my contentment year is changing my life: what ive learned in my year of contentment so far

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  • @njpans
    @njpans 2 роки тому +2

    What a powerful reflection. Thank you so much for being so real and raw. You are not alone sweetheart. I think that is so much of what life is all about…for the first few years of our lives, we depend on someone else to keep us alive so we learn ways to get what we need by getting their approval and therefore their love and support/protection. The toughest part of life is UNLEARNING this programming so as to best take care of ourselves and the hardest part is breaking through the proverbial shell of who we needed to be, to be hatched/reborn into who we truly are!! Good work girly…keep doing the hard and messy work AS WELL AS the fun and creative work 😊❤

  • @elisabetarvidsson8586
    @elisabetarvidsson8586 2 роки тому +9

    Just had to pause after the autheticity-part. This resonated so much with me. Thank you for saying what you did!! I come from quite a conservative family and realizing that I can have my own opinions have been a long walk. Owning up to them and living them even harder and I've barely started that journey. Being your authentic self is so hard when people have constantly been telling you what to think and believe.

    • @shawnaripari
      @shawnaripari  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you for sharing 💕 I also come from a conservative family and can relate to how you feel, especially standing in your authenticity when you've been told how to feel/think/believe.

  • @MIOLAZARUS
    @MIOLAZARUS 2 роки тому +1

    So illuminating.. For me running really helps with mental health - and physical. It is ultimately the same IMO. I didn't get to the root of my problems until quite late in my no-buy (I still bought stuff but not nearly as much as before) - now I feel like I have a better grip but what need to be the focus for me is how to make myself content. I think years of fragmentation in the psychiatric system have taken away my powers. my authentic soul. But now she is out out out

  • @kellymaresha
    @kellymaresha 7 місяців тому

    Honey the FIRST 2 minutes! Change your mind! Consistent growth!

  • @emilyanne1426
    @emilyanne1426 2 роки тому +2

    This was a really powerful video. Thank you for sharing your authenticity with us! I really relate to what you are talking about with having gone through traumas and then dealing with really negative thoughts and also feeling like I didn't know who I was anymore. I don't know anyone whose been though trauma that didn't have a really negative period after that because it's your brain/body (in a warped way) trying to save you from further pain. For me, having compassion for myself and allowing it to be okay and understandable to have gotten stuck in negative thinking was a big part of actually getting to a better place emotionally. Lifting is also soo satisfying for me too so I love that you get so much strength from that too! Also I am really loving your makeup look today! You look lovely with a slightly deeper eye shadow.

    • @shawnaripari
      @shawnaripari  2 роки тому

      Thank you so much for sharing Emily and i appreciate your vulnerability here ❤️ I'm glad you've been able to work through some of the hard things in your life and enjoy lifting as well!

  • @exomake_mehorololo
    @exomake_mehorololo 2 роки тому +3

    Thinking about your videos on consumerism, no buy, decluttering methods and contentment and then this year so far for me... Its really a journey and quite a complex matter to find balance in all this and in life: being more conscious of empty materialism, appreciating what you have material and immaterial, finding what really gives you joy vs our world is telling you to seek... It seems the most important thing is really to just listen to yourself and try to find out what you need! Its like that weeds out quite a lot of unnecessary things and even habits?... Even if you are per se someone confident enough to focus on your wants you might unconsciously still do and think a lot of things that are not you but come from the outside. Lately going through my things.. I come across things where I'm like: I don't need you.. Don't want you...and I feel like I didn't buy this thing for me but because I thought I should have it.
    I know that's not that deep... But.. I hope it's a start to become more aware and learn to live, do and buy according to me and my needs with a focus on meaningful experiences... I feel like I'm moving very slow though 🙁

    • @shawnaripari
      @shawnaripari  2 роки тому +1

      You make a great point that sometimes our wants and desires don't come from us or from within. In terms of sussing out authenticity it plays a role. I think slow progress is not a bad thing. It can give us time to really figure things out and maybe even bring a more lasting change than rushing through things. Imo progress matters no matter how slow with these kinds of things.

  • @marietollett8323
    @marietollett8323 2 роки тому +1

    I 100% agree with no more light dimmers in 2022. ❤❤❤

    • @shawnaripari
      @shawnaripari  2 роки тому +1

      Byeee ✋️ it's our time to shine ✨️

  • @leannecox6427
    @leannecox6427 2 роки тому +1

    I think you are on to something when you say about finding a way to release your emotions. It’s a transforming part of healing and will take as long as it’s right for you. It will also massively help with your journey to contentment. When you have experienced that you may then be in a better place to look at your negative experiences, and find something that it taught you? I’ve found that this has helped me to feel less negative about my past. I believe we learn from every experience. If you pull the lesson out then it becomes empowering to you rather than another example of how life has given you a shit hand.
    I have been gratitude journaling and this was thank you to you for your video on this. It works wonders so thank you 🙏

    • @shawnaripari
      @shawnaripari  2 роки тому

      Totally agree with what you've said here and I'm glad you've been enjoying gratitude Journaling!

  • @justynasiegien3927
    @justynasiegien3927 2 роки тому +4

    So powerful thoughts, thank you for sharing 🌻

  • @laralikesmascara
    @laralikesmascara 2 роки тому +1

    Shawna you are so open and honest and share so much in these videos!! There's a lot that I don't know how to respond to here but thank you for sharing everything

  • @ghoultiful
    @ghoultiful 2 роки тому

    You may want to look up masking (psychology). It is very common for people with trauma/bad experiences to put up a front and it feels like we were wasting time but we were keeping ourselves SAFE and that was the most important thing for us at the time. What matters is that once we are out of those bad places we focus on healing and developing healthy habits.
    It takes a lot of concerted effort to figure out what you like and get used to doing things for you without worrying and I am very proud of you for putting in the work! Am now 36 and can say like every 4-5 years I have to evaluate what I'm doing and if it's still serving me, but not giving a f*ck about what people think gets easier and easier with every passing year. Keep it up!

    • @shawnaripari
      @shawnaripari  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you so much for this comment ❤️ you're right that reevaluation is important every few years but also easy to forget

    • @ghoultiful
      @ghoultiful 2 роки тому

      @@shawnaripari ❤❤❤❤ It sounds counterintuitive but I have found that using a quarterly instead of yearly goal-setting system helps a lot.

  • @angelaa.9915
    @angelaa.9915 2 роки тому +1

    Oh dang, there’s actually so much I want to say in response to your points here!!
    First of all, addressing discontentment: YES. Totally! It’s normal to feel discontent sometimes. In fact, I’ve started incorporating some of YOUR advice to address my occasional discontent, namely using art journaling to channel those feelings.
    Also, I can totally relate to mourning a part of your life you lost because of trauma (I’m assuming - please forgive me if I misinterpreted that). It is sad, and it can also be empowering, because it was your experience and your experiences collectively make you who you are.
    Lastly, I so agree with the joy that can come from feeling the strength of your own body! I’m not a runner, never have been, but I’ve felt that high for sure. Not sure what you’re into musically, but I cannot recommend the UA-cam channel emkfit enough; she really helped me challenge some of my own limiting beliefs about movement, dance, and strength.
    ❤️

    • @shawnaripari
      @shawnaripari  2 роки тому +1

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts here Angela!
      OK first, I love emkfit! I don't do much at home workouts anymore because I'm typically doing cardio outside but this is a great reminder to circle back to her because her workouts are joyful!
      I also agree that no matter circumstance discontent happens and then there are levels to that too. You actually made me think a little bit about mourning. And I think to an extent yes, especially relationships,and those memories I mentioned. I'll never get them back and I didn't appreciate them or "take advantage" of those opportunities and appreciate those people in their time and now they're gone. But, there's also a part of me that knows I can capture new happy memories and regain some of who I was and there's a sadness in letting myself basically lie down on the ground for 8 years. So there's a sadness in losing that time and what could have been.

    • @angelaa.9915
      @angelaa.9915 2 роки тому

      @@shawnaripari yes yes yes - joyful is the perfect word for emkfit, that’s awesome that you love her too!! I did the BSB/NSync one recently and had too much fun to even consider it a workout!
      And for sure, I totally feel you on those lost opportunities. For me, I feel like the lost time was with myself… I have had to mourn the fact that I lost memories of my own life, my own childhood. But at the same time, I can try to be better with my own child, and I can also not let it color the memories that I do have from that time. Thank you for fostering such a vulnerable conversation.

  • @diamondintherough4326
    @diamondintherough4326 2 роки тому

    Hi Shawna, I am a relatively new subscriber. I want you to know how much I appreciate your content. I am so impressed by your ability to put ideas into words- this is something I am not able to do (yet!) and admire this about you. I relate 100% with your discussion about authenticity; about being unapologetically myself. Thank you for sharing your heart with us. It’s so comforting for me to know that I’m not alone in the struggle.

    • @shawnaripari
      @shawnaripari  2 роки тому

      You are definitely not alone in your struggle and I hope you feel welcome here 💕

  • @michydee6728
    @michydee6728 2 роки тому

    Thank you for being so transparent!

  • @Nicole-rx2fx
    @Nicole-rx2fx 2 роки тому

    Wonderful video! When it comes to fully committing to do things - I'd recommend reading the 4 agreements, especially the part about discussing Always Doing Your Best. I happened to find readings of this on UA-cam for free (IDKwhat NickBeOn - channel name) and listened to it while taking some walks recently.
    HLP does videos on "what's cheering me up right now" and I feel like your bingo updates are similar. Hearing what brought you joy/happiness/contentment recently is always content I enjoy from your channel.

    • @shawnaripari
      @shawnaripari  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you so much Nicole and foe sharing that resource. I'm going to check it out.
      Are you in my mind right now?! 😅 I really like talking about what I've been loving because it's a joyful experience to talk about things you love and enjoy with others!

  • @angelaa.9915
    @angelaa.9915 2 роки тому

    Pausing at 9:35 so I don’t forget what I want to say 😎
    I agree about letting go of the idea of having to do a year-long no-buy (or doing a no-buy at all). Just because that’s the standard format we see on social media and it’s worked for other people doesn’t mean it’s the only way.
    Was your no-buy makeup only? I can’t remember 😅

    • @shawnaripari
      @shawnaripari  2 роки тому

      Yes, totally agree!
      The nobuy was supposed to be makeup with a budget for fashion that was kind of like essentials or replacements.

    • @angelaa.9915
      @angelaa.9915 2 роки тому

      @@shawnaripari can’t wait to see what direction you take with your project moving forward! I’m curious to see what your content will look like when it’s less stuff-focused. I don’t know that it’s feasible for stuff not to be a part of it, because stuff simply is a part of our lives, but I can definitely appreciate the desire for balance between tangible things and intangible practices.

    • @shawnaripari
      @shawnaripari  2 роки тому +1

      @@angelaa.9915 you're totally right, and I think that there will still be "stuff" videos even just talking about makeup is "stuff." I think the change will be quite small and perhaps not super noticeable because I really like a lot of my content right now, especially the videos where I share my thoughts on topics like minimalism and declutters ect. It's likely just a small change that only really matters in my mind 😂

    • @angelaa.9915
      @angelaa.9915 2 роки тому

      @@shawnaripari well I love it!! Your content is so thought-provoking. Also, thank you for your gratitude journal download - I started it a week ago and it’s fan-freaking-tastic!

  • @ritas140
    @ritas140 2 роки тому +2

    I’m loving your hair!!

  • @MsEmzie
    @MsEmzie 2 роки тому

    I found the myer briggs personality test was a great starting point to figure out who I am as a person. Might be helpful if you haven't looked into that already. X

  • @alisonr819
    @alisonr819 2 роки тому

    On the no-buy. It sounds like you have decided on a good approach - to be minimalistic about minimalism and take only what you need from it.

    • @shawnaripari
      @shawnaripari  2 роки тому +1

      I didn't think about it like this but Yes! Love this, also minimalist about minimalism 😂

  • @miaohldin4272
    @miaohldin4272 2 роки тому

    I can’t really figure out what to say. So I’m giving up on that and leaving this instead: ♥️♥️