Are There Any Benefits to Parents Preparing for an Empty Nest?
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- Опубліковано 16 тра 2022
- What happens to parents when children leave the nest? Guest co-host Kandi Burruss opens up on the importance of living your dreams even while your kids are still home. Plus, could laughing at inappropriate times be a sign of THIS?
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Remember when Loni wanted to laugh so bad when Tamar was saying people she look like a muppet 😂😅🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 she was all like 🥲
Listen Adrienne wanted to laugh so bad too🤣🤣 the camera men were evil cuz as Tamar said "some person called me a Muppet" the camera panned right on Loni🤣🤣🤣
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This thread got me screaming 🤣
@Tara Honey LMFAOO omg 🤣
Coming from being a child and NOT a parent, I think parents should keep chasing their dreams and goals. Parents are people too. The parents that don’t take care of themselves to give the best to their kids are sending a mixed message to the child.
I really appreciate this comment as a parent. Parent guilt is a real thing that can't be explained unless you are one.
Striving to be an example of what I teach, as a Parent I thank You for your commitment!!🥰
Kandi use to talk with a smile. She cried with a smile and she was pissed off with a smile plastered on her face.
I agree with Kandi. My husband and I were married for five years before we had our first son. We have continued to date each other and build our careers while parenting
Yeah, this is why I’m choosing career *OVER* motherhood as I can’t imagine doing both as I never saw my parents doing that
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As a stay at home mother, I knowingly gave up my career to care for my children and home. Our children are the most important part of our lives and who better to raise and care for them than their own mommy? My time will come where I can pursue other things. But in the mean time I still do things I enjoy. Waking up at 5am to exercise and have alone time has been amazing. Baking, bike riding, fishing, etc can be enjoyed as a family! And when daddy comes home from work he has dinner on the table and kids running to greet him.
A lot of people give up their careers or dreams because of finances. For some people daycare costs too much, so one parent ends up quitting and staying home. It's the parents who are financially well off that tend to be able to continue their current lifestyle.
Totally agree...the ones who have the financial means as you said....and also a reliable support system to help out with the kids so they can actually have the time and opportunity to go invest in and pursue their dreams.
I was eight years old when my dad died because of a car accident i still remember till this day how i laughed when they brought my sister and i up to his coffin to see him. I was the closest to him but i laughed instead of cried when i saw him lying there. After the funeral was over and i had to go back to school the next week and my mother was called in to the school to come fetch me, my temperature was high, my eyes were red and i just would not stop crying. My mom took me to a doctor who said my illness was not physical and asked if anything bad had happen recently, she told him about losing her father and my dad (her husband ) just within a few months of each other. He told her that is probably what was making me sick, i was heart broken. It took me a month to go back to school, most days my mom had to force me out of bed or bring some friends to me while i lay in bed to cheer me up, but for a while i just kept crying.
Agreed. Ciarah first, mom second.
Being a parent is not a personality trait. Do not forget you.
I’m not a parent (yet) but YES I think you DO have to prepare. Have your own life and friendships and alone time. Your children do.
Why shouldn’t you?
I just become a empty nester and I was prepared. I help both my kids save while they both were in college.Thank god they had good jobs that paid well.They have a six years gap and now they are both living in the same state thousands of miles away from home.
I laughed at a funeral when I was 15. Everyone thought I was crying and I felt even worse for laughing, but it was the only time that’s happened in the 10 funerals I’ve been to.. Every time I tell someone about that and that it was a nervous laughter they just think I’m crazy or morbid. It’s nice to know others have been through that as well!
In your Defense, funerals can be kind of funny in a matter of fact way. Everyone weeping in a room is just awkward so don’t feel bad for laughing. Some people laugh when their uncomfortable and I’m one of them!
Loni know exactly what she talking about cuz remember that one person said that someone said she looked like a Muppet 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂
I will never forget when a neighbor stopped my Dads car when my brother & I were in & told us that our other neighbor (a child & young boy who was friends w my little brother) had died. I immediately laughed & felt sooo bad after but I literally couldn’t control it I was actually devastated!
Love to hear your knowledge Adrienne!!!
I don't see why not it's another chapter in parents lives and planning builds excitement of what they can look forward to such as hobbies, traveling, or personal goals
That clip looks really good Kandi. Well done 💕🥰😘❤️
I alwaysss laugh during the most inappropriate times! Even when I'm going through a hard moment in life myself I smile. I guess its a way to mask the pain! Towards others I guess I feel awkward when I hear something sad so I try to laugh to soften the heaviness of the moment. Idk anyone else the same way?
Jeannie should’ve been here because she would be much older … she had Monaco at 43 so she will in her 60s when Monaco lives. They need to speak on that!
Jeannie will do what every parent does when their child leaves the nest: move on to the next phase of her life. She’ll probably better at it because she had time to discover her self before becoming a mother.
Jeannie will probably be like Mama Mai living her best life and thriving.
@@lynne709 well yes but I wanted her opinion as an older mom
Having an older parent is really not that tragic. In most cases it's even better cause they are more financially stable.
@@omphilemoerane2569 never said it was tragic!!!!! I just wanted her opinion on where she would be in life
I do it all the time, even when I tell people about traumatic moments in my life. I always thought it was cry now laugh later things.
Some parents are proud of children they are able to support themselves and leave home
I do it loni I snicker when I see someone fall all while asking if your okay and helping you up.
I'm a divorcee n our kids teens are between homes so we're prepared for our kids to leave...I go days with my kids being with their dad n I do me...
I always laugh during funerals 😂. The most hilarious and cringe moments happen during funerals and church
I’ve been holding this in for years, maybe not kandi 😂😂😂😂 omggggg girl wth is that scene
I don’t know how to deliver bad news. I was at school one time and I said to my friends “my cousin died last night” they were dead silent for like 2 minutes and to break the silence I was like “ohh what are we doing for lunch today?” And one of my friends laughed 😊
I literally laugh at inappropriate times and make inappropriate jokes during serious matter bc I’m scared of what might really happen if I give into it.
I don’t think Loni has ever experienced what they’re talking about because it’s not something you can control or something you consciously do to deflect getting deeper into your emotions.
Wait on which topic are you talking about on the no laughing matter topic when something is serious😄😄🥴🥴🤭
Ooooo Kandi that new project clip was umm owww ha
Can we pitch this show to OWN. I can’t imagine not watching you guys
2:26 - 2:30 was that graphic necessary? 😆
Laughing at a funeral about what exactly? 🤔
I can tell you why I was shaking and laughing at a funeral. Everyone was beginning to go up to the casket to pay their last respects. There was a woman that was one of the first and when she bent over to kiss the deceased, everyone realized her dress was not only tucked into her panties and pantyhose, but she had toilet paper hanging out too. When you shouldn't laugh, it's always funnier. Lol
@@jilltheprivateinvestigator3328 omg 😲🙊🙊
Funny things happen all the time
@@jilltheprivateinvestigator3328 Oh shoot lmaoo not saying its good but at least there was a reason 🤭some laugh for absolutley no reason at all like me😊 well at least when I was younger
OMG that’s me, I laugh at the most inappropriate stuff
I think that side grin kandi may be talking about is a grimace. And I do that too
It's hard you still have to be you
80s is definitely my favorite lol. I have Kangol hats right now lol
Why can't Americans wait for their kids to leave? In my culture the kids stay until they are married and some also stay after marriage. And that just makes the family bond strong and they can be next to their parents as their parents grow old. And the parents also help with their kid's kids so its just a beautiful environment all around
It's about not actively chauffeuring them to activities and being hands on day to day when they pursue a secondary education out of state or become legal adults here. Many parents still financially support their children after 18
@@theechubbyone the impression we get is that they can't wait for their kids to leave the house
Most american kids want to leave at 18. The culture is independent and individualisim. Its mutual. Its not just the parents
Exactly same in my culture too😊
I had to hold in my laugh when my friend called me crying. I wasn’t about to laugh because she was crying but because i didn’t know how to console her so it was more like a awkward laugh.
I agree with Kandi all the way
I love the fashion of the 20s-70s
Random but did anyone else notice that Adrienne is wearing her wedding band on her pinky like Jeannie?? Lowkey think I might start copying them too!
I was laughing walking down the isle. Both of my ex husband's grandpa's walked me down the isle and they were rubbing my hand to console me because they thought that I was crying.
I grew up in a Jehovah’s Witness home and we used to go preaching house to house. If you know anything about that you know how serious that is. One day I went preaching with my gran and a friend of mine who was my age. My gran started talking to the householder and she had a really hectic lisp and I just couldn’t hold in the laugh. Needless to say she was not impressed 🤣
Explain hectic lisp! I share your upbringing! Please explain.🤣🤣 I def have had some householders with distractions making it hard to concentrate on your presentation. 🤣
@@tiara3849 it was almost as if she had no teeth at all. In fact I thought she had no teeth but when I realised she did I just cracked up with laugher🤣🤣🤣 I was probably about 10 years old. My gran was so embarrassed and so disappointed 🫣
@@AmandaWaseUK🤣🤣🤣 tooo funny !!! I'm sure your gran forgave you, after all you were only ten. Have you ever thought about coming back?
@@tiara3849 to be honest I have… I tried… but it’s hard.
I’ve been the giggle at the funeral. It really is so hard to control.
None of these ladies truly know how it feels to be an empty nester especially a single parent with one child. It’s not that easy! They cannot relate!
Yes!! Because soooooo many people i know did NOT, they have not transitioned well when their kids did..it was hard emotionally and mentally and then they were left to finally start living their life. I'm gonna do different to a degree because my kid won't always need me the same way.
I’ve also laughed in church & at a funeral 😭.
I think everybody has at one point 😊🤭can't believe I'm saying this but myself included🥴🥴 well at least when I was younger
Loni does this so often-laughs at the most inappropriate times or jokes during them. It is very unsettling. It would be great to really reign that in.
Yeah She does😊 but the thing about them is she that's the ability to hold them in with self control and that's something a lot of people don't really have in reality is self control myself included😊😊😄😄😁 this is coming from a quiet/ shy person🥴🥴🤭🤭😊 don't blame me but that's what I call self hidden talent at least in my opinion lol
Our Vice President does it all the time. I’m hoping she’s actively working on it.
She does what???🤔🤔 what does she be doing???
Your children are not an extension of you, they are separate beings. I think Kandi is right and that you can be a great parent without losing yourself or becoming enmeshed with your children.
Parents who enmesh their children are setting them up for an abundance of emotional issues that will harm them and their future relationships.
I laugh to keep from crying 😃 😢
I like the 20s too loni, I really appreciate 2020, 2021, 2022, for allowing us to wear whatever we want, there is no rules, it's just comfort and I love it.
When she said “20s” I thought she meant 1920s
@@Joce-bl7qi i think it is the 1920s
Not the 2000s
Us JAMAICANS 😂 we take nothing serious ! I think it was 2019 there was a tsunami warning late at night ….. we woke up in the morning to it on the news …… the nation laughed !! Like full on whooped and hollered on Twitter …
Facts. I'm over here tryna teach myself how to not laugh. So people who don't get it, think I'm laughing at them. It's definitely a cultural thing. Look at Kamala Harris. You can't take her nowhere. She can't stop laughing. 🤦🏾♀️
@@michelleb3167 😂😂 I love us
There's actually a condition where someone laughs uncontrollably. Also if you have a life before kids then you'll have one after.
Kandi is so cute and that accent ♥️
I got so tickled at my aunt’s funeral. I had to walk out.
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Kandi🔥🔥
A lil history moment. The Victorian bustle fad came from those women wanting to replicate a large butt. They saw women from Africa had NATURAL butts that were big and they want the same look.
Some things trigger me especially horrible stories about sexual abuse I will laugh because I really want to scream and never stop .
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Adrienne is pregnant….. I call it
Freedooooooooooooooooooom
Man look… black people funerals are long and funny as hell! There is that section where they give people two minutes to say something about the deceased. Well, there’s always that drunk family member or that person who wants to “sing a lil song.” If you’re fortunate both will be the same person. That happened at my mom’s funeral. My family started cutting up and I was in stitches. I put my head down and covered my face. All the ushers started fanning me and rubbing my shoulders. Only if they knew I was cracking tf up. I’m sure I cried for real at some point, but that was comedy hour. 🤣
Well at least you had fun a little bit I guess😊😁🤷🏽♀👍
JESSIE WOO!!!!💜💜💜💜
Garcelle only has the twins right? No grown son??
She does I think she said his nae is oliver and he has like a wife and a son now so she says😊so she's basically a grandmother now apparently🤗😎😉😁
Dang... I wanted to know Jeannie's fav decade
Wait why is there a cake?
I didn't even see anything when loni mentiond it at first I was like where🥴🤔🤔😕
When my aunt’s husband died I could not stop laughing when my mom told me. So embarrassing
Ppl of color? Black Americans created hip hop culture.... lol please.
That scene at the end with Kandi was so hot I really want to watch it
That scene with kandi was cringy & something she should not have done. Just saying
Kandi talking too much