"If you continue to expect somebody to give you something you haven't asked for...it's not going to turn out well" This statement is powerful. Why is it sooo hard for us to ask for what we want?
@@firstladyqueen5985 umm no if you ask and they withhold then you have a choice to leave or not cause they are clearly telling you no. That’s not on them it’s on you
Iyanla, I loved the luggage carousel analogy. It really brought the topic of baggage home for me. Thank you for always keeping it 💯. You don't give anyone a pass. As you say, we have to do the work to get better.
I love that horse analogy! Dead on! If one person complained about your issue, if a another person (unrelated to first person) complained about the same issue, and a third person (also unrelated) complained about the same issue, then boo...it's you. So take a long look inward. You got baggage, boo. Lmao😂😂🤣🤣🤣 Time to do the work.
This message is so important and I needed to hear it. I'm responsible for the baggage I've been carrying around. It's time for an elimination because these bags have my hands hurting from carrying them for so long. Elimination starts now! Thank You Iyanla. You're such an inspiration to me. I love you for that my beautiful sister!
"Bag lady you gone hurt you back, carrying all them bag like that..." that what song I hear, hearing you speak about baggage. See what we sometimes fail to realize is that hurt people hurt people and if we forgive them ,it doesn't mean that we condone or accept how they've treated us but we simply choose to let go and let go of our "Baggage " to be a better person.
Thank you so much for your teachings. I've been following you, and have been inspired immensely. Greetings from Morocco, Iyanla 😊 stay blessed & gorgeous ❤
If there's any single beautiful intelligence women in Morocco please let them know I'm single and want some to settle and enjoy the fruits of life with me
Thank you Iyanla for empowering us with your wisdom and understanding of our behavior and thoughts to better love ourselves and to love others. Understanding why we do what we do gave me sympathy for others in my life and you have given me tools how I can develop better relationship with others and myself. You are a beacon of light for all who would listen in this ever darkening world!!! I thank God for you!!!
I LOVE the way you unwrap topics one at a time and so simply. You walk us thru with stories and kindness, but also some fun! Always a prompt to action too. So glad I found you here on UA-cam :)
People jump into rebound relationships with a lot of baggage and that’s how they end up hurting the person they aRe with. We have to let go of the baggage so we can have peace.
Oh! I have liked all her hairstyles over the years but I like this one the best! She has DEFINITELY always looked good in my eyes but she is looking even better! I don't think that is wrong to say.
Iya! Modupe for your wisdom, your humor, and your gorgeousness! This upswept hairdo and fresh makeup is on POINT! You glow! Love and hugs to you and yours!
Monogram luggage.... Yup! That was me but my last horrible relationship showed me I had to unpack all of it and do a lot of healing. I was really broken but I did learn to clean it up. Being alone now for a year I have learned to value myself and see life differently.
Thank you for the work you do Queen!! You probably don't remember me but when I met you in person I honestly left feeling you were mean as hell. It wasn't until years later when you apologized to Oprah that I understood it was not personal at all & in fact you probably hadn't processed your pain from losing your child and if anything mine was just too much for you at the time.. thank you for being an open and honest inspiration. Love you to Life & beyond Sis! 💞
Iyanla you look even more Beautiful than you have always looked. Your like a very good bottle of 🍷 wine. You just get better with time inside and out!!! Love ❤️ you much! Great message. Thank you!!!!
Natasha waiting on closure or an apology is like raising your hand to go to the bathroom. You’re in control! Make peace my dear and move forward in your power! Give yourself permission, don’t wait on it! Blessings to you!
I wish I was more aware of the baggage I was carrying in 2015, so I didn’t loose that connection with that guy I wanted . I learned through the pain and look up deeper videos about this kinda stuff , that why I’m here today .
That hit me right in the face! But I'm confuse a bit, with what I've experience with people in general I've developed the bad habit to keep things inside. Now I started to voice out my feelings and what I think I deserve respect, I've been losing people left and right. So yeah I did relate with " if few people tells you the same thing you've got to look into It." I had a boyfriend of a friend tell me that how I wanted to have a relationship with my base being shit. I felt so hurt. I realised that's how my own friend felt about me. That's was their pillow talking about me. The only problem I had about them was the respect was not there.
I HAVE NO ISSUE WITH WHAT MY PARTNER DOES IF THEY HAVE RELATIONSHIPS OUTSIDE OF OUR RELATIONSHIP IF ITS DONE WITH DISCRETION. AND AWAY FROM MY PRESENCE I HAVE NO PROBLEM. BUT IF ITS PUT IN MY FACE I FEEL THERE'S NO NEED FOR ME TO BE WITH THAT PERSON BECAUSE TO ME THEY ARE BEING SELFISH AND DOES NOT CONSIDER MY FEELINGS. THAT MAKES A PERSON FEEL UNLOVE AND UNWANTED. TO ME IT'S TIME TO MOVE ON BECAUSE IT WILL ONLY CAUSE PAIN AND HEARTACHE IN THE END.TIME TO HEAL AND FIND HAPPINESS ELSEWHERE.
Not all the time! A lot of times with more and more narcissistic people in the world. They will project their flaws/follies on you! I have seen this many times!
So what u get in the relationship with someone and you’ve already expressed your desires wants needs and requirements and you’ve expressed to them the things that hurt you in the past. They all of a sudden start doing the exact things you asked not to do. Isn’t that them bringing your baggage back up that you got rid of?
i got 2 young ones and i want to be an example to them, i don't want to be one of those single moms (after a divorce) that brings men in and out of thier lives.....
I hear you loud and clear MS. Vanzant 🍸🌹🌹🍸🌹🌹🍸 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹 🍸🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🍸 🍸🍸🌹🌹🌹🍸🍸 🍸🍸🍸🌹🍸🍸🍸 🍸🍸🍸🌹🍸🍸🍸 🍸🎁😊❤☺🎁🍸 Thanks for that food for the Soul, mind and spirit.
have you ever had a women who just like to give men money to have a good time, have you ever had a man who have problem giving their partner money as specially when children come in to the picture, even with out children in the picture, you see some men and some women show some traits of infidelity, infidelity it changes the conversation a lot of people show these traits of weakness in front of their mates, i have face this problem before in my own relationship with people, i had some good experiences, some not so good ones, and some bad ones. it changes the way I see things now.
"If you continue to expect somebody to give you something you haven't asked for...it's not going to turn out well"
This statement is powerful. Why is it sooo hard for us to ask for what we want?
Gary Stallings My guess would be the fear of rejection or disappointments!
Gary Stallings because when most people ask someone for something the person withholds it viciously with no remorse and give you opposite.
@@firstladyqueen5985 umm no if you ask and they withhold then you have a choice to leave or not cause they are clearly telling you no. That’s not on them it’s on you
she looks younger and beautiful with her new hairstyle😉
mischievous mcqueen she looks younger period
Baggage only gets heavier the longer you carry it,lol.
Shout out to the make up artist... wow...
You look so fresh my sister. The glory shines thru you today❤
You're makeup it's on point!
Unpacking & growth is a daily quest.
Please do another video just about unpacking everyday baggage and trauma
Hair on fleek face on fleek!! You betta be fabulous Miss Iyanla !!
Bag laddyyy, you gone miss your bus
Ivy Wilks u Betta sang it lol
Thank Iyanla..for sharing your wisdom.
You're looking amazing...loving learning and living.
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Iyanla, I loved the luggage carousel analogy. It really brought the topic of baggage home for me. Thank you for always keeping it 💯. You don't give anyone a pass. As you say, we have to do the work to get better.
I love that horse analogy! Dead on! If one person complained about your issue, if a another person (unrelated to first person) complained about the same issue, and a third person (also unrelated) complained about the same issue, then boo...it's you.
So take a long look inward. You got baggage, boo. Lmao😂😂🤣🤣🤣 Time to do the work.
This message is so important and I needed to hear it. I'm responsible for the baggage I've been carrying around.
It's time for an elimination because these bags have my hands hurting from carrying them for so long.
Elimination starts now!
Thank You Iyanla. You're such an inspiration to me. I love you for that my beautiful sister!
"Bag lady you gone hurt you back, carrying all them bag like that..." that what song I hear, hearing you speak about baggage. See what we sometimes fail to realize is that hurt people hurt people and if we forgive them ,it doesn't mean that we condone or accept how they've treated us but we simply choose to let go and let go of our "Baggage " to be a better person.
You look great.. Keep this make up artist
I absolutely love the new intro and music. It's popping💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾
Thank you so much for your teachings. I've been following you, and have been inspired immensely. Greetings from Morocco, Iyanla 😊 stay blessed & gorgeous ❤
If there's any single beautiful intelligence women in Morocco please let them know I'm single and want some to settle and enjoy the fruits of life with me
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Thank you Iyanla for share your wisdom and love with us. Powerful advices that are helping me to clear my mind and soul. Thanks again, from Venezuela.
Thank you Iyanla for empowering us with your wisdom and understanding of our behavior and thoughts to better love ourselves and to love others. Understanding why we do what we do gave me sympathy for others in my life and you have given me tools how I can develop better relationship with others and myself. You are a beacon of light for all who would listen in this ever darkening world!!! I thank God for you!!!
You look gorgeous!!!!
Thank you Iyanla! That baggage can definitely get in the way!
I LOVE the way you unwrap topics one at a time and so simply. You walk us thru with stories and kindness, but also some fun! Always a prompt to action too. So glad I found you here on UA-cam :)
Thanks for this I appreciate you
People jump into rebound relationships with a lot of baggage and that’s how they end up hurting the person they aRe with. We have to let go of the baggage so we can have peace.
Baggage. I was in the final fix my life stage...I need healing. Iyanla is amazing.
Why can’t men see the baggage they have?’!?!🤷🏽♀️They seem to not take accountability for anything😒
Jernese hill exactly! I guess baggage only affects Every single woman but no man. Good grief!
@@firstladyqueen5985 not true...are you really listening...she said men and. Women
@@elizstew8815 oh never heard it.
I love your hair like this!!! This is the best your hair has ever looked! And of course more importantly your advice is on point! Thank you!
Lisa West nice comment but your wording came across a little rude/disrespectful/harsh
Really! Which part?
Lisa West it may come across like you are saying it never looked nice before .
Oh! I have liked all her hairstyles over the years but I like this one the best! She has DEFINITELY always looked good in my eyes but she is looking even better! I don't think that is wrong to say.
Lisa West Oh!sorry I misread/misunderstood sorry if I offended you.
This hit home...I really needed to hear this! !
Thank you for this beautiful video! It was exactly what I needed to hear this morning
Iya! Modupe for your wisdom, your humor, and your gorgeousness! This upswept hairdo and fresh makeup is on POINT! You glow! Love and hugs to you and yours!
Monogrammed luggage haaaaaay 😭😭😭😂😂😂
Love this!!! Thanks😉😉
Have you ever had a bagel? and: If 3 people say the same thing about you, you might have some hay hanging outcha mouth. Lol! I love you Auntie Iyanla!
Thank you, Your AWESOME!!
TRACEY W
Another amazing inspirational message thank you Ms Vanzant 😘
Monogram luggage....
Yup! That was me but my last horrible relationship showed me I had to unpack all of it and do a lot of healing. I was really broken but I did learn to clean it up. Being alone now for a year I have learned to value myself and see life differently.
EXCELLENT talk!!!! Keep shining Iyanla!.....
I learned about my monogram luggage after the destruction of a relationship
Thank you for the work you do Queen!! You probably don't remember me but when I met you in person I honestly left feeling you were mean as hell. It wasn't until years later when you apologized to Oprah that I understood it was not personal at all & in fact you probably hadn't processed your pain from losing your child and if anything mine was just too much for you at the time.. thank you for being an open and honest inspiration. Love you to Life & beyond Sis! 💞
Great talk, appreciate the advice. Acknowledging and unpacking baggage is difficult but must be done constantly
Iyanla you look even more Beautiful than you have always looked.
Your like a very good bottle of 🍷 wine.
You just get better with time inside and out!!!
Love ❤️ you much!
Great message.
Thank you!!!!
Hi iyanla,
Thanks for this video 🙏🏽 how exactly do you unpack the baggage? Is it a after of recognizing it? How do you heal that hurt?
Pretty in pink
Aww ilyanla...you look lovely....you were on point...I've pre ordered your book can't wait to get into it.
You are so wonderful Iyanla
Ms. Vanzant, you look wonderful. Are you singing the song on the intro, it sounds like you. I love it!
How do I learn to let go of the baggage if I haven't gotten an apology or closure for the pain that was caused?
Natasha Mables start by forgiving yourself of that pain. Know that it was not your fault!
Natasha waiting on closure or an apology is like raising your hand to go to the bathroom. You’re in control! Make peace my dear and move forward in your power! Give yourself permission, don’t wait on it! Blessings to you!
Mostly you wont get an apologize. I know I never did. They are who they. The bible says guard your heart in all your ways
IF THAT ISN'T THE BEST ANALOGY EVER I DON'T KNOW WHAT IS!
Beautiful!
I wish I was more aware of the baggage I was carrying in 2015, so I didn’t loose that connection with that guy I wanted . I learned through the pain and look up deeper videos about this kinda stuff , that why I’m here today .
Great woman setting the example. Greetings from Poland
2021, reviewing this season
Where can I get the shirt u wearing
Blessings my sister 🙏💯
Thanks Auntie, We all have baggage it's time to deal with it head.
all is the right as an advise thank you.
That hit me right in the face! But I'm confuse a bit, with what I've experience with people in general I've developed the bad habit to keep things inside. Now I started to voice out my feelings and what I think I deserve respect, I've been losing people left and right. So yeah I did relate with " if few people tells you the same thing you've got to look into It." I had a boyfriend of a friend tell me that how I wanted to have a relationship with my base being shit. I felt so hurt. I realised that's how my own friend felt about me. That's was their pillow talking about me. The only problem I had about them was the respect was not there.
I lOVE YOU FOREVER‼️ ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Monogram Luggage!!!!! 😂
Yassss Ma'am Auntie 🙌
Great example with the luggage.
You look lovely, Iyanla. Happy Holidays xo
Someone has painted iyanla face for blood darling💃🏽
You're the best
Great points! I love your teachings. Thanks for sharing......
I HAVE NO ISSUE WITH WHAT MY PARTNER DOES IF THEY HAVE RELATIONSHIPS OUTSIDE OF OUR RELATIONSHIP IF ITS DONE WITH DISCRETION. AND AWAY FROM MY PRESENCE I HAVE NO PROBLEM. BUT IF ITS PUT IN MY FACE I FEEL THERE'S NO NEED FOR ME TO BE WITH THAT PERSON BECAUSE TO ME THEY ARE BEING SELFISH AND DOES NOT CONSIDER MY FEELINGS. THAT MAKES A PERSON FEEL UNLOVE AND UNWANTED. TO ME IT'S TIME TO MOVE ON BECAUSE IT WILL ONLY CAUSE PAIN AND HEARTACHE IN THE END.TIME TO HEAL AND FIND HAPPINESS ELSEWHERE.
Not all the time! A lot of times with more and more narcissistic people in the world. They will project their flaws/follies on you! I have seen this many times!
you look great..thank you Ms. Vanzant
Carmella Bulya Doesn’t she look extra beautiful in this video? ❤️❤️❤️
HOW DO YOU UNPACK??????
You look so young and gorgeous!
Great x
so tru
R spot thanks that's why my name is Rickey keep praying 💖 you science ofmind
So what u get in the relationship with someone and you’ve already expressed your desires wants needs and requirements and you’ve expressed to them the things that hurt you in the past. They all of a sudden start doing the exact things you asked not to do. Isn’t that them bringing your baggage back up that you got rid of?
Baggage sounds like America hell the world
Have you ever had a bagel 🥯🤣
i got 2 young ones and i want to be an example to them, i don't want to be one of those single moms (after a divorce) that brings men in and out of thier lives.....
I hear you loud and clear MS. Vanzant 🍸🌹🌹🍸🌹🌹🍸
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Thanks for that food for the Soul, mind and spirit.
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I got a lot of baggage. geez
Baggage, that’s me. I am apart of the awakening one million. What exactly do the affirmations mean? I say it,but don’t get it.
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have you ever had a women who just like to give men money to have a good time, have you ever had a man who have problem giving their partner money as specially when children come in to the picture, even with out children in the picture, you see some men and some women show some traits of infidelity, infidelity it changes the conversation a lot of people show these traits of weakness in front of their mates, i have face this problem before in my own relationship with people, i had some good experiences, some not so good ones, and some bad ones. it changes the way I see things now.
Let me start unpacking.. Oo lort
What do you identify with?
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Iyanla sanging!!! Or someone else??
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