Matthew Hussey - Set Better Intentions and Break Unhealthy Dating Habits | Prof G Conversations

Поділитися
Вставка
  • Опубліковано 21 лис 2024

КОМЕНТАРІ • 42

  • @Roan-xj1mg
    @Roan-xj1mg 6 місяців тому +32

    I think Daniel Radcliffe is mostly right. But online dating has clearly been advantageous for women only (and maybe 5% of men).
    As a regular guy, online dating is quite depressing

    • @snoopyboobs
      @snoopyboobs 6 місяців тому

      Online dating is no good for anyone.

    • @kyleolson9636
      @kyleolson9636 6 місяців тому +2

      It's far more than 5% of men who have an easy time on dating apps. I was divorced, a 6/7 in attractiveness, a 24 BMI, 6'3", and 80th percentile in income at the age of 30, making me perhaps at the lower end of the top 25%. Dating online was insanely easy in the top 25%. Everyone I dated, including the one I married, I would have considered out of my league without the help of the apps.
      I agree a man in the bottom 50% probably has a hopeless situation in the world of online dating, but far more than 5% have it quite easy on these apps.

    • @dee-jay45
      @dee-jay45 6 місяців тому +2

      Yes, but Matthew mostly coaches women and sees things from their perspective too. And I think that's important to understand in dating. Both genders are needed for a positive outcomes. Just because women hold all the power in modern dating, doesn't mean they can't be unhappy too.
      Sure, I think most will agree that the situation for average guys is worse. And I can understand the frustration that comes from that. But if you want to fix the problem, you can't just tell women to "make better choices". You need to show/tell them how. And that's what Matthew is doing.

    • @user-mu7vv7gb9f
      @user-mu7vv7gb9f 6 місяців тому

      😂

    • @raidtheairwaves42
      @raidtheairwaves42 6 місяців тому

      It’s not you bro, it’s the apps algorithm.a decent amount of guys are quality. For women there’s always an ambiguity about a guys worth that only certainty like height or income or socialability can make them like your profile pic. These apps only incentivize looking a perfect way and not being real. You swipe right on all women because that’s what’s most important to a guy. Companies at MTCH look at these human dynamics and exploit them like hell. Any sane man would swipe right on a pretty woman, and any sane woman would doubt the value of a man. The problem is that good answers to whether two people connect beyond the superficial datapoints is to put them in a room for more than 5 minutes without any of them having to flee during a moment of discomfort. Imagine if the date stopped after the first awkward silent, then we would have a miserable society right?

  • @StuartFingerhut
    @StuartFingerhut 6 місяців тому +5

    The "rushing" section hit home so hard 🔨 I never thought or had it framed like that 🎯💯

    • @theProfgShowscottgalloway
      @theProfgShowscottgalloway 6 місяців тому

      Thanks for supporting! Checkout clips and highlights for more engaging content.

  • @NewBeginnings2.0
    @NewBeginnings2.0 5 місяців тому +2

    He's got such long winded answers it's impossible to sift for the gold.. Defo zoned out.

  • @Madskidzz
    @Madskidzz 6 місяців тому +11

    If you’re a guy in the west go overseas don’t waste time dating in the west. There are options galore if you explore.

    • @contracthit9839
      @contracthit9839 5 місяців тому

      Galloway is afraid of that subject

    • @Madskidzz
      @Madskidzz 5 місяців тому +2

      Not sure why it’s literally the best option for most dudes

    • @tom_123
      @tom_123 3 місяці тому

      It’s true that dating outside the West has benefits, but you have be comfortable being with someone with whom you won’t ever be able to share nuanced aspects of a ‘shared culture’ - and this applies to both sides. It’s difficult to express exactly what I mean.

    • @Madskidzz
      @Madskidzz 3 місяці тому

      @@tom_123 I’ve never had that issue. In fact I’ve always felt more connected to women abroad.

  • @rda0013
    @rda0013 6 місяців тому +2

    In the words of one of out great philosophers of our time, Kelly Clarkson: "Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone"

    • @snoopyboobs
      @snoopyboobs 6 місяців тому

      Aristotle “ just because you’re not lonely when alone, does not mean you’re not a horrible person and nobody likes you!”

  • @aluuusch
    @aluuusch 4 місяці тому

    I recommend every guy to do A/B testing on his own profile. Try to check the difference it makes if you change photos, profession, height, bio, etc. But of course, one after the other to see it's respective effect.
    What I found was that the only difference by changing one of these features was in photos. 0 visible effect had profession (put a "senior" in front of my job title), height (had added 10cm to be in 10% of tallest men), bio (changed it to serious to funny).

  • @sherribarman915
    @sherribarman915 6 місяців тому +1

    Pay attention folks!

  • @baffinsansterre
    @baffinsansterre 6 місяців тому +2

    "Women would be soo much happier if men were better." ― MH (sarcasm)

  • @tom_123
    @tom_123 3 місяці тому

    ‘Identity matrix’ is such an unappealing expression.

  • @louiseobrien2010
    @louiseobrien2010 6 місяців тому +4

    The divorce rate went up dramatically during COVID-19

  • @maxr2663
    @maxr2663 6 місяців тому +6

    Where is his scar?

    • @stevechance150
      @stevechance150 6 місяців тому

      It actually took me a bit to get that.

  • @ArneAsada69
    @ArneAsada69 6 місяців тому +3

    Dude uses too many words, I zone out after a while.

  • @raidtheairwaves42
    @raidtheairwaves42 6 місяців тому

    It’s not you bro, it’s the apps algorithm.a decent amount of guys are quality. For women there’s always an ambiguity about a guys worth that only certainty like height or income or socialability can make them like your profile pic. These apps only incentivize looking a perfect way and not being real. You swipe right on all women because that’s what’s most important to a guy. Companies at MTCH look at these human dynamics and exploit them like hell. Any sane man would swipe right on a pretty woman, and any sane woman would doubt the value of a man. The problem is that good answers to whether two people connect beyond the superficial datapoints is to put them in a room for more than 5 minutes without any of them having to flee during a moment of discomfort. Imagine if the date stopped after the first awkward silent, then we would have a miserable society right?

  • @SingleMalt77005
    @SingleMalt77005 6 місяців тому

    What is Hussey's relationship status?

  • @aluuusch
    @aluuusch 4 місяці тому

    Idk. It seems here this narrative is fabricated to get attraction.
    If we talk about the mis ratio on those dating apps between the two sex, why is never mentioned anyting about that way larger part of women who is NOT on dating apps. Where do those women meet anyone?

  • @contracthit9839
    @contracthit9839 5 місяців тому

    Galloway has no academic credentials in the human behavioral sciences and is profoundly undereducated in this field...

  • @DutchinBrazil
    @DutchinBrazil 6 місяців тому +3

    He talks like a woman, biz/money, relationship, sport, every topicmon UA-cam

    • @snoopyboobs
      @snoopyboobs 6 місяців тому

      Scott is super online and works with a narcissistic women who has poisoned him. Women speak is the way online and newspapers etc talk these days. In real life people are still pretty normal. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with women or men in particular just that our online focus distorts reality.

  • @rosswardrop465
    @rosswardrop465 5 місяців тому

    Juat stay single.To many Golddiggers.

  • @mandb97
    @mandb97 6 місяців тому +1

    There is too much here. If you are older and and you are single, my advice is stop dating. Live your life with complete freedom. If you listen to Mr. Hussey you will twist yourself into a pretzel. We have either dated or married and it has not worked out. Stop trying and just live. Don't date you will wind up kicking your arse again.

  • @eriksyring
    @eriksyring 5 місяців тому

    A not productive conversation between two men who don’t know that humans live in tribes, not couples.