Friends have told me what a great job I am doing and how I stay calm when my son loses control. As flattering as it is to hear, I know it's just experience ( and getting it wrong) that has taught me what he needs and what works. It's important for people to respect that experience and that you know what you are doing. Too many parents deal with awful judgement from others. I am just lucky to have a fantastic bunch of cheerleaders in my life. You obviously know your boy inside out and are doing a wonderful job.
Good video. I’m glad you’re taking good care of Kaidale. Continue on your road on getting the silver play button along with interviewing with Chris ULMER of SBSK
I love your view on this! Your discipline is you say what you’re going to do and and do what you say is powerful. That consistency is exactly what all kids need. How awesome you understand this while he’s still young. I realized so much after my kids were grown. And you’re sharing so other mothers can learn❤️
I think you are amazing as a special needs mother. I can absolutely say that I would have never been equipped to be in your shoes! I would have had the meltdown if my child was this way. I’m so impressed with young mothers like you Kaitlin.
Go Kaitlyn! Go Kaidale! This is teamwork making the dream work. Y’all are growing so much and it’s an honor to be a part of the audience privy to this journey.
I think its important that you said its a phase and it's typical kids behaviour too. You are doing the right thing, not giving in so he learns he doesn't always get to do what he wants. You are doing an amazing job as a single mum and I love to watch yours and Kaidale's relationship 😄
Hey Kaitlin. This I think was one of the best videos you have ever made. The reason I say that is when I watch other autism videos they don't like to show their child having a tantrum or a meltdown. And they don't even like to talk about it because as they say it puts a negative light on their child. I completely disagree with that. I'm so grateful that you shared everything you shared today regarding tantrums meltdowns how you deal with them etc. The most important thing I think you said is in a tantrum, say what you mean and mean what you say. Because like you said if you say no we're not going to go there we're going to go here first and then we'll go there and then the child has a tantrum and you say okay we won't go to the first place. Well then they have learned that you do not mean what you say and all they need to do is throw a tantrums and they're going to get their way. And that works with all children and as a dog trainer it works with dogs. You know it must be very difficult to have to mean what you say because it would be so much easier to avoid the tantrum and just say okay well we won't go to trader Joe's we'll go to big guys right away. But I'm so grateful that you're the kind of mother that wants a well-rounded self confident boy. and that you want him to know he can handle some disappointment and not have to go off his rocker. And I like how you distinguished between a meltdown and a tantrum and I am so glad that you are there for him when he has fully lost control and is having a meltdown. Thank you so much for your honesty and for the willingness to talk in front of kaidale. You basically asked him and gave him the heads up that you were going to be talking about him which was very respectful. I have emailed other content creators with autistic children because of the fact that they make it so one-sided like their child is an angel and never does anything wrong. Well that's not reality with autism and that doesn't help anyone understand autism any better if you won't show the messy part. Have a beautiful day and again thank you so much. You're a great mom you're a great person and you understand what it takes.
Kaitlin, you are an awesome person/ mom. It is so hard to watch a child in meltdown and not be able to fix it "NOW" and it's so confusing I'm sure for the child who cannot control their emotions. Keep doing what you're doing girl. 🥰🥰
Well done Kaidale & Mom.....if you can keep your head when all around you is loosing there’s.....way to go Kaitlyn...you are a phenomenal Mom Kaitlyn ❤️❤️
Kaitlyn you are one Amazing Momma to Kaildale. I know things can be hard but like you said you guys have to work through it. He’s just like any other child, if they don’t get the answer they were hoping for.. My daughter says the same thing you pick and choose your battles.. She has three kiddos 2rotten boys and a sassy girl... I tell her all the time she has good kids in all how you raise them and follow through with what you say. Kaildale is a good boy and he’s just like any other kid.. I will tell you this my two grandsons will throw fits way more than their sister. My son was like that so what I’m saying I think boys show out more than girls lol... Kaildale is a good boy and you can tell his Mommy is teaching him well.... I just love the bond you guys have, it’s so sweet. I think all boys tend too bond with their Mom more when they are young. They will pull on your heart strings that’s for sure... I have to say you are one Amazing Mom, and he’s going to be one heck of a Man when he’s older.. Btw I was telling my husband how you bought your van and remodeled it so you and Kaildale could go more places and you would have your van to stay in. He was like she didn’t have any help I’m like no you kidding me she a fireball and she done an excellent job on it. I had to show him and I looked at him and I said and too think a woman can’t do a mans job lol.. He said ok you getting a little carried away lol I said well I’m not wrong he’s like no honey you’re not ... It was too funny the looks I was getting over man verses a woman.. We don’t take each other serious if we did we wouldn’t have made it 30plus years!
I've only started following your Channel about maybe two weeks ago... I saw your beautiful biracial son, my son is biracial he has a daddy his father's in his life we're not married. I have no interest in ever getting married ever again, been there done that got the Heartbreak. When the pandemic hit he went from attending his private school with all of his friends, to being at home.. now he was still a part of the school just online. His father basically turned into his friend because there was no one to play with.. the only time he got to play with kids during the pandemic is when he went to Tennessee to visit his cousins and his grandmother. And that's was about three.. four times a year. So things have been a little bit weird couple years but lately I've been finding that I can talk to him.. he's 11 well he'll be 11 next month the 22nd. The only time he's ever missed not being in Tennessee on his birthday was November 2020 when the pandemic was at its peak, but November 2021 he was with his grandmother for his birthday he's been doing that since he was 4 years old, she would always have him for his birthday.. his birthday is always before or after Thanksgiving depending on the year. But today something happened and " he said I want to do my quizzes with Daddy".. I said "well you do realize when your dad doesn't gets home until almost 5:00 so he's going to be tired, and I know you guys like playing this made up board game for an hour at least before your dad goes to bed" I said "are you sure you want to do that" and he said "yes". I then asked him "why did you come up with that"?.. Now the old Kai would have just locked up and just got upset and went upstairs and say "your being mean to me, or why you asking me all these questions it sounds like you're mad at me".. this time he actually verbalize why he said "Mommy I rather do my quizzes with my daddy because Daddy's a little bit more patient, I don't mind doing my lessons with you but I rather do quizzes with my daddy".. I said "thank you for clarifying I appreciate your honesty, and that is fine". His father and i decided not to send him back to school (in-person learning) the whole monkey pox situation made us nervous, and kai's tuition is now only $500 instead of a thousand. But he's a part of the school for instance last week the field trip was on an air base where they got to get into the flight simulator among other things he enjoyed it so he does attend field trips Monday is dress up for Halloween he will be attending that as well so he's it's a little bit better than it was in 2020 and in 2021 he is now able to be in around his friends he may not go to school with them everyday but he's still around them for field trips special occasions and stuff like that. I see him getting mature he speaks his mind but he's also very quiet. I just started following your Channel and I have to say from what I have seen so far you are an amazing mom and he's an amazing little boy... there's so much love you have for him and you can tell he has so much love for you. Times are going to be hard whether it's financially emotionally physically mentally but always remember you have a healthy beautiful boy and he has a beautiful patient loving caring nurturing mother that is just doing the best for him. And you're right when you decide there's a errands that you need to run, you have to hold to that because the last thing we want our kids to feel like the world owes them something, or they can just do what they want. We don't need our children growing up like that, especially if the child is biracial.. and I hate to put that in there but that's the truth..about the society we live in. Much love, much respect much adoration to you and your beautiful boy.💛💗💙🙏
My little guy also is over school I had to talk him into going today too LOL so funny he is four and very autistic and nonverbal considered nonverbal he can speak a little bit but does regress a lot when you learn new words he regresses with old words I love how patient you are with him he is such a sweet boy just like my little boy your boy is obviously a few years older than my son but watching you I get so much good advice and great ideas on how to handle meltdown situations in public because it does happen a lot with him being so young but we just tried to talk to him and love him do you have any advice on potty training my little man is for still in Pull-Ups and I would love for him to get out of Pull-Ups thank you so much and I hope you guys have a great week 🥰
My soon to be 5 years old was fully potty trained little after he turned 4. He has a younger brother who is neuro typical who’s was potty trained before him. When the little brother went to the bathroom we let him go in there so that he can imitate what the younger brother did. Also don’t pressure him, just gently encourage him. His teacher also instructed us to keep some cool toys in the bathroom that he can use only when he’s using the bathroom. You can’t go wrong with praising him even during fail attempts. Good luck to you mom. We’re in this together❤️.
People that don’t have a child that has autism don’t realize that you can’t always discipline your child like a kid that has autism? I have 2 grandchildren with autism and there on different scopes of the spectrum. One is 3 1/2 non verbal learning some words this year from mother buying a lot of programs online that she uses with her, and the other is verbal graduating from 8 th grade and has always been verbal. The 31/2 year old go end to a tantrum sometimes with you telling her no and sometimes is ok with it.
Hi, I have an 11 year old son on the autism spectrum and for a while there his aggressiveness and elopement was getting very intense and scary. We ultimately decided to put him on medication, but it’s really something I feel quite torn about. I am just wondering, is your son on medication to help with his meltdowns and behaviors? If so, do you have a plan to take him off of them one day? Thanks for reading
Yes absolutely and the only thing I regretted was not starting medications sooner. He suffered with anxiety and ocd for years. He had meltdowns, severe aggressive behaviors and emotional mood swings for a while. I wanted to hold off on medication bc I was scared of side effects he couldn’t tell me about, and that he might become dependent. I was scared it would change him and he wouldn’t be the same person. Looking back, it was the stigmas I was afraid of. But once we started and I saw how much relief he got from them, I knew it was the right decision. Another thing I’ve learned from being a nurse, a lot of psych patients will take themselves off meds bc they feel like they don’t need them anymore. And that’s the worse thing you can do. The reason they fee that way is bc the meds are working and when they take themselves off it’s a not good. Bc whatever the reason or diagnose was for them starting the meds is still there. Hope this helps!
@@Kaitlin_and_Kaidale new to the Channel! How old is your little big guy? How old was he when he was first given a diagnosis? I saw in another video where you were saying aggressive behaviors were trending downwards (I know how those feel!!! Seriously) do you find speech and occupational therapy to be helpful? What has been most effective for you in helping him manage the difficulties in expressing his needs?
No, I think he's just genuinely burned out and ready for a break:) plus the therapist that left, we had a long and significant history with her. But he still has a lot of consistency with another therapist and his teacher
Oh Dear, Poor Kaidale, does He not like that Shop? or was it just a low Reception Day? either way I hope He is Ok Now. Poor Lamb. I am sorry Kaidale has burned out over School :( Lovely to see Him So Joyful at seeing Himself on Camera at the End However :) Do take care, God bless, and I hope Kaidale is Ok Now.
Friends have told me what a great job I am doing and how I stay calm when my son loses control. As flattering as it is to hear, I know it's just experience ( and getting it wrong) that has taught me what he needs and what works. It's important for people to respect that experience and that you know what you are doing. Too many parents deal with awful judgement from others. I am just lucky to have a fantastic bunch of cheerleaders in my life. You obviously know your boy inside out and are doing a wonderful job.
Good video. I’m glad you’re taking good care of Kaidale. Continue on your road on getting the silver play button along with interviewing with Chris ULMER of SBSK
I love your view on this! Your discipline is you say what you’re going to do and and do what you say is powerful. That consistency is exactly what all kids need. How awesome you understand this while he’s still young. I realized so much after my kids were grown. And you’re sharing so other mothers can learn❤️
I think you are amazing as a special needs mother. I can absolutely say that I would have never been equipped to be in your shoes! I would have had the meltdown if my child was this way. I’m so impressed with young mothers like you Kaitlin.
Go Kaitlyn! Go Kaidale! This is teamwork making the dream work. Y’all are growing so much and it’s an honor to be a part of the audience privy to this journey.
I think its important that you said its a phase and it's typical kids behaviour too. You are doing the right thing, not giving in so he learns he doesn't always get to do what he wants. You are doing an amazing job as a single mum and I love to watch yours and Kaidale's relationship 😄
Hey Kaitlin. This I think was one of the best videos you have ever made. The reason I say that is when I watch other autism videos they don't like to show their child having a tantrum or a meltdown. And they don't even like to talk about it because as they say it puts a negative light on their child. I completely disagree with that. I'm so grateful that you shared everything you shared today regarding tantrums meltdowns how you deal with them etc. The most important thing I think you said is in a tantrum, say what you mean and mean what you say. Because like you said if you say no we're not going to go there we're going to go here first and then we'll go there and then the child has a tantrum and you say okay we won't go to the first place. Well then they have learned that you do not mean what you say and all they need to do is throw a tantrums and they're going to get their way. And that works with all children and as a dog trainer it works with dogs. You know it must be very difficult to have to mean what you say because it would be so much easier to avoid the tantrum and just say okay well we won't go to trader Joe's we'll go to big guys right away. But I'm so grateful that you're the kind of mother that wants a well-rounded self confident boy. and that you want him to know he can handle some disappointment and not have to go off his rocker. And I like how you distinguished between a meltdown and a tantrum and I am so glad that you are there for him when he has fully lost control and is having a meltdown. Thank you so much for your honesty and for the willingness to talk in front of kaidale. You basically asked him and gave him the heads up that you were going to be talking about him which was very respectful. I have emailed other content creators with autistic children because of the fact that they make it so one-sided like their child is an angel and never does anything wrong. Well that's not reality with autism and that doesn't help anyone understand autism any better if you won't show the messy part. Have a beautiful day and again thank you so much. You're a great mom you're a great person and you understand what it takes.
You are exactly right Kaitlin on the tantrums.I’m a retired teacher so I dealt with a lot of those
We are PARENTS!! PERIOD 😂 We know the difference between a meltdown and/or tantrum...."Parenting 101" 🙌😂 Thank for this vlog!!
I love the honesty of your videos.
Kaitlin, you are an awesome person/ mom. It is so hard to watch a child in meltdown and not be able to fix it "NOW" and it's so confusing I'm sure for the child who cannot control their emotions. Keep doing what you're doing girl. 🥰🥰
Awe thank you so much, I really appreciate that💕 he has come a long way and I’m proud of his progress in this department
Well done Kaidale & Mom.....if you can keep your head when all around you is loosing there’s.....way to go Kaitlyn...you are a phenomenal Mom Kaitlyn ❤️❤️
amazing mom you are, i'm proud of you!! best wishes
Kaitlyn you are one Amazing Momma to Kaildale. I know things can be hard but like you said you guys have to work through it. He’s just like any other child, if they don’t get the answer they were hoping for.. My daughter says the same thing you pick and choose your battles.. She has three kiddos 2rotten boys and a sassy girl... I tell her all the time she has good kids in all how you raise them and follow through with what you say. Kaildale is a good boy and he’s just like any other kid.. I will tell you this my two grandsons will throw fits way more than their sister. My son was like that so what I’m saying I think boys show out more than girls lol... Kaildale is a good boy and you can tell his Mommy is teaching him well.... I just love the bond you guys have, it’s so sweet. I think all boys tend too bond with their Mom more when they are young. They will pull on your heart strings that’s for sure... I have to say you are one Amazing Mom, and he’s going to be one heck of a Man when he’s older..
Btw I was telling my husband how you bought your van and remodeled it so you and Kaildale could go more places and you would have your van to stay in. He was like she didn’t have any help I’m like no you kidding me she a fireball and she done an excellent job on it. I had to show him and I looked at him and I said and too think a woman can’t do a mans job lol.. He said ok you getting a little carried away lol I said well I’m not wrong he’s like no honey you’re not ... It was too funny the looks I was getting over man verses a woman.. We don’t take each other serious if we did we wouldn’t have made it 30plus years!
I've only started following your Channel about maybe two weeks ago... I saw your beautiful biracial son, my son is biracial he has a daddy his father's in his life we're not married. I have no interest in ever getting married ever again, been there done that got the Heartbreak. When the pandemic hit he went from attending his private school with all of his friends, to being at home.. now he was still a part of the school just online. His father basically turned into his friend because there was no one to play with.. the only time he got to play with kids during the pandemic is when he went to Tennessee to visit his cousins and his grandmother. And that's was about three.. four times a year. So things have been a little bit weird couple years but lately I've been finding that I can talk to him.. he's 11 well he'll be 11 next month the 22nd. The only time he's ever missed not being in Tennessee on his birthday was November 2020 when the pandemic was at its peak, but November 2021 he was with his grandmother for his birthday he's been doing that since he was 4 years old, she would always have him for his birthday.. his birthday is always before or after Thanksgiving depending on the year. But today something happened and " he said I want to do my quizzes with Daddy".. I said "well you do realize when your dad doesn't gets home until almost 5:00 so he's going to be tired, and I know you guys like playing this made up board game for an hour at least before your dad goes to bed" I said "are you sure you want to do that" and he said "yes". I then asked him "why did you come up with that"?.. Now the old Kai would have just locked up and just got upset and went upstairs and say "your being mean to me, or why you asking me all these questions it sounds like you're mad at me".. this time he actually verbalize why he said "Mommy I rather do my quizzes with my daddy because Daddy's a little bit more patient, I don't mind doing my lessons with you but I rather do quizzes with my daddy".. I said "thank you for clarifying I appreciate your honesty, and that is fine". His father and i decided not to send him back to school (in-person learning) the whole monkey pox situation made us nervous, and kai's tuition is now only $500 instead of a thousand. But he's a part of the school for instance last week the field trip was on an air base where they got to get into the flight simulator among other things he enjoyed it so he does attend field trips Monday is dress up for Halloween he will be attending that as well so he's it's a little bit better than it was in 2020 and in 2021 he is now able to be in around his friends he may not go to school with them everyday but he's still around them for field trips special occasions and stuff like that. I see him getting mature he speaks his mind but he's also very quiet. I just started following your Channel and I have to say from what I have seen so far you are an amazing mom and he's an amazing little boy... there's so much love you have for him and you can tell he has so much love for you. Times are going to be hard whether it's financially emotionally physically mentally but always remember you have a healthy beautiful boy and he has a beautiful patient loving caring nurturing mother that is just doing the best for him. And you're right when you decide there's a errands that you need to run, you have to hold to that because the last thing we want our kids to feel like the world owes them something, or they can just do what they want. We don't need our children growing up like that, especially if the child is biracial.. and I hate to put that in there but that's the truth..about the society we live in. Much love, much respect much adoration to you and your beautiful boy.💛💗💙🙏
You’re a good mom! He’s a very lucky boy❤️❤️❤️
You are so right on in this video and you are such a strong and awesome mother 🥰☀️
You are amazing great job with not giving in.
He is getting so tall❤️
You are such an amazing mom Kaitlin.❤😘🤗
Thank you Maria!
My little guy also is over school I had to talk him into going today too LOL so funny he is four and very autistic and nonverbal considered nonverbal he can speak a little bit but does regress a lot when you learn new words he regresses with old words I love how patient you are with him he is such a sweet boy just like my little boy your boy is obviously a few years older than my son but watching you I get so much good advice and great ideas on how to handle meltdown situations in public because it does happen a lot with him being so young but we just tried to talk to him and love him do you have any advice on potty training my little man is for still in Pull-Ups and I would love for him to get out of Pull-Ups thank you so much and I hope you guys have a great week 🥰
My soon to be 5 years old was fully potty trained little after he turned 4. He has a younger brother who is neuro typical who’s was potty trained before him. When the little brother went to the bathroom we let him go in there so that he can imitate what the younger brother did. Also don’t pressure him, just gently encourage him. His teacher also instructed us to keep some cool toys in the bathroom that he can use only when he’s using the bathroom. You can’t go wrong with praising him even during fail attempts. Good luck to you mom. We’re in this together❤️.
Thank you for sharing. ♥️
Told him I said hi 👋
Could u perhaps involve him a bit in the chores like give him the list with pictures or show him photo on phone and do like a game to find the things.
People that don’t have a child that has autism don’t realize that you can’t always discipline your child like a kid that has autism? I have 2 grandchildren with autism and there on different scopes of the spectrum. One is 3 1/2 non verbal learning some words this year from mother buying a lot of programs online that she uses with her, and the other is verbal graduating from 8 th grade and has always been verbal. The 31/2 year old go end to a tantrum sometimes with you telling her no and sometimes is ok with it.
Hi, I have an 11 year old son on the autism spectrum and for a while there his aggressiveness and elopement was getting very intense and scary. We ultimately decided to put him on medication, but it’s really something I feel quite torn about. I am just wondering, is your son on medication to help with his meltdowns and behaviors? If so, do you have a plan to take him off of them one day? Thanks for reading
Yes absolutely and the only thing I regretted was not starting medications sooner. He suffered with anxiety and ocd for years. He had meltdowns, severe aggressive behaviors and emotional mood swings for a while. I wanted to hold off on medication bc I was scared of side effects he couldn’t tell me about, and that he might become dependent. I was scared it would change him and he wouldn’t be the same person. Looking back, it was the stigmas I was afraid of. But once we started and I saw how much relief he got from them, I knew it was the right decision. Another thing I’ve learned from being a nurse, a lot of psych patients will take themselves off meds bc they feel like they don’t need them anymore. And that’s the worse thing you can do. The reason they fee that way is bc the meds are working and when they take themselves off it’s a not good. Bc whatever the reason or diagnose was for them starting the meds is still there. Hope this helps!
@@Kaitlin_and_Kaidale new to the Channel! How old is your little big guy? How old was he when he was first given a diagnosis? I saw in another video where you were saying aggressive behaviors were trending downwards (I know how those feel!!! Seriously) do you find speech and occupational therapy to be helpful? What has been most effective for you in helping him manage the difficulties in expressing his needs?
Hello kaitlin and kaidale. ❤😘🥰
Do you think his aba therapist leaving has something to do with him not wanting to go to school??
No, I think he's just genuinely burned out and ready for a break:) plus the therapist that left, we had a long and significant history with her. But he still has a lot of consistency with another therapist and his teacher
Hi from Ohio & my first time watching your vlogs I was sent over from Fathering autism I love they every single vlogs also❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much, I really appreciate that! Welcome to our channel🥰🥰
Is Big guy your dad?
Yes😊
Oh Dear, Poor Kaidale, does He not like that Shop? or was it just a low Reception Day? either way I hope He is Ok Now. Poor Lamb.
I am sorry Kaidale has burned out over School :(
Lovely to see Him So Joyful at seeing Himself on Camera at the End However :)
Do take care, God bless, and I hope Kaidale is Ok Now.
Thank you❤️ he had a much better rest of his day. I think he is ready for a break from school and to have a relaxing summer!
@@Kaitlin_and_Kaidale power to you mom. You are raising a fine young man.
At this age you are dealing with pre puberty hormones