Are there any other sigmas who have also lived alone for a long time? I've been in a relationship with one woman for over a decade and then married for five years. After my divorce, I've lived alone for the past 19 years. My perspective on life hasn't changed between being married and being single; life is what we make of it after all. Im super curious about others like us and what things forged us in our upbringing. What was your traumatic events in childhood that may have made you a Sigma? Mine was a younger narcissistic brother and those challenges that came with it.
Wow, nowhere as long as you, but going on 6 years. The WOW is because of the same reason, but an older brother who did nothing but put me down, saying how big of a pu$$y I was because I didn't believe in fighting or any kind of violence. I heard how slow I was, how our dad couldn't stand. Once I realized 99% of my insecurities were because of how he treated me, I finally realized how good of a person I am and how jealous he was of me. Not just my words, but many who know us said the same thing. That caused me to be needy and codependent and had no clue I was. Since reaching peace with all of myself, I've become completely independent and not needy and absolutely love my solitude. Right now after the last lady I dated completely change towards me, I recognized it and moved on right away. She tried reaching out but I basically ignored her, which shows me my growth. Now when I look at attractive women, I instantly remind myself how much more important my peace is than risking it with a woman who will most likely be great at first to only show her true colors.
Bro ... I don't even want to recall it all ... Married twice ... divorced recently in 2023 ... won't marry again... 10 years alone previously , no issues I prefer it
I was always an introverted kids growing up. My older sister is a narcissist and treated me like crap. First wife was a malignant narcissist and 2nd one a narcissist. Ive been alone just me and my dog for 3 years now. But I've been an over-the-road trucker for 17 years and I'm alone 90% of the time being on the road most the time with only 60 days a year home. Love it though.
Been living alone for thirty-six years but for quite a long spell of that time, my parents were about a ten-minute drive away. I don't think anything really traumatic ever happened to me that made me more and more sigma, just the daily grind. Stuff like just never fitting in with groups, though I did try - stuff like that. Oddly, about the only time I fit into a group well, was when I led it. that was my first job, and I was leading teenagers, with my only barely being older than them. Later I would be training them to lead as well. It was around that stage I actually bothered to go with them after work late nights at times, where we made sure not to smoke, chew, or drink. I didn't do any of those things, so they didn't either. I never told them not to, but they saw me as mister uptight, and I was in many ways, but probably never would've bothered with telling them not to do that stuff. Lol, I was almost like another parent with them.
I have Recently found out that The term "Sigma" even existed!!!! All of My Life.....A Long Time, I've Always Thought, Felt and Processed Things.......Differently than Others! So, I thought that Most other people just didn't Get It! I've found that the reason that Most people spend Time Alone, is that Time, OUR Time, is VERY Important to and is Shared Very Sparingly. If those that try to get close don't improve us as a person or is Not an improvement in Our Lives, They're Dismissed and aren't even a second thought. Such is the life of a Sigma! I Didn't Now Before,,,But, I Know NOW!!! Rae.
I can relate. Have you read about the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator for INFJs yet? If not, I recommend looking into it; you'll find more details about our personality type.
There are women that are attracted to Sigma's, I've been blessed with a wife of 22 years that accepts me for me; it took me until I was 32 and had dated dozens of women to find her, we did find e/other though. Don't settle and don't care if you're alone until you meet the right one.
At least we know there's nobody in our life the other people think that all these other people just love them most people have no use for them so when you learn to be at Solitude or be on your own anything above that is a bonus it's okay it's all good
There is no one brave enough to tell the truth: It's painful beyond belief to want to hold someone and never be able to - it's crippling, enough to cause all energy/drive to just try to make it to tomorrow, and leaves you too emotionally crushed to care when you cannot....
Are there any other sigmas who have also lived alone for a long time? I've been in a relationship with one woman for over a decade and then married for five years. After my divorce, I've lived alone for the past 19 years. My perspective on life hasn't changed between being married and being single; life is what we make of it after all. Im super curious about others like us and what things forged us in our upbringing. What was your traumatic events in childhood that may have made you a Sigma? Mine was a younger narcissistic brother and those challenges that came with it.
Wow, nowhere as long as you, but going on 6 years.
The WOW is because of the same reason, but an older brother who did nothing but put me down, saying how big of a
pu$$y I was because I didn't believe in fighting or any kind of violence.
I heard how slow I was, how our dad couldn't stand.
Once I realized 99% of my insecurities were because of how he treated me, I finally realized how good of a person I am and how jealous he was of me. Not just my words, but many who know us said the same thing.
That caused me to be needy and codependent and had no clue I was. Since reaching peace with all of myself, I've become completely independent and not needy and absolutely love my solitude.
Right now after the last lady I dated completely change towards me, I recognized it and moved on right away. She tried reaching out but I basically ignored her, which shows me my growth.
Now when I look at attractive women, I instantly remind myself how much more important my peace is than risking it with a woman who will most likely be great at first to only show her true colors.
Bro ... I don't even want to recall it all ...
Married twice ... divorced recently in 2023 ... won't marry again... 10 years alone previously , no issues I prefer it
Trauma resulting in isolation doesn’t mean you’re a sigma… get therapy. And sigmas probably won’t marry twice.
I was always an introverted kids growing up. My older sister is a narcissist and treated me like crap. First wife was a malignant narcissist and 2nd one a narcissist. Ive been alone just me and my dog for 3 years now. But I've been an over-the-road trucker for 17 years and I'm alone 90% of the time being on the road most the time with only 60 days a year home. Love it though.
Been living alone for thirty-six years but for quite a long spell of that time, my parents were about a ten-minute drive away. I don't think anything really traumatic ever happened to me that made me more and more sigma, just the daily grind. Stuff like just never fitting in with groups, though I did try - stuff like that. Oddly, about the only time I fit into a group well, was when I led it. that was my first job, and I was leading teenagers, with my only barely being older than them. Later I would be training them to lead as well. It was around that stage I actually bothered to go with them after work late nights at times, where we made sure not to smoke, chew, or drink. I didn't do any of those things, so they didn't either. I never told them not to, but they saw me as mister uptight, and I was in many ways, but probably never would've bothered with telling them not to do that stuff. Lol, I was almost like another parent with them.
I have Recently found out that The term "Sigma" even existed!!!! All of My Life.....A Long Time, I've Always Thought, Felt and Processed Things.......Differently than Others! So, I thought that Most other people just didn't Get It! I've found that the reason that Most people spend Time Alone, is that Time, OUR Time, is VERY Important to and is Shared Very Sparingly. If those that try to get close don't improve us as a person or is Not an improvement in Our Lives, They're Dismissed and aren't even a second thought. Such is the life of a Sigma! I Didn't Now Before,,,But, I Know NOW!!!
Rae.
I can relate. Have you read about the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator for INFJs yet? If not, I recommend looking into it; you'll find more details about our personality type.
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Bravo! I can relate to your journey, my friend. Keep shining your light in the world, just as all sigmas do.
There are women that are attracted to Sigma's, I've been blessed with a wife of 22 years that accepts me for me; it took me until I was 32 and had dated dozens of women to find her, we did find e/other though. Don't settle and don't care if you're alone until you meet the right one.
I just find the nonsensical interests of others absolutely exhausting.....I just can't pretend otherwise now......
I felt the same way when I was 18, and now, at 53, I still feel the same. I can relate.
Yes and most don't share my interests (autistic special interests), so I don't bore them with it.
you forgot about the part where everyone hates sigmas and sigmas probably hate everyone else too.
Yes, we definitely dislike that mindset and the lack of awareness.
Time isn't the first
The first is the freedom, then is the health and the third is my time!
I can relate to this as a 53-year-old who is currently attracting women who are a third of my age. Thanks for sharing.
We place a high premium on personal autonomy. That comes at a very high cost at times. One betas can't pay and 'alphas' unwilling
Autonomy is paramount to us, and that is the primary reason I worked towards the goal of retiring young. I can relate to this.
Lived alone in my uncle's house on top of a hill for more than a year .. one word .. peace
The most coveted thing we have as sigmas is peace. Yes, I can relate. Keep embracing your peace; you deserve it, brother. Well deserved!
My dream is a cabin in Appalachia
Outstanding!
At least we know there's nobody in our life the other people think that all these other people just love them most people have no use for them so when you learn to be at Solitude or be on your own anything above that is a bonus it's okay it's all good
As sigmas, we love company, but only the right company. It just so happens that the best company is often ourselves. Best company ever!
Because in the end, sigmas arent needy enough to humiliate themselves.
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There is no one brave enough to tell the truth: It's painful beyond belief to want to hold someone and never be able to - it's crippling, enough to cause all energy/drive to just try to make it to tomorrow, and leaves you too emotionally crushed to care when you cannot....
I like how they say why they end up alone 😂😂😂😂😂
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My Life lol
My life lol