@@issnake1109 really what it is is that deep down a lot of modern women like to be lied to when it suits them and want the truth when it suits them. With new guys and risky guys they want the truth because they are playing poker with the most chips and everyone revealing their cards benefits them the most. So when a non toxic guy finally takes a chance on them they are like a deer in headlights kind of thing where they don't know how to process it. The more they have been used the more likely they are to sabotage the relationship out of fear of being rejected
@Fionn MacCuill well, i'm out of it now, and the current person i'm with now treats me so good that sometimes i have to be like "are you for real?" :')
@@Who_belongs_to_pooh You must have meant for the original commenter bc they are saying the content relatable on a video showing trauma from toxic relationship.
And then the person self-sabotages because they're so used to equating abuse to love that being treated like an actual person with common respect and decency makes them uncomfortable and confused lmaooo
Most people self-sabotage the things they don’t deserve. That’s just life giving you a want instead of a deserve knowing that you will likely f*ck it up anyway.
@@SolkardThis is far more correct than OPs nonsense. Worst thing you can do to a woman is be boring. And being the predictable, ultra devoted nice guy is the epitome of boring.
My wife used to be in a toxic relationship. I still do this now, but she stopped being obsessive about my phone after freely letting her use mine a few times. It made her realize that her previous relationship was the problem and not the phone. Now we use our own phones without the "NEED to check your phone" all the time. I grew up respecting privacy so i never asked for her phone because I "NEED to check it" which i think is what ultimately made her trust me, I told her once before that no matter what I do, if youre gonna cheat, youre gonna cheat, so if you ever think about doing that, just break up with me because I'd rather break up with you than cheat on you. If I'd ever cheat on you its because its over, i wont be asking for forgiveness, you SHOULD leave me. I expect the same from you. You cheat, dont ask for forgiveness, its a sign youve given up on me.
This goes for men too. My ex was extremely toxic and narcissistic, my current gf. The exact opposite, and we've been together over a yr now and it's still confusing to me! She understands this and is nice about it! She says things like "I know you have been hurt" or "I know you." We've had the "I know you" conversation at least 17,000 times.
@@cojocarumugur6862 I do. To be honest, I want to let my guard down. I know I have to keep my guard up and protect myself because I've been there. After my ex, I struggle to even be vulnerable at all.
@WillHoward2002 who the fuck are you? Simply because you're not used to a certain treatment doesn't mean one isn't ready. I spent 5 years working on myself. Not to mention, I'm autistic, so that plays a part as well. On the contrary to your comment, I've been in a relationship for over a year, and it's been a very healthy relationship for us both.
Geez, don't judge OP by a post. He's doing fine. There's no way to be close to someone without letting the guard down. Open communication is key. As long as he keeps that up, he is trying to keep the relationship up.
toxic people won't cherish the kind people. And after getting dumped or hurt by toxic people, the kind people turn toxic too. it's a sad infectious cycle
Eh, that's way too general and vague. I like other nontoxic people aren't gonna let ourselves be changed by the actions of others. We grieve the loss of love and hope to find a new one even stronger someday. Sure, some of us will be left in darkness but that's why you have to build a strong foundation of friends and good relations with others. Never rely on someone for happiness, enjoy their presence as an added bonus to your life not the only reason to live. To all my kind brothers and sisters, keep being you. If they leave you it's not your fault. They weren't in the right mind to accept your love. Forcing it won't make it better. There are many other people that deserve your love and are ready to accept it. So pick yourself up, give yourself time and then proceed to spread the love and find someone who is ready 😊 I love you all. Please take care ❤
@grolandstack8321 you lose it when they die. Real love is Magic. And that magic makes other jealous and want a happy couple to be miserable as they are.
He didn’t have other ho’s he was hiding so he must not be that desirable so now she’s afraid he’ll get clingy so she just starts saying he is so people will not think badly if her when she ghosts him.
Remember y’all. It’s still healthy to maintain your other relationships and friendships edit: alright I was waiting until I fully understood where the comments were coming from. Some people watched the video and came to the conclusion that the girlfriend and boyfriend had pre-made plans. I watched the video and assumed he made them on the spot because of the vague time-frame and surprise of the girlfriend. Long story short don't blow people off. Make balance for your friends AND girlfriend. You need a network of people close to you. don't put all your eggs in one basket. Have a nice day!
@@ashishsharma932 the guy's friend wanted to hang out but he blew him off to hang out with his girl despite the fact that they hadn't yet made plans to do so
@@garbage69353okay? Making time for your significant other is important and that’s what’s he was doing lol , you don’t need to be with friends every time they ask
Yes, it's important to have your own life, but it's also important not to dismiss your partner. Nothing wrong with wanting to hang out with your partner and there's nothing wrong with wanting to hang out with friends. Your partner should have priority, but they shouldn't hold you back from living life
Wow, this happened in real life once, only with Brazilians, and when her boyfriend said he could see the messages and stuff, she was, I don't know, kind of shocked and depressed, wow, that broke me
My wifey and I use our phones interchangeably. It's completely opposite from the toxic relationship I was in before. Now we just grab and use whatever phone is closer. It's not like we are checking anything, just convince, because someone's phone is always charging lol
It's sad that most people who have been a through toxic relationship will sabotage their next on so that it becomes toxic. For those that remain the antitoxin, keep strong and don't give in.
@@ghostrecon3834 how? i’d like you to tell me how someone healing from a toxic and unhealthy relationship is cringe? is it the fact that they are a human being? there’s no good excuse for what you just said. that is extremely rude and i hope you learn from your actions.
Privacy doesn't suddenly vanish once you get into a relationship. Even married, you should still respect eachother's privacy. If you cannot trust your partner, then you cannot be vulnerable, and that's a you problem, not your partner's problem. You have to be able to love yourself before you can love someone else, otherwise your foundation will be shit
The issue is, what if we trust the partner but the partner ain't trustworthy. We dont really see when the partner catches feelings for someone else and then proceed to read out of the cheaters handbook
@@steveh5307 Friends won't work out, If you're not attracted to someone, it won't work out. 2ndly, Reject him if he uses the word friend zone cz he's a hypocrite, he faked being friends with you for an opportunity, then feels entitled to being your bf after being a fake friend. Better stay alone than being with that guy, he'll fake his personality, won't be assertive and you'll just feel alone.
Neuro-divergent, traumatized, and/or mentally ill people have a well documented tendency to attract, and be attracted to, others with similar issues. People in general have the tendency to attract, and be attracted to, other people who share a significant amount of similarities with them. But specifically mentally ill (and etc) people also have a much higher tendency to have toxic behaviors, especially if they are not aware of, or actively addressing, their mental illnesses and toxic behaviors. On top of that, even in the western world where there is much more awareness of it, mental health is pretty universally neglected by the vast majority of people, despite the vast majority of people being sufferers of at least some minor mental illnesses, if not many major ones. Put two and two together, and it should become pretty obvious why you can't seem to escape your cycle of toxic relationships. You probably have mental illnesses or traumas that you are unaware of, or that you are aware of but not properly tending to. If unaware, I highly encourage you to see a psychiatrist if it's within your ability to do so, and see what issues you may or may not have that should be addressed. Then, whether you are already aware of your issues or not, I highly encourage you to seek regular therapy or counselling, and to do lots of your own research about various mental illnesses, and what steps can be taken to properly and healthily manage them. If you can't, or are not personally ready to, do these things, then at the very least I encourage you to attempt to improve your diet, sleeping habits, and physical fitness, as these things have a very profound affect on your general happiness, motivation, and well-being. I hope this helps.
I had a toxic X who once freaked out when I went to her purse to grab a lighter, like she really had something to hide. She asked; "How would you feel if I went through your phone?" I laughed, threw my phone to her and gave her the code; "I'm not hiding anything so I don't know what you'd expect to find" (Edited for auto correct error)
@@gibhuggiesnow1361 I know man, if I never see her face again I'll consider myself lucky. We(friends and family)refer to her as Voldermort(friends suggestion, I suggested Sauron, but he reasoned that sounded too cool), because she's a lying snake whose name should not be uttered.
Slayy Andrea❤❤ And yea it is hard when you end a toxic relationship and get a lovely relationship. Cuz you are suprised that he wants you to check his phone, he is comfortable giving you his phone its cuz he doesn't cheat❤❤
I'm 100% against checking my partner's phone or letting them check mine, like going trough the messages looking for evidences of something, but if you go out of your way to hide your phone from your partner then it's just...strange.
Couples share their passwords because they trust eachother so much But Couples don't share their passwords because they trust eachother so much Like what?!
Exactly, you share your password and people say your partner don't trust you, you hide your password and people say you're cheating I feel it's better to share the password yourself and give your other half peace of mind without asking for it or being shamed by others, let the world think whatever they want who cares about them as long as your partner is happy?
In my experience, they always share their passcode with you and want you to read their texts, so that when they’re doing the same thing to you, they can be like “well I share everything with you so why wouldn’t you share everything with me?” And then next thing you know you have absolutely 0 privacy, no self-identity, they see you as “part of them” and if you try to be even a little bit independent they act like you’re being “sneaky”. So no, I don’t want to know your passcode. Keep it to yourself please.
Definetly your experience, in mine this is actually healthy, even w my girl friends we know each other codes and read texts out loud if the other is busy. And the guys that guard their phone W THEIR LIVESSS turned out to be the biggest cheaters ever lol
plot twist: they're on a whole other level and make you think you're finally in a healthy relationship when in reality they're much more manipulative, toxic and malicious than anyone you've ever met
Omg 😳 imagine someone wrote a song about it....that would be so hurting and descriptive and lovely at the same time (folklore evermore stuff this is, yeah only person i could think of honestly)
The constant internal battle one fights after leaving a toxic relationship is insane. Can fuck up experiencing things the way theyre meant to be without cynicism, paranoia, anxiety, etc. I feeeel this gurl 😂😂😂😂❤ get that healthy relationship 🎉🎉🎉
It’s a bit hard to tell if someone is obsessively denying access to their phone cause of privacy or cause they are trying to hide something. We are not psychic. If a guy is that obsessive about it, it’s a bad sign. No one would have their partner wallop on their phone all day but they wouldn’t have an issues with their partner taking a phone call if their hands are busy or to check something that he can’t right then.
@@blueshoes5145 exactly That's how healthy relationships look like, you either trust the other person or you don't commit to any serious relationship with them
Yeah I have that problem except with my friends...like most of my old ones basically used me and really traumatized me for that...now it's kind of hard to trust people...and I was talking to a new friend of mind...and apologizing go him cuz I felt I was bothering him, and he told me that It's fine you can bother me all you want...and I nearly cried to be honest 😅😅😅😅...and my other new friend keeps wondering why I explain myself over and over again...don't have the heart to tell her it's because my old friends left and lied about me and my family and all I wanted was an explanation...so I try not too have my friends feel the same way I feel everyday...(Guilty) Edit:(Sorry if this is too much information if so just say the word and I'll delete it 😅😅😅)
Feel you. Just today i apologised to my new friend as i misinterpreted her friendly words. I thought i was over it but looks like trust issues are not going to go away soon. Will try anyway.
It was at that moment that she knew she needed to dump him immediately and find a guy who would mistreat, lie and cheat on her. She knows a real man when she sees one.
I love your videos !!! So relatable ❤ Millions of people were in a toxic relationship in the past and I hope they all get a fantastic partner like this in the future. ❤❤❤
😂 I lost so many friends like that. Real talk. My wife an I met when she was 18 and I was 19. when we met i felt something… I’d say about half my friends from that period are currently jobless/still living with their parents, or MIA.they always did the “bros before hoes” talk, that was nearly 17 years ago and I couldn’t have asked for my life to play out any better then it did.
@hishenmathurin2844 define friendships. And just to rush the next step I’ll say this. Judging by the description I gave about half my “friends” current situations, they weren’t friends. I thought I made it clear the people you think are your friends today might not actually be what they seem. Not saying this applies to everyone, just saying when I ran with my old pack, I was drunk every weekend and job hopping every so many months. My wife was every cure I needed at the right time.
@@stangowner8687 By the sounds of it, you were just in the wrong crowd. We all respect you for dropping those people, but, you can still lead a decent social life in marriage too. Even just a handful of good mates you see every now and then does wonders
People really be out here basically insinuating self celibacy, yet some will still find a way to blame the opposite gender for it. If it is "bros before hoes" it should be logical that it will be harder for your relationship to work than if they were treated as equal
This is the part where she breaks up with you because you're too nice and boring. She then immediately gets into a toxic relationship with random guy from tender and the cycle repeats.
@AbigaleKirsten No, like 80% of men experience that at least several times in their life. I remember the process of turning into someone else because no one ever reciprocated my feelings ever, it was not pleasant.
@@Leonhart_93 do you know if you listened to half of women complain as well that they weren’t treated nicely because they were ‘too nice’ too? It’s literally a common thing to say. Literally in life, you’ll find many that are stupid and don’t treat nice people nicely, even a common workplace has people like that. But there are some in this world that do reciprocate and do love nice people. So whether it happens to 80% of men, it’s only because you’ve heard men say this, but in reality all nice people face this, nice men, nice women. Shit happens. It takes a few idiotic encounters to find the person that loves you for you, that’s the whole point of being in a relationship with someone that feels like your one and only, because they stand out and treat you well. It’s not a NICE MEN problem. Wake up
@@jasiekformela4250 no I mean if I don’t want someone to know what kind of music I listen to for ex that doesn’t make the relationship fake it makes me sensitive or self conscious of what my partner thinks of my music
I get it. I was recently looking up gifts for my husband online too. It's best he not see that stuff on my phone. There's also the matter of my friends texting me stuff they want kept private. If they knew my husband read my messages, they'd probably be pissed off.
This is actually true ! They have thay trauma from the previous relationship and they feel surprised when someone actually treats them tight. Bless them theyre not used to that love and attention.
JUST TO BE CLEAR: you don't have to share your passwords with your partner to be in a healthy relationship. It's about trust. Like some people tell their partners their passcodes because they trust them, and some don't tell them their passcodes because their partner trusts them. Yk?
Let's be honest, she's just gonna abuse his kindness. Because good people = weak and the weak are taken advantage of. Some might get triggered over this but if you're a good person you'll DEFINITELY experience unfairness.
Like wtf wrong with you bro jus cuz some are like that doesn't mean she is. You don't nneeda interpret things in the wrong way. And a person who has been abused wouldn't abuse someone else. It's only asses who think dumb ass stuffs that makes no sense
Never be someone’s first relationship after they were in a toxic one. They will not treat you well and sap all your love and insult you for being non-toxic.
Thats not even close to true, quit self reflecting and making people double guess shit. I got out of a toxic relationship two years ago and got with my new girl and she has made me a way better person so idk what you are on about🤷♂️
@@darioncarter2873 it is very very true just because you haven't experienced it does not mean its not a real thing thaf takes place aslo men and women are very different when it comes to the brain and how we each handle emotional scars
Wow this was me when i started dating my current boyfriend the one before was toxic. But off topic you are so pretty and you are my favorite celebrity! I hope you see this! ❤❤❤
I noticed something recently. People would call you crazy once they realize they cant manipulate you. They cant control you. Once they feel powerless, so they blame you for being unstable cuz they arent.
People have a right to privacy. Just bcuz your man doesn’t give you his passcode doesn’t mean his “toxic” it may signify that maybe someone who agrees with this video may have some sort of trust issues or deals with jealousy
No that’s a b*tch, if I was the “Evan” in this video he wouldn’t be my friend anymore, when she breaks up with this “not toxic guy” he will have 0 friends, like a real man would march into a storm of arrows with his homies with nothing but an axe like the Vikings of old, now we have these b*tch boys who are a pretty face and ignore those truly loyal to them
When you offer honest, love and trust, and your girl looks at you bewildered, while having trouble recognizing what you're offering, you think, "who are these 💩 for brains, that screw things up for us good guys?!"
@@courtneyharris1006 We are not chicks and most women like good men. Those who like toxic men have a toxic past and are a bit damaged, often nit by their own fault.
@@torkakarshiro5170 I never said anything about most women. I was speaking on women who are somehow constantly in toxic relationships then make grand statements about finally not being in one. They pick toxic relationships because good ones are boring to them. Then they use good guys to trauma dump the aquired bs from the guys they primarily are attracted to. You may not be a chick but you interpret information like one.
When you have nothing to hide and you're walking in the light of truth even toxic people don't know how to handle it.
Yeah honestly a lot of women don't know what to do with an honest guy.
@@bensheard3969 cuz a lot aren’t nowadays. They get used to the lies and insecurity
@@issnake1109 really what it is is that deep down a lot of modern women like to be lied to when it suits them and want the truth when it suits them. With new guys and risky guys they want the truth because they are playing poker with the most chips and everyone revealing their cards benefits them the most. So when a non toxic guy finally takes a chance on them they are like a deer in headlights kind of thing where they don't know how to process it. The more they have been used the more likely they are to sabotage the relationship out of fear of being rejected
She will leave him lol see it happens all the time. Girls love drama especially ones who are used to it at high doses
Amen brother
It’s hard to be in a toxic relationship especially when your single and never dated anyone 😔
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@@Etoot moustache
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@@That0neRavenclaw what
"So why u left him?"
"He was too nice"
i fell victim to it.
Ohhh you're such a nice guy.
exactly
This comment Hits hard
Wth Lmao😂
she makes the most relatable content everrrr
I am sorry that it's relatable...
@@chunnilal2111 wtf
WTF
@Fionn MacCuill well, i'm out of it now, and the current person i'm with now treats me so good that sometimes i have to be like "are you for real?" :')
@@Who_belongs_to_pooh You must have meant for the original commenter bc they are saying the content relatable on a video showing trauma from toxic relationship.
Time to hit him with "You're too nice of a guy for me"
Yup
Ong
Hahaha best comment on here bro you win!!!
LMAO LIBRA SHIT
That was my first thought. 🫡
And then the person self-sabotages because they're so used to equating abuse to love that being treated like an actual person with common respect and decency makes them uncomfortable and confused lmaooo
You don't know what you don't know until you know it 🫤
Most people self-sabotage the things they don’t deserve. That’s just life giving you a want instead of a deserve knowing that you will likely f*ck it up anyway.
Or because the relationship doesn't have the drama or "excitement" of their past relationships, they get bored of you.
@@SolkardThis is far more correct than OPs nonsense. Worst thing you can do to a woman is be boring. And being the predictable, ultra devoted nice guy is the epitome of boring.
@@MRJTD99 Yeap. Happened to me. Her loss lol
My wife used to be in a toxic relationship. I still do this now, but she stopped being obsessive about my phone after freely letting her use mine a few times. It made her realize that her previous relationship was the problem and not the phone. Now we use our own phones without the "NEED to check your phone" all the time. I grew up respecting privacy so i never asked for her phone because I "NEED to check it" which i think is what ultimately made her trust me, I told her once before that no matter what I do, if youre gonna cheat, youre gonna cheat, so if you ever think about doing that, just break up with me because I'd rather break up with you than cheat on you. If I'd ever cheat on you its because its over, i wont be asking for forgiveness, you SHOULD leave me. I expect the same from you. You cheat, dont ask for forgiveness, its a sign youve given up on me.
I hope u people live happily together ever after
This goes for men too. My ex was extremely toxic and narcissistic, my current gf. The exact opposite, and we've been together over a yr now and it's still confusing to me! She understands this and is nice about it! She says things like "I know you have been hurt" or "I know you." We've had the "I know you" conversation at least 17,000 times.
Keep your guard up dude.... You never know when this change...
@@cojocarumugur6862 I do. To be honest, I want to let my guard down. I know I have to keep my guard up and protect myself because I've been there. After my ex, I struggle to even be vulnerable at all.
@@Bonewalker-2000You're not ready for a relationship by the sounds of it. Should work on yourself before getting into a relationship.
@WillHoward2002 who the fuck are you? Simply because you're not used to a certain treatment doesn't mean one isn't ready. I spent 5 years working on myself. Not to mention, I'm autistic, so that plays a part as well. On the contrary to your comment, I've been in a relationship for over a year, and it's been a very healthy relationship for us both.
Geez, don't judge OP by a post. He's doing fine. There's no way to be close to someone without letting the guard down. Open communication is key. As long as he keeps that up, he is trying to keep the relationship up.
toxic people won't cherish the kind people.
And after getting dumped or hurt by toxic people, the kind people turn toxic too.
it's a sad infectious cycle
Eh, that's way too general and vague. I like other nontoxic people aren't gonna let ourselves be changed by the actions of others. We grieve the loss of love and hope to find a new one even stronger someday.
Sure, some of us will be left in darkness but that's why you have to build a strong foundation of friends and good relations with others. Never rely on someone for happiness, enjoy their presence as an added bonus to your life not the only reason to live.
To all my kind brothers and sisters, keep being you. If they leave you it's not your fault. They weren't in the right mind to accept your love. Forcing it won't make it better. There are many other people that deserve your love and are ready to accept it. So pick yourself up, give yourself time and then proceed to spread the love and find someone who is ready 😊 I love you all. Please take care ❤
It's relationship herpes!
It is called “my mum”💀.I can’t go a week without being shouted at.😢
You don't know what love is until you find it
and, lose it.
@grolandstack8321 you lose it when they die. Real love is Magic. And that magic makes other jealous and want a happy couple to be miserable as they are.
Spoiler ALERT: She dumps him after the weekend. She felt he was too clingy and nice.
Truth
😞
He didn’t have other ho’s he was hiding so he must not be that desirable so now she’s afraid he’ll get clingy so she just starts saying he is so people will not think badly if her when she ghosts him.
Yes. After-all she learned from the best (either father or past boyfriend)….Its unfortunate for the genuinely nice guy.
@@blueshoes5145 nice guy alert
THE FACT THAT SHE LOOKS SO GOOD AS A 'MAN' IN HER SKITS IS BEYOND ME
When she plays the "man"part, she looks much better than most females trying to look like women.
You can still have a healthy secure relationship without knowing each other's passwords and spending time apart.
Very true 👍
PREACH
exactly that was i going to say
Agreed
Actually this IS the healthy way.
Remember y’all. It’s still healthy to maintain your other relationships and friendships
edit: alright I was waiting until I fully understood where the comments were coming from. Some people watched the video and came to the conclusion that the girlfriend and boyfriend had pre-made plans. I watched the video and assumed he made them on the spot because of the vague time-frame and surprise of the girlfriend. Long story short don't blow people off. Make balance for your friends AND girlfriend. You need a network of people close to you. don't put all your eggs in one basket. Have a nice day!
Was there any implication in this video that it isn't healthy?
@@ashishsharma932 the guy's friend wanted to hang out but he blew him off to hang out with his girl despite the fact that they hadn't yet made plans to do so
@@garbage69353okay? Making time for your significant other is important and that’s what’s he was doing lol , you don’t need to be with friends every time they ask
Wrong
Yes, it's important to have your own life, but it's also important not to dismiss your partner. Nothing wrong with wanting to hang out with your partner and there's nothing wrong with wanting to hang out with friends. Your partner should have priority, but they shouldn't hold you back from living life
Wow, this happened in real life once, only with Brazilians, and when her boyfriend said he could see the messages and stuff, she was, I don't know, kind of shocked and depressed, wow, that broke me
My wifey and I use our phones interchangeably. It's completely opposite from the toxic relationship I was in before.
Now we just grab and use whatever phone is closer. It's not like we are checking anything, just convince, because someone's phone is always charging lol
convenience*
Right there with you on the trust issue. Not an issue
You need a better phone.
Same with my girl and underwear. Whatever is closest 😅
@@prestokrs1 pause
It's sad that most people who have been a through toxic relationship will sabotage their next on so that it becomes toxic. For those that remain the antitoxin, keep strong and don't give in.
Bro...that made me emotional. All the crap that people do these days, it's just nice to see it happening even if it's fake
This is healing ❤️🩹
this is cringe ❤️
@@ghostrecon3834 why?!?? Like why ?!?!??
@@ghostrecon3834 how? i’d like you to tell me how someone healing from a toxic and unhealthy relationship is cringe? is it the fact that they are a human being? there’s no good excuse for what you just said. that is extremely rude and i hope you learn from your actions.
@@zleepy_zig because they wouldn't have to heal if they actually had social intelligence.
@@yourmom82 ahh, i see.
Privacy doesn't suddenly vanish once you get into a relationship. Even married, you should still respect eachother's privacy. If you cannot trust your partner, then you cannot be vulnerable, and that's a you problem, not your partner's problem. You have to be able to love yourself before you can love someone else, otherwise your foundation will be shit
The issue is, what if we trust the partner but the partner ain't trustworthy. We dont really see when the partner catches feelings for someone else and then proceed to read out of the cheaters handbook
"I can't believe you made plans for us this weekend without clearing them with me."
Honest to god the only things i have to hide are the birthday gift and the engagement ring i have to somehow not talk about for a month 😂
Congrats!! Tell us how the proposal goes!!
You lost already!
@incorporeal7614 lol you're not wrong
@@emmy202 he said yessss
@@nealmorgan9037 IVE NEVER BEEN HAPPIER FOR A STRANGER IN MY LIFE
this is me whenever my boyfriend is just too good to me I’m like “are you playing me?”
You deserve him!❤
Wish to be in such a relationship someday😞
It'd be so different from what girls are used to that you'll fuck it up and break up with them by cheating.
You can get one tomorrow. Just look at the top dudes in your friend zone and pick one. They'll treat you like a princess.
@@steveh5307 Friends won't work out, If you're not attracted to someone, it won't work out.
2ndly, Reject him if he uses the word friend zone cz he's a hypocrite, he faked being friends with you for an opportunity, then feels entitled to being your bf after being a fake friend. Better stay alone than being with that guy, he'll fake his personality, won't be assertive and you'll just feel alone.
@@abc-qk3ml Fake friend or not he still put in a ton of work. It's commendable.
@@praetorian3902 so you're basically saying "he's not a good friend but at least he bows at my feet and obey my orders"??? 💀💀
Bro. I don't even know how to start a relationship with someone who's not toxic. It's engrained at this point
Neuro-divergent, traumatized, and/or mentally ill people have a well documented tendency to attract, and be attracted to, others with similar issues. People in general have the tendency to attract, and be attracted to, other people who share a significant amount of similarities with them. But specifically mentally ill (and etc) people also have a much higher tendency to have toxic behaviors, especially if they are not aware of, or actively addressing, their mental illnesses and toxic behaviors. On top of that, even in the western world where there is much more awareness of it, mental health is pretty universally neglected by the vast majority of people, despite the vast majority of people being sufferers of at least some minor mental illnesses, if not many major ones. Put two and two together, and it should become pretty obvious why you can't seem to escape your cycle of toxic relationships. You probably have mental illnesses or traumas that you are unaware of, or that you are aware of but not properly tending to. If unaware, I highly encourage you to see a psychiatrist if it's within your ability to do so, and see what issues you may or may not have that should be addressed. Then, whether you are already aware of your issues or not, I highly encourage you to seek regular therapy or counselling, and to do lots of your own research about various mental illnesses, and what steps can be taken to properly and healthily manage them. If you can't, or are not personally ready to, do these things, then at the very least I encourage you to attempt to improve your diet, sleeping habits, and physical fitness, as these things have a very profound affect on your general happiness, motivation, and well-being. I hope this helps.
You have nothing to fear when you have nothing to hide.. 🎉
Some times we couldn't believe, how can i get this good
On the other hand, when its toxic we says we didn't deserve this
I had a toxic X who once freaked out when I went to her purse to grab a lighter, like she really had something to hide. She asked; "How would you feel if I went through your phone?" I laughed, threw my phone to her and gave her the code; "I'm not hiding anything so I don't know what you'd expect to find"
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No wonder shes ur ex bro💀
Don't change cuz of that tho
@@gibhuggiesnow1361 I know man, if I never see her face again I'll consider myself lucky.
We(friends and family)refer to her as Voldermort(friends suggestion, I suggested Sauron, but he reasoned that sounded too cool), because she's a lying snake whose name should not be uttered.
@@Angivel damn bro 🤣🤣🤣
Imo people should still be entitled to their privacy and it’s perfectly valid for you to not want your SO to go through your phone
@@Angivel ayo don't diss snakes like that bro
That " wait what!!!"😢😉😊😍 was romantic 🙌
Slayy Andrea❤❤
And yea it is hard when you end a toxic relationship and get a lovely relationship.
Cuz you are suprised that he wants you to check his phone, he is comfortable giving you his phone its cuz he doesn't cheat❤❤
Same goes for women
@@TehRebolt i mean ofc!!!
This is how i treat both of my girlfriends
... 😂😂😂
Going out with Friends doesn't mean Toxic Relationship. A Better Example would be some Random Girl and then Block Her
She’s not surprised because of a past toxic relationship. She’s surprised because she’d never let a boyfriend have access to her phone.
Not necessarly your boyfriend doesn't letting you see his phone is a toxic thing, it doesn't mean he is betraying you
it does
Bro the other guys who replied get no b****es 💀
Especially if he had an ex who went through his ENTIRE business because he trusted her with passwords and access. That trauma happens on both sides.
I'm 100% against checking my partner's phone or letting them check mine, like going trough the messages looking for evidences of something, but if you go out of your way to hide your phone from your partner then it's just...strange.
I mean her ex could've been cheating and not letting her check his phone
Times like this I’m glad I never had a really toxic relationship. Had a few bad, but not toxic
You're fine - your getting real friends now :)
"wait what"... girl I'm just as confused and blushing for you ❤️
If checking phone is compulsory then just step back. Personal space is a thing which anyone should maintain.
Couples share their passwords because they trust eachother so much
But
Couples don't share their passwords because they trust eachother so much
Like what?!
Omg that’s true..lol
Exactly, you share your password and people say your partner don't trust you, you hide your password and people say you're cheating
I feel it's better to share the password yourself and give your other half peace of mind without asking for it or being shamed by others, let the world think whatever they want who cares about them as long as your partner is happy?
In my experience, they always share their passcode with you and want you to read their texts, so that when they’re doing the same thing to you, they can be like “well I share everything with you so why wouldn’t you share everything with me?” And then next thing you know you have absolutely 0 privacy, no self-identity, they see you as “part of them” and if you try to be even a little bit independent they act like you’re being “sneaky”. So no, I don’t want to know your passcode. Keep it to yourself please.
Damn they’re playing chess out here with the mind games
Lol no girls gonna share her passcode. Thanks for the laugh though.
please do not speak about ''they'' as a whole, because you are wrong.
Definetly your experience, in mine this is actually healthy, even w my girl friends we know each other codes and read texts out loud if the other is busy. And the guys that guard their phone W THEIR LIVESSS turned out to be the biggest cheaters ever lol
OMG I love this!! Yup it’s definitely an adjustment 🙂
plot twist: they're on a whole other level and make you think you're finally in a healthy relationship when in reality they're much more manipulative, toxic and malicious than anyone you've ever met
Omg 😳 imagine someone wrote a song about it....that would be so hurting and descriptive and lovely at the same time (folklore evermore stuff this is, yeah only person i could think of honestly)
And then she leaves him for someone "better"
The constant internal battle one fights after leaving a toxic relationship is insane. Can fuck up experiencing things the way theyre meant to be without cynicism, paranoia, anxiety, etc. I feeeel this gurl 😂😂😂😂❤ get that healthy relationship 🎉🎉🎉
I have no idea that respecting your privacy and social life is considered toxic
Women ☕️
The men she used to probably had a reason to hide shit. Like cheating. That's what made them toxic, not wanting their privacy.
It’s a bit hard to tell if someone is obsessively denying access to their phone cause of privacy or cause they are trying to hide something. We are not psychic.
If a guy is that obsessive about it, it’s a bad sign. No one would have their partner wallop on their phone all day but they wouldn’t have an issues with their partner taking a phone call if their hands are busy or to check something that he can’t right then.
@@blueshoes5145 exactly
That's how healthy relationships look like, you either trust the other person or you don't commit to any serious relationship with them
Now you know better 😂
And after that when she's healed from her past toxic relationship by these acts of good relationship, she leaves you stranded😢
Is this her real voice??
What??
What?!
He's so used to toxic relationships that he doesn't care if she invades his privacy anymore
🎶CALLED ME SINGLE IN SO MANY WAYS 🎶
Edit:I wanna be that person
TYSM FOR THE LIKES THAT'S A LOT🤯🤯❤️
This girl called me single while im crushing on someone HELPPP
@@accentillia8116 wait are you dating anyone if not then I'm sorry ,but u r single
Who needs relationships!
@@ms.pirate not me ofc
Social just makes sure to always remind me that I don't have one
Yeah I have that problem except with my friends...like most of my old ones basically used me and really traumatized me for that...now it's kind of hard to trust people...and I was talking to a new friend of mind...and apologizing go him cuz I felt I was bothering him, and he told me that It's fine you can bother me all you want...and I nearly cried to be honest 😅😅😅😅...and my other new friend keeps wondering why I explain myself over and over again...don't have the heart to tell her it's because my old friends left and lied about me and my family and all I wanted was an explanation...so I try not too have my friends feel the same way I feel everyday...(Guilty)
Edit:(Sorry if this is too much information if so just say the word and I'll delete it 😅😅😅)
I’m so sorry
Feel you. Just today i apologised to my new friend as i misinterpreted her friendly words. I thought i was over it but looks like trust issues are not going to go away soon. Will try anyway.
I dont quite understand, but Im glad you found a friend
Awe, that soft "wait ,what?" was so cute! Adorable!
Gurl , toxic relationships are just a different thing. Never get into it. Btw luv your vids 💕♥️😊
It was at that moment that she knew she needed to dump him immediately and find a guy who would mistreat, lie and cheat on her. She knows a real man when she sees one.
Yes. Her father was one. She learned from the best….Unfortunate for the genuinely nice guy.
And dhe avoids them like the plague to date these little boys
Oh, so a real man is an asshole, or how am I supposed to understand that?
I love your videos !!! So relatable ❤
Millions of people were in a toxic relationship in the past and I hope they all get a fantastic partner like this in the future. ❤❤❤
Then proceeds to leave for him being too nice.
😂 I lost so many friends like that. Real talk. My wife an I met when she was 18 and I was 19. when we met i felt something… I’d say about half my friends from that period are currently jobless/still living with their parents, or MIA.they always did the “bros before hoes” talk, that was nearly 17 years ago and I couldn’t have asked for my life to play out any better then it did.
simp
@hishenmathurin2844 define friendships. And just to rush the next step I’ll say this. Judging by the description I gave about half my “friends” current situations, they weren’t friends. I thought I made it clear the people you think are your friends today might not actually be what they seem. Not saying this applies to everyone, just saying when I ran with my old pack, I was drunk every weekend and job hopping every so many months. My wife was every cure I needed at the right time.
Your wife is your husband.
@@stangowner8687 By the sounds of it, you were just in the wrong crowd. We all respect you for dropping those people, but, you can still lead a decent social life in marriage too. Even just a handful of good mates you see every now and then does wonders
People really be out here basically insinuating self celibacy, yet some will still find a way to blame the opposite gender for it. If it is "bros before hoes" it should be logical that it will be harder for your relationship to work than if they were treated as equal
A crazy plot in my mind :
What is she texts "I'm out with my girl"..
And Evan says :
WhiCh OnE?
This is the part where she breaks up with you because you're too nice and boring. She then immediately gets into a toxic relationship with random guy from tender and the cycle repeats.
Yes. Her father was one. She learned from the best….Unfortunate for the genuinely nice guy.
@@blueshoes5145 Statistically it's far far more often that she never had a father to learn from.
Yall need to watch less movies (coming from a person who watches a lot of movies but knows the difference between media and reality)
@AbigaleKirsten No, like 80% of men experience that at least several times in their life. I remember the process of turning into someone else because no one ever reciprocated my feelings ever, it was not pleasant.
@@Leonhart_93 do you know if you listened to half of women complain as well that they weren’t treated nicely because they were ‘too nice’ too? It’s literally a common thing to say. Literally in life, you’ll find many that are stupid and don’t treat nice people nicely, even a common workplace has people like that. But there are some in this world that do reciprocate and do love nice people. So whether it happens to 80% of men, it’s only because you’ve heard men say this, but in reality all nice people face this, nice men, nice women. Shit happens. It takes a few idiotic encounters to find the person that loves you for you, that’s the whole point of being in a relationship with someone that feels like your one and only, because they stand out and treat you well. It’s not a NICE MEN problem. Wake up
Someone not wanting you to check their phone isn’t “toxic” it’s simply wanting privacy Something everyone deserves
If you want to hide something (having a private space), then are you rly in relationship? Its fake.
@@jasiekformela4250 no I mean if I don’t want someone to know what kind of music I listen to for ex that doesn’t make the relationship fake it makes me sensitive or self conscious of what my partner thinks of my music
I get it. I was recently looking up gifts for my husband online too. It's best he not see that stuff on my phone. There's also the matter of my friends texting me stuff they want kept private. If they knew my husband read my messages, they'd probably be pissed off.
He's too nice 😂😂😂
She bout to leave him now
When women leave the toxic dude and find a stand up guy, they cheat.
In my experience that type of lady will get bored of the healthy and crave the toxic.
3 days later she cheated on him with a toxic man
ouch
who hurt you
@@echsemia who do you think?
@@echsemia the truth probably.
😂😂
I wish that people would just heal and work on themselves before moving to a serious relationship 🤠
He has nothing to hide
I never knew i'll ever say this but her "wait what" was actually so precious
😢omg so lovely ❤
Shes going to give him some character development.
Omaigawd.... yes please...
I would cry. ❤
Its literally because he trusts you and doesn't have anything to hide. Eventually you will trust him and have him do the same.
This is actually true ! They have thay trauma from the previous relationship and they feel surprised when someone actually treats them tight. Bless them theyre not used to that love and attention.
JUST TO BE CLEAR: you don't have to share your passwords with your partner to be in a healthy relationship. It's about trust. Like some people tell their partners their passcodes because they trust them, and some don't tell them their passcodes because their partner trusts them. Yk?
this !
This woman never had a "exclusive" relationship !
Yea right lol
fr these people need to understand this
Bro its literally 200 times easier for a girl to get a 'nice guy' than it is for guy to get a 'nice girl'
They can't hear you over the sausage buffet.😂
Dude, NO ONE wants a 'nice guy'. 😂😂
Full crap
Out of toxicity, and into a healthy relationship - it's not easy to addjust to, but it's a dream come true ❤
Let's be honest, she's just gonna abuse his kindness. Because good people = weak and the weak are taken advantage of. Some might get triggered over this but if you're a good person you'll DEFINITELY experience unfairness.
Like wtf wrong with you bro jus cuz some are like that doesn't mean she is. You don't nneeda interpret things in the wrong way. And a person who has been abused wouldn't abuse someone else. It's only asses who think dumb ass stuffs that makes no sense
😂😂 it's funny how we have trust issues
😂😂It’s funny how people will treat you like sh*t and wonder why you have trust issues
Then when her phone buzzes she runs to the other room
And then they still ruin it with "he's too nice and boring".
Never be someone’s first relationship after they were in a toxic one. They will not treat you well and sap all your love and insult you for being non-toxic.
Thats not even close to true, quit self reflecting and making people double guess shit. I got out of a toxic relationship two years ago and got with my new girl and she has made me a way better person so idk what you are on about🤷♂️
So that way the person who came out of the toxic relatioship would end being single forever. That's not a way to solve a problem
You realize this means you can just poison the well, right?
@@darioncarter2873 it is very very true just because you haven't experienced it does not mean its not a real thing thaf takes place aslo men and women are very different when it comes to the brain and how we each handle emotional scars
Bruh. This literally is toxicity. Way to be toxic. Congrats. 💀
afterwards:
“I broke his heart cause he was nice”
“I broke my own heart cause he was too polite to do it”
(TayTay Songs🥰)
She will eventually leave him stating “he was good guy but he was boring”
Facts! Women get tired of good men. That’s why I’m staying single.
He’s the dude they “say” they want.
If this girl starts reading the classics, she'll easily be a 10 some day.
Two days later: "sorry you're a great guy but *you're too nice"*
Wow this was me when i started dating my current boyfriend the one before was toxic. But off topic you are so pretty and you are my favorite celebrity! I hope you see this! ❤❤❤
Not all of us suck treat him good
@@gothamkinghtl876 i’m not saying everyone does i said that the one i was with was toxic when did i ever say every boy sucked?
I did this. Men need to run faster and sooner before you get hurt by the unnecessary hurdles that are 10 metres tall impossible to jump over.
She would cheat on the current guy and go back to the toxic ex 😂😂😂😂
And she still gonna leave you King. Hold that head high.
Yes. Her father was one. She learned from the best….Unfortunate for the genuinely nice guy.
I noticed something recently. People would call you crazy once they realize they cant manipulate you. They cant control you. Once they feel powerless, so they blame you for being unstable cuz they arent.
Fun fact: women will say men are untrustworthy but, when asked if they prefer a gentleman or a bad boy, will always go for the latter.
That’s a real man.❤
People have a right to privacy. Just bcuz your man doesn’t give you his passcode doesn’t mean his “toxic” it may signify that maybe someone who agrees with this video may have some sort of trust issues or deals with jealousy
No that’s a b*tch, if I was the “Evan” in this video he wouldn’t be my friend anymore, when she breaks up with this “not toxic guy” he will have 0 friends, like a real man would march into a storm of arrows with his homies with nothing but an axe like the Vikings of old, now we have these b*tch boys who are a pretty face and ignore those truly loyal to them
She did a badass job on this video. The dude faces vs the girl faces. ❤ it!
I need a man like this 😭💗
My gf lets me even read her diary.
It’s not toxic to hide your phone. Lot’s of people just aren’t comfortable with people seeing their messages.
It's very normal, nothing toxic unless that person is intentionally and suspiciously hiding it
@@excellero9766 yeah
This had me teary for people who experience this.
Girl same 😭
That's actually true, Jesus it's so strange
When you offer honest, love and trust, and your girl looks at you bewildered, while having trouble recognizing what you're offering, you think, "who are these 💩 for brains, that screw things up for us good guys?!"
She chooses those men because you "good guys" dont excite her. Any chick can get a stable guy but they crave chaotic relationship s
@@courtneyharris1006 We are not chicks and most women like good men. Those who like toxic men have a toxic past and are a bit damaged, often nit by their own fault.
@@torkakarshiro5170 I never said anything about most women. I was speaking on women who are somehow constantly in toxic relationships then make grand statements about finally not being in one. They pick toxic relationships because good ones are boring to them. Then they use good guys to trauma dump the aquired bs from the guys they primarily are attracted to. You may not be a chick but you interpret information like one.
@@torkakarshiro5170 most women DO NOT like good men. That's complete nonsense
Remember this: Women CHOOSE to be in those relationships. Those men aren't ruining anything.
Cool❤❤❤