Escort interview-Valentina
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- Опубліковано 9 бер 2021
- Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Valentina, an escort in Los Angeles.
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This channel has given me an entirely different perspective on people. I’m so thankful for that. You never know what someone is going through.
Judge but be kind is my advice.
Yep ! We all have lived a life That's never perfect.. I've always been opened minded to everyone and never judge another person ..
@@ramoon9241 people say “don’t judge,” but it’s a natural instinct. Everyone’judges’ to one degree or another. The difference is how we treat others different. Love one another, and extend grace to them.
The endless excuses these characters use but it never seems to be their fault
@@sumtxflygrl1 “Judge,” and “exercise good judgment” are two different things. By all means, use your judgment!
You could walk by this women on the street and think she has a perfect life just by looking at her on the outside...it's crazy how you never know what people are really going through on the inside.
Good observation! I was actually jealous of my child’s friend’s parents’ life. They seemed wealthy, healthy, like they had the perfect relationship...One day my child came home from school and told me that handsome, smiling, white, professional, suburban dad killed himself. I felt grimy as f. You really never know.
narrow minded
That’s the dang TRUTH!!!
@Azriel Cul $2000 isn’t enough. In a lot of places that is rent and maybe one or two utilities and that’s not even an extravagant lifestyle.
@@kellyford9279 Thank you!👏👏👏💖
Your non judgemental style of interviewing allows the viewer to really engage with people who have traumatic pasts, and non traditional lifestyles. She is incredibly strong, courageous, and emotionally intelligent to be able to hold herself together through all of these challenges. Thank you for not overriding her story with your own. This interview was extremely well done.
He probably does judge in his head (just like most people) he just doesn't say it aloud. I don't think his "style" is completely intentional, though it also kind of is... He knows he's not the best interviewer out there so he prefers when they just talk the whole time.
Yeh, she is emotionally intelligent...Drugs, suicide attempts, selling her soul she says...Yeh, she is emotionally intelligent allright....you are so observant
O@@pricklycats
I have three daughters in their 20s and they have friends very similar to Valentina. Smart, articulate, not addicted, real job, in school … and escorting on the side. It’s hard for me to watch as a Dad because there are a lot of dangers out there, even when women think they have “loyal, safe” clients. I pray she finds what she’s looking for. Stay safe, Valentina.
Escorting is not good for society, it takes advantage of lonely men who otherwise would have to learn how to act properly around women in order to get their attention. The amount they charge is absurd and most men feel absolutely pathetic after paying for sex. And they should, they didn't earn it. The downstream effects of living this way is that it creates broken homes and more childhood trauma of the sort that has damaged this poor young woman.
@@SonoftheWest316speak for yourself, poindexter😂😂I sure love me some working girls
daughters friends but not her right.
@@SonoftheWest316I disagree Bub your paying for the pussy on the front side of things or the back side. Choose one.
Sorry to break it to you man. But if your daughters have friends that do this type of work, your daughters are likely doing it as well.
She's tough.
She minimizes a lot.
Very much so.
just wish she would quit that rotating back and forth, though I have to admit it's kind of a turn on . . .
She is female...
@@sidviscous5959 what the fuck ?
@@uup116 also what the fuck??
After hearing her say she had a "normal" childhood, I unfortunately sat and waited for the other shoe to drop. Low and behold, she experienced all sorts of trauma that no child should go through. I've noticed this similarity in a lot of these stories. Their families and experiences have been so dysfunctional they don't even realize that there's absolutely nothing normal about how they lived. Excellent interview. I wish her success and that she'll be able to use her education and life experiences to help others.
Very insightful, I feel the same way.
That's how that works. Were taught to explain it that way.
@@LuchadorMasque Yep. And how we are doing is “fine.” Or did you mean something else? J/c
same here . I knew there was more to the story ....
Yep same thoughts I had, first "normal" child hood and "just do this for extra cash"... then comes out the whole trauma and abuse stuff at 12. It's a picture with black and white contrast to us but to trauma victims like her they normalize it as a form of denial. You can see her extremely uncomfortable body language at around 23:40, shudders and facial distortions as she re-lives it. I hope she finds help for all this and becomes the person she clearly has the potential to be. If she reads this comment: You were raped, it wasn't your fault, you didn't ask for it, you were just a child, you can heal.
Hey, Mark!
I just wanna Thank You, not only for this episode but also for the whole program.
So true and so real. No BullShit, nothing.
And 99% of the time, you let them talk. This is what I call "RESPECT"
Yes, Mark. I have A Massive Respect for you and everyone from your program.
And A Massive Thanks for this Program too.
Priceless.
100% Priceless.
Who else is here from cut?
Did anyone get the @ ?
@@datboygritzshe dosnt do onlyfans im pretty sure. shes only does like stripper stuff.
@@void-wx4fs i know nigga that can hack snap chat and instgrams
@@616_ornMarrie whats his name
😂😂
They say “normal” childhood at first, and as the convo goes on and Mark probes them so much gets revealed that clearly isn’t normal.
It's what they know as normal.
This one guy he interviewed was like my childhood was normal and few minutes later both my parents were alcoholics🥺
Then again, nothing is.
I’m a psychiatrist. Watching the interviews on this channel is literally identical to the daily sessions with my patients. We all have had experienced traumatic experiences in our lives. Some people are able to cope with them better than others. Surround yourself with people that you love and can rely on. That’s the key to happiness.
Lord after 3 hours of these interviews they take a toll on my mood for some reason and I get severe anxiety. I couldn't imagine engaging in this profession- daily. Bless your soul 😘
It takes a lot more than that.
People let me down. l can't rely on them unless l want a world of hurt over and over.
Easier said than done. I despise any person in my personal space. Despise . . .
Sure you are...lol you know we can see your other comments on this channel right?
Such a beautiful interview! Thank you, Mark and Valentina!
I hope she continues educating and passes as this lady could help a lot of people! amazing woman!!
In 1960 you would have to travel for years to learn what you learn here in a couple days.
r/🚿 thoughts
could be the best comment so far in this channel
No just go to the local crackhouse
@@hoomanot yes please 'thought's on that Plz ??
Wow, you're right. How'd you come to this conclusion tho
The more I watch these videos, I begin to understand myself more and that I've been fortunate not to fall into all these horrible traps when I was young. I arrived in Las Vegas at 23 from small town USA and didn't have any street smarts. At 70 now, I'm grateful for the good people that helped me along the way.
What would you do differently in your life, if you had a choice?
Hope you live and healthy. God bless.
You don't give yourself enough credit. You said no to this life. These other people took it all in and said yes to it. You have boundaries, these people don't.
@@aria759 but then not everybody learned how to have boundaries, or knew that boundaries even existed. If boundaries breaking (namely people imposing their shit on you) is all you've ever known, you have to clue you even have that power in the first place, so you just go through the motions, without tools, without guidance, like a blind. Let's not judge someone as being better or smarter simply because they were able to make the choices that others couldn't, especially when starting their life, and right in the middle of trauma.
Your a Beautiful soul and wise tonot fall into these mistakes that ruin peoples minds and bodies though her body is fully in tact ( but will show if she continues this lifestyle choice)
Tip: Jesus is not dead. John 14:6>the way to the place ^ where sorrow, sadness and regret have no place.
Remarkable stories and life experiences, recognise a lot in her story. Great job Mark with brining these stories of real lives and people
Your empathy and the way you talk to these ladies is kind and understanding, non judgemental and helpful. Well done and good luck in all you do.
“My mom would yell a lot.... my dad was scared of her...... I would get hit....... nothing terrible”
Most people undervalue what can traumatize a child.
This is a perfect example
She deals with the wound the best she knows how.
Jesus has a special place in his heart for these types of wounds that happen to little girls that later become seekers of love in all the wrong places.
I'm a psychotherapist, one of my biggest problems is how we identify trauma for others.
Yes
There's no Jesus.
@@kryptonite9804
One of your biggest problems is how we identify trauma for others??
Odd statement from a psychotherapist in regard to the assessment of this video.
Perhaps I am misreading your statement but if you cannot see the clear connection between her abusive mom, uninvolved dad, the hotel situation and her career of choice, then perhaps you should consider interning in an area that works with these girls to get a better understanding...and besides, it doesn’t take a psychotherapist to assess the obvious most of the times in these cases.
We know too much and there is no more debate in regard to sex workers and childhood emotional and or physical trauma connections for which she admitted happened.
@@roaringclown99
Ahhhhh ok...
I guess thats not an awkward and meaningless interjection??
So what is your point in relation to the wounding of Gods daughter by those who were supposed to protect her??
I suspect that she is able to do this because she has learned to become detached from people. She tells the story of her mother without a ounce of sadness. Many people cry during their recollections. She is articulate and clear. She has been damaged but she is very smart and can find her way. I wish her so much luck.
True it could be her medication too
@@customfittedinc Yeah, she says she's not on drugs, but something about her is off.
There was a lot of emotions while she spoke of her mom's story. A lot of emotions...very sad
decent person, some DISASSOCATION going on,she has the strength and savy to have a good life.
She's smart in a way that is so calculated....
Deep down she is in a lot of pain. She really loves her mom and is really hurt what she is going through. Sometimes, we all just need a big hug and someone telling us that things will be okay. I hope she gets better and aspire to be the best self she wants to be. This channel really makes me think. We are all very fragile.
People don't realize emotional neglect is a type of trauma too. Childhood is so important in how the rest of a person's life pans out.
Just goes to show whether pretty or ugly, drugs or no drugs it always begins with childhood sexual abuse 🤔
100%
1 parent home
If you're talking about addicted sex workers, then yes I agree for the most part. But not all addicts have been victims of childhood sex abuse. Even the ones with 2 parent households aren't immune to a drug habit at some point in their life.
@Lori Joy Fine Art Channel thank you. A toxic mother can be worse than an absentee father. Seen it and been there.
wtf absolutely not. someone doesn’t have to be sexually abused to turn to sex work. wtf be going through y’all heads bruh lol
She acting like she did something wrong..he was a grown man you were a child. Stop being guilty drop that burden girl.
An amazing young lady. Honestly she has been through so much. I hope Valentina continues with her studies as she is wonderfully articulate and has a big heart. Definitely provided a different perspective. Blessings! 🙏🏻❤️
No matter that she says she's fine with all this, her body language says different story. She's obviously in pain. And has a lot of pressure because she has to take care of her mom and sister but it's taking it's toll. Hope she graduates and becomes therapist and gets away from all that because it is obviously hurting her.
Dr. Nick?????
Hey NHdad are you the one, that she’s telling of the story of.....the gross 49-50 year old man/pig that took a 14-15 year old GIRL and had sex with her.
@@nhdad3439 Dr. Load guzzler?
Hope she does well, but she really shouldn’t be a therapist. She isn’t dealing with her own emotional issues, she really shouldn’t be trying to deal with other peoples.
You don’t know anything. This is a strong person that’s what I see . She does whatever it takes while going to college, working and taking care of her family. A very small percentage of people are capable of this .
“How was your childhood?”
“I mean nothing too crazy”
Being groomed by a grown man at 12 I would classify as crazy. That’s not normal. I feel for her 😓 someone should have protected her from that predator.
Her parents would be the first port of call, however her mother is a schizophrenic and her parents relationship was in turmoil over that. Her mother wasn't sane enough to notice, and her father was in too much distress trying to handle his mentally ill wife.
This is why family and parenting is so important. And why we need to get our priorities striaght in society. We shout and protest over the most pathetic things sometimes, while their are lots of people being broke and hurt by severe issues such as paedophilia, child abuse, mental illness, etc.
She has a brain you have to work stuff out i did i don't feel sorry for here
@@lostinspace699 you were groomed and abused like her ? Just because you feel you have sorted it out, doesnt mean anything because millions of people are broken by it.
Lots of abusers and criminals were abused as a child
@@bontempo1271 No one has life worked out ,,,You will never become a good sailor on calm seas ,,, Discipline will help , Perhaps you thought you were on to something ...
@@lostinspace699 "you have to work stuff out i did i"
I replied to that. You worked it out, and you don't feel sorry for her. What a selfish and naive position. Not everyone is abused, those that are, have shown up in many of the turmoils of life. It's not for you to pass judgment, you sound like the abuser in disguise.
This girl is no dummy. She has issues, as all of us do, but shes on a whole other level. Smart, pretty, and collected. I see big things for her in the long run.
Big, long, black things
her body language is very closed up . . . .
@@rasputin3219 took the words out of my mouth lol. But for reals, she's not dumb. If she can work through some of her issues, she could probably be successful in any number of career paths
@@Jetsetfastfood Exactly.
No, she's a train wreck. There's a reason she's studying psychology. She's trying to understand her own basket of issues, and it's a big basket. She would and probably will completely wreck her own life as well as anyone in a relationship with her. She is the definition of toxic.
Perhaps the most beautiful person I have seen on this channel because of her compassion and kindness. And how strong she is despite so much adversity. Most people become bitter and harsh. You can tell she’s learned to live with her pain. I would love to see an update on how she’s doing.
kindness? speaking bad and with an attitude about her johns while she's obviously the prostitute getting paid...
What a lovely kind, honest and caring girl. Its so sad that she has had to struggle through life. she should feel very proud of herself and i have great respect for the way she looks after her sister and mother.
Her pain hurts my soul. Her burden is heavy. I wish her comfort and self forgiveness. She’s not a victim, she’s a warrior. Best wishes for her. Her soul is bright and strong. ❤️
This girl is stunning. She seems like such a clear-headed, open-minded, and accepting person. True beauty. I hope she finds the happiness and the love that she so deserves.
@@tomkeppler1717 I did, thanks. You're allowed to feel differently.
It's uniquely human to ignore all the flaws of someone when they are veneered by physical beauty. She "seems like" exactly how she described herself. Low self-esteem, low self-worth, trust issues, past trauma, and riddled with shame by pretending to enjoy sex with people who she thinks are disgusting. She preys on the emotions of lonely men for money. Before you @ me, I'm not blaming her and I am not vindicating lonely men. They are both disgusting. The lonely married men are spineless, and the lonely single men are likely awkward or otherwise undesirable. There's nothing beautiful about any of it. It's a dirty business, but anyone with self-respect and self-love will have nothing to do with it. Don't believe me? Go to a strip club, I guarantee someone will make you feel special. It's all a game.
@@clv603 I think the whole point of this channel is to completely debunk the stigma that comes with these kind of individuals. The stigma that, proven by your comment, is unfortunately alive and well. These people aren't "disgusting," as you put it. I don't see someone disgusting when I look at her and hear her story, just as I don't see someone disgusting when I look at/hear the story of a lonely man who pays for sex. I see people. Broken people looking for acceptance and understanding, while trying to navigate their way through this cold, dark world... Trying, despite the trauma, shame, and hurt they deal with every day. I don't see a disgusting person. I see a broken child who never had the opportunity to be free; a child who didn't experience love, guidance, or the innocence that should be indicative of childhood.
@@LadyRow00 100% agree with you
@@LadyRow00 Don't get me wrong, I am not without empathy, and I sympathize heavily for the struggle some people endure as they suffer far greater than some of our own trivial, "normal" people problems in life. But I don't call it beauty. It is the farthest thing from it. As emotionally healthy humans, it is normal to develop a "savior complex" and project our balanced perspective onto those who are self-destructive. I don't believe many of these people have the capacity to establish healthy, loving relationships. Do they have the capability? Sure, but it takes years of possibly therapy to unlearn destructive behaviors to build self-respect and self-love in becoming emotionally healthy. Glorifying and vindicating her lifestyle because we feel sorry for her won't help her or provide her much motivation or solace because on the inside she feels ugly and shameful. I don't disagree with you, but the truth is often bitter. I too wish for her to have success in the rewarding aspects of life that is pair-bonding and love. But staying real, trauma has a way of perpetuating dysfunction. There's nothing stunningly beautiful about it.
Kudos to the guests who are so open and honest about everything. Really fascinating. At the end of everyone's day, there's just the truth, you know?
Girl, I feel so sad for you. You give off the vibe that what happened to you was your fault or not that bad. You went through a lot. I can definitely see all of that breaking someone. You are a strong person. Definitely my favorite interview. I hope that you continue the meds and therapy.
Some pros luv work easy big money no tax keep it real
Wow..amazing so open and honest and in touch. On the same token she is completely removed or perhaps detached at the same time. So strong and grounded yet so weak and vulnerable..blown away with this one
same!! she had my attention from the beginning, prob one of the best interviewees here.
As a 23 year old I notice that most girls my age live this exact same life except they don't even get paid for it....
As a 23 year old I notice most boys my age live this exact same life except they dont even get paid for it...
@@eightacres9221 Well of course, as in no kidding. But the subject here is obviously a woman.
You are not lying!
putting a price on something that should be free isn't the same.
Are you noticing this where you live, or just noticing it in general? Like, throughout social media and stuff.
So much pain 😔😔😔
She broke my heart so many times with her facial expressions and that voice
This series is the most beautiful and sensitive document, such an honest portrait of these incredible human beings, it is truly a work of art at the highest level. this young woman Valentina is so beautiful and incredibly intelligent, one can only wish her and all the other interviewed individuals to find happiness and peace.
Why do you say there are incredible human beings?
So sad how much she down plays her trauma. She experienced things that have lasting impact on a developing person. I hope she cares for herself. She deserves it!
yea it was weird to me how she said getting drugged was the worst that happened to her which "wasn't that bad" when to me something like that i'd consider not that bad in a situation like her would be a guy stealing 20 dollars out of my purse
Trauma is a personal thing and even in an interview, we can share what we are comfortable with. That goes for anyone
@@aspenisthebest Being drugged as the worst thing that has ever happened to a escort is a win because some have endured WAY WORST. So that's why she said it isn't that bad...people in collage are drugged a lot also but they doesn't mess them up to the point they are messed up for years to come. So its easy to understand what she means...way worst has happened to people that DON'T escort.
All of us have had some sort of trauma as a child that shapes us into who we become the weaker minded see themselves as victims and loose themselves stronger people have a totally different perspective making them more resilient better people who are able to cope and fight harder at life no matter what you have to do.
@@Succs4u lol
She called the 3 year relationship with a married man a normal relationship.
It can be...i mean the majority of the United states cheating on their spouse anyways so statistically it’s normal...
In some Latin-American and European countries it used to be considered very normal and almost expected for married men to have a mistress on the side. I think it' weird but it might be a cultural thing.
For her choice of life , it probably constitutes as normal.
It is probably as normal as she has ever had.
Im from Europe. So what countries in Europe are you talkin about? Its the first time hearing something like this. I know most of the men cheat, but mever heard that in some countries in Europe its considered as normal.
Amazing conversation... we all have difficult circumstances in life that we must overcome if we desire peace
I loved this interview. I have similar experiences as Valentina and her responses are similar to what mine would be. You become so detached. I wish I knew her irl so we could be friends. I also wanted to be a therapist because I was so used to being a therapist to men, friends, everyone really. But I just wanted mutual, pure connection. I wish her the best, I know she's going to be very successful materially, she already has a wealth of knowledge.
Don't you want connection on a different level
Mark, since I've started watching your videos I 've suddenly started noticing troubled people in my community. I give them a few euros, say hello and I'm ashamed I didn't do so more before. Anyway, that's a direct result of you. I do have to fight the urge though to ask them were they brought up by both parents etc !
Glad you no longer consider homeless people street ornaments, now they’re also your entertainment. Good on you for tipping.
@@donsolo7860 You're rather grim aren't you, troll? Good on you for being an idiot.
@@donsolo7860 what are you on? I bet you don’t even give back or do anything. It’s always the people who don’t who have the most to say. Goofy 🤡
@@donsolo7860 instead I should be like you, never questioning myself, never reflecting on my actions .. I should just pass judgement on others and get my fix from posting nasty comments.
Awesome sauce!💚
I feel her authenticity. She's going to be a great therapist.
If she doesn’t catch any felonies 🤷🏻♀️😭
@@ellamayoxoxo9510 the most insecure people make themselves known when someone says something good about someone else.
@@ellamayoxoxo9510 Yes, and as long as one of her dates doesn't destroy her.
@@ellamayoxoxo9510 you hating much?
@cj dub and you're illiterate.
The story gets really sad when you started talking about her mom and generational depression. It almost feels to me that a curse that needs to be broken at some point. I hope it starts with her. She is so young and has so much potential. She is one strong lady. Wish her well and success, whatever that means from her own well-being.
I really like the kindness and understanding you showed her. She's lovely.
Hi Mark, the only reason I'm writing this is because it's the newest video and you might be more apt to read it, although she's a lovely sweet young lady this isn't about her. I've been watching your videos for the last couple months because it reveals a glimpse into the heartache I have recently come from. My exwife just sent my son a letter from jail and for whatever reason I felt compelled to message you. At one point we were a happy family but fentanyl, and crystal meth put a wedge between us and ultimately landed her in jail. She turned to prostitution and went down a very dark road, filled with very dark people.
I'm writing you because all of the videos on your site doesn't come close to explaining the pain and heartache that this lifestyle causes, but you get as close as possible! So thank you, I appreciate your work! Out of the couple of thousand people you have interviewed there are tens of thousands of family and loved ones that are suffering equally! Btw I'm not Innocent, I've had problems myself, but I got help and custody of my son your videos shed light and round about answers to questions that I've been unknowingly looking for. I'm not sure this message makes sense but thanks. 🙏
Your not alone,I too sought help, A bad mfer is not knocking out people with a punch, not the dude people idolize, A BAD MFER BEATS THE BAG,CONGRATULATIONS DUDE ON DOING YOURSELF RIGHT.
when he told her that she is beautiful I could see the slight fear in her eyes. as if she would be scared that something bad is gonna happen in that situation again
I saw her wince a couple of times at his words.
And Mark is such good a good guy. It’s her deeper issues. Truly nothing to do with him.
I didn't see any fear.
I saw that too
Asoso see
You give people the opportunity to speak about themselves. Regardless of the title. Thank you for humanizing all the individuals you've interviewed.
Thank you for sharing your story! 🙏 You're a strong person!
I don’t see where she is totally down to earth or centered. I DO see that she intellectualizes her feelings and experiences easily and that’s not the same as being at peace or centered. She seems to dissociate a lot from her feelings and experiences as she’s talking. But it’s hopeful to me that she’s studying psych. She is STRONG!! And SMART!
Definitely wouldn’t use those words to describe her😂 maybe soulless? If you go into the sexworker game your heart has to be blacken alittle but they way she explains it like it’s not a big deal at all, and she was talking about having a suger daddy and 2k a month wasn’t enough😂 look a lot of people come off on these interviews as sweet and innocent but behind close doors it’s a whole different story, I would not admire these videos at all just look at them at a distance to understand everyone’s side of the story but NEVER look up to these people
You really think her studying psych is going to help her? Decades ago I did that and I was doing way too much introspection. Later I had a business and was much better off in every way. Much easier in that it is much, much less complicated.
She made me feel better just being so calm and honest. She’s going to help a lot of girls and I hope love finds her. She deserves it. 🙏😢
Right Not all that stupid Pimp speak & catch phrases to hide the pain 🙄
That's because you think you are a princess but your soul is dirty
@@You.Tube.Account what?? You sound evil as hell!!
@@You.Tube.Account That is weird but I kinda understand your point.
No she doesn't. She's a home wrecker
I saw her on The Cut, she was so kind to this virgin. I hope the best for this lady and things work out for her she deserves happiness.
Myriads of emotions, what an amazing lady she is... She is so genuine to her thoughts, emotions and life...
The still shots are always amazing. Alive. When they say a picture is worth a thousand words, I feel like your interviews allow us to hear them.
i feel her on the level of hiding emotions and minimizing the situation. i constantly try to make things seem less bad than they are so other people dont worry and to trick myself into thinking its not bad. nothing like shes going through but i can tell shes super smart. i hope she stays safe
There is visceral pain radiating through so much of your interviews. These souls are broken, how do you do this? I feel pain for these girls.
It blows me away how much we dismiss the dangerous behavior of others simply due to loneliness or financial need. I hope she stays safe.
She is really really smart. I especially felt that when she said she started to have a more positive outlook on life once she started being more present. Best of luck! She'll make a great therapist who will help many people.
The story near the end with her friend's dad is so heartbreaking. She was only twelve, and for a grown older man to "fall in love with her" at first sight and then write her love letters for years is grooming and beyond creepy. She must have felt so scared and confused, and the fact that she felt like she couldn't go home because her parents didn't know about him shows how little her parents were there for her at a time she needed them most, because she couldn't trust them to be there for her then. I think that messed her up more than she lets on.
age old, beauty has its downsides, and huge upsides, she needs to figure out which way is up and which way is down, then exploit... I mean, even doing what she does any man would still want her for so much more than sex, its circumstance.. hang in there, take care of yourself, it will happen... be ready when it does...
Kinda reminded me of Humbert Humbert in "Lolita".
All these escort interviews has commonalities on childhood bad experiences growing up.
Spot on smfh so sad. Borderline rape tbh
He didn't fall in love with her. He was a molestar, but yes she is still a denial about it. It's probably brings up lots of shame for her.
Your video interviews are eye opening and down to earth,thank you ✌️
"You wouldn't want them as partners?" "God, no. They're disgusting." That pretty much sums up the whole profession. Being a beautiful woman is not all it is cracked up to be.
I'm impressed with how level headed and resilient this young woman is. She's played the hand she was dealt the best she could. I bet she'll make an excellent therapist some day. Her ability to remain measured, open, accountable, and direct will be an asset to her career.
shes not level headed. shes a payc major
she is very impressive & smart I agree with you
Not if she’s only going to get a bachelors, you don’t get to be a therapist with a bachelors degree.SHE IS So detached from her feelings, she has to be to be able to do the work she does.
You were able to come up with that conclusion from a 30min interview 🤣🤣🤣🤣
'They did the best that they could with the tools that they had" This woman is very emotionally intelligent. Amazing interview!
That's what therapists usually say
@@vvc_551 That is true. Doesn’t make the statement wrong
She’s not emotionally intelligent, she is just minimizing and making excuses.
*you cant fix everything with a hammer..*
Emotionally intelligent is not sleeping with men she describes as nasty
Great interview by a caring and sensitive interviewer. Well done
Such an honest girl, your honesty should be applauded
She was very interesting; I didn’t want the interview to end.
Gotta pay if you want more
@@mikea5205 lol 😝
Thank you Mark! I have watch a few video's of yours now and i am struck by lives these woman lead, the very difficult choices they often have in front of them and most appreciably the tenderness they contain - life is not always easy, but these woman i see are strong, noble and tender in very trying circumstances and situations. We all need to care more and show this care to ourselves and others. Thank you are sharing these stories.
For some reason I feel connected to her. I admire her for being so strong. I do hope she makes her life how she wants it to be. Some circumstances leave us with no choice but to do things. She knows she’s beautiful but knows she’s more than that.
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Always great content. So many have trauma in life and how it is dealt with differs by the individual. Wishing her success moving on and starting her career and finding a man that will appreciate her.
I'd like to take a moment to compliment the interviewer for the flow of excellent non-judgmental questions.
Her aura is so sad. Hearing her makes me honestly wanna cry. People like her you would have no idea she had issues if you never spoke to her which makes this more sad.
I grew up in Miami and literally had the same path except I went in the military. So funny how life could change so quickly. But I totally love her. She’s so relatable
Good for you
What was your experience like in the military?
why so many people with difficult backgrounds, mental illnesses, sex slaves go to the military in the US? It is scary.
Incredible how she deals with all the adversity in her life. I have a huge amount respect for this woman.
I also have much respect for Valentina but it is taking it’s toll. I hope she can get her mom in a long term facility but I guess that costs money as well. She is a beautiful girl who should be having fun at this age. ❤️🇨🇦
That’s a man 😂😂😂
@@booblywoobly3694 TRANS WOMEN ARE WOMEN
@@misterx3188 no they aren’t
with everything that she's been through she is so resilient and strong and i think she's going to make a great therapist.
Amazing work, Mark. I am fond of these little pieces you do with common people. It gives us a perspective to someone else's life, another angle, different permutations of situations leading to different versions of life. What is unique with these is the non-judgemental and neutral perspective with which these interviews are done. I probably won't even call it an interview and gladly so. It's more like the person just opens up and we get to see life through their eyes, which is priceless.
She seems like a really nice normal person. Good to hear that she is acquiring an education. It will give her the skills to live a more interesting life.
I like her honesty, she’s very smart not getting into drugs, hopefully the escorting is just a small thing in her life and she becomes a successful therapist…good luck
Her intellect and eloquent speech doesn't provide enough cover for her pain and confusion. She is one to two better decisions away from living a much more healthier and happier life.
Sounds like she's making an extra 48k a year cash based on her estimates of client numbers and payment, so, I doubt that will be ending anytime soon.
@@commanderrussels2612 Sex work is very difficult to leave, especially as a young woman. Ultimately, it gets in the way of everything else (relationships, education, low paying career track positions). You are right on Commander.
Lol such as?
@Black Baby 98 Don’t question my grammar if you’re going to use a racial slur, bozo!
Your work is blowing my mind Mark I left Skid Row last March I was rescued by a friend and moved to Temecula long story made short I ended up in nyc DHS they really helped me I have a room w bath and shared kitchen ... one day I hope to have my own apt
I hope you’re still off the streets and doing well this holiday season, Queen RA. Really hope you’ve got that apt now, too. Much love
Such a smart and sweet girl and such a horrendous life fate has unleashed on her. Someone who at the age of 25 looking after not only herself and trying her best for a better future, but also looking after her mother and sister. WHAT AN EXTRAORDINARILY WONDERFUL WONDERFUL AND STRONG PERSON SHE IS. MAY GOD GIVE HER ALL THE LOVE, PEACE AND HAPPINESS THAT SHE DESERVES. MORE POWER TO HER AND TO SUCH GIRLS.
I’m curious why so many westerners, especially women, heap praise onto these prostitutes and drug addicts and put these people on pedestals as if they are heroes?
That's a real candid interview. Very good questions asked .
She is holding so much emotional baggage.. 🙏
oh she is broken inside. i hope she finds time to deal with it
Really Dr Freud!
Yes, imo, she has a lot of trauma to deal with and very little insight into herself. Key things like compartmentalizing the escort work, not recognizing how abused she has been by her mother, the fact that she wasn't responsible for that friend's dad's actions. She was raped for God sake!
She's feels like she doesn't have choices and that is sad.
I pray that she can get the help she needs.
@@bonnielucas1941 yes
@@bonnielucas1941 this
She has massive trauma bonding with her abusers and doesn't see herself as abused
She really honestly does probably have trouble making even basic decisions always fearing her mother's angry tone
I strongly believe the root to many of the negative emotional states Valentina has been experiencing stem from contempt in her mother and father's relationship when she was young and no escape from it. I am so glad that she turned to psychology to work through her challenges.A very emotionally mature and intelligent person.All the best in future to you!
Yep
true
I thought it was interesting that she chose psychology as her major. I’m not sure if that will provide her with a better understanding of herself. She obviously has more to offer society than sex for money. I hope she finds her way.
or being manipulated, groomed, and raped by an adult at age 12-15
she's in need of love, i fear someone might take advantage of it
Valentina is such an amazingly sensitive and lovely person! Thanks! :)
Can we get a follow up on Valentina? So curious how she’s doing today. Great story and strength. I imagine this girl will go far in life.
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I lost respect for her when she said she has no respect for the same men who are funding her lifestyle and her family. Also as an escort I think you lose respect from good men because you’re out here selling ur vag for money. Other women out here who don’t have to do that and struggle trough life without having to pimp out there body. Those are women I respect.
@@RICHIESTACKS.X Yeah I did not understand the lying to themselves statement. Are they?
No matter which interview it is as soon as mark asks " tell me about your childhood " their eyes seem to change..
This reminds me so much of my best friend in our early 20s, supporting family, trying to do it all, and still keeping yourself strong. Hope you'll write a book someday Valentina
Great interview! Thanks for your honesty Valentina !
Very honest person. Really appreciated the honesty
Her friends dad should be in jail because he's likely abusing other young girls
What? No trial?
@@garolstipock you know what they say "innocent unless you probably did something"
If Valentina can just avoid the pitfalls of drugs, which I feel like she can do, then I also feel like she’ll be ok. Her coping skills seem far more advanced than mine and she seems very well adjusted after everything she’s been through. She’s a very resilient person and I respect her tremendously for that.
I wish her nothing but the best of life.
I wish her the best as well. But, she attempted suicide 6 months before this interview. I'm not sure that she could be considered well-adjusted.
@@thedukeofno exactly. I’m sure you feel somewhat reserved and guarded doing these interviews too, knowing millions of people will see. I’m sure a lot of people downplay things, after all something like that for most people is their deepest and most painful secrets. I’m sure doing a random interview for the first time they’re not going to want to just spill all of their weaknesses
Depends on whether you believe her, I personally don't.
@@hey-os9to I don't mean anything derogatory by it, I just personally thinks she's on drugs and probably doesn't want to say on camera
@@hey-os9to I understand but she's on drugs there if you want my opinion. Glassy eyes , dilated pupils, independent jaw movements, eye rolling. She could be on strong prescription anti pyscotics but I would guess cocaine/ampthamines
she's such a lovely woman and I appreciate hearing her. Your videos are interesting and eye opening. Thank you. Praying for you and all your interviewees.
Another great interview. So informative and really show a different side to life
V. is a great example of a woman who has beat the odds of manipulation, depression, criticism, and even death! She is real, human, and in my heart, a real hero!
Lots to unpack here. Great interview.
It's heartbreaking to see how she tries to be composed when talking about the old man who groomed her at 12 yrs old. I pray that she finds peace! 🙏🏽
The honesty these souls have is something to learn. If only we had the guts to open up and talk this way to our partners and families about, what we truly felt and need, we'd all be termed lunatics..
Very interesting interview. I wish a lifetime of healing and great success in her field of becoming a therapist.
Valentina, I have developed a lot of respect for you, for your integrity, perseverance and willingness to take care of family members, though u had a difficult childhood.
It felt sad to know, u recently felt suicidal, though you have evolved into such a mature person overall. I pray that your challenges resolve soon.
I want to reassure you, a lot of people do understand that some of the unhealthy choices you have made in past were because of the pain you were carrying and that you can't be blamed for them. And that now, you are working hard. Many men would regard them to be very lucky if they find a partner like you.
Please hold on and continue your journey towards becoming a therapist. You will become a very good one
Amazing interview, Mark. Fell in love with her calm, sad serenity. Felt like pampering her all the time.
"I got drugged..uh that's not terrible..ya" 😲 Dear God above help her!
@Darkstar pls don't erase your comment others need to see it.
@Darkstar so you mean that getting drugged is not terrible relatively speaking, even though getting drugged can lead to quite a few of the things you mentioned
I see your point. Of Course being drugged is terrible. But, I think she meant drugged and raped, beat up, robbed, stabbed, shot at that sadly other girls, especially with lower end clients go thru on a reg.
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@Darkstar pls don't erase your comment others need to see it."
I`m sure they wont, but......
"@Darkstar 2 months ago (edited)
You may be a little too young or naive if you think getting drugged is terrible. A lot of these sex workers are getting beaten up, some of those beatings leave permanent scars (either visible) or in the form of ongoing issues like shattered teeth. They get humiliated, brutally raped, impregnated against their will, some are even tortured and/or killed. It's a sad world we live in where this statement is true but it is nonetheless: she got lucky she was just drugged (and likely raped)."
Karrie Manfre IKR!