Organizing Expectations vs. Reality - Mistakes to AVOID
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- Опубліковано 3 чер 2023
- I LOVE organization, but I have made soooo many mistakes. I am hoping to help you simplify your home and NOT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKES I DID!
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Organizing vs Staging is a perfect way to explain the disconnect between Pinterest photos and a home in daily use. Much like staging a house for a real estate showing vs backpacks by the door, prepared and ready to have a smooth morning launch out the door.
Yes! I used to be so frustrated until I realized it’s just not a realistic photo of a home.
A lot of pinterest in my opinion is just organized clutter. My rule is no storage [except bookshelves] should be more than 50-65% full so I have a fighting chance of seeing what I want. It works in every storage space - kitchen, closets, sewing stuff, etc.
In real life, do people actually own 6 bottles of household cleaner? I buy one at a time of most products. We don't even have two phone chargers in our house!
Brilliant video & tips.
Thank you for being so real. Sometimes when I watch UA-cam videos or ones on Instagram etc they all look so perfect & then I get discouraged because my house isn’t like theirs.
In the UK our houses are a lot smaller than ones in the US & we don’t usually have mud rooms or utility/laundry rooms.
A lot of people have to use their downstairs loo for coats etc & the washing machine is often in the kitchen.
@@MegInASheathDressMe too.
"Don't think you're not organized, just because your calendar looks like it's been used." 😂 God bless you, Bobbie. Thank you for your lovely videos and your smile.
As a big reader, organizing books by color, is just plain stupid! You are correct, how will you find a book you want to read?
Yes! So much good information. My daughter decided to reorganise my bookshelf so it looked nicer. But I like to keep them by author and in the case of my (many) Tom Clancy books, in chronological order. Also I also agree you need to declutter before you organise, just makes more sense. Where I come to grief is with things that don’t have a home. Anyone else have this problem?
Those acrylic calendars are often blank when photographed. Enough said.
Love the video ❤ I have a suggestion for your husband's tray. Paint it white or whatever the desk color is, and you will notice it less. That way, he can keep his tray, and you won't notice it as much 🙂
That or just put those things in the most convenient drawer in the desk.
Good idea, wrap it with pretty contact paper that works too- simpler. I also put pretty lacey fabrics inside the trays to make them more appealing...
Thank you for releasing me from the tyranny of the little squashy packets of clothes that end up a wrinkled mess and takes way too much time to fold! I tried, but no. Currently I’m trying to organize my freezer and make it functional. All the bags of frozen produce is stumping me. (Not hard to do since I’m organizationally challenged). Regardless of how you corral them, when the bags are partially used, they get lost on the bottom. And the odd shape of the freezer drawer adds to the challenge.
Anyway, I enjoy your organization videos. ❤
I find freezers particularly hard to organize! I feel your pain!
Love that you said it matters how it works for other people in the home too. Agreed, if I lived alone things would look better but I don’t want to live alone. Subscribed. ❤️
Yes such a good point.
Haha! I literally refuse to waste life hours decanting items in my pantry. The door stays closed most of the day. I'm too tired after shopping. And unless you buy the exact right size you can be left with small amounts that don't fit!!! So you have to clip the bag and have it hanging around too. Plus occasionally you have to wash those containers- more work. Most youtubers I watch also empty new stuff right on top of the old. Too fussy for me 😊
Yes...the extra's storage is ridiculous as well! Fussy is a good word for it!
I LOVE THE MINIMAL MOM!!! She has GREAT ideas and you don’t have to be a minimalist to gain lots of knowledge
I love that saying too “it has to be just as easy to put it away as it is to leave it out”. I actually think she got that saying from another UA-camr who helps with decluttering (the Clutterbug or some one else)
That little tray you use for keys is adorable. Perhaps to solve the noise problem and keep the ascetic you could put a small piece of soft shelf liner in the tray.
🤔 I hadn’t thought of that. I think it may move around too much because we are grabbing our keys.
We use a vegan [fake leather] "dish" container thing because we also didn't like the noise from the ceramic bowl. Seems to be a common problem. 😅 Temu has them in different sizes and colors for a few dollars.
I loved this video! Each point you made was a much needed reminder that I should not stress with keeping up with IG or Pinterest images and do the best with what my family and I have, need and use. Thank you! 😊
The people that are organizing their books by color are not readers!
I can tell you how we solved the books by color issue, and it's functional AND beautiful. We have built-in book shelves in our living room, parlor, and downstairs hallway. They aren't stand alone shelves purchased from IKEA or Pottery Barn. These old colonial homes commonly have tons of built-in storage. My husband was completely against the books by color thing for the reason you stated - we'd never find anything, especially because all of our shelves are full [and I'm constantly culling books].
I decided to reorganize our books by subject and then organize each subject by color and so far it's working great. So we have sections on Marxism, Capitalism/Fascism & Imperialism, Soviet era history, the Cuban revolution, Mao and the Cultural Revolution, African liberation movements, Agrarian Economics, Fiction, Law, Science, Sewing, etc. Then each category is by color. It's working great. And the subjects wind thru the rooms, so it starts at one end of the living room and jumps to the parlor then jumps to the front hallway all the way to the end of the hallway. I put small stickers where each subject started but gradually we didn't need them. At this point, when either of us buys a book we want to keep, we get rid of one.
I agree with all of these!! I call it the aesthetic perfection fallacy. Social media images are not reality (duh. LOL)
The calendar example really resonated with me. I feel the same way as you - my handwriting is not "beautiful" and it just looks messy and cluttered. And even though almost no one comes in our house except me and my partner, I get self conscious about how it looks, is something misspelled, is there personal data on it?? It becomes a paralysis by analysis trap.
I also do not decant everything in a glass or plastic container. Somethings will store well with a clothes, pin or binder clip are their own clothing system already on the package
I have a large book collection. My eldest, twice, reorganized my entire library by color -as a favor. 😳 I told her if she does it again, she’s out of the will. 😂
Ok…thanks for that laugh!!! 😂
Agree 💯 with declutterring first
Face it, Instagram, Pinterest and Facebook have ruined us for what is real and what is “pretty”.
honest and friendly done! Thanks! :) Yes, I love the "minimal Mom" too!
I needed this! So true! Just last night i was agonizing (again) over my LR layout. My 2 arm chairs look best ACROSS from my sofa on either side of my fireplace but then the tv is behind the chairs. And we use the room to watch TV. I'm often battling design vs function. My 11 year old said mom, they look best there but we'll never use them. Back to the drawing board 😂. Love your videos!
When I think of a book of mine I want to locate on my bookshelf, I can never remember who wrote it but I can remember what the cover looked like. Our memories all work differently. So it makes total sense to me to categorise my books by colour on my shelf. -(- not to mention it gives me visual joy)I’m surprised at the annoyance this provokes in others . We are all unique in the way our minds work . I love books. I have a degree in literature. But my memory for them and the way I see them in my mind is by how they look. i. I suspect there may be others who think like this too.
That's a valid point and I'm sure other people have the same experience. I organize my hanging clothes by color because when I think about what I want to wear, I first think of it by color, then style.
Absolutely! We are all soooo different! I KNOW it works for some and not for others. I will say...I do love the look of it - visual joy indeed!
Totally agree with you about sorting books by colour, may look beautiful but completely impractical for life. (Plus I likely don’t have enough books in at least one or two colours.). Also I love your point about pretty versus real life. Your front door is real life with coats and packages etc. thanks for being so honest 🙂
I did it by subject, then color. So we can find what we need. I started with white books to black and the next subject starts at black and goes to white and so on so the colors snake through the rooms like that. We have bookshelves in 3 rooms. 😮
Good points! Real life! ☺❤🐦
This is funny for a New Yorker like me. "You don't want to move things in order to put something away." Oh how I wish I could live like that. Maybe someday. Here in the NY metro area, people often live in incredibly tight, often prewar spaces. Have you ever seen one of those ingeniously clever wooden toys where you have to move one part to slide another part to get another part to move up and yet another to slide out then there is a little space and on and on... this is how many New Yorkers live. Our apartments would make a puzzle-maker smile. I wish I had a bedroom that looks like the one you are in. My bedroom is actually now an office with a bed squished into the corner. I considered making it into a loft bed with the desk below, but I am nearing sixty five, and would probably end op on the news as a cautionary tale about little old ladies and loft beds in cramped spaces. I will be wishing for a spacious house and also working towards it.
So happy to listen to your great ideas today!
Thank you so much Karen!!
Organizing can also be trial and error, I will try something and if it doesn't work for us I make adjustments.
The "too many" products thing makes me laugh, because we just act like we need more space, when we need to stop buying more stuff until the others are used up. We all do this and then think a bigger house will solve the problem, when the problem is our constant need to buy more junk. I do think sometimes it would just be better to go back to the old fashioned closet instead of trying to have a mud room look, at the front entrance.
So good. It’s frustrating to organize, but then doesn’t work as you use it
Agreed!
When you said staging I realized how true that is. Just like when people are selling a home. Staging the living room, ect...Absolutely agree never buy or guess on the container/containers you need. Get rid of stuff first see whats left to organize and measure. Good tips Bobbie👍
I have an entire container full of containers that don’t fit-ugh! I’ve learned to measure every time.
New subscriber. Your few videos about organising and decluttering are good. Shared the same with my sister. We are in our sixties. So your videos suit us to put your ideas in our homes. Thanks for sharing. Love from India.
Where have you been all my adult parenting life, so glad I found you.
Thank you for saying everything I was thinking.
So right! I have MS. I struggled for 23 years before diagnosis and a massive way I coped and still do is maintaining minimalism. I say maintain because non minimalists fantasize that it’s a once and done. The fantasy visual artistic minimalists and these colour staged organizers get in the way of really enjoying minimalism. Real life is messy. Less stuff to manage and easy to maintain is the key for me.
Peter Walsh’s statement “You only have the space you have” was a tremendous help. I kept trying to shove elephants into Volkswagens without realizing no amount of organization would make the elephants fit. Rubbermaid tubs were just Junk Bunkers as Don Aslett called them. 2 authors that helped me long before minimalism became a thing.
About the shelf/key tray. Could you paint the shelf to blend in with the wall or trim and go back to a wood tray?
Yes, a painted white wood tray!
I totally Agree, I decluttered two yrs ago before organizing. I try not to buy stuffs if I don't need them and I luv cleaning and keeping things tidy. I use sturdy boxes and bags to keep things organized. Not buy bins...
I use a wooden bowl that sits on the top of a wooden table. The woods are different colors. Question, could you not paint your wood tray white to make it work in place of the white glass tray?
Dawn the Minimal Mom is sssso great! 👏👏👏
Great video, more more more 💜💜💜💜
This was great. Thanks for sharing these great tips.
I'm so very grateful you're here !
You are adorable❤love your ideas😊
I actually organized my bookshelf by color. It works great as I remember every cover.
Love this! Would you consider doing a video on organizing first aid products? I have the same issue as you do, and I’m stumped:(
Thank you. You've helped me alot.
Recently discovered your channel. You have an awesome channel. Thanks for all you do.
♡ Well said!
I colour coded my children's clothing, especially socks and undies. It saves a lot of time when sorting socks. Also, hubby has been told he will wear black socks from now on. No more sorting. They are all the same and they go in a separate hot wash.
Oh my, function over design this is me to a T, I constantly changing design because the function is not working. This is a game changer for me thank you sooooo much
These are fantastic tips Bobbie !!! I love organization too, sadly my husband does not. I want everything hidden behind doors, he wants everything out in the open. He constantly loses everything he touches and never puts it in the same place twice. Drives me insane ! I do the best I can by giving him containers to drop his stuff in, if only he would use them !!!! You are speaking the truth about everyday real life - it’s a mess !!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂
I’m the same way-I like no visual clutter. My husband is pretty organized and neat thankfully but we definitely butt-heads sometimes on visual clutter.
@@MindfulMidlife they need to understand that OUR way is better !!! 😂😂😂
My hubs keeps filling the containers I put out for him😂
@@ruthtorphy2204 at least he uses them ! Now you gotta teach him not to make them overflow with stuff !!! 😂
My husband is the same. I clear spaces and he fills them with a neat pile of “just in case”. We have decades of just in case that have never been used. I could scream
So paint the wood tray White! Problem solved.
You made so many wonderful points that I hadn't thought of. I'm very OCD but none of my family is. It's just my husband and I now, so I do need to keep him in mind. He's definitely not on board the organizing or OCD train. Lol
Thank you for a great video. God bless. 🌺
Haha, my hubby puts up with my organization but I think he also appreciates it.
absolutely brilliant
Agree with color organizing doesn’t work. Looks cute though.
I love Dawn!!, almost as much as I love you!!💕
😂🤣😂 The pantry police 👮♀️ I love it!! This was a great video real valid points. I was so guilty of buying bins first DUMB because now they are all at goodwill because I needed to declutter more and these bins did not work 🤦🏻♀️
Thank you for the comment on organizing books by colour, drives me nuts. Signed, a librarian 😊
You look pretty minimalist. 😂 Dana White talks about making room for what you use by decluttering a space and not enlarging your storage containers.
I am ultra tidy and neat. All three of my adult kids are untidy and disorganised. I wonder how much I contributed to that.
I have the same office issue. Ours is right by the front door but also very open to the dining/living room because the doors are diagonal across the space. I hate how it looks because it's a catch all. My husband loves that he can dump everything there. ARGH!!!
I feel your pain Vicki!
Pantry police, love it!!
Oh, this was BRILLIANT, Bobbi!! Thank you for the sanity check!! I love the process you spell out here: declutter, measure, and THEN organize. And actually organize--don't "stage." If I organized my fridge the way some influencers recommend, half the food wouldn't fit! And don't even get me started on leftovers! Why would I put leftover mashed potatos into a reusable storage bag only to put them in another dish to reheat them the next day??? 😂
Yes...apparently some influencers don't have leftovers...or actually use their refrigerators 😂 !
@@MindfulMidlife 🤣
Buy a nice wood dish for the keys and paint it white ❤
I probably will do that or black!
I organize my books by subject.
One of your most important key statements was if it causes you stress…
My husband and I have VERY different organizational styles. One thing that was driving me bonkers was his massive piles of t-shirts in our closet. Heaven forbid he wanted a t-shirt at the bottom of one of the piles - the rest would all fall on the floor! 🤷🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
Finally we did some major decluttering and got the number of his t-shirts down to a level that made sense.
I had a hanging shoe rack in our front closet that held shoes we never wore. (Ummm, goodbye shoes!) I got some cheap baskets from the Dollar Store and rolled up my husband’s t-shirts and put a basket in each level of the shoe rack. Now, he can pull out a basket, grab the shirt he wants and push the basket back into position.
We BOTH love it and No Stress! 😁🥳
Good solution for both!
Bobbie just spray paint your wood tray white, then you have contrast and the quieter use.
You’d get a 😂if you could see my Calender.
Most times when I organize I do so for me and how it looks but it’s not functional or convenient for my hubby who has MS. In that case I just straighten it all out every now and then.
I lost my money and my time looking forward perfection....Recently I come up to this point?..Thank you
Only people who don't read would organise books by their colour. It's that simple.
I organize books by category never color agreed that's silly.
Be careful when you say “no one” because it can come across as very ableist. I almost turned off the video when you were so adamant about “no one” being able to find books sorted by color, until you said to come tell you if you’re wrong… so I am. As someone who is neurodivergent, I have a hard time remembering certain things. Book titles or author names, for instance. My books are color organized, and it works for me 100% more than every other way I’ve tried. In fact, I try to organize things by color, or at least in a categorical way that makes sense to me, more often than not. Try using more inclusive language, such as “a lot of people” or even “most people I know”, otherwise it can come across as judgmental and like there’s something wrong with you if you do it such-and-such a way. The point is to be organized in a way that works for you, yeah? How it’s organized isn’t as important as IF it’s organized.
You are talking a lot, about issues, but without solutions… venting?
🤨 You don’t KNOW me! How dare you spread all my foibles all over UA-cam?! 🫣 😂