👉 Watch my other videos: What is it like to live in a small town in The Netherlands (Eindhoven): ua-cam.com/video/n4HZDDUnJkQ/v-deo.html Feeling lonely abroad: ua-cam.com/video/hiFaFcUCMy8/v-deo.html How to deal with Dutch directness: ua-cam.com/video/598AbHwkCcY/v-deo.html
I think you advice is good for anyone who moves outside of their living environment. Even moving to another city, no matter how close, creates the same challenges. With a language barrier on top and a bigger culture change, I can imagine it to be even harder. I've seen many people burying themselves in their work, but that usually doesn't work in the long run, and creates its own problems.
Thank you for watching the video! I agree with you - overworking feels to me like an avoidance mechanism. It's also a socially accepted mechanism. If one drinks, they get judged but if one works for most of it, people praise it. In any case, everyone copes as they can but it's good to be aware of it and know that there are other ways, for example. building your social circle. ;)
As I already said on the short ....You can always come for coffee at my place, if you want to speak English because Dutch is still a bit hard for you, you can speak English, I don't mind etc etc. People need to have way more empathy, comprehension and compassion with each other ... I don't know if it's different for older people but I don't have friends beside my partner. I always have the feeling that "I don't fit in", so ... I just don't care anymore, it's lonely but still, it's better then always have the feeling that you don't fit in.
Nice video again! Number 4 that I want to add in your list, a great way to meet people, also for dutch people moving to different cities: Get a hobby and join a community! Instead of going to the gym, consider the group lessons. Join a running group. Join a basketball/football club. Join an orchestra. Start salsa dancing. Join with community or volunteering groups inside your city. This is the way to get more acquinteces! Then from that, you can start doing other things together. Dutch people often are surrounded by acquenteces which they do activities with on a regular base. Take initiative. This can lead to friendship eventually. And learn Dutch! It does not need to be perfect, but people would appreciate the efforts. In the end it takes more effort from dutchies to talk English instead of Dutch. Oh, and Dutch people tend not to get too close with colleagues. This is not personal, it’s about dividing work/life strictly. Other colleagues also might fell ignored, or it might disturbe the work in other ways, when you in the end don’t get along too well. As a Dutch person working in Eindhoven this comment might be biased ;)
Thank you so much for watching and for your support! Good points 👍 I especially second the one about learning Dutch. The Dutch get ecstatic if a foreigner says anything in Dutch, even if it's something as silly as 'Hoi, I heet Tania." 😅
Living abroad myself for a long time but not in a country that is part of a union (here the European Union), I see myself not willing to connect much because it hurts, people leave. Even local people go abroad because they were open to foreigners and one day they meet someone and leave with that person. Most friends lives abroad’s for a decade or more. Anyway, I’m happy I got my airplane tickets to the Netherlands. I coming mid September to visit (maybe more). I’ll go to Eindhoven for sure, no exact day yet, if there’s a chance to meet, I’ll plan my trip accordingly.
Thank you for watching and sharing your point of view! I can totally imagine that it might be hard to open up and get closer to people, especially if one has already experienced the disappointment and pain of having to say good bye. Sounds like you have a fun trip ahead of you! Let's see if we can make it happen :) Are we connected on Instagram? Text me there so we can plan something: instagram.com/theselfishcodependent/
I really hope countries such as the Netherlands and Germany become easier for immigrants to be welcomed into their community. Even the natives have trouble when they move to a different city or region. I've always wondered if that's ever been addressed. Maybe if more effort was put to bridge the gap between the two, there might be less loneliness.
Thank you for watching the video! I also noticed that the same happens with the Dutch if they move to a different city. They either make friends with foreigners or still stick with their group of friends and go back every weekend, which can be tiring.
👉 Watch my other videos:
What is it like to live in a small town in The Netherlands (Eindhoven): ua-cam.com/video/n4HZDDUnJkQ/v-deo.html
Feeling lonely abroad: ua-cam.com/video/hiFaFcUCMy8/v-deo.html
How to deal with Dutch directness: ua-cam.com/video/598AbHwkCcY/v-deo.html
I think you advice is good for anyone who moves outside of their living environment. Even moving to another city, no matter how close, creates the same challenges. With a language barrier on top and a bigger culture change, I can imagine it to be even harder. I've seen many people burying themselves in their work, but that usually doesn't work in the long run, and creates its own problems.
Thank you for watching the video! I agree with you - overworking feels to me like an avoidance mechanism. It's also a socially accepted mechanism. If one drinks, they get judged but if one works for most of it, people praise it. In any case, everyone copes as they can but it's good to be aware of it and know that there are other ways, for example. building your social circle. ;)
As I already said on the short ....You can always come for coffee at my place, if you want to speak English because Dutch is still a bit hard for you, you can speak English, I don't mind etc etc.
People need to have way more empathy, comprehension and compassion with each other ...
I don't know if it's different for older people but I don't have friends beside my partner. I always have the feeling that "I don't fit in", so ... I just don't care anymore, it's lonely but still, it's better then always have the feeling that you don't fit in.
This is such a kind and sweet comment! Thank you. 💚
Nice video again!
Number 4 that I want to add in your list, a great way to meet people, also for dutch people moving to different cities:
Get a hobby and join a community! Instead of going to the gym, consider the group lessons. Join a running group. Join a basketball/football club. Join an orchestra. Start salsa dancing. Join with community or volunteering groups inside your city. This is the way to get more acquinteces!
Then from that, you can start doing other things together. Dutch people often are surrounded by acquenteces which they do activities with on a regular base. Take initiative. This can lead to friendship eventually.
And learn Dutch! It does not need to be perfect, but people would appreciate the efforts. In the end it takes more effort from dutchies to talk English instead of Dutch.
Oh, and Dutch people tend not to get too close with colleagues. This is not personal, it’s about dividing work/life strictly. Other colleagues also might fell ignored, or it might disturbe the work in other ways, when you in the end don’t get along too well.
As a Dutch person working in Eindhoven this comment might be biased ;)
Thank you so much for watching and for your support! Good points 👍 I especially second the one about learning Dutch. The Dutch get ecstatic if a foreigner says anything in Dutch, even if it's something as silly as 'Hoi, I heet Tania." 😅
Living abroad myself for a long time but not in a country that is part of a union (here the European Union), I see myself not willing to connect much because it hurts, people leave. Even local people go abroad because they were open to foreigners and one day they meet someone and leave with that person.
Most friends lives abroad’s for a decade or more.
Anyway, I’m happy I got my airplane tickets to the Netherlands. I coming mid September to visit (maybe more). I’ll go to Eindhoven for sure, no exact day yet, if there’s a chance to meet, I’ll plan my trip accordingly.
Thank you for watching and sharing your point of view! I can totally imagine that it might be hard to open up and get closer to people, especially if one has already experienced the disappointment and pain of having to say good bye.
Sounds like you have a fun trip ahead of you! Let's see if we can make it happen :) Are we connected on Instagram? Text me there so we can plan something: instagram.com/theselfishcodependent/
I really hope countries such as the Netherlands and Germany become easier for immigrants to be welcomed into their community. Even the natives have trouble when they move to a different city or region. I've always wondered if that's ever been addressed. Maybe if more effort was put to bridge the gap between the two, there might be less loneliness.
Thank you for watching the video! I also noticed that the same happens with the Dutch if they move to a different city. They either make friends with foreigners or still stick with their group of friends and go back every weekend, which can be tiring.