My Debt Confession 2024 | $671,000 in debt | The Beginning of my Debt Journey

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  • Опубліковано 15 лис 2024

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  • @BudgetwithMrsMomEdS
    @BudgetwithMrsMomEdS  9 місяців тому +12

    Welcome to my debt confession for 2024. If you are on a financial journey, comment below. Let do this together!!

    • @morethanenough6179
      @morethanenough6179 9 місяців тому

      He must have lived in Center City. Philadelphia represented here ❤

    • @jadevu904
      @jadevu904 8 місяців тому +1

      Thank you for transparency and you courage. I got 10k in debt but I've seen people paid off 100s of thousands before. We got this!

  • @shanisafan
    @shanisafan 9 місяців тому +58

    It seems like you and your family are living above your means. So many of your credit cards and personal loans have sky high interest rates. This debt load would keep me up at night. I would sell the car and get something with a more affordable car payment or just get something used and pay for it in full. I wosj you and your family well on your debt free journey.

    • @BudgetwithMrsMomEdS
      @BudgetwithMrsMomEdS  9 місяців тому +24

      Thank you for your suggestions. We WERE definitely living above our means in the past. Our current income is more than enough to afford all of the payments and add extra. This is just our first step. We have never taken the time to calculate it all. Now, we will figure out our best plan of action without feeling like we have to give up all of the things we love.

    • @rachaelgoldstein6134
      @rachaelgoldstein6134 9 місяців тому +5

      You got this , step by step and don’t get discouraged ❤

    • @TareasdelHogar
      @TareasdelHogar 7 місяців тому +23

      ​@@BudgetwithMrsMomEdS The problem I see, is that you're still not planning ahead and don't account for risks such as your husband getting sick. As a result, you still haven't your priorities straight. Paying off debt and supporting your 3 kids through college should go before a $60000 car

    • @gerhard6105
      @gerhard6105 2 місяці тому

      ​​@@TareasdelHogar$60.000 for a car? Djezus!.... We Dutch ride our bicycles as much as possible. The prime-minister, the school kids, the worker living nearby his job, the teachers, older people, they all use their bicycle. Here is the prove that the prime-minister uses/used his bicycle to work. In this YT clip you see him leaving: ua-cam.com/video/vZTH2Jri6y4/v-deo.htmlsi=MdU0dZqhQSyigJZI

  • @harambeboy
    @harambeboy 9 місяців тому +41

    Vacations... You owe money, it's a debt! Cancel the vacations, you are drowning.

    • @BudgetwithMrsMomEdS
      @BudgetwithMrsMomEdS  9 місяців тому +4

      I don’t think we are drowning, but definitely in the water swimming. Vacations are important for our family and we will take them AND pay down our debt.

    • @lionessrising
      @lionessrising 6 місяців тому

      @@BudgetwithMrsMomEdSyou are absolutely drowning. Taking vacations and living the high life on credit. You’re broke sis. Honestly you don’t seem serious about getting out of debt. You still have a broke mindset. Please start listening to Dave Ramsey and maybe that may change your perspective.

    • @jilianemorales2074
      @jilianemorales2074 6 місяців тому +11

      @@BudgetwithMrsMomEdS😂😂😂Caleb Hammer would have a heart attack.

    • @medioreblatherskite
      @medioreblatherskite 2 місяці тому +2

      Caleb is range bait, but I do agree theyre still living beyond their means

  • @tmusa2002
    @tmusa2002 8 місяців тому +23

    Send your daughter to the local community college so she can live at home. Setting up a kid to move to another state is expensive and add probably something like $10K for on-campus living. Sounds like she’s a great student and a community college would also provide scholarships, not to mention some community colleges are free and some cover tuition for in-demand majors. I’m afraid your daughter will end up in the same financial trouble. She’s at a good age to sign her up for a financial literacy course (there are a lot of good ones online). This girl has got to learn how to earn from interest instead of paying interest. To be prepared for a job loss by saving 3-6 months of expenses for when that happens, to not carry credit card debt and why, to know the suggested calculation for what to save and how much to spend on a car based on her salary. Also how easy it is to save for retirement if you start in your early 20s. These topics are just as important as what she’ll learn in college (and I hope her major is something realistic that will earn her a good income). Just about every financial debt video starts out saying “my parents weren’t good with money, didn’t set an example, didn’t teach me…” Now is the time to try to fix that for your kids. Maybe even share with them these numbers so they begin to understand the overspending concept in real life. This sounds harsh and please know I’ve had debt, too. Credit cards and student loans, HELOC, etc., I fell for it all and am finally out of that mess and am down to only mortgage debt. It’s possible. I shared this with my 19-year-old, which was hard to share how Mom and Dad were stupid, but people learn best through stories and real-life examples. Hang in there! ❤

    • @stephaniel6867
      @stephaniel6867 2 місяці тому

      Did you miss the scholarship she has?

  • @flygirl2447
    @flygirl2447 8 місяців тому +32

    Vacations are great gifts for your kids if you have no debt and can cash flow them. But think about this…
    What if instead of vacations you get creative with far less expensive STAYcations for your family and your daughter learns from you before she’s even 20 years old how to budget, how to live within her means and not get herself into debt, how to save and buy things with cash, how to be able to have a nice nest egg for both life’s inevitable setbacks and a secure (possibly early?) retirement?
    What a gift that would be to not need to learn the hard way like you did! To watch you and your husband, as her examples, tackle and win this and teach her the lessons you learned are life skills that will last her a lifetime.
    That is infinitely more valuable than vacations that add to your debt burden.

    • @BudgetwithMrsMomEdS
      @BudgetwithMrsMomEdS  8 місяців тому +1

      Thanks for the suggestions. I really appreciate the feedback. We are currently having money conversations with the kids, especially our daughter since she will be off to college soon. We don’t sugar coat anything and they know the importance of saving and budgeting. I feel that we are setting them up to not struggle with managing money. It just took us a while to get here.
      Now vacations..... I am not willing to let them go. We budget for them.
      My goal is to not increase our current debt while cash flowing our current/future purchases including vacations. I want to erase the stigma that you have to sacrifice the things that bring you joy and peace to pay down debt. The debt will get paid, but at a pace that works for our family. I hope that you follow our journey to see how well we do.

  • @budgetwithjenny
    @budgetwithjenny 9 місяців тому +7

    Thanks for sharing and you got this! We all done stupid things and spend money when we shouldn’t have. You recognized that was a problem and taking step to pay the debts off.

  • @Joolshandley8963
    @Joolshandley8963 2 місяці тому +4

    My goodness I'd need to sit and sort out how to live with that amount of debt , I really wouldn't be able to sleep at night , you need to make big changes you are living beyond your means .

  • @tmusa2002
    @tmusa2002 8 місяців тому +8

    Another really good number to tally is how much interest you are being charged per month. That will be another incentive to not add debt. Hopefully your cards are locked up! That car, ouch. I’d sell that tomorrow and buy a 2012 Camry. That would put a big dent in your debt total.

  • @Shesha626
    @Shesha626 9 місяців тому +6

    New subbie here! I am on the same journey. I actually just sat down and wrote down all the bills I have. I have been wondering why I cannot seem to get ahead. So I wrote down all my bills and what I actually bring home. Turns out that I only have about $43 left after paying on my bills. Have I been budgeting and spending like I only have $43 left each month? No, lol. So I just basically got tired and said what can I do? I honestly can't even save money right now. Writing all my bills out allowed me to see what I can budget. I was never taught how to budget growing up so I decided to at 41. There's a lot that my family did not explain or teach so at 40 I started a lot of firsts to better myself and my life. I'm about 30 grand in debt. About 95 percent of that is student loan debt. I wish I never did that, but here I am now. So we'll both be on this journey together!

    • @BudgetwithMrsMomEdS
      @BudgetwithMrsMomEdS  9 місяців тому +2

      Welcome! I’m trying to figure this all out! We can do this together. I’m trying to make sure that I send my kids out into the world not worrying or feeling stressed about money. WE GOT THIS!!!

  • @emptynester547
    @emptynester547 2 місяці тому +4

    You guys are 1/2 a million in debt. You both got this.

  • @deepick8345
    @deepick8345 4 місяці тому +4

    Mrs Mom do what is best for you and your family. you see the debt, knock down the lowest first and remember you could get the loans deferred to allow you to catch up on the small bills. Now make sure pay yourself take 20-50 a check and put away for emergency savings. When you shop, make your budget to stick with (envelopes with how much you would spend in categories like laundry, gas/light/ car note, insurance, mortgage, food, student loan, credit cards etc. Write down what you want to pay each category.

  • @jamescares9003
    @jamescares9003 4 місяці тому +7

    My anxiety is on overdrive now after watching this. I have zero debt and a paid for house. My minimum monthly payments for internet, cable, utilities is less than $400. I save 70% of my income and live off the other 30% and I worry about spending too much.

    • @Randompotatoes-qs7bm
      @Randompotatoes-qs7bm 4 місяці тому

      Don’t you have to pay anything monthly for the house? (I rent so it sounds like a paid off house…only has school and property tax?). If so…I can’t imagine being stressed out when you’re only living on 30% of income. That’s a very
      comfortable place to be! Be happy and try not to be so stressed 🎉.

    • @jamescares9003
      @jamescares9003 4 місяці тому +2

      @@Randompotatoes-qs7bm I paid my house off earlier this year. Only have to pay taxes(2.1k per year) and insurance 1.5k per year. That 30% I use for utilities, internet, food etc

  • @TheMoneyMakingMentor
    @TheMoneyMakingMentor 2 місяці тому +2

    I did 4 years in the Navy in 1976-1980. I used the GI bill to help pay for my college. The GI Bill would pay you up to a certain amount based on the number of credits you took. I went to a private college so the amount they gave me did not cover 100% tuition. Sometimes you need to make sacrifices yearly in life to help get started on the right foot. I had about $6K in student loans and worked a second job after college to pay off the loan faster. $6k may not seem like a lot but income was much lower than today. Many students were getting about $15k-$19k a year for their first job out of college.

  • @TheMarvelousBeautyChannel1
    @TheMarvelousBeautyChannel1 3 місяці тому +1

    Hi friend, thank you for your transparency. I've been a teacher for 25 years. I felt every bit of what you were saying in this video. All you need to do is wake up every morning and put one foot in front of the other while you work your plan. Trust me you can do it. I was debt free in 2020 then life did the most and kept doing ever since. Also, you have a partner. Hold each other accountable and get 8n a better place with your debt. Even if that means it's not all paid off. You got this 🎉❤

  • @AishaMBudgets
    @AishaMBudgets 5 місяців тому +7

    Yes, your vacation expenses are definitely debt.

  • @michelemcgill1720
    @michelemcgill1720 4 місяці тому +3

    Students can go to community colleges. Cars can be sold. Vacations are optional. Change your brand of toilet paper. However, it's your journey and you will work it out.

    • @gerhard6105
      @gerhard6105 2 місяці тому

      The toilet paper 👍. We Dutch use our bicycles very much, we do not let lights burn where we are not in the house, we close the watertap while brushing teeth, shower short. Do not buy nonsense items, repair as much as you can yourselfs, try to get a lower car insurance when you do not make many miles. Keep your car tyres at the right pressure. Cook at home 99,9% of the year.

    • @stephaniel6867
      @stephaniel6867 2 місяці тому

      I wouldn't send the kids to community college when all they're paying for is for her stay. She can get a scholarship for that as well.

  • @sheilawilkinson8016
    @sheilawilkinson8016 9 місяців тому +3

    Thank you for your honesty. You will get this tackled.

  • @Legallyglory
    @Legallyglory 7 місяців тому +3

    I owe 419k on two things 319k left on mortgage and 100k in student loans and I don’t even have a car payment or cc debt. It still mind boggles me how I have so much debt sometimes.

  • @theprerichlife
    @theprerichlife 6 місяців тому +9

    If you have federal student loans, apply for Public Service Loan Forgiveness (PSLF). I’m a former teacher and PSLF has been a lifesaver. Good luck on your journey!

    • @stephaniel6867
      @stephaniel6867 2 місяці тому +2

      I was wondering how long she's been a teacher. It'll be canceled so I wouldn't focus on her SL other than minimum payments.

  • @harambeboy
    @harambeboy 9 місяців тому +22

    SELL THE CAR

  • @DJMatBlack83
    @DJMatBlack83 5 місяців тому +9

    You need to pay a professional and follow their advice. You have 405k in non-mortgage debt! You’re way to casual about this, sacrifice starting now!

  • @shanrathenam3105
    @shanrathenam3105 6 місяців тому +2

    Hi sister ...watching from cape town south africa
    Im 10 yrs older..life happened too and I a similar situation...Aug we start being financially aggressive too so let's keep each other accountable

  • @Vegasgirlbudgets
    @Vegasgirlbudgets 7 місяців тому

    Also on a financial journey! Thank you for sharing 🎉

  • @TIRATalksFinancialPlanning
    @TIRATalksFinancialPlanning 4 місяці тому

    Thanks for sharing! My family is on a financial freedom journey as well. I am looking forward to following your journey. New Subscriber.

  • @chickenfingersss9155
    @chickenfingersss9155 4 місяці тому +2

    Hiiiii, would love to hear an update on your debt journey!

  • @BudgetsWithELMA
    @BudgetsWithELMA 9 місяців тому +6

    I know it is not easy to share our debt but it's the beginning of everything to tackle it, great debt confession video 👍

  • @Explorenaturefirst
    @Explorenaturefirst 4 місяці тому

    Thanks for sharing and being REAL! Blessings to you.

  • @haileyreign
    @haileyreign 9 місяців тому

    Newly subscribed ❤😊
    Definitely rooting for you & your husband! You both did the hardest part, which is coming together to work this down as a team.

    • @BudgetwithMrsMomEdS
      @BudgetwithMrsMomEdS  9 місяців тому +1

      Thank you so much!! Yes this was definitely hard, but necessary.

  • @asilva7193
    @asilva7193 8 місяців тому +1

    Good luck!

  • @WealthySocialWorker82
    @WealthySocialWorker82 9 місяців тому +1

    I love to see people of color (especially) targeting debt and shifting their mindset. I also have 6 figure debt and am documenting our journey here. New subbie!

  • @futurekron
    @futurekron 2 місяці тому +1

    Those student loans are off the chain! I feel for you.

    • @SAreamusic1
      @SAreamusic1 Місяць тому

      Me: 13 Student loans = 124k :(

  • @ambercalkins733
    @ambercalkins733 8 місяців тому +3

    Have you considere paying off debt using the debt snowball method?

    • @BudgetwithMrsMomEdS
      @BudgetwithMrsMomEdS  8 місяців тому +1

      I am going to to the avalanche method. It allows us to pay it off sooner.

    • @Padel78
      @Padel78 6 місяців тому +2

      The debt snowball will motivate you even more ( IMO) love that method! 😊

  • @HM-yr1vr
    @HM-yr1vr 13 днів тому +2

    This is not the lords fault but negligence. You’re putting your family in jeopardy.

  • @Bellatticakes
    @Bellatticakes 5 місяців тому +2

    I would flee the country and change my identity if this was my life situation

  • @samgraebner5117
    @samgraebner5117 7 місяців тому +2

    I would check the payoff on the student loan. For the first one between now and 2034 is ~120 months and making 400 dollar payments only totals 48k so not exactly sure how that can pay off 157k current balance.

    • @stephaniel6867
      @stephaniel6867 2 місяці тому

      Actually hers can be forgiven after working as a teacher for 10 years. She's likely approaching her date. She needs to focus on her husband's student loans. I think hers is the 157 as she has 3 degrees.

    • @ARAJ099
      @ARAJ099 Місяць тому

      @@stephaniel6867they do not forgive the entire amount.

  • @J2Strider
    @J2Strider 6 місяців тому

    My wife and I are on our debt free journey too so thanks for sharing. The interest on your student loans compared to the minimum payments are very scary. Have you checked into that? The interest looks like it would be higher than the payment. I know some loans interest will capitalize so youll start paying interest on the interest. But, im not 100% sure.

  • @BeigeBrownClip-jd2pv
    @BeigeBrownClip-jd2pv 2 місяці тому +1

    Not your fault. Those interest are. In my country we don’t see that kind of interest rate.

    • @stephaniel6867
      @stephaniel6867 2 місяці тому +3

      I wouldn't say that. She was aware of the interest. And the thing is she could've paid the CCs off each month and opted not too. A 60k car with her student loans would be enough for me to not get it. She's aware so she'll make progress step by step.

  • @AishaMBudgets
    @AishaMBudgets 5 місяців тому

    Thank you for being brave and putting your story out there. Blessings on your debt journey!

  • @ARAJ099
    @ARAJ099 Місяць тому

    This is crazy. Glad you are seeing this for what it is and getting a plan in place but this still isn’t enough. Minimum payments means you’ll be stuck in this forever because the interest will keep these amounts high. Daughter is getting a tuition based scholarship only, so you still have to pay for housing, which in most places exceeds the cost of tuition. Living out of state means expenses for living and getting her home for breaks and back to school. This doesn’t sound like a smart decision given the situation you’re in. She can go to community college, live at home, and transfer to a state school.
    That car should have been gone last week. Have you listened to Dave Ramsey?? If not, you really need to.

  • @MillennialLifeAndFinances
    @MillennialLifeAndFinances 9 місяців тому +1

    Hi there!! Thank you for sharing your story. Its always difficult sitting down and crunching the numbers. I'll be following you along on your journey!

  • @rhim7266
    @rhim7266 2 місяці тому

    Do velocity banking to pay it faster.

  • @MzChancellor
    @MzChancellor 2 місяці тому

    Awesome video

  • @deepick8345
    @deepick8345 4 місяці тому +2

    Sorry he loss his job and pray he finds another just as good.

  • @christinam1846
    @christinam1846 8 місяців тому

    great plan! where did you get your sheet from?

    • @BudgetwithMrsMomEdS
      @BudgetwithMrsMomEdS  8 місяців тому

      I made it. Here is a link to all of the forms I created and uploaded so far: docs.google.com/document/d/1QkYsopO0EIGbnQlSw_XQMGUwU8zGabpcK0pknytGq7Q/edit?usp=sharing

  • @littlebug1026
    @littlebug1026 2 місяці тому +4

    i am going to have a nervous breakdown. you seem like you are chill as can be. get rid of the expensive vehicles, get rid of the house, have an emergency fund and pay off your bills as fast as possible. no vacations for the kids...you can't even afford vacations for yourself. don't pay your kids college either, they can get grants/loans. if you get out of debt then want to do that....great. until then, you are drowning in debt. i am sick to my stomach. i think my hair is falling out! good luck! omg he lost his job! see!

    • @stephaniel6867
      @stephaniel6867 2 місяці тому

      Why would they get rid of a house with a 4% interest rate and a monthly payment of $1632.62 to go pay $2500-3500 in rent. Please use common sense with some things. The lady also said she's taking vacations for her family so why make a comment about it. Why would you have a nervous breakdown over someone else's debt? Do you understand what a nervous breakdown really is? I think you're just dramatic bc you're also sick to your stomach smh.

  • @o0usf0o
    @o0usf0o 2 місяці тому +1

    Yikes! Unfortunately, you need to get out from those cars and close those credit cards. Those are some big diamonds on those hands…

  • @Plan2BeRita
    @Plan2BeRita 9 місяців тому

    ❤❤❤ thanks for sharing.

  • @npbudgetstoperfection
    @npbudgetstoperfection 6 місяців тому

    So proud of you! Awesome video new subbie here!❤🎉

  • @HM-yr1vr
    @HM-yr1vr 13 днів тому

    Black Excellence = Debt & Consumerism

  • @rossmurray6586
    @rossmurray6586 Місяць тому +1

    No assets , all you have there is debt , frightening

  • @budgetwithlisa2024
    @budgetwithlisa2024 7 місяців тому

    Hi Friend!! We are in a similar journey. We can do it. New subbie! I'll be following and rooting you on 🤗💙

  • @lindac5219
    @lindac5219 3 місяці тому

    Your monthly payment is more than what you're saying, according to monthly payments you showed us.

  • @Padel78
    @Padel78 6 місяців тому +3

    I hope you have an emergency fund, even if it 1000,- dollars

  • @supreemcourt9181
    @supreemcourt9181 Місяць тому +3

    God did not put yall in that situation lol

  • @SavingsMinusDebt
    @SavingsMinusDebt Місяць тому

    Vacation money - total debt = math says what vacation money? Contact a lawyer to see if you guys qualify for chapter 7. You'll thank me for the rest of your life.

  • @xXGETR0CKEDxX
    @xXGETR0CKEDxX Місяць тому +3

    This is just insanity. You guys have over 370k in consumer debt , including high interest CC debt and personal loans & SL debt . All while haven’t a 60k car and prioritizing vacations over paying off 370k in consumer debt is just absurd. There are just no other words . The car should absolutely go . Best of luck to you !

  • @SavingsMinusDebt
    @SavingsMinusDebt Місяць тому

    Everyone's number is on their credit report.

  • @VK-el3of
    @VK-el3of 2 місяці тому +2

    That's a lot of debt. Snowball those small balances. Could really do it in a month. All the interest rates u guys have other than the mortgage is killing u guys slowly.

  • @nedflanders5649
    @nedflanders5649 Місяць тому +1

    Your are spending too much.

  • @michellec.9852
    @michellec.9852 4 місяці тому +1

    I won’t give up vacations either. Ya gotta live. 😊

  • @HM-yr1vr
    @HM-yr1vr 13 днів тому

    You don’t need to budget. Stop buying dumb $&@t and taking on debt.

  • @ARAJ099
    @ARAJ099 Місяць тому

    This is crazy. Glad you are seeing this for what it is and getting a plan in place but this still isn’t enough. Minimum payments means you’ll be stuck in this forever because the interest will keep these amounts high. Daughter is getting a tuition based scholarship only, so you still have to pay for housing, which in most places exceeds the cost of tuition. Living out of state means expenses for living and getting her home for breaks and back to school. This doesn’t sound like a smart decision given the situation you’re in. She can go to community college, live at home, and transfer to a state school.
    That car should have been gone last week. Have you listened to Dave Ramsey?? If not, you really need to.