Why I DON'T Watch Luxury YouTubers, Having Babies & Stress Eating // Q&A

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  • @jenniferbalbo3744
    @jenniferbalbo3744 Рік тому +201

    I'm child-free by choice as well & I applaud you for mentioning this in your video today! Just like you, when I was about 10 I knew I didn't want kids. They were just not for me. I'm lucky that I was never pressured about it. Have a wonderful weekend!

    • @SophieShohetOfficial
      @SophieShohetOfficial  Рік тому +11

      You have a great weekend too lovely Jennifer! Hugs xx

    • @kathleenwang
      @kathleenwang Рік тому +14

      It's a personal choice and so glad you mentioned this! it's our choice and it's great to have so much freedom and retire early!

    • @biafranowandforever.7161
      @biafranowandforever.7161 Рік тому

      Good for you.I enjoy my bundles of joy.

    • @Pemma200
      @Pemma200 Рік тому +10

      Same here, I have decided I don’t want children as young as I was in primary school.

    • @danishpastry6137
      @danishpastry6137 Рік тому +19

      I was late to the party as far as not wanting kids go. I suppose until I was about 30, I was ambivalent really, and if I ever thought about it, it was "yeah, that's the norm, so yeah, it'll happen one day". And then I split up with my then boyfriend, and had the thought that I may never have kids. I was so okay with this realisation that I stopped and questioned myself why I wasn't bothered at all. When I met my husband a year or so later, he didn't want kids and tbh neither of us have regretted it (I'm in my 50s now).
      I just wish people would respect our decision. I'm fed up of those who say we're selfish (no more than those who chose to have kids), and those who say we'll be lonely when we're older (that's the number one selfish reason to have kids imho). Some people (not those close to us) are so insensitive to ask if we are able to have kids!

  • @marionandrews176
    @marionandrews176 Рік тому +49

    I got my undergrad at 47 years old…best decision I ever made. It took me 6 years. I went to a traditional private university and did the in-person classes. Contrary to what many people told me, it has had a huge positive impact on my career. It’s never too late.

    • @KarinaSwan
      @KarinaSwan Рік тому +1

      Hello, may I ask, were people in school rude in any way?

    • @malillis608
      @malillis608 Рік тому +1

      Congratulations and well done!

  • @monarch6443
    @monarch6443 Рік тому +154

    OMG! I can't believe that people are still getting the children question. It's so disrespectful!
    I'm over 65 yrs old now and I knew in high school I didn't want kids. I'm so happy with my decision!!!!!!
    Having children is the most important job a human can have so make sure you are doing what is best for you!

    • @katemiller7874
      @katemiller7874 Рік тому +4

      It’s a normal question. Not disrespectful at all.

    • @luckyyyinlove
      @luckyyyinlove Рік тому +4

      It's not disrespectful. It's how the human race survives and the intellect of two individuals is passed on to better society.

  • @hollyg197
    @hollyg197 Рік тому +18

    Grateful mom of two here. Ladies - none of you owes the world children. Choose the life that works best for you, and God bless!!

  • @PennonsFall
    @PennonsFall Рік тому +88

    I've noticed this pressuring is common among female colleagues as well, not just family. I received a lot of lukewarm responses or confusion when I stated I was in the child-free by choice camp. I do not feel I'm missing out on something, but other women like to tell me I am. I used to question if there was something wrong with me as a woman for not wanting children but at this point it's my choice and I stand by it. Thank you for bringing this up Sophie. It's validating.

    • @SophieShohetOfficial
      @SophieShohetOfficial  Рік тому +13

      Hello lovely! Yes the question never goes away 😂😅 I think that there’s more than one path in life 😊❤️xx

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Рік тому +12

      they're projecting insecurity with their own choice so have to normalise it

    • @jennn9637
      @jennn9637 Рік тому +6

      The thought of having kids stresses me. I feel that if i do hv kids i’ll have depression because its so overwhelming, for me. I’m happy kids free and i can do what i want with my life instead of being tied down with responsibilities. Some people will say its selfish… i guess i am but the world is full of people (or over populated), one or two less human from me isnt going to make a difference… besides i wont be a good mom i dont think.

    • @danishpastry6137
      @danishpastry6137 Рік тому +9

      I think there's a bit of self validation in people questioning our choice. By us deciding not to, it maybe makes some people wonder if they made the right decision - it's hard having kids, so they maybe want to know if they made a mistake. I know I feel vindicated hearing of others who like me, have chosen not to have a family.

    • @katemiller7874
      @katemiller7874 Рік тому +1

      Sea breeze- no it’s odd to us that have kids and love and enjoy them why others don’t. Not projecting anything. Having children is actually quite normal

  • @jailbird61
    @jailbird61 Рік тому +36

    I opted out of having kids. Now that I’m in my 60’s and happily married I have NO regrets. I also see what my brothers have gone through with their kids. I have NO regrets for not having kids. That, and I have $$$ in my retirement accounts, new car(s), a beautiful home, etc. Happy with our decision!

  • @nikkil764
    @nikkil764 Рік тому +14

    I’m 67 and never regretted not having children. I did experience a lot of unfortunate comments particularly at work. I was upper management at a Fortune 500 company in the US. Even though they talked a good game about diversity, that didn’t extend to employees who chose to not have children. One boss even called me into his office to explain that I would need to work extra to fill in for a pregnant coworker. He said someone will do the same for you when you’re ready to have kids. I told him I wasn’t having any. He was shocked. I got an angry lecture about how intelligent and educated people have a responsibility to have kids because the uneducated are just pumping them out. I was also told that I shouldn’t take time off at Christmas because “it’s not like you have a real Christmas with children.” You have to grow a tough skin but I wouldn’t change a thing.

  • @stylebase
    @stylebase Рік тому +42

    I am also child-free by choice, and I would like to thank you for making your audience aware of the importance of respecting other people's choices. I haven't regretted for a second not having children. I was, as well, way younger than 10 years old when I realized I am not into babies. Pressure however is so, so annoying! Just yesterday our neighbor told us a story how a 56 year old cancer patient gave an interview about how he is regretting not having a child. I am so grateful I never gave in to pressures, because I would regret having a child. This amazing lifestyle we have would be impossible with a child, and it would also ruin the nature of our relationship.

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Рік тому +8

      ah but did he regret not RAISING a child? having v raising are very different things
      a lot of men expect the woman to do all the childcare stuff, or almost 100%

    • @douglasgriffiths3534
      @douglasgriffiths3534 Рік тому +1

      @@seabreeze4559 Definitely. The woman has to do all the child crap. That's not right or fair. The man contributed 50%, so he needs to help out and give her some me time. Another reason I never wanted kids. I was around 10 years old too when I decided that nope, kids are not for me. (Jan Griffiths).

  • @mynotsoperfectlife2
    @mynotsoperfectlife2 Рік тому +13

    I am going to be 35 in a couple of months and I went back to med school a couple of weeks ago! Enjoying it immensely, even though my luxury collection is on hold for now...

    • @mamad5686
      @mamad5686 Рік тому +1

      Congrats! 👏👏 How did you do it? I need to hear this inspiring story if you don't mind?

    • @lunar686
      @lunar686 Рік тому

      Did that involve re-doing all the entry requirements?

    • @sahnie82
      @sahnie82 Рік тому

      I turn 35 in March, starting an Architecture program this year.

  • @wendycoles-littlepage1919
    @wendycoles-littlepage1919 Рік тому +25

    Thank you for the shout-out, Sophie! You are so sweet. I'm childfree by choice also, and I've never regretted it. Thanks so much!

  • @AOuiBitWorn
    @AOuiBitWorn Рік тому +13

    I have never watched you for hauls. Actually the opposite. I like the conversation, advice and your personality. I’m not huge into luxury shopping. Don’t get me wrong, I’m in my 50s and buy what I want at this point, but I buy one to two luxury items a year. So it’s you I come here for.

  • @lolastaniszewski8874
    @lolastaniszewski8874 Рік тому +22

    My husband and I are very happy.We are married 35 yrs and kid free.Have no regrets.It's a personal choice.I am happy for those who decide to have kids yet you and David like myself and husband should never feel pressured.

  • @NancyLiedel
    @NancyLiedel Рік тому +59

    Being an adult means knowing you. I have 4, my kids don't want them. They are under no obligation to make me a grandma, shudder. I raised mine. It was for me. I'm happy if my kids are. They are pretty happy adults.

    • @Bestlifemiddleage
      @Bestlifemiddleage Рік тому +3

      Actually I wouldn’t even mind if my kids don’t want kids. Why? Because I won’t be the grandma that always want to babysit. Sorry not sorry but I raised 3 kids and I have zero intention to babysit a lot.😂

    • @danishpastry6137
      @danishpastry6137 Рік тому

      So great you know that having kids was something you did for you - one of the things we get, having chosen not to have kids, is people saying that we're selfish - whatever we choose to do is usually selfish (at least I hope people are only having kids because they want to, rather than having them because other people or society expect you to).

    • @katemiller7874
      @katemiller7874 Рік тому

      Yes we have 4 children also. Two of them want children 2 don’t. It’s their life

  • @maggiesmama7782
    @maggiesmama7782 Рік тому +31

    I am child free by choice & have never regretted it. ❤

  • @soozempen814
    @soozempen814 Рік тому +12

    I can totally relate to that question about kids. Not all of us have that desire, and my girlfriends who are without kids all say the same thing, they never even considered being parents when picturing their lives. It's just a shame that a lot financial and government programs lean heavily towards married with kids, leaving single and without kids as self sufficient and an after thought. 🤷

  • @rachel.k15
    @rachel.k15 Рік тому +36

    Thank you for speaking on being child free. I'm 30 and have no kids, the amount of people who ask me WEEKLY when I'm having kids is insane and so rude.

    • @katemiller7874
      @katemiller7874 Рік тому +4

      If your married I don’t feel it’s rude to ask at all. New generation of offended lol

    • @eshaibraheem4218
      @eshaibraheem4218 Рік тому +6

      @@katemiller7874 Yes, it is rude. Courtesy is still a virtue, and asking impertinent questions is discourteous.

    • @rachel.k15
      @rachel.k15 Рік тому +4

      @@katemiller7874 ok Karen lol

    • @SwanTheQueen
      @SwanTheQueen Рік тому +2

      Misery loves company. They want you to be as miserable as they are!

    • @SwanTheQueen
      @SwanTheQueen Рік тому

      @@katemiller7874 is absolutely RUDE because is not your business. Go and get yourself a life.

  • @asajohansson7867
    @asajohansson7867 Рік тому +14

    I have never felt an urge to have kids! I love living MY life

  • @theviceinvirtue
    @theviceinvirtue Рік тому +17

    Thank you for being outspoken about a child-free life. I think a lot of us are afraid of speaking up about it because of societal pressures. I'm starting to be more vocal about it too (only when prompted) and in general less concerned about what other people think about my choice :) P.S. also a fellow bunny lover! We've lost our 2 but in the future I expect to have too many ! 🐰

  • @juliatarot3620
    @juliatarot3620 Рік тому +6

    What I love about you Sophie, besides your work on UA-cam, is your eloquence. You speak so well, so clearly, you are so articulate and careful with your words it’s a delight and it definitely makes you stand out in the beauty / fashion community

  • @katrinalee6475
    @katrinalee6475 Рік тому +14

    I do wish people would be more understanding of the ones who do not want children. I too made a decision awhile back to not have any. I really enjoyed this Q&A! Im a fairly new viewer and I am thoroughly enjoying your content! ❤

  • @hazeldaniels3705
    @hazeldaniels3705 Рік тому +19

    40 year old here with no children, i have a dog and horse instead 😃

    • @vivyrox7202
      @vivyrox7202 Рік тому +5

      Same :) only add another dog and 10 cats 😂😂

  • @biancaaranha6201
    @biancaaranha6201 Рік тому +3

    Ah, I love this. Super transparent, no "aspirational" fake answers. What keeps you going? Paying the bills. AMEN!

  • @KarinaSwan
    @KarinaSwan Рік тому +3

    Someone who asked about luxury luggage, I hope this helps:
    I agree with Sophie's answer, but about Rimowa. If you are contemplating about whether to go for Rimowa as opposed to LV for instance, I've worked with them and we learnt about what makes them different: not only they're very light and the way everything is done inside is very comfortable, they use the same material as used in planes, making them very durable and they will last you forever! Also, they don't stand out the way a designer one would, won't attract unnecessary attention (as Sophie mentioned thieves), only those who know will know 🌞

  • @giselleharo_
    @giselleharo_ Рік тому +11

    Let’s do this more often ❤! Every time I feel like pressured on not achieving everything all at ones, or the fact that I still don’t have the luxury I want, I think of you Sophie, and all you have shared with us, the highlights & bumps in life and how to overcome every obstacle gracefully as you have, all of it in a beautiful outfit and in really nice shoes. Send you lots of love and gratitude dearest Sophie 🦋

  • @vivianeduerinck5914
    @vivianeduerinck5914 Рік тому +7

    I always knew I didn't want children since I was 10 years old. The obviousness to have children was rather choking to me. For a very short time I talked myself into children but it lasted only 3 weeks. After that, the more pressure I felt the more stubbornly I became. I was happy with my husband without children. I'm in my 60's now and not a moment of regret. 😊

  • @janetthomas8244
    @janetthomas8244 Рік тому +11

    Like you I never wanted to have kids. I also had a brother born when I was 10. Love him to bits but also helped with him and saw all the work involved. And then my mother died just before he turned 5 so it was really intense. Felt like I had already done it. And I agree, finding a good partner is a lot about luck. Took me a lot longer but I finally found a good one.

  • @tamaramcrae4037
    @tamaramcrae4037 Рік тому +3

    Sophie you will never be boring, if we are still here it’s because we all enjoy watching you. Love you!

  • @staciarenee2982
    @staciarenee2982 Рік тому +13

    I have 3 girls myself, and while they are my entire heart and I love being a mom more than anything, my oldest does not want children. She has said she either wants none or just one. I think the most important thing a woman needs to consider before having a child is are you okay with putting that child and his/her needs completely before your own? I became a mom very young, so that's the one thing i remember feeling, that my child 100% has to come 1st.
    I can completely understand not everyone is ment to be a parent and i respect those who take it seriously. Much love xxx

    • @katemiller7874
      @katemiller7874 Рік тому

      Yes exactly. If you are all about you don’t have them. The child has to come first or they will eventually have issues. I’ve seen this over and over.

  • @genevievemead6792
    @genevievemead6792 Рік тому +4

    I found parts of my University time stressful. The social pressures to party, have fun, get a boyfriend, spend money etc were huge. I enjoyed a lot of my University time but being around young adults finding themselves ( or not) without parental guidance was at times quite hard. Not enough people mentions this. I liked this video a lot. Thank you very much.

  • @CazzieC_
    @CazzieC_ Рік тому +1

    Thank you for sharing the story of your first bunny. Mine passed more than a decade ago and I miss him dearly and have been living with guilt all these years wondering what really went wrong. He died a couple of months after we moved and just like yours, his behaviour changed, stopped eating and quickly deteriorated. Your story provided some closure and answers. I still feel bad thinking about what he must have gone through but I’m glad we had 6 wonderful years to look back on and remember by.

  • @yagirljuly
    @yagirljuly Рік тому +5

    Love that colour/top on you! Your answers to everyone’s questions are so thoughtful 💕 hope you are well xo

  • @jo-anneneilson8571
    @jo-anneneilson8571 Рік тому +3

    I knew my entire life that I did not want children. Even when I played with dolls, I knew the 'real' thing would not happen. When my little friends spoke about what they would name their kids, I did not join in. When I got older, I had people tell me I was "selfish" for not wanting to be a mother or that I must dislike kids. That hurt. I was a school teacher and loved it and loved the students. People simply could not wrap their heads around it. I stopped trying to explain myself.

  • @ritajaitly4719
    @ritajaitly4719 Рік тому +5

    It's Friday and a bonus video?! What a treat! People need to realize having children is a CHOICE! I am blessed with a child, of course, whom I love more than anything in the world. But I also thought about it growing up if having a child is the right choice for me. I was always confused and wasn't very sure about it. As time went on, I was ready for a child, and my heart can never be more full! However, families and friends that ask about it is really disrespectful and intrusive. They don't realize what people are going though (infertility, health issues, financially, etc). Also, it has been engrained in their minds that they automatically assume once a couple is married, they should have children. People somehow cannot wrap their heads around when they hear someone does not want kids. The choice at the end of the day is between you and your partner. Thank you for sharing Sophie!

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Рік тому

      there's also a kind of selfishness in the older generation, as if they only had kids to get to grandkids

  • @Saltylass
    @Saltylass 11 місяців тому

    I’ve never really been that interested in the luxury things you talk about..I’ve always watched because I think you’re lovely and wise and inspiring. You’re not boring at all!

  • @parisbear6062
    @parisbear6062 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for your honesty that working to pay the bills is what motivates you daily -to go to work. You and David are an insperation to many people with your down to earth attitude.

  • @CC-kr3mr
    @CC-kr3mr Рік тому

    Sophie,
    I have felt exactly the same way as you regarding children. I love children. I think they are so fun and cute, they love me it doesn’t even bother me when a child is crying in a store I am empathetic towards their discomfort. However, I have never wanted to have a baby. I think sometimes people think you are a cold person if you don’t want to have children and that couldn’t be further from truth. opposite personality wise, It’s refreshing to hear others speak of their similar experiences. Thank you for being so open ❤

  • @wendycoles-littlepage1919
    @wendycoles-littlepage1919 Рік тому +6

    Oops forgot to also say that the surgery went well, and I'm resting at home, watching your vids!

  • @MitchellWiggs
    @MitchellWiggs Рік тому +2

    Thanks for answering my question!! And i’m on the same page with you about the kids, i sort of still feel like a kid myself so the idea of raising my own feels crazy haha ❤❤

  • @aplesauceimtheboss
    @aplesauceimtheboss Рік тому +18

    It's refreshing to see a marriage where the husband and wife don't have separate finances. This is how my parents do it & my ex-fiancé wanted to keep it separate! It seems so common to have it separate now & to me, that's not what a marriage is about!

    • @mamad5686
      @mamad5686 Рік тому +3

      If you both have the same money philosophy, then a joint account will work otherwise it will actually ruin your marriage. Been married 22yrs, started out with our money together then along the way came to the conclusion separate was better for us. 20yrs later, still think that was the best decision. Do what's best for the relationship one isn't necessarily better than the other.

    • @aplesauceimtheboss
      @aplesauceimtheboss Рік тому +1

      @@mamad5686 Oh, I totally agree to do what's best for your marriage!
      I just see so much snark, especially from men (maybe it's just the awful ones I've chosen) who act as if we brought our money together I'd somehow be stealing from him as I didn't make *as* much, even though I was willing to sign a prenup. To me, that type of mentality from the start is that they want a roommate, not a wife.

    • @mamad5686
      @mamad5686 Рік тому +2

      @@aplesauceimtheboss in that case y'all have separate accounts and a joint one from which bills are paid. From one woman to another, you should have a separate account. A just incase account, prenup or not. Men these days aren't cut from the same cloth as your dad. 😉

    • @katemiller7874
      @katemiller7874 Рік тому

      Absolutely money should be together.

  • @makeupnmedicine
    @makeupnmedicine Рік тому +6

    The kid thing, I am in it right now. And I work with children. Just don't know that I want my own! Thanks for speaking about it.

    • @lunar686
      @lunar686 Рік тому

      Might actually be worth seeing a psychologist or something to help you with that decision. It’s a pretty challenging one to work through, but it seems almost impossible to be able to have a neural discussion with anyone about it, where your asked the right questions to help you through it, rather than being bombarded with the strong opinions of others and lots of pressure

  • @staciarenee2982
    @staciarenee2982 Рік тому +6

    This is random but i loved your paranormal story time... would you consider doing more of those?!

  • @phantomthread4385
    @phantomthread4385 Рік тому +3

    I have 3 step kids and when I chose to get a hysterectomy at 40 cos of fibroids it did give me a few crying times cos of not having a kid. Cut to now and I'm so glad this situation was done without my input in a way.

  • @veronicavenditti3614
    @veronicavenditti3614 Рік тому +3

    Great video Sophie! And thanks for answering my question and mentioning me... I found it all very interesting, it never gets boring with you!
    I too, like you, have never wanted children and saying it out loud makes me almost a monster in people's eyes! I've never felt able to handle a responsibility as big as that of another person's life, I think it's really an immense responsibility to bring a child into the world and that a lot of people do it too lightly. There are people who think that if a couple doesn't want children, it doesn't even make sense for them to get married..! Is absurd.
    However you are right, finding the right person also requires a bit of luck, and you and David really deserved each other 🥰

  • @brysoga
    @brysoga Рік тому +3

    When I stress about work, I cant relax. If I know it's temporary (eg a tight deadline) I actually just get on with it, work late do whatever I need to get the problem solved. If it's not temporary I look to make a permanent change

    • @SophieShohetOfficial
      @SophieShohetOfficial  Рік тому

      It’s definitely something I need to work on! My handling of stress is pretty terrible! Have a super weekend xx

  • @delimastein8044
    @delimastein8044 Рік тому

    As a mom of 5, I deeply respect the choice anyone makes around having kids. For me, children add an element to my life I’d never want to miss out on. But that’s for me. My husband and I own 3 businesses so our days are long and very filled, but it’s a labor of love for us, and it works bc we’re partners in everything. That being said, this may not be the ideal vision someone else has for their life, and that’s their choice. I find it so annoying when ppl want to push their vision of a “perfect life” onto others. Keep living your version of an amazing life! You’re truly blessed! ❤

  • @kitaolivia
    @kitaolivia 7 місяців тому

    Your story about how the recruiters started ringing as soon as you met David gives me chills!

  • @Jasmine-lj1ou
    @Jasmine-lj1ou Рік тому +5

    Good on you both for making that choice and sticking to it, despite the pressures. If I could go back, I wouldn't have had kids.

  • @MiStuSia16
    @MiStuSia16 Рік тому +1

    As a mother of 2, I must say - it’s awesome and super responsible of you to decide not to have kids. To stay true to yourself and what YOU want. Especially now, when having babies seems to give a huge boost in views. There are tons of channels, families, former Beaty gurus - now having family channels, popping babies every 2 years… earning tons of money on social media by selling their kids privacy… among all this BS you are genuine. And it’s so cool that you and your partner BOTH have the same opinion on having kids. Kudos to you both! Sending love from Poland ❤!

  • @susannem3526
    @susannem3526 Рік тому +9

    I knew I never wanted kids, but when I was 36 I had my daughter- she never cried, slept all night. Fantastic baby! She`s 16 now. I`m so happy that I have her. But she is my only child. One child was enough for me.
    We have 3 free ranging bunnies at home right now- lovely lovely pets.

    • @perthfanny3017
      @perthfanny3017 Рік тому +2

      Agreed! Only one child! 😂

    • @katemiller7874
      @katemiller7874 Рік тому

      Usually that first one is so good they trick you into having the second one 😂

  • @wendychen2828
    @wendychen2828 Рік тому +4

    Bravo excellent totally correct response regarding pressure ..... because yes!!! At the end of the day the people giving you pressure will not be the one taking care of the children you have......you will!!! It's a huuuuuuge commitment.......bigger than marriage even!!!
    (As such I do have three kids though I love them to bits .....but seriously not everyone can and should do it!!!)

    • @SophieShohetOfficial
      @SophieShohetOfficial  Рік тому +1

      Hello lovely Wendy! Thank you so much for watching and sharing your thoughts 🙏😊 Hugs to you xx

  • @asummer9460
    @asummer9460 Рік тому +1

    Hi Sophie🤗 I’ve been watching your vids for years but not always commenting, I just enjoyed watching you talk & sometimes taking us shopping with you... I just love your honesty, your talk on experience, your views on different topics ie Cars .. I love luxury goods too but your taste & my taste is different so it does not really matter about whether you buy luxury goods to show us, I just enjoyed the window shopping around London with you. Re-childless subject, I think it’s really a personal views n choice. I have to say it’s pretty common nowadays a lot of couples are choosing not to have kids. It’s better not to have if you are not ready than those that actually have them(kids) and regretted it & abandon or abuse their kids due to their own submission. Kids are not temporary wants, it’s a lifetime commitment to care, give n support.... and a 2way ❤I hope people gets to appreciate more, gratitude more & show kindness more & not judging bcuz they are different.

  • @billiexluxury
    @billiexluxury Рік тому +1

    Really enjoyed listening to you answer questions. It’s nice to see the human side of our favorite UA-camrs ❤

  • @lovelysecretboxes8173
    @lovelysecretboxes8173 Рік тому +5

    I’m 42 years old french and I was wanted spend all my life enjoying without children going to holydays, spending my money on bags and stupid Luxury stuff.. and it happen last year I had my first child he change my whole world and he is the most beautiful deep feeling of love I never had ♥️ something change in my brain but YES it’s the most difficult job ever… and I am always tired 😂

    • @katemiller7874
      @katemiller7874 Рік тому +1

      Yes don’t realize that buying all of this stuff is fun. Holidays are fun. Having a child is better than all that. It really is awesome when they are grown and you see who they are. Very rewarding. I’m glad you are happy with your choice. Me too

    • @solesticia
      @solesticia Рік тому +4

      @@katemiller7874 maybe for YOU having a kid is better than all that. But for some people having kids is a no no. That's it. And it's good they don't force themselves because they wouldn't be happy and therefore the kids wouldn't be happy neither. I think it's great when people know themselves enough to know what suits them and what doesn't.

  • @flohough1870
    @flohough1870 Рік тому +1

    As someone else who is childless by choice, I can total relate to the whole pressure thing, and for us too, it started almost as soon as the wedding was over. While it used to just frustrate me, the rudeness of it all really came to light when a friend of mine who had been married several years was struggling trying to get pregnant, and every comment of that sort would reduce her to tears. You never know what someone else might be dealing with and to even ask it is just ignorant. Mind your own business when it comes to personal decisions. My husband and I have been fortunate in other ways and we are the fun/crazy aunt and uncle. Plus kids ARE NOT cheap! On a different subject, I'd love to see you do a Poundland haul or some other inexpensive store, you always have the best reactions and comments!

  • @Butterflieslove2
    @Butterflieslove2 Рік тому +2

    Even if I cannot fully understand someone not having a kids by choice I still appreciate these people much better then the ones that have and don’t care about them, traumatized and abandoned them. It is more fair to just say- NOT FOR ME. I love ur content Sophie, you are inspirational.

  • @liamhain2155
    @liamhain2155 Рік тому +1

    Hi Sophie, I love your nails! Would you consider making a video on how you make your own nails at home? Typical routine, any tips/tricks. Thanks!

  • @amritamartin9647
    @amritamartin9647 Рік тому +1

    Omg I enjoyed this entire video! I wish you can do these once a month 🙏. I really admire how you have managed your stress, your mental health and your eating disorder. I’ve learnt recently that self care is so important. I wish I loved going to the gym as much as you do. All my love to you, David and the bunnies! XoxoAmrita💕

  • @ariadnaspacey1603
    @ariadnaspacey1603 2 місяці тому

    I so appreciate Your personal details of Your life You share with us, because it's really important that wee know we're not alone, and shearing could be so helpful. Thank You Sophie!🌺

  • @ChatsWithChris
    @ChatsWithChris Рік тому +4

    SUCH A GOOD VIDEO UGH I VALUE YOUR OPINION ON EVERYTHING. Also brilliant questions it shows how great the community you’ve built is.

  • @amyj6607
    @amyj6607 Рік тому +1

    I really enjoyed this Sophie! And also this colour top looks so beautiful on you. Thanks for another great video ❤

  • @michellejacobsen331
    @michellejacobsen331 Рік тому +1

    I thought like you about kids. I kept waiting & finally decided to give it a go & is the best thing I ever did. The dirty nappys etc are temporary; the love is forever. My only regret is I waited, had one, realized how wonderful they are, & then got cancer before I could have more. Now my child will never have a sibling and it hurts my heart terribly. I know kids arent for everyone but it's funny how your heart can change with time. Much 💕

    • @katemiller7874
      @katemiller7874 Рік тому

      Yess this. I have 2 of my own. Grown wonderful people. Best thing I ever did. Better than any job or trip. I’m sorry to hear about your cancer. I’m glad you have one child. They are truly the best thing a person can do

  • @elenapolshakov3837
    @elenapolshakov3837 Рік тому +2

    Such an honest and heartfelt video, thank you so much Sophie! ❤

  • @natalienat518
    @natalienat518 Рік тому +2

    Thank you for sharing your life wisdom Sophie ❤❤❤ You’re wonderful!!! ❤❤❤

  • @wendychen2828
    @wendychen2828 Рік тому +3

    Definitely trying to shop my closet and using and loving the stuff I have already instead of buying more and more stuff!!! Would totally be interested in this type of content it's not boring at all .....I'm getting tired of the constant drive to buy buy buy from UA-camrs.....it's unsustainable!!

  • @jedimasterstephanie
    @jedimasterstephanie Рік тому +1

    On the issue of having children, I really appreciate your sharing this and I totally relate, especially to the societal pressure, which is awful. As an aside, I think there is no doubt you and David would be great parents, and any child would be lucky to have you as parents. But that doesnt mean having to do it.

  • @cllover9371
    @cllover9371 Рік тому +2

    As a woman in her mid thirties that does not have a plan to have children, I honestly don’t care what other people have to say about my life choices. At the end of the day it’s me that lives my life. If they have something to say about that, that’s their problem not mine.

  • @KarinaSwan
    @KarinaSwan Рік тому +1

    Hello Sophie, that lavender with turquoise shade top looks very nice on you! 🌸
    Thanks for this video, interesting to hear your thoughts

  • @claretuplin3626
    @claretuplin3626 Рік тому +2

    Having children is the most hardest job in the world, you can’t even begin to imagine how much so until you actually have them so i really take my hat off to people who really understand this and decide not to. i honestly think we all have this image of how it will be, usually it’s not. anyway great video would absolutely love to hear about any investments you would recommend (property being an obvious one).have a great weekend xx

  • @tuttuttut7758
    @tuttuttut7758 Рік тому

    Whenever I’m on a holiday, I’m wearing my easy and cheap stuff. I even leave my favorite jewelry at home.

  • @Stefyyyx
    @Stefyyyx Рік тому +8

    £2500 bill for your rabbits? And you don't have kids? They are like kids! When you're on holidays you have to pay for someone to look after them. But the most important thing is that some animals give more than what some human can give, so you do have "kids" in my opinion! I had a cat and no human being loved me like she did.

  • @shahrzaddani
    @shahrzaddani Рік тому +1

    Thank you sweetie, like always I appreciate you sitting down and take me away for a few minutes from the real life. I’m afraid I dont agree that it’s mainly ur luck about marriage. I have almost watched all of your videos in the past 6/7 months, I have noticed u and David RESPECT each other a lot, even in a very simple thing; how my steak should be cooked?? Deep down this isnt becuz u cant decide for urself it’s about RESPECT. I love how u treat each other in ur couple videos, u r a role model in so many ways. ALSO u r amazing speaker, confident loud enough and not bossy, all great.

  • @jennifermcmillan2588
    @jennifermcmillan2588 Рік тому +1

    Agree I’m over 35 and going for my masters .. but I raised our children ( the youngest is in 9th and son is a senior ) and worked / took care of children while my hubby got his masters and climbed the ladder in his job . We have 6 children all together , his mine and ours and I had my first child at 16 , we have raised them all without the help of our exes ( mine was very abusive anyway so he never needed to be in their lives ) ..no help from anyone ❤

  • @maite3440
    @maite3440 Рік тому

    Hi Sophie! Loved the video and your answers and I’m so glad for you that your eating disorder isn’t disturbing you anymore, you’re so brave to speak about it! ❤
    For the person who asked advice about uni, I’d also say: remember the people in the room will be your colleagues in the work environment so network and be nice! But not fake, no one likes that hahaha other than that, enjoy this time and make friends!! Some of my best friends I met at uni and I’m so grateful for them and this time, enjoy it!

  • @brocadeandsequins
    @brocadeandsequins Рік тому +1

    Thank you Sophie for the film and responding to my question!

  • @jazzelatienza7150
    @jazzelatienza7150 Рік тому

    Love this candid video! 😍 Having expensive taste and being able to provide food, clothing, transportation, and housing are my drivers to keep pushing the gas pedal.

  • @panayiotasty
    @panayiotasty Рік тому

    Amazing video! 🙌 After seeing your gym work out results on insta, could you do a video on your high protein diet? A weekly food suggestion? And the type of exercises you do at the gym?

  • @nancydunks9095
    @nancydunks9095 Рік тому

    You are quite right not to watch other fashionistas. You have your own style, and it works.

  • @bryan7938
    @bryan7938 Рік тому

    Both my daughters (27 & 33) don’t want children. I am completely on board with that. I’m VERY happy.

  • @be2835
    @be2835 Рік тому +5

    Great video with great wisdom. On the kids front, I think of it like this. A lot of people experience a desperate yearning for children. And not just children, pregnancy, parenting and devoting themselves to their kids. And if someone doesn't experience that or maybe the opposite why would you pressure them to have kids??? People will encourage couples to spend thousands of dollars on the pursuit of having children but poo poo someone who says "it's just not for me". I can't help but feel there's an element of jealousy in the freedom of life without children that some people with children experience. And so I start to wonder if they really did want their kids at all? Why are you so hell bent on making people feel bad for not having kids?... And this is coming from somebody who works with children. My husband works with children and we both intend on having children.

  • @Bay6768
    @Bay6768 Рік тому +3

    I love babies they're so adorable but I never had any, I think looking hindsight I think I did right to not have them because I'm such a worry wart, I would have been a helicopter mom, and would not have disciplined my child, so many mistakes are made as ill equipt parents and I believe more people should understand the gravity, cost, and responsibility that one takes on if you choose to have children.

  • @veronicavenditti3614
    @veronicavenditti3614 Рік тому +2

    Hi Sophie, thanks for this bonus video!! Can't wait to watch it!! 😘

  • @jasonmillington4344
    @jasonmillington4344 Рік тому +1

    Great advice, you are the best. Would be great to see some car stuff and a collab with seen through glass, as Sam’s new 911 is epic

  • @julijakeit
    @julijakeit Рік тому +11

    It's disgusting someone else is pressuring others to have kids. they must be jealous and bad parents themselves and do not want you to have a life different than them.

    • @SophieShohetOfficial
      @SophieShohetOfficial  Рік тому +2

      Hello lovely! I definitely think there’s more than one path in life! You have a great weekend my friend xx

  • @jayblack3926
    @jayblack3926 Рік тому +1

    Omg, you are the first person to say what I say! When asked (I’ve been married 52 years) I always say we are lucky!

  • @suzannemech9170
    @suzannemech9170 Рік тому

    Great video Sophie! I totally forgot about explore with Josh but I used to watch him so much. I will tune in again haha thanks for reminding me !

  • @DiGamaroff
    @DiGamaroff Рік тому +2

    Yes! Bonus video! 👏💕 have a lovely weekend 😊

  • @TheSoulgirl14
    @TheSoulgirl14 Рік тому

    Hi Sophie! I loved your energy, your honesty, and your genuine personality!
    I still remember the first video I found you by which was about your paranormal experience!! Haha I would love to hear more personal stories from you! Maybe a follow up ghost video?

  • @ZENYREBEL
    @ZENYREBEL Рік тому +2

    🐰 🐇 I enjoy when the bunnies show up on your videos. I have two holland lop bunnies.

  • @sandrarekker585
    @sandrarekker585 Рік тому

    You're amazing! Love your videos. So uplifting, informative, and motivational. Thanks for making my day.

  • @tmvg9052
    @tmvg9052 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for another thoughtful video. These and your vlogs are my favourites. I do like the luxury and how you share your experience. But these hauls some UA-camrs do. Only makes me wonder how they can spend so much each week. And that really takes the fun out of it. Many thanks for sharing the lovely person you are behind the luxury bags.

  • @yoyoli4138
    @yoyoli4138 Рік тому

    Paying the bills is facts, Sophie! Thank you for this Q&A. You are always lovely and stunning! xx

  • @nofilterbtxh5000
    @nofilterbtxh5000 Рік тому

    Listen I’m 28 and I want children and a family,but right now I want to enjoy my relationship with my partner,our home,our money we work so hard for and our youth!Like I’m not ready to let go of my peace&habits right now but damn the pressure is terrible!Not only from family members but even this entire “clock is ticking” pressure🙄

  • @birteoldhaber513
    @birteoldhaber513 Рік тому +1

    I've been waiting for THIS Vlog a long time.
    Thank you so much dear Sophie.🙏😁❤🙋‍♀️

  • @TheLovablekc
    @TheLovablekc Рік тому

    I've got so many new clothes that I want to buy for my birthday, but in the meantime I'm really trying to enjoy what I have. I've numbered my tops (because I have more or them) and lettered my bottoms/dresses and I use a number/letter generator website so that I can try new combinations of my clothes that I wouldn't have picked myself

  • @MrVikingsandra
    @MrVikingsandra Рік тому

    I enjoyed this Q&A immensely. I feel exactly the same way about having children. Not for me and I've always known this. I like traveling too much, I like living in different countries and freedom is priceless to me. Believe it or not, you can be fulfilled even without kids. Might be a shocker to some people but there you go.
    I've been wondering if you've had more paranormal episodes lately?

  • @sestricaanutka
    @sestricaanutka Рік тому

    The decision to do have kids for us was driven (for me) to a big extent by the thought, what I am I going to do when I am 70? What is one of us dies earlier? There will just noone in my life. Now that I have our son, I can tell it is the greatest thing ever. There is nothing on earth that can make me happier. It is a lot of work, a lot!!!!, but there's nothing that can make me happier. Don't understand me wrong: I have a great job, carrier, interesting life, that is "on stand by" right now. But I am happy about my decision!😊

  • @fu4realtalk952
    @fu4realtalk952 Рік тому

    The way you talk about your rabbits makes me like you even more as a person

  • @rowenaramos5624
    @rowenaramos5624 Рік тому +2

    I love love how honest your answers are. Especially the last one. It made me chuckle cause it's so true lol

  • @coding7196
    @coding7196 Рік тому +1

    Great feedback and advice and your top is very pretty.

  • @xoxo9354
    @xoxo9354 Рік тому +2

    I luv n adore kids..but luv n adore Sophie n respect her choice that she knew wat she wanted😘❤