It has been 4 years since my grandmother passed away. And this post-caregiving life isn't going to get any better. I wanted to live like a normal person, to secure my financial state, getting married and having kids. But this tiredness keeps dragging me down no matter how much I tried to fight it.
If you're burning out it can feel that way, that it is impossible and inevitable, but it's not, that is a fatigued state of mind that becomes negative and hopeless. Any tips for general wellbeing are great. I recomend the podcast 'feel better, live more' with Dr.Rangen Chaterjee.
It's really hard to be doing this for so long, I basically don't feel I have enough left for what it takes for me- I feel like I have been a mom of a child since I was 17 except I don't have my spouse companion, and I didn't choose this. I feel guilty for having anger and pain. Now I feel like it's going to maybe be intruding on my opportunity to build my own life and I even feel little torn between a relationship and my mom's expectations which I never seem to meet.
I understand, I get angry and frustrated with people too sometimes and feel guilt over that because I am guilty, but the Lord is kind and forgiving to all those who call upon him. Remember the words of Jesus “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”” Matthew 11:28-30 ESV
been caring 24 hours a day for my hubby, he's been in hospital for 2 months coming home tomorrow, I feel the panic, Im so stressed, I have no family and my friends disappeared....I wonder how painful being hit by a fast moving train would be ? (kidding)
As this video points out, self care is imperative for family caregivers. For more tips on the importance of taking time for yourself, this article provides helpful information: seniorhomecareoftucson.com/eliminate-stress-enjoy-holidays/
There's nothing rewarding or fun about caregiving. I HATE IT! The best solution is to throw whoever you're taking care of in the nursing home if circumstances allow it.
Yes I agree! In the beginning it may seem like a noble act but in the end the caregiver has given up their best years to take care of someone who has had 84 years to live life. In the end when the caregiver has given up their house, life, wellbeing and marriage, there is nothing left but a shell of the former person.
@@CAPEjkg For me, I've given up my post college life and I'm hoping early caregiving hasn't destroyed my chances of starting my career and getting married. All my friends are well ahead of me regarding independence, careers, and marriages and I'm sitting in the dust. And there's little I can do. My mom is too lazy to exercise, won't do physical therapy because of Covid, and won't do in-home caregiving because she's scared of her things getting stolen. If my parents were 10 years younger when I was born, I wouldn't be in this mess right now. I shouldn't be stuck at home caregiving at 28 years old. My mom's 69 btw.
@@finchborat that's way too young my friend and I am sorry. All I can say is look out for yourself first before it is too late like me and my wife's case. You're probably pretty tired of hearing from others that your doing a good thing and it will be ok. Only thing is those people don't live it 24/7, they have their own life,own house and get to live their own life.
@@CAPEjkg I'm mainly tired of being told I'm a good man/son. This is really mean, but I almost want to say I don't want to be a good son anymore. I don't want her to fend for herself, but both me and my mom want our lives back. I do appreciate those who say it will be okay. Without God, I would likely be dead right now.
@Stephanie Stevens I understand completely. I was born to older parents and that alone is why I'm in this mess. Me and my mom want our lives back. I will NOT miss caregiving. My circumstances are why I tell people not to wait until 40 to have kids.
It has been 4 years since my grandmother passed away. And this post-caregiving life isn't going to get any better. I wanted to live like a normal person, to secure my financial state, getting married and having kids. But this tiredness keeps dragging me down no matter how much I tried to fight it.
Are you better now?
Maybe you had some physical or mental cause... Maybe you had depression
To be honest you cant prevent caregiver burnout.
It's true
You're right...no matter how strong someone is, it's just a matter of time before it can happen and it sneaks up on you.
If you're burning out it can feel that way, that it is impossible and inevitable, but it's not, that is a fatigued state of mind that becomes negative and hopeless. Any tips for general wellbeing are great. I recomend the podcast 'feel better, live more' with Dr.Rangen Chaterjee.
Sadly for me I can't even visit doctor because no one to relieve me. Family members do not help or visit.
What if the person you are caring for won't allow you one minute to youself
Definitely feel like I've been here before.. so many feelings rushing in and it being so hard to deal with sometimes.
I have a mother who pushes me to help everyone and she uses guilt. I f***ng hate it
It's really hard to be doing this for so long, I basically don't feel I have enough left for what it takes for me- I feel like I have been a mom of a child since I was 17 except I don't have my spouse companion, and I didn't choose this. I feel guilty for having anger and pain. Now I feel like it's going to maybe be intruding on my opportunity to build my own life and I even feel little torn between a relationship and my mom's expectations which I never seem to meet.
I understand, I get angry and frustrated with people too sometimes and feel guilt over that because I am guilty, but the Lord is kind and forgiving to all those who call upon him.
Remember the words of Jesus “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.””
Matthew 11:28-30 ESV
@@sweetsav11I am a Christian. I don't understand the scripture because the burden does not seem easy and light. I do not find rest.
Family is helping but it is not enough. I cannot get everything done that needs to be done.
I also feel stuck and overwhelmed. Some these comments are troubling.
Maybe one way is to set limits to help you and the person being cared for.
🤦🏽♀️🙏🏻 My current situation. UGH!
Thank you so much 😢
Mahalo nui for this video. Much needed ❤️
been caring 24 hours a day for my hubby, he's been in hospital for 2 months coming home tomorrow, I feel the panic, Im so stressed, I have no family and my friends disappeared....I wonder how painful being hit by a fast moving train would be ? (kidding)
Not something to kid about
❤️💜 what a #Blessing 💜 #Caregivers 💜❤️
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As this video points out, self care is imperative for family caregivers. For more tips on the importance of taking time for yourself, this article provides helpful information: seniorhomecareoftucson.com/eliminate-stress-enjoy-holidays/
Article has generic info you find everywhere
There's nothing rewarding or fun about caregiving. I HATE IT!
The best solution is to throw whoever you're taking care of in the nursing home if circumstances allow it.
Yes I agree! In the beginning it may seem like a noble act but in the end the caregiver has given up their best years to take care of someone who has had 84 years to live life. In the end when the caregiver has given up their house, life, wellbeing and marriage, there is nothing left but a shell of the former person.
@@CAPEjkg For me, I've given up my post college life and I'm hoping early caregiving hasn't destroyed my chances of starting my career and getting married. All my friends are well ahead of me regarding independence, careers, and marriages and I'm sitting in the dust. And there's little I can do.
My mom is too lazy to exercise, won't do physical therapy because of Covid, and won't do in-home caregiving because she's scared of her things getting stolen. If my parents were 10 years younger when I was born, I wouldn't be in this mess right now. I shouldn't be stuck at home caregiving at 28 years old. My mom's 69 btw.
@@finchborat that's way too young my friend and I am sorry. All I can say is look out for yourself first before it is too late like me and my wife's case. You're probably pretty tired of hearing from others that your doing a good thing and it will be ok. Only thing is those people don't live it 24/7, they have their own life,own house and get to live their own life.
@@CAPEjkg I'm mainly tired of being told I'm a good man/son. This is really mean, but I almost want to say I don't want to be a good son anymore. I don't want her to fend for herself, but both me and my mom want our lives back.
I do appreciate those who say it will be okay. Without God, I would likely be dead right now.
@Stephanie Stevens I understand completely. I was born to older parents and that alone is why I'm in this mess. Me and my mom want our lives back. I will NOT miss caregiving.
My circumstances are why I tell people not to wait until 40 to have kids.