6 Reminders when you are down 🌱 Create a better life (breakup, self love, baby steps!!!)
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- Опубліковано 11 вер 2024
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🌱Healing Resources 🌱
VIDEOS:
HOW CHANGING YOUR STORY CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE- • How changing your stor...
^please watch this ted talk
How to stop feeling attached to someone • How To Stop Feeling At...
Self Abandonment: what it is and how to stop it- • Self-Abandonment: What...
Emotional Sobriety: what it is and how to practice it- • Emotional Sobriety: Wh...
10 Steps for fostering authentic self esteem- • 10 Steps For Fostering...
^Heidi Priebe makes extensive videos on attachment theory and mental health, check her out!
Leah's Field Notes parting ways diaries
• Navigating a Breakup: ...
• Navigating a Breakup: ...
Another youtuber I find solace and wisdom in, Nick Keomahavong-
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BOOKS:
for immediate coping I recommend Keep Moving by Maggie Smith- amzn.to/49xqIaG
for quiet and gentle reflections to end the day I recommend Inward by Yung Pueblo- amzn.to/42UiDdP
for more rigorous learning:
Platonic by Marisa G Franco- amzn.to/3IjOrPG
Attached by Amir Levine amzn.to/3Ij8T3u
Think Like a Monk by Jay Shetty amzn.to/42Xd8Lk
8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go by Jay Shetty amzn.to/3UY7A1f
Mr.Unavailable and the Fallback Girl by Natalie Lue- amzn.to/3P0IXNy
PODCASTS:
(1) Mel Robbins: www.melrobbins...
^ I can't recommend this show enough. It expands your view on what you're capable of, giving advice for creating a better life (which inspired my video's title) and taking tangible steps towards building a business or goal.
SPECIFIC EPISODES I LOVE:
How to Let Go: 2 Simple ways to find clarity & move on www.melrobbins...
4 Important Life Lessons I Learned the Hard Way (So That You Don’t Have To) www.melrobbins...
6 Signs You’re Disconnected From Your Power and How to Get It Back: Life-Changing Advice www.melrobbins...
(2) The Breakup Bootcamp, each episode captures a stage in the 7 phases of grief well and I listen WHILE i am feeling that stage very immensely
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Okay, hi. Closing notes here- I want to release videos on each of the 6 notes that I listed throughout this video.
1.YOU CAN DO IT
2.INTO THE UNKNOWN
3.TAKE LIFE ON YOUR OWN TIME
4.HOW CHANGE BEGINS
5.WHAT YOU GIVE ATTENTION TO, GROWS
6.LEARN TO LOVE (YOU) UNCONDITIONALLY
Sorry if this video in particular was quite vague and not as useful, I cut out a lot of my updates because I realized during the editing process it was a necessary and crucial step to protect my heart and my mental health.
However I can say with certainty that once a wound becomes a scar, I can bring you more thoughts with the help of newfound clarity and hindsight.
But in the meantime I want to be honest and show up authentically in the world, so this was part of that- like saying, hey world! pain is real, loss is real, so is love and beauty. and I can feel all of it. I love you so much and I look forward to sharing more about healing and growth to help anyone who is on a similar journey.
love, annabelle
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i cried for the majority of the video 😭 i went through a devastating breakup five months ago from a long-term relationship. i couldn't get myself to watch vlogs and do so many things i love doing since it happened. to return to your channel today feels like i'm catching up with a friend--crying, listening, processing, and hoping with you brought me catharsis. thank you for reminding me that it takes a lot of patience, gentleness, and grace from myself to go through a time like this. i love you, Annabelle.
I remember my 1st breakup of a 6 yrs relationship, my 1st love. It took me 2 years to fully get over it. Remember to take your time and feel everything. I know it is hard. For the first 6 months i was thinking about him constantly, thoughts about what whent down, what could have been different, memmories. But it gradually goes away. These thoughts come less often throughout the day. Every minute becomes every hour, then twice a day, once a day, once a week. Its not a race to get over it. Its a marathon. Dont push it. Eventually it will pass. For everyone it passed with enough time.
Thank you for making this. My relationship of 14 years has just ended and now I live alone with my dog and work from home 3/5 days a week and I feel like I'm on a similar journey of discovery and cultivating fried ships and learning to enjoy my own time, do things I want to do. We got this!
i went through a traumatizing breakup 3 days ago. lived with my partner and moved out all of my stuff in a span of two days. i felt so strong on those two days. now the fatigue is catching up to me. altough this isn't my first breakup and i thought i could navigate it somehow more seamlessly, but boy was i wrong haha. this video came at the most perfect time. love the responses in the comments and your wise words!
hey annabelle, thank you so so much for being this vulnerable with us. I went through a breakup 7 months ago and I'm still processing that pain. watching your videos always brings me comfort and this one especially hits home because today was "one of those days". wishing you love and peace in your heart
5:14 I feel this sooo much Annabelle! what you said about hanging with friends as a distraction from pain rather than for connection… so real
reading these comments and feeling held and seen in our collective grief, but also very sad that so many of us are in pain. my partner and i broke up a month ago. i was living in the Philippines but had to return to the US for work and neither of us wanted/were able to do long distance. i feel extremely frustrated and unbearably sad at times bc neither of us wanted it to end, we still loved each other so much up until the bitter end. I'm still struggling to accept that its over, but i try not to hate myself for hoping that one day we'll reconnect when we're both in more stable situations with our careers/when I'm able to financially support myself enough to move to the Philippines (which is my long-term goal). today, something happened that led me to feeling my grief and i came to youtube to distract myself from the pain for a bit, but watching this video felt more like healing. thank you for your honesty and vulnerability, i feel less alone on this journey with grief and moving forward
thank you for sharing this :( i am sorry to hear that you are having a hard time. it feels like pain and loss are inevitable, just comes in different forms and at different stages of life for each of us.
you’re not alone and i am very grateful to hear that my content offered you a little healing while it also offers me healing too ❤️
i went through my hardest breakup 9 months ago and i experienced so many of the same things! the morning and nights are the worst for sure !! 😭 i thought it would never pass and i'm still angry about it but it's gotten so much better
Love your self awareness and compassion
Life is so crazy. I love your videos, and I’ve watched you for a long time, but when this video came out, I didn’t watch it, and knew I should just hold out for a bit. Fast forward to a month later and my partner left me after a year and a half last week, and I’m going through it, and this was exactly what I needed. Thank you Annabelle for your wisdom and insights. ILY
Annabelle I've been watching your content since before you were in art school. It's evolved and changed so much, like you, for the better. Get your bag girl!!!
Hey Ann, I've felt like we've started in similar places mentally and now you are thriving (even with your current situation, I still see you glowing) and I feel so influenced by you (lately, and over the years) to take care of myself and be accountable. Thank you for the video ❤
my boyfriend broke up with me on my birthday and its been really tough, thanks for the chat and reminding me to love myself!
wtf so sorry!! you don’t know me but sending love and well wishes!! xxx
@@dollyhoneypie thank you so much! it really means a lot to me. sending lots of love to you too :) Xx
I swear Bambi is a Sage. He’s one special boy. Thank you for this video, the subject hits kinda home right now. Sending you loving and happy thoughts 💛
take care annabelle! and as well to all the lovely people watching this
Thank you! I went through a breakup like 6 months ago and it’s been so up and down with healing. I’m definitely learning to prioritize and take care of myself but I’ve also leaned into it a bit too much when it comes to spending time with myself and being afraid to reach out to friends. It’s definitely something I wanna work on
The nights is the worst. I’m so sorry your guys broke up. You seemed so happy with him. So I understand how hard this time is. You will be ok. You know this. But honor every phase. Sending you hugs.
"it's not what we do that makes us who we are. it's what we don't do that defines us."
Love you, Annabelle.
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missed ur sit down videos, annabelle
I totally related to the notion that healing only means something if it's done quickly. two+ years after my break up I realize I needed the time to mourn the relationship/version of me and them and I am no longer ashamed it took me quite a while. I needed that time, and it was just a testament to how much I cared!!! Thank you Annabelle, wishing you the best .
Hey Annabelle, thank you for this. Both this time, and last time, I went through a breakup exactly when you were.. It felt like you were formulating what I was feeling. That is such a gift. Thank you
Oh love your monthly notes Annabelle! It's like sitting with my friend and listening to them talk about life🥹 sending biiig hugs to you!
Gosh, thank you for this. Going through a breakup as well, with almost your exact timeline. Mornings and evenings are so hard. I’ve been trying to shift my routines even just a little bit and I feel like it helps. I can’t wait until we get through these rough times. I know better things are ahead ❤
14:30 thank you so much for sharing what you’ve been going through Annabelle :’) I’m in a very similar place - knowing that you’re living your life feeling it all and trying to do your best is so wonderful and makes me feel less alone when the sads feel big ❤️ you are so loved! 🌟
Annabelle, I needed to hear this so badly! I too, am a month out from a breakup and catch myself yelling at myself for still feeling grief about it. This was so healing to hear and I will absolutely be using some of your recommendations ❤
this mean so much to me, thankyou so much for making this video Annabelle
I have always loved your videos, and this one just hits SOOO close to home. It has been a month since we broke up. I am quite literally experiencing the same thing, at the same time, and can relate to EVERYTHING you said. Especially about feeling like im in this weird limbo space of feeling bad about what I did wrong, and being angry at him for things. and just wanting the spiraling to end. but I thank you for this reminder that it is okay and normal to feel all of these things at once, and that over time it will get easier. time heals all wounds!!! its cliche but its true. you worded everything so well, and I think I am doing the right things to heal this time around. as you experience more breakups, losing people gets easier because you learn to enjoy yourself. I will come back to this vid when I need a reminder. sending lots of love, and thank u for sharing
this is amazing. i love your narration and editing style so much! i'm a new creator and learning from channels like yours each day - there's something so serene and humanistic to your work that i'm hoping to emulate.
i rlly needed this its 3am n im in bed under my blanket crying bc ive been having such a hard time n it felt like ive been waiting to hear this. thank u annabelle.
Annabelle your wisdom and continuous vulnerability bring me so much peace and companionship ❤
You are such a light in my life ever since I was in Highschool I’ve watched you and your videos always help me in some way shape or form even if it’s something little. I truly appreciate you so much.
I love these videos so much, you understand deep emotions in such a raw way and the way you can really put a feeling into words is so beautiful
I’m turning 30 in May and instead of feeling sorry for myself for not having a circle to plan it, I’ve been putting feelers out and started organizing it and friends are excited and it feels nice 🥹❤️
thank you for this!! excited to check out some of the resources you've linked. definitely feel the challenge of making the alone time the in love with myself time ahhh
also big fan of short lil spontaneous friend calls
Your advice made me cry ❤ thank you for putting this video together, it really felt like an old friend’s support when the times are difficult ( and they are very much for me atm)
Big big hug to you!! Can’t wait for the surprise x ❤
This was such a wonderful reminder to love myself more and to be ok with how I process things. Love you ❤️
thank you for sharing and being vulnerable, your videos have been such a comfort to watch esp when i'm going through depressive episodes. wishing you lots of love, relief, and comfort
Thank you for always being so open and honest annabelle ❤ wishing you the best! I feel like healing is such a “trust the process” type of journey (frustratingly so). It’s hard to believe we will move on or reach the end of the tunnel but one day we suddenly do. I loved looking through the books and other resources you linked, will definitely check them out! Lori Gottlieb, the speaker of the first Ted Talk you linked, has a book called Maybe You Should Talk to Someone. If you haven’t read it, I heavily recommend it! It touches upon similar themes as the Ted Talk, but expanded upon through stories and her own experiences. It helped me during a particularly difficult time; maybe you will enjoy it too!
thank you for sharing your feelings and thoughts about this hard and healing time 🤧wishing you all the love
I don't have anything to add, I love how you think. But need to comment that your hair is so beautiful!!!
most motivating and beautiful content ive ever consumed to this date Annabelle, u r truly an inspiration love u and ur vulnerability and ability to connect to us all w ur words & advice!
that was so sweet and so helpful
this is really beautiful, Annabelle!! especially the resources that you offered. thank you for sharing so openly and deeply
I really needed this video today. Thank you so much 💕
I actually feel like I’m the most sad during the day… I think I just don’t like my job
:’(
@@annabellegao it’s ok! I’m studying in my spare time to become an art/design highschool teacher so there’s an end date on my current day-job!
I needed this
sending love and healing miss girl 🫶
I appreciate your honesty so much, I am the same age as you and as different as our lives are, coming to similar realisations and behavoirs towards myself while following you through the years is so much fun. I wish you the best for March and also- do you do anything specific for hair growth? I am amazed by how long its gotten! Lots of love from Berlin
This is so important, Love this ☺☺☺
Thank you for sharing all these reflections! really helped me too!
LOVE Heidi priebe omg her videos have helped me so mych
Once again, loving you so much, Annabelle! Sending you a hug!
I loved this video. Thanks so much.
Thank you for sharing - this will be a video i come back to!
hiii anabelle!!!!!! thank u for posting
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loveddddd this video
Needed to hear all this
Much love💕✨🌸
Tão feliz que você postou um novo vídeo 😊
thank you for your vulnerability
loved this video
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perfect timing! i've been sooo down and life has felt like a blur lately so i really needed this🥹 ty for the resources as well i will have to check those out soon!
This was a truly beautiful video, thank you for your generosity and openness. You have carried me through the end of highschool, all of undergrad, and now figuring out where I want to go with art post-graduation. Even though im a stranger, growing with you has been transformative 🤍