What Is A Mikvah?

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  • Опубліковано 6 сер 2012
  • JewintheCity.com and MikvahCalendar.com answer: What's a mikvah? Who goes to it & why? (click "more" for rest of credits)
    Director of Photography: Elie Gabor elie@eliecreative.com
    co-special effects by Elie Gabor and Jack Kamhaji craftv.com
    clothes by Junees.com
    stylist Sharon Langert fashion-isha.com
    makeup: Jenna Hanley jennahanley.com and Bleema Weinstein / bleemasheadquarters
    music by: Shalsheles "Esah Einai"
    wig stylist Suzannah Luchins nechama31@gmail.com
    production assistants: David Khabinsky, Lisa Dolan, Annie Dolan
    Thank you to the Teaneck Mikvah for allowing us to film there!

КОМЕНТАРІ • 173

  • @yippee8570
    @yippee8570 4 роки тому +4

    I love the idea of the Mikvah. It's like a physical and spiritual spa day. Beautiful.

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  11 років тому +11

    We mentioned in the script itself that there's no makeup 7 we filmed hands without polish. But my face was already made up for filming & it's not like I was ACTUALLY preparing for a dunk! We got to that scene & I was thinking about the emotion on my face, concentrating on the blessing, but no one (at the time) thought of taking my makeup off. But, thank God, of all the things to go wrong, it's pretty minor IMO and we're very happy with how the video came out overall! :)

  • @hannahrozenberg3411
    @hannahrozenberg3411 4 роки тому +8

    My mom went to a Mikvah before she married my father, and when she was trying to conceive. I plan to do the same thing. Most people in my community usually go to the Pacific Ocean for their Mikvah because they are converting. It’s very beautiful and can’t wait to fulfill this deed.

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  10 років тому +11

    yes, but there is nothing like getting to reunite with the one you love after you've been forced to be apart. it's pretty incredible!

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  12 років тому +9

    There was only so much I could include in vid, but I wish I had also said that 1 of the most important mitzvos a person can do is mais mitzva- burying a dead person-b/c she can never repay u. But any1 who touches a dead person also has a lowered state of holiness. It's an effect of coming into contact with a void of life. I don't see it as a negative-I see it as a certain reality of the cyclical nature of a woman. The moon waxes and wanes-is that a negative? Going down allows a chance to go up.

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  11 років тому +3

    It's a great question! The community fund raises to get it built usually. And annual fund raisers are usually held after its built, in order to keep it running. And then there is a fee to use it, just like synagogues have fees for membership. The range is (depending on the country and mikvah) is usually between $5-$20 per visit. HOWEVER, for anyone who couldn't afford this, they wouldn't be turned away.

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  12 років тому +10

    My pleasure! Look-I wasn't raised Orthodox & I was convinced that women were 2nd class citizens before I became religious, but my experiences overall in the community in over 15 yrs have been so positive & I've seen so much respect for women. I've met a couple jerks along the way-but those are jerky pple, not the religion. And going on my 12th anniversary, I can tell you, the power of the mikvah rhythm makes a husband (in most cases) long for his wife and her for him. It's truly incredible.

    • @sima8787
      @sima8787 4 роки тому +2

      Ty for this beautiful video.

  • @Jenniferhos
    @Jenniferhos 10 років тому +23

    I love your videos!!! They are so educational. I am a huge fan!!

  • @cathe196
    @cathe196 11 років тому +4

    I kind of wish I could do this. It sounds like a very pretty ceremony.

  • @danny___928
    @danny___928 4 роки тому +9

    why don’t you make more vids like this??? they’re so informative, fun, and highlight the beauty of the customs and traditions of Judaism

    • @jewinthecity
      @jewinthecity  4 роки тому +2

      We have a bunch more. Look at our myths and misconceptions section.

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  11 років тому +10

    This is the the Teaneck, NJ mikvah, but there are SO many beautiful mikvahs around the world these days.

  • @HaFannyHa
    @HaFannyHa 9 років тому +12

    So beautifully explained!

  • @Br0mBoN3s
    @Br0mBoN3s 3 роки тому +1

    Wait I just found this channel and I AM OBSESSED!!!

  • @donnadejesu4445
    @donnadejesu4445 3 роки тому +1

    Wow...you answered so many questions I had but didn't know who to ask. Nice video and tastefully done.

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  12 років тому +4

    thanks! great question! the mikvah water covers the body up to the chest for most people and while we're saying the blessing/praying we wrap our arms around our waist to separate the lower half of the body from the upper half b/c you're right - nudity and prayer normally don't mix! but being surrounded by the water as you pray can feel as though you're being enveloped can be very spiritual if you think of yourself as naked and vulnerable and God's presence fully surrounded you

  • @hanbanbushbaby
    @hanbanbushbaby 12 років тому +1

    Thanks for clearing that up! Love these videos - both entertaining and educational!

  • @JustForFunST
    @JustForFunST 11 років тому +3

    I just found your channel by accident and I'm so glad I did, because your videos are so inspirational. I live in Brooklyn, and have been religious all my life, but your explanations of the different things we do as Jews make me appreciate the mitzvohs, as opposed to just doing them by rote. Your insight is a great example of the way the internet can by used in a positive way. I will definitely telling all my friends about this channel!!!

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  11 років тому +8

    actually, there's a rabbinic prohibition for unmarried women using the mikvah (other than in the case of converting).

  • @stellietex
    @stellietex 12 років тому +3

    I can definitely see that, and I can see the appeal of the mikvah, for sure! Thanks for the informative and well produced videos. I think you're doing a very important thing here. And I appreciate your approachability and willingness to engage in positive discussion as part of your outreach. Todah rabah!

  • @newyorkwigs8702
    @newyorkwigs8702 6 років тому +2

    Love your videos. I wish I had something like this that gives me hope and a fresh start . Please make more video. Can you educate us on what it means to keep kosher

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  12 років тому +1

    Thanks! This video and the last video had clothes sponsored by Junees. Sharon Langert of fashion-ishadotcom was the stylist. But I buy clothes in real life at all different places - just keep my eye out for long enough skirts/sleeves and grab them when I find them

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  11 років тому +1

    thanks! the outfit is from Junees - click "more" under the video description for a full list of credits.

  • @devocreations1
    @devocreations1 12 років тому

    Great job as usual!!! Keep them coming!! What a kiddush Ha-shem!

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  11 років тому +3

    Wow! Thanks so much! The truth is that my original intention in starting JITC was to show the non-Orthodox world about Orthodox Jews, but it's such a wonderful surprise that we're able to inspire the FFB crowd too! thanks for helping to spread the word!

  • @IndyRockStar76
    @IndyRockStar76 12 років тому +3

    that is such a beautiful life. Great Job on the show! G-d Bless!

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  12 років тому +1

    her the difference in genders was a big issue. She had been part of a world which said that no differences were inherent but were instead societal constructs. She didn't think either side could ever be proven 100% one way or another, but the Jewish learning and observing she was doing was so meaningful, she decided she'd accept the gender role model and she's been living very happily as an Orthodox Jewish woman ever since then. For me the difference have always been obvious-of course there are
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  • @kc-wr1ui
    @kc-wr1ui 3 роки тому +2

    I was so nervous about going to the Mikvah as an Orthodox Jew it is essential to go thanks

  • @HansLiao
    @HansLiao 11 років тому

    Thanks for the profound explanation, and for sharing.

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  12 років тому +1

    These are great questions! A man is required by Jewish law to marry - a woman is not, but once a woman marries, she (like a man) is obligated to have children. Homsexuality is a whole different discussion - it's an important one - but there's no room for a proper answer here. But you did hit something on the head - Judaism believes that men & women are different. My sister, who was far more into feminism in the academic sense (she minored in it) than I ever was, also became religious & for (cont

  • @TheCavale40
    @TheCavale40 10 років тому +1

    i luv this. used to live by the mikvah nr leicester road, mancs. x.

  • @rivchick05
    @rivchick05 12 років тому

    Pretty cute and educational video. Thanks for posting.

  • @stellietex
    @stellietex 12 років тому +1

    Thanks for the thoughtful and friendly response.
    But, honestly, you don't see anything problematic with the idea that a non-pregnant woman is in a "lowered state of holiness"? Does this mean that a man is *always* in a lower state of holiness, compared to an ovulating woman? Or that a postmenopausal woman is less holy than a younger woman, or an infertile woman less holy than a fertile one? Etc., etc.
    I think it's a bit reductive, defining women's holiness by their reproductive capacity.

  • @stellietex
    @stellietex 12 років тому +1

    Once again, I appreciate this beautiful response. Even though my meaning is different, I really respect you and admire your work. Thanks for engaging in earnest. It's been a real pleasure. Can't wait to see the next video, too.

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  11 років тому +1

    Good question! We didn't think of it at the time! These videos are tons and tons and work and we try to get everything as perfect as possible in them, but that was, unfortunately, an oversight.

  • @alisonboston4132
    @alisonboston4132 10 років тому +1

    Thanks that was really helpful,

  • @usamuun
    @usamuun 12 років тому +1

    I love this series, but I always want more more more... Does anyone have another informative series that they'd recommend?

  • @elianetje
    @elianetje 11 років тому +2

    I absolutely love your videos!!
    I have a question: I'm sefardic, not engaged or even dating, but will I be aloud to wear a sheitel once iy"h I get married?
    Thanks!!

  • @MsJuliet1991
    @MsJuliet1991 11 років тому +1

    I am a Catholic who is studying Religions in College vary closely. I am focusing on my own Catholic Faith and it's relation to the Jewish Faith. I have a informative speech coming up, on Jewish life. XD and I am SO glad I found you!

  • @JRock1900
    @JRock1900 4 роки тому

    These "OLD" Jew in the city videos were awesome, it's a shame that you stopped them.

    • @jewinthecity
      @jewinthecity  4 роки тому +1

      We did the hair covering one a year ago. We’re not filming anything now. But we have more plans to whenever coronavirus lets up.

  • @cieloazul29
    @cieloazul29 12 років тому

    Love it~

  • @BornInTzyon
    @BornInTzyon 12 років тому

    Beautiful video...and beautiful mikvah! btw...where do you shop? You always have the most stylish tznius clothing! Where in particular do you purchase your shirts?

  • @inessa255
    @inessa255 9 років тому

    What a beautiful mikvah! Where is this located

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  12 років тому +1

    You have a right to these questions and opinions. I guess I don't see Judaism as just another "old fashioned religious system," I see something so unique about our history, everything we've been through- a need to keep it going for my kids. My goal here isn't to tell anyone else what to believe or how to live, it's to show what it means to me and if anyone wants to learn more for herself, help her get the tools to do it. I can't make my meaning someone elses only talk about what this does 4 me.

  • @ruchiccio
    @ruchiccio 11 років тому +1

    :) I only thought of it because that's like the biggest part of preparation!

  • @thewonderingjew
    @thewonderingjew 12 років тому +1

    Amazing job in explaining a ritual that is unfortunately viewed as repressive. Your videos provide much needed illumination to areas of our heritage that are misunderstood in today's society. If I had made my video on circumcision as awesome as yours I probably would not have had as many negative comments.

  • @TheRealCizzle
    @TheRealCizzle 12 років тому

    Yes, Mazel tov & Congratulations!

  • @TheRealCizzle
    @TheRealCizzle 12 років тому

    I agree! That turquoise and white number caught my attention the moment it hit the screen! Awesome outfit! I would buy that for my gf, for sure! Blessings to your stylist. They are doing an amazing job. #my2cents

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  12 років тому +1

    Mazel tov!! No need to be nervous. And after you say your bracha, make sure to always take time for personal prayer. Don't worry - the mikvah lady will wait for you! Make sure to take advantage of the auspiciousness of the moment!

  • @smadeintheshade
    @smadeintheshade 12 років тому

    Your best video yet! Thank you for sharing! For those wanting to read more on the subject.... "The Jewish Way in Love and Marriage" by Maurice Lamm, 1980, pp. 191-194.

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  11 років тому +1

    Couples who observe this commandment actually have two beds which they push together and separate depending on the time of the month. This commandment only applies to married women.

  • @TheRealCizzle
    @TheRealCizzle 12 років тому +3

    Thank you JITC!! I LOVE your mission of bringing us these Jewish keys. I'm always left SOO enlightened. I recommend you to my Christian friends for elucidation on many things we take for granted in our faith: the roots of our faith. :) Please, DON'T STOP! :)

  • @LMotola
    @LMotola 12 років тому

    Hey that is me at 4:29! Video is great, keep 'em coming.......

  • @pink25poppies1
    @pink25poppies1 11 років тому

    where on earth is this mikvah?! i've been going for many a year, and have never seen one this nice. what am i missing?!

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  12 років тому

    Teaneck, NJ. someone's gotta build them like that, then!!

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  10 років тому +1

    it's one at a time, very private and discrete.

  • @dmwdevil
    @dmwdevil 12 років тому

    So that's the new Teaneck Mikva! I haven't been there in almost a decade (before the new building) and even then, it was only for the men's hours on Erev Rosh Hashana and Erev Yom Kippur. Women's Mikvaos are getting more and more posh.

  • @geekgroupie42
    @geekgroupie42 11 років тому

    Good luck on your speech!

  • @bahiyaanur9097
    @bahiyaanur9097 10 років тому

    I learned something new today.

  • @Bouncedontbreak
    @Bouncedontbreak 12 років тому

    As a non-Jew, I've always been fascinated by this special women/God-only time. I think anyone of any faith would do well to include rituals that speak to humility, connection and new-beginnings. Loved this!

  • @VictorLepanto
    @VictorLepanto 11 років тому

    I think this is now my favorite video, b/c I learned something new & interesting w/ it. So, the woman emerging from the mikva waters is like the primordial Earth emerging from the primordial waters? Thus she becomes symbolically like Mother Earth, ready (in potentia, in theory) to receive new life. It is a very beautiful image.
    Now the primordial waters were gathered into seas, so would ocean water qualify for a mikva? My veggie garden wouldn't think it "living waters, but the fish like it.

  • @hanbanbushbaby
    @hanbanbushbaby 12 років тому

    also - I love your stylish and modest clothing.

  • @vampoftrance
    @vampoftrance 3 роки тому

    Thank you for your videos! I'm glad I found your channel. After my trip to Israel I wrote an album about spiritual New Age Judaism. The CD sold over 500,000 copies in French and Hebrew. While I don't identify as religious any longer I also enjoy the celebration of life daily. Washing my hands and other rituals.

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  12 років тому +3

    exceptions-boys that are naturally more feminine, girls that are naturally more masculine, people who are born with same sex attraction. I see all these things as tests. Tests 4 the person experiencing it-tests 4 us 2 B compassionate. I was born into a very happy secular life but realized at 8 that nothing lasts & that my life had no purpose. When I discovered religious Judaism, I saw the purpose of living was not about happiness alone but living for a greater purpose, even when it's a struggle.

  • @AngelaMaria-io2nd
    @AngelaMaria-io2nd 5 років тому +1

    Exellent tank you

  • @elianetje
    @elianetje 11 років тому

    Yeah, I will of course do that, but I just questioned myself if you had an idea about that, or if you know any sefardic women that wear sheitels?
    (Btw I adore your sheitel...!)

  • @erldagerl9826
    @erldagerl9826 12 років тому

    our mikveh in Baltimore is like a spa, too.

  • @elizabethpowers7706
    @elizabethpowers7706 9 років тому

    Wow....so much to know...

  • @dc003864
    @dc003864 10 років тому

    Outstanding ( and quite laxurious lol ) glimpse into the Hasidic world . Beautiful :-)

    • @jewinthecity
      @jewinthecity  10 років тому +1

      thanks! but for the record we're not Hasidic. Hasidim are a type of Orthodox. we're a different type.

    • @dc003864
      @dc003864 10 років тому +1

      Please forgive my ignorance. Which school of Judaism are you following ? I asumed Hassid because of the sheitel :-) Hachem bless you . Mizrahi women usually cover with a scraff now am little confused lol

    • @jewinthecity
      @jewinthecity  10 років тому +4

      dc003864 many non-Hasidic women wear wigs. i wear lots of different head covering depending on what looks best with my outfit that day! i'd call myself centrist or right wing Modern Orthodox

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  11 років тому

    Thanks and I do know Sephardic women who wear sheitels. There's a pretty well known Sephardic sheitel macher in Flatbush who's married to a rabbi and wears a sheitel.

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  12 років тому

    Thanks! U're right that Hasidic is a type of Orthodox Judaism-I was inferring something into the question (which the commenter may or may not have been asking) and that is "is there a difference between Hasidic and non-Hasidic Orthodox Jews?" I don't actually know if s/he meant that
    There are differences when it comes to mikvah - there are some groups that have a different way the mikvah is structured, a different number of dunks, and different prep that's required, but we're all Orthodox Jews.

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  10 років тому

    the attendant is very modest. she holds your robe up over her head while it's off of you and doesn't look until you're covered by the water. once you're done and walking out, same thing, robe held up high, total privacy. it's supposed to be a modest experience but someone does need to insure that you dunked completely.

  • @chanakornfeld7575
    @chanakornfeld7575 9 років тому

    Where is this mikvah? It looks amazing and nothing like the one where I live.

    • @batya7
      @batya7 8 років тому

      +Chana Kornfeld Teaneck, New Jersey

  • @Dessybaby1233
    @Dessybaby1233 12 років тому +1

    Ahhh!!! Your sheitel is so pretty!! Aside from that, amazing video! You make your fellow orthodox Jews proud (:

  • @stars1836
    @stars1836 12 років тому

    Looking forward to that spiritual experience of renewal

  • @1Immortalmortal
    @1Immortalmortal 7 місяців тому

    So how did the plandememic affect the entire issue? Were Mikvas not done for two years?

    • @jewinthecity
      @jewinthecity  6 місяців тому

      They were done with social distancing, with people self-reporting if they had been exposed or had symptoms. Similar protocol to going to a doctor.

  • @xKaramela
    @xKaramela 11 років тому +1

    So from what I understand, Mikvah's are only for married women? A non-married woman would not need to perform a Mikvah?

  • @julielynn86
    @julielynn86 5 років тому

    This is absolutely fascinating!!!! I would love to do this but I am not Jewish. :-( I see incredible (profound) similarities/links/meanings between this practice and practices of my faith. It actually chokes me up. God is absolutely awesome. I just subscribed to your channel. Love it. LOVE it. :-)

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  11 років тому

    This is a complext topic! Orthodox Jews are broken up into more than just Hasidic & non-Hasidic (also known as misnagdim). Hasidus was founded as a way to connect its followers to God thru joy, prayer, & song as opposed to a focus on Torah learning. Nowadays, Hasidim do plenty of learning, but there are still more into the mystical elements of Judaism as opposed to the more rational ones. Hasidim also have a special relationship with their "rebbe" and have many diff customs than non-Hasidim.

  • @MareRS357
    @MareRS357 Рік тому

    Was there a problem during Covid?

  • @zigmanferdinand
    @zigmanferdinand 12 років тому +1

    I am not jewish, but I love Jew in the city! It is an amazing resource of education!

  • @chodeshadar18
    @chodeshadar18 11 років тому

    Haha! Cute Bernadette impression!

  • @stellietex
    @stellietex 12 років тому +2

    Where do lesbian women, infertile women, and women who simply do not want children fit into this world? I can just about see your point about religious Judaism valuing women as a form of feminism, but it seems the entire value rests on rigid gender roles. That's just not something most of us want to buy into, having finally gotten a taste of liberation after 100,000 years of patriarchy, with its involuntary marriage and motherhood.

  • @fashionishaa
    @fashionishaa 12 років тому +1

    It's truly sad that in such a spiritual place the Mikvas in Israel are not as nice as they are here. When I was there for a month one summer with my family I tried two Mikvas highly recommended in Jerusalem and they were both really poorly maintained and well, kinda icky. Israeli people, collect some money and build some beautiful mikvas!!

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  12 років тому

    it's totally not a physical cleansing - you need to be clean before you immerse in the mikvah, but the point is not for the pre-clean you do ahead of time, it's about the power of the water coming directly from the sky (with no interruption) that gives the mikvah water a special spiritual power. but yes, preparation can be done at home.
    You'll need to go into a mikvah when you convert - the rabbis will explain what to do then!

  • @scooterlovya
    @scooterlovya 4 роки тому

    Also, how long does it takes?

    • @jewinthecity
      @jewinthecity  4 роки тому

      Between 25 min - 45 min depending on if you come fully prepared or not.

  • @IntuitiveHeartHealer
    @IntuitiveHeartHealer 11 років тому +1

    Okay, I think you just answered my question -- so the attendant stays in the room with you the whole time? Don't you want some privacy?

  • @sarabasedis
    @sarabasedis 11 років тому +1

    Why is the woman in the beginning of the video ( asking what a mikveh is ) sound like Snow White in the seven Dwarfs?

  • @MyNameIsFred315
    @MyNameIsFred315 11 років тому

    I LOVE that outfit! Where do you get your amazing clothes?!?

  • @lasephardita
    @lasephardita Рік тому

    I have the feeling that this isn't like my grandmother's mikvah. I would like to add that my husband went into the Arizal Mikvah (men do it too!) when we were in Sfat and he complained that it was frigid!

  • @christophersmith1155
    @christophersmith1155 3 роки тому

    BIG BANG THEORY . THAT IS BERNADET FROM BIG BANG THEORY PERFECT.

  • @ruchiccio
    @ruchiccio 11 років тому

    How come the lady is wearing makeup while saying the bracha?

  • @charbar291
    @charbar291 12 років тому

    on a sidenote...great eyebrows!

  • @AllBrightColors
    @AllBrightColors 3 роки тому

    Bernadette from Pasadena! 😂😂😂

  • @angman2090
    @angman2090 2 роки тому

    How much would this cost every month?

    • @jewinthecity
      @jewinthecity  2 роки тому +2

      Depends on the location. Fancier ones might be $20 but they never turn anyone away who can’t afford it.

  • @charlielincoln1622
    @charlielincoln1622 11 років тому

    I have a strange and somewhat tacky question. Does going to the mikvah cost money? Who pays for this luxurious mikvah? It really is beautiful!

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  11 років тому

    just for fun! if you want The Big Bang Theory, the blond character, Bernadette, kind of talks like that. just a way to change up the character a bit.

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  11 років тому +1

    not all mikvahs are this nice! there are many simple ones. mikvah at its most basic level is about rebirth, being enveloped completely as you consider God's presence totally surrounding you - not to mention the impact it has on one's marital life. mikvah can be a deeply moving experience - it is NOT simply a trip to a spa!

  • @zehzahl5988
    @zehzahl5988 3 роки тому

    2:21... "but no one ever talks about who she sought the mikvah the night of the immersion..." "Who she sought the mikvah"?? Perhaps I'm not hearing correctly, but I don't understand that part of the sentence grammatically. Are you saying no one talks about why they're there? The "who" is also throwing me off... isn't this just for married Jewish women in relation to their husbands? I don't understand. What exactly are they keeping discreet?

    • @jewinthecity
      @jewinthecity  Рік тому

      Who she “saw.” We are discreet about who we see there.

  • @acmegocool
    @acmegocool 10 років тому

    Is the Mikvah free or does it cost money to attend?

    • @jewinthecity
      @jewinthecity  10 років тому +6

      it costs money for upkeep (in Israel I paid $5, in the NY area more like $15-$18) but if a person doesn't have money for it, they can go anyway

    • @Astynax27432
      @Astynax27432 9 років тому

      Jew in the City
      Is it supported by temples? How can they stay operating for those costs?

    • @jewinthecity
      @jewinthecity  9 років тому +4

      Philo Sophia the communities support them. if a community only has money for a mikvah or a synagogue, a mikvah comes first.

  • @jewinthecity
    @jewinthecity  12 років тому

    Sure! I'm a thoughtful and friendly gal! ;) So a post-menopausal woman who has dunked in a mikvah remains in the higher state indefinitely. A non-pregnant woman has the higher status after she dunks. I see the differences between men & women to be a positive thing - I embrace the stuff that makes me uniquely womanly. I think it's an amazing opportunity we get to have renewal each month - that there's a Jewish law that is so connected to our rhythm.