How to Long Distance Date the Right Way | Relationship Theory
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- Опубліковано 14 жов 2024
- Are you about to enter a long-distance relationship or are currently in one and are feeling the draining pressures of being apart? Are you looking for practical help on how to deal with lthe distance in a way that leaves both you and your partner satisfied, week-after-week? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore the difficulties of long-distance dating and why you have to be willing to get into the deep-details of both your needs as well as your partner’s. They discuss how to know if they’re just not willing to put in the work, how to maintain each other’s needs while doing long-distance, ways to establish what’s important to each other, and how to lay out the ‘non-negotiable’ aspects of the relationship.
SHOW NOTES:
Long Distance | Lisa and Tom address a sticky long distance relationship. [1:29]
Make It Work | Lisa and Tom discuss the best ways to work through long distance. [1:57]
Importance | Lisa shares how she approached communication with Tom when apart. [4:23]
Non-Negotiable | Lisa shares the importance of knowing each other’s expectations. [7:18]
QUOTES:
“You may have to accept that he’s just not that into you and that that’s why he’s saying, “Oh, I don’t think my lifestyle will be good,” because he just isn’t in it enough for him to suffer through the things that he would have to suffer through for it to work.” [1:34]
“…you just start laying it all out so that you know exactly what’s a win for the other person-you know what’s needed from an emotional standpoint. It’s all hammered out.” [3:15]
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I had a long distant partner. We are soulmates After six years we came together. And we are 10 years together now. While my friends and family told me to let it go , because of the distant. I tried to break up long time ago but it didnt lasted long. because our souls are so connected . I followed my heart and after 10 years im glad i listen to my intuition. But dont be naive. We both worked for this relationship with ups and downs. Its important to care about eachothers feelings . But dont take everything too personal. Like not calling eachother everyday is fine. We also have our own space. When you try to control the relationship its going wrong
That 3 call rule is great. I was stuck in the hospital for a week. I was very upset and resentful at my partner for not being there. He wasn't as communicative as he is now so i didn't know what he was going through at the time too.
Communication is everything. So thanks for sharing the 3 call rule. Might use it
9 Years in Long Distance, my advice 💞
1.) Trust Each Other
2.) Communicate (Discuss expectations)
3.) Conflicts are normal (Never threaten to leave)
4.) Play Questions games like Lovify, to spice things up.
5.) Call unexpectedly.
6.) Surprise Visits if possible
9 years? So many questions. But why arent you living together?
WOW This is really clear cut advice that I think all couples long distance or not should have. Communication without proper expectations leads to frustration. You've spelled everything out on both sides so you
both are satisfied with each other. Bravo! I totally understand not having notifications on because I have zero notifications on my phone otherwise I'd never get anything done. So I don't see a text unless I glance at my cell. Phone rings only when I am not doing a live show or broadcast then it's on Do Not Disturb. And sometimes I forget to turn the Do not Disturb off. I have 3 kids, they're all good, no boyfriend at the moment so it's definitely a conversation that will be had when the time comes. Again thank you and it's helpful to see and hear you both discuss this.
Thank you very much....
Gratef idea...
I like it
Hi Tom & Lisa! I'm really struggling and would love your take on this situation. I was in a six year relationship with someone who started a company last year. I helped him start the business and was his second employee. Our relationship wasn't strong enough to survive the pressure of the business and I'm wondering how to work with someone Im learning not to love? I really like my job and don't want to leave, but I'm hurt that the business took precedence over us. How would you approach working with an ex who is also your boss? Thank you so much, love your show!
If Tom doesn't check his phone or have notifications, how would he know if you called him 3 times? My partner and I have been trying to do this but during work hours, neither of us have notifications and weren't sure how to get past that issue.
I’ve met a very nice man online that lives here in the state I do. He speaks mainly German. We speak every day in the morning and evening. We have still not met after 3 weeks of texting only. He recently had a surgical procedure on his throat - even showed me pics of the OR and doctor. He’s unable to speak for 2 more weeks. What troubles me is he is saying he wants me to be only with him and wants to spend the rest of my life with him. I’ve never met him I’m person and have not heard his voice even. I don’t know what to think. The language barrier is frustrating. I don’t know if you’ll see this, but wanted your feedback
You must speak to each other first of all and see if his English is good enough for the relationship. Good luck
Hello John and Lisa I'm in a long distance relationship but I was wanting to go and see him but he said I'm not aloud to be there with him because he stays on the job site and he always wants me to send him money for food I'm broke now it's getting hard for me
Stop sending money and kick his ass to the curb. If he’s working he has his own money and ask for the money you loaned him
Sounds like a scam.
Yeah
You 2 are adorable💓
Are they still together? I see why he put her on a phone call limit. Sorry to be an a-hole 😆 I would never call a man 3 times over anything, especially that. She’s very high maintenance.
Oooops this is their channel. Sorry, Lisa. I would have dumped you over that phone call. Grow up.
Ngl she does seem a lil high maintenence and it ended up being over nothing 😅 not to even mention she does all the talking she's do ready to talk talk talk he barely gets words in 🥴
Lol 😂
People always can have excuses