Black Man AMBUSHED By The Sistahood For Insulting Single Mothers!
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- Опубліковано 2 жов 2024
- Black Man AMBUSHED By The Sistahood For Insulting Single Mothers!
In this video, we explore a recent and highly controversial statement made by an African American man who claims to be high value and openly declares that he does not want to settle for marrying a single mother because he believes he deserves better. This assertion has sparked outrage among many women who found his comments arrogant, conceited, and indicative of a lack of character.
Key points we'll cover include:
The man’s statement and why it has offended many women.
A deep dive into the concept of being a "high-value" man and what it entails.
The broader implications of dating standards and preferences.
An open discussion on whether his perspective reflects arrogance or a legitimate personal standard.
Insights into what really matters when it comes to dating and relationships.
Join us as we dissect this contentious topic, analyzing different viewpoints and encouraging a meaningful conversation around dating standards and personal values. We invite you to share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below.
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Her body her choice. His wallet his choice.
BW, you are allowed to set your standards. BM, you are not allowed to set your standards.
They think they own us. That’s the real issue.
they called him low value cause he said he didnt want a single mother smh
Yup, that's the double standards women think are Ok.
#SYSBM #PassportBros
@@andrewyb830They're low value, so their opinion doesn't matter.
The smoke comes from the fact that in spite of the prevalence of single motherhood, women KNOW it's wrong. Him saying it out loud hurts their feelings because they know he's right.
And that's all they care about is their feelings. Not their children's, not the fathers of those children, and certainly not you, black man.
Only a HIT dog will holler...
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The hypocrisy was REAL in that clip. Low key, I think those ladies (and that simp sitting next to the one who brought it up) were irked because he was hitting them with a hardcore reality check.
High key, they were defending their audience who’s majority single moms 😂
I wondered if they were SIngle Mothers or a product of one. I get it, we want to protect Moms -- nothing wrong with that. But a loving mother will inspire her kids to do better, not defend poor decisions!
FACTS
They were talking down on him with the “A hit dog will holler” vibe, so one of those situations (single moms or product of ones themselves) likely is the case.
They literally said him choosing not to date a single mother is “unfair” and “insensitive” to many women because he came from one. Since when was dating about fairness? Women of all know this because they exercise this the freaking most💀💀
He wasn't attacking mothers, though. They attacked him.
No one should date someone with a child if they don’t have a child regardless of socioeconomic income
Exactly
PERIOD 🩸
Right!
He didn't insult single mothers. They insulted him.
His life, his choice. We're done.
To each his own, but, I prefer to have, and raise my own Children. I will not share my Wife in any capacity, be it emotionally, financially, with no one.
Understood
You got black women who won't deal with men who work regular jobs. You don't have to explain yourself to anyone about your preferences. These women don't deserve a thing.
It's his preference. RESPECT IT!!
Say no to Single mothers...
Say Heck no to Single mothers.
Say HELL no to single mothers.
"...a single mother is not good enough for you but, good enough to raise you". Yea blame the child for the circumstances they were born into....Gaslighting at an all time high. I swear some women will say anything to shame a man into a potentially terrible situation.
A lot of them had blue collar fathers, but refuse to date blue collar men.
yeah this is how extreme and low they'll go to even when it makes zero sense
The SIGN language was strong in this one.
Wow. So a woman can say she wants a man with XYZ but if a man says he doesn't want a single mom, he has his whole self image questioned.
Not to mention the stats don't lie about single parent households.
This is mad delusional.
They aren’t delusional because atleast you can blame it on a disconnect with reality, this was grade A gaslighting. They willfully pretended they can demand whatever and if he has expectations he’s of bad character…. They even said “she can expect six figures but that’s not what we are talking about” when it was, we are discussing EXPECTATIONS… Gaslight
@HorizonMediaGaming Nah you're right on that. That was definitely more of an attack on his character than a genuine inability to comprehend his stance.
Unfortunately bm have a rep of being stepfathers to any woman’s children and laying down with anything. He stood on business and they got offended.
THESE WOMEN HAVE STANDARDS BUT YOU CAN'T F THAT!
I wish I was there to support my brother!
That was crazy how they went after him because he gently let her down. He wasn't even an ass about it either. And then to bring up "but yo mama was a single mother too" like he chose that for his mother to be. The mental illness/gymnastics of the matriarch in the black community is so twisted. Id be getting pissed off too with them.
"No offense, ma'am, but I'm not interested in investing in another man's legacy. "
I'm a single dad and I won't date a single mother. Idgaf, I take care of mine and only mine.
RUN FELLAS RUN, it’s getting worse
Saying no to single mothers is having 0 character 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
The young man ruffled those hyenas by reflecting their characters right back at them.
I think he messed up by saying he's a high value man. Most men with no children regardless of their finances don't want to deal with a baby momma
He messed up by explaining himself at all. "I don't date single mothers." That's all he needed to say.
@KtotheG Most definitely. But those types just gotta know why and blah blah blah.
@asiatichebrew5100 There's absolutely nothing wrong with him saying that if he believes himself to be a high value man.
@@asiatichebrew5100 Yeah you can tell they don’t like KS when he said that.
True.
Heres what i noticed about society these days. Everyone has standards until those standards goes against them.
His position is no different than Eboni Williams bus driver position. Its what HE wants out of life and thats his perogative. I see no problem with what he wants just like i see no issue with what Eboni Williams said as well
Eboni's problem is that she still chose to be a single mother to a donor who wasn't a high value man. So she never cared about the man all along.. and she certainly doesn't care about her unborn child.
If any man wants to break a generational curse, there is no way u can date a single mother. It’s not that complicated.
He didn’t “insult” a single mother he just simply stated his preference that’s all just like women say they don’t date short men OK and also just because his mother was a single mother that doesn’t mean you would want to date a single mother that’s just like saying if his mother smoke crack and was a prostitute he should be OK to accept to date a woman that smoke crack and also was a prostitute so her logic doesn’t make any sense.
It's also like saying, "your mother is god, so you are supposed to worship her and agree with everything she does."
@@vlove888 They know we’re shedding that rep of being stepfathers.
Sorry, I don't want to be mean, but saying that character and spirituality make a high value man is BS. Because if that was the case women would be virtuous and won't end up single mother. Women won't be be saying stupid shit like "pay my bills " or " six figures ". Do you really think that they end up single mother by spiritual men od character? Think again...🤦♂️
Exactly
それは論理や常識ではなく、
自分の感情や気持ちに基づいて行動するその集団の人々にとって不快なことです。
Lmao all that sum of deeds a character bs. He should have straight up asked would any of them date a 40 yo man working at McDonald's driving a 1998 rusted out Honda Accord with no ambition to have more, but he's a nice guy and see how they react.
That’s his preference… GET OVER IT !
No woman can validate what a quality man is!!
BOOM!
Brothers, please don't let no one "preference-shame" you into anything
They have to rebuke the matriarchy.. They have to see themselves as above them, not below them and not equal to them. They don't validate anything about us or what we do.
They hate him because he doesn't fit the ain't ish ninja narrative and they cant control him
I don't understand why women with children seem to have a preference for men without children. Why do they not want a man who has children and not with the child/childrens mother , like them.
@yerushalom87 because single men who are fathers are paying support child support to some woman. That is less $$$$ for the new woman with some other man's kids (garbage). SIMPLE.
They want a man's resources for only them and their kids. It's selfishness. If he has kids already they have to share them.
Because they want to be the queen bee. There can only be one queen. If he has a baby mama, there's another queen she has to deal with... and like a male lion, she also doesn't want to deal with someone else's cubs.
I am a childless man and I hate single mothers. They need to stay away from me
@@KtotheG but she will argue you up and down about how men should desire single mothers because he probably was raised by one. The logic is warped.
There's not a day goes by that women aren't reminding men that they "refuse to settle". Finally a man says the same thing to a woman "he refuse to settle" and they act as though he slapped they mamma and kicked the dog.
Arrogant? Disrespectful? Rude and pompous??
In no way was this man’s conduct or answers any of these things. Now those bad decision making women on this panel…. They were every bit of all of those descriptions.
Let’s be real here. That was this man’s answer and life choices. Who are these women to question it and take that away from him??
He didn’t even shame them. They did it theirselves!! All he said was that he won’t be joining their “family” (I use that word loosely) dynamic.
Also, the man is not looking to comit incest. He is not marrying his mother. What does she have to do with anything! My biological mom and dad were in the home my whole life. As far as I know, all of my siblings are full. They really have no argument outside of regret for their mistakes. They want us to own their mistakes.
A psychologist had a theory men look for their mother in their wives and every BW suddenly thinks this is the lens at which Bm look for women. They have this idea all BM wanna bed their mother as many of them wanna bed their father or someone similar to who they believe he might have been if he wasn’t around. I never once thought of my mom when dating…
They want us to own their bodies, too, because they keep saying "men create single mothers."
If single mothers were any good than baby daddy would've stayed. This applies to single mothers with six kids by four different men..
One of the main things my mom (a single mom) instilled in me was, “NEVER EVER date or bring a single mother home!!”
This has NOTHING to do with whether a man “high” value. It’s about just plain value and for me, a single mom is not a value I would ever commit to. .
I feel the saddest part about that clip is that the women and the beta male on the panel really felt like they were making valid arguments and were right. I applaud more black men walking away from irresponsible women. Being a single mother (unless your spouse passed away or your situation was dire) is a sign of an irresponsible woman and we should not justify their actions nor shame men for not wanting to be with them.
Don't debate what you won't date.
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Black men with standards are not allowed have standards in this modern dating climate!
He should've asked them if they'd be ok with their "HVM" son marring a single mother with like 2 baby daddies
Listen to me very carefully.... no woman defines a MAN. PERIOD 🩸
BOOM!
I got shamed in my real life for articulating that I didn't want a single mother. I just stopped saying it out loud. Lol. Found a childless woman to marry and start my family. It's wicked out there. They hate their childless competition.
That's when you shame them for being single mothers and defending selfish decisions by broken women.
@@Mr.Boring_Man Thats been engrained in us as little boys.
Chez its 2024, men aren't allowed to have standards, especially brothas 😅. We should accept whatever we can get. I knew it was time to exit the dating market when i started seeing pregnant women on dating apps ✌🏾 hold the line fellas ✊🏾
He handled himself with character, dignity, and self respect. It's those broads who were trying to belittle him for his choices, that are totally wrong.
A man has choices in life, as they do, but single mothers have put themselves behind the 🎱 by having a child or children out of wedlock.
This man said he won't sign up for that headache, and I agree with him, as I too, won't allow a woman's bad decisions, alter my life, make me suffer for dilemma she created...😐
I also think a lot of boys grow up and see it was the mother who was the problem not the father. The strong independent welfare queen generation.
B he doesn’t owe you anything. You want someone else to pay for your bad mistakes.
Never lower yourself respect to taking a single mother seriously. Never let these hyenas shame you out of your value. And when they come for you about your preference in a mate, let them know you dont date in your family tree.
DONT DATE SINGLE, MOTHERS. PERIOD.
But Eboni K Williams can say what she want
I WILL NEVER MESS WITH A SINGLE MOTHER OR BABY MOMMA THEY ARE LIABILITIES AN WILL BRING NOTHING BUT CHAOS
I think a lot of us have said, "no single mom's.' Why, because the mother never says, 'he was a cheater, he was abusive, he was unemployed.' It's always some little non-sense like he didn't want me going back to school, or he was (financially) controlling." When the reality is that she's all out of order and thought that she could thrown the father away like trash and upgrade to another man like moving from a PS4 to a PS5. To quote the late great KS. "You broke up your home."
Single mothers think that they should be over the man. I vehemently disagree with that mindset. All voluntary single mothers are out of order.
I like when she heard him speaking facts she changed the topic quickly before anyone noticed.
My ex used to do this to me. Bill Burr explained this is how women loss the argument and men need to recognize it.
3:35 When you're right, you're right!
I married a single mom and don't regret it. We will be celebrating 28 yr of marriage this September 8th. However, I didn't hear this young man say anything wrong. He simply wants to break the cycle in his life. He never took shots at single mothers. His preference is simply that he wants to start with a clean slate. He never said that his money made him a high value man, he strongly impied that it was the choices and sacrifices the he made in his life to prepare for a family.
We don't need to explain ourselves to these women. Black men have to break out of that habit. We don't owe these women a thing.. They don't validate us and we don't answer to them.
Rule #1: Men, don't EVER put yourself into the level of these women by going on these platforms and seriously entertaining them on these dating shows! Never that!
P.S. I get that this is a show, but why endure the concentrated shaming, even for the bag?
I remember this situation, many women said what he said wasn’t the issue but rather how he said. Meaning the expectation was to say how amazing single mothers are then say that’s not his preference. Whereas the same type of women speak in literals, disrespect, and down right arrogance with respect to the thought of them settling.
All this situation did was just gaslight and reinforce the belief men should shut up and accept whatever is given and women should have their pick of whatever they want and that should be respected.
Yup, they want to perpetuate the matriarchy. My mother is the same way. I rebuke the matriarchy.
@@KtotheG that’s absolutely fine, she needs to go out in the world and find that man she thinks is so deserving…
Being a single mother and bw unfortunately set this trend. Is to make bad decisions and hope for a savior to come and be the clean-up man. Most of the time cant wven be respectful for it.
single mother comes with responsibilities that are non of my business to be in proximity of
She is trying to change what he called a high value man 3:15. He said nothing about his car, his resume, his bnk account or home but his value is in terms in character.
I feel like single mothers shouldn’t be considered unless they fall under all conditions.
1. Was married when she had the Child/Children.
2. Had 1st Child while over the age of 22.
3. Not w/ the father of child/children because of divorce or death (widow).
That's fine if those are your standards. They don't have to be everyone else's. I wouldn't consider a single mother at all, unless she was a virtuous widow who had no more than two kids IN wedlock with her now deceased husband. No divorcees, no baby mamas, no donor recipients.
Welcome to the blk matriach
Buddy is doing too much talking. He should have kept it simple "I don't date Single mothers, that will never change". Whoever doesn't like it, thats their problem. I respect My Black American Brothers for their patience. African men will not even bother explaining ourselves. If you don't like it, kick rocks.
The other man is drama. Be there twice.
The marriage part is done these days. Marriage only benefits women, so good luck with the "marry before you carry" idea in America. 🤷🏿♂️
BM passport
First of all, there is no such thing as "high value" that you can determine for yourself and take to everyone, your value is dependent on how much of what people want and need you possess, and whether or not they LIKE YOU. There is no set of characteristics that will make any man or any woman "high value" to everyone. So while you may be one man or woman's treasure, there are going to be things about you that make you the next man or woman's TRASH. Generally walking around calling yourself "high value" is indicative that you are trash becasue people who have it, never have to say it.... Same with being beautiful or handsome...
Having children outside of marriage is the best path to get poor and stay poor. Two-parent, married households is the best path to stability, wealth, and successful outcomes for children.
The woman gang up an attack the man and you say he is arrogant. Others say his delivery was wrong or his argument was flawed. All I see is people willing to come to the rescue to take the women of the hook. It is generally men it seems who could have phrased something different, never the women. The two women did not have a leg to stand on, but of course Jermaine is at fault. Women act the way they do because most women and many men never hold them(women) accountable for anything. Men cannot have preferences so she was hurt and triggered along with the others on the panel. Just like some in this chat!!
If I had sons (we have 2 Blasian daughters) I would raise them to be and think just like that young man. He does not need to take on the problems of dealing with a single mom where there's likely a baby daddy or daddies. Heck we raised/raising our daughters to not be single mom's and not engage with pookies or guys that have baby mommas. The reciprocal of that is raising sons like the young man in this vid. Peace!
Only in the black community is it such an offense to say you don't want to be with a single mom. A man from any other background can say this and people will understand it completely, but since having kids with people you're not in a relationship with is so normalized in our culture, saying you don't want a single mom as a black man is almost like saying you dont want a black woman.
Men of TODAY ARE NOT SETTLING ANYMORE.
We dont want someones LEFTOVERS! I dont know whats so hard to understand about that!
There are a LOT of single black mothers because a lot of Black men leave their KIDS with the mom. No one is shaming them for being dead beats who don’t care about protecting their seeds and who they procreate with. They don’t care about legacy because apparently anyone can get a baby.
On the opposite end of single mothers, are fathers who left their kids.
If 75 percent of kids in the black community are being raised by single mothers, that means that there were men who were involved with those women who decided not to take responsibility for one reason or another.
His delivery was from a place of anger but he’s well within his right to date a woman with no children because he doesn’t have any.
What's baffling is that he didn't bring up his financial success or material assets, yet the host was talking bimbo babble saying "it's a man character that makes him high value, not his wealth". That's clearly what he was saying!
Women are respected for their standards. Even though some of them don’t make sense. you want a tall man so you can feel protected. well let somebody walk up on you and your man with the size and the skill of Mike Tyson that 6’5 how would you feel then?
Yes I caught that too Chez! I didn't agree with the abortion part neither!!
I wouldn't have explained a thing.
@ChezChardé, Great vid! I will say this though, that at no point did he insult single mothers. Instead, he simply and articulately stated that he worked extremely hard to get himself into a position and status in life where he wants a woman who is not already a mother and given herself and her womb to another man. That's not an insult, that's him, simply and respectfully stating his preference and desire for his life and future and more importantly, his legacy. In fact, it's actually Yahuah-God's preference too, that a man should marry a virgin.
But with modern Western women, that's most definitely redundant nowadays. Kinda like the white wedding dress and what it's supposed to symbolise, hence the decline in men in the West getting married to modern western women. When modern western women don't want to face the truth of the consequences of their actions, they always deflect and go into "feelings mode" and "SIGN language" (Shame, Insult, Guilty & the Need to be right). Modern western women do this to deflect away from their own accountability and instead do the exact thing they're accusing the Man of doing, by insulting and shame Men!
They go away from object, intellectual honesty, reason and logic and instead, revert into "feelings, you hurt my feelings" or the classic "you didn't have to say it like that", when all this Man did was, politely and respectfully, state his preference. At no point was he ever insulting to single mothers.
It's funny how Indian, Chinese, Arabic, Japanese or nearly all other women on the planet don't seem to suffer from this single mother problem because they're raised to know the value of a Man being the head of the household and being needed as the integral part of the raising a successful family and community. Yet the modern, western black woman doesn't get this simple logic. Even after he said that he was raised by a single mother and answered the host question saying so honestly in saying "both of us struggled".
When are modern western black women gonna realise and recognise that it's not just about them? That their actions are deterimental to "their children" above all else? But I guess, well...... it's the sistahood so "feelings", over everything and everyone, including their children. That said, great content. Thank you. Stay blessed. Shalom
That man was the only person on that panel using logic and common sense. The moderator's conclusion is completely wrong and she should not be advising anyone.
Too many fing single mothers in the community and it’s causing terrible issue s
Does he mean all single mothers or just the black ones. I see white women with a bunch of different children
Im with this dude , single moms bring drama aka (the child and baby daddy)
his son doesn't belong in the NBA
Ask a woman would she want her son to grow up and marry or date women with kids when he has none???? Her answer will most likely be (no) that alone should tell her where she rank in the dating market
that brother was right and they tried to move the goal Post and bring up character and deeds gtfoh those are the last things most women bring up when talking about what they want in men if they bring it up at all they hate when the shoes on the other foot.
The truth is like cryptonite
BM should always say, “What do I deserve? What do you think I deserve and why doesn’t the good man get first access?”
BM should say, "I don't date single mothers" and leave it at that.. They are owed no explanation.
Nobody got time 4 304s. Git out! Gon git! 😂
My man stay on your stone and dont back down to these hyenas.
😮he ain't your bro
No single mothers
There are a LOT of single black mothers because a lot of Black men leave their KIDS with the mom. No one is shaming them for being dead beats who don’t care about protecting their seeds and who they procreate with. They don’t care about legacy because apparently anyone can get a baby.
On the opposite end of single mothers, are fathers who left their kids.
If 75 percent of kids in the black community are being raised by single mothers, that means that there were men who were involved with those women who decided not to take responsibility for one reason or another.
His delivery was from a place of anger but he’s well within his right to date a woman with no children because he doesn’t have any.
Nobody shames them? Ma'am, the entire COUNTRY shames them! Men of morals constantly condemn and excommunicate Pookie from our midst! He is not embraced, and we CONSTANTLY advocate for his removal! Take accountability for choosing to lay with the deadbeat who wouldn't make you an honest woman, not society at large! 😑
If a man or woman is childless, until age 40, its a reasonable requirement someone they enter a relationship long-term with to be the same. After 40 its an unreasonable requirement. Meaning yea you can have that requirement but its not reasonable.
No, it's still reasonable and that requirement isn't subject to any litmus test by the woman. A man can have any adult woman he wants who also wants him.
What he said wasn't wrong. His delivery was wrong. It's not about the person feeling; its about the ability to navigate and control the debate.
Ain't nothing wrong with his delivery, it's not like he called her out her name.
What was wrong about his delivery????
Was he supposed to get down on his knees & speak as nicely as possible?????
Delivery makes a big difference
Nothing about his delivery was wrong. They ganged up on him because they didn't like his confidence and the fact that he was high standards.
Like any black man ever. It's always a problem when he expresses what he wants in a woman.
The same thing was said about Kevin Samuels because a significant portion of women who listened in was offended because they weren’t accustomed to hearing a BM with authority in his voice. It’s strange that some of these women in the corporate world who are used to taking reasonable instructions at work but gets in their feelings when a BM speaks to them with similar vigour because of how it makes them feel. The gynocrats will ensure a man would get cancelled if they challenge the cycle without an apology, to grovel or the pre-curser/qualifier “not all…”
The brother has a flawed argument. It can be expressed as a simple financial equation. All the other advice, and declarations of "who's more valuable is just distraction.
Very good point. I don't see he need to insult anyone, But also he raises valid points about the financial piece - not to mention the emotional responsibility. But I dont know if he coudl have presented it in a way that they would of agreed either way
Agree 100%
I read once that "Advice that requires the person to go back in time to follow, is a waste of time".
Women call themselves perfect 10, queens and boss Bs all the time.....higher value men are existential.
The brother is correct if it's black women who call all black men broke and dusty, treat them as a monolith and then try to shame productive black men into to settling for a low value, broke, dusty, no virtue black woman with kids by a man of NO character or financial means. You can't call all black men broke and dusty and then try to over emphasize the very thing that was NEVER important to you and the very thing you LACK yourself. CHARACTER is two way street and it not owned by a gender
As expensive life is not dealing with single mothers has become a simple financial decision.
I was a step dad, back in my simping days... never again -