Nancy Guthrie What Grieving People Wish You Knew about Really Helps and What Really Hurts

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  • A helpful discussion on how to interact with those who have recently been affected by loss.

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  • @natenkristy
    @natenkristy 3 роки тому +28

    Something to add to her list of how to be helpful. Stop asking what happened. Your support of a grieving person isn’t going to change based on the answer to what happened, is it? Please, respect a grieving family by not, sort of, requiring an answer to your curious and inquiring mind. Just be supportive.

    • @Webbgurl2000
      @Webbgurl2000 3 роки тому +3

      Yes. When they need or want to tell it, they will. It’s not about the other people, it’s for the grieving person right now.

  • @Thereisonlyone464
    @Thereisonlyone464 3 роки тому +23

    This is so true! Lost my only child Isaiah in a tragic crash October 27 2018, and I remember telling my husband how hard it is for me when people try to avoid saying his name, it made me feel like they wanted to forget him, it felt cruel to me. All I wanted is for them to say his name!

    • @kelleymcfadden9675
      @kelleymcfadden9675 2 роки тому

      God bless you! My best friend lost her son Ethan last September and she feels the same way. She wants people to say his name and not act like he didn't exist. I'm sorry you lost your only son Isaiah. I only have one son Caleb who is 19. He was one of Ethan's best friends and I think about it a lot and how quickly God could take him home at any time and I have been away from him for a year now helping my husband care for his parents in another state. I can't imagine losing him, but my friend said not to try to imagine it, but just make the best of every moment you have with him. Here's her story that I have been sharing everywhere.
      I pray it is a help to you.
      Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
      Family Story
      Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
      My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
      That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
      a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
      Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
      His Story
      Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
      “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
      “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
      He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
      “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
      “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
      Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
      “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
      “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
      Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
      Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
      “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
      Your Story
      What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
      The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
      “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
      We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
      “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
      ******************************
      This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
      Tribute to Ethan Lakey
      ua-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/v-deo.html

  • @KittyClark4433
    @KittyClark4433 2 роки тому +10

    The same could be said for someone grieving after a divorce. This too is a deep loss. People are tempted to think since it was a "decision" u may have been involved with that it's not like losing a spouse by death. But that isnt true. Divorce is a death. A death of dreams, plans, hopes, expectations, memories, love. It's all grief & shakes ur world to the core.

  • @michellepenney8218
    @michellepenney8218 2 роки тому +8

    Just a hug....that feeling of contact with someone who really understands how we feel. Don't try and fix something that is permanently broken, that can never be recovered.... just be there for them ....

    • @kelleymcfadden9675
      @kelleymcfadden9675 2 роки тому

      I'd love to share my best friend's story of true hope. I pray it is a help to you.
      Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
      Family Story
      Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
      My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
      That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
      a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
      Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
      His Story
      Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
      “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
      “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
      He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
      “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
      “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
      Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
      “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
      “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
      Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
      Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
      “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
      Your Story
      What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
      The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
      “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
      We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
      “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
      ******************************
      This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
      Tribute to Ethan Lakey
      ua-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/v-deo.html

    • @michellepenney8218
      @michellepenney8218 2 роки тому

      Thank you....I asked for a hug and got a whole sermon! Thanks for your kindness....much appreciated

  • @crystalemullen
    @crystalemullen 3 роки тому +10

    As someone who is currently grieving a loss as well as aware of the loss from other grievers, this was exceptionally helpful! I both agree with the advice and learn from the advice as how to respond to others in grief. Thank you so much!

  • @justme-dee6888
    @justme-dee6888 5 років тому +11

    This was so helpful! Thank you for sharing these much-needed insights!

  • @johannesoswal9941
    @johannesoswal9941 3 роки тому +5

    So helpful . Did not know how to deal with a grieving person. So helpful

  • @joycekirchner4193
    @joycekirchner4193 2 роки тому +3

    I absolutely agree with Nancy. I too, lost a daughter and feel EXACTLY, as Nancy explained. THANK YOU NANCY. God Bless You.

    • @kelleymcfadden9675
      @kelleymcfadden9675 2 роки тому

      I'd love to share my best friend's story of true hope. I pray it is a help to you.
      Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
      Family Story
      Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
      My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
      That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
      a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
      Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
      His Story
      Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
      “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
      “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
      He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
      “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
      “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
      Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
      “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
      “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
      Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
      Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
      “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
      Your Story
      What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
      The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
      “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
      We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
      “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
      ******************************
      This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
      Tribute to Ethan Lakey
      ua-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/v-deo.html

  • @lyndaallaby2131
    @lyndaallaby2131 3 роки тому +9

    The absolutely WORST thing to say to you is " Don't wish them back. They're so much better in Heaven than here".
    One of my best friends, also a Christian has said that, about my adult son and husband, with their Saviour, these last 6 years. She will talk current politics, as I do too, but never asks how I am doing.

  • @nailslovr9378
    @nailslovr9378 5 років тому +4

    Thank you so, so much for this beautiful video.

  • @lanerocks392
    @lanerocks392 3 роки тому +2

    This is incredibly insightful... thank you so much!!

  • @melaniesmids2196
    @melaniesmids2196 5 років тому +4

    Excellent information . Thanks so much !!

  • @genedove2792
    @genedove2792 2 роки тому +3

    Never ever say “I know how you feel”. They don’t know how you feel!!!

    • @richardmcguinn732
      @richardmcguinn732 Рік тому

      Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?

    • @genedove2792
      @genedove2792 Рік тому +2

      @@richardmcguinn732 I don’t suppose I will find peace or happiness until I draw my final breath. I miss her every second of every day. It’s been 213 days and it is NOT getting any easier!

    • @richardmcguinn732
      @richardmcguinn732 Рік тому +1

      @@genedove2792 My deepest of condolences 💐 to you, the pain never goes away but we just learn how to carry them as time goes on. Losing someone we love is the most cruel thing that can happen to anyone but that’s how the world is created! When a family mourn for losing a love one same moment another family is celebrating they’ve gained a child to their family.

  • @coreenhall9247
    @coreenhall9247 2 роки тому +1

    This is so true and helpful.

  • @beez2013
    @beez2013 2 роки тому +2

    Powerful n very honest n helpful.a billion thank you 🙏

  • @lisabennett1253
    @lisabennett1253 2 роки тому +1

    This is SO good!! And the way she says it is perfect!

  • @maxineheadlam7459
    @maxineheadlam7459 2 роки тому +1

    This is very helpful...such wisdom and insight. Thanks for sharing

  • @jtrollock
    @jtrollock 2 роки тому

    So very helpful and true!

  • @sophiyabhoire1341
    @sophiyabhoire1341 2 роки тому +1

    Excellent....

  • @---wu3qj
    @---wu3qj Рік тому

    Just LISTENING is what I needed, and prayer afterwards.❤️

  • @user-wv3pg4xe8d
    @user-wv3pg4xe8d Рік тому +4

    I absolutely hate the phrase, "if I can help in any way let me know". So many ppl said that to me after the loss of my spouse but it means nothing. I actually asked an individual for help after hearing this phrase and he refused! Please dont say it if you dont intend to follow through....

    • @richardmcguinn732
      @richardmcguinn732 Рік тому

      I pray you finds peace and happiness sooner than you expected.

  • @dewuknowHIM
    @dewuknowHIM Рік тому +1

    Everything you said is exactly right on....
    💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
    .....

  • @craftygirl17
    @craftygirl17 Рік тому

    Yes I agree when you talk of the person who has died the tears do flow and it’s not that they talked of them, it’s a release so so so true.

  • @craftygirl17
    @craftygirl17 Рік тому

    This is an AWSOME video!!!!!!

  • @rootlori8117
    @rootlori8117 2 роки тому +1

    Interestingly my friend who just lost her mom on Saturday begged me to tell her stories I know if others who have had her experience....she wanted to hear....so I do believe these suggestions are great but we are all individuals, and we need to remember to honour what they need....and listen to their feedback. God bless your work...

    • @kelleymcfadden9675
      @kelleymcfadden9675 2 роки тому

      I'd love to share my best friend's story of true hope. I pray it is a help to you.
      Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
      Family Story
      Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
      My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
      That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
      a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
      Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
      His Story
      Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
      “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
      “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
      He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
      “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
      “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
      Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
      “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
      “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
      Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
      Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
      “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
      Your Story
      What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
      The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
      “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
      We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
      “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
      ******************************
      This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
      Tribute to Ethan Lakey
      ua-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/v-deo.html

  • @larakingsman3240
    @larakingsman3240 4 місяці тому

    Superb

  • @cindylkmc708
    @cindylkmc708 11 місяців тому

    Everything she said is spot on! And I would like to add; don’t try to make small talk. It’s diminishing the grief process

  • @roberttopal5128
    @roberttopal5128 Рік тому

    Me (Otessa) a widow of my husband (Robert), I lost him on 07 September 2022. When his heart stopped beating, my heart stopped beating along with his. Some of the best times we had, was laying in bed with him watching videos, I enjoyed that better, than some activities millionaires. My husband was a man of integrity.

  • @jacquelinemcgowan8164
    @jacquelinemcgowan8164 Рік тому

    This works for me because unlike therapists she has been there, knows the hardships and knows from many responses how it all works, what helped me is i feel the same in my grief and to know others have felt the same makes me think i am normal to want to scream and shout and get mad when i just cannot cope with the pain that runs so deep, its like my heart felt as though it was ripped out, how wlll i ever cope without them etc, what if i crack up and lose my faith, all this to navigate when you are utterley broken, and the sheer loneliness to run along side it, and then to have to deal with people who are so needy and you have nothing left inside, i want to run away and never come back, cannot process the loss its all too much for some of us and if you have loved that person so much the pain is horrific simple has, and yes it is process of step by step, and funny how the ones who give the most advice are often the ones who just do not qualify.

  • @kelleymcfadden9675
    @kelleymcfadden9675 2 роки тому

    Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
    Family Story
    Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
    My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
    That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
    a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
    Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
    His Story
    Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
    “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
    “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
    He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
    “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
    “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
    Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
    “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
    “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
    Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
    “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
    “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
    Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
    “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
    Your Story
    What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
    The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
    “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
    We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
    “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
    “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
    “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
    ******************************
    This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
    Tribute to Ethan Lakey
    ua-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/v-deo.html

  • @Janefrancesxx
    @Janefrancesxx Рік тому +1

    Thank you for mentioning that "How are you?" Part. That's the most annoying and dreaded question.

  • @maryannmartinez9425
    @maryannmartinez9425 Рік тому

    I am grieving the loss of my husband.and i feel noone really understand the intense pain that i feel

  • @kaylynnhuddleston5533
    @kaylynnhuddleston5533 2 роки тому

    I dont mind if other people say they had a loss. They are trying to relate. its fine.

    • @kelleymcfadden9675
      @kelleymcfadden9675 2 роки тому

      I'd love to share my best friend's story of true hope. I pray it is a help to you.
      Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
      Family Story
      Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
      My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
      That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
      a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
      Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
      His Story
      Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
      “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
      “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
      He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
      “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
      “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
      Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
      “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
      “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
      Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
      Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
      “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
      Your Story
      What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
      The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
      “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
      We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
      “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
      ******************************
      This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
      Tribute to Ethan Lakey
      ua-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/v-deo.html

  • @daniellamoreno3616
    @daniellamoreno3616 3 роки тому

    What do you in the case you don't know the the person that passed away I trying to be their for them.

  • @esharashid4072
    @esharashid4072 Рік тому

    Kwanini nihame Kenya na nimezaliwa hapa I proudly Kenya lakini hakuna sheriya hapa oky

  • @esharashid4072
    @esharashid4072 Рік тому

    Min nataka kublock my boy and my gerl plz

  • @mencadotranforming4411
    @mencadotranforming4411 2 роки тому +2

    Talking about God and Heaven at someone who is grieving is not necessarily at all helpful in every case, especially not when it comes to those who do not happen to also be any sort of theist. It could actually even be felt as harmful/ disrespectful/inconsiderate/ insulting, etc. for someone to do that, even if the person doing that is well-meaning, but just happens to not know and to not understand how doing that could cause the grieving person's feelings to be hurt even further by his or her being subjected to someone's doing that to him or her.

    • @kelleymcfadden9675
      @kelleymcfadden9675 2 роки тому

      If you were asleep and your house was on fire and you didn't know it, you may be upset with me for waking you up in the middle of the night, but when you found out why, you would be so grateful that I did. That is what we are trying to do. We know the truth that without Jesus as their Saviour, people will die and go to hell for eternity. We are trying to rescue them from that. I had 10 times rather offend somebody by trying to share the truth than to not say anything and let them die and burn in hell! Have you ever heard of the World Death Clock? It is a counter that calculates deaths per second, minute, hour, day, month and year based on records and statistics. It says that on average, over 150,000 people die every day and 56 million every year and I'm sure it is unable to keep up with all the recent war and riots happening. It is sobering to watch the numbers constantly climbing every second knowing those numbers mean the loss of lives. What if the next number was yours? Could you say that you are 100% sure that you would have a home in heaven? What are you basing that on? If you are basing it on anything other than your faith in the finished work of Jesus on the cross, you do not understand God's way to heaven.
      The Bible says that we are all sinners. When God created Adam and Eve, He made them perfect without sin, but they chose to disobey God and became sinful in nature. This sin nature was passed down to all humanity.
      Romans 5:12 Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:
      Our sin separates us from God.
      Romans 3:23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;
      A holy, righteous God cannot allow sin into heaven. Sin must be paid for and God's price for sin is death, but not just a physical death, but a spiritual death which means separation from God forever in hell.
      Revelation 21:8 But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.
      In the Old Testament when man sinned, God required the sacrifice of a perfectly spotless lamb as a substitute in the place of the sinner. The blood of that lamb was only a temporary payment for their sin and so this had to be done often. Jesus Christ, God's Son took on flesh, was born of a virgin, lived a sinless life and offered Himself as that perfect, spotless Lamb and shed His blood as payment for the sins of the whole world.
      John 1:29 The next day John seeth Jesus coming unto him, and saith, Behold the Lamb of God, which taketh away the sin of the world.
      Jesus loved us so much He WILLINGLY came and allowed wicked men to spit on Him, mock Him and scourge Him until He was unrecognizable. They stripped him naked, thrust a crown of thorns on His head and nailed His hands and feet to a cross. He hung in agony for hours bleeding, thirsting, struggling for every breath. He died innocently in our place so that we could be saved from going to hell. It was His blood that satisfied the just demands of a holy God. God will not accept anything else.
      There is no greater love than that!
      John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
      The good news is that Jesus didn't stay dead in the grave. He came back to life 3 days later just like He promised and He still lives today!
      Matthew 28:5 And the angel answered and said unto the women, Fear not ye: for I know that ye seek Jesus, which was crucified.
      6. He is not here: for he is risen, as he said. Come, see the place where the Lord lay.
      Jesus did all this because He wants to give you the FREE gift of eternal life in heaven with Him!
      You cannot do anything to earn your own way into heaven. You can't work for it, be baptized for it, go to church for it or try to be good enough for it. It is a FREE gift that God is offering to anyone who will simply receive it by faith.
      Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.
      Ephesians 2:8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:
      9. Not of works, lest any man should boast.
      God said there is only one way to get to heaven, but it is not hard. You must repent, change your mind and admit you are a sinner headed for hell. You must believe that Jesus died and paid for your sin with His own blood on the cross, was buried and 3 days later rose from the dead. Then you must simply call on Him and ask Him to save you.
      Romans 10:9 that if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
      10 For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
      13. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.
      None of us deserve God's mercy and grace, but let me warn you that if you reject His FREE gift, you are already condemned and when you die, you will suffer the torment of burning in hell for eternity in a lake of fire where you will be forever separated from God and all that is loving and good.
      John 3:18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.
      Revelation 20:15 And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire.
      Please don't wait. Don't take the risk of putting it off until another day, repent, turn to Christ NOW wherever you are at because you aren't guaranteed to live another day on this Earth. Believe God's Word, ask Him to save you and He will!
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  • @craftygirl17
    @craftygirl17 Рік тому

    Tears are healthy