Why Don't I Ever Feel Heard?

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  • @jerrywise
    @jerrywise  Рік тому +3

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  • @SakuraSamora
    @SakuraSamora 3 роки тому +17

    Wow this has been my issue....I am so obsessed with being heard while I'm drowning in my trauma.

  • @emilyflores9844
    @emilyflores9844 3 роки тому +22

    This is my life summed up in a 15 minute video. I need to listen to this on repeat until I get it

  • @victoriao1828
    @victoriao1828 4 місяці тому +2

    I don't want to be heard anymore. I just want to be left alone and not run over.

  • @Denise-y2c
    @Denise-y2c 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you

  • @Lillian584
    @Lillian584 4 роки тому +11

    You are an amazing human being Mr. Jerry Wise. You have so much compassion combined with insight and training. You have saved my life and I am forever grateful to you 🙏🏼 Thank you for your teachings.

  • @theresistance3818
    @theresistance3818 2 роки тому +4

    ... Mmmhmmm, that's my family...you nailed it, Jerry. 😞 ... "being heard, because, you believe you're worthy of it," comes with repercussions... doesn't, always, happen like that... I can fight to be heard every day of the week and ,twice, on Sundays...that doesn't mean that I won't be ignored or verbally harassed, in an effort to have my thoughts and feelings, shut down.
    ...A life of this,dysfunctional family dynamic, takes a physical, mental and emotional toll.

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  2 роки тому +3

      I'm glad it resonated. Growing up in dysfunction could definitely be challenging, the goal of self Differentiation work is to get that dysfunction out of us and to take responsibility over our own functioning in that dysfunction. Sending love and strength your way ❤️

  • @kareemmohammed5270
    @kareemmohammed5270 3 роки тому +11

    resonate, deep insight, much appreciated as always Jerry.

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  3 роки тому +1

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  • @Velvela23
    @Velvela23 11 місяців тому +1

    Hi Jerry. Can you make a specific video regarding narcisistic families and food related disorders? I don't eat several foods since I'm a baby (not because of health restrictions but because I don't like it and tend to be scared or disgusted to eat anything new) Which socially restricts me in lots of situations bc I am a VerYy picky eater today. As a child I refused to eat or vomited my food and my therapist said this was probably a way to express my feelings and feel heard since I'm from a narcisistic family..it was my way of protesting. Up to this day it also leads to self neglect regarding my health in general...so I was wondering if you had patients with similar concerns or disorders.Thank you for all your videos. It's super helpful and healing ❤

  • @rturney6376
    @rturney6376 3 роки тому +7

    I swear Jerry lives in my head! 😂😂😂

  • @dompronesti6774
    @dompronesti6774 2 роки тому +4

    Thanks you from Australia I have been struggling to understand what it was like and how I have been impacted growing up. Your videos have been so good for me to understand so much and has given me some comfort.. thank you God bless

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  2 роки тому +2

      You are very welcome Dom, I'm glad my videos are helping you. Thanks for being part of the community ❤️

  • @FlyenNun1
    @FlyenNun1 6 років тому +6

    This was extremely helpful Jerry. Thank You!!

  • @chosilyfala1483
    @chosilyfala1483 3 роки тому +5

    It means for me as staying un loyalty ans infantilisation. Thank u a lot. Thé néed to ne invisible and not heard. Yes , you are right. Gratitude.

  • @darinsmith2458
    @darinsmith2458 2 роки тому +1

    My experience with this is to out crazy the crazy. I am learning to walk away from situations that I am not heard. I try to stay solution oriented. I own a condo and it is part of an association and we have a management company running it. I know that I am not heard by the President or his wife (also on the board) so I go where I am heard and I get solutions. Often times I go the management company or other members on the board. I also even stated at the last board meeting that I won't join the board until I get more support. So I did stand up for myself.

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  2 роки тому +1

      Learning to stand up for ourselves is important

  • @cathymars23
    @cathymars23 3 роки тому +2

    Excellent information. 🔨✂️🔧🙂
    Thank you so much Jerry.

  • @chosilyfala1483
    @chosilyfala1483 3 роки тому +1

    Seeing things we want becoming we don't want. It's thé same.

  • @jenniferfaravelli434
    @jenniferfaravelli434 5 років тому +6

    Thank you. So true to life!

  • @kaciskileslaws1489
    @kaciskileslaws1489 2 роки тому +3

    Writing and sharing my creative writing with others (not unreceptive family and friends) helps me feel heard. Is that healthy? I wonder.

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  2 роки тому +2

      It can be healthy and it can be unhealthy. Like anything. What is the intention behind sharing? Self expression? Receiving validation?

    • @kaciskileslaws1489
      @kaciskileslaws1489 2 роки тому +1

      @@jerrywise I haven't really asked myself that but I feel like it is both. It might be more about validation I think. I want to feel good enough. It took me a few years of writing to get published in journals and if that progress came to a stop I might find it meaningless to continue even though I enjoy it as an art form when I'm doing it and find comfort in it, like it brings me joy to write something well.
      I'm pretty introverted so it kind of revives me to read or write. A lot of the times I notice some unconscious feelings coming into my writing too that I haven't identified. I try to use it to understand myself better and my state of mind.
      Thank you for the feedback. I feel it pointed me in a good direction.

  • @bensweiss
    @bensweiss 2 роки тому +2

    I say I want to be understood. Not sure that is the same as being heard.

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  2 роки тому +2

      And if the other is not capable of understanding us, as adults at what stage do we let go of this 'want'?

  • @paulbporter1090
    @paulbporter1090 3 місяці тому

    I need a double like button

  • @hubertbenke7343
    @hubertbenke7343 2 роки тому

    ... So I was watching the recent Depp vs Heard trial and that's how I got here I guess...

  • @reddishsky8614
    @reddishsky8614 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you.

  • @randyw7237
    @randyw7237 2 роки тому

    Work on yourself. Don't focus on problem children and have

  • @tanyakashyap6944
    @tanyakashyap6944 3 роки тому +1

    🙏🙏

  • @spetsnaz4027
    @spetsnaz4027 3 роки тому +1

    It’s like this abuse comes from the ether, no someone did it lol if the Narc stfu this video wouldn’t be needed.

  • @ThatsTheSpiritGodCast
    @ThatsTheSpiritGodCast 7 років тому

    Hi Jerry you ok ? Just concerned 😳 for you Jerry - you look blown up man, like you is about to burst ...! - what happened...... ? Did you eat all the pies! 😂😊😁😆😳👍 I hope you're health is ok 👌..! Take care. And thanks for these free videos. I'm enjoying learning ... although in this video I'm tired of the word 'HEARD' the way you say it is quite irritating 😉lol

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  7 років тому +14

      No Loah, this video was made before I lost weight 2.5 yrs ago. I am placing all my old videos up on my you tube channel. This is Jerry 1.0, I am still Jerry 2.0 lol

    • @julia9991
      @julia9991 7 років тому +2

      Glad to know that, as I was concerned too! Learning so much from your videos! Thank you! Do you ave videos on how to overcome the feeling of isolation?

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  7 років тому +11

      Actually, these are older videos before I lost my weight. So don't worry. I'm much healthier and 140lbs lighter :).

    • @charlescarter2072
      @charlescarter2072 5 років тому +3

      Lorraine Hurt people hurt people eh!

    • @teresadexter9965
      @teresadexter9965 3 роки тому +2

      @@jerrywise
      Well done on losing the weight Jerry.