A Personal Inquiry into Sex, Zen, & Ethics

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  • Опубліковано 18 січ 2025

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  • @diegogmejuto
    @diegogmejuto 5 місяців тому +6

    Thank you for your honest, funny and nuanced teachings. I very much value your transparency, and I'm sure others too!

  • @cameronchertavian1039
    @cameronchertavian1039 6 місяців тому +5

    Thanks so much for this video!! As a young person who is serious about my practice but also single and dating… it often feels like I’m making it up as I go along. I really appreciate your insight.

    • @zenconfidential25
      @zenconfidential25  6 місяців тому

      You're so welcome! hope that dating goes well. keep me posted!!

  • @tinadeemc8728
    @tinadeemc8728 5 місяців тому +5

    Such a timely video 😂 Here in Ontario, Canada we are about to have a holiday weekend. My husband and I have made this weekend our annual long weekend without the kids, to be loud and adventurous. So he is at this very moment in an adult store, stocking up on supplies hahaha. I need to steal that background music you have. Bow chicka wow wow.

  • @jesseneal5909
    @jesseneal5909 5 місяців тому +2

    Killing me with that zucchini, man! Had me laughing out loud
    Humorous and helpful video. Thank you

  • @urbanslamal4900
    @urbanslamal4900 5 місяців тому +3

    Loved that video! It's always so enjoyable to watch your stuff. The deep humaneness in all of it is a steady reminder that they way is not finalized with the 8th oxherding picture. Lovely 🙏🏼♥️

  • @WaterReflection
    @WaterReflection 6 місяців тому +2

    Thanks, Man. I find your advice on being "on the edge of desire" really helpful and applicable. Keep up the good work!

  • @dr.jeffreyzacko-smith324
    @dr.jeffreyzacko-smith324 5 місяців тому +2

    You crazy! But I loves it! Fun video with a lot to think about (and that I relate to)!

  • @chrisb9832
    @chrisb9832 5 місяців тому +1

    I was wondering how that all worked, Very educational! I'm still a little concerned about what that horse whinny was all about dude 🤨🤔

  • @SusanM0619
    @SusanM0619 5 місяців тому +1

    Omg, you’re so relatable and adorable!

  • @SilA108ks
    @SilA108ks 5 місяців тому +1

    Oh ! The samsaric ups and downs of cravings to which there is no satisfactory end. I do think Buddhism is a philosophy of restraint and mindfulness, irrespective of the tradition. Very insightful, humorous and philosophically sophisticated. I personally could never read Deleuze, he’s harder for me than Dogen lol. Out of the westerners I’ll die with the desire-negating grouchy Schopenhauer by my side.

    • @zenconfidential25
      @zenconfidential25  5 місяців тому +1

      Yeah between the two imma take me some Dogen!!

    • @SilA108ks
      @SilA108ks 5 місяців тому

      ⁠​⁠@@zenconfidential25 100%

  • @SpiderMan-od3kr
    @SpiderMan-od3kr 5 місяців тому

    Great video!

  • @ninasnow9055
    @ninasnow9055 6 місяців тому +1

    thanks for your honesty and humor! Nice undies :) haha!

  • @mantas9827
    @mantas9827 5 місяців тому +1

    'Welcome to another edition of TMI !'

  • @HardcoreZen
    @HardcoreZen 5 місяців тому +2

    You oughta write a book!

    • @zenconfidential25
      @zenconfidential25  5 місяців тому +4

      Tell me about it! The Joy of Zen Sex (subtitle: the art of the dharma bone)

  • @TYPHON2713
    @TYPHON2713 5 місяців тому

    Did you and Brad do a joint interview with Guru Viking?

    • @zenconfidential25
      @zenconfidential25  5 місяців тому +1

      We did! Not sure when it'll be posted tho.

    • @TYPHON2713
      @TYPHON2713 5 місяців тому

      @@zenconfidential25 awesome! It's my birthday and the only present I got was "single white monk"

    • @zenconfidential25
      @zenconfidential25  5 місяців тому +1

      Oh man that's great, I hope it doesn't make you barf up your bday cake!! ;)

  • @EricJohnson-c4z
    @EricJohnson-c4z 5 місяців тому +1

    I don't know. It seems like sex in general is a drain on vital energies. It seems to take about two weeks to fully recover vitality after sexual activity.
    I think there is something to be said about abstaining from sex to maintain one's vital energies.
    This I think is mostly applicable to males.

    • @zenconfidential25
      @zenconfidential25  5 місяців тому

      You might be right, a lot of theories and practices come down on this side.

    • @WaterReflection
      @WaterReflection 5 місяців тому

      When complete celibacy isn't an option, reduction (as Mr. Haubner points out) might be a good start.

    • @EricJohnson-c4z
      @EricJohnson-c4z 5 місяців тому

      Might not be the best thing for relationships though.

    • @zenconfidential25
      @zenconfidential25  5 місяців тому

      Truth.

  • @AlexTuzzolino-b4o
    @AlexTuzzolino-b4o 5 місяців тому +1

    The sexual is a door to the spiritual because the are. 🧠
    the same energy
    same thing

    • @zenconfidential25
      @zenconfidential25  5 місяців тому +1

      !! I'm in.

    • @jerryalder2878
      @jerryalder2878 5 місяців тому +1

      The kind of line used to entice a gullible student into the 'inner sanctum' of the master where all will be revealed. Many years ago I figured friends seeking random casual sex on Grindr (or whatever) had more honesty about their intentions than assorted 'high Lamas' on big thrones.

  • @johngrunhard9939
    @johngrunhard9939 5 місяців тому

    I know you have talked about your teacher and sex scandal before.But I wondered if he wasn’t “Japanese highly enlightened being” if he would of gotten away with sex with students. What if he was a therapist and did what he did to students to clients They would of lost there license and if it went on for decades there could of been criminal charges.

    • @jerryalder2878
      @jerryalder2878 5 місяців тому +1

      Since the Tibetan Buddhist traditions arrived in the West there has been an ever growing list of prominent teachers who have groomed and abused students. Little or not action has been taken whilst appalling behaviour is often justified by drawing on teachings about 'Guru devotion', 'pure vision' and 'emptiness'.

  • @guido3771
    @guido3771 5 місяців тому

    You probably just had the same kind of phantasies as your teacher during zazen.
    I don't share this feeling, the male gaze doesn't often find what he likes. Probably 0.1 percent of women are interesting as a partner, at closer look. Sexually perhaps 2 percent.