Don't Be Ambitious, Be MOTIVATED!
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- Опубліковано 13 тра 2024
- If you have no ambition, no goals, and no expectations - you can never fail or let yourself down.
Ambition is a form of internalized social control and conditioning. It renders you just one more rat in the race.
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Ambition is a private case of extrinsic motivation.
Ambition is the counterfactual
and compulsively
motivating
conviction that
happiness is conditioned
on the attainment of socially recognized accomplishments
and on increasing one’s possessions.
It is not the same as motivation, which is
internal,
not compulsive, and
has no external reference point.
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👏👏👏 Dear Sam Vaknin, I am so very grateful for you. ❤️
And when you can't find motivation, use discipline. Discipline is getting the job done even when you don't want to.
Very wise.
I like that!
@@DHW256 Wisdom is often expressed as logic.
Behind every successful man stands a surprised mother-in-law.
I knew this internally, however, I wasn't able to explain it like this. Amazing video, absolutely amazing! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Wise words.
Modern times are like:
- make money
- coom/consume
- repeat
I was extremely motivated to quit my 20 year government job and I knew that it would draw criticism from friends, colleagues and family (maybe not in my presence but certainly behind my back). So I resigned anyway (that was 6 months ago). I have been having this motivation conversation with myself that the good doctor speaks about. I gained time and freedom to think and shed my ambitions and find my intrinsic motivations. I do have a drive for achievement but I don't want to be a narcissist. I do have a heroism instinct but I don't know if this is the answer. At the moment I have no mother in law 😂 , and I'm trying to not be a slave to expectations. I've sort of landed in this nothingness way by accident or a confluence of factors. All this to say that I don't know where I'll end up but quitting and landing in almost surprising retirement feels like an accomplishment but I can't shake the feeling or pressure to do something great with it but I don't know what that is 😢 I do thank you for this video which clarifies some things and motivates me to be intrinsically guided.
welcome to the club! there's no rush when you're being true to yourself. life isn't a race it's a pace. congratulations
@iamedey1232 thank you 🙏
Gotta love Professor Sam's humor!
This is SO amazing. Professor Vaknin, thank you once again!! There is so much shame associated with not having ambition, especially in places where there is fierce competition because of scarcity. Your words give us room to breathe.
You made me laugh from the first sentence 😂 thank you prof. Vaknin. About to listen!
Pure GOLD, Chapeau, Professor! 🙏🏻 This explanation of the Contexts is just stunning!👌
One of my favourite lectures. Thank you Dr. Vaknin!
Such an insightful discussion! It's crucial to understand the distinction between ambition and intrinsic motivation. While ambition can sometimes lead to external validation, true fulfillment often comes from pursuing activities for the sheer joy they bring. Let's prioritize nurturing our intrinsic motivation and finding genuine fulfillment in what we do! 🌟
yup that does make a lot of sense, and induces reflecting.
My mother was always desperate that I have no ambition. And now I am a nobody. I wander,how common is that among narcissists .To accomplish nothing.
This crystal-clear and mind-opening lecture should be made compulsory in every school at the start of each term, from first grade to University. We would live in a much better world.👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Haha the start of the video was a blast ❤😂
Thank you for posting
I have a high interest in both finance and psychology, so yes, I want to be like Sam Vaknin when I grow up!
I love you! I admire your resilience and motivation to overcome conditioning, update your awareness of yourself and the world beyond limits, and achieve the wisdom you share with us daily! Thank you Professor Sam! We deeply appreciate it!
Thank you❤
i want you to be Sam Vaknin. the existence of all of us is very important, otherwise we would not be here now.
Thx Sam
תודה פרופ' הרצאה מעולה ומועילה,בלי קשר אולי יש לך תובנות לגבי המדינה שלנו ישראל,נראה שאיבדנו שליטה והזנב מכשכש בכלב,הרשויות משמשות כלי בידי גורמים עויינים ידועים ואנונימים כאחד,אולי תעלה כמה רעיונות טובים אם תתן דעתך תודה מראש
Thank you Prof. Dr. Sam Vaknin. 🙏
Great distinction there and a great awakening! Will share this with friends and family. Go raibh maith agat.
So profound and true!
Brilliant video - more like this please. 👍
Smart!
This is the best articulation of internal intrinsic motivation vs external ambition! Ty Sam!
If someone with BPD has reactionary motivation (and intensely so), how can they change it to be intrinsic and not destructive? BPDs I’ve know tend to be so intensely single-minded and extremely clever when they’re reactive!
Don't be motivated. Be inspired.
Ce mec est trop cool j'aime trop l'écouter c'est intéressant
The case of Elizabeth Holmes is typical for this case.Very interesting Professor Vanknin!
Vaknin.
Sam can you do a video on ADHD as it is linked to a motivation deficiency directly linked to executive dysfunction as said dr Berkeley.
Search the comorbidities playlist.
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Sam Vaknin goes all zen 🧘🏻♂️ 😆
Sam, I was wondering if you have ever published an analysis of the self help industry, which I believe props up this phenomenon of excessive extrinsic and fantasy based ambition that so many people have.
I would like to become Sam Vaknin to a large extent! I'd like to go through a nice PhD, (legal) finance shanenigans and having a central role in the lives of so many people like you do
how much more is distinguishing in 2024 (i.e virtue simply being reasonable action).
Fifth minute. What about solving a math problem? For me, this has always been about the thrill of the chase. A mathematical problem is like an animal in a jungle, I am the hunter. So I was never successful in making mathematics pleasurable for my students and hence my teaching career was a disaster. Would you say my approach is extrinsic? There is no pleasure in the hunt, but when you actually crack a problem, it is a tremendous high, unlike anything else one might experience.
Does anyone know what Sam says at 18:26? Para plaxis?
I am troubled how to live outside the game and earn suficient for decent life ?
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Born in a communist country, I've witnessed a huge degradation of interpersonal relationships with the reorientation towards capitalism. And yes, it was about ambitions. Taking into account that relationships were not so great in communism either, due to the implemented philosophy... well, now it's a total chaos. Most people are in a sick competition to stand out, no matter how (the goal justifies the means). As a result, egoism and corruption are peeking, and most relationships are just superficial business agreements.
We have doctors selling to minors prescriptions for high risk medicines, that the children use as a form of narcotics. Policemen dealing drugs, judges protecting all sorts of criminals, religion members bribing not to mention other horrible things... Absolutely disgusting, and for what? For money, for more and more and more🤷
The young grow up less and less supervised and guided, the substance abuse is sky rocketing amongst children. And all this fuels the discourse of extremists.🤦
Many toxic behaviors are normalized in the culture... For example a man who drinks at least 6 beers a day and gets drunk, wasted at least once a week is consider a "real man" 🤦😂😂😂😂😂 not an alcoholic.
Sometimes I joke with myself that I was born in a huge colony for mentally ill people. 🤷 Really, really hard to cope... I started to seriously ask myself, if there is any point in trying to do anything good anymore?
Sincerely I can’t tell if I should be filled with joy or something worse than an heartfelt pain for our present human condition - You are very correct. I was raised in a “capitalist system birthed” state (Nigeria), human relationships are not cherished, just another means of advancing personal “ambition”. The professor really hit this one right
Guess it depends on who the good is for?
You are not alone to feel this way. The world has turned into a gigantic mental asylum for the mentally ill. Going back to nature can be the only solution.
@@timothyirwin8974 I have a more objective view about what good means.
Two premises to put it in context...
1
We all need food, so every day we take other beings lives (animals and even plants are all alive). But we don't have to torture them. Yet some people do. People even torture and kill other people for fun, or to defend some abstract and often fault idea.
2
There is a story about a girl helping a butterfly to exit its cucon, but doing so the butterfly is deprived of the needed struggle to develop its wings and ability to fly.
So, as I see it, the only good people can do is to reduce as much as possible their intervention in the natural unfolding of events, to not force actions and outcomes.
People have the ability to shape their environment, but we need to take into account that we share the environment with many other beings that have a more or less developed free will, and their own intrinsic motivations. Conflict of interest will always be with us, so any forcing of an outcome in favor of one, would be an aggression towards many others.
Finding ways to meet your needs and desires, with minimum aggression towards your exterior, is what doing good is. 🤷 (Edit: playing a win-win game)
You don't have to be a hero, no need for fame or playing the rescuer, no need for self-sacrifice boombastic action or superficial altruism.
For example the rich get rich by doing a lot of harm, and then make some donation portrering them themselves like some virtuos people, in a lame attempt to buy their own peace of mind. That's not even from far far away a good action. You see, based on the principle I'm talking about, if they don't do the harm in the first place, there would be no need for their "heroic self-sacrifice altruism".
Doing good in an objective way, is not forcing outcomes and minimum interference with other beings lives. 🤷
Ps
A simple way to put it: "live and let live"🤷
Interesting. I know a very ambitious very deluded narcissist.
Same here, plus greedy yet he lacks the intelligence while heaping on the lust for control.
Lol you are too funny.
What about hope?
I have seen hope save a person, destroy a person, and change the world. So what is hope other than the one thing we can never loose?
Is there such a thing as too motivated? The only reward I ever hope for is joy in my life or the lives of others. Can you be so motivated that you damage yourself?