How To Speak With Impact
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- Опубліковано 8 лип 2024
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The ability to tell a story can literally transform your life. It can land you a job in a crowded applicant pool, make you stand out on a first date, or be the difference between your business succeeding or failing.
Today I have a very special breakdown on storytelling. Not just because storytelling is so important to charisma and life, but because I am actually in this breakdown as the interviewer.
And the person I’m interviewing is without exaggeration one of the people I most admire on the planet. His name is Scott Harrison and as the founder of charity:water he has helped raise over 100 million dollars by telling stories for a good cause.
So in this video you’re going to learn the 3 high level principles that will help you to tell more engaging stories in any environment. And I should warn you, these stories are heavy and contain really sad, but important messages, which is necessary when you’re talking about the truth of why charity water exists. I’m also going to let the clips run longer so you can hear a bigger part of the story uninterrupted and comment later.
2:30 Take the listener to the same emotional journey you had when storytelling
4:18 Have a mystery to keep listener engaged like Charity Water story
5:47 Have a lesson at the end for personal development as the Scott Harrison interview
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With the way people are today, i think we need to master story-listening
Tell Me This YESSS listening 👂
everyone wants to be listened but no one will listen if you can't tell a good story.
Well that's just a rhetoric arms race. Millions of people with great story-telling abilities, but no great stories to tell because they never pay attention themselves. Sounds great, when do we leave?
They'll listen if your story doesn't suck.
This is so true!! I'd love to see a video about this!
1.Take listener on same emotional journey.
2. Constant element of mystery.
3. Lessons at the end.
Bonus:
4. Make anomalies stand out.
5. Set premise before starting journey.
Thank you for this!
thx
This summary teaches almost nothing and it's pretty awkward that people looking to learn how to tell a story will willingly skip the guy telling a story... because it's too long. If you do that as the would-be storyteller, imagine how the listener will feel. There's not only things to learn in the delivery but lots of minor points not included in this summary.
Thank you for this! Lol
Thank you. I was trying to take notes but I kept missing points and it was difficult to find them in the video.
One of the biggest problems that I face when telling a story is that I often end up starting many different mini stories 😅 and in the end forget to complete my original story. This video was amazing. I will definitely work on it!
Omg I relate so much to this statement 😭 😂
Hi cutie 😍😘
Excellent point and ditto.
LOOL me too it helped me to literally write it in the way I should tell it then if I wanted to ad-lib after that I could
That's because you're a woman
for the people in a hurry 😜
1. you want to take the listener on the same emotional journey that you experienced
2. every story needs a near constant element of mystery to keep the listeners engaged
3. You need to know the purpose behind your story...What is the audience supposed to take away from your story?
don't leave people hanging
Thanks for this
Thank you so much for this I didn't come for stories I wanted to learn techniques
thanks a lot i needed this
This is so meta. It’s a story within a story teaching multiple things at once.
“I’m a dude playing a dude disguised as another dude!”
- Tropic Thunder
WTF 30!!!!???? He looks like he just got out of his teens.
Arvind Wee wait what? Lol
Ikr
How old are you?
Life goals right there
I'm turning 20 this week and it feels like great turning point in life. I would love to donate my birthday too. Great video!
~ That's awesome! Thank you so much :-)
Happy 25th Birthday this year
i,m 20 now what do u advice for me from ur experience 20-26 ?
@@DawitBayulgngood question I’m 21 I’d love to know as well
His story-telling skill is so amazing i always forgot i was in a video watching a lesson on story telling!
Clicked as fast as I could. See, I've been told I'm a horrible storyteller so - I needed this.
Mpumelelo M SAME!!
I was never told I'm a horrible storyteller,
I just know I can't tell a story
Keep going!
Are you a better storyteller now?
@@bonbonpony hope so :) day by day right?
"At the end of your story don't just leave people hanging." Poor choice of words. heh
DAMN.
savage
I was looking for this comment. I knew someone else had to catch that.
Ikr
I'm so glad I didn't have to write this comment...
The world needs more storytellers who share humanity one person to another. YOU ARE IMPORTANT!!!
Dude I thought you were like 22
Duke Shadows This dude is hella healthy.
Duke Shadows how hold is he
Oh 30 he isn't
It's crazy you said this because I said to my wife at the beginning of the video this guy knows loads for kid! But he's thirty!!! five years older than me! What anti wrinkle cream is he using!!!
I bet he's using Tiege Henley...
I've been trying out my storytelling skills I've been learning from these videos by grabbing and holding the attention of my mom brother and wife. I have found its been really helpful to try it out on them and reviewing were I lost their attention, grabbed attention, what made them laugh. It's gonna be a fun journey to mastering storytelling
How has your storytelling skills changed since a year ago?
Improved?
yeah tell us
How about after 2 years? Any updates @jasonfrank1755
any updates after around 3 years?
THANK YOU. As someone who is socially inept, when I look up "how to get better at talking" all I see online is literally "get better at listening". I genuinely have problems telling coherent stories and actually needed help with this, of course people do need to listen more but nobody tells you how to tell stories better.
I love that you highlighted Scott Harrison. The story about the young woman and her broken water vessel was so impactful on its own. But he followed it up with action which must have been amazing to the people in that community. That fullness and action is really rare and why Scott and Charity Water are exceptional.
at 6:23 "Point being, at the end of your stories, don't just leave people hanging" - that's a really sick pun
"Don't leave people hanging"...dude. Not the best phrase to use considering the story.
same comment
hahaha
Nvm watching vid, see wat u mean
LOL
Theres nothing wrong with the phrase. If you know story you know what he means. What he means is most of time its not good to have a ambiguous ending.
As a psychotherapist, I can say this with authetication that "negative emotions" creates more impact on our psychology and they are far stronger emotions than the positive ones. 🔥
True dat
i didn't understand that
I also love the way Scott says “when a guy like you has a birthday” Scott’s not insecure.. he points out the greatness of who he’s speaking too without it making himself feel less! You can feel he genuinely feels that way! Makes the person he’s speaking to feel important which immediately makes you like Scott more!
Greatness? He just referenced him having a birthday...
Next video should be "3 principles to master listening"
If you don't make it I will.
Successful Minds make it!
I just subscribed to you, please make that video! I'll look through your other content too
Yes!!! Hey Charlie you hearing this?? This guy has a great Idea!
There's a good Ted Talk on that subject I don't remember who made it
Successful Minds even if he does make it, MAKE YOURS.. another voice and bits of wisdom can only help
i can't thank you enough for these videos. i'm learning social skills i never gained through formal education, my family members nor my social networks. you give such an articulate commentary that makes sense of key takeaway points and it's helping me to apply these lessons to my own life. i'm ready to secure this job!
I can't remember a UA-cam video that has moved me this much. I came here for lessons in storytelling and left with all kinds of emotions. Thank You!!!!
You are easily manipulated. If you listen closely to the story he says she hung herself after walking miles while her girlfriends were with her. BS. No girl who walks miles for water carries a rope with her and no female is going to let another female kill herself in such a way.
Happy birthday Charlie! You’ve helped me be more confident in myself and this video inspired me to donate my birthday. What a great idea.
~ That's awesome! Thanks so much :-)
As an upcoming UA-camr I always aspire to learn the art of story-telling.
Thank you for this🙏
Mr IY up and coming or having you not started posting?
Your channel is cinematic and fun best of luck to you
BearYourSeoul Thank you so much. I really appreciate your kind words :)
hey best luck . I am also IY!!
I've noticed that telling a great story is much like writing a narrative paper.
Make a claim as to what the story is about and follow the story's main climaxes with cliffhangers in between whereas you will eventually reach a resolution/the meaning of the story.
The only difference is hand movements and voice variations.
I loved the way this story was shared. It got me thinking how privileged we are and how much of a difference one act of kindness can make. Thank you for sharing this.
Never fails. I rewatch your videos every couple of months or so. I always learn something new. Thank you for your thoughtful content 🙏🏽
I haven't watched the video yet, but just gotta say that I loooooove that you interviewed Scott Harrison, because I also admire his storytelling abilities so much. I was really amazed when I realized I just watched a 30min ad on UA-cam and it made me become a regular donator. I never watch ads. But gotta say I'd watch this all over again, because it was so well told and so charismatic from the very first seconds, and I wanna learn how to do that. He could've literally sold me anything 😂
The exact same thing happened to me!!!!!
Anyone can argue with your ideas, concepts, proposals. Nobody can argue with an intriguing story, well told.
That story at the beginning. I just woke up and was not ready to cry.
I heard this story a few years ago and it made me cry and I wanted to give but couldn’t but best believe after hearing it again I am going to donate
I was so intrigued by his story I forgot I was watching another video. Great story, great lesson.
~ Glad you're digging it!
Scott Harrison's stories give me chills.
I always feel manipulated by these story telling people. Like they’re taking advantage of my monkey brain to get money out of me.
Yeah it's definitely rehearsed over and over again. From my perspective his micro expressions are showing annoyance.
I totally agree, there's something about him that feels insincere. The story is certainly dramatic and moving, but something about him makes my skin crawl.
most people who don’t donate feel that same way i’m just saying
One should research after hearing these stories. It's all about acknowledgement and initiativeness
Lol it’s all about persuading
"don't just leave people hanging"... phrasing!
I attended the church he talked about with Rachel when this happened. Amazingly inspiring.
I’m so late but omg how’s her family doing now??
@@PoojaKunaparaju Lol
This impacted my character in a totally different way the title promised
Thank you for such a helpful video. It is so amazing to see and meet more people who just have the heart to help. Thanks for the helpful tips and inspiration.
This video is great. Thank you, Charlie. This video made me cry, hearing the story that the guy told about the girl. My next birthday - which is my 24th birthday on the 23rd of July, I'm donating to Charity Water! I've never heard about this company or anyone doing anything else like this before and I wish I did hear it before because I'm incredibly grateful for everything in my life and I don't need anything else, so I'm donating my birthday so people can give money to people that will appreciate more than I would!
Not only how to tell such a stories that I got from this video, It touched me to hear my own mother's story being told. I am Ethiopian and these types of stories are true.
all love, im Ethiopian too. wish u the best
2:30 First Topic
2:42
2:52
4:10 Mystery Topic
5:41 Lesson take away
5:53 Purpose
6:05
I hesitated on clicking this one. The word Story is SO over used in media. I'm going to tell the story of this wedding... I'm going to tell the story of how this car was made... I'm going to blah, blah, blah story this and story that and story the other thing. But this video is an exception. Stories that are truly stories, are created. They are crafted. They have parts that make up a whole and they are not simply a documentation of a time or place. True stories have purpose and momentum and twists and a payoff. Well done on this one. Thanks for illustrating true craft and construction of story.
This story does have me in tears. I do feel so connected to this organization and want to donate my next birthday 🥹🙏🏻 RIP Rachel ❤ beautiful Angel
I love the examples of visual clips linked to the "psychology example" perfect genius
Definitely getting his course. I want to be a better communicator and story teller. Love these video breakdowns.
Happy belated birthday! I'm too broke to give to charity, but I do volunteer work to give back. An added bonus is that I've gotten to meet a lot of good people.
Our identity is a story, our nations are stories, our brands are stories, our history is a story, and so on. We instinctively edit our experiences in our minds, turn them into memories and extract meanings and emotions from them. Conventional storytelling mediums (TV, films, books, songs) are neat material packages of the same mental process we do in our heads all the time. Tell the best story, take the best meaning from it, and life becomes a whole lot rosier.
Gordon Ramsay charisma breakdown for charisma under pressure and problem solving !
Imagine if we had government that could speak think and act like this. Not just tell us we should? Why do we hire bad actors?
Because those bad actors are willing to be manipulated, and to lie for money. Genuine people, such as this guy, are not willing.
Why did i want to cry throughout this video, i would have if i wasn't on a tight deadline and cannot risk the domino effects of it. Listening as I prepare to write a compelling story and presentation of my leadership journey. This was powerful! i love the idea of donating your birthday and I'm definitely replicating it.
Thanks for this. I love making Storytime videos and I think it’s a great skill to learn how to explain my experiences better
Charisma on Command: I can't afford $30 at this point in time, but this video really reached me. So what I can do, what I have done, is my best to share it with many other people in a meaningful way, and at least a few of them will check it out, and if not contribute, then share it along themselves. It's the least I can do, so I tried to be my best as I did it.
~ Awesome! Appreciate the share, Grae :-)
dam dude u look 10 years younger than you really are, congratulations
Liams music the man has grey hair
@@BenCadetThePastafarian not him🙋
Just Dart it was a joke
@@BenCadetThePastafarian sure
Thank you for reminding me that I have the power to save a life today, and for putting me in touch with the ability to do it. For your birthday, you have given me a gift.
Thanks for sharing this, Charile! Happy Birthday! Just made a donation. Thanks again!
Jesus, i got such goosebumps on the first girl, but the little 9yrs old just cracked me.
Same i didnt expect to cry this video
wait what? You turn 30? you look young for your age! very very young!
Some of the best stories I've ever heard were at a pub having a pint. You'd be surprised how many people go just to he heard, to be listened to and I believe that sometimes that is one important service you can give to others. Lend them your ears, share a beer and you'd be surprised what amazing stories you will hear.
What an amazing human being you are! Thank you for sharing your knowledge
this is a killer channel. i can't explain how much i learnt through this channel. 🤩🤩
I'm early so maybe you will see this comment. I, as well as probably many other subscribers love to read educational books about these topics since there is mostly much more to it than can be discussed in a 10 minute video. It would be amazing if you could share some books with us at the end of every video for those that want to learn more.
Keep up the great work!
Something related is that there's a video about Charlie's recommended books! :D
Gunners
I'm busy reading how to win friends and influence people, brilliant book. Thanks for the recommendations.
Check this list out, they are some of my favorites :-) www.charismaoncommand.com/best-personal-development-books/
Thank you for the video! I've recently been thinking about this and you gave some great tips. Happy super-belated birthday!
~ Thanks Mathias!
Hey, thanks a lot for the tips; I really appreciate that you take the time to share your insights--especially in regards to effective social interactions.
It's taken me up to now to to notice just how much I, as well as others connected to me, have grown and benefit from your contributions. I hadn't even noticed at first, but it has been steadily gradual and it continues.
I've run into some resentment from a lot of people. This isn't something that would normally bother me, but it's tough when it's on the behalf of superiors at work. Subtly, they have been working to take me down. They mostly resent the fact that many of the woman are fond of me. Each of my superiors have little to no experience with woman. One of them (the head supervisor), at 29 years of age, has only been with one woman ever. The others share a similar experience.
Anyway, since they've arrived to replace the previous management, I've been getting write-up after write-up. It's a scary situation! After some years of homelessness, I have really turned my life around working this job: complete with loving and trusting family/friends. It's been wonderful to be able to be there for them; to contribute so much laughter, security, and adventure. I really don't care about the women at all! I just want to preserve and improve upon what I have/am now: for myself as well as others. So if you have any insights into and/or tips in how to navigate the workplace under such conditions (with resentments from above), I'd really appreciate a video on it specifically. I've looked through your channel to see if you had any: I may have missed it. If so, perhaps you could provide the link to me directly.
Thanks again. Great health and great fortune to you!
I am touched, moved & inspired by your video! I have never heard of Charity Water until now and I am thrilled to dedicate my Birthday to such a beautiful cause! Thank you for not only sharing the importance of story-telling, moreover, speaking about #CharityWater.
~ That is awesome Anne! Appreciate your generosity. :-)
I always have a story that cracks people up.
my life.
you got me interested, how about a "draw my life"?
sneaky basterd haha! maybe as a christmas special or something
You got me. Your story cracked me up.
Nice element of mystery
Personal Power 😂😂😂😂
Amazing guest, amazing video, amazing story, amazing purpose, amazing content (as usual) you're doing a really fine job and you have a some razor sharp observation, I'll give you that
This is why I'm sticking with you Charlie. You choose to focus on people like Scott Harrison. You're teaching more than just competence in human interaction. Story is what binds us on a real human level, it underpins every single art form and as you say, it's also relevant in business and science. What makes the difference is which stories we choose to tell.
It’s actually interesting watching him in a social setting, would love to see him at a party ahah.
Hi, I was so excited to get the notification that you're doing a piece on Master Story Telling. But I can you please redo one about story telling? Because I really feel that this is just extremely bias towards the water crisis. There's very little in terms of tangible concepts that I can latch onto and practice.
Awesome video. Thanks for all the personal development help you’ve given me and others. I hope you blow your goal through the roof and have the best birthday ever!
~ Appreciate it +A Alvarez!
That video offers so much insight about storytelling, and the best about it is it's digging deeper than small talk or flirting.
Excellent techniques for a language classroom.
A good cause too, loved the content.
~ Thanks! Glad you're loving the content :-)
Communicating in general is difficult today because of the effects of social media.
Charlie you are a legend. I really admire and appreciate you teaching charisma while also exposing us to Charity: Water through the stories Scott Harrison shares. These were the most valuable 15 minutes of my day.
~ That's awesome Azriel. Glad you're digging it. :-)
Love this video and charity: water. I'm currently reading Scott Harrison's book and it's a great story.
is that the photoshop brush on the thumbnail? Might want to get rid of it
Noticed that too hahahah
LMAO he's fixing up his face
EXPOSED
Great video! Can you please do a breakdown on Dave Chappelle (humour)?
I love how you are telling a story about how to tell a story.
magnífico 🌸
I have been known for my speaking ability, however though I was never known for my storytelling ability, but ever since I came this fascinating art of storytelling, I have begun to take notes and start using the technics of storytelling.
I must say, the results have been overwhelmingly surprising and continue to deliver amazing results.
All I had to do was just one thing, I just had to change one thing to change the whole perspective of storytelling.
6:26 I understood that reference!
I think my heart just broke.
I'm from Ethiopia and never new about these stories
It touched my heart
Very inspirational, I love the tips and lesson, but also this reminds me to be a little more selfless and become involved with more groups like this. 💙
I'd love a video on Gustavo Fring from Breaking Bad.
I am in love with your channel and watching your videos! I should be honest with you and saying that I don't watch every video, because sometimes its can be too much of a psychology, but when I do, I understand how simply helpful and genius is your idea of this channel and the effort for every single video, that you did and continue to do! Huge thank you!
I have a little idea and would like to share it with you: a good storytelling its always useful thing, but how about a short conversation, where you have minimum time, but you also need to tell a story or saying how are you doing. Unfortunately, almost 90 % of today conversations with people going just through "how are you doing? Good, and you? Me too". So if you could do like a few videos about short talking, i would definitely watch it !;) have a blessed day, Polli🌻
Appreciate the kind words! Also, thanks for the suggestion - we'll add this to the list. :-)
Happy Birthday Charlie!! Hope you reach your goal it's a wonderful idea. Please make a stand up video next time I'm full of breakdowns. Keep up the good work guys :))
Great show I really am learning a lot watching your videos 💯
We need more people who are able to tell a great story and wants to create a wonderful impact on the world at the same time. That'd be awesome!
You should do a breakdown on (hasan minhaj)’s storytelling skills , HE’s THE BEST I PROMISE
I cant help but dislike him. I dont know why.
Also trevor noah too
Wow - just rediscovered this video. Thanks again!!!
You should do one on why you're videos are so good. Seriously, having trouble capturing an audience, you guys are great
New video from charisma on command 😱 best birthday present ever!!
Baron Sackey happy birthday!
Happy Birthday, Baron! Make it a good one.
Baron Sackey happy birthday🤘
Happy Birthday Man!
Loved this video
~ Glad you're loving it :-)
It's great to see you again, Charles. Great video, beautifully inspiring stories. Happy birthday you look amazing! I could have guessed you were 10 years younger.
~ Thanks Ahavah! Glad you're digging the video :-)
1)Don't start right from the point. Come with a background that the listener can relate to, and then give a solution.
2)Keep a mystery element that will keep the interest and attention of the listener.
3)When telling the story in the first person, take pauses to let the listener absorb the feeling.
4)Keep one personal story.
5)End with a lesson and don't keep the listener hanging.
wow am i the only one who cried after hearing that story of the little girl?
Love this.
~ Glad you're loving it!
@ Charisma on Command, Thanks! Can you do a video about if a boy opens up to another boy?
Much appreciate listing 3 principles in the description with jump links.
Beautiful stories 🙏❤️
Beautiful story telling tips....
Thank You 🙏
YES exactly what need! Thank you so much! ♥️♥️
~ Thanks for watching!