I would rather have her drop off the kids to CPS than to unalive her entire family. It reminds me of that one woman who unalived her two kids then jumped off of a bridge. At least the kids are going somewhere unharmed because this could have easily turned into a violent nervous breakdown. I know they will criticize her for having multiple baby daddies. But that can't be undone the children are already here. It's hard to take care of one, let alone five. I am glad that some type of structure or solution came out of this situation.
I have one son, before he was a month old, I realised that motherhood isn't for me but I will pour my all and raise this one the best I can. He's 14 and I've never even had a pregnancy scare since being pregnant with him.
twin!!! where have u been lol girl me too my son is 25 i decided when i was on that table getting that csection i was not having anymore....i made it my mission to not have anymore...i am soo glad i stopped at one cause this here, i have seen alot of my friends and other women/girls sit back and keep having children while crying they are struggling...NO SIR!!! i rather struggle with one and keep it moving
Have always said if a woman walks away from her kids, SHE will be called every name in the book except a child of god. However when dads abandon their children, its boys will be boys or he ain't the 1st & he won't be the last. The epitome of double standard.
@@darylmcmanus1731 CAP. Majority of men does abandoned their children because they can no longer have access to the mothers body, especially in the black community. This is the reason why there are a lot of single mothers in the black community. If it wasn’t true it’ll be a lot of single fathers in the black community.
@@darylmcmanus1731 “In 2023, there were about 15.09 million children living with a single mother in the United States, and about 3.05 million children living with a single father.” Get your facts straight before lying.
🤨Blk "dads" other groups of men collectively don't abandon their children. I said what I said. It would show so much integrity when black women finally state these words instead of trying to lump and group. All other men in with black men because you don't want to say black men.
She asked for help and didn't receive it. Now how she move forward is her decision. We all need help in some way. She did the best thing for her and her kids.
I hope she doesn't have any more kids... saying you are mentally fine but giving up kids to complete strangers.....I keep saying it is always parents messing up kids. I really pray those kids have a better life. I chose not to have kids due to my childhood. Kids are not Pawns.....😢
I’m glad she didn’t harm the children and knew her breaking point, but I also agree with Destiny saying that she shouldn’t have had multiple kids after the first two. I hope she goes to therapy, and I pray for the children’s safety. Edit: Fu@k those men who left her to be a single mother, I didn’t want to leave those losers out.
Whenever someone gets desperate to drop off their kids, I think of what happened to get to that situation. Because it's usually due to lacking to funds, housing, mental health or not having community to help. I know people love to blame the women but I've known women who've had people guilt them into having or keeping the kids. Either the guys themselves OR family members when the women I know said, "I want to have an abortion or do adoption." Those same people who were cheerleaders for giving birth now are silent when she's crying and asking for help with babysitting.
Girl FIVE KIDS?! Take my kids and check me into a mental institution please. I couldn’t handle it either! No support?! The FATHERS need to be held accountable too!
She lost me when she mentioned a lawsuit against CPS because they took her kids over false allegations. So she now decides to voluntarily give up her children to CPS Make it make sense lady. The people that are suffering are her children. Tte dad's shoukd be ashamed of themselves too. I hope she gets the help that she needs and her children aren't traumatized by this. Remember.....children dont ask to be born, but once they are here it is both parent's responsibility to take care of them.
Why did it take having FIVE kids to realize this?? I'm childfree by choice and this is a hot mess. If you don't feel like you have support nor self-development, WHY DID YOU HAVE FIVE KIDS?? The first two may have been unavoidable based on what she said happened to her as a kid, but why did she continue to reproduce? Makes no sense. The fathers are just as guilty.
Her first 2 were grape babies, and after going through that myself, I can see why she had the rest. She was on auto pilot. Thar trauma does things to your mind that you have no idea about or control over. Yall really don't get how insensitive you guys are acting towards her. Please talk to people who've been through it before you judge her!
@kaybrown7733 As a survivor AND someone from a broken home with 1 parent who was a narc, accountability is key. It is ABSURD to have five children then give them away. She could have stopped at 2. Just because it is hurtful, doesn't mean it isn't the truth.
@abellabarbie Yes, she could've stopped at 2, but neither I nor you know where her mind was at the time. As you should know, being a survivor, we don't all come away from that in the headspace to make clear mature decisions. Lots of factors are at play, and I will always give some grace to a fellow survivor because I wasn't always ok. It took many years for me to become the person I am today, and I harmed myself and others along the way. That's accountability! It's easy to armchair quarterback someone else's life. It's hard to look back and be honest about your own life!
Are you even aware of the unchecked exploitation and abuse that little black girls go through in childhood? If you were aware of this, then you would stop asking this nonsensical question. Educate yourself if you yourself have common sense to not have all of these kids out of wedlock. Then you would logically ask ascertain the conclusion. Are you ignorant to the fact that? 64% of black girls have been m0/est3d by the hands of black men by the time that they are 18 years old. Yeah, you don't wanna talk about that, do you?
Everyone needs to take responsibility for their reproductive health. That means being responsible with birth control AND using condoms!!!! Discussions on safe sex need to be discussed before anything happens and boundaries need to be set to protect yourself! You do not need to be a baby mama and and life is definitely easier when you aren’t
If it's easy for ppl to believe that men cannot be monogamous. Then it should be easy for ppl to believe that women having more than 2 children is DIFFICULT. Especially knowing that the mother will be the primary caregiver. I will also say, take necessary measures to NOT have more (children) than you can efficiently care for and for yourself.
Men can be monogamous most just choose not to be. Most women choose not to be as well because women cheat as much as women. Monogamous is a choice and so is cheating/polygamy. Either a person has morals or they don’t. Monogamy is Godly.
I mean i feel like we're going to see this more often especially with prices going up. And motherhood being treated the way it does i won't be surprised. I'm a single parent so i get it thank goodness i have my family and friends because his sperm donor left.
I'm still angry that Andrea Yates' husband caught no charges over what happened to those children. He had been warned by so many professionals what was likely to happen. Couldn't even do the simplest thing of having a family member or friend be around to supervise
If a person doesn't ask for help, they say why didnt they ask for help. A person asks for help, and they can't help. A person finds a solution to the problem, and that's a problem. Make it make sense. If she had chosen to unalive the kids, then the questions above would have started over. Smh. Can't win for losing.
Its not the action. Its the attitude. This did not need to be live streamed. She didn't need to do radio interviews. Even if you argues that this was responsible, it should be treated as a solemn event. Creating a viral moment doesnt reflect that.
Even if the first 2 were due to sexual assault, she had 3 more by 27? I’m glad she didn’t hurt her children but we need to start promoting abstinence. You literally don’t have to have sex. The consequences are too high to feel entitled to sex and boyfriends/girlfriends when you have children you can’t care for 🤦🏽♀️ When you are low income you can also get free birth control (you have to actually take it for it to work) again stop having sex…men and women! Sex is where babies come from.
I think women who are sexually active would benefit from getting on birth control and still demand a condom to be used during sex to prevent unwanted pregnancies. Some of these men don’t mind running away from their responsibilities, so I think it’s important for women to do all that they can to prevent being a single mother.
THIS 👏🏾 PART 👏🏾 RIGHT 👏🏾 HERE!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 But people want to hear ANYTHING but STOP HAVING SEX!!!! I have 2 children. I have been abstaining since my second pregnancy 10 years ago. I will not let just any and every man in me. I raised my children and got a degree. Half the time I was in school, I was living in a shelter. People need to take accountability and responsibility and stop looking for help from everyone who wasn't effin' their baby fathers. I try not to judge because yes, the men are effin trash and 100% to blame. However, to keep doing it? Now these women want to be child free to get themselves together to give their children better? The children may not respect that because what will their experiences in the system be, while you're "getting yourself together"? She's selfish. She gave them away because she wants her freedom. Literally, doesn't want to go to jail. Idk her face screams dupers delight to me.
I’m childfree but stories like these matter AND the reason why I’m as upwardly mobile in my life currently. Especially post roe v wade. Society wants women to have kids in a nation that isn’t family centric or has resources for them. People always yell “representation matters” until it’s hard truths being put on display. Young women need to see this harsh reality of when you have more kids than you can properly care for and partner with the wrong men. The mother did what she was supposed to do. At least she’s holding herself accountable for her mistakes and not taking it out on her kids. People love talking ish from a safe place but get silent when someone asks for actionable solutions. Was she supposed to let her kids go hungry, neglect, or abuse them? Do yawl know how many stories there are of people pimping out their kids etc?! (I live in a city with a huge sex trafficking problem). Even if family wanted to help many people don’t have the means to care for extra people due to inflation. For the people who are super judgmental, volunteer at some of these shelters and connect with some social workers. Learn from other people’s mistakes young ladies because it’s not fair, but it costs women way more when we get it wrong.
Lol they don't want blk and poc having more kids. The birthrate among Caucasians is very low and getting lower. How do you think that's seen in a nation that still upholds yt supremacy?
All I can see in my mind’s eye are those children watching their mama drive away without them. as a mom of three, that breaks my heart. I’m trying not to think about that.
Just think b what would happen if she had a nervous breakdown. Do you think those images would be worse? She made the right choice. It's too bad that people are too judgemental to see it.
@@kaybrown7733 at no point in my comment did I pass judgment against her. I was simply commenting on what would’ve been the point of view of the children involved. I guess it’s only the mother’s mental health that matters in situations like these. It’s sad, no matter which end of the spectrum you’re looking through. It’s funny to me. how the people who want the most to correct those who they feel are passing judgment on others ,fail to see how they themselves are judging everyone else around them.
@jillagnello5202 At no point did I say you were passing judgment on her. I was referring to the multiple comments from people who were. And yes, the kids' feelings matter, but the most immediate concern is their safety. How they feel won't matter if they're not here.
I'm glad she gave the kids to CPS because I've seen too many people harm, sell, and straight up murder their children. 😢 but honey, I'm sorry, five kids, not one or two, that's understandable, but damn five kids where was the common sense? After the second child.
My mom has 5 kids. By the time she was 24 she had all of us, 4 of which were under the age of 5. She worked and did it all by herself. We were never even once taken away, let alone dropped off anywhere. Women who walk away are just as bad as men who walk away. I feel for this woman, especially having been SA’d and other things she went thru. But most of my empathy is reserved for those children.
I feel for the children. Some parents use CPS as a holiday break away from their children. I've witnessed it second-hand. They come back pregnant again and the cycle repeats. Hopefully, she gets it together for the sake of her babies. CPS is not the place for kids.
I'd rather they use cps than harm them. That's the part you're not considering. Also, no one says a word about the deadbeat fathers. This lady has been through more than most people's brains can take, yet she still made the right choice. This is why the birth rate will continue to drop. Women are dammed if we have them and dammed if we don't.
@@kaybrown7733 if you think those kids aren't harmed by being dropped off with strangers then you're sadly mistaken. Yes, I am thankful that she did not delete those babies but, she exposed her children to trauma either way.
@IndiTol-ko1bp Wow, do you not understand what happens to kids who's parents do not or can not parent them? Go look in your local jail, rehab, or cemetery. That is where they end up. Go ahead and pretend it's not the truth. I'll wait. 🤣
I just wish that she had responsible & honest women around her while growing up. I agree with the humanity of the last creator's response. As a strong proponent for Mental Health, I loved it and agreed. Although I know an amazing foster mother to over 10 kids, she's Wonder Woman; but there aren't many great stories that we know of for foster care. This is a sad situation, and these men are just abhorrent! Ladies, please make wise decisions because they absolutely don't care & aren't made to care enough.
1st lady,She can’t do interviews and study? Maybe she’s getting paid to do the interviews. She said she needs money. Why can’t she share her story and get paid
Destiny, Ive been watching your videos for a long time, and I gained more respect for you because of your opnion on this subject. We as women need to hold each other accountable and hold each other to high standards. No more clapping for BS.
Off topic but the other day in your life you brought up that Maria Davis is your good friend randomly I follow her I watch her probably just as much as I watch yourself I’m sure I cannot be the only person who would thoroughly enjoy a link up Can we get a link up Sis
She would have greatly benefited from therapy. 2 kids by 18. I couldn't make out the bleeped words, but I assume it was SA. If only she could've gotten professional help after the first 2, it would've been so much better for everyone. It's better to surrender the kids than kill them all. And, I assume she got PAID for the radio interview, so I don't understand why people are pressed
Well she was assaulted of the first two children, she was a child herself & she was groomed. I think he was older than her, so he probably convinced her a lot of things & maybe she wasn’t allowed to get an abortion
Sounds like she said the first two kids were from grape. So that coupled with the environment she said she grew up in “the hood” and possible assault she needed help but if those in her environment have a certain mentality how could they help her. She was a child herself and people respond to assault in different ways. This is not to absolve her from her responsibility but she is only telling pieces of her story. Don’t throw rocks in a glass house. An interview doesn’t equate to money and this could be a testimony she needs to tell but doesn’t know how to yet.
Why do BW get themselves in these situations in the first place? As a BW, I stopped feeling sorry for BW because at what point do BW start making better decisions.
Women throughout history have had to surrender their kids due to men leaving, and the woman unable to work to afford daycare. Not to mention paying all the bills alone.
Do you know what I wish people would stop trauma dumping and telling their stories and teach people how to not be in the situation There is such a beautiful lesson for young women to learn from her situation but the way the story is told we only hear a story unless you’re intelligent enough to pick out the parts of where she went wrong and how she possibly could’ve done better and children don’t have those skills by the way she’s not helping anyone she’s just telling everyone her story and probably this part of the story is to explain why she made the decision she did so she doesn’t look so bad more like damage Control
I hope this video helps any young woman that KEEPS having children SHE CAN'T afford or actually have time for. I'm tired of These women!!!!! I have 2 son's that are 24 & 33 living on their own NO Children because they understand how to be responsible Adults. Not outside acting PRIMITIVE. I'm over a lot of folks and their BULLSHIT. Didn't learn NOTHING from the 1st or 2nd pregnancy. All i hear is bad decisions and NO ACCOUNTABILITY. Wrap it da fuc Up. The system is broken and we tired.
It wouldn’t surprise me if women choose themselves now even with children. Family abandonment, child abandonment, more orphaned children or children in the care of the government. It wouldn’t surprise me one bit if more Baby mamas say “I give up”.
You have no IDEA how PROUD of this BEAUTIFUL young lady I am. In the Bible at Ephesians 6:4 it clearly states that "FATHERS" are SUPPOSED to be raising and bringing up these children. It's NOT a MOTHERS job to be raising children, especially NOT ALONE. She is one of the GREATEST Mothers on this planet because a lot of mothers UNALIVED, or did MAJOR HARM to their children because they could not cope or handle doing a job GOD didn't DESIGN women to do....again, especially alone. She is a FINE EXAMPLE for women all over the WORLD. Instead of damaging or harming your children, it's best to get the HELP and ASSISTANCE that you need, even if it means CPS. This mother is taking care of business by getting her EDUCATION and doing a LOT OF SELF-CARE so that she will be in a better frame of mind and in a better position to do right by her children. I LOVE her so very much. May Jehovah, and Jesus Christ HELP her along the way. She's going to be O.K.
My thing is… if she's tryna get the bag even if its to go “viral” and get interviews then it is what it is. Only time will tell if she's sincere about tripling her revenue & getting her kids back from cps. But I know with 1 kid how tired I be so 5 I can only imagine! I sympathize with her fr
She was already on welfare and couldn't handle the children. The government was feeding, housing, and clothing the children. They even took care of daycare for her. She still couldn't handle it. Now, somehow on a medical assistant's income she's going to be able to go to work and support herself and five kids without help? I think she just needed an out. She's not coming back for those kids.
Good for her.. she knows what she can handle and dropping them off is better than killing them.. it’s her life and no matter what she does now only God can judge her. I have nothing bad to say about her hope she gets it together ❤
I have seen so many women and wished they did this because they were such horrible mothers. We need to understand some women don't understand they aren't fit to be mothers until the kids are already there. I think this is a better decision as they have a better chance of having their needs met. I bet this was hard, and it is also hard to raise children on your own with no help at all. The men in the situation need to be held accountable, she didn't make those 5 babies alone. So, she shouldn't have to take care of them alone. Period.
She did the right thing for her children. She knew she was in crisis and she did the best thing for her children and she should be praised for that. Im sure this wasn't easy for her either.
drawing so much attention to her story is another layer of protection for these kids, being under the public eye could keep them from being lost in the system.
I think she did the right thing. She realized that she was suffering mentally and wants her kids o have the best. As a single mother with no family support or bd support. It can be very challenging. I commend her for not killing her children, but taking them to a place where she know they are safe. Prayer for her and those children l.
That lady questioning rather she was genuine because she was doing an interview was so bs! You can study and go to an interview when you no longer have 5 kids. That's the point. She didn't kill the kids she admitted she didn't want to handle them. Leave her alone. That's what social services are supposed to be for. And if they are a danger to children, then we need to fix that. People just find it easier to try to change the woman than the systematic problems that got her and her kids where they are.
When she talk about money and being able to double it had me dying 😂😂😂 like yes you couldn’t handle 5 kids but thinks she can handle a business?!??? Be so fr 💀
She is attractive , the men knew she would be a good candidate for their lineage since there were others. She made those decisions over and over, no marriage in sight. Sadly, this happens often. Procreation is a hobby for some. You are literally changing your family tree... the repercussions are enormous.
@cb4017 low investment in your gene pool eventually rears its ugly head decades later. It is a cycle of low achievement and bad decisions for both men and women . Pedigree is valued in many cultures for this reason. Young girls need guidance and real conversation regarding their reproduction and choosing the father if your offspring. Emotional decisions will lead you astray every time. Glad she woke up, cps is the best choice.
I'd rather he give them up then be one of those mothers that pimp their kids, "drop off "their kids, or OFF their kids. My question is why did she have so many kids with these men? Oh dang, 2 came from an attack, that's rough. Wait, so she gave them up and now, she wants them back. Did I get that right? Hmm, I would need proof that she has things in place, so she doesn't put them up again. We need to find these men and hold them accountable. The energy that they hold women too they need to do the same for these men not taking care of these kids. I feel for the kids because her kids will most likely be split up.
First two underage through SA clearly caused a lot of trauma. Hard to understand with censoring but I think she said the father of another child was also ab*sive and an add*ct and then d*ed?? A cycle of trauma and ab*se is hard to break out of. I would much rather the kids be given to capable hands than hurt or neglected. I hope she gets the therapy she needs and gets her life together. I have severe PTSD from SA that developed into physical chronic illness, that’s a major part of why I’m child free, I know I can’t handle it. I was lucky my SA didn’t end in teen parenthood, it easily could have.
Upbringing and mental capacity plays a major role in the way a person makes decisions. This concept needs to take priority when accessing anyone. But what gets me is that men know full well what their intentions are when they approach women; and play a larger role in womens lives than what they are held accountable for. Everyone looks at women, but she didn’t get there by herself.
I don't care what anybody says! I am way too opinionated anyway to not say anything! She did the responsible thing. She admitted she couldn't take care of them and gave them away to CPS. A lot of men would leave their children alone in the home with no food or any supervision and not care about what happens when they are alone. Sure, yell at the woman who wants to give her kids a better life than yell at the man who doesn't care about the life of his children. Childfree 💯
I know we don't want to victim blame but let's reconcider who the true victims are in this situation. Instead of using birth control, this lady chose to put 5 innocent beings into a system that is already overwhelmed and ill equipped to handle the children they currently have. She uprooted their lives and inflicted this trama on to them when she didn't have to have them in the first place. If the alternative was harming them, she did the right thing but let's not act like she deserves to be praised for this decision. All she deserves is grace.
The fact that she's out doing interviews instead of actually being in school? Idk, she gives me bad vibes. I'm just going to say it--- I don't like her. My spirit just don't trust this woman. When I get this feeling, I'm often right. Something's going to come to light for sure. Get her off the media asap.
I may not say it as exactly as it is in my head, but do you know how it feels to be really desperate and hopeless? You are in such a state of mind that you have to fight constantly not to unalive yourself. It is not a case that it took her 5 babies to come to her senses. It shows how hard she was trying to be able to support herself and her children. If this is what she has to do to keep her sanity, I applaud her. For me, as long as she didn't harm the children, then she did well. I hope that her action will bring awareness to some of the plight that persons face at times, and encourage the seeking of help.
Well said. No one knows how difficult it is to juggle the edge of confusion and reality. Throw in SA, poverty and unplanned/unsupported motherhood? Recipe for destruction. More ppl need to pay attention to others on the daily tightrope.
School is out so if she’s doing radio interviews well… I support her decision because there are women out here that can’t even feed their children. Children are straight starving going down the street asking people for food. I know this for a fact because I had a few kids outside of my house knocking on the door because they were hungry and I’m like Where is your mother? It was about 4 of them. One was a friend of the kids. She was like I already ate before I came out. So this is why I support her decision because I’m tired of seeing little kids with snotty noses. Hair uncombed, clothes not fitting properly, shoes to tight. At least she’s not trying to continue to drag them into poverty. I hope she gets her medical license or whatever it was she’s going for, and get herself together and get her babies back. I’m here for women bettering themselves.
Doesn't she have extended family instead of complete strangers? I know a married couple searching and sure plenty of people looking so pray they end up with really nice people.
The family that let her spend her childhood being SAed, with no question of who is fathering these babies coming out of a teenage girl? The family she had to secretly work to earn money to escape the moment she turned 18? You want her to give her kids to that family? Sounds like the stepfather would happily take the girls, but I don't think that's a good idea.
I wouldn’t trust anyone in my extended family if I had babies I couldn’t handle, some of us come from awful families. Clearly hers was neglectful enough for her to have two babies underage through SA.
8:43 yep she did it for clout. Imo too many grown people want to go viral. 26:36 as a teen mom I bet a family member was taking care of her first child. She wasn't fully responsible for the child that's why she had another baby.🍼🍼🍼
Its nothing to be proud of but it may be the lesser of two evils. Ps. Your comments about having more kids after escaping a previous abusive relationship. I think its a combo of being very young when she had her first batch, then looking for love in all the wrong places. By the time she wised up she had 5 kids looking at her for what she can't give.
On the end of the kids I feel bad for them….so I know someone this happened to there mom gave them up no one in there family would house him was put in the system when they grow up and those same people tried to come back in the life they treat them as if they died because in retrospect they did in a sense and they want absolutely nothing to do with them
It's not easy being a single parent however, for me personally, Becoming a single parent made parenting and the financial side of things much less complicated for me. That's with zero child support, I want nothing to do with someone who made me fear for not just my life, but my families as well. I don't want someone that emotionally unstable near me or my child i do not want to be the parent to find out my child becomes gone forever when this person already revealed they have murderous intent. Anyways, I am able to buy and provide for my child a lot more as well since playing house wife without the marriage is no longer a stress in my life. I have a real job now, and I still am able to keep up with my home, it's easier to keep up with my home. Which still blows my mind because I'm working now I wasn't even working back then and it felt impossible. I actually even get more sleep these days too and for once I can say I wake up feeling energized these days. Chaos is no longer my lifestyle I have developed a routine and i used to not be a routine person. Some people are just not meant for relationships/marriage and I for sure believe I am that some people.
She's right, but the people who don't agree are wrong???... lol I don't feel bad. 5 kids???? She was being selfish to continue on having kids after the first child. ✌🏾 people "KNOW" a lot until reality shows up. Yall can continue these think pieces sympathizing with her but at the end of the day, she dumped her kids on CPS to gamble with her kids lives.
This woman seems to be a great story teller and wanted to be childfree by any means necessary! She also craves attention and doing an interview is so tacky and hurtful to her children! I refuse to enable women like this, because its always support mothers but nothing is said about the children, they are the ones suffering! Why would you send them to their sociopathic fathers?! I swear some of you are just insufferably dense! I feel so sorry for those children having to hear that their mother can not cope, left them with strangers, put them in harms way and is now doing interviews about how hard her life is! When are we going to talk about narcissistic mothers?! Cause some of you are delusional to think a woman is innocent and the victim every single time!
NOW I SAW THE VID...PARTS OF IT ANYHOW, ON SM. I ALSO WATCHED YOUR VID ON IT, A WEEK AGO. I WAS SYPATHETIC. BECAUSE I KNOW TOO MANY SINGLE MOTHERS & SEE HOW EXAUSTING IT IS. I WAS ALSO RAISED BY A PSYCOTIC/EVIL SINGLE MOTHER -10 YEARS IN THE SYSTEM. (WHICH WAS BETTER. BECAUSE I WAS SAFE/UNHARNED THOSE YEARS). I STOOD BY WHAT I SAID IN SAYING SHE DID THE RIGHT THING IN DOING THAT. SHE LOOKED EXAUSTED & UNWELL. IN THE VID, WHICH MADE IT WORSE. I DIDN'T GET WHY SHE HAD 2 DO IT ON SM. PEOPLE PUT WAY TOO MUCH ON SM. BUT YO IT'S DONE. NOW THIS...🤔NOT UNDERSTANG WHY SHE IS ON WHATEVER STATION/PODCAST DOING A RADIO INTERVIEW...FOR WHAT??? I COULD BE WRONG. BUT IT LOOKS LIKE SHE IS TRYING TO GAIN FAME OFF OF WHAT SHE DID. AT THE EXPENSE OF HER CHILDREN...THAT'S NOT COOL! (FEELING LIKE SHE WANTED TO BE FAMOUS OR GO VIRAL) THAT WAS A TRAUMATIC SITCUATION. YET HERE SHE IS DOING AN INTERVIEW JUST A WEEK LATER...MAYBE EVEN LESS THAN A WEEK 🤦🏽♀️ I HOPE THIS WOMAN EITHER HAS HER TUBES TIED OR TIES THEM BECAUSE THIS WHOLE THING IS GETTING REDICULOUS! THIS 🌍 IS WILD YO. THE PEOPLE IN IT ARE 🥶🧊 AF!
I think women like this might not admit to themselves that, yes, they are tired and want to not wade through poverty, but I think the biggest draw is the single life. She's on social media watching childfree women clubbing, hanging out, and enjoying life and I think they want that more than they want to struggle.
I'm confused at why WOMEN are questioning why she had 5 children. 🙄 Did she impregnate herself? Would these children not be with their mother if the fathers had stayed or at least the 2nd.
Did she not learn anything by baby nr1? Ok let say nr2. Just stop..... You donot repeat someting 5 times?? You can blame men for everything, but as a woman, you need to look at yourself too. Stop the nonsense!!!
@IndiTol-ko1bp Yes, because the moment an 18 year old escapes unspeakable trauma with two kids in tow, I expect her to make nothing but responsible decisions from this point forward. Cause that's how life works. 🙄
@IndiTol-ko1bp That's not how people work. If it was, then poor people would be the most fiscally responsible. In reality, stress and dysfunction is like quicksand, you panic because you're sinking which makes you sink faster. Studies have show stress literally reduces IQ points. You literally get dumber as your situation gets worse as it becomes harder and harder to think clearly. Sure, lets hold her accountable and in that accounting lets factor in that she was raised by a man that was raping her, who she had to escape from at age 18 by secretly working with two kids in tow and ended up with an abusive drug addict. Let's account for all that too.
@IndiTol-ko1bp why would you ask why she had sex, when you have sex? This society promotes promiscuity. So I'm confused as to why you would blame her for what society has conditioned as the norm. All children come from the mother's womb, so how does that stop the father(s) from being blamed?
@@NiobeNeo if you feel this way then why are you having sex with men knowing that they don't stay? This whole concept is dumb. So even though men know they cause children and that they are hurting their children, somehow y'all fix your mouths to blame only the mother. The child is half his DNA, so the women birthing the child is irrelevant. No wonder why she gave them up. Your reasoning is unjust and illogical.
1) Women in the comments will blame Men but she chose those Men. 2) Women in the chat will act like she wasn't promiscuous since 15. 3) Women in the chat will act like she didn't give up her family to go back to the streets. 4) Women in the chat please don't dissapoint me by proving me right 🤦🏾♂️
Ask how old the first father of the first two kids was. The majority of teen pregnancies have a father that is almost 30 or over. It is predators. BUT, after those two, she made the dumb choice to keep having kids, then blast all over the world her choices.
I would rather have her drop off the kids to CPS than to unalive her entire family. It reminds me of that one woman who unalived her two kids then jumped off of a bridge. At least the kids are going somewhere unharmed because this could have easily turned into a violent nervous breakdown. I know they will criticize her for having multiple baby daddies. But that can't be undone the children are already here. It's hard to take care of one, let alone five. I am glad that some type of structure or solution came out of this situation.
Poor children, they didn't ask to be here.
Well, at least she loves them enough not to kill them. No matter what she does, she is going to get dragged.
If death is the alternative, then having a mother and motherhood is freaking dangerous TF 🚩💀
Exactly...where were the 3 different fathers? They all rejected their children?
Ok.
@@cb4017yes… some moms do kill their kids. Pretending to be shocked does nothing for the conversation
@@cb4017 so says the absentee fathers. Isn't that the fathers intention when he leaves?
Y’all got excuses out the ass when it’s a woman being a dead beat 😂
I have one son, before he was a month old, I realised that motherhood isn't for me but I will pour my all and raise this one the best I can. He's 14 and I've never even had a pregnancy scare since being pregnant with him.
Exactly. Accountability and self awareness. I am tired of the excuses when innocent children suffer.
twin!!! where have u been lol girl me too my son is 25 i decided when i was on that table getting that csection i was not having anymore....i made it my mission to not have anymore...i am soo glad i stopped at one cause this here, i have seen alot of my friends and other women/girls sit back and keep having children while crying they are struggling...NO SIR!!! i rather struggle with one and keep it moving
There needs to be laws in place to regulate men's bodies. You have children you don't provide for? Vasectomy, or prison time.
Hold men accountable period
Have always said if a woman walks away from her kids, SHE will be called every name in the book except a child of god. However when dads abandon their children, its boys will be boys or he ain't the 1st & he won't be the last. The epitome of double standard.
Most men don’t abandon their children most of the time it’s the women
@@darylmcmanus1731 CAP. Majority of men does abandoned their children because they can no longer have access to the mothers body, especially in the black community. This is the reason why there are a lot of single mothers in the black community. If it wasn’t true it’ll be a lot of single fathers in the black community.
@@darylmcmanus1731 “In 2023, there were about 15.09 million children living with a single mother in the United States, and about 3.05 million children living with a single father.”
Get your facts straight before lying.
🤨Blk "dads" other groups of men collectively don't abandon their children. I said what I said. It would show so much integrity when black women finally state these words instead of trying to lump and group. All other men in with black men because you don't want to say black men.
@@Sunny-tc3ulDon't even respond to him it's not even worth arguing with such a lie
She asked for help and didn't receive it. Now how she move forward is her decision. We all need help in some way. She did the best thing for her and her kids.
I hope she doesn't have any more kids... saying you are mentally fine but giving up kids to complete strangers.....I keep saying it is always parents messing up kids. I really pray those kids have a better life. I chose not to have kids due to my childhood. Kids are not Pawns.....😢
So you’re saying people who give up kids for adoption are mentally I’ll???
I’m glad she didn’t harm the children and knew her breaking point, but I also agree with Destiny saying that she shouldn’t have had multiple kids after the first two. I hope she goes to therapy, and I pray for the children’s safety. Edit: Fu@k those men who left her to be a single mother, I didn’t want to leave those losers out.
Whenever someone gets desperate to drop off their kids, I think of what happened to get to that situation. Because it's usually due to lacking to funds, housing, mental health or not having community to help. I know people love to blame the women but I've known women who've had people guilt them into having or keeping the kids. Either the guys themselves OR family members when the women I know said, "I want to have an abortion or do adoption." Those same people who were cheerleaders for giving birth now are silent when she's crying and asking for help with babysitting.
Girl FIVE KIDS?! Take my kids and check me into a mental institution please. I couldn’t handle it either! No support?! The FATHERS need to be held accountable too!
No joke. My grandmother started at age 14, had 9, and ended up in a mental institution for years.
@@oliviagore7067 Damn I’m sorry to hear that!! Completely understandable
And the first two kids are products of rape, the first at 15. I wish she didn’t do interviews and stuff until she’s done serious therapy and healing.
She should have stopped after 1.
@@ineedhoez do you mean the 2nd? Because she said two kids from rape. Did you want her to grab a condom
She lost me when she mentioned a lawsuit against CPS because they took her kids over false allegations. So she now decides to voluntarily give up her children to CPS
Make it make sense lady. The people that are suffering are her children. Tte dad's shoukd be ashamed of themselves too. I hope she gets the help that she needs and her children aren't traumatized by this. Remember.....children dont ask to be born, but once they are here it is both parent's responsibility to take care of them.
Why did it take having FIVE kids to realize this?? I'm childfree by choice and this is a hot mess. If you don't feel like you have support nor self-development, WHY DID YOU HAVE FIVE KIDS?? The first two may have been unavoidable based on what she said happened to her as a kid, but why did she continue to reproduce? Makes no sense. The fathers are just as guilty.
Her first 2 were grape babies, and after going through that myself, I can see why she had the rest. She was on auto pilot. Thar trauma does things to your mind that you have no idea about or control over. Yall really don't get how insensitive you guys are acting towards her. Please talk to people who've been through it before you judge her!
It's not okay to make judgement on her choices based on your life.
@kaybrown7733 As a survivor AND someone from a broken home with 1 parent who was a narc, accountability is key. It is ABSURD to have five children then give them away. She could have stopped at 2. Just because it is hurtful, doesn't mean it isn't the truth.
@abellabarbie Yes, she could've stopped at 2, but neither I nor you know where her mind was at the time. As you should know, being a survivor, we don't all come away from that in the headspace to make clear mature decisions. Lots of factors are at play, and I will always give some grace to a fellow survivor because I wasn't always ok. It took many years for me to become the person I am today, and I harmed myself and others along the way. That's accountability! It's easy to armchair quarterback someone else's life. It's hard to look back and be honest about your own life!
Are you even aware of the unchecked exploitation and abuse that little black girls go through in childhood? If you were aware of this, then you would stop asking this nonsensical question. Educate yourself if you yourself have common sense to not have all of these kids out of wedlock. Then you would logically ask ascertain the conclusion. Are you ignorant to the fact that? 64% of black girls have been m0/est3d by the hands of black men by the time that they are 18 years old.
Yeah, you don't wanna talk about that, do you?
So many options for birth control. Why not choose one?
Everyone needs to take responsibility for their reproductive health. That means being responsible with birth control AND using condoms!!!! Discussions on safe sex need to be discussed before anything happens and boundaries need to be set to protect yourself! You do not need to be a baby mama and and life is definitely easier when you aren’t
I have zero kids and I’m 29 it ain’t that hard … get your shit together
If it's easy for ppl to believe that men cannot be monogamous. Then it should be easy for ppl to believe that women having more than 2 children is DIFFICULT. Especially knowing that the mother will be the primary caregiver.
I will also say, take necessary measures to NOT have more (children) than you can efficiently care for and for yourself.
Her saying that let me know her critical thinking abilities are severely stunted.
Men can be monogamous most just choose not to be. Most women choose not to be as well because women cheat as much as women. Monogamous is a choice and so is cheating/polygamy. Either a person has morals or they don’t. Monogamy is Godly.
I mean i feel like we're going to see this more often especially with prices going up. And motherhood being treated the way it does i won't be surprised. I'm a single parent so i get it thank goodness i have my family and friends because his sperm donor left.
I'm still angry that Andrea Yates' husband caught no charges over what happened to those children. He had been warned by so many professionals what was likely to happen. Couldn't even do the simplest thing of having a family member or friend be around to supervise
If a person doesn't ask for help, they say why didnt they ask for help. A person asks for help, and they can't help. A person finds a solution to the problem, and that's a problem. Make it make sense. If she had chosen to unalive the kids, then the questions above would have started over. Smh. Can't win for losing.
Its not the action. Its the attitude.
This did not need to be live streamed. She didn't need to do radio interviews.
Even if you argues that this was responsible, it should be treated as a solemn event.
Creating a viral moment doesnt reflect that.
She can get them back. Hopefully she gets herself together so she can provide a good life for them in a few years.
I was married. My husband wanted more than two kids and I said no because I know what I can handle. Know your limit
Those children are better off someone else. 🤷🏽♀️ she’s clearly not a fit mother. Yet she chose to keep having babies 🤦🏽♀️
I like her. She seems intelligent and decisive. Wish her and her kids a prosperous future.
Intelligent people get on birth control once they realize motherhood isn't for them. Smart people don't move like this!
Even if the first 2 were due to sexual assault, she had 3 more by 27? I’m glad she didn’t hurt her children but we need to start promoting abstinence. You literally don’t have to have sex. The consequences are too high to feel entitled to sex and boyfriends/girlfriends when you have children you can’t care for 🤦🏽♀️
When you are low income you can also get free birth control (you have to actually take it for it to work) again stop having sex…men and women! Sex is where babies come from.
I think women who are sexually active would benefit from getting on birth control and still demand a condom to be used during sex to prevent unwanted pregnancies. Some of these men don’t mind running away from their responsibilities, so I think it’s important for women to do all that they can to prevent being a single mother.
THIS 👏🏾 PART 👏🏾 RIGHT 👏🏾 HERE!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 But people want to hear ANYTHING but STOP HAVING SEX!!!!
I have 2 children. I have been abstaining since my second pregnancy 10 years ago. I will not let just any and every man in me. I raised my children and got a degree. Half the time I was in school, I was living in a shelter. People need to take accountability and responsibility and stop looking for help from everyone who wasn't effin' their baby fathers. I try not to judge because yes, the men are effin trash and 100% to blame. However, to keep doing it? Now these women want to be child free to get themselves together to give their children better? The children may not respect that because what will their experiences in the system be, while you're "getting yourself together"? She's selfish. She gave them away because she wants her freedom. Literally, doesn't want to go to jail. Idk her face screams dupers delight to me.
No, we need to teach people about contraception and make abortion more available. It's delusional to think that people will stop having sex.
I’m childfree but stories like these matter AND the reason why I’m as upwardly mobile in my life currently. Especially post roe v wade. Society wants women to have kids in a nation that isn’t family centric or has resources for them. People always yell “representation matters” until it’s hard truths being put on display. Young women need to see this harsh reality of when you have more kids than you can properly care for and partner with the wrong men.
The mother did what she was supposed to do. At least she’s holding herself accountable for her mistakes and not taking it out on her kids. People love talking ish from a safe place but get silent when someone asks for actionable solutions. Was she supposed to let her kids go hungry, neglect, or abuse them? Do yawl know how many stories there are of people pimping out their kids etc?! (I live in a city with a huge sex trafficking problem). Even if family wanted to help many people don’t have the means to care for extra people due to inflation. For the people who are super judgmental, volunteer at some of these shelters and connect with some social workers. Learn from other people’s mistakes young ladies because it’s not fair, but it costs women way more when we get it wrong.
Lol they don't want blk and poc having more kids.
The birthrate among Caucasians is very low and getting lower.
How do you think that's seen in a nation that still upholds yt supremacy?
All I can see in my mind’s eye are those children watching their mama drive away without them. as a mom of three, that breaks my heart. I’m trying not to think about that.
Just think b what would happen if she had a nervous breakdown. Do you think those images would be worse? She made the right choice. It's too bad that people are too judgemental to see it.
@@kaybrown7733 an example of both being true.
@@kaybrown7733 at no point in my comment did I pass judgment against her. I was simply commenting on what would’ve been the point of view of the children involved. I guess it’s only the mother’s mental health that matters in situations like these. It’s sad, no matter which end of the spectrum you’re looking through. It’s funny to me. how the people who want the most to correct those who they feel are passing judgment on others ,fail to see how they themselves are judging everyone else around them.
You never know what the future may bring for you and your 3 kids.
@jillagnello5202 At no point did I say you were passing judgment on her. I was referring to the multiple comments from people who were. And yes, the kids' feelings matter, but the most immediate concern is their safety. How they feel won't matter if they're not here.
Mental illness is real. At least the kiddos are alive and so is she.
I'm glad she gave the kids to CPS because I've seen too many people harm, sell, and straight up murder their children. 😢 but honey, I'm sorry, five kids, not one or two, that's understandable, but damn five kids where was the common sense? After the second child.
My mom has 5 kids. By the time she was 24 she had all of us, 4 of which were under the age of 5. She worked and did it all by herself. We were never even once taken away, let alone dropped off anywhere. Women who walk away are just as bad as men who walk away. I feel for this woman, especially having been SA’d and other things she went thru. But most of my empathy is reserved for those children.
I feel for the children. Some parents use CPS as a holiday break away from their children. I've witnessed it second-hand. They come back pregnant again and the cycle repeats. Hopefully, she gets it together for the sake of her babies. CPS is not the place for kids.
I'd rather they use cps than harm them. That's the part you're not considering. Also, no one says a word about the deadbeat fathers. This lady has been through more than most people's brains can take, yet she still made the right choice. This is why the birth rate will continue to drop. Women are dammed if we have them and dammed if we don't.
@@kaybrown7733 if you think those kids aren't harmed by being dropped off with strangers then you're sadly mistaken. Yes, I am thankful that she did not delete those babies but, she exposed her children to trauma either way.
@_Renee2 which is worse dropping them off or deleting them?
Yup. She is a toxic codependent. She will have another baby
@IndiTol-ko1bp Wow, do you not understand what happens to kids who's parents do not or can not parent them? Go look in your local jail, rehab, or cemetery. That is where they end up. Go ahead and pretend it's not the truth. I'll wait. 🤣
I just wish that she had responsible & honest women around her while growing up.
I agree with the humanity of the last creator's response.
As a strong proponent for Mental Health, I loved it and agreed.
Although I know an amazing foster mother to over 10 kids, she's Wonder Woman; but there aren't many great stories that we know of for foster care.
This is a sad situation, and these men are just abhorrent! Ladies, please make wise decisions because they absolutely don't care & aren't made to care enough.
1st lady,She can’t do interviews and study? Maybe she’s getting paid to do the interviews. She said she needs money. Why can’t she share her story and get paid
9:34 A radio interview is one day, for maybe a few hours. Yes. She does have time to do that.
Destiny, absolutely loved your take on this.
Destiny, Ive been watching your videos for a long time, and I gained more respect for you because of your opnion on this subject. We as women need to hold each other accountable and hold each other to high standards.
No more clapping for BS.
🙏🏾🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶❤️❤️❤️❤️
Off topic but the other day in your life you brought up that Maria Davis is your good friend randomly I follow her I watch her probably just as much as I watch yourself I’m sure I cannot be the only person who would thoroughly enjoy a link up
Can we get a link up Sis
I didn’t know they were friends! I love them both! I would love this too!! A day in Naija 🇳🇬
I had no idea they were friends. I watch them both.
She would have greatly benefited from therapy. 2 kids by 18. I couldn't make out the bleeped words, but I assume it was SA. If only she could've gotten professional help after the first 2, it would've been so much better for everyone. It's better to surrender the kids than kill them all. And, I assume she got PAID for the radio interview, so I don't understand why people are pressed
She picked ALL of the men she had kids by. 🤦🏽♀️
Even the one who graped her?
Well she was assaulted of the first two children, she was a child herself & she was groomed. I think he was older than her, so he probably convinced her a lot of things & maybe she wasn’t allowed to get an abortion
She needs to get herself fixed.
Defending her because “well men do it!” is insane.
Honestly 🥴🥴🥴
Women are tired of being held to higher standards than men. 3 men abandoned the kids too, 4 total adults failed them.
So sad mann, hope they received the help they deserve
Sounds like she said the first two kids were from grape. So that coupled with the environment she said she grew up in “the hood” and possible assault she needed help but if those in her environment have a certain mentality how could they help her. She was a child herself and people respond to assault in different ways. This is not to absolve her from her responsibility but she is only telling pieces of her story. Don’t throw rocks in a glass house. An interview doesn’t equate to money and this could be a testimony she needs to tell but doesn’t know how to yet.
Why do BW get themselves in these situations in the first place? As a BW, I stopped feeling sorry for BW because at what point do BW start making better decisions.
Why did she get herself raped as a child in her own home? Is that really the question you're asking?
That's what needs to be discussed.
Honestly! & all the enabling and excuses in the comments?!
You continue putting yourself In the same situation again & again knowing you can’t handle It, you’re not a victim. That’s your choice,
Blessings ❤❤❤
Women throughout history have had to surrender their kids due to men leaving, and the woman unable to work to afford daycare. Not to mention paying all the bills alone.
Exactly, this is not new.
I thought she was gonna say that she'll take the 20k and go get her kids 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 She's a TRUE baby daddy.
These men really need to be thankful for their kids. But their not. She's alright with me!
After which child did she decide that enough was enough?
What difference does that make? Did she produce these children by herself?
But she choose to keep of all them. Close the legs or use contraceptives to prevent pregnancy
@biblethumper8088 Are you dense? No she didn't make those kids herself but she definitely had a choice to get on birth control or get her tubes tied.
Do you know what I wish people would stop trauma dumping and telling their stories and teach people how to not be in the situation
There is such a beautiful lesson for young women to learn from her situation but the way the story is told we only hear a story unless you’re intelligent enough to pick out the parts of where she went wrong and how she possibly could’ve done better and children don’t have those skills by the way she’s not helping anyone she’s just telling everyone her story and probably this part of the story is to explain why she made the decision she did so she doesn’t look so bad more like damage Control
It's just sad. Don't have kids unless you're married
Chris Watts was married.
I was married big mistake. A ring solves nothing
I hope this video helps any young woman that KEEPS having children SHE CAN'T afford or actually have time for. I'm tired of These women!!!!!
I have 2 son's that are 24 & 33 living on their own NO Children because they understand how to be responsible Adults. Not outside acting PRIMITIVE. I'm over a lot of folks and their BULLSHIT.
Didn't learn NOTHING from the 1st or 2nd pregnancy. All i hear is bad decisions and NO ACCOUNTABILITY.
Wrap it da fuc Up. The system is broken and we tired.
What happens after the children are handed to CPS? Can they be adopted?
It wouldn’t surprise me if women choose themselves now even with children. Family abandonment, child abandonment, more orphaned children or children in the care of the government. It wouldn’t surprise me one bit if more Baby mamas say “I give up”.
You have no IDEA how PROUD of this BEAUTIFUL young lady I am. In the Bible at Ephesians 6:4 it clearly states that "FATHERS" are SUPPOSED to be raising and bringing up these children. It's NOT a MOTHERS job to be raising children, especially NOT ALONE. She is one of the GREATEST Mothers on this planet because a lot of mothers UNALIVED, or did MAJOR HARM to their children because they could not cope or handle doing a job GOD didn't DESIGN women to do....again, especially alone. She is a FINE EXAMPLE for women all over the WORLD. Instead of damaging or harming your children, it's best to get the HELP and ASSISTANCE that you need, even if it means CPS. This mother is taking care of business by getting her EDUCATION and doing a LOT OF SELF-CARE so that she will be in a better frame of mind and in a better position to do right by her children. I LOVE her so very much. May Jehovah, and Jesus Christ HELP her along the way. She's going to be O.K.
Proud? Do you know how traumatized these kids are because their mother dropped them off with strangers?
My thing is… if she's tryna get the bag even if its to go “viral” and get interviews then it is what it is. Only time will tell if she's sincere about tripling her revenue & getting her kids back from cps. But I know with 1 kid how tired I be so 5 I can only imagine! I sympathize with her fr
She was already on welfare and couldn't handle the children. The government was feeding, housing, and clothing the children. They even took care of daycare for her. She still couldn't handle it. Now, somehow on a medical assistant's income she's going to be able to go to work and support herself and five kids without help? I think she just needed an out. She's not coming back for those kids.
Good for her.. she knows what she can handle and dropping them off is better than killing them.. it’s her life and no matter what she does now only God can judge her. I have nothing bad to say about her hope she gets it together ❤
She’s a mess
This is baby mama business and no place for me. I don’t have any kids.
I have seen so many women and wished they did this because they were such horrible mothers. We need to understand some women don't understand they aren't fit to be mothers until the kids are already there. I think this is a better decision as they have a better chance of having their needs met. I bet this was hard, and it is also hard to raise children on your own with no help at all. The men in the situation need to be held accountable, she didn't make those 5 babies alone. So, she shouldn't have to take care of them alone. Period.
Its her call,who feels it knows it
She did the right thing for her children.
She knew she was in crisis and she did the best thing for her children and she should be praised for that.
Im sure this wasn't easy for her either.
drawing so much attention to her story is another layer of protection for these kids, being under the public eye could keep them from being lost in the system.
The girl did not say she was in crisis.
She said she was perfectly sane.
She was tired.
I think she did the right thing. She realized that she was suffering mentally and wants her kids o have the best. As a single mother with no family support or bd support. It can be very challenging. I commend her for not killing her children, but taking them to a place where she know they are safe. Prayer for her and those children l.
That lady questioning rather she was genuine because she was doing an interview was so bs! You can study and go to an interview when you no longer have 5 kids. That's the point. She didn't kill the kids she admitted she didn't want to handle them. Leave her alone. That's what social services are supposed to be for. And if they are a danger to children, then we need to fix that. People just find it easier to try to change the woman than the systematic problems that got her and her kids where they are.
Yet sterilization is difficult if impossible to get in the states?!
When she talk about money and being able to double it had me dying 😂😂😂 like yes you couldn’t handle 5 kids but thinks she can handle a business?!??? Be so fr 💀
The point of CPS is for these situations. The dad's aren't there to help. I wish my mom dropped me off.
She is attractive , the men knew she would be a good candidate for their lineage since there were others. She made those decisions over and over, no marriage in sight. Sadly, this happens often. Procreation is a hobby for some. You are literally changing your family tree... the repercussions are enormous.
Exactly, DNA must not be fucked with
@cb4017 low investment in your gene pool eventually rears its ugly head decades later. It is a cycle of low achievement and bad decisions for both men and women . Pedigree is valued in many cultures for this reason. Young girls need guidance and real conversation regarding their reproduction and choosing the father if your offspring. Emotional decisions will lead you astray every time. Glad she woke up, cps is the best choice.
Sometimes Men don't want to be Fathers please stop forcing them and take the morning after pill 💊
I don't know why women don't understand this. It baffles me. Stop just stop. Enough already.
Get a vasectomy
I'd rather he give them up then be one of those mothers that pimp their kids, "drop off "their kids, or OFF their kids. My question is why did she have so many kids with these men? Oh dang, 2 came from an attack, that's rough. Wait, so she gave them up and now, she wants them back. Did I get that right? Hmm, I would need proof that she has things in place, so she doesn't put them up again. We need to find these men and hold them accountable. The energy that they hold women too they need to do the same for these men not taking care of these kids. I feel for the kids because her kids will most likely be split up.
First two underage through SA clearly caused a lot of trauma. Hard to understand with censoring but I think she said the father of another child was also ab*sive and an add*ct and then d*ed?? A cycle of trauma and ab*se is hard to break out of. I would much rather the kids be given to capable hands than hurt or neglected. I hope she gets the therapy she needs and gets her life together. I have severe PTSD from SA that developed into physical chronic illness, that’s a major part of why I’m child free, I know I can’t handle it. I was lucky my SA didn’t end in teen parenthood, it easily could have.
Upbringing and mental capacity plays a major role in the way a person makes decisions. This concept needs to take priority when accessing anyone. But what gets me is that men know full well what their intentions are when they approach women; and play a larger role in womens lives than what they are held accountable for. Everyone looks at women, but she didn’t get there by herself.
I don't care what anybody says! I am way too opinionated anyway to not say anything! She did the responsible thing. She admitted she couldn't take care of them and gave them away to CPS. A lot of men would leave their children alone in the home with no food or any supervision and not care about what happens when they are alone. Sure, yell at the woman who wants to give her kids a better life than yell at the man who doesn't care about the life of his children. Childfree 💯
I know we don't want to victim blame but let's reconcider who the true victims are in this situation. Instead of using birth control, this lady chose to put 5 innocent beings into a system that is already overwhelmed and ill equipped to handle the children they currently have. She uprooted their lives and inflicted this trama on to them when she didn't have to have them in the first place. If the alternative was harming them, she did the right thing but let's not act like she deserves to be praised for this decision. All she deserves is grace.
The fact that she's out doing interviews instead of actually being in school? Idk, she gives me bad vibes. I'm just going to say it--- I don't like her. My spirit just don't trust this woman. When I get this feeling, I'm often right. Something's going to come to light for sure. Get her off the media asap.
I may not say it as exactly as it is in my head, but do you know how it feels to be really desperate and hopeless? You are in such a state of mind that you have to fight constantly not to unalive yourself. It is not a case that it took her 5 babies to come to her senses. It shows how hard she was trying to be able to support herself and her children. If this is what she has to do to keep her sanity, I applaud her. For me, as long as she didn't harm the children, then she did well. I hope that her action will bring awareness to some of the plight that persons face at times, and encourage the seeking of help.
Well said. No one knows how difficult it is to juggle the edge of confusion and reality. Throw in SA, poverty and unplanned/unsupported motherhood? Recipe for destruction. More ppl need to pay attention to others on the daily tightrope.
She is asking for help
She did that for ratings it was all an act
School is out so if she’s doing radio interviews well…
I support her decision because there are women out here that can’t even feed their children. Children are straight starving going down the street asking people for food. I know this for a fact because I had a few kids outside of my house knocking on the door because they were hungry and I’m like Where is your mother? It was about 4 of them. One was a friend of the kids. She was like I already ate before I came out.
So this is why I support her decision because I’m tired of seeing little kids with snotty noses. Hair uncombed, clothes not fitting properly, shoes to tight. At least she’s not trying to continue to drag them into poverty.
I hope she gets her medical license or whatever it was she’s going for, and get herself together and get her babies back. I’m here for women bettering themselves.
This is why you shouldn’t have kids when your broke I mean come on it’s simple , they will suffer.
Doesn't she have extended family instead of complete strangers? I know a married couple searching and sure plenty of people looking so pray they end up with really nice people.
The family that let her spend her childhood being SAed, with no question of who is fathering these babies coming out of a teenage girl? The family she had to secretly work to earn money to escape the moment she turned 18? You want her to give her kids to that family? Sounds like the stepfather would happily take the girls, but I don't think that's a good idea.
I wouldn’t trust anyone in my extended family if I had babies I couldn’t handle, some of us come from awful families. Clearly hers was neglectful enough for her to have two babies underage through SA.
8:43 yep she did it for clout. Imo too many grown people want to go viral.
26:36 as a teen mom I bet a family member was taking care of her first child. She wasn't fully responsible for the child that's why she had another baby.🍼🍼🍼
Its nothing to be proud of but it
may be the lesser of two evils.
Ps. Your comments about having more kids after escaping a previous abusive relationship. I think its a combo of being very young when she had her first batch, then looking for love in all the wrong places. By the time she wised up she had 5 kids looking at her for what she can't give.
On the end of the kids I feel bad for them….so I know someone this happened to there mom gave them up no one in there family would house him was put in the system when they grow up and those same people tried to come back in the life they treat them as if they died because in retrospect they did in a sense and they want absolutely nothing to do with them
It's not easy being a single parent however, for me personally, Becoming a single parent made parenting and the financial side of things much less complicated for me. That's with zero child support, I want nothing to do with someone who made me fear for not just my life, but my families as well. I don't want someone that emotionally unstable near me or my child i do not want to be the parent to find out my child becomes gone forever when this person already revealed they have murderous intent. Anyways, I am able to buy and provide for my child a lot more as well since playing house wife without the marriage is no longer a stress in my life. I have a real job now, and I still am able to keep up with my home, it's easier to keep up with my home. Which still blows my mind because I'm working now I wasn't even working back then and it felt impossible. I actually even get more sleep these days too and for once I can say I wake up feeling energized these days. Chaos is no longer my lifestyle I have developed a routine and i used to not be a routine person. Some people are just not meant for relationships/marriage and I for sure believe I am that some people.
She's right, but the people who don't agree are wrong???... lol I don't feel bad. 5 kids???? She was being selfish to continue on having kids after the first child. ✌🏾 people "KNOW" a lot until reality shows up. Yall can continue these think pieces sympathizing with her but at the end of the day, she dumped her kids on CPS to gamble with her kids lives.
Yes!
This woman seems to be a great story teller and wanted to be childfree by any means necessary! She also craves attention and doing an interview is so tacky and hurtful to her children! I refuse to enable women like this, because its always support mothers but nothing is said about the children, they are the ones suffering! Why would you send them to their sociopathic fathers?! I swear some of you are just insufferably dense! I feel so sorry for those children having to hear that their mother can not cope, left them with strangers, put them in harms way and is now doing interviews about how hard her life is! When are we going to talk about narcissistic mothers?! Cause some of you are delusional to think a woman is innocent and the victim every single time!
NOW I SAW THE VID...PARTS OF IT ANYHOW, ON SM. I ALSO WATCHED YOUR VID ON IT, A WEEK AGO. I WAS SYPATHETIC. BECAUSE I KNOW TOO MANY SINGLE MOTHERS & SEE HOW EXAUSTING IT IS. I WAS ALSO RAISED BY A PSYCOTIC/EVIL SINGLE MOTHER -10 YEARS IN THE SYSTEM. (WHICH WAS BETTER. BECAUSE I WAS SAFE/UNHARNED THOSE YEARS). I STOOD BY WHAT I SAID IN SAYING SHE DID THE RIGHT THING IN DOING THAT. SHE LOOKED EXAUSTED & UNWELL. IN THE VID, WHICH MADE IT WORSE. I DIDN'T GET WHY SHE HAD 2 DO IT ON SM. PEOPLE PUT WAY TOO MUCH ON SM. BUT YO IT'S DONE. NOW THIS...🤔NOT UNDERSTANG WHY SHE IS ON WHATEVER STATION/PODCAST DOING A RADIO INTERVIEW...FOR WHAT??? I COULD BE WRONG. BUT IT LOOKS LIKE SHE IS TRYING TO GAIN FAME OFF OF WHAT SHE DID. AT THE EXPENSE OF HER CHILDREN...THAT'S NOT COOL! (FEELING LIKE SHE WANTED TO BE FAMOUS OR GO VIRAL) THAT WAS A TRAUMATIC SITCUATION. YET HERE SHE IS DOING AN INTERVIEW JUST A WEEK LATER...MAYBE EVEN LESS THAN A WEEK 🤦🏽♀️ I HOPE THIS WOMAN EITHER HAS HER TUBES TIED OR TIES THEM BECAUSE THIS WHOLE THING IS GETTING REDICULOUS! THIS 🌍 IS WILD YO. THE PEOPLE IN IT ARE 🥶🧊 AF!
I think women like this might not admit to themselves that, yes, they are tired and want to not wade through poverty, but I think the biggest draw is the single life.
She's on social media watching childfree women clubbing, hanging out, and enjoying life and I think they want that more than they want to struggle.
I know a many women with more children than this, raised them.
Y’all missing these stepdad huh?
She making money off her situation get it how you get it
Asking for help is ALWAYS picked apart by MEN AND OTHER WOMEN... ALSO BY OTHER MOTHERS!!!
Fk this society for real.
There are shelters you and your kids can go to….
I'm confused at why WOMEN are questioning why she had 5 children. 🙄 Did she impregnate herself? Would these children not be with their mother if the fathers had stayed or at least the 2nd.
Did she not learn anything by baby nr1?
Ok let say nr2.
Just stop.....
You donot repeat someting 5 times??
You can blame men for everything, but as a woman, you need to look at yourself too.
Stop the nonsense!!!
@IndiTol-ko1bp Yes, because the moment an 18 year old escapes unspeakable trauma with two kids in tow, I expect her to make nothing but responsible decisions from this point forward. Cause that's how life works. 🙄
@IndiTol-ko1bp That's not how people work. If it was, then poor people would be the most fiscally responsible. In reality, stress and dysfunction is like quicksand, you panic because you're sinking which makes you sink faster.
Studies have show stress literally reduces IQ points. You literally get dumber as your situation gets worse as it becomes harder and harder to think clearly.
Sure, lets hold her accountable and in that accounting lets factor in that she was raised by a man that was raping her, who she had to escape from at age 18 by secretly working with two kids in tow and ended up with an abusive drug addict. Let's account for all that too.
@IndiTol-ko1bp why would you ask why she had sex, when you have sex? This society promotes promiscuity. So I'm confused as to why you would blame her for what society has conditioned as the norm.
All children come from the mother's womb, so how does that stop the father(s) from being blamed?
@@NiobeNeo if you feel this way then why are you having sex with men knowing that they don't stay?
This whole concept is dumb. So even though men know they cause children and that they are hurting their children, somehow y'all fix your mouths to blame only the mother. The child is half his DNA, so the women birthing the child is irrelevant.
No wonder why she gave them up. Your reasoning is unjust and illogical.
1) Women in the comments will blame Men but she chose those Men.
2) Women in the chat will act like she wasn't promiscuous since 15.
3) Women in the chat will act like she didn't give up her family to go back to the streets.
4) Women in the chat please don't dissapoint me by proving me right 🤦🏾♂️
Exactly!!
Sooo, let me get this straight, being R*ped at 15 is her fault?
Ask how old the first father of the first two kids was. The majority of teen pregnancies have a father that is almost 30 or over. It is predators. BUT, after those two, she made the dumb choice to keep having kids, then blast all over the world her choices.
But aren’t the men sleeping with these teens in their 20s-40s?
@@abellabarbie she said she was raped. That is how the first 2 kids came about
It’s no flex what she did. It is reckless and sociopathic to allow children in to the world without financial foundation PERIOD 🚩🚩🚩🚩
You know what’s NOT gonna happen? The fathers are NOT gonna get their ish together to get their kids out of CPS 🫠