Introducing 2022’s Newest Dating Trend: Dry Dating and Hard Balling
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- Опубліковано 23 тра 2022
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No shade to any of the fabulous hosts on the show, but Adrienne has really come into her own. So eloquent, succinct, thoughtful, and logical in her responses. I don’t know what she has in store for the future, but I can only imagine it’s a bright one.
Yes, her hair colour/style...and the colour she's wearing compliments her skin tone...it looks really really nice😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
Totally agree!!
I agree I just wish she wouldn’t come off so stuck up sometimes and remember she’s Adrienne from the block still 😂
I think having Israel in her life has changed her outlook on so many things… Yes she can speak about him a bit too much, but it’s interesting when she talks about their relationship and the deep/spiritual conversations they have
@@goldendutches5207 I don't see her as being stuck up. She is always friendly and down to earth and very real.
Is this the person i want comforting me when my parents pass is a huge wake up call
Yessssss
How about when you get a call that someone you were close to (not a relative) or just a friend passes. Sometimes you need a shoulder to cry on. Will that person be there for you to comfort you in your time of need? It is are really good question to ask yourself.
Adrienne is 100% correct on this one. It's important to think long term.
RIGHT💯
I agree!!!!
Adrienne was a mistress who married a man, who had a wife. She shouldn't speak about relationships.
@@consciousanfesiashapsnikof8688 seriously?!! first they confirmed that wasnt true and if it was, at this point they have been married for over 5 years!!
So true I’m surprised they thought it was weird what she was saying
Adrienne’s progression has been so amazing to see! She has come into her own maturity so beautifully
Agreed ❤️
I love Loni's makeup on this episode. Her skin is flawless!
Here’s an example:
One time after emergency surgery i couldn’t do much. We were together/ married all but 2 ish yrs. dated at 16/17 and married at 18. My husband slid me down on the bed and started changing me. Like i didn’t even ask he just did it. I was just gonna get the diaper and do it myself. he showered me when i got home and had me in bed giving me medicines every few hours and cooking me food.
( i had a ruptured cyst and bled a lot and couldn’t bend or stand just yet)
Not sure what vows you exchanged at your wedding, but the traditional vows says for better or worse, in sickness and in health. For Richer or Poorer. Some people just say those words. Your Husband actually acted out those words. God Bless him. That is how it should be.
Your husband💯
@@brooklyn3299 i always say he’s a gem. I knew i was lucky the moment i met him. Cherish and show mutual respect. Definitely don’t lower your standard.
@@4daluvofnikki yes ma’am 🥰❤️
@@kdh255 thank you!
I mean I guess...this just sounds like courting to me. Not everything needs a new invited word for the same things🙄
You are correct, but every generation has a new term to refer to the same things their parents/grandparents did. No one says courting anymore. This newer generation had to find a term that sounds cool to them. I get it.
Lol I was thinking the same thing when Loni was defining them. Just another way of saying courting.
Agreed ‘courting’ and ‘dating’ are pretty different. ‘Courting’ is done with the intention of marrying someone. If you’re seeing multiple people, that’s not courting.
Ladies please dooooo a podcast will Miss this show so much man 😭
YESSSS! Or their own UA-cam SHOW , because I will miss their looks too‼️‼️
I like the idea of ‘em both. How refreshing. They used to tell women “don’t tell men you want to get married or that you want children ‘cause you’ll scare them off” or “if you don’t have sex by the 3rd date something’s wrong”. As long as everyone’s on the same page initially, that’s best.
Adrienne is right....people in general really do not think long term but I guess that's because some people are not dating seriously or with intention. Most women really are settling but men really dont do that.....they know who they want to settle with real fast.
Some of these men that don't take dating seriously/commit are doing you a favour. I've heard some marriage horror stories that involve cheating, emotional and financial abuse coming from the men.
@@omphilemoerane2569 Of course...it's really nothing to feel bad about.
@@omphilemoerane2569 Well financial control can be part of any form of abuse but yes.
1:35 I completely agree with this. I personally think people go from dinner to sex way too easily. How about getting to know the person first. Stop allowing your genitals to think for you
Amen !!! I tried to tell a friend this important fact & she told me she’s doing it for her not, him! Well, I made this suggestion over 10 years ago & she’s still single, knocking on 50! 🤔
@@mmitchell254 steve harvey said 90 days, but as this is coming from a man, its 180 for me :)
@@NeonForceGetsuga first of all, what is wrong with "testing" people? that is LITERALLY what dating is about, getting to know each other, finding out if you could work out in the long run, and how your lifestyles, values, habits co-align- or not? i personally like to reserve sex for commited relationships, but cant get into a commited relationship before dating for a few months at least. and i tell that any man i date upfront. and i dont understand how ANYTHING can be wrong with that? and of course, a man could only pretend to like me and ghost me after we sleep with each other for the first time. but it is WAY more likely that this happens when i sleep with him after a few days than it would be after half a year. and that half a year gives me many opportunities to watch out for other signs of insincerity.
@@NeonForceGetsuga again, i assume you did not read what i said: i TELL men i date that i only have sex in commited relationships and that i like to take my time to get to know each other. that is what dating/courtship or whatever you call the phase before entering a commited relationship is like for most people. it definetly is my preference. if someone takes offence at that i have a preference, communicate it clearly and honestly and dont wish to continue to date someone who has different needs... then that must be a very entitled = toxic person. the fact that you fail to acknowledge anything i have written because it does not fit YOUR narrative displays your lack of thinking - for yourself or anyone for that matter, and also your lack of genuinity and respect for strangers in a comment section. just to give one example of how terrible you are at reading / arguing: i clearly stated i personally DO NOT follow steves advice, because it does not serve me: its not enough time for me and my preferences. somehow you are able to both a. find offence at that and b. not acknowledge that i said that but pretend i said the exact opposite....you took offence because you assumed i would follow a book or a set of rules, when i actually clearly stated that i dont AND then you dare to accuse me for lack of intellect when you obviously cant read simple sentences correctly. english is my third language, but i cant see how anyone could misconstrue my statement like that with an ounce of good will...i wish you well, stay blessed.
@@NeonForceGetsuga way to prove all of my previous points with this comment :) i just pray that you are not a man in the comment section of a show hosted by women of color for women of color and waste your time berating a woman who has preferences and communicates them while dating :) screams incel tbh. i wish you all that your heart desires :)
One guy did the hard balling thing by telling me he hopes I can dance and never argue because that’s what he wants in a relationship…absolutely no talking back. Ridiculousness! Anyway, my reply to him was to keep dancing and continue talking to himself.
So you want to be single because you want to argue and talk back and don’t want to dance?
That’s kind of sad, it’s not even much to ask for
Can we take a moment to reflect on how far Adrienne has come? Wow. The growth is beautiful to witness!
Actually Adrienne, I am a dude, and I do think about those long term objectives and hard-hitting questions when analyzing a partner and picking a potential dude.
Is he someone in which I want to engage in an adaptive lifestyle?
Is he someone I can see myself with at an older age?
Is he someone that has his priorities in order? Does his priorities align with mine?
Is he goal-oriented and career-oriented like I am?
I do think about those things during the dating prospection and dating process. THE PROBLEM IS…dudes and women always state that “you’re too deep”, “you’re jumping a little ahead”, “you’re too serious”, “you’re not fun”, “I just want to enjoy our date. I’m not thinking about all of that”.
It’s not the problem of those things aren’t talked about or discussed. It’s problem that people want to live in the moment. They want to “YOLO”, instead of thinking about the future and its happenings. It’s “too deep”. It’s “too much to think about or talk about”, so it’s often ignored until a situation arises and the “deer in headlights” emerges.
I always say "dating ends in two ways you either end up breaking up or getting married, if you're not ready for either why bother at all?"
Adrienne is 100% correct! She always thinks logically! I love her!
So when me and my husband first started getting together we did everything backwards. We had sex and then I got pregnant with twins and then months later we got married etc etc….. Anyway, I know God sees all so he new exactly what and how it was going to go. I do somewhat regret the way that I did it the way I did. I new better to save sex for marriage and I went against my own beliefs and I wish I had waited. Our relationship started more on lust then love and it does affect it more then people think. Now we have 5 kids together and I love them SO much and I’m so blessed to be their mom. For all you younger folks out there, stick to your beliefs and core values.
Don’t bash yourself . Y’all was meant to be together no matter how things started 💕
I love these uplifting words 💘
As Muslims we do dry dating until marriage. There’s no type of physical/sexual intimacy (no touching, hugging, etc with opposite gender)
Lies..not all... religion has nothing to do with morals..I know alot of Muslims pretend to be that way n their soooooo not its a fascade
lol, ok
Yes I have a friend who is Muslim and he has told me this lol
All Muslims? Are you sure about that?
I understand that may be the religious stipulation, and perhaps most follow it, but to make a categoric statement about all Muslims may not be factually accurate.
I have so many insecurities that I need to work on that I want to be with someone who i can just be myself with, be comfortable with, and be vulnerable with. Empathy is really imp to me, so is strength but yea kind heart goes a long way.
I did both these things during my dating period, 20-25. I didn't call it those terms. But if you have certain values you wait to get to know someone before intimacy. I didn't kiss anyone that wasn't my boyfriend.
Hmm interesting but I think I need a kiss eventually to gauge chemistry and sexual attraction but that could be an anxiety thing as well. Like is this my brain being weird or is there something here?... idk how else to gauge it without a kiss unless they just all together turn you off on an actual date.
I also don't like jumping into a relationship and need more than 3-4 dates to be exclusive and or bf/gf/SO.
But I've heard of ppl who wait longer for things and some who wait til the marriage day to kiss. It just seems like that's a lot of affection with holding to me.
Try it as a twentysomething in 2022 🤣🤣🤣
😁 I told my husband the same thing when I was 22. I'm now 36 and been with this man for 14 years now.
sincerely will miss Adrian on this talkshow platform she has so many great insights and her perspective always makes me think I often agree in so many ways.
If Adriana was never on this show I would not be watching she cause the others to rethink their position, she puts ideas in your head and no one is as venerable as she is
Ima miss conversations like this, Adrienne hit it on the head! It really is that DEEP!
This segment was so funny from wet dating to dry dating and hard balling to dry balling and garcelle saying you lost me at bathing I thought it was an SNL episode
I wish I heard this advice before getting married..........100% ladies. I love this. There are so many ppl together but not in love, and ppl in love and not together.
I'm gonna say that I am courting in 2022. Which means I'm not kissing if I don't want to and I will express what I am looking for in my partner always. I'm 41 and divorced, so I'm not beating around the bush. Loni also had a good point and she's right. Your 20's go fast. I was just telling my co worker who is now 29 that she needs to start getting it together.
What do you mean by getting it together? Im 29 and I would really like to know what you'd recommend someone my age to do. I really could use the advice.
@@danielleking8520 What I mean is starting actually putting your dreams and plans into action. If you haven't started saving for retirement do it now. If you aren't in a a relationship that's perfectly ok, don't rush that, don't let societies timeline over shadow your own. Start letting go of frenemies and negativity. Focus on you and what you want to achieve. Never feel ashamed to ask for help. Build up your savings account learn more about money and the best way to grow it (I started learning a little late in life). Stuff like that. You'll still make mistakes that's part of life, but you want to make sure that you learn from those mistakes.
“Ooooooo I really like you!” *Changes status to wet/moist/humid af
Beautiful convo. Just upsetting that this is new for some people in 2022. Courting has beeeeen around to help, protect and guide both parties. Hope a lot more women and men choose this way of dating, it gives you clear indication as where the relationship is headed❤️
💯❤
Nah I need physical touch at some point. We can’t be together until I learn how you are physically and that matters to me just as much as mental connection
Intimacy requires vulnerability. People can hook up and it won’t be intimate. It varies.
Loved Loni and Adrienne’s perspective on this
Yes Adrienne was 💯 on point.
When Loni said them 20s go fast I screamed like literally screamed. Please do not remind me. 🥲
Adrienne.. wheres this book. The book about your life, your journey into transforming from one perspective to another? Cause what I just heard made me literally nod and say exactly. Adrienne is very knowledgeable in.. bedroom fun activities (btw Adrienne, we still waitin on that class/book as well! 😂😉) but I love the transparency that although that is important in a marriage, so is “in sickness and in health,” which she beautiful expressed. I’ll be waiting, so no rush!
Nice highlights adrienne good to hear modesty is trending !!!
Adrienne must know that most men leave when their wife get sick.
This is a serious accusation simply because you say most men. I would agree if you said some men
@@2sense110 stats don't lie
@@najaxhassan6723 ...he never left. The wife dumped him.
@@2sense110 it depends. In my country, and my culture, MOST men leave when women become sick/disabled. It's like the norm. People are actually shocked when a man sticks around and takes care of his sick wife. And children. But the same culture expects the wife to stick around even if it's a husband who had abandoned his wife and kids, and just returned home because he is sick/dying
@@janejustin1788 I know these things do happen it's just the fact that the person is saying most men that's what I have a issue with and someone else is saying the stats is never wrong. Don't know where they get these stats from or what country they belong to
Go, Adrienne! You speaking truth 💕
I know someone who wasted over twenty years on a guy who gave her nothing because she was not clear of what she wanted from him.
Loving Adrienne’ hair!
I think a lot of times we may be afraid to say we want to get married because we are afraid the guy will think we want to get married to them… when in reality that’s a way to hardball …because you’re weeding out the ones who don’t meet what you’re looking for or lack comprehension
Garcelle looks like she’s just discovered a whole new planet 😂
People have been doing these things for all of humanity lol
Adrienne is 10000000% right and a lot of these men ain’t 💩 !
Women have to take the power back...this will rectify the situation
Being honest from day 1+ focus on mental and emotional connection 1st?? YESSSS good old classic dating is coming back. I 100% agree with this move
Adrienne, you better preach girl!
Saving yourself for marriage is literally in the bible and we Christians have bee called boring for doing so for so many years and now that the world says it's okay, it's suddenly trendy?? What?? Also, according to this, hard balling is telling someone your intentions upfront. Y'all weren't doing this before?? Guys, the Lord Jesus Christ is returning soon. Please turn to him❤️ I love y'all, be safe.❤️🙏🏾
I agree
You said EVERYTHING I was thinking! Lol 💯💯
💯 great segment
Yeah Loni! You look great!
Adrienne is spot on very good explanation 👏 👌
I think taking your time and think things through
Great convo✔💜
I agree. Put all cards on the table. Don’t add too much pressure, but make it known what you want. It’s very, VERY hard in the gay community. It’s especially hard to find someone who wants a monogamous relationship.
@ Michael Leach Well Said as a proud Gay man it is hard in our community.
Hello how are you
@@kyliejenner9806 I’m great an urself?
Great job ladies Great, Great 👍 👌 👏 job
These terms may be new, but the concept is certainly not. Things like abstinence until marriage, and exploring other forms of intimacy. Being upfront about your intentions are all Godly concepts! If you're a Christian, this is literally the norm and a standard practice/ personal value you hold anyway 😄 💯 God has been saying to reserve sexual intimacy for marriage since the beginning of time and now the world is finally catching up to His ideal intention all along. But at least some people are opening up to considering the idea of trying a different dating approach. Especially those who have never done it this way before. Kudos to them 😌💜
So wait????? Aren’t these normal dating practices already? Especially, the hard balling! Be genuine and upfront with your expectations.
I never understood why people rush into intimacy and sex when they hardly know the person they are dating
Yes Loni with that hair. YES
It's not even hers.
@@switzjon8405 REST
Y'all looking gooodt!
Vulnerability is so important now more than ever these days, in any relationship. Both ideas are valid and I think it just depends on who you are and the place in you are in your life. Personally, I think I would be a hard baller. Life is so short and to me it just feels pointless to wait too long to see. Just go for it, lay all the cards on the table, and if it doesn't work, there'll always be another chance down the line. But obviously one must be able to "read the room" of the person you hard ball with. If I were to see that the person I'm with may not be comfortable right away, I wouldn't be to forward just yet if I felt the were worth the "dry dating" period.
Them 20's go fast! 😩
I gotta be honest. I haven't watched the show since they announced their cancelation. It's just gonna make June 3 that much harder. I been watching since the test season and it should NOT be gone for good! At least do a UA-cam segment 2 times a week. Find a way to keep the show going 🙏🙏
I heard they cannot do a spin off because they do not own the right for the TV show so a UA-cam segment is not possible
Come on with it! Your better hope you get this old and look this good!- Loni Love. Yassss while snapping my fingers.
Please do a podcast when the show is over
Dry dating is courting, a courtship.
I will miss the crew's reactions too
steve harvey said at leaaaaast 90 days of dating/courting before having sex, but since this advice comes from a man and i am a woman, my rule of thumb is 180 days, counting starts first in-person date. that way, i can also multi-date without offending anyone.
I'm with you Adrienne I think that way to 🤗❤️
What we need is more intimate relationships not less in the world. Go back to seeing one another as people not just a quick fling and a bank account or transactions. Folks are pushing this none human connection strong
Adrienne looks amazing!
Adrienne looks good in that dress and especially with that hair style
I like that this new generation is doing that. Young people need to learn how to ACTUALLY date! Im a millennial, and I must say, I wish this term and way of dating was popular with us . I come from the "Netflix and Chill" era. The Tinder era. LITERALLY, NOBODY wanted to actually date! Guys would consider coming over to their house as a date. Also, almost every guy wanted to have sex on the first date. It's like they just wanted instant gratification. So many girls were doing it,it just messed things up. Online dating kinda messed things up bc everyone just got what they wanted right away without having to actually work for it. So I'm here for this new dating trend!
Don't give up girl! I will be dating with intention to marry aka courting
I didn't know this was a 2022 thing because I did this at 27 & now I am married.
3:00 That was such a good question that Loni had
This was bound to happen… Women have been thrown for a loop with all these players due to the online dating shenanigans. Too many bozos were playing games, pumping and dumping. I don’t agree with waiting until bf/gf, guys know that game too and will call you his girl but still pump and dump.
Grow intimacy in the friendship portion and keep physical intimacy OFF the table until y’all are committed and soon to be engaged.
It started when womwn dismantled they only social law that kept men in check when they deemed society making men and women wait till marriage
I'm starting to realize that I'm like a drug addict who's dealer is going to jail next week and I have no idea where I'm going to get my Supply from. I know that there are other dealers but their stuff is not as good now I'm starting to panic people what am I going to do when the real is gone
Ok, but Loni looks gorgeous 😍😍😍😍
Gosh Loni looks stunning ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Forget the terminology.. i definitely understand Adrienne point of view.. minus the last part about most people want marriage low key.. no i believe most people don't... but yes too many people are having sex way too quick and regretting it later.. some people jumping into things because they are trying to compete with their exs.. or use people or distract themselves from other things and end of hurting someone else or regretting their actions later.. truthfully people just need to date and hopefully know what they want.. ask the right questions and put sex on pause.. (my opinion) because sex can not only cloud judgement but also if this person is not for you.. now that person is stuck and cling to this person just because they gave that person their body ...now that person thinks they care and now emotionally involved all because they didn't choose to wait.. (btw this is for 30 and up lol) most 20 year olds do not care they favorite saying is they are out here living or living their best life till they get kids and now have to be with someone they never wanted because some don't think long term they think briefly in the heat of the moment..
Loni you are beautiful aging fine like wine! All of you ladies. Aging is a blessing not a guarantee ❤💕💯
All these terms are annoying. I guess I’ve always been a dry dater. I am abstinent so
I like Hard Balling you see the real person especially looking at long term.
In other words a friendship and knowing that you want upfront. Why are folks making life more complicated than it already is and more confusing? Humans are trying to hard to be exceptional.
I AGREE WITH A❤💯
I loveeee these trends 🤣
Is dry dating like celibacy or abstinence? Hard balling makes me think of when they talked about being open about expectations and standards and being able to meet them .
Men don’t think long term with me about really serious things, I remember this one nut, he tried to hide the fact he was married with several baby mamas and he told me over the phone “ that If we were going go date that he wanted me to go down on him and he wanted to do it to me, he said he had to have that” I literally knew this guy for two hours, seen him in passing and we hung out one day, and he was trying to see what I had going on, and he thought I liked him and I didn’t and I blocked him.
The disrespect and audacity. That was his long term goal. My last relationship his long term goal was to use me and I put him out. These men that want to date me, they see that I have qualities they are looking for and they want me to support them and be there for them and make sacrifices but they would never do the same if I got sick or anything. My ex, he tried to act like he was so busy one time and couldn’t pick me up from the hospital and another man did. I dumped him. He knocked on the guys door to say thank you. But when I dumped him, he hopped on the bus to fight for love. Stupid mofo. I swear.
I’m tired of the black guys that approach me always wanting to know, they have someone who’s loyal and will be there through sickness and all of these other adversities but they wouldn’t do the same. This has just been my experience and it’s crazy that some of these guys, I’ve never dated or been with but this is what they desire. I mean staying single and celibate has been a blessing. 🙏🏽😁
Loni looks soooo gooood
I would like to work with all of yall
For sickness and in health
i do think like Adrienne long term. My dad cant care for my mom so me and sis do
I didn't like Lonnie's jab at men like a woman would never do that. I've known women who juggle men in the way she described.
💜💜💜💜
But you have to think about respect to between man and wanna ok
Save yourself for marriage or recommit to doing so it'll save you from so much heartache and then you can know the person loves you for you not just to get something from you
I think about these things I'm intendibg to date for a future spouse in this for life❤💕
@thereal you guys can sayyy your canceling and just come back 3 months later like the kardashians. Like nothing was
Look at the lives of all these four ladies in the real and pick the one you will like to be like and take that person s advice because I tell you the advice each one of them is giving is to direct people to be like them and not what will help you to live a good respectable decent way of life that the will give you peace without sorrow. Especially Loni %70 ot the time.
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You know what. You know what. I can see Andrienne Bailon Houghton being the FIRST well Bad Azz First Puerto Rican Housewife. But! For ATL or NYC. Deeeeep deeep in my heart I want her to be on Housewives of NYC. She is NYC Ambassador of Latinos. Period and Rosie Perez owe hey girl!
COURTING?
Loni looks beautiful
sounds like the 90 day rule and a woman ready to marry now
Imagine dry dating then you get serious and boom the intimacy sucks. No thx lol sorry.
Sure 😐