How To Set Strong BOUNDARIES With Others! [4 Steps]

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  • @ChristinaLopes
    @ChristinaLopes  3 роки тому +53

    💥 NEXT UP: Sensitive People: Use This ONE Strategy To Conquer Harsh Energies!: ua-cam.com/video/iwG-_PDWgqw/v-deo.html

    • @shumeister1059
      @shumeister1059 3 роки тому +6

      Oh Christina Lopes, you're one of the most hard hitting UA-camr. You bring hard wisdom to swallow, but so needed. It's hard to change, but I appreciate it. Much gratitude!

    • @deeptinext
      @deeptinext 3 роки тому +2

      Hi dear lovely beautiful Christina.. can you please make a video on how to transmute heavy energy into love and compassion around us?

    • @christinecruz3221
      @christinecruz3221 3 роки тому +1

      Hi Christina, do you ever collaborate with someone else to do videos? I would love to do one with you.

    • @thecatwoman6496
      @thecatwoman6496 3 роки тому

      Thank you so much Christina💖🙏

    • @thecatwoman6496
      @thecatwoman6496 3 роки тому +1

      How do people deal with people who ask outright, but very ‘innocently’, personal questions that you don’t care to share with others? I often feel trapped in to answering because I don’t know how to reply without seeming rude.

  • @HIXHAM
    @HIXHAM 3 роки тому +139

    Lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect

    • @selinajacquemai3072
      @selinajacquemai3072 3 роки тому

      Thank you I'll totally remember that

    • @amen4950
      @amen4950 3 роки тому

      Okay

    • @catlove5227
      @catlove5227 3 роки тому

      Yes all my life, only respect me if they want something for themselves

  • @purposewithangelina7976
    @purposewithangelina7976 3 роки тому +193

    Sometimes happiness looks like staying home, minding your business, telling people NO and doing YOU! 💪🏿😍❤

    • @JULALAINE
      @JULALAINE 3 роки тому +5

      Just being you is home... If we have no healthy boundaries the energies are scattered.😆

    • @PM-dl1iu
      @PM-dl1iu 3 роки тому +8

      @@JULALAINE that was deep. Now I see why I always want to stay home. I want to stay with myself. And I lose that around others.

    • @michaeld.williamsiii9026
      @michaeld.williamsiii9026 3 роки тому +4

      Amen I needed this personally lately @PurposeWithAngelina I’ve had to walk away from several friendships, connections, even family connections. For my own peace of mind, after being burned, not mutually valued, and looking from within my own self...♥️🙏🏾♥️

    • @kurrentevent
      @kurrentevent 3 роки тому +1

      At this point...

    • @natalieethier702
      @natalieethier702 3 роки тому

      I love this! I do it frequently!

  • @jeffbray190
    @jeffbray190 3 роки тому +83

    When you have a childhood of violence and neglect all three chackras are shut down, l lived 60 years without boundaries its been hell on earth Christina you are blessing from God thank you

    • @KarolineLovesArcane
      @KarolineLovesArcane 3 роки тому +2

      Poor guy and I hope you take care of yourself from the people who hurt you. Take care and namaste.

    • @ruby-qv5bd
      @ruby-qv5bd 3 роки тому +1

      I can relate to this. I didn't have many boundaries for myself either. I sure see how that has hurt me all along. Whew!

    • @gwenpogue4644
      @gwenpogue4644 3 роки тому +1

      I didn't realize I've been doing this since childhood..I also dealt with similar things such as violence and neglect....Shes so helpful. We deserve to be treated like gold....

  • @HIXHAM
    @HIXHAM 3 роки тому +173

    Remember that saying "No" is a complete sentence

  • @arlethagarcia-guzman3191
    @arlethagarcia-guzman3191 3 роки тому +96

    I had a lack of boundaries since I was a child. Now it seems I'm releasing an organ to a necessary surgery because of this life long and once unconscious habit. I spent all of last year learning how to set and practice boundaries and I feel so much stronger, more independent and more confident. I live a new and more empowered life. My journey continues! Thank you for sharing this video.

    • @MsBernadettex
      @MsBernadettex 3 роки тому

      Good for you you. Hope you are having a good day wherever you are ❤️

    • @cynthiaostrowski5133
      @cynthiaostrowski5133 3 роки тому

      💕❤👍🌼

    • @lisas.1002
      @lisas.1002 3 роки тому

      Sending blessings for good health mentally + physically 🧘

    • @seeratkk7231
      @seeratkk7231 2 роки тому

      Gallbladder ??

  • @HealingDaysOracle
    @HealingDaysOracle 3 роки тому +91

    💞 If you are reading this, remember that you are a beautiful person, who deserves much love! 💞

  • @AjayKumar-bi3dp
    @AjayKumar-bi3dp 3 роки тому +142

    WHAT ARE BOUNDARIES? 2:22
    - Boundaries are not barriers 2:34
    - Boundaries are rules of engagement or rules of connection 4:19
    - The rules I have on how I want other people to treat me. 4:41
    Some features of boundaries:-
    1. Boundaries change 6:21
    - foundation of boundaries is self love and self respect. 8:23
    2. Boundaries reinforce sovereignty 8:48
    3. Boundaries show self love. 9:28
    4. Boundaries give power 10:57
    WHY IS IT HARD TO SET BOUNDARIES? 13:03
    - difficulty setting boundaries has to do with energy weakness 14:00
    - Three energy weakness/blocks that occur within you 14:28
    1) Solar plexus/third chakra weakness 14:43
    ( centre of personal power and will, gives sense of personal identity/uniqueness in the world)
    2) Heart chakra block 18:41
    3) Throat chakra weakness 20:41
    HOW TO SET BOUNDARIES 25:01
    Follow these 4 steps process in order as written here
    1) List boundaries violation 25:23
    1.1) How would I like the people around me to treat me? 27:05
    1.2) How am I treated by the people around me? (Write without excusing others) 28:25
    1.3) At what specific times have I allowed my boundaries to be violated even though I was feeling uncomfortable? 30:36
    2) Developing the 3rd chakra or solar plexus 34:34
    Some affirmations to work with 3rd chakra 37:30
    - "I am powerful."
    - "I am the owner of my body."
    -"I am the commander of my life."
    3) Self love + Self respect 39:15
    -connect to source through the heart 39:43
    -affirmations like "I deeply love and honor myself". "I deserve to receive abundance from UNIVERSE". "I honor my own needs." 41:10
    4) Develop the throat chakra 43:00
    - Clear communication 47:54
    - Eliminate certain people from your life 49:45
    - Establishing your independence 54:30

  • @kori_88
    @kori_88 3 роки тому +53

    I was 31 before I understood what healthy boundaries were and that I didn’t really have any. It’s been 2 years and still working on it 🤞🏼

    • @natalieethier702
      @natalieethier702 3 роки тому +1

      I wish you all the best, and Good Luck KB! I am turning 35 soon, and I sure was tested hard with my boundaries this year. Intuition not to be mixed with emotion is something that must be leaned on, and listened too!

  • @Journey.8226
    @Journey.8226 3 роки тому +62

    Seriously can’t say how much I need this. I let myself go without boundaries. Well we won’t go there what happen next.

  • @AjayKumar-bi3dp
    @AjayKumar-bi3dp 3 роки тому +50

    These days Universe teaching me to show gratitude towards all those who helped me so far to reach so far in this Spiritual journey.
    So here I am heartedly grateful to you and your channel, for giving me knowledge of spirituality to help myself come out of sufferings in life.🙏🤩

    • @saranyasree8528
      @saranyasree8528 3 роки тому +1

      Same is the case with me too..

    • @selinajacquemai3072
      @selinajacquemai3072 3 роки тому +1

      Definitely I can totally relate

    • @atamvallabh2895
      @atamvallabh2895 3 роки тому

      I want to say the exact written above @christina THANK YOUUUUUUUUUUU GIRL ...you are so authentic and RELATABLE 👼🙏🏼😘😘😘😘😘😘😘

    • @AjayKumar-bi3dp
      @AjayKumar-bi3dp 3 роки тому

      @@atamvallabh2895 I am boy not girl

    • @atamvallabh2895
      @atamvallabh2895 3 роки тому

      @@AjayKumar-bi3dp so what does it has to do with connecting with other fellow soul ?

  • @jazzyj819
    @jazzyj819 3 роки тому +24

    I have digestion issues and pain on my solar plexus area this all makes so much sense now

    • @Lauren-zt8dc
      @Lauren-zt8dc 3 роки тому +6

      I have digestive problems and anxiety..I'm realizing I get this after I have boundaries violated ..this is just starting to make sense 🙏💚🌼

  • @amybartholomew87
    @amybartholomew87 3 роки тому +12

    I also find that if someone does not have well established boundaries that they lack respect for other’s boundaries too

    • @i..am..
      @i..am.. 8 місяців тому +1

      I hear you, I'm waiting to see if this guy I'm dating is capable of respecting my boundaries. He wasn't taught proper boundaries and I get it I'm learning too. But I'm not sacrificing my peace to accommodate his lack of respect. He can grow up or I'll make room for someone who respects me and brings something good to my life.

  • @mirelladlima5278
    @mirelladlima5278 3 роки тому +4

    "I honour my own needs" That's a real gem of a Mantra.🙏

  • @joycelawson2249
    @joycelawson2249 3 роки тому +1

    I have people who have always belittled me, called me names and only thought about their self. I definitely don’t like it and point it out to them, other people have spoke up before me on occasion. I thought it was a reflection of them. I never considered that I was portraying a person lacking in self love and respect. I understand know that I am lacking and need to grow. I would voice my unwillingness to be talked to and treated the way they do. I thought my throat chakra was A-OKAY. However, I am mistaken and my chakras and energy are all out of wack and sorts. I’m blessed and grateful that I found you. You are a blessed and beautiful soul. You are a lifesaver and game changer for me. Gratitude and Thank You don’t feel good enough, for the beautiful soul life saver. Honestly from my heart in truth. Love and Above Always. Blessings beautiful soul❣️🤟🏽✌🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @angel772921
    @angel772921 3 роки тому +7

    Oh my sister..this was so enlightening...I wish I had been taught this info 53 years ago ..I was brought up in a very dysfunctional family of which I needed to walk away from and move to another continent over 2 years ago..since then and before I have been working on claiming back my sovereignty ..self love and respect as I was open season for preditors all my life and was a rescuer of others but not for myself!. However that has changed dramatically and now I an still weeding my soul garden..in fact I am a Constant Gardener and because I have strengthened all my inner chakas I am clearing my life of all who disrespect my boundaries family or not. ...forgotten wellness and peace has returned and now I am veey self aware and and if I lose my peace I lose my power and that is a Hell no to anyone who tries to abuse me again. .I have a fortress category of defense for them..☺...thank you for your beautiful presence and light service...so much love to you and all here present..💜

  • @jessica-ott
    @jessica-ott 3 роки тому +23

    Wow- this is so timely and so needed. I've really worked on and feel good about boundaries set with coworkers and friends, but family is a different game altogether. Shout out to anyone else who is working on boundaries with their family of origin. We can do this! Our soul family is waiting. Thank you for the encouragement and words of empowerment Christina!

  • @tinathegreat88
    @tinathegreat88 3 роки тому +19

    Sometimes we need to isolate ourselves and sometimes isolation is a byproduct of life situations.

  • @alejandraleyva5885
    @alejandraleyva5885 3 роки тому +3

    I just wanted to say that I saw your video on symptoms that come from a spiritual awakening 5 years ago and I just want to say that I can see your glow up! It’s so beautiful seeen how much happier and just how much more you glow now... I can see that shift all over you . Even your body language is more comfortable! I love it and I’m so proud of you and I can’t thank you enough and the universe for bringing me to your videos

  • @villamandi1
    @villamandi1 3 роки тому +1

    One of the affirmations in this video was 'I deserve to be treated like gold'. I want to add another affirmation 'This channel is worth gold!' 🏅 Thank you so much for your work, Christina 🌺

  • @PaulaWilson444
    @PaulaWilson444 3 роки тому +22

    I need to add this & say that is hard for me to say “to put my needs before my children, Never thought or said that before but it’s true, they do need a strong loving mother😊❤️✨

  • @danilacaetano1042
    @danilacaetano1042 3 роки тому +66

    This is everything I needed to hear as I've turned my back on my entire family and felt a little guilty about it.

  • @829laval
    @829laval 3 роки тому +4

    Thank you for including the possible consequences of setting boundaries. The backlash was a hard aspect for me to contend with. I was trained to be a people pleaser, so when I began to tell people, "stop, and no further," I got a lot of criticism. Some threw major hissy fits! To their surprise, I left their company. Life is so much easier now sharing it with people who respect and truly love me.

  • @rachaellouise2666
    @rachaellouise2666 3 роки тому +1

    I've recently learned to come into my power. Honestly the best thing about this is that you can trust yourself to look after yourself

  • @tfanning920
    @tfanning920 3 роки тому +8

    Absolutely, this is right what I need.
    I am a yes "mam", believe me I enjoy accommodating other's. As soon as I say No, they flip out.
    They take it personal, sometimes becoming mean.
    I also find that other people want me to change who I am.

  • @tysonsharpe7197
    @tysonsharpe7197 3 роки тому +6

    Setting boundaries can heighten your connection with someone! So good Christina!!

  • @trinityp8575
    @trinityp8575 3 роки тому +1

    Totally agree.
    But also just to add sometimes having loose boundaries isn’t just about childhood or trauma. Some people are more prone to it than others - someone who is soft, compassionate, timid, sensitive and empathic. These people naturally overextend themselves and therefore lack proper boundaries and have hard time declining help etc.

  • @joelindagordon8046
    @joelindagordon8046 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you, Christina, I had to let go of all the toxic relationships, that is all I have ever known, and yes, a lack of personal power to all the women like myself who have spent a life time of putting others first at the expense of ourselves. Been studying the chakras, and thank you for giving me another facet of our beautiful chakras, the healing process of a broken heart, that you would never know by the energetic aspect with I am very sensitive empath 🙏🌻💫🦋💫🌻🙏

  • @Bloominglotus31
    @Bloominglotus31 5 місяців тому

    Oh my gosh…. I have been seeing your videos for years and not until this week have I recognized you understand who I am, a physical and emotional empath with boundary issues. You have been talking directly to me and giving me tools I have begun using and I’m already seeing and feeling small changes. I’m so grateful 💕🙏💕

  • @winterskyeasmr2970
    @winterskyeasmr2970 3 роки тому +1

    This was exactly what I was looking for. Thank you so much for sharing. I'm 23 and I have done 11 years of therapy, but none of it has helped me learn how to set healthy boundaries. I began setting my boundaries when I left an abusive relationship of 2 years at the beginning of 2020. Since then, I have been eliminating necessary people from my life, including my mother and good friend. However, I've been feeling really stuck because I had been doing that elimination without strengthening my solar plexus, and my connection to the universe wasn't strong. Your video made so much sense and I'm grateful for the easy to follow to steps. Thank you for making this truth available for the world, and me!

  • @manishathakur2893
    @manishathakur2893 3 роки тому +1

    Hello mam my name is Manisha thakur I am from india I'm literally crying watching your vedios in the beginning of this year I decided to set boundaries with people because people were rude to me and I watched several vedios on UA-cam by which I just Isolated and treated everyone like that. But with your vedio I'm awakend . Sorry for my English but I just wanted to pour my heart out

  • @vaishnaviravi5218
    @vaishnaviravi5218 3 роки тому +1

    Thankyou so much....i needed this ...i was told to set boundaries but i never was told how to set it!!!!! ...and the chakra energies interference also was very informative..i always attracted narcissistic people into my life ...only toxic people approached me now i know why...being an empath with wounded innerchild and many other internal issues ....I let my privacy be violated by my parents , friends and wondered why i was feeling powerless...i even forget sometimes that i have boundaries....i have a really weak solar plexus which is to be made strong by not running away and rather facing the situations...i isolated myself...and it was after the society alienated me...i felt if im absorbing others energies then i should probably stay away from human connections....that was foolish i know...
    Now i finally have it all summed up...i believe i attracted this video and you made it on the right tym...thank you and lots of love and blessings!!!!!

  • @ceilhall8626
    @ceilhall8626 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for this. Establishing boundaries has been a long-term, gradual thing with me. I used to have such a semi-permeable membrane to my mind, heart, and soul, and that I was a mess and had a lot of emotional ups and downs! But since 1998, I have been protecting myself much better, and I've been much stronger and happier since then. Important things to note: 1) I have needed to allow people to get ANGRY at me and disapprove of me when I initiate conversations about boundaries; that was the hard part. Because often, I know that the other person WILL resist it and become defensive and angry; so it takes some courage (and tact and a kind delivery). 2) People in spiritual circles (including wonderful teachers) often talk about changing our reactions to crossed boundaries INSTEAD of our environment. That is useful to a point; but it is also important to stay away from people whom we know will trigger us, because they are unwilling or unable to honor our requests. Some people have laid guilt trips on me about banishing my sister ("That's your SISTER!"), but I tell them, "Yeah, but my mental health, peace, serenity, and happiness are more important than some rules about whom I should allow in my life; no matter who they are." And there have been consequences - for example, I don't have a relationship with any of her kids because of this, and I regret that. But that is a trade-off I am willing to make. They know where I am and can find me if they want to have a relationship with me. If they shun me because their mother complains that I cut her off, that is their problem; they are all adults.

  • @oluchianthonateokolie7621
    @oluchianthonateokolie7621 3 роки тому

    I hv been in this bondage for a very long time in my marriage of nineteen years. Just learn to speak out last year and all hell was let loose!! No one respects my space and privacy. I started to put everyone in their places and that's the beginning of my freedom. Thanks for this video christina❤

  • @anamautone
    @anamautone 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much for this video. Had a Narcissist parent, difficulty with boundaries, developed codependency... HEALING NOW. i AM currently healing my 3rd chakra. Thanks so much for the resources!!! MUCH LOVE AND BLESSINGS

  • @gracewalker4570
    @gracewalker4570 3 роки тому +1

    In a situation now where the other person will not respect and honor a boundary of not yelling and screaming. This has been very helpful. I have clearly stated to this person my boundary. Am focusing on speaking self love. I am worthy of not being treated this way. Thank you.💛

  • @Emilia-ps2th
    @Emilia-ps2th 3 роки тому +1

    It takes confidence to speak up, talk back. It also makes a difference on the person you're communicating with. Some people don't/can't hear what you have to say. It's a big and important topic & you explain it so well. I'm witnessing a sensitive,artistic woman(age 90) with well meaning friend who orchestrated the woman to be moved into a nursing home, without fully explaining the situation. Then the authorities come into it. All behaving like professional bullies, all very positive and all knowing what is best for the woman. Thankyou so much.

  • @oluchianthonateokolie7621
    @oluchianthonateokolie7621 3 роки тому +1

    Mine was very difficult to set a healthy boundary because I was dependent on my husband. He was the one who provides virtually every thing and with that he felt his siblings can come stay with us without my concent. My privacy was so invaded for 10years and my energy was totally drained. I started to be independent since last year and I began to find my voice. Love this video!! Well detailed

  • @jenleon6034
    @jenleon6034 3 роки тому

    This is such a validating video!!! I have been dealing with extremely toxic family and have been struggling with setting boundaries. For example every time I tell my family please don’t insult me they get angry insult me more and threaten or leave my life. Then I feel guilty for voicing to them how they have violated my boundary. I also come from a culture where I am taught family is everything. My grandmother used to tell me “family is sacred” so I didn’t know it was okay to eliminate family from my life. Thank you for this video!

  • @dredheadluna420
    @dredheadluna420 3 роки тому +1

    This should have a million views. Ive read and watched countless 'How to set boundaries' videos/articles and they always had a 1 sided approach. Your method is very holistic, like Im being fed a full course home cooked meal as opposed to eating fast food.
    Do you do past life regressions?
    I remember just being born and felt so much guilt before the age of 5. I know Im an old soul.
    Thank you for this

  • @shawntalwilson8
    @shawntalwilson8 3 роки тому +10

    Thank you beautiful soul!🥰 Once again, right when I needed it! So so grateful the universe sent you and this community my way!!! Love &Light to all!!💜🦋🌻☯️

  • @traycecarr9237
    @traycecarr9237 Рік тому

    I soooo resonate with your teachings, as a single mother, and care giver to my elderly Parents, I finally..finally discovered I'm an Empath, I have to,for my sake, health, sanity, take moments to come back to my center, to my time with God,.. I've been setting boundaries as of recent month, & this video is right on time, tho it's dated in actual time( 2 yrs ago)..I get it!!! Thank you:))) I'm applying the boundaries from now on

  • @cherylsebby5607
    @cherylsebby5607 3 роки тому +10

    I die of guilt for wanting to be left alone or at least not drained.
    I don't want to be anyone's entertainment, meaning some family members constantly call me when they have nothing new.....just so I can drop everything to think up stuff to talk about for a couple hours.
    I would rather read and have had to put up walls after repeated warnings to give me a break.

  • @zazaastergreen1263
    @zazaastergreen1263 3 роки тому

    Namaste everyone
    i had a little weak in setting boundary before,
    with family and friends
    But now i am in healing process,
    so my seven charkaras are open and balance than before
    i pray and heal everyday to open my charkaras
    Now, my throught charkara is more stronger than before
    so i speak absolute truth how i feel with no concern and tell the right words
    I set my boundary with everyone very well now

  • @staceylynn7749
    @staceylynn7749 3 роки тому +1

    Christina, I can't thank you enough for both being your amazing self, but for posting this content/series. I have been going through my spiritual awakening since 2012 and have searched for the explanations of why I am feeling the way I am, why I'm attracting the energy I do, and kept getting stuck right here! Your videos/website are literally helping me change my life completely! I am forever grateful that I have finally found you and some real answers! Thank you thank you thank you!

  • @daraconnollyspeaker
    @daraconnollyspeaker 3 роки тому

    TY Christina- I Couldn’t agree more!
    I didn’t have a voice at all for many years & felt (& was) invisible until I learned to set boundaries- first with bullies, then with toxic people, then w family members. Once I’ve exuded that power opportunities & healthy people found me & the crappy ones went away. It’s changed my life.
    Setting boundaries & speaking in your power are so necessary- in my line of work (as a confidence coach for women) I see a lot of very established women who are exhausted from people pleasing & it’s so sad.
    I’m happy to chat offline with anyone if this is you. I work primarily with women who need help speaking up to be hard, kicking fear to the curb.🙏

  • @CorrieBrenner
    @CorrieBrenner 10 місяців тому

    Christina you are amazing and such a beautiful soul. I wanted to cheer when you talked about children and the fact that the parents do not own them. This has been my view on raising the two children I have been blessed to love, nurture and watch grow to be their own unique person. Thank you for the love, support and encouragement you provide.

  • @patricialancaster4320
    @patricialancaster4320 3 роки тому

    I divorced my family at a young age. I had too many problems. They chose to judge and condemn instead of finding patience and understanding. Thank you for your insight. I was born disabled. This has been a gift. They were put in my life to help me grow. MATURE spiritually.

  • @jenniferjones4869
    @jenniferjones4869 3 роки тому +3

    This is exactly what I needed at exactly the right time... thank you!
    Beautiful Universe! Beautiful Self!
    Beautiful Christina Lopes!

  • @wendyvoye3110
    @wendyvoye3110 3 роки тому +1

    Last year was HUGE for me and working on my boundaries. It's not perfect but I have taken huge steps and it has changed my life! So glad you made this video!!!!

  • @jamisonlamkin5576
    @jamisonlamkin5576 3 роки тому +7

    Ohh man I really need this! I've really never had any idea how to set boundaries and I've struggled greatly all my life with it!

  • @habaxomedved9754
    @habaxomedved9754 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much. Crying right now... So happy i have decided to reclaim my power, regardless of the consequences for the toxic people around me... But still a lot of work 💪. yoga helps me a lot to get rid of the blocages in my energetic system. And you help me to put words on things... I now feel a little less alone with my inner work. You are my miracle ✨🙏🏼✨😀

  • @endigosun
    @endigosun 3 роки тому +4

    @16:40 When my babies were young, and even now, I still believe very deeply that my children ARE MINE! 😘 They grew inside me. They have my genes, and I was responsible for their well being early on. HOWEVER... I taught them respect for self and others, and other healthy ways of being... but NEVER tried to have total control over their destinies. I WAS very uncompromising when teaching the basic rules of the road (similar to this lesson on setting boundaries) because I knew they’d need that to survive. They had such a good foundation when it came time to begin “releasing them”, they’d developed into great teenagers, and they transitioned well into adulthood. After all that love & support, I knew I’d have to finally set them free... but in MY heart they’ll always be MY BABIES! ❤️
    People today ARE REALLY confused about good parenting. Parents are repeatedly told to give their kids more space, when they actually need intense involvement/guidance in certain areas, and yet lots of space in others. Teaching parents HOW to BALANCE giving BOTH at the same time is the challenge!

  • @aikat3rine
    @aikat3rine 3 роки тому +5

    Girl! I asked the universe for an explanation on boundaries a few weeks ago 🥰🥰 thanks for always coming through, Christina!!
    Edit: also, I've been getting a real life ding ding whenever I happen upon something 😂 helps me clue my distracted self in easier 😝 so thanks for that too!!

  • @brittany6905
    @brittany6905 3 роки тому +1

    This video among so many others have been monumental for me. I really needed this information.. I've always had such a hard time setting boundaries with others because I don't want to feel like I'm being "rude or mean". Thank you for this Christina💕

  • @giorgia2396
    @giorgia2396 3 роки тому +2

    hi Christina! i'm having a spiritual awakening and i've found out the last week that i'm a physical empath and lightworker. your videos are helping me so much (and are the reason why I'm not freaking out ahahah), so I just wanted to thank you!
    hope I will be an empowered empath soon!

  • @jazzyj819
    @jazzyj819 3 роки тому +27

    I love the way you break it down. Probably one of the best videos I’ve seen on this topic. Thank you, this was like therapy and helped so much.

    • @infomail1829
      @infomail1829 3 роки тому

      The same - agree with what you have written with every letter 👍😉🥰

    • @infomail1829
      @infomail1829 3 роки тому +1

      The same - agree with what you have written with every letter 👍😉🥰

    • @hollyphelps5755
      @hollyphelps5755 3 роки тому

      I concur!!

  • @kathhicks6439
    @kathhicks6439 3 роки тому +9

    I needed this so badly... I had no idea how to create boundaries or even how to begin... with these guidelines I have hope! Thank you so much Christina! Xoxo

  • @linsbergstrom8160
    @linsbergstrom8160 3 роки тому +1

    Always pure heart and wisdom, but this is your most beautiful/potent video/message until now!

  • @Anthony7Darkside
    @Anthony7Darkside 3 роки тому

    I was the person who was the Sally and then I healed myself. I then found myself and the people who helped me I could not hang around with as I realised they violated some of my boundaries. I also, kept re- thinking of a narcissist- thx for reminding me to deeply love and respect myself x

  • @brijitbiswas8610
    @brijitbiswas8610 3 роки тому +1

    Marvellous video tons and tons of valuable informations listening only gathered so much power within me thank you so very much great one!!!!

  • @willis214
    @willis214 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge. This was extremely helpful and so necessary for me at this time in my life. I feel like I should be sending you a check for this hahaha. You are much appreciated and I am so grateful. Exactly what I needed to hear as a lesbian wife and step mom to 4 and daughter to a mom and dad and family who don’t accept my life and family because of their own personal religious beliefs. Thank you!!

  • @venus2695
    @venus2695 Рік тому

    I am so grateful for this woman so badly, she gave me life.

  • @discovermusicwithdanielle7859
    @discovermusicwithdanielle7859 2 роки тому

    I’m in a toxic, verbally abusive relationship with my sister in law. I watched this video during a bout of insomnia fraught with sickness about it. I feel so fortunate to have found these tools and have some action steps to work on within my realm of personal power. I’m scared but also excited to see how this shifts my relationship with myself. Thank you truly. ❤️

  • @mayamackay4080
    @mayamackay4080 3 роки тому

    Really needed to hear this. Have been having some boundary problems with both my parents, my mother especially. I have just literally had to remove my mother from my life because she has not listened to any of my needs/boundaries and acts like everything I have said has just disappeared. I feel a lot more less guilty after watching this and will focus now on healing my 3 chakras. Thankyou thankyou thankyou for sharing this 🤍

  • @sunflwer1111
    @sunflwer1111 3 роки тому +5

    I related to the woman's guilt and shame thing. God, I've got mirror work to do! The airline air mask example was a perfect example of why self care is vital. I love your videos. Thank you so much for another great and informative video.
    You are awesome and I look forward to your next videos.
    ❤❤❤✈🚺🚼

  • @lindalock5065
    @lindalock5065 3 роки тому +1

    Sometimes we need to be reminded of the basics! Thanks very much, Christina. Another excellent video. 💜

  • @cathybaldock
    @cathybaldock 3 роки тому

    Yes this definitely hit home. I am needing to establish better boundaries with my child. I have been working on setting them but having problems with understanding what it means to set them in the first place, experiencing a loss of connection with her and with guilt from setting them. I definitely have a weak solar plexus so going to be working on that. I've only seen how poor my boundaries really are since having had a headstrong toddler in my life!! Thanks for your incredible energetic wisdom

  • @ren-nj7ql
    @ren-nj7ql 3 роки тому +2

    My spirit guides definitely sent me this! I’ve been struggling with my dad and mom complaining about their lives and making it feel like it’s my fault. So thank you

  • @vidhiharia9546
    @vidhiharia9546 27 днів тому +1

    Spiritual issue is energy weakness.
    1. Solar plexus. More external controls, weaker boundaries.
    2. Heart chakra. Blockage leads to weakness. Means we don't give love to ourselves. Lack of self love, self respect and self compassion causes weaker boundaries.
    3. Throat chakra. It's not just about communication, it's about breathing life and materializing my goals and dreams.
    Steps to have boundaries :
    1. A list of boundary violations. (pick what's healthy, what's not, self awareness)
    How would i like the people around me to treat me?
    How am i treated?
    When have i allowed my boundaries to he violated?
    2. Developing the solar plexus. It's less responsive to meditation and passive techniques. It's about learning how to hold our power. Running home and isolation when boundaries are violated, means we're weakening the third chakra. Because it needs this exact stimulus to exercise. Therefore, running from harsh situations without facing them and trying to make things perfect is never ideal. EXERCISE WITH ACTIONS.
    3. AFFIRMATIONS.
    I'm powerful.
    I'm a sovereign being.
    I have my own space.
    I'm independent.
    I'm the owner of my own body.
    I'm not going to run away so that i know how to set healthy boundaries.
    4. Self love and self respect. Now that we've worked on the third, go onto the fourth. Heart is the portal to higher self and the connection to everything.
    5. Heart affirmations:
    I deeply love and honour myself.
    I deserve to be treated like gold.
    I deserve to receive abundance from universe.
    I deserve wonderful things.
    I honour my own needs.
    6. Develop the throat chakra:
    Communicate my needs and materialise them. Guilt free and shame free way.
    Feeling guilt and shame means solar plexus is weak and we have issues with self-love and self respect.
    7. Eliminate some toxic people from your life.
    8. Establish independence (throat chakra) to manifest boundaries.

  • @ebrukilincarslan713
    @ebrukilincarslan713 3 роки тому +1

    I found it important what you said about other people and how they treat us and how much they are a great mirror for US to see, where we are with self- love. This Was big for me, so thank you so much 🙏💕

  • @sueb6662
    @sueb6662 3 роки тому

    This is the best most succinct and complete explanation of boundaries i have ever come across you're one of the best practical spiritual teachers around no arrogance so refreshing keeps it light and fun!!
    SO glad your channel found me!!

  • @TripleB-nb8en
    @TripleB-nb8en 2 роки тому

    Thank you, Christian lopes. I wish I could let you feel what you've done for me.

  • @sandhyanaidoo4866
    @sandhyanaidoo4866 3 роки тому +1

    This has helped me to realize and establish much stronger boundaries with all the peeps who actually matter to me. Elimination of toxic people in the last 2 yrs has also helped the process so much. Thank you Christina for your wisdom and guidance on this journey - you make it so simple to understand - eternally grateful

  • @berthamaldonado7274
    @berthamaldonado7274 3 роки тому +1

    Great message sweet christina will check the other videos live the information 💖💕💛💖🦋💛💛💖💖🦋💛💖💖

  • @Hotsaru
    @Hotsaru 3 роки тому +4

    Yes, so much TRUTH! Thank you so much for shining a light on this! 💫 You are amazing ❤

  • @rumdo5617
    @rumdo5617 3 роки тому +4

    I’m still working on my boundaries - but this is a fantastic video and I will certainly engage with the resources too. Thank you 🙏

  • @carleanr4051
    @carleanr4051 3 роки тому +1

    Wowww...I needed to hear this and will be listening over and over AND doing the work. Gratitude💚

  • @lisaburnage
    @lisaburnage 3 роки тому

    Can't tell you how timely this is! I am aware I've had problems with boundaries for years, but having just set my "rules of engagement" with a friend, I burst into tears, felt such guilt and shame, and that I was a "bad" person. It came from a very childlike place. You have given me some tools to work on this! Massive Thank You 👍❤

  • @brandoniadance9355
    @brandoniadance9355 3 роки тому

    OM fucking G!!!!! This video is right on time for me! Had some over stepped boundaries during the last few days & I feel like this video has given me a name for what has happened & gives me hope that I can make sure to enforce my boundaries better. I've been realizing my boundaries are weak but this really drives it home. Thank you so much Heart Alchemy Team! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤

  • @revelrove
    @revelrove 3 роки тому

    Thank you for this video. Perfect divine timing. I perform music in a public setting and I am frequently asked if I will allow someone else to play with me during my sets. I hate doing this because it messes me up. I will simply say no. People often get in my face and now I will tell them to give me my personal space. I figure that I may sound gruff in the beginning, but I will get better in time. 😊🦋❤️

  • @Christina_Charity_Grace
    @Christina_Charity_Grace 3 роки тому +1

    I love this!💖 Thank You So Much! For ✨DEFINING✨ and Fine Tuning what our Personal Boundaries ARE for Our Highest Good!🙏🏼💖👑🌟🙏🏼

  • @tiesdemand6740
    @tiesdemand6740 3 роки тому

    How can anybody not like this video?? This is golden!! My main problem with setting boundaries is feeling like an egotistical person for choosing myself first 😔

  • @africaborntribe
    @africaborntribe 3 роки тому +2

    Your videos are total synchronicities for me, really needed to hear this. Thanks loads and more blessings💫to you Christina✨

  • @jazminalvarado8433
    @jazminalvarado8433 3 роки тому +3

    This video is so on point and I had a friend like Sally. I didn't get to have that conversation. I just never answered anymore when she called. So she stopped calling.

  • @selinajacquemai3072
    @selinajacquemai3072 3 роки тому +2

    I'm so thankful for this I really needed this after just losing my mum I'm gonna have to make boundaries with the rest of my family I live on my own and I've just been isolating myself, I appreciate it so much I'm sure the universe put you in my life my friend🇬🇧🤗

  • @joshmalison2599
    @joshmalison2599 3 роки тому

    “I honor my own boundaries.”
    ☠️
    Dude your mantras are NEXT LEVEL. Your videos have always resonated with me deeply, but some of your mantras hit me like a bus. Thank you thank you with all my heart!❤️

  • @KatKnwsBest
    @KatKnwsBest 3 роки тому

    ❤️ thank you Christina!! I recently found my independence and started setting boundaries and those around me viewed the boundaries as barriers. I felt guilty and decided to remove the boundaries to make them comfortable. Thank you for showing me what chakras I need to work on to heal this area in my life. I am so excited for self love and filling my life with people who understand boundaries are just rules of engagement. I am incredibly grateful for all your wisdom! I am currently saving for the 2022 retreat and look forward to spending time with you in person one day.

  • @jeewanipitakotuwage1566
    @jeewanipitakotuwage1566 3 роки тому +1

    Over the years I have trained my self to be involved but detached from situation and relationships.Everything is mainly in the mind.I recognized that the only power I have is my response relating to any given situation.

  • @flymae1815
    @flymae1815 3 роки тому +2

    Wow!! It is incredible how well you explained pieces of my life in absolute resonance! Taking someone’s sovereignty away I see as a violation as well. Setting boundaries can sometimes feel like walls to other people. Which it is great how you broke down clearer explanations of their differences. I love how you explained this!

  • @pryork09
    @pryork09 3 роки тому +3

    Hi Christina! Just wanted to let you know that your videos have changed my life in BIG ways 🥰🥰🥰

  • @maryt597
    @maryt597 2 роки тому

    Thank you Christina for all of your information on the Age of Aquarius. I've been trying to meditate (i've done this before, but had slacked off. I'm trying to get back to it). I've been focusing on my heart, solar plexus, third eye and my crown chakras. Mostly, my heart, third eye and crown chakra. Bless you and thank you.

  • @ocean_dg_ofc
    @ocean_dg_ofc 3 роки тому +2

    Extremely helpful, with an amazing timing.. The Universe lead me here for sure 😁 beautiful Christina. NAMASTE! 🙏🏽

  • @Magii111
    @Magii111 3 роки тому +1

    Christina, I can't thank you enough for sharing your knowledge so freely to the world. You really are such an inspiration and a huge eye opener! Everything I've been needing to know you already know and I've been able to, in just couple days, take so so much from this. You are my messages from the universe that I've been asking for.
    I always knew there was more to psychology and I always knew there was more to the energy of universe and what you talk about makes so much sense and I feel I have been so blessed to come across your chanel.
    Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
    All the best wishes, peace and love 🙏🏼

  • @ChocolateSarahPinkLove
    @ChocolateSarahPinkLove Рік тому

    This is great! 🍁😘😅Story of my life 🤐 growing up, I've seen my power go away and I became extremely angry at myself and the ones around me. I created a disturbing self image and I always felt isolated, quiet, and resentful. Really! all I ever wanted was to get some help and feel powerful again.
    will study this video to really understand the steps that I can make. Thank you so much Christina. I take you as an example

  • @b.b.finsclara3589
    @b.b.finsclara3589 3 роки тому

    Wounderful Christina. Thank you🙏😇🙏

  • @valerylavoie5971
    @valerylavoie5971 3 роки тому

    I'm so grateful for this video. I've stuggle with boundaries for most of my life and I am just learning to set them, and to respect it myself (otherwise, nobody is going to respect it, right?). Now I know that the problem is due to a lack of self love and nothing else. This issue was hidden behind a STRONG solar plexus and a good ability to communicate, so it's was hard for me to pin point the root of the problem.Thank you very much for your help!

  • @jackiegutknecht7758
    @jackiegutknecht7758 3 роки тому

    Perfect timing. I feel like I have to revisit boundaries again and again as I learn something new each time. I started with weak boundaries and now I have strengthened them over and over. This video just upped the ante on even stronger boundaries and solar plexus work. Thank you so much.

  • @noori1666
    @noori1666 3 роки тому

    You are an angel really! You always know what is needed and when it is needed. Blessed to have you 🙏😇

  • @TinkDynasty.
    @TinkDynasty. 3 роки тому

    I am now on my journey to learn and set boundaries 💜 thank you