I’m FINALLY at the confident stage. I don’t go around telling men I will cut them off but if I pray about it, God without a doubt shows me a man’s character. I’m not even playing. Idk what it is but I’m so in tune with God that it just falls in my lap. I don’t even have to seek it. And I know my worth so much now that I will peacefully walk away. Watching your videos has brought me such a long way
Yes..mine just told me he needs to think cause he's not sure if he can commit fully with me.... So I said ok. Take it. I understand....but don't expect me to wait around. And I haven't texted him all day. And I won't. I know what I can offer.
@@liztowers2058 I honestly would have left him just making a comment like that. If he have to think as a man whether or not he can fully commit to you, than you are not a man with a plan and you don’t want very much. I had a guy tell me he doesn’t know when he will mature and he was older than me in graduate school and myself in undergraduate school. The minute he said that, I stopped associating myself with him and moved on. This happen in 2013 and it is now 2022 going on 2023. I haven’t talk to him since and love it ❤!
@@b.angelic I left him official cut him off attention and sex and everything as of 13days ago. He still texts and leaves me voice messages "Good morning have a good day. Hope you're well" Etc etc. My replies are like a buddy "Hey, you too enjoy your day" And done. Play stupid games win stupid prizes
He needs a woman that shows him that there will be consequences for his actions. She gain his respect. It may or may change his actions but he definitely knows that he can't run over her.
Yep you explained a narcissist.. it very hard to try to have a healthy relationship and trust men after unknowingly dealing with these cold and callous grown boys
We as women, hold on to that hope. That false sense of hope that if we keep working on this man, he will change for us? But the reality is, that a man won't change until he loses you... Usually by then it'll be too late, bc we are so mentally exhausted, hurt, and heart broken by this man. It's sad that it has to come to this, for him to see your true worth... But, when we finally do get the courage to walk away, we are then left to put our own selves back together. When this happens, We must Learn to VALUE ourselves. Show that piece of sh*t that we are better off w out them and just watch how he will be running back to you....but by then, is he even worth taking back..? I will leave that up to you to decide...the heart wants him back.. the mind does not...
I am proud to say that I have matured to this woman. I have walked away from a few. I refuse to subject myself to any form of abuse, rejection or manipulation!
this is very true, ever since I got closer with knowing my value I have only been attracting men that are dating with purpose and treating me with high respect. I will never chase a man like I did when I was in my early twenties. Being 28 and knowing what I want and need I get into conversation and dates with realness and nothing less, will not lay on my back or settle for less until I know he's the one and have been claimed for marriage. There were a few men I cut off in a nice matter that are still wanting to date me since I did it with respect and dignity. Realness takes you a long way wether its to family, friends dating or work keep it real people and pray for others and thank god for your learning blessing and stay strong!
My high value Ex thought cause he was a doctor I wasn't going to leave him or hold him accountable but guess what" I left now he misses me. I loved him but I love me too
Yep, exactly he is spot on. Here is why from what I've learned concerning men. Men only understand and respect 3 things concerning women. #1 strength #2 accountability by holding him responsible #3 responsibility for his actions,only comes from holding him responsible and accountable for his actions. Make everything crystal clear to the man. Then have no problem leaving ever. All men take women's kindness for weakness until you show them that strength. All they understand is strength,it's a woman's job to show it clearly and consistently for any man who wishes to find out by testing you. What they see as strength is accountability. You are not accepting or tolerating any disrespect, or bad behaviors period.
I started listening to Tony talk about how his wife never raised her voice or cuss at home. So when I get upset or frustrated, I take a deep breath, and say what I need to say in a calm voice. If I don't know how to talk to my fiance about something I pray for wisdom. That's what I had to do, when I talked to him three times about something, finally he listened. Lol it's a learning process I see. Change is not easy, but with good teaching, pray and God u can make the relationship work!
Yes this is for a husband and wife. If a husband really cares for his wife he will not put her in hurt emotions to tell or cuss to express the pain she feels. He will not dismiss or neglect her pain. When you are out here in the dating scene, sometimes you gotta act IN your feelings so that man DOESN’T chase you.
This is confirmation that the actions I have taken this past week is correct. Your teachings are gold. I have all your books as well. You are a blessing indeed
You preaching Tony! 👏🏾 I tell the ladies in my celibacy group, you know you’re ready to date when the thought of him leaving doesn’t bother you. Real talk. Took me forty years to get here but I’m here and sharing with others. Continued blessing and love brother Tony for all you do to empower women and encourage healthy relationships❤
Y’all listen to Tony!! I had a friend of mine that would curse out her man, threaten him, punch/slap him, etc; but she would always take him back after he cheated or did something. He knew that all those theatrics were not serious because she always came back so he didn’t respect her. The only way you will get a mans respect is by having the strength and confidence to show him that the moment he switches up that you are GONEEE. All this yelling and hollering , men do not take seriously because they know that a woman who is cool, calm, and collected is dangerous.
You all are making "dating" way too complicated (thanks to social media). Men and women have been in relationships for thousands of years. This is not a new concept.
I have mastered the art of walking from a bad situation gracefully and with few words. I feel like , In every situation, it speaks volumes as opposed to just wasting my breath. “ The scariest thing is a quiet person.” From a person who is probably one of the quietest people you will ever meet, I can confirm. When you sit back and watch people, you will pick up SO much. Ladies let’s all strive to be like Sheri Gaskins.
You're absolutely right. I went back to a narcissist and right away I knew I made a huge mistake. They are full of demons. It's only by the grace of God that I made it out alive. Always listen to the Holy Spirit, not toxic empathy. When God says, run..... Run!!
This reminds me of your video “ Be willing to leave. “ I watch that video almost everyday to keep myself motivated and on the right path. Especially when I feel I want to reach out to someone whom I had to leave. It keeps me motivated! This is a message many women don’t seem to understand. The ride or die image has been pushed in our communities for years. This message is very needed!
This is true, and qell said the ride or die image had been pushed in our communities so men can do the most awful things and she still riding to her detriment. Learn to let go. When its not what you've dreamed of.
This a whole word, i don’t be letting up, but i told a man i hope he get a pimple on his butt today via text 😂it was immature i know but he tried to play me & i told him i ain’t like that directly & to have a nice day
You preaching today Tony!!! I knew only grown boys cheat and not men. “Men walk away” not stay with someone who they don’t want to be with and vice versa.
Ladies, in order to gain respect from men, we must first learn to love, respect and understand ourselves! If we don't love and respect ourselves, and a man senses that, he will disrespect you to the fullest! Demand from a man the kind of respect he'd want a man to give his mother, grandmother, sister, daughter, etc. Demand it firmly without a loud voice or cursing!
AMEN !! Exactly the Intuitive discernment that God has blessed me with that is why I listen to the voice of truth always …. I don’t wish no harm anyone I walked away because I deserve the best that GOD has for me great things in store . A woman with morals and standards knows there worth and no man will disrespect or dishonor me as a woman of integrity. A real man will not put you in the position to loose you Ladies …. Know your worth !
I totally agree with this. They want accountability from us but Women et tired of training these grown a$$ Men. Why don't they just act right so we don't have to always hold them accountable with direct communication? It feels like dog training. They want to get better at our expense.
The teddy bear analogy gave me goosebumps. And not in a good way. Amen I concur with this excellent message. The most dangerous time in an abusive relationship is when the abused leaves the abuser - be careful out here in these end times. Thank you. God Bless.
Once i walk away its forever. If a guy is a cheater, I am not taking him back. A good guy will not cheat and abuse in a first place, if I have to walk away this means he is not a quality guy.
im telling you this 100 works on any man in your life including your teenage sons, because sons disrespect their mamas too. they learn when u walk away and refuse to tolerate that nonsense. you are helping your sons too and blessing them when you hold them accountable as opposed to enabling them. enabling your teenage sons will land them in prison. trust me on that!!
On the real...THIS **IS** TRUE....It REALLY is....Confidence IS POWER...I've done it with a few...and it was not overly hard...HOWEVER there have been some that I have had to REALLY face that challenge..and it was PAINFUL.... So yes..TONY is right. One right now always "checking" on me. I don't think he got the "memo" but I think it's because I've rejected HIS DISRESPECT...HIS GROWN-BOY behavior ..but try to act like he's not. I got tired of the "checkin in" bc I know it wasn't "genuine".. And...along with the check-in it was always on the slick trying to invite me out. Which I also told him I'm building my relationship in CHRIST even more...so I told him I can't "do everything" and be "everywhere". He likes to do petty stuff like that then not show up like basically trying to invite me "out"...with no real intentions on "goin out" but I told him I was okay with us just saying hello but all the previous is over. So now he's still "licking" his wound...and trying to be faceous or "messy" SMH Soooo I called him out on ALL of it...and he had no choice but to admit yeah I was being petty...and etc etc. I told him and this is why I stopped looking at you in that way, bc I study ur behavior ur lies, your insecurities..your "attempt to get that "last lick"...SMH.... And...bc I really gave him ALL of that he SUFFOCATING bc he has no recourse but to accept it. I told him the next time u say u want to meet up for lunch u will reach a VM that will be null and void.. He was trying to tell me how to go about my relationship with Christ..saying God knows our heart and all this..I'm like u know what HE DOES..BUT at some point as loving as OUR HEAVENLY FATHER IS....HE can and does grow tired of going outside of HIS WILL. .especially when WE know better. Don't PLAY WITH GOD. I know HE is patient and kind...but he also has rules HE wants us to follow by. And although it's never condemnation...it's conviction and accountability..... Ppl will tell u anything just to get u to "be at ease" with sinning... I'm just trying to do so much better. I know we "fall short", we ALL do...but at what point do we say....enuff..We DONT WANT GOD TO SAY OKAY...ENUFF...BC we know that isn't good...So I CHOOSE 2strive for Godliness...Jehovah Jirah....anything that makes me more like HIM....I'm comfortable with that...
The loudest 1in the room is always the weakest 1 Liiam Neeson an actor I appreciate his talent! Blessings Tony and thank you for sharing these points ❣️
When a woman shuts up and doesn't complain anymore, be ready to receive what's coming and if you regret later what is coming, mainly when there is no more love and trust from whoever caused the damage whether man or woman, the pain will be like no other. I'm talking from first-hand experience from my soon-to-be ex. Make sure you're ready to leave if those are the circumstances that will come to you.
Many men do not understand that when we stop talking and trying, he is as good as dead to us ... what happens next is him finding out what that means...
I held my ex accountable in the relationship by trying to get him to do better and he said I was nagging. I wasn’t playing with him so I left the relationship after 18 months and he ran to the new supply.
Hold him accountable. But also women we have a strong intuition and have a strong sense of the holy spirit if we are Christian, so listening and following the holy spirit will 100% always work in our favor as believers. I always told myself “leave them respecting you” you gotta do it smoothly letting them know you’re not about the games and it’s serious.
Men need you to be REAL AUTHENTIC AND DIRECT. Tony Gaskins has a good heart and he really heals us as women. A man don't cheat a grown boy cheats reminds me of Melody Holt on Love & Marriage Huntsville. Her husband Martell cheated got another woman pregnant and now he on to another woman. He doesn't respect her and she needs to get that and cut him off completely she too beautiful and strong for that. Love you Tony Gaskins you your beautiful wife and kids truly blessed and highly favored🙏❤️🙏
This was mega confirmation for me today!! I have to make a decision today and this video confirmed for me that it's the right one to make. Tony thank you for these messages God bless you!! 🙏🙏
You are right about everything-including the part that about running from a man-who will cost you everything. That was and still is my father-even in his old age-which is absolutely narcissistic. I now know that I am not alone in these regards. Thank you! Stay Blessed.
Love this! At least I've been doing something right with all these men. Never chase a man. Actions over words, walk away when he's not treating you how you deserve and never look back. There is so much power in holding others accountable and holding your self-worth high. Men should never feel like you are just a done deal. Confidence over everything!
Was talking to this guy for almost a month. Seen some things about him that I questioned, however, I never said anything. I asked God “how should I proceed with this man?” Then I felt an intense feeling of having Faith and Patience; I listened. A few days later, he changed his profile picture with a woman, his dog, and himself in it; God answered me. I texted him “I am going to bow out of this situation gracefully. Thank you.” He texted back and I never answered. Deleted his number, and yes, I was sad for a moment, but then I got up and continued with my beautiful and magical life. The power in me to walk away is deeply rooted in every existence of my being that as soon as he planted that seed of an image in my head, I knew I couldn’t go backwards. Thank you.
My boyfriend learned a big mistake that could of cost his life and made me leave him but told me to come back. That's when I knew he realized his actions and outcome of things. I'm always wanting him to be safe and protected always!
Plz go viral, society teach us to be a ride or die man that’s bs! Ain’t nothing wrong with being a solid female but don’t ever reward him for bad behavior check it and if he can’t correct it go on about ya business fr💯
I ain't never seen a red flag turn green. I'm setting boundaries and looking tho. "Ride or Die." should be changed to "Die or Die." Ain't the man supposed to be the one that gives his life for his wife? Oh and the recession. The recession is like a long winter and grown boys are gonna be looking for a place to stay. Beware ladies. And yep, I wanted to sign up for the life coaching course, but my account wasn't ready.
Exactly Toni! I tried it and it worked for the most part. There was a greater level of respect, understanding, and admiration in the end. But most importantly, I was way more happier and proud of myself-and knowing the strength I didn't know that I had in me.
In my opinion, accountability and control is the same to some men, those that don't want to do right. To us women it's hard to separate the two when we are emotional or mad.
I think women need to focus on what we want in a man first & foremost; make sure he meets our standards of propriety, and can at least contribute something positive to our lives without adding mess. Then we can slowly begin to shift into thinking about what he wants but only to the degree of his commitment.
So many women learn this way of love which is all about being unconditional and not setting standards and being self sacrificing and a martyr. Liam Neeson energy! Haha love it! So true. Men don't learn from nagging and repeating a lecture. "Calm down little Johnny" hahaha
Tony is 💯 on this here ladies. Yessir weeee! I WISH I knew this in my twenties and thirties. I didn’t get it til mid to late thirties. Marriage came for me in my early forties but but but had I had wisdom and confidence earlier in life it would have been a totally different ballgame. I would not have tolerated a lot of abuse and absolute nonsense early on. Ladies, LISTEN UP! Class is in session. Teach TG
If this wasn't taught to a woman it's hard to get to..it took me nearly losing my life trying to save a relationship to understand the power of walking away.
“Men don’t learn by you talking. Men learn through consequences.” No….truer…words!
I’m FINALLY at the confident stage. I don’t go around telling men I will cut them off but if I pray about it, God without a doubt shows me a man’s character. I’m not even playing. Idk what it is but I’m so in tune with God that it just falls in my lap. I don’t even have to seek it. And I know my worth so much now that I will peacefully walk away. Watching your videos has brought me such a long way
Exactly!! Same here, Amen to that 🙏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I know exactly what you mean when I pray about it he shown me CRAZY !! Especially your doing good and seek him and spiritual
Same for me when I pray about someone I'm interested in His character is revealed too me quickly.
Its 💯 true! The hard part is when and what kind of flaws to accept, to understand true compatibility
So proud of your accomplishment! It feels good to peacefully walk away without drama and your confidence intact.
“She is clothed in strength and dignity” - Proverbs 31
My thing is,
i've come to the realization that men are actually terrified of a true genuine woman like this
Yes..mine just told me he needs to think cause he's not sure if he can commit fully with me....
So I said ok. Take it. I understand....but don't expect me to wait around.
And I haven't texted him all day. And I won't. I know what I can offer.
@@liztowers2058 I honestly would have left him just making a comment like that. If he have to think as a man whether or not he can fully commit to you, than you are not a man with a plan and you don’t want very much. I had a guy tell me he doesn’t know when he will mature and he was older than me in graduate school and myself in undergraduate school. The minute he said that, I stopped associating myself with him and moved on. This happen in 2013 and it is now 2022 going on 2023. I haven’t talk to him since and love it ❤!
Those are grown boys hunny, there are grown men in the world. I learned that when I met my husband.
Immature men ... absolutely. Grown ass men know better. ...but those are a rare breed these days
@@b.angelic I left him official cut him off attention and sex and everything as of 13days ago. He still texts and leaves me voice messages
"Good morning have a good day. Hope you're well"
Etc etc.
My replies are like a buddy
"Hey, you too enjoy your day"
And done. Play stupid games win stupid prizes
Soon as I hear " NOW LISTEN " I know a message is coming , come through Tony "
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Exactly😂😂
😂right!
@@cherh even read it in his voice 😂
He needs a woman that shows him that there will be consequences for his actions. She gain his respect. It may or may change his actions but he definitely knows that he can't run over her.
They get mad that you're holding them accountable and they do it anyways.....I guess that's the grown boy
@@scorpiocara6798 Exactly! He's not for you. Tell him to kick rocks. 😂
@@charmingcharlie5211 rite
I also think it only works on men who are willing to grow.
Boom. There it is.
It’s the dog-a-dation and dis-collation for me 😂😂😂😭😭😭
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Same😂
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Ladies, let's continue to pray for a high level of discernment.
I sent this to my Daughter, She’s a gorgeous girl that accepts disrespect from a man!!
Yes, the art of walking away. 💅🏾
Yep you explained a narcissist.. it very hard to try to have a healthy relationship and trust men after unknowingly dealing with these cold and callous grown boys
Any man who treats me with any disrespect, means the relationship is over, because I don’t have time to be anybody’s human toy.
Men listen from consequences. LISTEN NOW
We as women, hold on to that hope. That false sense of hope that if we keep working on this man, he will change for us? But the reality is, that a man won't change until he loses you...
Usually by then it'll be too late, bc we are so mentally exhausted, hurt, and heart broken by this man.
It's sad that it has to come to this, for him to see your true worth...
But, when we finally do get the courage to walk away, we are then left to put our own selves back together. When this happens, We must Learn to VALUE ourselves. Show that piece of sh*t that we are better off w out them and just watch how he will be running back to you....but by then, is he even worth taking back..? I will leave that up to you to decide...the heart wants him back.. the mind does not...
Tony has convinced me I am better off without a man. I'm doing good in my life and I don't need anyone to mess it up! 🙏
I am proud to say that I have matured to this woman. I have walked away from a few. I refuse to subject myself to any form of abuse, rejection or manipulation!
I did the same, 46 still learning..
@@bigmanbesses Amen! Ever learning!
Love the message. But if I walk away. I’m done. Not interested in taking breaks.
Cause they don't understand how hard it is to really walk away. Definitely no going back.
@@RoZzieAwake so true
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this is very true, ever since I got closer with knowing my value I have only been attracting men that are dating with purpose and treating me with high respect. I will never chase a man like I did when I was in my early twenties. Being 28 and knowing what I want and need I get into conversation and dates with realness and nothing less, will not lay on my back or settle for less until I know he's the one and have been claimed for marriage. There were a few men I cut off in a nice matter that are still wanting to date me since I did it with respect and dignity. Realness takes you a long way wether its to family, friends dating or work keep it real people and pray for others and thank god for your learning blessing and stay strong!
Same! I’m turning 28 in January & I refuse to even play those kinds of games!
My high value Ex thought cause he was a doctor I wasn't going to leave him or hold him accountable but guess what" I left now he misses me. I loved him but I love me too
Yep, exactly he is spot on. Here is why from what I've learned concerning men. Men only understand and respect 3 things concerning women.
#1 strength
#2 accountability by holding him responsible
#3 responsibility for his actions,only comes from holding him responsible and accountable for his actions.
Make everything crystal clear to the man. Then have no problem leaving ever. All men take women's kindness for weakness until you show them that strength. All they understand is strength,it's a woman's job to show it clearly and consistently for any man who wishes to find out by testing you. What they see as strength is accountability. You are not accepting or tolerating any disrespect, or bad behaviors period.
I started listening to Tony talk about how his wife never raised her voice or cuss at home. So when I get upset or frustrated, I take a deep breath, and say what I need to say in a calm voice. If I don't know how to talk to my fiance about something I pray for wisdom. That's what I had to do, when I talked to him three times about something, finally he listened. Lol it's a learning process I see. Change is not easy, but with good teaching, pray and God u can make the relationship work!
yesss ! love your message and agree
Yes this is for a husband and wife.
If a husband really cares for his wife he will not put her in hurt emotions to tell or cuss to express the pain she feels. He will not dismiss or neglect her pain.
When you are out here in the dating scene, sometimes you gotta act IN your feelings so that man DOESN’T chase you.
This is confirmation that the actions I have taken this past week is correct. Your teachings are gold. I have all your books as well. You are a blessing indeed
Girlll omg me too ❤
same
You preaching Tony! 👏🏾 I tell the ladies in my celibacy group, you know you’re ready to date when the thought of him leaving doesn’t bother you. Real talk. Took me forty years to get here but I’m here and sharing with others. Continued blessing and love brother Tony for all you do to empower women and encourage healthy relationships❤
Hi Kim, are you accepting members to your celibacy group?
@@robinbrown3136 Yes! It’s in the description underneath any of my videos
So true!
Y’all listen to Tony!! I had a friend of mine that would curse out her man, threaten him, punch/slap him, etc; but she would always take him back after he cheated or did something. He knew that all those theatrics were not serious because she always came back so he didn’t respect her. The only way you will get a mans respect is by having the strength and confidence to show him that the moment he switches up that you are GONEEE. All this yelling and hollering , men do not take seriously because they know that a woman who is cool, calm, and collected is dangerous.
💯 no lies detected.
You all are making "dating" way too complicated (thanks to social media). Men and women have been in relationships for thousands of years. This is not a new concept.
@@van182To respect yourself isn’t complicated lol
I have mastered the art of walking from a bad situation gracefully and with few words. I feel like , In every situation, it speaks volumes as opposed to just wasting my breath. “ The scariest thing is a quiet person.” From a person who is probably one of the quietest people you will ever meet, I can confirm. When you sit back and watch people, you will pick up SO much. Ladies let’s all strive to be like Sheri Gaskins.
I strive to be like the best version of ME, always.
Men and women will always fail.. Let's strive to be more like Jesus!
@@SOTNTV44 he is a made up character by your colonizers.
@@tstar5944 oh okay, I didn't know that but I love Him regardless
You're absolutely right. I went back to a narcissist and right away I knew I made a huge mistake. They are full of demons. It's only by the grace of God that I made it out alive. Always listen to the Holy Spirit, not toxic empathy. When God says, run..... Run!!
Calm, Cool, Collected is my energy. It works ✌🏽
This reminds me of your video “ Be willing to leave. “ I watch that video almost everyday to keep myself motivated and on the right path. Especially when I feel I want to reach out to someone whom I had to leave. It keeps me motivated! This is a message many women don’t seem to understand. The ride or die image has been pushed in our communities for years. This message is very needed!
This is true, and qell said the ride or die image had been pushed in our communities so men can do the most awful things and she still riding to her detriment. Learn to let go. When its not what you've dreamed of.
Thank u for name dropping the title in the comment section
This a whole word, i don’t be letting up, but i told a man i hope he get a pimple on his butt today via text 😂it was immature i know but he tried to play me & i told him i ain’t like that directly & to have a nice day
Girlllllll I'm hollering at the pimple on his butt!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@AmarisLW 😂😂😂
You preaching today Tony!!! I knew only grown boys cheat and not men. “Men walk away” not stay with someone who they don’t want to be with and vice versa.
Amen 🎉
I don't have time to play. If they come like this, I don't want them anyway.....
Ladies, in order to gain respect from men, we must first learn to love, respect and understand ourselves! If we don't love and respect ourselves, and a man senses that, he will disrespect you to the fullest! Demand from a man the kind of respect he'd want a man to give his mother, grandmother, sister, daughter, etc. Demand it firmly without a loud voice or cursing!
The best comment up here, “demand the kind of respect he’d want a man to give his mother, grandmother, sister, daughter.”
@@jackiepate2533 Thank you😊
AMEN !! Exactly the Intuitive discernment that God has blessed me with that is why I listen to the voice of truth always …. I don’t wish no harm anyone I walked away because I deserve the best that GOD has for me great things in store . A woman with morals and standards knows there worth and no man will disrespect or dishonor me as a woman of integrity. A real man will not put you in the position to loose you Ladies …. Know your worth !
Talk about multitasking!! Dropping GEMS while simultaneously staying in shape. GREAT WAY to utilize your time Tony and THANK YOU!!
I totally agree with this. They want accountability from us but Women et tired of training these grown a$$ Men. Why don't they just act right so we don't have to always hold them accountable with direct communication? It feels like dog training. They want to get better at our expense.
Exactly, the more I learn about men the more I think I'm better off without them 🤔 smh
The teddy bear analogy gave me goosebumps. And not in a good way. Amen I concur with this excellent message. The most dangerous time in an abusive relationship is when the abused leaves the abuser - be careful out here in these end times. Thank you. God Bless.
Once i walk away its forever. If a guy is a cheater, I am not taking him back. A good guy will not cheat and abuse in a first place, if I have to walk away this means he is not a quality guy.
im telling you this 100 works on any man in your life including your teenage sons, because sons disrespect their mamas too. they learn when u walk away and refuse to tolerate that nonsense. you are helping your sons too and blessing them when you hold them accountable as opposed to enabling them. enabling your teenage sons will land them in prison. trust me on that!!
Good mum. Good advice 👍🏼 thank you.
I respect how after you dropped some gems for us, you focused on putting 30 minutes apart for daily exercise.
On the real...THIS **IS** TRUE....It REALLY is....Confidence IS POWER...I've done it with a few...and it was not overly hard...HOWEVER there have been some that I have had to REALLY face that challenge..and it was PAINFUL.... So yes..TONY is right. One right now always "checking" on me. I don't think he got the "memo" but I think it's because I've rejected HIS DISRESPECT...HIS GROWN-BOY behavior ..but try to act like he's not. I got tired of the "checkin in" bc I know it wasn't "genuine".. And...along with the check-in it was always on the slick trying to invite me out. Which I also told him I'm building my relationship in CHRIST even more...so I told him I can't "do everything" and be "everywhere". He likes to do petty stuff like that then not show up like basically trying to invite me "out"...with no real intentions on "goin out" but I told him I was okay with us just saying hello but all the previous is over. So now he's still "licking" his wound...and trying to be faceous or "messy" SMH
Soooo I called him out on ALL of it...and he had no choice but to admit yeah I was being petty...and etc etc. I told him and this is why I stopped looking at you in that way, bc I study ur behavior ur lies, your insecurities..your "attempt to get that "last lick"...SMH....
And...bc I really gave him ALL of that he SUFFOCATING bc he has no recourse but to accept it. I told him the next time u say u want to meet up for lunch u will reach a VM that will be null and void..
He was trying to tell me how to go about my relationship with Christ..saying God knows our heart and all this..I'm like u know what HE DOES..BUT at some point as loving as OUR HEAVENLY FATHER IS....HE can and does grow tired of going outside of HIS WILL. .especially when WE know better. Don't PLAY WITH GOD. I know HE is patient and kind...but he also has rules HE wants us to follow by. And although it's never condemnation...it's conviction and accountability.....
Ppl will tell u anything just to get u to "be at ease" with sinning... I'm just trying to do so much better. I know we "fall short", we ALL do...but at what point do we say....enuff..We DONT WANT GOD TO SAY OKAY...ENUFF...BC we know that isn't good...So I CHOOSE 2strive for Godliness...Jehovah Jirah....anything that makes me more like HIM....I'm comfortable with that...
The loudest 1in the room is always the weakest 1 Liiam Neeson an actor I appreciate his talent! Blessings Tony and thank you for sharing these points ❣️
When a woman shuts up and doesn't complain anymore, be ready to receive what's coming and if you regret later what is coming, mainly when there is no more love and trust from whoever caused the damage whether man or woman, the pain will be like no other. I'm talking from first-hand experience from my soon-to-be ex. Make sure you're ready to leave if those are the circumstances that will come to you.
Many men do not understand that when we stop talking and trying, he is as good as dead to us ... what happens next is him finding out what that means...
I held my ex accountable in the relationship by trying to get him to do better and he said I was nagging. I wasn’t playing with him so I left the relationship after 18 months and he ran to the new supply.
That sounds like my story. Best decision I made 4 years ago when separating from him. I'm am at my lifetime best! Divorce is next month, December.
"Liam Neeson energy" love it!! 💖💖
“Dogalation!” Love that word!
TONY.. I am watching this 2 more times. This is fire!!!
whew! took me long enough but i got it finally thank God
“I don’t like to feel too uncomfortable” 😂😂😅 that’s me! Love TG
You changed my mindset Tony, I’m thankful for you for life. ❤️
Great job on the workout.. so many black men with big stomachs and all kinds of ailments. Keep it up and of course, another great video.
U fixing to motivate me on my workouts every morning....you out here literally getting it
Preach Tony
@@jcoates375 It's a scam!
Hold him accountable. But also women we have a strong intuition and have a strong sense of the holy spirit if we are Christian, so listening and following the holy spirit will 100% always work in our favor as believers.
I always told myself “leave them respecting you” you gotta do it smoothly letting them know you’re not about the games and it’s serious.
U need 💯 real talk 👄 confidence and self-esteem control. U gotta be willing to walk way 💯 😌 from that man.
Thank you Tony 4 Everything !!! ❤
Men need you to be REAL AUTHENTIC AND DIRECT. Tony Gaskins has a good heart and he really heals us as women. A man don't cheat a grown boy cheats reminds me of Melody Holt on Love & Marriage Huntsville. Her husband Martell cheated got another woman pregnant and now he on to another woman. He doesn't respect her and she needs to get that and cut him off completely she too beautiful and strong for that. Love you Tony Gaskins you your beautiful wife and kids truly blessed and highly favored🙏❤️🙏
Very true. Stealth mode from now on ladies. Don’t be predictable 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
This was mega confirmation for me today!! I have to make a decision today and this video confirmed for me that it's the right one to make. Tony thank you for these messages God bless you!! 🙏🙏
You are right about everything-including the part that about running from a man-who will cost you everything. That was and still is my father-even in his old age-which is absolutely narcissistic. I now know that I am not alone in these regards. Thank you! Stay Blessed.
Love this! At least I've been doing something right with all these men. Never chase a man. Actions over words, walk away when he's not treating you how you deserve and never look back. There is so much power in holding others accountable and holding your self-worth high. Men should never feel like you are just a done deal. Confidence over everything!
I was doubting my decision but then I came across this video. Such perfect timing♥️
Some of these men will speak out their @$$ about this is my “ride or die” and be out here cheating. He’s not happy and looking for a way out🤦🏽♀️
I'm going to share this video on my fb. A lot of women need to hear this!
Tony be like "The only Super Bowl I’m finna eat is chipotle" I hollered so loud 😩😂😂😂😂
Was talking to this guy for almost a month. Seen some things about him that I questioned, however, I never said anything. I asked God “how should I proceed with this man?” Then I felt an intense feeling of having Faith and Patience; I listened. A few days later, he changed his profile picture with a woman, his dog, and himself in it; God answered me. I texted him “I am going to bow out of this situation gracefully. Thank you.” He texted back and I never answered. Deleted his number, and yes, I was sad for a moment, but then I got up and continued with my beautiful and magical life. The power in me to walk away is deeply rooted in every existence of my being that as soon as he planted that seed of an image in my head, I knew I couldn’t go backwards. Thank you.
My boyfriend learned a big mistake that could of cost his life and made me leave him but told me to come back. That's when I knew he realized his actions and outcome of things. I'm always wanting him to be safe and protected always!
Plz go viral, society teach us to be a ride or die man that’s bs! Ain’t nothing wrong with being a solid female but don’t ever reward him for bad behavior check it and if he can’t correct it go on about ya business fr💯
I will not be disrespected I will not be unappreciated I will not be talked down to At ALL . I Demand My Respect! Period
A whole sermon 🙏🏼
Omg you are so correct about him making people against me. And also talk down on me. Sometimes he said I’m not that smart.
I sooooo much appreciate Tony's videos. I wish all women could hear this one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I ain't never seen a red flag turn green. I'm setting boundaries and looking tho. "Ride or Die." should be changed to "Die or Die." Ain't the man supposed to be the one that gives his life for his wife? Oh and the recession. The recession is like a long winter and grown boys are gonna be looking for a place to stay. Beware ladies. And yep, I wanted to sign up for the life coaching course, but my account wasn't ready.
The Long Winter is coming 😂❤❤
Why did I have an image of GOT oh yeah because it is a game 😂😂😂
@@tantig5923 🤣🤣🤣, yes them grown boys is them white walkers lol
@@akilahbatyah6505 I just spit out my water 😂😂😂
@@tantig5923 🤣🤣🤣
Amen, “as long as you’re going the right way”
Thank you Sir , So may women need to hear this because we are scared to let the go in fear of completely losing the man .
Losing a man or losing a boy?
Lord this just spoke to me and let me know I did the right thing. I texted a guy the truth about my thoughts and what I won't tolerate. Im good now👏🏾
Snatch Johnny up 💪🏾😂
You are so funny!
Facts and laughter..
Thank You Tony!!😊
You’re surely right!
Exactly Toni! I tried it and it worked for the most part. There was a greater level of respect, understanding, and admiration in the end. But most importantly, I was way more happier and proud of myself-and knowing the strength I didn't know that I had in me.
Thank you for this message Tony. May God continue to bless you ❤
In my opinion, accountability and control is the same to some men, those that don't want to do right. To us women it's hard to separate the two when we are emotional or mad.
Mr. Gaskins, you are always on Point!!! Keep doing what you do!
I think women need to focus on what we want in a man first & foremost; make sure he meets our standards of propriety, and can at least contribute something positive to our lives without adding mess. Then we can slowly begin to shift into thinking about what he wants but only to the degree of his commitment.
Oh my Lord,your speaking gems to me. This is nothing,but truth. Thank you for this clarification. Blessings to you.
So many women learn this way of love which is all about being unconditional and not setting standards and being self sacrificing and a martyr. Liam Neeson energy! Haha love it! So true. Men don't learn from nagging and repeating a lecture. "Calm down little Johnny" hahaha
Listening and having lunch! Love the new words! I understand perfectly. More Gem dropping! 🙏🏼
Tony is 💯 on this here ladies.
Yessir weeee! I WISH I knew this in my twenties and thirties. I didn’t get it til mid to late thirties. Marriage came for me in my early forties but but but had I had wisdom and confidence earlier in life it would have been a totally different ballgame.
I would not have tolerated a lot of abuse and absolute nonsense early on.
Ladies, LISTEN UP!
Class is in session.
Teach TG
Tony is on here talking like a BCBA 😂 LOVE IT 🙌🏾
If this wasn't taught to a woman it's hard to get to..it took me nearly losing my life trying to save a relationship to understand the power of walking away.
Wow this is powerful! I pray to God this video reaches to everyone that needs it 🙏 God bless Tony & his family
Men love to chase you. That's a challenge for them that draws them close to you.j 6
That's me! I walk away if it's not right but than I'm single most of the time lol
Be blessed Sir. I love you brother!
Thank you for this reminder! I needed to hear this. I get it. Stick to your guns and don’t waver.
Brother Tony,
I ordered all your books and half way done with reading a “Woman’s Influence” and I love it. Very eye opener.
Thank you,
Sandra-
Thank you ! God bless you !
Glad I found your channel. Funny and wise 😅 being divorced has showed me what these grown boys look like 🤦🏽♀️
Amazing message! THANK YOU TONY!
Thanks!
He’s dropping gems. Can I get an Amen!!
Awesome message thank you Sir.
Thank you. Tony I'm 60 and have learned so much.