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  • 9 Things Women Should Never Do For A Man - Even If He Loves You
    [Women MUST WATCH]
    As a Relationship Coach who regularly helps you navigate dating, relationships, and self-love, I see many of you doing things to prove your love, which often backfires by pushing him away, making him take you for granted, and eroding the attraction.
    CHAPTERS
    00:00 Starting
    01:00 Women Should Never Do For A Man 01
    01:51 Women Should Never Do For A Man 02
    02:51 Women Should Never Do For A Man 03
    03:42 Women Should Never Do For A Man 04
    04:12 Women Should Never Do For A Man 05
    05:03 Women Should Never Do For A Man 06
    05:43 Women Should Never Do For A Man 07
    06:11 Women Should Never Do For A Man 08
    06:44 Women Should Never Do For A Man 09
    07:40 Bonus Relationship Advice For Women
    08:04 Closing
    01. Don't Become The Female Version of Him
    It's natural to be interested in your partner's hobbies, but don't abandon your own passions. Faking interest creates a disingenuous connection. Embrace activities that make you unique - that's what initially attracted him anyway!
    02. Don't Hide Your Intellect
    Don't hold back your opinions or water down your arguments. A stimulating partner will appreciate your sharp mind and engaging conversation. A healthy relationship thrives on mutual intellectual growth.
    03. Don't Become Mom 2.0
    Constant nagging and cleaning up after your partner creates an unequal dynamic. He's a grown man, capable of taking care of himself. Focus on building a partnership, not a parent-child dynamic.
    04. Don't Put Your Dreams On Hold
    Don't put your life aspirations on hold for someone else. The right partner will be your biggest cheerleader, encouraging you to pursue your passions. A supportive relationship allows both individuals to blossom.
    05. Stop Avoiding Conflict
    Disagreements are inevitable. Learn to communicate your needs and concerns respectfully. A healthy relationship thrives on open communication, even when it's difficult.
    06. Don't Fully Rely On Him Financially
    Having your own financial security empowers you. Don't become dependent on a partner for money. This creates an imbalance and can be used as leverage.
    07. Don't Excuse His Behavior
    Love shouldn't mean accepting disrespect or mistreatment. Set clear boundaries and don't tolerate bad behavior. A healthy relationship is built on mutual respect and trust.
    08. Don't Isolate Yourself
    Don't let your relationship become your entire world. Maintain strong connections with friends and family. A healthy social network provides support and balance in your life.
    09. Avoid Uncomfortable Intimacy
    Don't be pressured into any physical intimacy that makes you uncomfortable. A good partner will respect your boundaries and prioritize your feelings.
    Bonus Tip: Avoid sending revealing photos!
    Remember: Strong, empowered women attract healthy relationships. By prioritizing self-worth and setting boundaries, you create a foundation for love that respects and celebrates who you are.
    Ismael Gomez III
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 456

  • @SaveTheMessenger
    @SaveTheMessenger  19 днів тому +36

    Please support our UA-cam channel by Subscribing -
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    It means a lot to me to see you want to learn about these topics.

    • @victoryirhabor9734
      @victoryirhabor9734 2 дні тому

      I appreciate all you are doing but what about gifting a guy you are datin? Or suporting him financially more like a loan??

  • @JRD0788
    @JRD0788 20 днів тому +672

    Women-never do this for you men
    1. Do NOT become the female version of him.
    2. Do NOT hide/down play your intellect.
    3. Do NOT become mom 2.0!
    4. Do NOT put your dream on hold.
    5. Stop avoiding conflict.
    6. Do NOT fully rely on him financially.
    7. Do NOT excuse his behavior.
    8. Do NOT isolate yourself from your personal circle.
    9. Avoid uncomfortable intimacy.
    Bonus: never send him naked pictures!!

    • @streaming5332
      @streaming5332 20 днів тому

      Yuk only a dipstick would take naked pictures.... zero self respect.

    • @vilmabock478
      @vilmabock478 8 днів тому +7

      Thank you 😊

    • @aprilcollins8552
      @aprilcollins8552 7 днів тому +7

      Thank you

    • @kellywade8275
      @kellywade8275 6 днів тому

      1. Most of us women can't be the female version of him, because, he's acting like a girl.
      3. No matter how much you try to be his lover, he will take his mom issues out on you.
      6. I don't know any woman who can fully rely on him financially...Nor, would want to...except lazy, entitled dummies.
      9. There has to be intimacy for it to be uncomfortable and avoided.
      Bonus: Only a moron, needs to learn this. Send him a fake of body parts...Kim K, JHo, etc. ?
      Sebastian Soto, please school the masses on this.🤷🏾‍♀

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 5 днів тому +44

      Never send anyone naked photos!!!!

  • @josutton7322
    @josutton7322 2 дні тому +40

    It's really simple ladies. Respect yourself. Love yourself. You don't have to have a "man". Be who you are, do what you like, and if you meet someone you like, and he can't handle you being you, that's his problem. Single is best.

  • @redwoods7370
    @redwoods7370 3 дні тому +79

    I am a 68 year old woman and I endorse every point he enumerated. Great advice.

    • @Keekonuts
      @Keekonuts 3 дні тому +2

      Me too. They don’t make women like they used to.

    • @gurinapsait8602
      @gurinapsait8602 День тому +1

      Been there in my 20's and 30's.. I'm 68 and I love have friends with benefits but not having them around everyday..

    • @teresamcmurrin8672
      @teresamcmurrin8672 15 годин тому +1

      I'm 68 too, and I agree 100%!

  • @amaliakonrad8133
    @amaliakonrad8133 2 дні тому +30

    I am married for more than thirty years and according to my experience this young man is absolutely right.

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  День тому

      Thanks for sharing. What was the most challenging part for you?

  • @ann5765
    @ann5765 2 дні тому +48

    My dad told me to never rely solely on a man. Boy was he right!

  • @sandramartin9784
    @sandramartin9784 3 дні тому +66

    A therapist told me years ago to never do anything sexual you don’t feel comfortable with. Comfort equals trust. Listen to yourself and trust your gut if it doesn’t feel right.

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  День тому +1

      Great advice. Comfort equals trust 💯

    • @user-bn5br3xr2b
      @user-bn5br3xr2b День тому

      That's very right. I strongly dislike, even hate, anal sex and won't do it with a man. I only like vaginal sex. The hype about anal sex is a huge lie.

  • @headstonelover
    @headstonelover 3 дні тому +27

    my ex husbands wanted me to like the same things they did and I told them that's not good for a relationship. I started to lose myself because of this. I did forget my dreams because they kept calling me dumb. at 59 I am now continuing my life and what I always wanted to do. they relied on me financially. and NEVER MARRY AN ALCOHOLIC and if you date one or marry one get out

    • @aheartofworship27
      @aheartofworship27 2 дні тому

      @@headstonelover Exactly right. My dad was an alcoholic and he married this woman who now I consider family after being married for 30+ years when she finally ended the relationship she ended up with another alcoholic whom she tremendously helped get recovered, but he almost destroyed her life. When she finally had enough and walked out, she left them fully alcohol, free, and with money in the bank.

    • @empressofenlighten5302
      @empressofenlighten5302 День тому

      ​@@aheartofworship27I'm going thru the same time

  • @mnikaluza4
    @mnikaluza4 14 днів тому +86

    I hit all 9 of these in my marriage … and he not only had zero respect but he became very cruel to me and walked out on me & our daughter… he’s my ex husband and I’m an ex people pleaser

  • @writer1986
    @writer1986 16 днів тому +116

    Amen. I learned the hard way. I made excuses for my husband's behavior; made him my world; celebrated every birthday, unbirthday, and family event with his family, even though they never made me feel like part of the family. After 6 years, I packed up my kids and left. I didn't want this lifestyle anymore.... Now, my husband is finally showing up, making changes, and limiting contact with his controlling, enmeshed family.

    • @RacilleAshley-sf7yv
      @RacilleAshley-sf7yv 15 днів тому +6

      I'm GLAD that you WOKE UP, out of a DEEP SLEEP.. now you have your happy life BACK!

    • @Nela1481
      @Nela1481 14 днів тому

      Me alegro mucho por tu Amor Propio 💕

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  14 днів тому +5

      We're all proud of you. Thanks for sharing your story.

  • @oldsoullikemine23143
    @oldsoullikemine23143 3 дні тому +17

    WOW!!!
    I have been in a relationship for more than 20 years and married for 19 on the 29th of this month.
    And I am crying so hard right now, I can hardly see to type this out.
    Literally, everything pointed out in this video is how it's gone from the beginning!
    I understand now why things are the way they are. But I don't know what to do. How do I even begin to try and make things better?
    We are more than a thousand miles from anyone I know and turning to family or friends is definitely not an option.
    I haven't worked pretty much the whole time we've been together because he hasn't wanted me to.
    We have two sons who treat me the same way he does because that's what they see him do... I spend day in and day out being disrespected, treated like I'm not even a person, like I'm wrong or the problem because I require the same things as other human beings... If I am hungry or tired, hurting or sad, I am made to feel like it's wrong of me to do so, and I don't know what to do about it.
    I love to write and always wanted to pursue that dream, but he would cut it down and make it seem impossible and myself not good enough... until I just stopped writing all together for the last several years. Then, about a year ago something happened.
    Something changed in me where it was like I woke up and realized things were not right.
    I knew things need to change and that I had to do something... but with really no frame of reference, no actual understanding of why things are this way, no one to turn to, and no options, I did the only thing I felt I could do besides cry and feel sad... I turned back to writing.
    My focus has been on my poetry for this past year, because that is how I deal with my emotions best.
    I have compiled a lot of them into the book that has been on my mind since around 2005 at least, and I actually even started to share them on my own UA-cam channel a few weeks ago because I just felt that was what I was supposed to do. But I honestly don't think that what I am doing can do anything to change the way things have been for our entire relationship. I just know that writing is my only outlet and, at this point, it's the only thing giving me any relief from the near constant sadness and pain I feel.
    Writing is like breathing for me, and because I stopped for so long, I felt like I was suffocating.
    Another way to put it into terms that express how much it means to me is that when I am wounded, it's like the ink is my blood and the paper my bandage...
    But I know that breathing in and bleeding out is not a long-term solution to the problem, only a means of survival at this point.
    I am thankful, though, that I stumbled upon this video and I am going to be checking out this channel to see if there are any videos that offer tips on how to change your circumstances if you find yourself in a similar situation.
    Much love to all, and thank you again!

    • @charlotte5671
      @charlotte5671 День тому +4

      Please leave. It will be hard It won't be easy, But please for yourself for your sanity for your safety for your mental well-being and your physical well-being - leave. If the person who is your primary source of care , isn't treating you well you owe it to yourself to leave. Maybe you can go to a women's shelter & get some help on how to navigate getting assistance I'm pretty sure that he would have to give you some kind of money to help you. But really truly you deserve to be at minimum treated with respect from everyone. I wish you the best in finding yourself again. We all get lost sometimes. But you can always come back to you & connect to the loving universe / God / Gaia that lead you to this realization, and me to see your message & hopefully give you a little hope. Things can get better & definitely deserve better

    • @Shamazcorner
      @Shamazcorner День тому +2

      Hello there…!
      May God’s peace and protection be with you!
      Hope you are doing well.
      I have read each and every word that you wrote, and felt it too.
      I have gone through something similar and more… we all err 😒.
      But today I am in a much better place (all praise to Lord, Almighty). What happens is that we are placing responsibility with them, when we need to place the responsibility on ourselves first. They may be evil but not without our support. Our timidity makes them worse. If I may be bold enough, I would even say, that we take a bad person and help him become a monster.
      First of all… there’s a lot of power in you. There’s a lot that you can do. You’ll never find out, if you never leave, and if you never try on your own. Trust God and then trust yourself… tell yourself anything is better than this degrading life you live everyday.
      The world is a far easier place today for a woman to navigate than what it used to be. And yet, even 100s of years earlier women have gone and showed the world what they are made of. Both men and women can be subjugated if they allow that to happen and go on.
      God is there for you. And the world will be there for you, and even your sons one day… but only if you start to be there for yourself first!
      You don’t need anything at all for that. All you need is self love, self respect and complete trust in God.
      Take that leap!Do or die!! Only when you take that step, you’ll know… only then you’ll find out that it wasn’t as hard as you thought it would be.
      Or, that it’s extremely hard but well worth it. Once you do it and conquer your own life and respect back, Your only regret will be, why did I wait for so long?! And what was I waiting for??!!
      Please Trust yourself. YOU are YOUR own Family.
      You have given a lot to these people, to your husband and to those sons of yours.
      So enough now…!
      START by looking up to GOD… and asking for his forgiveness in solitude. Then ask for his guidance. Cry until you can’t cry any longer, and then promise never to cry again.
      Keep asking God for real and true guidance, not something you’ve been following for years, just because everyone else around you has been doing the same. God WILL open a door for you. It WILL happen if you trust that it will happen. Keep an open mind. Heal yourself enough to let the light shine towards you, and you be able to recognize it.
      And in the meanwhile (when you are preparing for greater things) ignore what they do and say. Treat them like dogs barking. Abusive men are seldom brave or strong. 99% of abusive people are big cowards and very weak. You’ll be surprised when you show them your strength. And even if that’s not the case in your house(I won’t call it a home), trust God, He is almighty, there’s no strength bigger than Him.
      There’s a lot you can do. You might not be able to pay for rent & food through your writing straight away. But you can cook and clean until then. You can train to become a nanny. Many working women would love to have an elderly trustworthy nanny. I can only try and show you your worth. But you’ll have to open your own eyes, and find your own soul, and then save it. And God will show you your options and will make it easy for you. That doesn’t mean that this exit will be easy peasy. Nothing in this world, or in this life is effortless or simple. You might have to work hard for it. But in the end you’ll love yourself for it.
      Also ask your self, what you are tolerating today, everyday, is that easy? Do you wanna continue to live like this?? Do you wanna die like this???

    • @oldsoullikemine23143
      @oldsoullikemine23143 День тому

      @charlotte5671 Thank you.
      I am very grateful for your thoughtful advice and concern. I do appreciate it, I am taking all of this in and processing everything, looking for a clear sign of what I need to do and how to go about it.
      I am trying to figure out what the best course of action is and be sure that I make the right decisions. I definitely know things have to change for the better though, no matter what.
      I know that the way things have been isn't right, but I don't want to make bad, wrong, or rash choices that will only cause more wrong and hurt to be done. However this all goes, I don't want it to further push my sons in a bad direction.
      If anything, I want them to come around to the fact that treating anyone like they don't matter is not right. So if I do feel like leaving, at least for a time is my only, right option... then I want to do all I can to help them and even my husband to understand it's not out of anger or spite. But as a last resort because it's the only way to help myself heal and all of them to take notice of what needs to change and, hopefully, choose to grow.
      My hope is, whether it comes to me having to leave or not, that as I am searching and seeking for the right path here, there will be a chance for all of us to grow and come together as a family in a much healthier way for everyone. Though, I know if that is not how it's meant to go, there's nothing I can do about it. I just don't want to make anything worse by making the wrong decision.

    • @oldsoullikemine23143
      @oldsoullikemine23143 День тому +2

      @Shamazcorner
      Thank you so much for this insight.
      I know I needed to read your comment. It literally came in as I was typing a response to the comment before it.
      I am definitely praying and seeking the Lord's guidance because no matter what, I want things to be able to get better for everyone. Not make them worse by handling it wrong.
      But I also am understanding more clearly by the day that I can't just do nothing because it will never get better, only worse if it continues like this... and I do realize that the choice, whatever it is, the call to action falls on me here, and I am not taking any of it lightly.
      I believe you are most definitely right about making things worse by being a doormat or acting as their servant...
      That has been among my own thoughts and concerns and especially over this past year. But it has never been my intention at all, only to show the love and kindness of Christ, though that sadly is not how it has been perceived. At this point I am waiting for the Lord to show me how to approach this and what I need to do, but I definitely feel I was meant to read and really think on everything shared in both your comment and the one I read before it.
      Thank you again for your care, and most importantly, for your prayers!
      Much love to all, and God bless!

    • @joyfulhomemaker8053
      @joyfulhomemaker8053 19 годин тому

      My husband and I are marriage coaches and we coach a class based on a book called “DNA of Relationships” by Dr Gary Smalley

  • @zelmalang1695
    @zelmalang1695 3 дні тому +19

    As a retired pastor I can say, right on bro. I have seen so many couples in trouble because they did not follow your list. And your recommendations apply to both parties in the relationship, not just the women. Good advice.

  • @pinnaclepottery635
    @pinnaclepottery635 2 дні тому +5

    It’s so nice to be 67 and have worked through all this crap!! A book that changed it all for me was ‘The Road Less Traveled’. 😊

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  День тому

      I appreciate you sharing that. How did it make you feel?

  • @ajcraft-hello
    @ajcraft-hello 14 днів тому +106

    “…Being yourself is the ONLY way to be IRREPLACEABLE…”🐝🐑😘

  • @cassandraknight8804
    @cassandraknight8804 8 днів тому +27

    No need for disagreement to be a “ FIGHT “ … I’m so glad how you explained that one at the end. It’s so scary and hurtful to have a man fully yelling at you.

  • @arianahoule7223
    @arianahoule7223 3 дні тому +21

    My first impulse about your video was not to like it. However, I made myself listen to you. I ended up agreeing with a lot of what you were saying. There are so many arrogant and disrespectful men out there doing videos on how to abuse women. I'm glad you are not one of them.

  • @Purpurschnecke
    @Purpurschnecke 3 дні тому +16

    It's sad that these things even have to be pointed out by a coach. They should be natural to everybody

    • @sharitacash9318
      @sharitacash9318 День тому

      I agree it's basically common sense.

    • @Dalabombana
      @Dalabombana День тому +1

      …because love and emotions are rarely based on logic. Humans are imperfect, often inexperienced and vast majority carry baggage or unresolved trauma. It is what it is.

  • @demelzahunter8504
    @demelzahunter8504 7 днів тому +15

    I'm going to be my independent self no matter what my man does. It's being fake to take on his attributes. Always be you. ❤

  • @CamiKaze22
    @CamiKaze22 4 дні тому +11

    Had to learn all of these the hard way. I kept giving my energies out to the wrong people esp in romantic relationships. My ex of 10 years left out of nowhere. I had no choice but to rebuild myself. Now, I've learned to truly value my authentic self. You have to become the love you seek or else you will attract many unhealthy relationships with people who also carries the same trauma as you. Thank you for the advice!

  • @childearth4039
    @childearth4039 3 дні тому +5

    Shows you dont have to be a woman to understand how women should treat themselves. Thank you Mr Gomez from all women.

  • @staywellandstrong4199
    @staywellandstrong4199 21 день тому +40

    All good points for staying secure in developing emotional boundaries. Thank you.

  • @pamelasimone5084
    @pamelasimone5084 15 днів тому +21

    I used to argue with a friend about dumbing down. She kept telling me to hide my intelligence because it scared off guys. I kept saying they would find out eventually.
    I think your advice is very helpful. I fall into the traps of avoiding conflict, changing my tastes to match his, excusing behavior, and dropping friends to be with him.
    These behaviors come from my own insecurities.

    • @user-es9mb8wi3m
      @user-es9mb8wi3m 6 днів тому +5

      I remember these feelings from my younger years. Some advice, not that you asked, btw. Spend time with yourself for awhile, no relationships. Get involved with a group whose purpose is to help others. Not to meet men, but to care about other people’s challenges. Grow spiritually. I believe in Jesus. Find your core values, discover your beliefs. Read books, limit social media, listen to calming music, learn something new. The topics/skills are endless.We live in a very interesting world. You will emerge a much more confident, stronger, more centered woman. You will begin to value your worth, and expect that a man should do the same. There are nice men everywhere. Take time to get to know someone, rather than projecting onto a new guy your wishes and dreams and rushing into a relationship. Make him prove that he deserves such an outstanding woman. Never stop learning and growing. I wish you many blessings.

  • @fabianafran927
    @fabianafran927 21 день тому +34

    I agree 💯 with everything you said. You pointed out some really important issues that are overlooked most of the times. Thank you so much! ❤

  • @Theancientninja
    @Theancientninja 7 днів тому +18

    I don’t think it’s that women become a sponge, it’s that we are mirrors and multipliers. So often if we love someone or they mean a lot to us, we will mirror them in many aspects. So I think it’s important to understand there is a balance we must keep in that

    • @gborowme
      @gborowme 6 днів тому +1

      Smart talk

    • @lindahandley5267
      @lindahandley5267 3 дні тому +2

      I think that's true of everyone to a point. We seem to mirror the people we love and admire in subtle ways. God made men and women different in obvious ways, but in ways to balance each other out. Thank heaven for men. He knew what He was doing!

    • @MizrahiChick
      @MizrahiChick 2 дні тому +1

      I used to watch my love addict cousin morph into her partners. She would even dress as they did, take on their interests , beliefs, values, friends and troubles...their ENEMIES even.... Money...sure , 50 grand, live with me right away, no problem, Ignore my famiky , sure. She would disappear and his girlfirend was left in her place . Took me into contra independence , absolutely . I deprogrammed and have been single since widowed .

    • @lindahandley5267
      @lindahandley5267 2 дні тому

      @@MizrahiChick It is laughable, embarrassing and ridiculous!

  • @jyotsnajha8767
    @jyotsnajha8767 2 дні тому +2

    You are so right and so mature in what you say! Being respectful even in conflict is so important. Lot of people cannot do that.

  • @Ivana_piranha
    @Ivana_piranha День тому +4

    “A grown man should be able to take care of himself.”
    Say it louder for the people in the back. 🙌🏻

  • @kathybieganski1258
    @kathybieganski1258 3 години тому +1

    This young man has excellent advice. Over 70 yrs old/40 years married… he speaks the truth !

  • @johnu-dj6xp
    @johnu-dj6xp 6 днів тому +44

    When you’re married, it’s a little different. The level of tolerance when single is different from when you’re married

    • @tonirad9577
      @tonirad9577 2 дні тому +6

      I am not sure why though . Why do we have to be more tolerant of bad behavior because we get married ? Because my old husband thinks it's fine to be nasty to his wife while acting like the golden boy with everyone else .

    • @zahiraameen6371
      @zahiraameen6371 2 дні тому +2

      ​@@tonirad9577 Cos children are involved and they have a right to both parents. Don't have kids until you understand each other well..give it at least 2 -3 years ...discuss parenting thoroughly before having kids.
      At least until adulthood, parents must work things out. If you are adult enough to have sex, be adult enough to communicate, negotiate, compromise and have the common vision of raising children in a peaceful household BEFORE marriage

  • @whiteorchid116
    @whiteorchid116 21 день тому +17

    Ismael, what could it imply if a man is not willing to communicate openly about intimacy? I'm the type of person who'd talk about it to see what we're both comfortable with. I absolutely agree with you on all these points, Ismael. I can't stand immature behaviour and recently have stopped playing dumb and agreeing with everything that a partner says. Life is too short to not go after your dreams!

  • @sharikavenugopal
    @sharikavenugopal 14 днів тому +41

    Single me watching this at 2 am for God knows why😅

  • @sonamsingh5874
    @sonamsingh5874 21 день тому +10

    Now I came to know,I was doing this mistake everytime. Thanks now I am aware.

  • @Susie_86
    @Susie_86 4 дні тому +7

    A financially independent woman gets a double edged sword. Men definitely feel relieved through actions if the woman doesn't spend his money. In fact when a woman makes her own money, men hardly take care of them but if asked he'll say she doesn't make me feel needed, doesn't let me provide. These are regular guys I'm talking about not the toxic ones. The discrepancies in how they feel and what they say will always remain a major contributor to failed relationships or miscommunication. Most of my friends are males and I've often seen these discrepancies. Perhaps I've gotten to know them too well that they've kinda lost their charm to me but I love them as friends.... hardly any drama and almost always a very breezy and great hangout! ❤

    • @Kayprofessor
      @Kayprofessor 2 дні тому

      They are sooo confused. Everything they say is contradictory. It’s always something the woman is doing wrong

  • @G.G.8GG
    @G.G.8GG 4 дні тому +3

    I confess I thought this was going to be another one of those arrogant videos where a guy tells women how they need to behave and what they need to give and give up to have a chance with guys. But this is right on. All us female oldsters can vouch fir this advice.

  • @reemsaif3105
    @reemsaif3105 4 дні тому +3

    Never felt that way with any man to dumb my self down. I enjoy fully expressing myself ❤

  • @lillieknight
    @lillieknight 9 днів тому +3

    I think your best tip was that little snippet at the end when you said when your relationship changes, you need to change.

  • @lindahandley5267
    @lindahandley5267 3 дні тому +3

    I'm not saying that I'm 'Ms. Perfect', but I would never have been comfortable not being myself. It would have been the other way around. And, if a man is not in it for the same reason I am, loses interest, or disrespects me, I'd be SO gone. I taught my 2 sons early on that when it comes to relationships and marriage, you can NOT have love with OUT Respect. I read a great explanation of respect that has stayed with me: 'One husband said that receiving respect from his most intimate friend, his wife, reduces his fear of failure and being inadequate....it is like wind in my sails.'❤

    • @sharitacash9318
      @sharitacash9318 День тому +1

      ❤ respect is definitely important, in relationships and in everyday life.

    • @lindahandley5267
      @lindahandley5267 День тому

      @@sharitacash9318 Oh absolutely. Respect is a 'life' thing...for other humans, animals and the planet.😊

  • @Inatfromdenmark
    @Inatfromdenmark 15 днів тому +1

    Good to hear that what’s I’m doing is actually someone’s advice. Every single one of them. ❤

  • @user-vp8fw6uw5q
    @user-vp8fw6uw5q 20 днів тому +3

    Hi Ismael, I am guilty of doing some of these. I have a problem with #5
    Because my previous relationship was very abusive when he didn't get what he wanted.
    Thank you so much for being here to teach us what you know. Your videos are wonderful.

  • @rjulsb
    @rjulsb 8 днів тому +3

    Just got the validation. Thank you for the tips Ismael!

  • @marilynwarbis7224
    @marilynwarbis7224 13 днів тому

    Ismael really hits the nail of my failed relationships on the head. The mistakes he mentions are utterly ingrained in me. Were I to be myself and follow my own dreams, I'd be a completely different person. This is partly my own failures, but also a great deal down to the fact that we still live in a male-dominated society in which men are served more than women, so men can afford to say to their womenfolk - 'it's my way or the highway', and go their own way. In this circumstance, to be oneself and do one's own things leads the woman to being on her own.

  • @MJ-hl1kk
    @MJ-hl1kk 2 дні тому +2

    This is the first real man that I have come across in half a century of my existence, be it within my family or outside, in real life or social media or even films - that's how patriarchal even the first world is! And when I saw his first name, I said oh no, not another! But he is right on the money, especially when he talks about how society has conspired to create the creature that he talks about, and the way he financially abuses. But since most men are infected with the cancer called narcissism, which has no cure, the only medicine would be to leave them, which, unfortunately, by the time they discover the fact, it becomes too late for the woman to leave because by now she is entangled with him at all levels - he has seen to that!

  • @gracesanity6314
    @gracesanity6314 14 днів тому +33

    Never be the first to cook dinner. Let him be excited to cook for you. Oh and don't help. Be the guest. Later much later...then you can cook if you want.

    • @vodkavuitton
      @vodkavuitton 6 днів тому +10

      I don't play games or follow anyone's rules about when I can or can't cook 🤷🏾‍♀️

    • @muratazaarzai
      @muratazaarzai 6 днів тому +5

      ​@@vodkavuitton... I agree with you... Never manipulate the relationship... U may even lose a genuine partner....!!

    • @Lisa_M_V
      @Lisa_M_V 4 дні тому +1

      Yes. Women need to receive more. He’ll disrespect you if you start running after him from early on. Only once you’re sure of him and know he is willing to invest in you then you can cook ❤

  • @belleiccm9801
    @belleiccm9801 15 днів тому +1

    Thank you very much, Ismael! I am learning a lot about myself and relationships in post-break up and your video helped me learn more.

  • @pennyscott4474
    @pennyscott4474 14 днів тому +5

    I am amazed at your advice. I have daughters that are 23 and I’m going to share one of your videos with them! This is good news for today’s young ladies! You speak with a calm and reassuring voice of wisdom!

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  14 днів тому +1

      I appreciate you took the time to leave such a lovely comment.

  • @joanofarcxxi
    @joanofarcxxi 20 днів тому +7

    This was really good ❤

  • @artwithmamafairybreadd
    @artwithmamafairybreadd 6 днів тому +3

    Every point is important. Every female needs to know this ❤🇦🇺

  • @lilolmejusayin8671
    @lilolmejusayin8671 12 годин тому

    Great suggestions. I did all of those things and am married to the same man for 30 years and still going strong. Nothing is totally perfect but we always work things out.

  • @marieschmidt9416
    @marieschmidt9416 7 днів тому

    Actually really good encapsulation of this subject.

  • @kimberlymiller9154
    @kimberlymiller9154 3 дні тому

    Eye-opening and beautifully authentic❤ Thanks so much ❤

  • @anitta_Ima
    @anitta_Ima 8 днів тому +5

    Ismael Gomez Godbless You for this Particular Post, Iv Learnt a whole lot from your Channel, You're Brilliant. Kp doing great 👍👍

  • @nigoagamah3911
    @nigoagamah3911 3 дні тому +1

    You have done well my wonderful coach. God bless you.

  • @deeveriamoore2205
    @deeveriamoore2205 20 хвилин тому

    As a 45 year old woman this gentleman is 100% correct! 👏🏾👏🏾

  • @Mai_AU
    @Mai_AU 16 днів тому +1

    Love your videos… very helpful and amazing info. Thank you Ismael for your dedicated work…

  • @Michelle.A79
    @Michelle.A79 21 день тому +3

    Good advice thank you!❤️

  • @alwaysrighton
    @alwaysrighton 3 дні тому

    So true. Especially about changing when it changes. Acknowledge when you gambled. You got to know when to hold 'em, know fold them...

  • @user-hc1zk8nn6d
    @user-hc1zk8nn6d 16 днів тому +2

    Thank you, this was very very informative and I think you are great xxxx

  • @carolynbarlet1665
    @carolynbarlet1665 15 днів тому +3

    Absolutely right on all of it.

  • @sisselhansen3915
    @sisselhansen3915 4 дні тому +1

    Well said, Mr. 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

  • @hairbymichelleandbeautypar7199

    I absolutely agree with you! Thanks for sharing and educating our women. 😊

  • @JenniferBurbank
    @JenniferBurbank 3 дні тому

    Thank you Ismael.. made my day better… feel more confident… finally subscribed

  • @dannmurray1199
    @dannmurray1199 14 днів тому +1

    Trustworthy advice...thank you.

  • @germanlanguageworkshop1542
    @germanlanguageworkshop1542 16 днів тому +2

    Great video! 🎉🎉🎉

  • @MartineHubbard
    @MartineHubbard 15 днів тому +3

    Thank you ❤. This really helps!

  • @jislanecarrasquillo9849
    @jislanecarrasquillo9849 15 днів тому +3

    Number one had to be the most surprising!😮 I genuinely cannot recall any other male coach who has given his female audience such crucial piece of advice.
    Not being into the same hobbies or interests as my man is still an insecurity of mine but I’m so glad that I’m hearing something so reassuring from another male. There truly is beauty & excitement in other people’s differences.
    This is why I love your channel Ismael 🎉 You give great wisdom that is not heard enough for your audience 🙏🏻☮️

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  14 днів тому +1

      That's very sweet of you. Thanks.

    • @saintejeannedarc9460
      @saintejeannedarc9460 10 днів тому +1

      A man will respect you most if you are just confident about being you. Men and women will always have different hobbies and interests. It's pretty crucial that they do have some separate time. You eventually live together and share so many things, that it's good to have some separate interests. Some women just lose themselves in a man. This can be compounded when they have kids.

  • @Lucida1818
    @Lucida1818 13 днів тому +2

    Hmmmmmmmm thank you. 🙏
    Thank god I intuitively know so many of these points.

  • @NinaSimon-iq7dz
    @NinaSimon-iq7dz 2 хвилини тому

    You are so incredibly valuable, thank you 🙏❤️

  • @lindachallenger1554
    @lindachallenger1554 3 дні тому +1

    Thank you for those lovely words of advise! Hopefully many young women take this info and use it! 👍🇨🇦

    • @Keekonuts
      @Keekonuts 3 дні тому

      Hold my beer Linda…I’ll make sure…

  • @carbonfootprint3635
    @carbonfootprint3635 3 дні тому

    Your advoce is really good and the way you deliver what you're saying is really calm.and reassuring. Apprecate your channel

  • @makelifematter1896
    @makelifematter1896 11 днів тому

    All is true this was me 30 yrs wasted ..all about him nothing about me ...pay attention this young man has wonderful insight pay attention so you don't throw away your life as I did for so long...on the road to recovery have a beautiful man friend I'm trying to make sure I grow in the right direction this time❤

  • @LaciRae
    @LaciRae 16 днів тому +2

    i had a touch of healthy skepticism before watching (never seen You before so unsure if You could be trusted). but You have integrity. thank You for giving excellent advice.

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  15 днів тому +1

      I also embrace healthy skepticism. Thanks for watching.

  • @moyetri2235
    @moyetri2235 День тому

    Very straightforward love it❤

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  День тому +1

      I appreciate you took the time to leave such a lovely comment.

  • @lynndurbin9476
    @lynndurbin9476 2 дні тому +38

    A Christian woman...date for marriage. Be modest, be honest, be straightforward, and be in control of yourself. Save yourself for marriage, get to know who you're with.

    • @bronwyn8110
      @bronwyn8110 День тому +8

      Christian men too, right? It had to go both ways.

    • @gewfone
      @gewfone День тому

      There's no god, delusional rubbish, offensive to read that, keep your misguided beliefs off media

    • @LisavonAustralis
      @LisavonAustralis День тому +4

      Wouldn't buy a car without a test drive or buy a house sight unseen. You need to know what you're getting into. "Save" yourself for marriage is some of the most harmful advice an adult can give.

    • @Inquisitor2024
      @Inquisitor2024 День тому +1

      💯 %....

    • @lynndurbin9476
      @lynndurbin9476 23 години тому +1

      Trust....trust God.​@@LisavonAustralis

  • @orsih2356
    @orsih2356 19 годин тому

    You are absolutely right, I totally agree with you.

  • @Lilpayasa29
    @Lilpayasa29 20 днів тому +3

    That last line 😂
    Thank you for all of your insights, Ismael. I really enjoy your perspective and advice towards women. You do it in such a tactful and respectful way that isn’t polarizing or condescending. I wish I would’ve found these videos years ago when I used to date. Now that my teenager is starting to show interest in boys I can give her great advice. Thank you! 🙏🏽💕
    P.S. Tu acento es muy lindo 🔥

  • @ykt4343
    @ykt4343 19 днів тому +4

    Wow. That was so interesting. I can thankfully say I don't do most of those things. I have always spoken my mind and I truly believe if you don't have respect for the person you're with you can't love them. For me my respect is very important. Your video has validated my thought process and I am so grateful for it. You always make things so clear and provide great examples which are relatable. Thank you😊

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  18 днів тому +1

      I appreciate you took the time to leave such a lovely comment.

  • @jesicaamel90
    @jesicaamel90 6 днів тому

    Thank you for sharing your advice ❤
    many blessings to you❤

  • @DrCath
    @DrCath 21 день тому +1

    Can't find these insights anywhere else! Thanks Ismael!

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  21 день тому

      Thanks for your lovely comment. It made me smile.

  • @charlottecheverton9227
    @charlottecheverton9227 6 днів тому

    Good on you, such great words of wisdom ! I agree wholeheartedly with all of what you said wish I heard all this 30 years back, never mind am very aware now😃 .keep up the great work!

  • @annettewestley7076
    @annettewestley7076 День тому +1

    Relationship is built on accepting and respecting the differences in each other. Learning about each other and enjoying each other's company. Laugh, talk, discuss subjects, ask for each other's support. Work hard together. Play hard together. Have a good argument and agree to disagree. It's not about winning. Wear what you feel comfortable in. See your friends and family when ever you want. Study as you wish. That is how you stay together and thrive.

  • @carineokeh3543
    @carineokeh3543 17 днів тому +1

    Thanks for this video. It came at the right time.
    You won a new subscriber.❤

  • @Ptbuttercat
    @Ptbuttercat 3 дні тому

    Fantastic advice!

  • @venyendelorisnyuyeni6173
    @venyendelorisnyuyeni6173 3 дні тому

    Thank you so much. This is a great teaching. Learnt a lot from this msg

  • @elizabythesea72
    @elizabythesea72 3 дні тому

    Nice video, good points.

  • @gigidiaz3828
    @gigidiaz3828 3 дні тому

    Wow, you were on point with every item. Keeping to myself to avoid conflict and possibly losing him…gotta be true to my piece of mind. Gonna take your advice and talk to my BF. Might not be as bad as I think & will surely take a load off my shoulders, chest & head 😅

  • @joycepartee7797
    @joycepartee7797 2 дні тому

    Yes, Thank you for this Truthful information!❤❤❤❤❤!

  • @CatladyActionFigure
    @CatladyActionFigure 7 днів тому

    Excellent advice .. all of it.

  • @melastaicu6887
    @melastaicu6887 5 днів тому

    So true! You are so right! I never did anything different than all you said here! Finally, a man whose advice resonates with me! Thanks!

  • @meng-uj8sx
    @meng-uj8sx 21 день тому +2

    Wow! ❤❤❤ I love tip #1. That make sense of real love. Be unique.👋👋👋

  • @username_3115
    @username_3115 3 дні тому

    Thank you for your real opinions and tips, it really helped me alot and the last tip you gave with sending naked pictures. I really was unsure but you explained me not to do it. Thanks for opening my mind❤

  • @ellesvorgers8767
    @ellesvorgers8767 3 дні тому +4

    Ladies, you only need 1 rule. Embrace yourself.❤

  • @dewarb8311
    @dewarb8311 День тому

    Great advice xxx

  • @user-hp9fc2ry1t
    @user-hp9fc2ry1t 4 дні тому

    GD Afternoon legend san Thanks for your gd Useful advice 🙏👍

  • @KS-ne5mq
    @KS-ne5mq 5 годин тому

    This came up in my feed for whatever reason, so I thought I’d check it out. I listened, and as someone who’s been married for decades, it came to me I wish someone would’ve told me these things while I was looking for a lifelong partner. But I also bet unmarried people are probably going to dismiss this good advice so they aren’t alone or for their own personal reasoning.

  • @NeistovyAngel
    @NeistovyAngel 13 годин тому

    Great content ❤

  • @barifanso1831
    @barifanso1831 2 дні тому

    Your points are different and very mature … far from other people I’ve listened to.

  • @beauxmimi77
    @beauxmimi77 6 днів тому

    Thank you so much for a helpful video. I am just over 60 and haven't dated in many years.... so many i lost count! I met a young man who is acting interested in me and he and I have chemistry--though unfortunately he is in alcohol recovery. Your videos are helping me to cope with this difficult situation.

  • @Ana_Bek4
    @Ana_Bek4 21 день тому +2

    Thanks for adding humor at the end 😂🤩

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  20 днів тому

      Oh, I have a very dark sense of humor. I try to keep it light just for UA-cam haha

  • @titititi6831
    @titititi6831 12 годин тому

    Great advice thank you

  • @somabose90
    @somabose90 5 днів тому +1

    Thank you for your help❤❤

  • @zina6581
    @zina6581 9 годин тому

    Excellent Advice!