I used to be the Issa in a friendship. Not so aware of the emotional incompatibility between me and friends. I didn't realize that people are not necessarily equipped to make room for other people's emotional experiences in life. People have a hard time managing and understanding their own emotional senses and the way they navigate the world with it. And so I am understanding and withdrew my presence since I seek friendships where I can be my whole self and provide depth to my character. I always made room and space for people to be emotionally honest and vulnerable with me, but never got that reciprocation. I now only know one good friend I can count on to provide that too/receive that from, and even that could change at any moment. It's a heartbreaking and lonely realization to understand that some people just will not accept/forgive/and persist with you, but it is the right thing to do to simply let them be. For all of the Issa's out there in the world, you will find ur ride or dies and if not u always have urself.
@@bluegreen9799 Love this comment. I think that is such an important lesson , I'm actually going to take what you said in this comment and apply it to my life 💕
i love this, thank you. I was the burned out friend as well and now i really have to vet people for friendship because that's the aspect of life that i wasn't as serious about.
My best friend decided to end our 9 year friendship back in September. She’s alot like Molly and I’m more like Issa. For awhile I try to fight for our friendship and now I’m at the acceptance stage. She felt like she outgrown me and I won’t stop her growth
😂 As the “draining” friend I love this perspective. I’m fully aware that I can be overwhelming and controlling. I find it easier to enjoy my own company and friends/family in small doses since I actually like who I am. Your perspective on both friends position is very well stated.
@@lovelykiyah7415 Grow up. You’re too lazy to even bother forming full sentences. You appear to struggle with words containing more than 3 letters.You are embarrassing.
man...this show ended TOO SOON. Issa reminded me so much of myself. I had a friend that just didn't want to do better for herself and it was getting exhausting bc I started letting it spill over into my life as well. I would always have to be "the bigger person," whenever we got into arguments to continue the friendship....and that last argument-I was done, and never looked back.
Great video! This is a good take on their friendship. Molly was definitely exhausted within the friendship. I'd also add that Issa did quite a bit to get Molly in that place though.
@@LK-araluna glad you enjoyed it babes 💕 and I agree, I tried to depict the role Issa played in the friendship breakup in the video to support this point.
I have friends who reached out we connected but as soon as they discovered my life was doing well. Weird stuff started to happen. I should have cut them off then sadly time has passed and at this season in my life cutting them off would be acting like them so I am trying to detach graciously. I am looking at creating more intimate friendships with other people. I am sure they will ask why I am not involving them I will find a way to let them know I am not okay with their meaness
Damn this is happening to me now. I had a good friend and she always seemed like she was superior. I’m glad we don’t talk anymore it was hurtful and she didn’t care
Idk wasn't Molly behind broken p 🙀 ssy too? I haven't seen all of insecure but to me, their friendship is also an example where one clearly likes the other more
This is so true. I had a friend who was more like a sister. I often feel like I was walking on eggshells when I would talk to her. She would complain about certain people and what not and I would try to give advice but she would reject my advice A lot of times, especially if I called her out honestly on how she contributed to the situation . She would always expect me to agree with her opinion on the matter . It became very exhausting and I felt like I couldn't have normal conversation because I was going to trigger her. Well unfortunately I didn't cut her off. She cut herself off from me. I really do love her but I see now and understand that it was for the best. 🫤 I think the part that hurts the most is you want the best for people that you love, but when they're not in that same headspace and they're not willing to grow, there's nothing that you can do.
Sammeeee I had a friendship just like this. She cut herself off after asking me for advice then doing the total opposite and it blew up in her face. She then got mad at me for essentially being "right" and cut me off.
@kayamen2021 I agree it's very important!Well I guess It was peaceful in a way but there wasn't any official closure. She just ghosted me. Stop texting, calling. Stop returning my texting calls I have no idea what going on with her. I pray she's doing well 🙏🏽
I used to be the Issa in a friendship. Not so aware of the emotional incompatibility between me and friends. I didn't realize that people are not necessarily equipped to make room for other people's emotional experiences in life. People have a hard time managing and understanding their own emotional senses and the way they navigate the world with it. And so I am understanding and withdrew my presence since I seek friendships where I can be my whole self and provide depth to my character. I always made room and space for people to be emotionally honest and vulnerable with me, but never got that reciprocation. I now only know one good friend I can count on to provide that too/receive that from, and even that could change at any moment. It's a heartbreaking and lonely realization to understand that some people just will not accept/forgive/and persist with you, but it is the right thing to do to simply let them be. For all of the Issa's out there in the world, you will find ur ride or dies and if not u always have urself.
@@bluegreen9799 very well said Queen 🎯 I love your awareness and accountability.
@@bluegreen9799 Love this comment. I think that is such an important lesson , I'm actually going to take what you said in this comment and apply it to my life 💕
🥹❤️❤️🩹yesssss
i love this, thank you. I was the burned out friend as well and now i really have to vet people for friendship because that's the aspect of life that i wasn't as serious about.
Yes girl protect your peace 🫶🏽
@@BeStillandKnow0000 you got this babe! We live and we learn 🤞🤝💗
My best friend decided to end our 9 year friendship back in September. She’s alot like Molly and I’m more like Issa. For awhile I try to fight for our friendship and now I’m at the acceptance stage. She felt like she outgrown me and I won’t stop her growth
@@embracethymelanin_6518 proud of you babe 🤍
😂 As the “draining” friend I love this perspective. I’m fully aware that I can be overwhelming and controlling. I find it easier to enjoy my own company and friends/family in small doses since I actually like who I am. Your perspective on both friends position is very well stated.
@@missmartin85 if we’re being honest, most of us can agree to being the Issa friend at some point in our lives.
@@MsReadTheRoom definitely lol
Eew smh
@@lovelykiyah7415 Grow up. You’re too lazy to even bother forming full sentences. You appear to struggle with words containing more than 3 letters.You are embarrassing.
man...this show ended TOO SOON. Issa reminded me so much of myself. I had a friend that just didn't want to do better for herself and it was getting exhausting bc I started letting it spill over into my life as well. I would always have to be "the bigger person," whenever we got into arguments to continue the friendship....and that last argument-I was done, and never looked back.
The show was good!
@@brwnsuga.mangos Yes very very similar to what I went through
I've been both friends before unfortunately
@@dreamymimiasmr8848 the reason why I loved their dynamic is because I believe most of us can relate to being both at some point in our lives.
Great video! This is a good take on their friendship. Molly was definitely exhausted within the friendship. I'd also add that Issa did quite a bit to get Molly in that place though.
@@LK-araluna glad you enjoyed it babes 💕 and I agree, I tried to depict the role Issa played in the friendship breakup in the video to support this point.
Great analysis! I'd love to hear what you think about Mary Jane Paul & Lisa's friendship 👭🏾
@@chokoladkallc thank you babe 🥹💗💗💗 and I will look into! I never watched that show but I will see what I can do!
i received this message well & it was right on time.. i love & appreciate your insight ♥️ been inspiring
@@shuifeng1333 glad you enjoyed it babes 💕 thanks for tuning in! 💗
I have friends who reached out we connected but as soon as they discovered my life was doing well. Weird stuff started to happen. I should have cut them off then sadly time has passed and at this season in my life cutting them off would be acting like them so I am trying to detach graciously. I am looking at creating more intimate friendships with other people. I am sure they will ask why I am not involving them I will find a way to let them know I am not okay with their meaness
@@BerylWalubengoAnyitiNanyama so true, once a friendship has ran its course it becomes uncomfortable to keep entertaining it.
Damn this is happening to me now. I had a good friend and she always seemed like she was superior. I’m glad we don’t talk anymore it was hurtful and she didn’t care
@@mercurialbird1 a superiority complex in friendships is intolerable! Glad you got rid of the deadweight.
I got where Molly character was coming from
@@ExpandZahCloset I do too
Idk wasn't Molly behind broken p 🙀 ssy too? I haven't seen all of insecure but to me, their friendship is also an example where one clearly likes the other more
@@pikachu7572 I agree 😩
This is so true. I had a friend who was more like a sister. I often feel like I was walking on eggshells when I would talk to her. She would complain about certain people and what not and I would try to give advice but she would reject my advice A lot of times, especially if I called her out honestly on how she contributed to the situation . She would always expect me to agree with her opinion on the matter . It became very exhausting and I felt like I couldn't have normal conversation because I was going to trigger her. Well unfortunately I didn't cut her off. She cut herself off from me. I really do love her but I see now and understand that it was for the best. 🫤 I think the part that hurts the most is you want the best for people that you love, but when they're not in that same headspace and they're not willing to grow, there's nothing that you can do.
Sammeeee I had a friendship just like this. She cut herself off after asking me for advice then doing the total opposite and it blew up in her face. She then got mad at me for essentially being "right" and cut me off.
@@CNae03 very well said! 💯
@@tan_ya_ an askhole
This!!!! 💯💯💯
So common in Friendships 😢😢😢 I'm happy yall had a peaceful separation
Peace is important as a woman
@kayamen2021 I agree it's very important!Well I guess It was peaceful in a way but there wasn't any official closure. She just ghosted me. Stop texting, calling. Stop returning my texting calls I have no idea what going on with her. I pray she's doing well 🙏🏽