my horses, to cherish them daily, take care of them (when I was well enough to do this I loved it more than anything), to ride and feel totally free of my wheelchair and health issues, to share the joy with those around me through teaching and the enjoyment of seeing others ride my wonderful horses, to see joy on their faces makes me feel the world is complete! There is nothing in this world I love more than being surrounded by horses, they bring myself and those around me unlimited joy and nothing will ever compare to that feeling! I have loved reading everyone else's comments. Sending love to you all ❤️ xx
A while ago I would have said I was made to be a Mom. My children have grown and have started their own families now and I have refreshed my mind set to me to just be a wife, friend, compassionate listener and grandmother.
For your neck pain, I would recommend a chiropractor. I don't know if y'all have "the joint" where y'all live, but it's a chiropractor that has offices everywhere and you get a key card (like a gym membership) and go when ever and to what ever location you want to go! It's supper great! I have IC and Pelvic Floor Dysfunction and it helps me soooo much!!
Mary, I get a spasm issue with my neck about once a year called torticollis (aka wry neck) and, when I feel it coming on, I stop using my pillow and use, instead, a rolled-up towel under my neck when I sleep. It helps a LOT.
hi! going to a chiropractor might help your neck pain. I have had neck pain from sleeping too and going to the chiropractor really helps! I hope this is helpful to you!
It is so windy here in Kansas that toward the north looks brown in the sky. No fires thank goodness. Have a beautiful Day!💜
I worked for 20 yrs. I'm not permanent disabled. even though I have pain all the time, I actually have been able to spend the time with my son, who is a senior in high school. he is in marching band and I have been able to go to games and contests. something I never had a chance to do while I worked.
I always wondered how Ollie pulls the laudry basket upstairs. Ollie's such a cutie! I hope you guys have a great day tomorrow. :)
My husband had horrible headaches for years. One trip to the chiropractor and his headache issues were gone. He did have to go for follow up appt for a while to keep his adjustment in line while the muscles learned where they should be but he has been headache free for over 5 years. I hope your headache issues are resolved soon.
i was made to be a mom of 4 great girls,a 4H leader and a great listener...i am a former EMT,which i miss doing greatly,but my MS had other plans so now i help my best friend with her insulin shots every day,some days are challenges but i wouldn't trade my life for nothing
traci hilbers Awesome!! I'm an EMT!
I loved being a emt,even got emt of year award but my right hand is affected by my ms and i was trained to do iv's so when my hand got weaker i decided it was time to stop...i take care of my kids and my best friend now for that i am very happy and blessed
In Jewish tradition we recite the Torah on Mondays, Thursdays and Saturdays so that we're never more than three days without the inspiration of G-d's word. #ShabbatShalom guys! *waves from damp old London*
I was made to be a nurse, but sadly my spine wasn't strong enough for the task that G-d called me to do. So now I help my adult friends with special needs and run my Girl Guides instead.
Shabbat Shalom, Penelope.
Thank you! I've been a Girl Guide leader since I was 18, so have been involved as an adult for 34 years. I look after not only my own Unit of Guides but also a whole District (or neighbourhood in the US) as Thor Commissioner too. It's a challenge, but I love it xx
*their Commissioner*!! Why won't UA-cam allow you to edit??
It does allow editing. Have you tried clicking on those 3 little dots on the right side of your comment? The option to edit is there. :-)
+Jay Tee Thank you!! No more "mispronts" from me! xxxx
I was made to help people. I'm taking a degree right now, and hopefully I can work at the hospital. Right now I work in a nursing home for people with dementia, and I love it so much! It brings me so much joy being able to help someone that needs me, and it makes waking up at the crack of dawn so worth it! My goal is to work at the hospital at some point, but in the meantime I'm more than happy to help the elderly and sick at nursing homes❤ I feel so lucky to be able to do what I do.
I was a nurse before my health got bad and I am so much a people person. Loved being on the fire department after high school,enjoyed the hospital and just love people. Dreams can come true.. TFS
Mary you should consider visiting a chiropractor a couple times a month. It will help with neck pain as well as help preventing barrel chest. You never realize how out of alignment you are until you start getting adjusted. Chiro day is my favorite day of the month/week.
I was made to take care of animals. I have always known that I wanted a career that involves being around animals. After being diagnosed with severe mental health issues and training my own service dog to assist me out in public, I decided that I wanted to train service dogs for others who really need them. I am almost done with my dog trainer/instructor course and I am so excited to take the next step!
I've had sad neck, back, and shoulders since high school and I've found that heat therapy works well. I've read that moist heat (hot moist towels) works better than dry heat (hot water bottles and gel packs) but haven't tried moist heat yet. Hopefully you find some relief soon. Also, I went to a chiropractor for a little while but it didn't really help my neck. NECK MANIPULATIONS ARE ALSO RISKIER. Do some research if you're considering it and decide for yourself. Take care!
We have that nasty wind in Connecticut too. It's blowing trees down!
Mary, you do share so much of yourself but I know what you mean. I worked with people with special needs for many years in my nursing career. Most of the ones I worked with had developmental disabilities. I also worked with people needing skilled care such as geriatrics and terminally ill. It's very satisfying and rewarding to know you've been there for that person. I believe God meant that for my life. I certainly had a burn for it. In 1996 I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, which wasn't nearly as severe a level as my major depressive disorder. It took me a while to come to terms with that. I wasn't up to the task of being a nurse anymore. I'd never learned to take care of myself in the process of caring for others. I guess that comes from being one of the second child and oldest daughter of a family with 6 children. I think that served me well, though. I went back to college and got a degree in business but instead of getting involved in an existing business, my lungs decided they didn't like my lifestyle anymore. I was a stress smoker. I developed COPD and was at the point where I was losing my ability to engage in physical activity. Was God done with me? Absolutely not. Now, I'm doing the other thing I feel God gives me a burn for and I still connect with people. I write and have a few books out and I'm here building my own vlog about my life and passing on information about COPD. So, even though you don't get to be physically one on one with people, you are physically making their lives better by sharing and giving them a way to get out of themselves. You share your art and love of Kinder Eggs, Ollie and of course Peter who is a special person of God as well. You two are a gift from our Lord God. Thank you.
perfect timing I just started my nebs and was looking for something to watch on youtube!
Neck Muscles! I am a Kinesiology student and chronic tight neck muscles cause frontal headaches, I don't just know this through school but I get them too! something that helps is taking a tennis ball (but more firm - i like a large bouncy ball) and roll it over those muscles (origin of your trapezius at the occipital protuberance pretty much) but only for a few minutes, don't overdo it! Careful with stretching as it can be tedious and more harmful if not done correctly, don't just throw your neck around because it feels good. Hope this helps!
I was made to help people. Worked 30 years at Social Services, helping the elderly and disabled
I was going to say something yesterday about Mary weight. It worries me. Mary your such an amazing conqueror! 😃
We just finished watching The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe before watching your vlog and when you mentioned one of your favorite parts we all looked at each other and laughed.
Oh I hear you Mary! I love working with children too! I have a daughter with autism, she is older now, and I went through so much with her through the years. This family at our church is just starting there journey with a child with autism. I feel like god made me able to help them and love them. I just love that little girl like she was my own. I feel like god really gave me a mission on this earth, and understanding children with autism is definitely a gift from god.
Can you see a physical therapist for you neck? They will massage you and give you exercises to do to strengthen your neck. I could see how coughing could give you whiplash and hurt your neck.
Mary I. I am Alan RN and suffered with migraines for 8 yrs. until a colleague at work recommended seeing a chiropractor, which I did. He realigned my spine and I have been migraine free for 15 yrs now. Please try a chiropractor for your headaches.
I was meant to be a caregiver.I have 8 grandchildren and 3 adult kids. I'm also a caregiver for 2 adult women that are developmentally disabled. Two of my grandkids and my youngest son have autism. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed and exhausted but I keep on keeping on.
I was made to do agility, currently not that good at it but I dreamed of doing it a long time ago and then became poorly but battled back and now train and compete in my wheelchair. Tomorrow is my first agility class with my SDIT, my older dog retired last September :)
It also led me to finding my two best friends, I couldn't have nicer people in my life and my club even helped raise money for my new wheelchair
thank you, he did really really well today, my trainer was very impressed :)
Mary I already left a comment but I forgot to say, there are U shaped neck massagers with heat too if that helps. My rheumatologist has me wearing a soft neck collar/ brace sometimes for another kind of pain but it might help your pain too.You could wear it to bed.
I've been a massage therapist for 19 years. I love making people feel better!
Hi Mary, I have a question! Are there any videos where you describe whether or not you identify as having a disability? I'm chronically ill/have a disability and am trying to decide whether or not I want to use "person with a disability," "disabled person," or something else. I'm just curious to hear your thoughts :) Thanks!
I was created to help and work with kids! I'm just finishing up my BA degree in Early Childhood Development! It's a challenge right now to finish up this degree, you know when your almost at the end of a goal obstacles are always there to try and take you away from achieving that goal! Anyways great question!
Live in New Orleans. I grew up in Wisconsin and moved to New Orleans a year ago. I think everything I have went through in the past has prepared me for my life here. I moved here and everything in my life has fallen into place.
Yes Docket is a proper word, the definition is (a calendar or list of cases for trial or people having cases pending) I'm sure you already knew that, I just can't really tell if you were being sarcastic because of my TBI but just incase you really didn't know lol. I had to learn to speak, read and write over again after my TBI so I like to look it up if I don't know, and I didn't ether.
Peter I agree CS Lewis is amazing. Those movies are my absolute favorite. Make me cry every time. I love how much he incorporates the Bible into his movies for kids and all really. 🌸🌼🌺 praying for you guys. Love to you.🐾
Mary, about the headaches-have you talked to your doctor about running an arterial blood gas to see if you are retaining carbon dioxide? Especially when you sleep. If your CO2 level is rising when you sleep it will cause you to wake up with that killer headache due to the change in CO2/O2 pressure. It was happening to me so my doctor put me on a bi-pap. High CO2 can also be toxic to your brain and can be a common thing with CF