Japanese Guys Share REALITY of Dating Singaporean Girls
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- Опубліковано 18 чер 2024
- We are Japanese guys in a relationship with Singaporean girls. Here are our thoughts. Book Chikuyotei from this link! It's one of my favorite Japanese restaurants in Singapore. www.chikuyoteisg.com/
We talk about what it's really like dating/marrying a Singaporean woman and shared some of our dating culture shocks. Japanese girls are typically quite different from Singaporean girls and because of our cultural differences, we occasionally clash. What's going on in our minds and how do we conquer the cultural differences?
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Chapters:
00:00 Video Highlight
00:52 Today's Restaurant, Chikuyotei
02:45 Singaporean Girl - Biggest Culture Shock
08:05 We are bullied..?
14:19 My Wife Scolded Me
16:53 Japanese vs Singaporean Girls
20:26 Some Difficulties of Dating Singaporean Girls
25:33 Singaporean Wife Scolds Us
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His accent is so unique, I've NEVER heard such a strong mix of Japanese and Singaporean accent 👁️👄👁️
I was thinking the same!!! His Singlish is strong!!!
It seemed like he learnt English here.
As a Japanese, I don't understand his strong accent. It sounds like Singlish.
@@akihiro6635 its not fully singaporean maybe his pronunciation is more japanese
He came to Singapore for university and has been here for around 4 years. I met him in y1 and he had a much stronger Japanese accent
The most hilarious part of this is that his wife came along to listen
I think you misspelled scary
That’s why My right ear hurts
Yes man!!! This interview is damn funny but 2 weeks of dating and meeting for whole family is really fast! And I am a Singaporean Chinese !!!
Need camera woman😂
His wife will be like "Aku perhatikan aje"
His Japanese friend should do more videos with him as they are both very funny together! 2 Japanese men speaking Singlish is hilarious. 😂😂
IM DYING OF LAUGHTER! I like how the conversations goes from marriage to introducing what the chef has prepared over and over again. The transitions crack me UP
It's so funny, unique and aborable hearing two Japanese guys speaking to each other in Singlish, hahaha!
Sho's singlish is more "singlish' than Ghib's
This is the funniest video that you've ever uploaded. I laughed out loud SO many times. Thanks Ghib!
Agreed! I just commented to say the same before I read this comment. Really funny video ,,👍
U laughed cuz u experienced the same thing? Hahaha
Am an sg girl and can't help but agree to most of the points; straightforward (and abit nit-picky), family oriented, like to do things together as couple. However, think the point about showing on social media might be more of Gen Z, mainly is want to announce the relationship (same with bringing bf/gf to family gatherings). The giving of allowance to parents when we start working is a gesture to show filial piety especially since we had lived off our parents for 10-20 years of our lives or have paid for school fees etc. Some parents are quite kind and save this money and give back to their children when they need money for house or having kids etc. (Sadly) On the other hand, there are also parents who treat children as investments that will provide for them when they are old.
Yes, everything in Sg is straightforward, including Singlish.
No beating about the bush
😉🇸🇬
Most Asians do not treat their children as investment. They only ask their kids to provide for them when they are old because they feel vulnerable and lonely. Providing and looking after your elderly parents is an honorable and moral thing to do. It is being grateful for their love and care all these years, then showing them your love and appreciation.
Expecting them to be independent and fend for themselves are what some Westerners think (less so for South Western Europeans) which most Gen Z are heavily influenced by now. You don't understand it now but maybe you will when you get to their age i.e. when you are old, jobless, vulnerable and sickly. As a person age, one usually desire to connect more with their indigenous culture and values, thus have a greater understanding of why those values come about. Young people however, are more influenced by the current dominant foreign culture because they tend to seek out new and different things which they find more interesting and exciting.
Such a fun video! It was indeed a very good conversion about dating SG girls! Maybe the next time you can do what SG girls think about dating Japanese men!
About giving money to parents it's more towards like paying back what they have done for us and also they are old and not earning anymore. So it's a form of respect and thanking for their hard work in taking care of us. We do that in Malaysia too.
I wanna visit Chikuyotei soon! Food looks super delicious! 😋
I think Sho is really funny and relatable. Would definitely love to see more of him! 🤣
Yes I agree. Laughed so much listening to him sharing about his experiences
Sho is a funny guy.. U should invite him more 😂
Funny video 😂 Kimono Mom is coming to Singapore this May and they're looking for someone to help with their tour. I'll be absolutely delighted if there's a collaboration video seeing Kimono Mom and her family enjoying Singapore food and culture ❤
Yes!! Please do a Collab I'll be so damn happy to watch man
@@RonLarhz whats wrong with being a good wife? can you stop being judgmental to what others want to do, so uninclusive and unaccepting to lifestyle choices of others
@@RonLarhz huh why you have this impression? What is it that triggered you? I watched her for years. Maybe there is something that triggered you?
Great idea ... did it happen?
Ghib, this is damn funny! Pls film a follow up version with your wife (and other SG girls) to talk about reality of dating or marrying a Japanese guy. Then only fair mah!
Not bad is a compliment because it comes from the way Hokkien people compliment someone else's abilities or work which is "Boey pai leh!" The intonation accentuates the degree of appreciation.
This video really made me laugh! Must admit that there is truth in what was commented. There is usually a 'boss' in the family dynamics. Show of appreciation and humility to apologise helps in relationships. Token to parents is a gesture of filial piety as they age. Any amount that family is comfortable with.
私はシンガポールに31年住んでいます。シンガポールの女性はいい意味で自立していると思います。日本の女性も強さはあると思います。それは思っていても言わない強さ、その人が好きだから言わないでおこうみたいな。だから喧嘩したとき、あのときこうだったでしょみたいな事になると思います。女性はどちらにしろ、強い生き物だと私は思っています😄😄😄。この動画すごく面白かったです。これからもがんばってください。💕
Hahaha, I laughed out loud when you said 'fruitful conversation' at the end while eating fruit. How apt. I think my Japanese husband would agree to most of what you guys mentioned. But we've managed to adapt and balance things out over time so he has his own space and time, while I have mine and we also have family time together. And no la, I don't treat him as a 'dog' and he would never allow me to also.
The food at Chikuyotei looks amazing… salivating as I watch the funny comedy duo 😂
Thanks for the laughter! I do agree, most Singaporeans are welcoming and open to treating 'potential candidates' like family. Most of us are also more candid especially when we're familiar with you. Really interesting video!
Sho uses the word "sia", very cute n very Singaporean..really enjoyed this video!
I always love watching your videos, your food recommendation is fantastic. 😊
It’s damn funny and entertaining. Thank you! 🤣
this two guys are so hilarious, really funny, made me laugh so much. really cute . their english is really so sporean. hahaha, i really enjoy this show.
Quite comical siah this video! 🤣🤣 Nice one ghib, was interesting to hear Sho-san's opinions hahaha
I laughed so much 😂😂😂 Thanks Ghib for the quality content as always!!! ❤️
Thanks for sharing this video, it is funny because of the honesty in the "interview".
Obviously not every relationship/couple is the same, different generations also approach relationships differently.
Key factor when looking for a partner is that you are not looking for the perfect person, instead, you are looking for the person that is perfect for you.
The video discuss more about the day to day and cultural differences, those are really funny and interesting, but always understand that without honesty/trust and respect, there cannot be any longlasting or meaningful relationship.
Regarding the question about taking care of parents, that is just the basis of Chinese culture in confucius teachings.
Filial piety is the most important among all virtues "百善孝为先".
Giving money is not the only way, but it is common in Singapore.
Really funny video. Loved the natural and relax vibes!
Haha I'm so glad Ghib's wife went along! Excellent for a balanced view. "You all very good meh?" 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lol I got teary from your video, not sure if it's because I was laughing so hard or it's because I can totally relate with you..
Generally, Singaporean Girls work and so it become a must for couple to share household chores. And I think Some Singapore guys may just enjoy cooking. And because Singapore is a multi racial , multi-religion and multi cultural country. We mix around so much and have to ask questions about other culture/religion which I think is part of why Singaporean couples are more straight forward.
Whereas ppl from a single cultural background, only know of one culture, traditions and rules.
Good to see Sho-san again.
This was super hilarious. Enjoyed it thoroughly.🤣😂
Yes! I totally agree with the "mottainai" idea.
I always wondered why us Chinese have to go all out into the extreme and buy everything in bulk.
Just look at how much wastage at the end of every festive (especially CNY) or family gatherings. Every time order so much food... end up who eat? I eat. Then I fat. Then say I growing fat.
My fellow men, it's time we make a stand and put a stop to us being the "不要浪费" dustbin.
I cook a lot of food for CNY, but it is stored in the fridge, and I just reheat and eat whatever is left over the next few days
No wastage at all
It came from our past history with famines and starvation, so it's our Chinese culture to show that we are eating well. Not the most logical way of thinking so yes I think we should be less wasteful.
The grandma makes a big bowl of soup because that's her way of showing her generosity, love and acceptance of the granddaughter's boyfriend. Older folks don't express their love as much in words but more in actions. No, we don't waste food at festivals either. Leftovers are pack up in boxes and split amongst relatives to take home for consumption. Excess of food during CNY is meant to signify abundance and prosperity. Chinese people like to express good vibes and wishes in symbolism.
Im your new follower🥰living here in jpn for almost 25yrs😊
i found your vlog
so interesting.
This episode is so funnyyy!!! It’s so true!
We always give our parents every month. 😊 it’s a good Asean gesture because we also living under their house. Singapore is not a cheap place to stay. Most of the married/unmarried adults here still live with their parents. We did it also because we want to help lessen the burden of our parents by helping to pay for the house bills and groceries once we received our salaries.
I f u live in USA, after u turn 18, they kick u out.
Even if we don't live together, it is still a nice gesture to give.
a lot of the times our parents also fund our education and living expenses until we have stepped out to society to work, so I think giving parents money every month is also to show our own gratitude to the parents. This is especially important since Chinese families value filial piety. Also, my parents gave up a lot to ensure we children have a good life without worries, and they don't earn much to begin, so giving them some money during their old age also ensures that they have some savings for retirement/whatever they wish to spend on (like holidays, personal hobbies, etc.) :)
@Judy Mckee Asian is different from the Western. Sorry to say it creates many social problems.
@@lenangjf well say.... remember we can NEVER out give our parents. Their love for us is priceless and simply awesome .
to avoid conflict, interracial couple must study both side culture differences and values thoroughly and
know how to forgive and forget.
Correct, just that as 华人 we are blessed with slightly more advantage when dealing with Japanese, Korean and Vietnamese
Really love this video hahaha
Delicious food, delicious conversation
11:54 Sho's Singlish is power!!!!
Super like this vid!!
Interesting video! Very very funny I kept laughing 😂😂😂😂
Both natural..comedian..haha...very honest And Funny..
Not Bad = 不错 in Chinese, which if you copy that into google translate, it means good. So in SG Not Bad is a direct translate from the Chinese word, rather than the original English meaning. It's more of Singlish word.
This is so funny, you should do more of this! 😂 on relationships!
You guys should coin a new linguistic term: Sing-Jap-lish? Jap-Sing-lish?
Pretty cute and endearing to listen to.
とても興味深く面白かったです。
次回はシンガポールの男性とお付き合いしている日本人女性が、どう思っているのか知りたいです。
I used to give a few hundreds to my mum every month as a gesture to thank her for bringing me up, but she stop receiving from me ever since I had kids. I feel in Singapore we are close to our families also because we stay with our parents till we get married and leave the house. Since it is such a small country, we still visit them often after. It may be harder in Japan where people live and work in different cities and meeting up becomes an annual affair.
My husband and i watched this video together and found most of the things they said about SG girls totally relatable. We had a good laugh. ps my hubby is still undergoing training as well
This is hilarious. I think that Singaporeans are generally more forth-coming with their views and expressions as compared to Japanese, especially the women. To me, a fruitful relationship is one where you share your thoughts and concerns with. Japanese are more reserved. Hence, the lack of communication between husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends. It's also true when you're with the other members of family. That is why Ghib loves his in-laws so much. Good for you!
Agree. It is also true that Singaporeans are less expressive with our compliments. We can do better in this aspect cos we all need encouragement to do better, and not just have our flaws highlighted. I think it's great if couples can learn how to express our feelings and thoughts more so as to establish better understanding. We are trying to do that in our work. Ghib want to come and test our course?
Sho is so bloody funny. Ghib, u hv a new gd fren! Both of u sama sama!
My husband still argues with me occasionally 😂😂 but anyway it's good that we can finally see Sho-san eat and enjoy everything.
Hey ghib, nice haircut! That reminded me of your old videos where u attempted to get a singaporean style haircut (there isnt really a definitive haircut by the way LOL), but the shops kind of botched it up. This one is pretty good! Would be nice to do a haircut video again (doesnt have to be at a barber's lol), for old times sake! 😁
Funny episode. I am a Chinese married to a Chinese in Malaysia... i can understand completely the experience. It is the same for us.
It depends on how much the earning power. The higher u earn, give more. E.g if earn 10,000 monthly, give abt 1 - 2,000. Its a gesture to show gratitude to our parents for bringing us up n sending us to school n University. If married, also give them for looking after grandchild, cook dinners!
Love your video, good luck 😊
True. If you earn more, give more to parents. Not about money but a gesture of gratitude ❤️
You guys were so funny… and you guys actually sound so Singaporean… 😂😂😂
Thanks for the recommendation. Will definitely check out the restaurant! 🍣
Sho sounds so singaporean at times. Amazing.
“Everyday I try to be a better version of me.” 😂
The food looks so delicious!
Funny topic!! Hahaha, finally Sho-san can eat something!!
this ep was so funny xD
alright, we need an episode on the ladies talking about dating Japanese!!
Ghib I like yr way of describing yr status before n after! Hilarious!
The intro to friends and family part + social media is also a way to show commitment to the rs. If you're dating someone and they don't intro u to their friends and family, that's a definite red flag. Although i do agree 2 weeks is a tad too early.
Omg chikuyotei!!!!
BEST Video so far! Not bad means you can do better! I’m a BIG fan of your mil, that’s exactly us SG girls As mothers we train our sons to listen to mom and when they get married to listen to wife! we started to give parents of $50 each then slowly to increase to $500 monthly 😊
Yes we give to our parents monthly allowance, thanking them for bringing us up, maybe about 10-20 percent of our salary
Haha this is so funny, esp the washing dishes part. Ya, agree with your wife "teach you good ways" lol.
wife: 'you all very good meh?'
2 guy in the room: 🐶?! 🐶?!
New subscriber here & I laugh-died watching this 😂
as a sgporean i have never dated before, but I think it's very odd to introduce to family so early, I see people around me usually do so when the relationship is at the stage where you feel your partner is the one you are going to marry. I don't know if sg girls are controlling, but I think that really depends
This episode is so funny. One of the funniest of all I watched from ghib ojisan. Thank you for the good laugh watching this.
Bloody funny episode! Wonder whether SG girls nowsaday are like what you guys described!
As a Singaporean girl, I can agree it's kinda true what they said, seeing my parents and how my dad always getting scolded by my mom and how couples around me were like that too😂😂😂😂 Singaporeans girls are like that one 😭😂
Really funny conversation
It is a pretty good format. Go to a nice restaurant so we know about it, but also focus on interesting topics, such as slice-of-life stuff like this!
Keep it up!
Love the video!! Funny conversations about dating and married life and the food looks awesome. Yeah, it's true we give our parents allowance out of filial piety, especially when they retire. We also pay for their holidays or give them more pocket money during holidays, CNY and their birthdays. It shows our love and care for them. They have worked hard to raise us so we want to reciprocate. I'm so surprised to know that Japanese children do not give their parents. Sounds like Japanese married life is still patriarchal, and not equal. I don't think Sg women can ever be so submissive to their men. We also have our own life, work, community to care for, besides family. Keep up your good work Ghib!
I give 15% of my salary to my parents even though they have money to support themselves. It is just a culture that we have to repay what they spent on us when were young.
I am married to German and has been living here for 7 years. I totally agree with their comments , SG girls are independant
, straight forward and we don't follow our husbands or partners. What I learnt from Germans are they rarely say Sorry even they do mistakes But my hubby started learning this culture. Feel blessed !
do more of this sharing... 😂😂😂
Your conversation 😂😂😂...when you mentioned the price 😮😮😮
The best video ever..... lol..
1. No I don't post a lot to social media
2. Yes I always hit my husband
3. I will redo the house work he did if I really cannot 'tahan' the imperfection cause he will stop doing if I nag too much.
Sg girls are being honest with themselves n the people around them. They are straight talker. No beating round the bush, thus builds a stronger relationship .
that's why so many have to beat their own bush
I'm a Singaporean living in Japan with my Japanese husband. It will be interesting to see what are his views on this video. Hurhurhur...
A big Hi to you from Singapore. Hope all’s going well for you and your loved ones. 🙏🏻😊
In sg, there is a popular sayings by the old folks that goes 养儿防老. Which means raising your son as a protection for old age. And so it is expected for the kids to take care of their parents when they are old. One of the way to show their filial piety is to give some money to the parents every month. There is no fixed guidelines to say how much one should give though, just like the Angbao money you give to the young ones every chinese new year. You can say it is token of gratitude to them for raising you up. It is a form of 饮水思源, which means thinking of the source when you are drinking the water. I am rather surprised the japanese did not pick this up, as their culture is deep rooted in Confucian thinking too.
Hi Ghib n Sho san,,, wahh you really sound like singaporean when you speak in english sho san,, 死んでも い 、, when u said that after a good meal, おもろかった😂🤣、とにかく、ほんとに 楽しいかた、、美味しい もの
見たら 食べたいね, nice vlog Ghib, 👍😬🍣🍺
🤣🤣🤣🤣👍👍👍👏👏you guys are funny, like your video so so so much
im singaporean...and it's exactly the same for me...BUT im not married to a singaporean girl...BUT one that has been for over 10 years...the culture just seeps through and they absorb it lol
So funny. Ghib San says initially equal. Then he diminished to the floor and his wife elevated into the sky. 🤣🤣
Both of you are so cute and frank.😊.
Interesting fact is that we do have a Maintenance of parents act here. If parents above 60 are not receiving allowance from their children in the event they are unable to work, they can go to court to legally claim their rights to get allowance from their children every month. Of course this will need to be done to prove that parents have provided to the children's welfare when they were growing up. This also means damaging the relationship between both parties..
Hey, Ojib. Are you aware that not only you have been living in Singapore 🇸🇬 for so long, you are picking up various Singaporean habits, mannerisms and accents as well 🤣😂😁😆
next video... japanese girl dating Singaporean guy!
結婚以外でも文化の違いを乗り越えるのって確かに難しいよな。
the contribution to parents depends on the needs of each family. Eg, my parents do not have insurance hence I will give more for them to save up for rainy days. So yes, what your wife indicated is pretty much aligned with my contribution (S$1k/mth).
One smart guy in this video. Not difficult to guess who right away 😂
Relationship in japan maybe like sashimi you can be cut off from the whole. In SG like natto. Love me, love my family and friends 😂😂😂
You two are so funny. You talk with a Singaporean accent too.
I find it strange that usually when sharing food with japanese people. Usually nobody would want to finish the last piece. I asked my wife why she is its 遠えん慮りょのかたまり...
It’s the same in SG though. It’s called paiseh piece.