I had to stop and listen again: "What's my immune system to their behaviour? How much of their behaviour or what kind of behaviour can I tolerate and give up the need for them to be different?"
I have a question. How do I know if my problem is a mom problem and not me overreacting? I had an issue arise the other day. We were planning a family get together with my in-laws and my kids and we have all the info on the group chat we made and everyone is responding that they are going but not my mom. Also my mom doesn’t feel comfortable driving to unfamiliar places when we do family gatherings so we, my husband and I, pick her up and will take her. Well I haven’t heard from my mom for about a week and a half and two days before the family gathering she text me. No acknowledgment of me at all like a hello or anything. She just says “ what times should I meet you at your old apartment?” My initial reaction was anger. Anger because she wasn’t asking if it’s okay she just assumed and then I was hurt because I wasn’t good enough to talk to all week until she needed something AND she couldn’t even acknowledge me. How do I handle this? I ended up giving in.
Dr. Cloud Is the best!
He is so able to get to the bottom of any scenario
He is such a blessing to the world!
And within a very short time! He goes straight to the point and waste no time!
Thank you Dr. Cloud. The goal of having no triggers. That is very helpful!
I had to stop and listen again:
"What's my immune system to their behaviour? How much of their behaviour or what kind of behaviour can I tolerate and give up the need for them to be different?"
When I use my boundaries it makes my narc mom worse! I'm always told I'm unforgiving?! Hugh?
I have a question. How do I know if my problem is a mom problem and not me overreacting?
I had an issue arise the other day. We were planning a family get together with my in-laws and my kids and we have all the info on the group chat we made and everyone is responding that they are going but not my mom. Also my mom doesn’t feel comfortable driving to unfamiliar places when we do family gatherings so we, my husband and I, pick her up and will take her. Well I haven’t heard from my mom for about a week and a half and two days before the family gathering she text me. No acknowledgment of me at all like a hello or anything. She just says “ what times should I meet you at your old apartment?” My initial reaction was anger. Anger because she wasn’t asking if it’s okay she just assumed and then I was hurt because I wasn’t good enough to talk to all week until she needed something AND she couldn’t even acknowledge me.
How do I handle this? I ended up giving in.
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