Establishing Identity After Losing a Parent as a Child | Ella Baragwanath | TEDxCambridgeUniversity

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  • Опубліковано 11 гру 2024

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  • @benedictboisclair6901
    @benedictboisclair6901 Рік тому +9

    My dad passed away this year on May 18th, 2023. Coincidentally the video was uploaded on May 18th, 2022. I've been finding myself losing hope and questioning why do I keep going anymore- I felt like I lost my identity. My dad suffered from dementia and one late night, he went "home" and I was 2 hours late. After 12 hours of finding him, a passerby found him lying peacefully by the road in that afternoon. It was the most tragic and hardest thing ever in my life. My house doesn't feel the same anymore and walking through my dad's room to get to the kitchen, I always feel like dissociating. My dad, John, has always been the kindest, most hardworking, and smartest person I know and I will carry his legacy through my life remembering him and he will live through me. I hope he's doing better now with his family up there and get to be free once again. I love you, rest in peace, John Boisclair.

  • @dyltherapper9069
    @dyltherapper9069 Рік тому +8

    Can’t stop coming back to this talk, so underrated

  • @26.mikeblack
    @26.mikeblack Рік тому +11

    Beautiful message I felt this in the deepest part of my soul I lost my mother at 9 years old God bless you Ella ❤

    • @corie515
      @corie515 Рік тому +1

      Prayers 😢 I lost my father at 9 years old 💔

    • @finola1087
      @finola1087 7 місяців тому +1

      I lost my Dad when I was 9. His death has affected me all my life.

  • @LynneKelly-vg6do
    @LynneKelly-vg6do 10 місяців тому +12

    What a brave talk. So much of it resonated with me. I lost my mother at 5. I miss her every single day...I am now 50. She has always enriched my life because I spend it desperately hoping I am making her proud. God bless, Ella. You are a brave girl. Your Mum would be so proud of you.

  • @LjXu1
    @LjXu1 11 місяців тому +5

    Word for word.. this lady has explained my whole life.
    I never honestly imagined, there is someone else out there, that has felt exactly the same all her life, as I have mine. My Mum passed away suddenly when I was 9 yrs old, I didn't quite understand at the time. One minute she was there, the next minute, she was just gone.. I wasn't allowed to go to her funeral, or see her in hospital.
    I can't ever begin to describe how I've always felt, all my life. Thanks to this lovely lady, this is exactly what my life has been.. ❤

    • @boi.7377
      @boi.7377 7 місяців тому +1

      Same here. What’s a crazy world we live in.

  • @cortezsb7727
    @cortezsb7727 9 місяців тому +7

    Lost both my parents by the age of 11. This video had me in tears.

    • @neomancr
      @neomancr 4 місяці тому

      Same here at 7. I think it's kinda frustrating how hard it is to find information about that happening at all

  • @redriver6541
    @redriver6541 2 місяці тому +1

    This..... On point. It also makes you wonder what the point of anything is.... If it all ends and when you're gone it's over (likely true) what's the point of anyrhing? Death will bat 1000 over the existence of the universe.... because even the universe itself will end. I struggle with this almost daily.

  • @monylacerda9341
    @monylacerda9341 Рік тому +4

    this video powerfully resonates on me. my childhood stopped at that moment and with some luck and grit you can somehow understand that nothing will be worse in your life. in a certain aspect, you are also kinda free to experiment the good and the bad things in life. only stronger.
    for those who are passing or experienced losing a mother long time ago... trust on you. all things shall pass. rely on your strenght. life will reward you in tiny bits. but will.
    great video.

  • @kellsiebainmakeup
    @kellsiebainmakeup 2 роки тому +2

    A powerful way of explaining how there is a light at the end of the tunnel after losing a parent. I like what you said about trying to live the life your mum missed out on, as I am doing the same for my dad. You’re a great speaker!

  • @libbyleonard-shaw5388
    @libbyleonard-shaw5388 2 роки тому +3

    Great talk! Ella looks wonderful as well.

  • @Clintsessentials
    @Clintsessentials 11 місяців тому +1

    Amazing insight, thank you. 💕🙏

  • @daisycoombs1656
    @daisycoombs1656 2 роки тому +2

    Ella's such an impressive speaker, this is very powerful x

  • @duggy5725
    @duggy5725 Рік тому +2

    Beautiful 😪 really well said ty

  • @bowzeyyylove
    @bowzeyyylove Рік тому +6

    My mom passed away in January 2007, where was this Ted talk growing up? 😢

  • @eloiseallexia
    @eloiseallexia 2 роки тому +1

    A wonderful talk - powerful message and beautifully written :)

  • @FFrogvr
    @FFrogvr Рік тому +4

    Im a father, with mnd two children, my heart broken, because i have to tell them the greatest hurt anyone can ,

    • @kroepoek3764
      @kroepoek3764 5 місяців тому

      George I wish you and your family all the best. My father died now nearly a year ago from a very progressive ALS when I was 16. Honestly the thought of other families having to go through the process of a mn disease makes me want to throw up. Enjoy all the moments you can with the people you love. I swim yearly and get sponsored for ALS research, which my father also used to do before he got diagnosed, but now there is even more of me wanting to fight against mnd’s so they can hopefully finally find a cure. All the best ❤

    • @kroepoek3764
      @kroepoek3764 5 місяців тому

      And although a child loses one of the most important persons in their life it does, as was said in the video, give immense mental fortitude, which is a quality that helps alot in life. I don’t know if you’re still there, but if so, what kind of mnd do you have?

  • @markconkrite5032
    @markconkrite5032 10 місяців тому

    Three siblings I’ve lost losing family shapes all of us

  • @sunshinewilson3710
    @sunshinewilson3710 10 місяців тому

    8:00

  • @neomancr
    @neomancr 4 місяці тому +1

    What she's describing are orphans who have extra parents lying around anyone to continue to fill in. Most real orphans they seem to just be completely sweeping under the rug end up in a series of foster care systems and then are just forgotten when they're old enough to be.
    If this is "gate keepery" someone has to speak up for orphans who don't happen to have extra parents to continue guiding them anyway and speaking to that as if that's the typical experience for orphans is pretty insulting

  • @waycreativehouse
    @waycreativehouse 5 місяців тому

    This…all of this-Nickay

  • @Liravin
    @Liravin Рік тому +1

    1:45 that's because becoming a president is the opposite of feeling emotionally fulfilled. someone who feels accepted has nothing to prove and doesn't turn out to be a huge narcissist who seeks approval from millions of people. i find it interesting that that is their idea of emotional wellbeing.

    • @kroepoek3764
      @kroepoek3764 5 місяців тому

      I don’t think it is their idea of emotional wellbeing, rather either actually trying to inspire people and help others in the country or probably also often just chasing power and money. I don’t think however every president needs to be a narcissist

  • @katielewis3863
    @katielewis3863 25 днів тому

    🤍🤍