ANSWERING YOUR ASSUMPTIONS ABOUT ME
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- Опубліковано 9 лют 2025
- In which I answer some of your assumptions about me!
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I loved hearing about your bi/gray/ace-ness. I mean its not always necessary to disclose that information but as someone who falls in and around that ace-y umbrella it was so nice to hear!
Hospice social worker? You are seriously my hero. Seriously you are so strong. I’d be curled up in a ball on the floor. My grandfather had one in the home he was in and it was so special and important to us. Thank you. And I think orange sucks. Lol
aw thank you :) I really love my job and I'm so happy I can provide support to families like yours and people like your grandfather during that time.
My family and I appreciate that. And on a side note I appreciate that you’re a bit of a smart ass like me. Lol. We’re a rare breed.
Gray aces unite, woot :)
Here also, yeah :-)
Sorry... but Im a little confused... what does gray implies?
@@tpstps85 Basically, for me at least, it means not being definitely 100% ace - that you're close to that end of the spectrum but still somewhat or slightly in the "gray area". For me, it's that I'm definitely not interested in physical relationships or dating or anything, but I do still find certain women (because I also ID as gay) attractive and might have some kind of feelings for them. Just not enough to actually want to date them or do anything :P
@@rose_and_thorns oh! I get it! Thank you so much! 😊
I’ve been watching your videos for years now so when you said you are on the ace-spec I knew I chose the right person to watch! I am myself ace as well and it makes me so happy to see others out there!
:))))
Love knowing that there's another bi ace on booktube! I was too young to be a part of the 'scene' movement, but I've always loved the music/the style! Anything emo/scene/goth/skater, I adore it!
Gray Aces for the win! (It took a long long time for me to work that out about myself. I just thought I was broken in someway. Understanding me has been a phenomenal happy moment for me.)
Omg I am dying. Bless you, bless you so much. Looking at the comments I can see people are hyper honing in on this already but it's just so heartening to find people who identify as ace. I identify as demi/gray ace and often feel like I am on my own, so to see people I really respect who are in the public eye "come out" as ace absolutely fills my heart with joy.
aw thank you :) I've been surprised by the amount of comments I've gotten about it honestly. I'm so blase about it that I thought it would fly under the radar tbh.
I id as pan/ace - and i feel so blessed when i know of/learn someone else is part of that community, too :)
:)
I'm obsessed with your nails, and the fact it matches your outfit😂💖
thank you :)
"Stepping out of their lane and stepping into mine." I deeply feel this statement.
None of these surprised me. But it was a lot of fun! And helpful. Especially what you had to say about friendship and family... I'm currently estranged from my closest friends and I've been pondering how things might have happened differently. I've also been wondering if I had unreasonable expectations about loyalty and dependability. Nope. I just had different expectations from my friends, and a crisis revealed those glaring differences. This line of thought clarified my own motivations and values when it comes to relationships. Thank you. I feel stronger than I have in long while.
I'm in the same boat about expectations of friendship. I "broke up" with my two formerly best friends, because they turned on another friend of theirs (who wasn't my friend) when her mother disappeared for a month, and she started going through depression. I realized they're not the kinds of people I want to be friends with. (Well, that wasn't the only reason, but it gives you an idea of what they were like.)
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Oh God, that's sad. Many of us don't know how to handle depression, or grief, or traumatic losses etc... But when we care we often eventually muddle our way through it, trying to understand and be supportive. It's a shame that your friends didn't make different choices. If you're comfortable sharing, how did you break up with them? Did you confront them?
@@kittymachine3798 No, I never confronted them. I just started spending less and less time with them. Eventually they noticed that I wasn't reaching out to them anymore, so they also just stopped trying to spend time with me.
It was technically only one of them that was really bad, and the other was just the type that "copies the leader".
Ah! Pac sun, chunky vans, The Used, Brand New, TBS, Seses Fail and i know a bunch more. I know what you mean by scene music, but not dressing like it! And loved this video. Thanks for sharing 😊
Yay biromantic grey aces!!! Also I am OBSESSED with your nails in this video and the whole gray scale theme going on!! Love love love!!!
And to the bane of my family, I am also a sit down go out to eat person instead of fast fast food. All they want have is like McDonalds or Wendy's and I would rather not. Lol
Haha oh no! I love orange! Especially paired with grey - looks so good. I really enjoyed this video. Been binging a lot of your content to get recommendations on books to read and I really like how genuine you are through all your vids, including this one
thank you :)
Been watching your video for years and had no idea you are ace too!!🤗
:))))
It was so nice to get to know you more! Thanks for sharing personal stuff and just interesting facts!
Friends are chosen family...that what gets them higher on my list than most family.
A bi woman on the ace spectrum who loves books! It’s like I’ve found myself! 😃
Oh hey same! I love alternative pop/rock and movie and video game soundtracks hehe. And I didn’t even know you know about Digital Daggers! (I’m new to your channel) But I found the band through a Reylo video lol.
Pacsun really is a whole different universe now than it was 10+ years ago!
yes I don't even recognize it
I didn't know you were on the ace spectrum
For most of this i was like same but i don't think orange isn't that bad as long as it's not too aggressive or neon. Also gray aces for the win!
I'm okay with like... a mustardy orange....sometimes... but not on my body ever.
This was fun! I was surprised you feel so strongly about the color orange 😂😂
I just don't love it as a color to wear lol
I totally get about the grudges when someone does something to someone close to you.
Okay but the DA Inquisition soundtrack 👌 i recently fell in love with the God of War soundtrack too!
I'm surprised we're quite similar about some things!
Love your videos, can't wait for the next one!
Really enjoyed learning more about you! 🤗❤
thank you :)
This was a great segment. Happy to learn more about you.
So this might sound odd, but all the personality traits with friends, family and taking no shit to match my personly like exactly, so strange and cool!!!
:)
Omg your job is like my future goal, except I wanna go on the other side of the desk from what I do now and serve adults with intellectual disabilities and their families rather than hospice, though mad respect to you for doing hospice.
thank you :) best of luck to you with your population as well.
I was so excited for this video and it had all I expected and more!
:)
I LOVE this video, Sam!
Also another person here who doesn't really like labels, mostly because I don't fall into them on exact terms!
My assumption is that you're really good at adulting. You just seem like the kind of person who has their bills paid on time or early every time, who almost never calls their parents to "fix" things for them, even when you were in college, and who doesn't typically need other people to help them. Very independent by virtue of having your shit naturally together.
I don’t like the color orange either! Never have, never will.
Reading to video game soundtracks is 🙌🏼
yesss
Loved this. It's cool to get to know more about booktubers we follow on a deeper level. As a bi woman myself it's nice to find another. I subscribe to your other channel to so looking forward to that video on this topic.
When you said cinnamon roll I thought you said salmon roll and it was very funny because sushi and it applies lol!
LOL
If you don’t like orange then I’m wondering what kind of fall and Halloween decorations/colors are your aesthetic? Just curious!
She probably likes black,red,brown,and yellow?
black red brown and yellow is absolutely correct. more fall colors. orange mixed in to those is fine but on its own, ew.
@@ThoughtsOnTomes I understand the feeling the only orange I like is the fruit haa
That subscriber was me! Hi Sam!!
9:10 resonated so much with me
deep friendships mean so much to me
Thoughts on Tomes any relationship has to have depth for me. I actually have a hard time with casual friends / casual dating. I just get easily disinterested if I know it wont get past the shallow compliments and how you doings
Sam we are similar in SO many ways! I feel like we’d get along great :D shame I don’t live anywhere close tho (I live in Frankfurt, Germany) otherwise I would’ve taken up your offer to hang out 😃 I don’t normally comment, just wanted to tell you that you seriously rock and hell yeh FOB! ♥️
well when I come to Germany to finally visit the Black Forest we'll have to hang out lol
❤️ I need to read borne!
Remembering all of those skater brands is speaking to my inner early adolescent xD
Ahh this is such a fun video! I love getting to know more about you as a person. I'm kind of the same with witchcraft I think. I dig the aesthetic and things like tarot and crystals and herbs and candles and whatnot and did some (very misguided) rituals when I was younger but I think I'm either too down-to-earth or too scared to really go for the practicing stuff.
Also, ngl, I am dying to see some photos of baby-skater-kid-Sam.
Oh, and bi-ace-umbrella-high-five! (Bi/panromantic-demisexual in my case, I think?)
omg if I can find some old photos I may put them on IG stories lol
Thoughts on Tomes yaasss PLEASE!
i actually have a tattoo of the paragon and renegade symbols combined! paragade all the way!!
YESSSSSS
Ugh, damn I wish I lived locally to you (but I'm stuck in the fucking freezing tundra aka Minmesota)! I'd totally come hang out (& steal doggy cuddles)!!! 😁
And Pac Sun...fucking loved their skater clothes!!!!
Also, can someone explain what gray ace means? I know ace, but not what gray ace means and I am always trying to learn more in terms of how people identify so I can continue to grow as an individual and better understand others! Thanks to anyone who decides to answer this! I feel dumb for not knowing and appreciate you taking the time to answer! 😊
oooh I do not envy you and those tundra conditions.
here is a resource on ace definitions in general: wiki.asexuality.org/Gray-A/Grey-A
@@ThoughtsOnTomes thank you so much for the resource!!!! I'll definitely check it out!!!!
Totally want be friends ❤️
:)
Wish we could be friends but I’m 17😂 literally our personalities are twins. Except I can cry on the spot and make a joke on the spot and not stop laughing at my own damn joke for an hour😂😂 you’re so sweet and fun and I love your videos
aw thank you dear :)
It was a really cool video idea! The only reason I would love to live in US is to hang out with you hehe. Oh well, hope you come to Europe some day!
Orange is the worst!!! So glad someone else agrees, I see so many people saying it's their favorite color and I can't understand haha
how could it be a favorite?? HOW.
random: but what book is that on her shelf in between Ruin and Rising and Six of Crows?
language of thorns - the grishaverse short story collection
Thoughts on Tomes thank you!!
Oh wow nice to meet another Bi-romance grey-ace :) . It nice to know that one of my favorite youtuber and I has something like this in common
:)
6:35 is the books title "Two at the Lightning" you were talking really fast so I didn't catch but the book sounds interesting so I wanted to make sure I heard the title right?
Too Like the Lightning! I have a review for it as well :)
Yeah, we'd be friends. :)
I also viscerally hate the color orange 😂
Sam rocks 🎸 shed probably make a fantastic friend 😊
Wow we have a very similar personality and opinions. 😊
What's your favorite band? :)
oooh idk if I could nail down a favorite but I've been loving Pvris for a long time
I had a scene phase. I was not a skater but oh my I could look like a drowned raccoon any day of the week...
Yess Digital Daggers. I had knoow idea you were grey-ace, me too that is so cool! I am like the same way with friendships, I really try to have deep conversations with every person I met . . . I have funny reactions when people are more closed down. Me with scene music too
This sounds creepy but I saw you once in public but I didn't know how you'd react if I said hi 🤣 I live in Delaware as well, it's so weird to see a UA-camr from DE. No one is from DE lol.
“Anyone who lives locally come find me and we can hang out.” Um, Samantha. 💁🏻♀️
LETS DO IT
Thoughts on Tomes TELL ME WHEN
...or I’ll tell you when I’m in the area? Lol
Not even orange in sunsets?
I mean I'm fine with orange in nature LOL it's not a color I choose to wear
Who wouldn’t marry Garrus? 😍
Ill skip on garrus and marry thane. Ill endure any and all pain for thane
I love this! You seem like such a slytherin in your answers. But girl witchcraft doesn't have to be wiccan 😉 I wouldn't be a witch if it HAD to be a religion. So dabble if you wish 💕
LOL thank you I do feel they are very slytherin. and i may dabble lol
So, basically, I'm 70% you! 😝😂👍
I have punched that reporter so many times in the Mass Effect series. Errytime. POW, right in the kisser.
YES
“Anyone who lives locally come find me and we can hang out.”
*Sigh* Peru isn't local, is it?
that’s upsetting that your work is saying you can’t have your nails... that seems dumb 😒