I get this alot too although im only on my phone to take my mind off of bad thoughts. "it's all in your head" well no shit mom it's not coming out of my ass
When my mom tells me it’s all in my head I always think of this quote from Harry Potter “Of course it’s happening inside your head Harry but why on earth should that mean it’s not real?” It’s a very real quote about mental health, it helps me feel better when people make comments like that.
husky hwanhee samee I get that all the time like I just be using my phone to take my mind off of things but when I talk about this I just get yelled at nd read a book and watch ur gonna be all better like no that's not how it works
So glad this video was posted. My little brother committed suicide last September. And like Kat says. It’s hard for Latinos to talk about mental health. Really appreciate this video
Yes, this is very true in the Latin culture. We are often told to get over it and that nothing is wrong. Many have to keep their troubles to themselves which can do more harm than good. Hopefully things can change and people see mental health is important which should not be ignore.
Agreed. I've been seeing a psychiatrist, and my parents think that all I really need to get over my anxiety and depression is some sun and fresh air. I can't tell you how often I need to explain to them why it's not that simple. I can't make them understand. :(
mochi face Yeah, getting over the problem is not that easy and sometimes talking about it can help. This can lead to a higher suicide rates which can be prevented if we get the help.
I'm so happy you're bringing this to light. I work for a children's mental health program, and mental health is very real in children as young as 4 year old's, youth, and adults. We often hear parents say "Yo no estoy loco, my child is the one with the issues" "the school says he/she needs therapy IDK why? I think they're exaggerating" "nomas me quieren sacar dinero" and so many more excuses, but after they complete therapy the majority of the families notice a huge difference. Often times it's a family system issue, the more family support the better the outcome. Being aware of mental health issues is so important and can help save so many lives. It's okay to seek and get help!
Ya'll just drugging kids. You should be ashamed of yourself for working at that company. Children should live normal lives and not be under such stress. Most of the kids that get those medications will feel like something is wrong with them and don't be surprised if they commit suicide themselves. Those medications are the ones that cost the most depression which is why psychiatrists are making money off people's suffering. They want all people to be drugged. They are snakes.
I feel like sometimes some parents fail to understand how little they get their kids as individuals. I hear "But I talk to her a lot!" but often its about chores or her grades, not about what she feels about something or if she had a good day or concentrating how she felt about that A.
@Kush King wow saying "you people" to another minority group when black people get triggered by the phrase SMH. I am Hispanic and will tell you that yes you are right that Hispanics and Latinos (NOT ALL) can be racist towards black people but black people generalizing people outside their own race does not help anyone. Plus if you want people to respect you or other black people as a race black people have to do their part as well. Plus i lived in Washington DC for years when it was still considered chocolate city so yes i have known a lot black people who treated me like 💩 for many reasons including my race but I can't go around saying i would never trust or understand black people for that reason because that's generalizing and it won't help anyone.
This video hit me so hard. My dad is currently on his second year battling a mental health issue. He’s lost a brother and an a cousin, both to suicide. A close cousin of his has depression too. It’s so hard for our family, extended and close, to talk about this without thinking of the stigma that is associated with mental health. That having a mental health problem automatically means que uno “esta loco”. That’s not true We’re using these experiences to bring up the discussion to people in our hometown and within our own family. We’re encouraging each other to talk to therapist or seek help when we see the tale take signs. It’s been a blessing in disguise because mental health is something everyone experiences at some point in their lives. Good episode!
So true. I hid my depression from my family to save myself from all the ridicule. Luckily I made it out on my own, but there have been plenty who weren't so lucky and could've possibly been saved.
My parents never took me to therapy for my anxiety because they say that I'm just exaggerated. The rest of my family says that what this generation needs is "un buen golpe y dejar de intentar llamar la atención". My sister tried to commit suicide last year and they took her to therapy in secret. People really need to stop the stigma of mental care.
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Gabriela C. you’re parents are very foul for that shit
I’m so glad you brought up this topic, and many of the things you mentioned are true in the African American/black community also. It can often be hard to talk about mental health with my family because of the idea that it means something is wrong with you, or that you’re weak. But things like depression, anxiety, or mood disorders can and do happen to anybody. For a while I’ve been having a tough time and my dad is really the only person I can speak openly with about my issues because other family members will start treating me differently. But to anybody reading this, please know that it’s important to talk to someone you trust, seek resources that can help you, and remember that your experiences are valid and that dealing with mental health issues doesn’t make you a bad person or any less deserving of love and respect
In the Latin culture, mental health isn't seen as normal. Usually we're told to get over it or that having mental health issues makes you some crazy person. As a Latina who struggles with my mental health issues I just keep it to myself since my parents always make me do things as if that's going to make it all go away. 🤷🏽♀️♀️
Wow this hit beyond home for me & proud to be Latino and all . But this is the one thing that I genuinely despise about our culture . Our parents have zero empathy to give us the help we needed it and top that off with mental and psychological abuse . And you have a disaster on your hands especially if its from childhood .
Exactly, I've seen that around me a lotta times, I'm very glad that my mom is way more open minded about this and some other topics than the latino stereotype...
Latinos. We gotta work. We ain’t got time to think about mental health. We’ve been raised to move forward, work and survive which is incredible and scary at the same time
Blue roses 54 sad thing is if you have kids you teach them to ignore their selfesteem and needs. Later in life it can deeply affect them. Also kids that grow up in a house hold where everyone one "pushes forward" can result in abusive relationships when they grow up. But sadly everyone who "pushes forward" will say "por pendeja se busca que la maltraten" (since she/he is stupid she/he gets abused). Yes, I am talking from experience and I realize that not everyone will have this experience.
Agreed. I'm not disagreeing with the video. One cannot possiblly assume that the older generation did not push through all the same issues and remain the most hospitable and kind people in the world. There should be no stigma but if you're asking why ...it's because it's hard to go there for the older generation when it was never even an option for them.
@@moomoo0508 Wow, really have you got well based information to say that? You and the main comment are utterly biased by the typical latino mindset, yes, of course our past generations had to go through very tough experiences, but that doesn't erase the fact that those "supposedly" extra "kind" ppl are in majority extremely traditional and close minded, you gotta realize that nowadays it's not the 50s(even in those times people committed suicide) and the problem with no letting other people who are PROFESSIONALS in the topic help, might end up in unfortunate situations, the difference between our generation with theirs is that most of them don't get to comprehend our situation and(I've experienced it in my own flesh) they tend to dismiss our situations and propositions, which doesn't help at all, just makes a tough moment for someone even tougher, yeah, they had their own environment where they developed, but we clearly are not in the same situation and don't develop the same way, so why it's so hard to try to get the help a lotta people need? a clear indicator of this problem with that mindset is the tendency to refuse accepting SCIENTIFICALLY PROVEN FACTS, just like treating your mental health which btw makes a person incredibly sustainable and not a strong but UNSTABLE person, and it may be sad but it's a truth that a lot of past generations have very remarkable lack of emotion dealing, just cuz they were some way doesn't mean we shouldn't reach out for better methods, besides, would y'all really stay the same and not support something that may prevent a bunch of ppl from resorting suicide?
Fr like wtf we really thinking about this shit paisas go threw more shit being illegal and working and dealing with shit if you’re legal and you want to deal with shit stfu 🙄💀😂🤦♂️
Well you do have time for it because mental health effects everything. When you're older and your nervous system breaks down you will have no choice but to see a therapist and doctor. Believe me, mental health always affects physical health.
As an adult, ive realized there are a lot of Latino "Adults" that clearly need mental health professionals. A lot of conversations I hear between latinos are generally negative. Instead of seeking a professional to dump all of their problems on, they just rely on each other. I know a lot of latinos that obviously have anxiety. I know this because theyll get frustrated if they cant do something right. Eventually theyll lash out and throw a fit when their anxiety becomes too much for them. The thing with therapists is they wont provide medication unless they see it as necessary. Most of them will mostly just listen to your problems, give you coping mechanisms... I had a doctor that knew I was in college at the time. He also has a daughter. He told me I know that at your age things can get unbearable, I know medication helped my daughter so it might help you. It was a very mild dose of an anti anxiety/depression medicine. My doctor was a 50 year old immigrant from mexico but he changed his mind about medication because of his daughter. I know latino parents get offended often when younger latino-americans try to rock the boat but sometimes its important. Especially regarding our health and lifestyle.
True, we seem do lash out at people we love because we think they won't leave. But ask anyone who estranged themselves from their parents or divorced a spouse....
I´m from Venezuela, and even if I don´t live in USA I can relate to everything. I come from a very religious, traditionalist, conservative and close minded family. My parents divorced when I was 5. Both of my parents worked all day before and after the divorce and my little sister and I were left with my abusive grandmother the whole day, everyday. My parents didn´t pay attention to me at all if it wasn´t to hurt me emotionally or physically, and I was sexually abused when I was in high school. I had trouble socializing, eating, sleeping, I was in a state of constant anxiety and fear, I self-harmed, and for the main prize, I was bullied out of the house too, because of my scars, my bruises, my shyness, my short hair, my eyebags, my loneliness and more. I was a misfit my whole life and the only things that kept me alive was my sister, the music I love, and my pets. I first saw a psychologist when I was 11, and she was really not able to help a lot due to misinformation, and when I was 14 years old, I was diagnosed with Borderline personality disorder by another psychologist. I´ve been facing more and more stigma, because even paid psychiatrists and psychologists have refused to treat me. In my parents churches they call me "Satan" or "devil" because I´m gender non-conforming, agnostic, I have short dyed hair, and I dress "white". I´ve been called a lot of things in my short 18 years of life, but with every day that passes I am more determined to battle with that kind of stupidity, and I will never stop talking freely about my mental health and trying to listen and support others that have been through the same things as me
This is why I grew up chubby cuz I was just given food when I was upset... The “ what do you want me to do about it “ line But I think it comes from their background majority of Hispanics came here and lived in tough situations .. I know my parents did .. and I do know my parents had it tough when they came here and they really came up and religion and their church was a big help ... so they look at us having everything we need and they provided it for us so they think we should just be happy ... but as I got older I saw where they were coming from and they understand us a little more when it comes to mental health
I'm half Colombian, and I have extremely low tolerance for the way my Colombian relatives attempt to invalidate me with regard to my depression, and anxiety. My best ally is my Siamese cat who's always by my side.
True for sure! My family is slowly starting to come to their senses after 2 suicides in our circle of family. Thank you for starting the conversation with others because we need to be aware of what's going on!
Struggled with depression and anxiety most of my life. When I was 19 I didn't leave my house for a whole 5 months and dropped out of school. I couldn't talk and would have panic attacks when I wouldn't talk or text any of my family members for every other hour. My very Mexican parents got me help. I am now 23 and very confident! I can order my own food and even talk on the phone. Recently got a job y mis abuelos, who were also very supportive but hated me taking medication, cried when I gave them the news. So get the help you need! I know not everyone is as lucky as me to have supportive family members but get some free apps! Some schools have a therapist in them you can talk too! Find resources that will help you. Also it takes time for everything to just be okay so find whatever is best for you. You'll feel better soon.
I broke down today and mentioned to my mom that I need help and am looking into therapy and she shamed me saying how this generation is so spoiled and dramatic and how her and my dad did everything themselves and are fine and never complained It’s very discouraging because when she puts it that way it does make me feel very embarrassed like why am I like this? I just wish she was less harsh with her words
Because it’s true you should learn about our ancestors you think they cried and got depressed they did b it they had to put they’re feelings away and move on slaves they where today kids cry and kill people for stupid stuff
Mental health is the hardest health issue to have, when being Latinx. It’s easier to end up pregnant at 14 than asking to be taken to a therapist. I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder a few months back, still haven’t told anyone in my family. Also, I am not allowed to be in contact with anyone in my family because “soy la vergüenza de la familia”. All because I am a bisexual girl who doesn’t believe everything she is told is true. So not only do I have a mental health disorder but I’m also gay, therefore making me “every latinx parent’s nightmare “. I had to cut everyone out in order to be able to live with some peace. It’s sad because it’s very lonely. But when you surround yourself with people who are open minded, accepting, supportive, and just overall non judgmental you feel so much better. Being “without a family” is rough. But having a chosen family is better. Why? You’ll always have love and support, unconditionally. Unfortunately a lot of our Latinx families give us conditional love. “If you got to church with me I’ll love you more” simple easy example. Therapy is the most helpful thing ever created. Mental health is the most important thing to take care of, all your other body parts can be replaced.
I remember my mom telling me, " You're crazy if you think you need therapy. I'm sending you to insane asylum if you keep talking about being sad. That's a demon you have in you."
I think another reason why there is this is stigma against mental health care is due to immigration. My family cares very little for mental health for the same reasons this video mentions but also because they think they don’t have access to it. I come from a mixed status family myself. I would say I’m lucky I grew up in NYC during the Obama Era and DACA helped expand my coverage in health care. I’ve been to therapy a couple of times in my life since I deal with depression and anxiety. But my grandparents who also immigrated from Honduras are so against seeking help even though there probably is some sort of help here in NYC because they think that’s its only accessible to citizens. They’re getting there residency now after many years of being here. And only now in their late 60’s are they talking about seeking mental health help since they finally have access to it. It’s true that a good chunk of immigrants that come to the U.S. are Latino and many of them live in states where they probably don’t have access to it. They start to associate it with being white and rich and being a citizen. They learn to live without it and pass that on to their children.
I think particularly Hispanic parents have this idea that going to therapy is for crazy people... I'm an American and my parents are Hispanics born in Mexico.... My parents Never paid attention to my mental health... My mom battered me... Called me stupid, verbally abused me, threatened to call the police on me even if I wasn't violent..... My mom yelled at me so much, she has anger issues... Sometimes she thinks I steal from her... My mom is toxic, I freaking hate her with every fiber of my being.... Growing up she was always so hard on me.... She threw stuff at me... I freaking hate her so much...
True I have postpartum depression my baby is 3 months old now and I haven't told anyone I'm scared of telling a doctor because I feel like if I do they'll take her away from me.
Daniela Gonzalez they won't. It's quite common for women to get it, my mom didn't because she claims "estaba muy ocupado con el trabajo para pensar eso". But try to get help cause if it gets worse while not being treated, it could lead to dangerous consequences
Luckily Argentina is an exception regarding this, not only it is not tabu here but we have the highest count of psychologist per capita.....and having universal free health care helps too
Thank you for this video! I have been aware that the psychological field is nowhere near where it needs to be in regards to Latinx counselors. I have started a program to be a therapist and got nothing but a hard time from my family, at the beginning, but once I began to address the facts that nuestra raza/gente also need helped and showed it to them it became clear to them! As a future psychotherapist I have been wanting and looking for ways that addressing mental health and its stigma could help in the Latinx community. Thank you Mitú and keep up the good work! I do nightly meditation, it even helps to fall asleep while doing it. It does pretty well by me! The other way that I address my mental health is by GOING TO THERAPY!
I love watching these videos! Im not latino, im african american and Nigerian but the culture similarities between black and latino people are so interesting. In fact, most stereotypes tacked on black people also apply to latino people, they are just perceived somewhat differently at times(ie angry black women =masculine, angry latina = crazy/irrational)
What helps me when I get stressed out is to put on my headphones and listen to Celia Cruz. She always picks me up, and it reminds me of my childhood, my hometown, etc.
The latinos' culture had always been a very strong culture that have to fight to survive. I dont know who invent that "latinos are weak and lazy" because that is a fking lie. Even nowadays we have to work hard to survive because all the injusticce that our country make us. Now work is important than health in our culture. Even physical health. For a latino been sick is not a reason to stop working, even when we are very sick. And this idea is killing us. The stress and preasure that we have, plus the high demands that we have to reach in our work is affecting us. WE HAVE TO CHANGE THAT WAY OF THINKING OR OUR SOCEITY WILL DIE.
Hi Kat. Love your show. I've been to therapy and so have my family members, we are mexican. I agree with you. By me being vocal and in peace with my progress and results of therapy I've seen friends and family be open for it. I do want to share. My therapist was a Hong Kong immigrant. And that helped fully. I tested two white therapist and they were very robatic didn't get me or comprehend me. And I noticed with my therapist being Asian we shared being immigrants. We shared the racism and being a woman. And also the spiritual metaphysical believes of life my mexican ancestors gave me. She was able to see me in my struggle I had then and respect my culture. But also in giving awareness to my own path of thriving as a mexican woman, not a minority, and move past it. To me that helped the most. 🤗
My mum and my aunt are psychologists and I have been going to therapy for as long as I can remember. Sadly my mum can't practice psychology here since she didn't get her degrees in the US. Maybe that's why there is a lack of Hispanic mental health professionals in the US; many weren't educated here.
I’m Dominican, a psychology major and just started going to therapy myself (can’t help others if you haven’t gotten help first) and it’s the best decision I’ve ever made. As an almost Psychologist and as a client/patient I say to whoever reads this comment: please, go to therapy. No matter how big or small, everyone can benefit from seeking help.
You're my all time favorite youtuber ever! This is such a big problem in our community. My father struggles with mental illness and would rage if anyone told him to get therapy. So many latino kids grow up basically mentally supporting their parents and then the cycle continues. I see a therapist because it helps to have a third party person who doesnt have family views of me is so helpful. Plus it takes a huge stress off of my relationships with family and friends. My prima is a psychologist now and telling our family that it is so important for help is always a serious struggle. I have several mental health issues and I see a therapist, research them, work out, eat brain healthy food, and practice positive affirmations to deal with it. Somedays it doesn't work or i canf bring myself to do it. But on those days i call the people that i know will understand and fight the part of my brain that says " no one cares about you or your problems. Dont be a burden." Having a small supportive circle of friends and family makes all the difference in the world on the days that I cant get out of bed to take care of myself. I'm so grateful that you made this video! It was so well done, thorough, and extremely necessary. Thank you!!
This was really amazing to hear as someone who has struggled with anorexia and depression and both my parents still believing that I only do it for attention just making it worse
I hate it I remember when I was younger I couldn’t speak to my parents about my problems with myself. I didn’t grow up with expressing my feelings. Because my parents never asked how my days were at school, when I was getting bullied everyday in elementary about me being Hispanic, or me having bushy eyebrows or my weight. I remember once when I was like 10 I didn’t know to how properly sweep and my mom got mad at me and hit me with a wire . Or that one time I burned the tortillas saying that I will never amount to anything. And saying that I’m a girl and that I should know how to clean and cook. Thanks mom Now here I am an insecure fuck that keeps to myself. That never wants to go out or speak I hate looking in mirrors .I remember My brother once found my self harm tool / my suicide notes underneath my bed and told my mom. And she had the nerve to say I was just seeking attention. And then Told that I needed Jesus . But thankfully I moved out of that house right on my 18th birthday too. I ended up going to a hospital to help with my problems. I’m working on myself and most definitely doing better
I can relate so much. I get called “loca” and get called sensitive when i tell my mom its a bad thing to say. Several months ago i was severely depressed and i was watching a show to try to cheer myself up a bit and my dad walks in and says “if youre depressed why are you watching tv?” Latino parents NEED to do better
When my mom found out I self harmed she told me to stop being such a drama queen and stop seeking attention. I had done it for 5 years already without anyone finding out. Clearly not for attention. We're Cuban immigrants. Hispanic parents can be so ignorant.
No they don’t y’all gotta wake up and understand they went threw worse especially our ancestors you are a disgrace to our people that’s why we survived colonialism.
My mom is very religious and thought mental health can be solved by praying but once we started a dialogue it helped. I understand the struggle of not getting through to people and am hoping everyone out there can get talking about mental health because it is serious. Btw Kat you are amazing and we love you
I've had a very traumatic past with my family. Till this day I get flashbacks and some days they get so deep that I burst out crying. I don't know how to control the trauma so I run to natural medicines like ganja. It gets even more difficult when my mother and grandmother ignore the abuse that they laid on me and they tell me that I'm crazy and that it's all in my head. The worst part is when my grandma tells me that when I get flashbacks and a panicking anxiety it is because I want it and that I force myself to have it. I mean I remember being a teen and trying to drink myself to death because I couldn't get the help that I so desperately needed. They thought tough love was the only way to control me but it only made things worse. Now that I am grown, I have a distrust for doctors, I'm afraid of the world, and I panic at any sign of stress. I've lived my whole life like a beaten dog ready for another strike. I was their human punching bag, being told that I had demonic forces and that I was crazy and that's why bad things happen to me. I guess I can't blame them because they both went to a catholic school out in Mexico City were they too were punished by force. I guess that's how they grew up and thought denial of mental health and corporal punishment were normal human things? Or, maybe I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt? This is really sad to know that their are others like my grandmother and mother out there. At the same time, reading through the comments it's nice to know that I am not alone and that it's truly not me who is the crazy one. It's almost as if they call us the crazy ones and tell us that we are the ones who have problems BUT they are truly the ones with the problem and don't seek help for it so they pick on us (their kin). But Idk, what do I know? I'm just a crazy person, nothing I say is valid.
Hacked Account- Do NOT click any links my family fucked me up too. I'm 27 and when I have flashbacks I still bawl my eyes out as if all the abuse happened yesterday. The most frustrating thing is that my mom denies everything and pretends she doesn't remember anything even when I describe it in vivid detail. It makes it hard to not have resentment and to forgive her.
As a Latino learning to become a clinical and school counselor, this is something that always gets forgotten in my classes. There is little research out there supporting who we are and why we need more Latino’s in the Mental Health field. Hopefully as time goes by there’ll be more Latino’s in the Mental Health field to destroy the stigma we have. When I’m feeling down and depressed, I start listening to music that cheers me up. Music will always be cheap and easy to get ahold of, which why I use it and recommend it to everyone.
Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU! Being a 3rd generation Mexican-American, it is so frustratingly difficult to explain to my mom why I see a therapist and why she should consider going as well. One of her biggest criticisms is always that only people who are crazy or seek attention go and that they’re gong to send me to a psych ward. Until she goes in for a session, she’ll never understand the concept of a safe space and healthy living habits, but this video hits the head on the nail. I love this series!!!
I'm very lucky to have parents who are supportive and care about my mental health. Especially my father who is always asking me how I'm doing and if I'm okay.
The OGs back home had to survive day to day and they had to worry about putting food on the table and keeping a roof over their head so there was no family psychologist to go see, the doctor was already expensive enough. That's why I try to understand them instead of being so rough on them on topics like this. Remember that going to college is normal to most of the latino youth today in the US when most of the family back home didn't even finish elementary. That's why they don't really see anything you would be depressed about
thank you for this video! I’ve been so excited for an episode like this! I always try to talk openly about my mental health with my family it’s really hard but i think they are starting to notice that I’m not so depressed anymore and I hope that seeing me get better will eventually help them seek help for their own traumas
Este episodio fue de gran ayuda, mi familia en general tiene muchos problemas de salud mental, principalmente depresión y ezquisofrenia, y el hecho de que no habláramos tanto acerca de ese tema ha terminado costando vidas en mi familia, así que muchas gracias por hacer este tipo de contenido
As a Latino, I go every two week to so see a therapist. That stigma still holds true in my family, but it helps me with my anxiety and helping me deal with the loss of my father. It’s help me get a better understanding of how to cope with it better. Therapy helps me to keep myself grounded , that’s been much help I’m thankful for it.
Speaking from personal experience, I am so thankful I haven't had to endure this type of situation in my Latin household, since almost every familiar member close to me has had to endure some form of mental illness that being depression or anxiety, which are the most common in my family. I've never been told, "estás loca, o no exageres" because they understand the hardships of having to deal with something that is, at times, out of your control or grasp. This widens my vision on comprehending that even though we think, in this case, Latin society has advance, in reality, some of the most basic human needs that should be respected, have drifted off and are not being helped or heard of. I sometimes get mad at these videos because in my mind, I think, "How could anyone negar su hijo o hija when they need the help and care they should have?" Maybe it's because as a youth, I was sheltered from the truths or realities that other familias Latinas had to go through. I truly hope everyone out there struggling with their own mental hardships finds someone who can give them the personal care they need and are able to receive the same love and understanding my family gives me. :)
Thank you for making this video. A step closer to normalizing mental health 👍🏽 I wonder if there are more Latinos represented in licenses that require a master's degree such as LCSWs, LMFTs, and LPCCs as these licenses are more affordable than pursuing a psyd or PhD. LCSWs, LMFTs, and LPCCs also tend to be faster to complete compared to a doctoral degree, which could be an incentive for some Latinos as most help out their families financially and pursuing a doctoral degree would perhaps derail them from providing assistance to their families. I really appreciate you bringing a good topic of conversation 😊
Thanks Kat for talking about mental health it is hard and expensive when trying to find a therapist. Or even talking about it with family members when it’s considered to be a crazy thing for locos. I started to have anxiety and feeling depressed the middle of last year....it’s been tough but I usually do exercise to help me out release my feelings. I did went to a therapist but got too expensive...so now I’m trying to keep myself busy by being productive.
Yes, so much, yes. I'm an Ecuadorian psychology student and I agree with you so much. Latinos are so exceptical towards mental health. Eliminating the stigma, is the most important step towards mental health education in our community.
I feel this so deeply! I'm the only person in my family diagnosed with a mental disorder, bipolar 1. It's probably genetic. a ridiculous amount of family members show very obvious signs of it but instead of seeking help they suffer. Any destructive behavior is gossiped about behind their back but we all act civil at family get togethers to maintain the status quo.
Good luck to everyone fighting their mental health battles. Society is changing it’s attitude slowly but surely where this is concerned. Be part of the change for the better.
I’ve been debating my college major over and over but when you said there’s not many latinx therapists, I felt the need to not only become one and also better my Spanish so I can communicate better with them or family members
My psychiatrist put me on anti depressant anti anxiety pills and they made me feel numb. To the point that even if I wanted to cry, I couldnt. It was a worse feeling. I'd rather feel bad than nothing at all. I have been using Cannabis daily for about 6 months and I can honestly say, my depression and anxiety have gotten so much better. I havent cut in months and the thoughts of suicide are rare instead of mutiple times a day. Its not for everyone but it has helped me a ton. It helps me enjoy the small things in life, like conversations with my kids. Keeping away all the thoughts of no self worth.
Same my mental health has been in the decline for 13 years, family looks down on others who get help. They think people with depression should stop faking it and start to work and the depression will go away. Wich no it gets worse
Something that I have recently added to my healthcare routine is a puppy. Though puppies are a lot of work, she is a great reminder that I need to get up, move around, get some sun, and live.
I am latina and fourteen and ever since I was ten I want to be a therapist and now I want to be one even more after I heard there is a small amount of therapists who are Latinos I have depression and anxiety and I want to help other people
This is also very true in the black community as well. Some don't realize how important seeking help is. It's not healthy to keep those problems bottled up.
Well Argentina has the more psycologists per capita in the world and even tough there's still a stigma around it, going to a psycologyst, dping therapy, etc it's far more normalized than in any other countries I'd been (and we are proud of it). I guess tho she is more specifically referring to the latino community in the united states
love this video and can completely relate even right now tbh! This was just another sign to me that mental health is very important and should seek out to better myself and others.
As someone with high functioning autism in definitely understanding this video I'm Dominican and I've started calling my own therapist la locura it's mostly because of my parents influence I'm not going to stop going to her but it's still kind of sad and a little funny that they've influenced me like that towards my mental health
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Cathy A Your therapist deserves respect. That’s not cool at all! 😒
Growing up my parents shared with me that they were scared, I would inherit the "TRISTESA" gene. Suicide ran on both sides of my Latin family. I remember asking them what happened to these relatives and if they ever sought help. They told me that to their knowledge, all these young people could do, was suffer in silence. That weighed pretty heavy on me when my seventeen year old cousin out of no where took his life. Reach out if you can; and if someone reaches out to you please Listen.
This is so true, even I sound like my mom sometimes when I tell people to just deal with it, I feel the guilt of feeling sad randomly for no reason cause my life ain't bad at all. Its also too expensive to get help, I look at the cost and I'm like, yup i don't got that so ill just work with it lol
Writing down my shity days on my put out notebook feels amazing, since I'm brazilian and nobody in my home speaks english it feels nice and safe for me to do it in another language.
yo also! i got a new therapist and just hearing that she relates hit me harder than the other white therapists I have had. I am peruvian and she is ecuadorian. I just realized most of my past therapists were not latino def set me back
It took a long time for my madre to come to terms with her son going to therapy. After about a year, she saw how helpful it was for me and she decided to seek therapy for herself. 🙏🏽
i've gotten the "no exageres, todo está en tu mente y es porque siempre estas en ese pinche teléfono"
I get this alot too although im only on my phone to take my mind off of bad thoughts. "it's all in your head" well no shit mom it's not coming out of my ass
Yess, I get that a lot too. My mum will take my phone away if I tell her about my anxiety or depression and just yells at me 😞
When my mom tells me it’s all in my head I always think of this quote from Harry Potter “Of course it’s happening inside your head Harry but why on earth should that mean it’s not real?” It’s a very real quote about mental health, it helps me feel better when people make comments like that.
husky hwanhee so *SO* true
husky hwanhee samee I get that all the time like I just be using my phone to take my mind off of things but when I talk about this I just get yelled at nd read a book and watch ur gonna be all better like no that's not how it works
So glad this video was posted. My little brother committed suicide last September. And like Kat says. It’s hard for Latinos to talk about mental health. Really appreciate this video
David Cabrera Damn sorry for your loss.
David I'm so sorry. Please be strong in memory of him. ❤
I’m so sorry about your brother.
I am sooo sorry 😢
May he rest in peace. Sending love, support, and hugs to you 💕💕💕
Yes, this is very true in the Latin culture. We are often told to get over it and that nothing is wrong. Many have to keep their troubles to themselves which can do more harm than good. Hopefully things can change and people see mental health is important which should not be ignore.
Agreed. I've been seeing a psychiatrist, and my parents think that all I really need to get over my anxiety and depression is some sun and fresh air. I can't tell you how often I need to explain to them why it's not that simple. I can't make them understand.
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mochi face Yeah, getting over the problem is not that easy and sometimes talking about it can help. This can lead to a higher suicide rates which can be prevented if we get the help.
David So!!!! :D
White people nonsense!
As same as in Indonesia too
She's hit 3 major issues in my life in a row, Jesus you're on a roll Kat!
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I'm so happy you're bringing this to light. I work for a children's mental health program, and mental health is very real in children as young as 4 year old's, youth, and adults. We often hear parents say "Yo no estoy loco, my child is the one with the issues" "the school says he/she needs therapy IDK why? I think they're exaggerating" "nomas me quieren sacar dinero" and so many more excuses, but after they complete therapy the majority of the families notice a huge difference. Often times it's a family system issue, the more family support the better the outcome. Being aware of mental health issues is so important and can help save so many lives. It's okay to seek and get help!
Ya'll just drugging kids. You should be ashamed of yourself for working at that company. Children should live normal lives and not be under such stress. Most of the kids that get those medications will feel like something is wrong with them and don't be surprised if they commit suicide themselves. Those medications are the ones that cost the most depression which is why psychiatrists are making money off people's suffering. They want all people to be drugged. They are snakes.
I feel like sometimes some parents fail to understand how little they get their kids as individuals. I hear "But I talk to her a lot!" but often its about chores or her grades, not about what she feels about something or if she had a good day or concentrating how she felt about that A.
This is common in the black community as well.
Latino/black communities face the same issues in our communities.
@kush King ... And we're also xenophobic amongst ourselves. Blaming them won't help.
kush King yettt we were the first in the America’s to end slavery dumbass
Kush King idk where u live but where I live black and Latinos are together
@Kush King wow saying "you people" to another minority group when black people get triggered by the phrase SMH. I am Hispanic and will tell you that yes you are right that Hispanics and Latinos (NOT ALL) can be racist towards black people but black people generalizing people outside their own race does not help anyone. Plus if you want people to respect you or other black people as a race black people have to do their part as well. Plus i lived in Washington DC for years when it was still considered chocolate city so yes i have known a lot black people who treated me like 💩 for many reasons including my race but I can't go around saying i would never trust or understand black people for that reason because that's generalizing and it won't help anyone.
This video hit me so hard.
My dad is currently on his second year battling a mental health issue. He’s lost a brother and an a cousin, both to suicide. A close cousin of his has depression too.
It’s so hard for our family, extended and close, to talk about this without thinking of the stigma that is associated with mental health. That having a mental health problem automatically means que uno “esta loco”. That’s not true
We’re using these experiences to bring up the discussion to people in our hometown and within our own family. We’re encouraging each other to talk to therapist or seek help when we see the tale take signs. It’s been a blessing in disguise because mental health is something everyone experiences at some point in their lives.
Good episode!
So true. I hid my depression from my family to save myself from all the ridicule. Luckily I made it out on my own, but there have been plenty who weren't so lucky and could've possibly been saved.
Hey, I hope you've been doing better. Please know and remember that so many of us are here for you, stay strong. Lots of love, support, and hugs 💕💕
My parents never took me to therapy for my anxiety because they say that I'm just exaggerated. The rest of my family says that what this generation needs is "un buen golpe y dejar de intentar llamar la atención". My sister tried to commit suicide last year and they took her to therapy in secret. People really need to stop the stigma of mental care.
Gabriela C. you’re parents are very foul for that shit
I'm so sorry for all of that, stay strong 💕💕
I’m so glad you brought up this topic, and many of the things you mentioned are true in the African American/black community also. It can often be hard to talk about mental health with my family because of the idea that it means something is wrong with you, or that you’re weak. But things like depression, anxiety, or mood disorders can and do happen to anybody. For a while I’ve been having a tough time and my dad is really the only person I can speak openly with about my issues because other family members will start treating me differently. But to anybody reading this, please know that it’s important to talk to someone you trust, seek resources that can help you, and remember that your experiences are valid and that dealing with mental health issues doesn’t make you a bad person or any less deserving of love and respect
Lastima que este video no tiene subtitulos en espanol para que mis padres lo vean y entiendan.
In the Latin culture, mental health isn't seen as normal. Usually we're told to get over it or that having mental health issues makes you some crazy person. As a Latina who struggles with my mental health issues I just keep it to myself since my parents always make me do things as if that's going to make it all go away. 🤷🏽♀️♀️
The Kat call and Laura’s corner are the best thing mitu has 😭
Machismo has a lot to do with it
S. Zúñiga nah it’s because a lot of Latinos know that half of the shit is made up.
^look, a victim of cultural stigma
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I am how?
S. Zúñiga not you haha. The girl who replied to you first.
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Yes, that is correct. Many women reinforce this learned behavior, and sometimes much more.
Wow this hit beyond home for me & proud to be Latino and all . But this is the one thing that I genuinely despise about our culture . Our parents have zero empathy to give us the help we needed it and top that off with mental and psychological abuse . And you have a disaster on your hands especially if its from childhood .
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Yup
Exactly, I've seen that around me a lotta times, I'm very glad that my mom is way more open minded about this and some other topics than the latino stereotype...
Best comment ever! Hey we should be friends :) u got Instagram??
Latinos. We gotta work. We ain’t got time to think about mental health. We’ve been raised to move forward, work and survive which is incredible and scary at the same time
Blue roses 54 sad thing is if you have kids you teach them to ignore their selfesteem and needs. Later in life it can deeply affect them. Also kids that grow up in a house hold where everyone one "pushes forward" can result in abusive relationships when they grow up. But sadly everyone who "pushes forward" will say "por pendeja se busca que la maltraten" (since she/he is stupid she/he gets abused). Yes, I am talking from experience and I realize that not everyone will have this experience.
Agreed. I'm not disagreeing with the video. One cannot possiblly assume that the older generation did not push through all the same issues and remain the most hospitable and kind people in the world. There should be no stigma but if you're asking why ...it's because it's hard to go there for the older generation when it was never even an option for them.
@@moomoo0508 Wow, really have you got well based information to say that? You and the main comment are utterly biased by the typical latino mindset, yes, of course our past generations had to go through very tough experiences, but that doesn't erase the fact that those "supposedly" extra "kind" ppl are in majority extremely traditional and close minded, you gotta realize that nowadays it's not the 50s(even in those times people committed suicide) and the problem with no letting other people who are PROFESSIONALS in the topic help, might end up in unfortunate situations, the difference between our generation with theirs is that most of them don't get to comprehend our situation and(I've experienced it in my own flesh) they tend to dismiss our situations and propositions, which doesn't help at all, just makes a tough moment for someone even tougher, yeah, they had their own environment where they developed, but we clearly are not in the same situation and don't develop the same way, so why it's so hard to try to get the help a lotta people need? a clear indicator of this problem with that mindset is the tendency to refuse accepting SCIENTIFICALLY PROVEN FACTS, just like treating your mental health which btw makes a person incredibly sustainable and not a strong but UNSTABLE person, and it may be sad but it's a truth that a lot of past generations have very remarkable lack of emotion dealing, just cuz they were some way doesn't mean we shouldn't reach out for better methods, besides, would y'all really stay the same and not support something that may prevent a bunch of ppl from resorting suicide?
Fr like wtf we really thinking about this shit paisas go threw more shit being illegal and working and dealing with shit if you’re legal and you want to deal with shit stfu 🙄💀😂🤦♂️
Well you do have time for it because mental health effects everything. When you're older and your nervous system breaks down you will have no choice but to see a therapist and doctor. Believe me, mental health always affects physical health.
As an adult, ive realized there are a lot of Latino "Adults" that clearly need mental health professionals. A lot of conversations I hear between latinos are generally negative. Instead of seeking a professional to dump all of their problems on, they just rely on each other. I know a lot of latinos that obviously have anxiety. I know this because theyll get frustrated if they cant do something right. Eventually theyll lash out and throw a fit when their anxiety becomes too much for them. The thing with therapists is they wont provide medication unless they see it as necessary. Most of them will mostly just listen to your problems, give you coping mechanisms... I had a doctor that knew I was in college at the time. He also has a daughter. He told me I know that at your age things can get unbearable, I know medication helped my daughter so it might help you. It was a very mild dose of an anti anxiety/depression medicine. My doctor was a 50 year old immigrant from mexico but he changed his mind about medication because of his daughter. I know latino parents get offended often when younger latino-americans try to rock the boat but sometimes its important. Especially regarding our health and lifestyle.
True, we seem do lash out at people we love because we think they won't leave. But ask anyone who estranged themselves from their parents or divorced a spouse....
I´m from Venezuela, and even if I don´t live in USA I can relate to everything.
I come from a very religious, traditionalist, conservative and close minded family. My parents divorced when I was 5. Both of my parents worked all day before and after the divorce and my little sister and I were left with my abusive grandmother the whole day, everyday. My parents didn´t pay attention to me at all if it wasn´t to hurt me emotionally or physically, and I was sexually abused when I was in high school. I had trouble socializing, eating, sleeping, I was in a state of constant anxiety and fear, I self-harmed, and for the main prize, I was bullied out of the house too, because of my scars, my bruises, my shyness, my short hair, my eyebags, my loneliness and more. I was a misfit my whole life and the only things that kept me alive was my sister, the music I love, and my pets. I first saw a psychologist when I was 11, and she was really not able to help a lot due to misinformation, and when I was 14 years old, I was diagnosed with Borderline personality disorder by another psychologist. I´ve been facing more and more stigma, because even paid psychiatrists and psychologists have refused to treat me. In my parents churches they call me "Satan" or "devil" because I´m gender non-conforming, agnostic, I have short dyed hair, and I dress "white". I´ve been called a lot of things in my short 18 years of life, but with every day that passes I am more determined to battle with that kind of stupidity, and I will never stop talking freely about my mental health and trying to listen and support others that have been through the same things as me
This is why I grew up chubby cuz I was just given food when I was upset...
The “ what do you want me to do about it “ line
But I think it comes from their background majority of Hispanics came here and lived in tough situations .. I know my parents did .. and I do know my parents had it tough when they came here and they really came up and religion and their church was a big help ... so they look at us having everything we need and they provided it for us so they think we should just be happy ... but as I got older I saw where they were coming from and they understand us a little more when it comes to mental health
I'm half Colombian, and I have extremely low tolerance for the way my Colombian relatives attempt to invalidate me with regard to my depression, and anxiety. My best ally is my Siamese cat who's always by my side.
True for sure! My family is slowly starting to come to their senses after 2 suicides in our circle of family. Thank you for starting the conversation with others because we need to be aware of what's going on!
Struggled with depression and anxiety most of my life. When I was 19 I didn't leave my house for a whole 5 months and dropped out of school. I couldn't talk and would have panic attacks when I wouldn't talk or text any of my family members for every other hour. My very Mexican parents got me help. I am now 23 and very confident! I can order my own food and even talk on the phone. Recently got a job y mis abuelos, who were also very supportive but hated me taking medication, cried when I gave them the news. So get the help you need! I know not everyone is as lucky as me to have supportive family members but get some free apps! Some schools have a therapist in them you can talk too! Find resources that will help you. Also it takes time for everything to just be okay so find whatever is best for you. You'll feel better soon.
Rubi Flower this is amazing , what medication helped u? thank u
From what I know
Its also common in parts of the following
The Black community
The Indian community and
The Middle Eastern community
I broke down today and mentioned to my mom that I need help and am looking into therapy and she shamed me saying how this generation is so spoiled and dramatic and how her and my dad did everything themselves and are fine and never complained
It’s very discouraging because when she puts it that way it does make me feel very embarrassed like why am I like this? I just wish she was less harsh with her words
Because it’s true you should learn about our ancestors you think they cried and got depressed they did b it they had to put they’re feelings away and move on slaves they where today kids cry and kill people for stupid stuff
Mental health is the hardest health issue to have, when being Latinx. It’s easier to end up pregnant at 14 than asking to be taken to a therapist. I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder a few months back, still haven’t told anyone in my family. Also, I am not allowed to be in contact with anyone in my family because “soy la vergüenza de la familia”. All because I am a bisexual girl who doesn’t believe everything she is told is true. So not only do I have a mental health disorder but I’m also gay, therefore making me “every latinx parent’s nightmare “. I had to cut everyone out in order to be able to live with some peace. It’s sad because it’s very lonely. But when you surround yourself with people who are open minded, accepting, supportive, and just overall non judgmental you feel so much better. Being “without a family” is rough. But having a chosen family is better. Why? You’ll always have love and support, unconditionally. Unfortunately a lot of our Latinx families give us conditional love. “If you got to church with me I’ll love you more” simple easy example. Therapy is the most helpful thing ever created. Mental health is the most important thing to take care of, all your other body parts can be replaced.
I remember my mom telling me, " You're crazy if you think you need therapy. I'm sending you to insane asylum if you keep talking about being sad. That's a demon you have in you."
I think another reason why there is this is stigma against mental health care is due to immigration. My family cares very little for mental health for the same reasons this video mentions but also because they think they don’t have access to it. I come from a mixed status family myself. I would say I’m lucky I grew up in NYC during the Obama Era and DACA helped expand my coverage in health care. I’ve been to therapy a couple of times in my life since I deal with depression and anxiety. But my grandparents who also immigrated from Honduras are so against seeking help even though there probably is some sort of help here in NYC because they think that’s its only accessible to citizens. They’re getting there residency now after many years of being here. And only now in their late 60’s are they talking about seeking mental health help since they finally have access to it. It’s true that a good chunk of immigrants that come to the U.S. are Latino and many of them live in states where they probably don’t have access to it. They start to associate it with being white and rich and being a citizen. They learn to live without it and pass that on to their children.
I think particularly Hispanic parents have this idea that going to therapy is for crazy people... I'm an American and my parents are Hispanics born in Mexico.... My parents Never paid attention to my mental health... My mom battered me... Called me stupid, verbally abused me, threatened to call the police on me even if I wasn't violent..... My mom yelled at me so much, she has anger issues... Sometimes she thinks I steal from her... My mom is toxic, I freaking hate her with every fiber of my being.... Growing up she was always so hard on me.... She threw stuff at me... I freaking hate her so much...
I love the kat call
True I have postpartum depression my baby is 3 months old now and I haven't told anyone I'm scared of telling a doctor because I feel like if I do they'll take her away from me.
Daniela Gonzalez they won't. It's quite common for women to get it, my mom didn't because she claims "estaba muy ocupado con el trabajo para pensar eso". But try to get help cause if it gets worse while not being treated, it could lead to dangerous consequences
milka bolanos Thank you
Daniela Gonzalez np
Luckily Argentina is an exception regarding this, not only it is not tabu here but we have the highest count of psychologist per capita.....and having universal free health care helps too
Thank you for this video! I have been aware that the psychological field is nowhere near where it needs to be in regards to Latinx counselors. I have started a program to be a therapist and got nothing but a hard time from my family, at the beginning, but once I began to address the facts that nuestra raza/gente also need helped and showed it to them it became clear to them! As a future psychotherapist I have been wanting and looking for ways that addressing mental health and its stigma could help in the Latinx community. Thank you Mitú and keep up the good work!
I do nightly meditation, it even helps to fall asleep while doing it. It does pretty well by me! The other way that I address my mental health is by GOING TO THERAPY!
I love watching these videos! Im not latino, im african american and Nigerian but the culture similarities between black and latino people are so interesting. In fact, most stereotypes tacked on black people also apply to latino people, they are just perceived somewhat differently at times(ie angry black women =masculine, angry latina = crazy/irrational)
What helps me when I get stressed out is to put on my headphones and listen to Celia Cruz. She always picks me up, and it reminds me of my childhood, my hometown, etc.
The latinos' culture had always been a very strong culture that have to fight to survive. I dont know who invent that "latinos are weak and lazy" because that is a fking lie. Even nowadays we have to work hard to survive because all the injusticce that our country make us. Now work is important than health in our culture. Even physical health. For a latino been sick is not a reason to stop working, even when we are very sick. And this idea is killing us. The stress and preasure that we have, plus the high demands that we have to reach in our work is affecting us. WE HAVE TO CHANGE THAT WAY OF THINKING OR OUR SOCEITY WILL DIE.
Hi Kat. Love your show. I've been to therapy and so have my family members, we are mexican. I agree with you. By me being vocal and in peace with my progress and results of therapy I've seen friends and family be open for it. I do want to share. My therapist was a Hong Kong immigrant. And that helped fully. I tested two white therapist and they were very robatic didn't get me or comprehend me. And I noticed with my therapist being Asian we shared being immigrants. We shared the racism and being a woman. And also the spiritual metaphysical believes of life my mexican ancestors gave me. She was able to see me in my struggle I had then and respect my culture. But also in giving awareness to my own path of thriving as a mexican woman, not a minority, and move past it. To me that helped the most. 🤗
My mum and my aunt are psychologists and I have been going to therapy for as long as I can remember. Sadly my mum can't practice psychology here since she didn't get her degrees in the US. Maybe that's why there is a lack of Hispanic mental health professionals in the US; many weren't educated here.
I’m Dominican, a psychology major and just started going to therapy myself (can’t help others if you haven’t gotten help first) and it’s the best decision I’ve ever made. As an almost Psychologist and as a client/patient I say to whoever reads this comment: please, go to therapy. No matter how big or small, everyone can benefit from seeking help.
You're my all time favorite youtuber ever! This is such a big problem in our community. My father struggles with mental illness and would rage if anyone told him to get therapy. So many latino kids grow up basically mentally supporting their parents and then the cycle continues. I see a therapist because it helps to have a third party person who doesnt have family views of me is so helpful. Plus it takes a huge stress off of my relationships with family and friends. My prima is a psychologist now and telling our family that it is so important for help is always a serious struggle.
I have several mental health issues and I see a therapist, research them, work out, eat brain healthy food, and practice positive affirmations to deal with it. Somedays it doesn't work or i canf bring myself to do it. But on those days i call the people that i know will understand and fight the part of my brain that says " no one cares about you or your problems. Dont be a burden."
Having a small supportive circle of friends and family makes all the difference in the world on the days that I cant get out of bed to take care of myself.
I'm so grateful that you made this video! It was so well done, thorough, and extremely necessary. Thank you!!
This was really amazing to hear as someone who has struggled with anorexia and depression and both my parents still believing that I only do it for attention just making it worse
Good job on this video! I'm not Latino but I enjoy watching videos from this channel. Hi from Bosnia and Herzegovina, Europe! 😄
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I hate it I remember when I was younger I couldn’t speak to my parents about my problems with myself. I didn’t grow up with expressing my feelings. Because my parents never asked how my days were at school, when I was getting bullied everyday in elementary about me being Hispanic, or me having bushy eyebrows or my weight. I remember once when I was like 10 I didn’t know to how properly sweep and my mom got mad at me and hit me with a wire . Or that one time I burned the tortillas saying that I will never amount to anything. And saying that I’m a girl and that I should know how to clean and cook. Thanks mom Now here I am an insecure fuck that keeps to myself. That never wants to go out or speak I hate looking in mirrors .I remember My brother once found my self harm tool / my suicide notes underneath my bed and told my mom. And she had the nerve to say I was just seeking attention. And then Told that I needed Jesus . But thankfully I moved out of that house right on my 18th birthday too. I ended up going to a hospital to help with my problems. I’m working on myself and most definitely doing better
Good job, you need to do something good for you.
I’m Mexican American and I go to therapy and my mom is not against it but supports it
I can relate so much. I get called “loca” and get called sensitive when i tell my mom its a bad thing to say.
Several months ago i was severely depressed and i was watching a show to try to cheer myself up a bit and my dad walks in and says “if youre depressed why are you watching tv?” Latino parents NEED to do better
When my parents found out i used to self harm they threatened to send me to military school if i ever did it again
When my mom found out I self harmed she told me to stop being such a drama queen and stop seeking attention. I had done it for 5 years already without anyone finding out. Clearly not for attention. We're Cuban immigrants. Hispanic parents can be so ignorant.
No they don’t y’all gotta wake up and understand they went threw worse especially our ancestors you are a disgrace to our people that’s why we survived colonialism.
When I was in Mexico, a family member told me “you’re not depressed! It’s all in your head!” In Spanish.
I hate when parents say "You're not crazy! You don't need a psychologist" you don't need to be crazy to see a psychologist
This is awesome. I’m going back to school to become a therapist and this proves why it’s important for more of us to get into mental healthcare.
My mom is very religious and thought mental health can be solved by praying but once we started a dialogue it helped. I understand the struggle of not getting through to people and am hoping everyone out there can get talking about mental health because it is serious. Btw Kat you are amazing and we love you
I've had a very traumatic past with my family. Till this day I get flashbacks and some days they get so deep that I burst out crying. I don't know how to control the trauma so I run to natural medicines like ganja. It gets even more difficult when my mother and grandmother ignore the abuse that they laid on me and they tell me that I'm crazy and that it's all in my head.
The worst part is when my grandma tells me that when I get flashbacks and a panicking anxiety it is because I want it and that I force myself to have it. I mean I remember being a teen and trying to drink myself to death because I couldn't get the help that I so desperately needed. They thought tough love was the only way to control me but it only made things worse.
Now that I am grown, I have a distrust for doctors, I'm afraid of the world, and I panic at any sign of stress. I've lived my whole life like a beaten dog ready for another strike. I was their human punching bag, being told that I had demonic forces and that I was crazy and that's why bad things happen to me.
I guess I can't blame them because they both went to a catholic school out in Mexico City were they too were punished by force. I guess that's how they grew up and thought denial of mental health and corporal punishment were normal human things? Or, maybe I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt?
This is really sad to know that their are others like my grandmother and mother out there. At the same time, reading through the comments it's nice to know that I am not alone and that it's truly not me who is the crazy one. It's almost as if they call us the crazy ones and tell us that we are the ones who have problems BUT they are truly the ones with the problem and don't seek help for it so they pick on us (their kin).
But Idk, what do I know? I'm just a crazy person, nothing I say is valid.
Hacked Account- Do NOT click any links my family fucked me up too. I'm 27 and when I have flashbacks I still bawl my eyes out as if all the abuse happened yesterday. The most frustrating thing is that my mom denies everything and pretends she doesn't remember anything even when I describe it in vivid detail. It makes it hard to not have resentment and to forgive her.
As a Latino learning to become a clinical and school counselor, this is something that always gets forgotten in my classes. There is little research out there supporting who we are and why we need more Latino’s in the Mental Health field. Hopefully as time goes by there’ll be more Latino’s in the Mental Health field to destroy the stigma we have.
When I’m feeling down and depressed, I start listening to music that cheers me up. Music will always be cheap and easy to get ahold of, which why I use it and recommend it to everyone.
Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU! Being a 3rd generation Mexican-American, it is so frustratingly difficult to explain to my mom why I see a therapist and why she should consider going as well. One of her biggest criticisms is always that only people who are crazy or seek attention go and that they’re gong to send me to a psych ward. Until she goes in for a session, she’ll never understand the concept of a safe space and healthy living habits, but this video hits the head on the nail. I love this series!!!
I'm very lucky to have parents who are supportive and care about my mental health. Especially my father who is always asking me how I'm doing and if I'm okay.
The OGs back home had to survive day to day and they had to worry about putting food on the table and keeping a roof over their head so there was no family psychologist to go see, the doctor was already expensive enough. That's why I try to understand them instead of being so rough on them on topics like this. Remember that going to college is normal to most of the latino youth today in the US when most of the family back home didn't even finish elementary. That's why they don't really see anything you would be depressed about
Except they probably had something to be depressed about.
thank you for this video! I’ve been so excited for an episode like this! I always try to talk openly about my mental health with my family it’s really hard but i think they are starting to notice that I’m not so depressed anymore and I hope that seeing me get better will eventually help them seek help for their own traumas
This is why I’m so happy to have a strong and powerful Latina psychologist for a mom 🇧🇷💖.
Y’all don’t get the big audience you deserve ! Keep going !
So relatable wish every Latino parent would see this thank you
Este episodio fue de gran ayuda, mi familia en general tiene muchos problemas de salud mental, principalmente depresión y ezquisofrenia, y el hecho de que no habláramos tanto acerca de ese tema ha terminado costando vidas en mi familia, así que muchas gracias por hacer este tipo de contenido
As a Latino, I go every two week to so see a therapist. That stigma still holds true in my family, but it helps me with my anxiety and helping me deal with the loss of my father. It’s help me get a better understanding of how to cope with it better. Therapy helps me to keep myself grounded , that’s been much help I’m thankful for it.
If you do talk about mental heath they just say limpia y se te quita 😭
My parents don’t understand saying it’s a phase and that I’ll get over it but my anxiety says otherwise.
Seriously a great video! Thank you for this! I hope more people see this especially those who need it💛💛💛
My Katcall girl is back. Merry Christmas to you and your Family and may the true spirit of Christmas shine in your heart and light your path.
Speaking from personal experience, I am so thankful I haven't had to endure this type of situation in my Latin household, since almost every familiar member close to me has had to endure some form of mental illness that being depression or anxiety, which are the most common in my family. I've never been told, "estás loca, o no exageres" because they understand the hardships of having to deal with something that is, at times, out of your control or grasp. This widens my vision on comprehending that even though we think, in this case, Latin society has advance, in reality, some of the most basic human needs that should be respected, have drifted off and are not being helped or heard of. I sometimes get mad at these videos because in my mind, I think, "How could anyone negar su hijo o hija when they need the help and care they should have?" Maybe it's because as a youth, I was sheltered from the truths or realities that other familias Latinas had to go through. I truly hope everyone out there struggling with their own mental hardships finds someone who can give them the personal care they need and are able to receive the same love and understanding my family gives me. :)
Thank you for making this video. A step closer to normalizing mental health 👍🏽
I wonder if there are more Latinos represented in licenses that require a master's degree such as LCSWs, LMFTs, and LPCCs as these licenses are more affordable than pursuing a psyd or PhD. LCSWs, LMFTs, and LPCCs also tend to be faster to complete compared to a doctoral degree, which could be an incentive for some Latinos as most help out their families financially and pursuing a doctoral degree would perhaps derail them from providing assistance to their families.
I really appreciate you bringing a good topic of conversation 😊
Thanks Kat for talking about mental health it is hard and expensive when trying to find a therapist. Or even talking about it with family members when it’s considered to be a crazy thing for locos. I started to have anxiety and feeling depressed the middle of last year....it’s been tough but I usually do exercise to help me out release my feelings. I did went to a therapist but got too expensive...so now I’m trying to keep myself busy by being productive.
Yes, so much, yes. I'm an Ecuadorian psychology student and I agree with you so much. Latinos are so exceptical towards mental health. Eliminating the stigma, is the most important step towards mental health education in our community.
I feel this so deeply! I'm the only person in my family diagnosed with a mental disorder, bipolar 1. It's probably genetic. a ridiculous amount of family members show very obvious signs of it but instead of seeking help they suffer. Any destructive behavior is gossiped about behind their back but we all act civil at family get togethers to maintain the status quo.
Good luck to everyone fighting their mental health battles. Society is changing it’s attitude slowly but surely where this is concerned. Be part of the change for the better.
I’ve been debating my college major over and over but when you said there’s not many latinx therapists, I felt the need to not only become one and also better my Spanish so I can communicate better with them or family members
This is so true 🙄
My psychiatrist put me on anti depressant anti anxiety pills and they made me feel numb. To the point that even if I wanted to cry, I couldnt. It was a worse feeling. I'd rather feel bad than nothing at all. I have been using Cannabis daily for about 6 months and I can honestly say, my depression and anxiety have gotten so much better. I havent cut in months and the thoughts of suicide are rare instead of mutiple times a day. Its not for everyone but it has helped me a ton.
It helps me enjoy the small things in life, like conversations with my kids. Keeping away all the thoughts of no self worth.
Great video ! this is extremely important to get out into the Latino community.
Same my mental health has been in the decline for 13 years, family looks down on others who get help. They think people with depression should stop faking it and start to work and the depression will go away. Wich no it gets worse
Something that I have recently added to my healthcare routine is a puppy. Though puppies are a lot of work, she is a great reminder that I need to get up, move around, get some sun, and live.
Y'all, I didn't know that others would notice this. Thank you!!!
This just helped with my homework assignment 💪🏽
I wish this video was posted on Facebook!! I love it
I thankfully grew up with a Mexican mother who when she didn't know what to do, would seek help, counseling, therapy etc.
I’m showing this to my students tomorrow… thanks for sharing ☺️
Yay, I love this video! Planning to use this in my health classes in middle school!
Also two things that help me through my mental health problems are praying and talking to my mom about how I feel 😊
Please provide a written list in the description box of the mental healthcare providers. Ty.
I am latina and fourteen and ever since I was ten I want to be a therapist and now I want to be one even more after I heard there is a small amount of therapists who are Latinos
I have depression and anxiety and I want to help other people
Wow the only Kat call I actually like !
Beautifully said Kat! Thank u for this amazing video! ❤️
This is also very true in the black community as well. Some don't realize how important seeking help is. It's not healthy to keep those problems bottled up.
Well Argentina has the more psycologists per capita in the world and even tough there's still a stigma around it, going to a psycologyst, dping therapy, etc it's far more normalized than in any other countries I'd been (and we are proud of it). I guess tho she is more specifically referring to the latino community in the united states
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love this video and can completely relate even right now tbh! This was just another sign to me that mental health is very important and should seek out to better myself and others.
As someone with high functioning autism in definitely understanding this video I'm Dominican and I've started calling my own therapist la locura it's mostly because of my parents influence I'm not going to stop going to her but it's still kind of sad and a little funny that they've influenced me like that towards my mental health
Cathy A Your therapist deserves respect. That’s not cool at all! 😒
Wow I feel so lucky bc my psychologist is Latina and that I am one of the few latinx that can seek psychological help
Growing up my parents shared with me that they were scared, I would inherit the "TRISTESA" gene. Suicide ran on both sides of my Latin family. I remember asking them what happened to these relatives and if they ever sought help. They told me that to their knowledge, all these young people could do, was suffer in silence. That weighed pretty heavy on me when my seventeen year old cousin out of no where took his life. Reach out if you can; and if someone reaches out to you please Listen.
Latinos are very strong and hard working people, that's why they don't tolerate people with depression or anxiety
This is so true, even I sound like my mom sometimes when I tell people to just deal with it, I feel the guilt of feeling sad randomly for no reason cause my life ain't bad at all. Its also too expensive to get help, I look at the cost and I'm like, yup i don't got that so ill just work with it lol
Headspace mediation, yoga (jen hilman), deep breathing exercises, 15 minute break walks, talk to your friends (don't isolate).
Writing down my shity days on my put out notebook feels amazing, since I'm brazilian and nobody in my home speaks english it feels nice and safe for me to do it in another language.
Thank you so much for this video. Great information!
yo also! i got a new therapist and just hearing that she relates hit me harder than the other white therapists I have had. I am peruvian and she is ecuadorian. I just realized most of my past therapists were not latino def set me back
I’m Cuban and what to be a child psychologist
It took a long time for my madre to come to terms with her son going to therapy. After about a year, she saw how helpful it was for me and she decided to seek therapy for herself. 🙏🏽