Neil: from 7 to 49

[@YYY-yd9qn]

Neil is the only participant who didn’t have a nuclear family life during his adulthood. He was mostly by himself, drifting around homes and jobs, constantly questioning how he should live. Compared to the other participants he may seem more cynical and unhappy, but I find it incredibly admirable that he could constantly face the fact that he was not satisfied, and is able to face this uncertainty alone. As a result, he has lived many lives in the span of his one lifetime.

[@roff000]

What, there are others???

[@dzevada1992]

Honestly tho, he got butt hurt over a college and then dropped out which is w e n then became a bum.. n what for? He wasted his life. I know you think it’s not a waste to mope around and squat for years and years and be alone. But it’s not a happy or fulfilling life either. Luckily he didn’t end up eating people and killing them, he just stayed quite and went about his life.

[@viv1877]

@@dzevada1992 that’s a very unempathetic way of looking at his story don’t you think?

[@audreyb4298]

@@dzevada1992 he wasted his life? Despite all of his challenges he became counsel and served many communities, he volunteered most of his life, does not look life a wasted life to me. Not everyone won the sérotonine lottery at birth.

[@lunawhite4779]

@@dzevada1992 Why you gotta be so mean?

[@createone100]

Neil’s story of the butterfly at the end of the video made me cry. He has such a beautiful and deeply good soul. Your life is very, very important to many people, Neil. God Bless you. 💖🙏🏻

[@MrsFish7]

.. all I hear from Neil is truth, integrity and brutally honest realisation... I have so much respect for this guy....

[@hereandabout]

i like the comment he made about Christianity because i have gone through the same experience .

[@spiehole]

My favorite quote: "the best medicine is kind words."

[@lifesoboring1]

we need a book by him---he is full of wisdom===i find that more meaningful than the politics

[@lindahandley5267]

@life....oh yes indeed. He IS so full of wisdom. I could listen to him all day. He would make a great teacher or psychologist.

[@sexobscura]

so then why do we need medical practitioners ...

[@nicolemurphy2629]

@@lindahandley5267
His parents were teachers so maybe that helps and yes super talented in really reaching people

[@lindahandley5267]

@@nicolemurphy2629 Yes, I remember that. I was completely enthralled with him and his story. There aren't many people brave enough to take on the world all alone. I think the thought would horrify some. I'm not saying I ever would have, but do have that 'loner' tendency. After losing two husbands, I've adjusted and I have no qualms to take off on my own to do and see things, as long as I have a home and family to come back to. I rather enjoy my own company. LOL.

[@buzzlightyearandco]

His childhood segment might be the cutest thing ever. Breaks my heart to see how life broke him as he grew up but it seems like he is doing much better as of late.

[@flanplan5903]

I know right? He definitely was soooooo cute aged 7 though. All of them were.

[@stephenwelch757]

Such a complex character. May he live a long life.

[@Finne57]

Maybe the school system in the UK has something to answer for as well. So one-sided and pressured academically.

[@nicolemurphy2629]

He's great!
It's the brainwashed masses that are mad
It's them that are weird
An interesting life is of most value

[@nicolemurphy2629]

@@stephenwelch757
Better to be complex than simple though hey

[@Renovator26]

I'm 89 years old and have been an avid follower of the "Up" series. At 25 I solved my angst by emigrating to Canada where I re-invented myself. To 28-year old poontang3zizo I would say don't give up. The best is yet to come. As I was leaving on the boat train for Liverpool in the spring of 1952, my future wife (a Canadian) sat next to as it was the only seat left. We hit it off right away. We were engaged half way across the Atlantic in a nasty storm and married three months later in her home town of Banff, Alberta. We had 56 years together, four great kids, and a lifetime of happiness before she was taken from me in 2008. I miss her still. I left behind the rigid class structure that was killing me. I took control of my life in a stupendous gamble. You must do the same. Get out if you can. Leave it all behind and re-invent yourself.

[@mliv695]

+John Fisher I left behind the rigid class structure that was killing me. Can you talk more about it? I'm not sure what you meant. Is it the social class of Britain?

[@Renovator26]

+Ivan Huang
Yes, the social class structure of the UK used to mean that the moment you opened your mouth you were classed by your accent, the school you attended (or didn't) and what you did for a living. There was no chance of upward mobility, and if you were a member of the "working classes" even they resented you if you attempted to better yourself. This mean-spirited outlook completely frustrated me and I knew I had to break out. Canada has been good to me. Nobody resented my attempts to better myself and I was truly reborn by emigrating in 1952.

[@mliv695]

John Fisher Thanks for sharing! Hope everything is still well for you now!

[@testtube43]

It hasn't changed that much !

[@mliv695]

How come? I see and feel there's lots of immigrants in the UK now and people there seem very open-minded and everyone is eager to strive for a better life. But that's just from the media though.

[@dinorahdarby4499]

Neil has such a wonderful mind and good heart. He has had more self awareness at a young age than most get in their entire lives. Being honest and good is a grand kind of success the world rarely recognizes. Cheers Neil!

[@hereforit2347]

Neil is definitely the most intriguing of personalities. He is so candid and expressive. I find him immensely attractive as well.

[@joebro4017]

He gives me ted bundy vibes 😂😂 famously a hottie

[@hereforit2347]

@@joebro4017: I totally disagree. They may be slightly similar in looks, although I never made that connection myself, but their “vibe” is 100% different. There’s nothing creepy or evil about Neil.

[@dogspiritus3715]

Neil is such a sweet and gentle soul. It's so ironic that the most beautiful and vulnerable people are so hard on themselves. Such a happy turn-around when he hit 42! Awesome!

[@davis7099]

@Veronica A. your comment chimes with me. The point about society rewarding brash outgoing people is a deep one. We all need each other , the outgoing and the introverts. Not all extroverts are as confident as they appear. It is perhaps a trick we need to learn. How do we combat passivity and introversion when it becomes a stumbling block to moving forward is an old question. How do we ensure that " empty vessels who make a lot of noise" don't win all the prizes... we could go on.

[@asas14444]

@Veronica A. thank you Veronica.. You really give me hope.

[@jeffgehman8344]

"... such a sweet and gentle soul. It's so ironic that the most beautiful and vulnerable people are so hard on themselves." That's a fantastic line.

[@lindahandley5267]

I'm so happy that he seemed to have found his place. All the things he said make you stop and think about life and what we make of it. He sure made some valid points. A lot of people just fall into a life that they're not really satisfied with, hold jobs that they hate and so on and then they're too old to do anything different. He sure lives in a beautiful part of the world. My late husband's ancestry was in the Scottish Highlands. We always wanted to visit, but never made it. However, we did go to Cape Breton, Nova Scotia, which was the next best thing. Enjoy your lives!

[@thumbprint7150]

@Veronica A. Was Neil bullied though? It seems he chose to put himself outside of society rather than anything that was actively done to him. He was a chatty little boy, bright and sensitive. Something happened to him between ages 14 and 21, he lost his spark and confidence. Perhaps not getting into Oxford, perhaps realising there were a lot of other equally bright or brighter people in the world and that the competition was stiff. Who knows. But opposing introverts and extroverts as good versus bad is not really the explanation. It is a bit of a stereotype that quiet, sensitive people are weak - it is often quite the opposite case. Neil is an unusual individual who took a while to find his feet - but he did eventually. Some people come to fruition slowly or live their lives backwards. Vive la difference.

[@kathleenbyers1776]

A kind gentle soul!

[@socratesmeng2252]

Kathleen Byers I agree with u

[@BelfasTed8]

Neil, I love you man, God bless you on the rest of your journey!

[@elizabethtaylor9100]

I alway hoped for the best with Neil 🙏🏾

[@lillired857]

Neil is amazing, despite long term depression, just keeps pushing himself.

[@lillired857]

I say this not to make others with depression feel worse about themselves, but because I know how hard it is myself, and am far less brave.

[@thesupersimon]

yes indeed. Life was harsh to him but he carried on.

[@linzieloo1]

Same here I have struggled with depression all my life and have achieved nothing. I’m still living at my parents home and am 56 years old. I feel I am really a drifter, waster and looser and and so admire Neil’s strength to achieve all he has, despite suffering depression.

[@TheWildheartmuse]

So interesting how so many truly bright people find it hard to cope with 'normal' life. He speaks for so many like him. What a mind!

[@skeshavarz60]

Neil is the most honest person I've ever seen in my whole life! I just love him!

[@suddendee]

Bruce has such a big heart!

[@dogspiritus3715]

OMG yes! Such a sweet surprise to see Bruce helping him out! What a great guy!

[@peterh1353]

The man is a hero. His story is an inspiration to anybody. Hats-off to the man.

[@anom3897]

Yes! Bruce was my favourite out of all the children. He was so sweet and never lost that side when growing up and helping neil.

[@orlandopiper3214]

What a special guy. The kind of character that is too quiet for the modern world but so aware of his condition and surroundings. A voice we should all make time to listen to. He's not the only one and we should all watch out for them.

[@znazz7058]

Neil managed to become a councillor in two places, both very competitive, and all of this despite clearly having a mental illness. A great man and should be an inspiration to all.

[@lifesoboring1]

Neil has done a lot of stuff. Certainly he is the most interesting of the folks in the series. All the things he says resonate with truth. He was not equipped to follow a conventional path, and it has made his life unique. He has a wonderful intellect. He has done a variety of things that he has wanted to do. Traveled a lot; lived in various regions of his country. Lived as a sort of vagabond. Was a squatter. Wrote plays, acted, was a theater director, Is a politician. He has made things happen in his life. It sounds like he has been an inspiration to many. And in the course of his varied life experiences he has met many many people, of all types. And he knows the joys of solitude and nature. His attitude is overall very positive. All of this is to his credit because he has been coping with mental illness all along.

[@akhileshsrivasrava8615]

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[@sportsbob]

what is the series called? i’d love to see more of this

[@hceggeberth]

@@sportsbob The series started with the title '7 UP', with the intention of filming a bunch of individuals every 7 years - so '14 UP', '21 UP' etc. The most recent is '63 UP'. Odd episodes and excerpts are on YT, I think.

[@mop714]

As a politician would say "Hear Hear". Everything you said is so valid and interesting ... he is a lovely man. He was the one I kind of felt for.

[@user-ce7ri3yn9c]

Neil's journey is a haunting story of sorrow that brings true meaning for many of less successful life lived. There are millions like him throughout the world that "weren't successful".

[@nokes22]

Neil's story is especially heartbreaking, poignant and sad indictment of a society that struggles with those who are identified as 'different'. He was such a creative, intelligent and articulate little boy showing such hope and promise. I understand the cruelty of solitude and isolation and we should be far more aware of the thousands of ''Neils' across the country in order to extend the hands of friendship, compassion and understanding.

[@writeract2]

Astonishing (and heartbreaking) honesty from Neil which is part of what makes his telling of his tale so powerful.

[@nicolemurphy2629]

Heartbreaking?!!!
How's that then?
He's an Elected Politician!
Are you?

[@writeract2]

@@nicolemurphy2629 Agreed, he's done extraordinarily well since then and has immense courage and faith and I don't need to be an "elected politician" to be deemed a success - if anything, the opposite.

[@seckhoffable]

This man is wildly intelligent.

[@pen2199]

to smart, he reminds me of richie edwards from the manic street preachers, i feel for neil

[@pho3nix-]

I don't agree. He is just frustrated with his place in the hierarchy of things.

[@ginabrogan1825]

@@pen2199 no he’s more like James

[@omarabouhassan6673]

He is so bright and articulate. From what we see in this series, I view his life as a great comeback story.

[@e-js2731]

I'm so happy Neil found mindfulness, joy in just being, consciousness, what ever name you choose to call it. His realisation of the butterfly, it's beauty an joy in just being. I watched all the series, I took a shine to this lovely lad growing up, I always knew there was something special about him. I'm happy to see this soul seeing joy in his life.

[@nicolemurphy2629]

Worry about the sanity of the brainwashed masses not this insightful and intelligent human.

[@lynette599]

RIP Michael Apted (Director of the Up-Series) - passed away on 7 January 2021. Also director of the famous movie 'Gorillas in the Mist' (about the work of Dian Fossey amongst gorillas - heartbreaking). I trust somebody will continue his work on the Up-series? The last 'update' was in 2019 (63 Up).

[@seckhoffable]

Memories of watching this movie in 1982 have been haunting me ever since, and Neil is the one who haunts me most.

[@e-js2731]

Neil, you are a beautiful person. x

[@user-lf9np2ln5h]

Watching this with tears in my eyes.

[@georgekay3183]

He was the sweetest, most loveable little boy. Heartbreaking to watch his life unravel for so long.

[@tdpay9015]

49:37-50:28 is the one of the most beautiful and heartbreaking moments of the entire series, when the viewer is shown that Neil is the butterfly

[@dbsk06]

Wow so profound 👏

[@srayjames]

I agree with you except that I don’t think it is heartbreaking at all.

[@danashton5265]

Wonderful editing. Beautiful moment.

[@steveschannel7239]

Someone in these comments called Neil a loser. He's a winner. Despite the mental health issues he's achieved a great deal - university degree, become active in a church, helping other people, got into local government, become involved in politics.
I was concerned about how it was going to proceed, earlier on things seemed on a downward spiral. I was very relieved to see that things began to improve enormously. I think he has some kind of Aspergers, I've come across other people with similar condition and circumstances. We need to give people more support with this. In the era he grew up 60s/70s there was not much understanding of this. Well done Neil.

[@lifesoboring1]

I found positive things in all of his life's phases. He kept going through his suffering and managed to do things. I think of him in The Shetland Islands doing the theater (it had to have been an interesting place for him). He is an explorer. I think of him at 28 by the lakeside---it looked beautiful there. Yes, he seemed somewhat depressed, yet still he had much positive to say. I think he was also enjoying the freedom of the road, and of nature. In the solitude he could think his thoughts and form his philosophy. I think he has had great experiences and I don't find him pitiful. When he was 21 and being a squatter---that was the natural thing for him to do. Now you get a feeling of more stability, but I think each of his seven year periods was positive, despite whatever sufferings he endured. I am thankful most of all that he has been able to get basic expenses paid for him by the government.

[@hereforit2347]

There’s no such thing as a ‘loser’ or ‘failure’. I loathe those words. And to think we expose our children to the word ‘fail’ and concept of ‘failing’ as soon as they start school. 🙁

[@blipblip88]

always loved Neil, like other gentle, soft-spoken, creative, fragile souls, such as Nick Drake to name but one.

[@1970brenz]

I hope he gives himself a break and not be hard on himself. Sensitive children are easily affected, being raised with inconsiderate or uncaring/ ignorant parents can really damage a child, without always meaning to. He comes from that era where parents were quite removed and not able to help their children emotionally. He, like a lot of us, needs a lot of love, gentleness and care. I understand totally! God bless him.

[@alisonlekarev2183]

@Veronica A. Yes. Bullying has had a terrible effect on both my children. :(

[@queenredspecial]

Much, much, much love for Neil.

[@awkwardsean5141]

"At 35, he's living in a council flat in the Shetland Islands" I'm already jealous.

[@nicolemurphy2629]

Yes it's beautiful there
The success is measured by how you respond to challenges and he has been brilliant at that.
Adapting and moving as circumstances changed and when he wasn't happy he moved and sought something. He sought change. He is super bright.

[@AmyClark-zw4if]

"I think if you're healthy and have good friends you can get on perfectly well."

[@jinjinders]

highest level of raw intelligence amongst all subject in the 'Up' series

[@jalehradmard4775]

you read my mind

[@Sub-515]

Yes, very deep and so honest. Interesting watching in one story, his childhood damaged him deeply but he's a survivor and is a fine man.

[@thumbprint7150]

@@Sub-515 What about his childhood damaged him?

[@pho3nix-]

I don't agree. He is just frustrated with his place in the hierarchy of things.

[@nicolemurphy2629]

@@pho3nix-
Well it ain't over yet
He could become Prime Minister

[@nizarosoko]

This guy is a genius ! Shame he lacked proper guidance and support 🥺🥺

[@thomas4982]

He is now (as of March 2017), a county councillor. He stood for Parliament in 2015 for the constituency of Penrith and the Border. Lives in the same place.

[@jimb5703]

@UA-cam is You They didn't.

[@davis7099]

@UA-cam is You He is very much alive and well. Keep up!

[@TimelordUK]

@@davis7099 I want to contact him

[@nicolemurphy2629]

If you feel you don't fit in this world
It is because you were born to change it
He is open and real

[@nicolemurphy2629]

Well he is the only one to have become an Elected Politician!!!
Fantastic
Chosen by the people
He could very easily go much much further in Politics too
I see no limits

[@johnmcglinchey]

Met him at a Police meeting in Lancashire a few years ago - Lovely bloke . Had to resist saying "You're that bloke from 7 Up" I'm sure he must be sick of it .

[@Sion.Ryan.Green.]

John McGlinchey where in Lancashire?

[@LPCLASSICAL]

@@Sion.Ryan.Green. It's a county in the north west of England.

[@InParticularNobody]

@@Sion.Ryan.Green....... I think we can be reasonably sure that Christ (whoever he actually was) would have despaired of the likes of you.

[@StarzzyJJASD]

@@Sion.Ryan.Green. Manchester area

[@kayself1891]

"Doesn't matter who you vote for the Government always gets in." I think Neil is a lovely human being. I'd enjoy speaking with him immensely. He's lived a full and varied, reflective life. A Soul searching philosopher. Can't wait for the next 63 Up doco. Wonderful series

[@grizzlyneil9836]

You are an amazing human being Neil. Thank you for blessing us with your love and presence.

[@Tom-cm8ep]

he is so incredibly well articulated about things that are so easy to choose the wrong words about

[@veranaessens8592]

Beautiful Neil, he 's always been my favourite!

[@matbelli]

I can completely identify with him. My life at 29 is following his a bit too closely I'm afraid. I admire him for carrying on, trying the best he can throughout all the years despite the hardships. He rarely seems to pity himself (at least of what we see) and that's very touchng I think.

[@mynas5923]

I'm at a place in life where all I have is my hopes for a better future.

[@linzieloo1]

Yes but majority of people are judged by their job, so what do you for a living? Always question asked when you meet someone.

[@serene4961]

@@jfreeman3978 very true, society makes people that way unfortunately

[@BeOutstanding]

People are dumb if they think Neil did not have a successful life. He is a politician, a counciller and he has improved the lives of thousands of people in his constituency. He is currently one of Cumbria County Council’s two “economic champions” representing all of Carlisle and Eden district areas. His achievements are far greater than the man who earn 10k a month doing a decent job.

[@dubbleyouJ]

Hyrugaful I suppose it's hard to see since you only get small snippets of the subject's lives every 7 years. It's nice to learn that Neil finds his stride more later in life, because his character is the most heart-wrenching to me. He strikes me as someone that was let down by the system, and never got the help he truly needed or deserved. Such an intelligent person too... those years of him alone on the Shetland Islands were heart-breaking. I wondered where his parents were during his struggles. It is mentioned early in the series that he was the son of teachers I believe... but where were they when their son was struggling to hold on to the necessities of life?

[@dubbleyouJ]

Hyrugaful To add, I guess many would also define "successful" in terms of salary, quality of home, family life, etc. Success, in terms of those less fortunate, might be defined but more fundamental things like maintaining proper health, shelter, and a positive impact on your community. Neil struggles with the guilt of living off of social welfare, so to learn that he finds ways to give back to his community later in life is satisfying. Hopefully it means that some of the self-inflicted guilt he feels has been alleviated as he's found ways to contribute positively back to society.

[@alisonlekarev2183]

@sky scratch Yes, I was thinking he may have Asbergers.

[@xeniamundi7514]

@@alisonlekarev2183 he has Bipolar Disorder. This is well documented.

[@SuzyQ334]

But Neil has never had a real job. And no one has any respect for anyone who has never had a real job.

[@PassionataDance]

neil is honest and truthful. Too intellectual for his own good in a stupid world.

[@crazymuthaphukr]

Passionata Dance He thinks hes an intellectual He is not.

[@Roofhack]

crazymuthaphukr Agreed. Even though he isn't unintelligent, he misuses his intellect. He projects pity to the camera, but does he deserve any? Of course it could very well be he has mental conditions, but did he seek help for them? "If I lived in suburbia I would be miserable." How does he know that? One makes their own misery, which he did.
Sure the world is stupid in some ways, but no one is 'too good' for it. What a stupid statement. Most bright people, ones much brighter than he is, are quite successful and quite happy. They are intellectual enough to find their own happiness.

[@frankhalbiger6007]

@@crazymuthaphukr Why don't you define what an intellectual is for us? And also, using the video timecode as evidence, why you seem so sure that "he thinks he's an intellectual"?

[@fauxmanchu8094]

crazymuthaphukr One of the producers for this series says that Neil is the one person who has always interesting and original things to say. Also said he is deeply intelligent. Your assessment of Neil is not intelligent.

[@thewerewolf358]

@@crazymuthaphukr Thats a strange statement, he nowhere claims he thinks he is a intellectual, he has however a very broad spectrum of interess and if you have any emphatic knowledge you hear the man saying between the lines that he is a failure what stands directly against your claim. I think he is a intelligent, a warm and beautifull, but a bit overly sensitive and over anxious person, who have seen the world in a whole different way than most of us. Certainly not the path most human specimens choose to follow but certainly a interessing and intelligent man.. Excuse me for my bad English, it ain't my first language.

[@hongmuse]

His story is breaking my heart. It is easy to say "do what you like". In reality, you have to do what you can to survive first, then make it better. When things are getting better, you can do what you like. Life is simple of changing yourself within yourself. If he believes god when he was little, he maybe have a better life later.

[@joybarwise8951]

Hong Jia 7

[@Ocelot1962]

I watched this in the 1980s when I first came across Neil, and I couldn't watch the rest because I saw too much of myself. I, too, was at university and washing out because of a "nervous condition." I had Neal's body language, manner of speaking, interests in literature, and other traits. I was afraid of becoming homeless like Neal had become at that point in the series. Fast forward to the early 2000s and I was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome at the age of 44. Neal's "nervous condition" has yet to be explored in this series, but given our similarities (especially the body language) I'm pretty sure he's on the autism spectrum, too. For me leaving the United States was the best thing I had ever done. It's hard being on the spectrum anywhere, but it's especially hard in a nation of bullies like the United States, a nation that loathes the poor and the sick. I was fortunate enough to have a British father, so I acquired a British passport and relocated to England where I re-invented myself. If I had stayed in the US, I'm certain I would be dead. If Neal had been born and raised in the United States, I'm certain he would be dead by now, too.

[@dbsk06]

Good for you. I’m an American and studying in the UK this year/moving there too

[@Ocelot1962]

@@jfreeman3978 I agree that it's got it's own set of problems. It's a matter of what you can and cannot tolerate. Workplace bullying happens in the UK, too. But at least it isn't an admired trait and you have more legal recourse. Unions aren't violently put down like they are in the US. As far as hating women goes, women in the UK have special privileges that cause resentment. A case in point is my friend whose wife not only cheated on him, but moved her lover into their home up into their bed with my friend still living there and with their two children still there. He never beat or abused her according to the children. He didn't finish remodelling their bathroom fast enough for her, so she cited unreasonable behaviour in their divorce and won. She got his house, the same she betrayed him in while he worked as a firefighter paying for it. The state rewarded her for emotionally torturing my friend. This true anecdote I'm telling you is fairly common in the UK.

[@jeremyblackman8159]

Thanks for sharing that. I’m really interested in whether a later in life diagnosis helped you? And if so, how? (I am convinced a close family member is on the autism spectrum, and is a similar age)

[@WillScarlet1991]

@@jfreeman3978 Hate women in the UK? What the hell are you talking about??

[@xeniamundi7514]

I don't believe Neal is on the spectrum. At all. What I see is a person who, like many, was expected to be a round peg in a round hole and he just wasn't. He wanted to be himself. I found him to be an optimist, despite the pressure to conform and his life as a result has been quite remarkable.

[@denismichaeljames]

He is troubled like many and yet never seemed to give up hope. He deserved better because his nature was to be kind. As a child like many they thrive in their optimism and innocence. Seeing children robbed of it is often heartbreaking. Individuality is too often seen as odd or rebellious. It infuriates me that so often society doesn’t encourage us to accept who we are. There’s room for us all to contribute but we must be allowed to flourish in the way that suits the person it was attributed too.

[@Broomehall]

The world is a better place for having Neil in it.

[@kingkrzs]

I think I am quite related to Neil, particularly to that part of his faith in God. As he underlined a few times, "My faith has helped me a lot", I feel even more connected with him. I am a Christian as well. Having faith in/ Trusting in God is more than a choice when adverse circumstances come. Rather, it is like the only one floating wood you can cling to in a flood. I am glad with what Neil has achieved now. I believe he views his achievement in a lens different from the one filming him. I think he might understand life better than many of the other "successful" participants since he tasted both the bitter and sweet life. God bless him!

[@samventuras4800]

Life goes by so quick! I love watching these videos. Makes me want to make the most of my life NOW

[@floodland99]

Likable guy. I'm glad he lives in the UK. In the US the homeless don't seem to have a safety net. Glad his story seemed to have a happy ending. Kinda looks like Daniel Day Lewis to me, he should play him in a movie. :-)

[@tristanmason7405]

Excellent video of one’s life I would have very much enjoyed rooming with Neil, listening to his take on life, and experiencing all which came along. I hope he is doing well.

[@tristanmason7405]

I also enjoyed his mannerisms of which a few made me wonder what his brain was “conjuring”.

[@cdnsk12]

The more I watched, the more I sympathized with Neil. My life is somewhat similar, but I always had a good paying job. But I've never felt settled. i loved travelling the world for 4 years having many adventures in Europe, Africa, india, SOuth East Asia & Australia. I wouldn't miss a minute of it. But i always felt that people never really trusted me because I never settled down. i seldom have been short of money, all of which I earned myself. I inherited only $2000 from my parents at age 58. Now 75 years old and somewhat handicapped , I have plenty of money, but somewhat fragile health. Life goes on.

[@girltalk8709]

Plenty money...let's share.so when I started to watch him I felt a sense on sadness because I relate but now at 35 I'm realizing that his life is not sad ..it's just different and I am always moving and craving to settle down because most people are but I haven't been unhappy never being settled maybe having a kid now it should be different but I am inspired with his life

[@linseylewis1978]

Interesting, people not trusting as you didn't seem to settle down. I haven't been on the same amount of travels as you have, sounds like some wonderful experiences, but I have always felt this difference with people. I feel like that names it, distrust as I haven't been in that same settled state as them.
I wish you the best with your health.

[@ushoys]

I've followed this series with interest since the kids were 7. From Neil's own words it's clear that he's always had a strong vision of how the world should be - calm, sensible, intelligent, ordered, reasonable, kind. Most of the rest of us agree, but we can accept and deal with a world that is usually noisy, chaotic, unfair, stupid, ignorant and often very nasty. But harsh reality has literally driven Neil mad for 50 years, poor fellow.

[@jasonladd6400]

Watched him last night. The years haven't been too kind to him but is in a better situ than previously. Neil is a survivor who has ploughed on despite his life issues and for that you have to give him some respect. I would stand him a pint anyway, as a fellow traveller on this rocky road.

[@elanahdransfield1014]

Neil, what a man you are. Such an intelectual, intelligent, kind and reflective mind. What a beautiful soul

[@lipotrimloser]

Neil is a diamond. Reminds me very much of my autistic self. The struggle to fit into the modern world is relentless.

[@InParticularNobody]

Another of those beautiful humans who was born with 'a skin-too-few'.
Bless his lovely soul.

[@Vandweller66]

Neil's comment .... "I prefer the God of the Old Testament because He is somewhat unpredictable which is how I have found Him to be in my life." resonates with me .... Bless His Holy name .... GBU Neil

[@Jessica-dd8xo]

Such an eloquent little boy 😊

[@johnneuenschwander9280]

One thing positive to say about Neil: I love the places he lives. Some of the most beautiful places!

[@johncraske]

I first watched Seven Up in 1965. I was training to be a teacher and it was shown as part of the course. Of all the children, Neil made the greatest impression. Cheerful, amusing, bubbly - what a great kid! I would never have believed that he would be gripped by depression and have such a hard life. So sad.

[@Sion.Ryan.Green.]

John Craske Aspergers has blighted his life.

[@cathyfraser5093]

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[@theory6366]

What a wonderful human being Neil is. Perfectly imperfect. Kindness, resilience and a perception for humanity and capacity for introspection is absolutely marvelous. I am glad the stigma behind mental health is shattering with my generation and upcoming generations. I can diagnose him, but there could be a bit of neurodivergency in him. There’s so many ordinary/brilliant people in this world. I wish we highlighted and awarded them more often. Thank you for sharing your experience of life with us Neil.

[@TheHeraclion]

bless him, I've watched this series over the years and Neil was such a beautiful child and at 28 he was very handsome.

[@glamladwales7056]

Neil has lived a rich life despite his problems. Lived in different countries. I find him inspirational

[@janeaparis]

He seems to have a lot of wisdom...'Butterflies that have a brief moment in the sun.'

[@louisianna5524]

NEIL, you were always so sweet and articulate whilst growing up..
So proud of you, lives never end up the way you think most of the time..
Your still as lovely as ever
Take Care 💙💛💙💛

[@Jessica-dd8xo]

He reminds me of Daniel Day Lewis. I don’t know why.

[@OrangeySky11]

The absolute epitome of ‘a tortured soul’. I hope you find peace within yourself, the only place it matters.

[@poontang3zizo]

I'm 28 years old and I totally identify with Neil. I'm unemployed, single and basically a failure at what others deem a successful life. At the same time I'm not simple minded and I was once a child full of potential. I too wish I could have simple yet intellectual conversations with people. But I don't as I have no friends. It's strange how one's life can turn out to be the complete opposite of what you originally envisioned. I'm a bit sad Neil succumbed to religion but at least he's at peace. For me I cannot accept the notion of a God so I'm entirely alone. However, I'm grateful I saw this. I feel strangely connected with Neil. Even though I'll never meet him in person I imagine that we would have made good friends.

[@RCModelling4U]

+poontang3zizo I am the same age as the people in the documentary. I have watched it and followed them my entire life. Everything that they saw around them, and were influenced by, affected my life too. I was 'there'. I can understand Neil, in fact I can understand all of them. We speak the same language as our lives were the 'same'. The attitude of parents in the sixties was totally different to what it is now. Kids were something that happened, they often had no value beyond the family allowance each week. They just went to the nearest school, played in the streets, and ate jam sandwiches. That was about it. We all had a tough start in life, tough schools, and left school straight into a depressed economy. When I watch these programmes, I am seeing myself, and wishing that my life could have been different, but it has been unstable, unsecure, insecure, and lonely throughout.

[@Spiritualchick82]

+poontang3zizo When I first saw this series, I identified heavily with Neil as well. I still do, to this day. I saw a lot of him in myself, so it's interesting to hear from someone else who connected with his part of the documentary. He was always my favorite out of the bunch, so I'm glad he's doing well now!

[@poontang3zizo]

+Al Mead As a human being I suppose everybody wants some measure of normalcy in their lives. I understand the nobility in not working a job you have no desire to but remember not everyone has that luxury. I am at the moment pursuing a course of study I am quite passionate about (journalism) but I am not qualified to be employed as a journalist. So the price I have to pay for being unemployed is being dead broke and totally dependent on my parents at my age. This is a tough pill to swallow. I agree no one "gets everything" in life. It's just especially difficult for persons that suffer with mental illness but are intelligent. That's the toughest part - knowing that you have the intelligence to be a benefit to others but not being able to. It's quite frustrating.
When I say Neil succumbed to religion I mean he essentially bought into the lie that it is. Religion does offer a hope and a sense of community with others. Essentially though God and religion is a lie and when you see the reality of what it is you can never really turn to that again unless you are extremely desperate. So that's what I mean. But like I said - at least Neil's at peace with himself. That's the most important thing.
When it comes to friends I have absolutely no one. It's a long story I won't get into but ultimately - no I have no friends. As far as family goes I have both my parents. That's it. Again, another long story why I don't have a connection to other relatives. I'm very thankful for them even though the relationship is strained. All humans feel alone at times. I have embraced solitude without much bother. I still would have liked to have had connections with others though. We are by nature social animals. If my parents were not around and I died tomorrow, months may well go before someone discovers my body. And hey, I'm cool with that. The point I'm making is bar my parents I truly am alone.
Everyone has their issues and I don't mean to come across displaying self-pity. It's just that this interview struck a chord with me seeing that another human being, who was born a generation before me and lives far away from where I do resembles me to some extent. I'll never meet Neil and I find it poetic how similar our lives can be despite the borders of distance and time.

[@thetreekeeper143]

+poontang3zizo You'll be surprised how many are in your position but are too embarrassed to admit it. You may not be what you envisioned when you were a youngster but you are very normal in your position.

[@Rachadd]

+poontang3zizo I have followed this programme for years and have recently watched episodes again. Neil was always fascinating to me and love his honesty and eccentricity. I have since learnt about Asperger Syndrome which is an Autistic Spectrum Disorder which struck a cord with me. I wonder if Asperger's is what Neil has? My son who is almost 21 was diagnosed with this at a young age of 5, he had all the traits but with the help and understanding has come a very longway in his life. I do know of people that are only just realising in later life that they too fit the criteria and think it's so sad that they didn't have peace of mind earlier in knowing that it's o.k to be that bit different. I'm not very good at expressing what I want to say but hope I don't offend anyone reading this, I just wanted to put my thoughts into words and maybe help somebody find an answer x

[@johnwightman7549]

fascinating. life was obviously never easy for him as an adult but he never gave up.

[@cow2653]

he went through plenty of hard times

[@wackaloo123]

Neil is a philosopher and a British jewel. May the Lord always bless him.

[@zanesheppo6501]

I feel really sorry for Neil because he obviously has some sort of Depressive illness which affected his life greatly, he felt alone and had nobody to talk too which made everything worse.

[@WillScarlet1991]

Vaccines & Islam destroy lives, Christ Saves Souls + Change your username, you bigot.

[@batheandrelaxinmyshit6344]

@@WillScarlet1991 There is absolutely nothing wrong with my name

[@thumbprint7150]

@@WillScarlet1991 - Use report button to right, Hate speech category

[@jamiepastman5594]

I'm amazed at how quickly life beats you down; the glowing, enthusiastic 7 year old becomes the anxious, unsure 14 year old, a trend that seemingly continues this gentleman for decades. Living a life is a bitch, but still worth it I guess

[@cow2653]

Look at the 28 year old. I guess what you said is true

[@jacquelinesmith8029]

A truly beautiful soul,
We love you!
❤

[@shamicentertainment1262]

"There always doing naughty things and making the house untidy"
I can relate to that, my brothers and sister make an absolute mess of the house really quickly.

[@kwclove7623]

He was open enough to share this life. He was so special. I wonder if he knew how important his contribution would be?

[@DiverforPort]

I have watched this since when they were 21, Neil is without a doubt the one you want to hear about the most, I remember when 28 up came out (I had married by then) my husband and I both thought he'd be dead by the time 35 came out.

[@SuperJules444]

I thought that too. So glad he came on to be a lovely older person. He's the one I always look out for in the series. I hope it is gratifying for him that so many people who have never met him love him so much. But I guess he hasn't fully realised it yet. He just hasn't realised him magnetism. Still, we do and always wish him well.

[@claritycentral]

I have watched Neil grow through this documentary and i find that he really does go down hard on himself at times. He also has a hard time with commitment, which may play a role with him not being in a romantic relationship. I am glad that he has found faith, he needs a foundation. I pray the very best happens for him.

[@musicluvrlaurie6827]

I adore Neil. He might be my favorite, though I like them all.

[@TimelordUK]

This is the most heartbreaking thing I've ever seen. I could see the start of his problems in his teenage years. Why were they not dealt with at the time!! This beautiful child became an agonised adult. I just want to hug him and take care of him. Poor man. How is he now in 2021?

[@jimincal]

"You have to make do with reality." [Great quote from a guy who's been through so much]

[@ivst3655]

Such a beautiful, gentle soul...

[@frederickaugustusdouglass9713]

i love this guy, he he so self aware about himself, which so many people lack

[@xaviersamymuthu8733]

I saw this man featured in the 7 Up series in Hartley Junior School East Ham in the early 1970's , London with my Principal then Bernard Ashley (a renowned author of kids books). I am now 55 years and emigrated to Australia. Absolutely blessed to have lived a life so rich and absolutely admire how he has navigated life to something worth looking back on.

[@Nautilus1972]

Possibly the best series ever. Neil was always my favorite. Completely true to himself and knows who he is. I wasted years in pubs listening to complete bollocks. Neil appears to be recovering from manic depression. Good for him.

[@yvonnesookdeo5358]

Approximately 12 years ago, I sat in a class with about 200 students when Seven-Up Documentary was introduced to us. We were instructed to pay careful attention to the characters and comment and write about one. At a glance, I could not help embracing Neil Hughes because of his precociousness, articulation, unique accent and inspired prophetic warnings. The boy could be a philosopher. However, at age 23, I was deeply saddened throughout the entirety of the documentary, just shaking my head. No surprise! The entire class was moved too, and we elaborated on him. I noticed that all of the time, even though Neil had many challenges, we were his primary concern: Neil wouldn’t even want to marry us. Neil wouldn’t even rely on us for moral support. It is no wonder God blesses him. Today, Neil is reiterating his faith in God and is demonstrating, with confidence, all that God has done for him. Today, Neil is, no doubt, a productive member of society, and I really appreciate his contributions and the communal efforts to ensure a real success and his ambitions. Neil will always be in my prayers. Great job, Neil! 🇯🇲❤️🙏🏾👍🏽 God bless!

[@cow2653]

Nice speech

[@CatherineAsiimwe]

I don’t know why but he is so relatable. Every thought he has, I’ve had it before…

[@lilibombin6667]

Neil was the most complex and interesting character in the series

[@reneewelch7993]

I admire Neil so much. He breaks my heart.

[@plumpooh627]

looking forward to up 2019 series,,.. neill you are not sick,,, its society who is sick,..

[@rubydawn1]

I like him he seems like such loner and has great insight into whom he is also what a beautiful child he was

[@217Gnomes]

what he says at the age of 21 is a stark echo of how i feel
it's disconcerting

[@alanstarkie2001]

I watched the very first episode as a kid and I was transfixed. I'm the same age as people in the documentary so it has always interested me. The posh kids really impressed me, discussing whether they would go the Charterhouse or Marleborough, but Neil seemed such a bright happy little lad. When I saw the episode where he was living in Scotland, I was truly shocked how life can turn out. He seemed to get through that and I think he's doing okay. I wish him well.

[@morchidium]

Thank-you for compiling this. I stumbled upon this series when 56-up was released, and Neil has always been the participant who has stood out most for me. I remember specifically looking forward to seeing him in 14-Up and then being devastated to see how much it seemed life had crushed him. By 21-Up, I wished I could reach back through time and do something for him to help give him a sense of a hope and belonging. He has so much kindness, and humbleness, and truth. He has been an inspiration. He deserves so much happiness, and I hope he knows how much he has been loved by people around the world.

[@serene4961]

It scares me how short life is and seeing how quick 7 years feels yet how much you change outwardly but maybe do not change internally in that time is scary. I’m 25 now and still feel the same as I was 7 years ago at 18, and yet now I’m closer to 30. I can see myself in Neil in some ways, struggling with mental health and purpose. Not being happy with the structure of society. Feeling as though I haven’t achieved all that I’ve wanted by now. Just living in the moment but realising each moment time is fleeting. I also have no family support so I tend to feel stuck in my toxic relationship.
I’m glad he seemed to find purpose & contentment later in life. He also did achieve many things. But I can see how he would have wanted other things. 7 years doesn’t feel so long but I feel I need to develop a sense of urgency to achieve my goals now. The end part about a butterfly made me cry. He could see himself in that and it was bittersweet.

[@swongilford]

I think Neil should write a book about how the card of life been dealt to him. It could make a best seller.