I am a new occupational therapist and a lot of this isn't covered in our classes, however, it is an incredibly important subject matter for a lot of clients! Thanks so much for all of your videos, I've been binging them for like an hour now!
@@ParalyzedLiving It's been 7 year since you made this video? How has the family building worked for you? I pray that you are getting all you want out of life, given your situation!
@@ParalyzedLiving Wow. this is exactly what I was going to ask. Wonderful video and I love your passion, lack of embarrassment and just putting it out there buddy! Impressive.
The information that you are putting out there is so down to earth and honest. Not something alot of people would be willing to share. I believe you are helping put out honest, positive help. Much respect!
You are so positive about your injury and have such a great attitude. I'm 23 and a T7 paraplegic as of 11-30-13. I'd love to speak with you about paraplegia, I think I have a lot to learn from you. I've watched almost every one of your videos and they help a lot.
My husband has a complete injury c5/6 since he was 16 yrs old, hes now 40, and we tried IVF treatment (we had ICSI) and we were successful after a few fresh tries (plus multiple failed frozen cycles) and our daughter is now 3 years old. It was hard to keep going but obviously I am glad we stuck at it. I wish you and your wife all the best and encourage you to stay hopeful and positive. It can and does happen.
Jade Bowen so happy to read this. Congrats too. I've been a para t-5 complete for 20 yrs now. Been with my wife 15 yrs now. We can't await to have a lil one. We need the ivf route as well. Would love to talk more with ya. I'm on fb as well. be well.
Thank you for sharing! My husband is a similar level of injury to yours and I appreciate the information as we are researching children that are biologically ours together.
You know what I love about you Brian? You just address this intimate issue head on with grace and dignity. While I'm not wanting to start a family, I do think it would be beneficial for me to explore, shall we say, blowing out the pipes once in awhile for sexual health. As always, thank you for just delivering quality information to a community that needs it.
Well done video.. You answered a lot of my questions. I'm a C5-C6 complete and It's been 3 years since my injury. I've tried multiple similar methods with no success. Only thing i haven't tried is the E-stim. Thanks for taking time to make this video!
For me unfortunately no, my nerve pain is too bad that attempting it makes my legs tingle really bad. I'd try to ignore it and try for 20+ minutes and then afterwards my legs would would feel ice cold and tingle for hours. It was extremely uncomfortable.
MAN! Here is a real MAN! Having testicle cancer, years ago (yes, my ball s of silicone🙄😅) i deal with quite the same problems. And I have to face more surgeries, but in a different area... It's very rare to find someone here, who talks so honestly about a natural loss. I only hope, that you know how IMPORTANT it is, to anyone, male or female dealing with sexual inediquacy, that you gave us your experiences. I am very grateful for your gift! Thank you!!!
What a lovely guy to make this video...very very cool open and vulnerable. You are a really cool guy to give this vital info to those who are clueless and missing out..very very kind hearted loving thing to fo.
Much respect. I was going to say I bet girls are crazy bout you, but then you said you’re married so they’d better not be flirting with ya. I’m a nurse and I used to work with spinal cord/CHI Pt’s back in the 90’s. I hadn’t heard the term autonomic dysreflexia in years til you said it. It brought back things I’d forgotten since I’m retired. Take care. Happy Life.
I like your openness on the topic. Everyone, with or without physical handicap, can learn something from this. Moreover, it breaks down barriers that physically challenged people can still live fulfilling lives, and perform normally like others in the bedroom.
You have the most down to earth presentation style which allows you to deliver sensitive information in a positive and relaxed manner. Congratulations on a great video. I hope that you and your wife have been able to start your family. Best Wishes.
@@ParalyzedLiving Hi Brian, congratulations on your video. I hope you and your wife and your beautiful daughter have been able to start your family. Kind regards, from, PaulLaw.
Bro I am a T6 Level paraplegic, I'm 25 years old. I became paralyzed when I was 13 years old. I live in a small town in the Caribbean and we have no information or resources on this topic. Do you have a facebook account. I would like to ask you some important questions. Thanks alot.
My newlywed neighbors dealt with this. He is partially paralyzed, they said they just couldn’t have children. 2 1/2 years later toddler and a newborn 🙂
I'm in nursing school and I gotta say it's super interesting to hear about this kind of stuff no one talks about. It just never occurred to me that people living with disabilities like spinal cord injury can still be sexual. You're blowing my mind here
I had my SI in 1978 T12 incomplete and I have learnt more from you than any doctor that I have seen. I am going to try one or all of your methods and see what happen. Great video very informative my friend you are great. Keep up the good work and I hope your planning for a family all goes well.
Stephen Heath hey, I’m sorry to bother you but maybe you could please message me in private. I’m looking for more information about that specific type of injury for someone. Thank you!
Your video was awesome nice to see your positive attitude. I'm 34 now I got paralyzed with C5 C6 I was 18 when I got injured. You are lucky on better place. here is no ficilty I'm suffering.
Personally I do not have a spinal cord injury but I do have scoliosis. I get those really intense headaches you are talking about and I’ve only ever been told it’s because of my migraines or because I’m not relaxing enough. Thank you for sharing.
It's different. But I did find this on scoliosis. "Scoliosis may also interfere with the flow of cerebrospinal fluid ( CSF ). And when the CSF pressure in the brain is low, debilitating headaches can occur. With scoliosis, certain types of pain are warning signs that it’s time for a trip to the doctor." You can google "scoliosis affects cerebrospinal fluid flow" and get stuff on it. Also, you can get tension headache from tight neck muscles that are trying to stabilize a cervical curvature.
Interesting about the headache due to high BP. A tree fell on my mom’s car when she was 5 months pregnant with me. It broke her spinal cord at the T3/T4 level. She was able to give birth to me naturally 2 months later. She said her blood pressure went up and gave her that terrible, pounding headache like you mentioned. Thanks for sharing.
Interesting. Depending on the severity of the spinal cord the sensation of ejaculation can be present or not. Also, the STROKE part is actually scary, so Im glad I watched this video.
I have so much respect for you. You have such a great personality combined with your self confidence. Most guys would not be able to talk about this. And honestly, I don’t know how I would if it were me. But the reality is that you are way way beyond any petty fears . And on top of that, you are a very handsome guy. So really you are the complete package. .
Thank you for the comment! It is a topic not many would discuss publicly but I felt it was worth any slight embarrassment since others want to know! I’m glad you did too!
Just to warn anyone who considers using a massage gun to masturbate, DON’T! I did 6 months ago and I have had a range of issues ever since. I obviously aggravated the pudendal nerve which has caused peripheral neuropathy that I can feel all around my body, mainly in feet and perineum which is horrible. Also has affected my urine flow, increased retention and sensitivity. It’s a constant reminder of what I have done and I wouldn’t wish this upon anyone. Be safe guys
Very informative, this is very interesting. I hope medical technology will create some miracle treatments for anyone with spinal cord injuries and of course many other physical problems men may encounter throughout their life in the coming decade. I wish you well.
Oh, my good man, thank you for this. I'm not in direct need of this information, but I am in sore need of seeing people help each other in the world and you're pouring helpfulness out like a river. So generous. So kind. So good. If there's a heaven, there's a very special place in it for you. If your rewards are earthly, know that you are helping countless people in many ways and they are all grateful.
I have had an AD headache caused from a different situation and I ranked the pain up with my original back fracture. I literally felt like my head was going to split open and I sincerely would not wish that pain on my worst enemy.
@@ParalyzedLiving Oh I know, I wouldn't expect you to. I respect your tremendously for doing a video to assist other men dealing with this difficulty. I wish someone would address options for women.
There are quite a few men without injuries who find electrostimulation pleasurable. It is helpful for ED also. I am commenting to let you know that there are more advanced power boxes (not Tens units) that can purchased. These units can provide more power at a safe level. Anal electrodes that stimulate the prostate can be purchased so that both the penis, prostate and testicles can all be stimulated. There are also websites devoted to electrostimulation and several companies that sell the necessary equipment and electrodes.
My neuro says that it is extremely, extremely rare for someone below T-6 to have AD, but I wound up getting that with a L-1/2 SCI, so I agree with you that it is the worst feeling in the world! It feels like a migraine times 1,000,000, combined with horrible sweating, nausea and lightheadedness. I was given nitro glycerine spray to use if it happens. I don't get AD often, but it has happened after orgasm. Thanks for letting other know about that, because it will helps a lot of new SCI patients.
What about anal stimulation? I know it is a subject that most straight men would never consider, however, I happen to be gay, my injuries aren’t spinal, I have Crohn’s disease and had intestinal cancer. After 34 abdominal surgeries, I lost my ability to get an erection, but I can still ejaculate. I often visit websites dedicated to men who, due to medical conditions, cannot get a erection and/or ejaculate, and one common theme seems to work for everybody, and that is direct anal stimulation, and by that I mean prostate stimulation. I have a dear friend who is, just like you, dead from the waist down, and he tried everything in order to ejaculate, as he and his wife are desperate to have children, he was in a car accident one day after returning from their honeymoon. I suggested prostate stimulation, and at first he laughed at me, then, noticing that I was serious, started yelling at me, just out of sheer frustration, which I’m used to by now. He’s a wonderful man, and very open-minded, so I was pushing that open-mindedness to it’s limits. For his birthday I bought him a prostate vibrator. It’s not a dildo, it’s a small little device designed to directly stimulate the prostate, without having some huge intrusive sex toy inside you. I asked his wife if I could do this for him first, and she was all for it, because she too was dying to have children. She said that he had no problem getting an erection, but that he just couldn’t ejaculate, so her and I went shopping, and she picked it out, and I paid for. I know he will be far too embarrassed if I get it to them, so I got his wife to give it to him on my behalf. I didn’t ask him any questions, because I knew he would be uncomfortable talking about it. But I got a phone call the next day, I’ve never heard him so happy since before his injury. It worked!! He said he had never felt anything so powerful in his life, and then was teasing me about how he understood why I love gay sex so much, LOL! Little does he know, when I was 21 after my colon ruptured, they surgically removed my rectum and large intestine, so anal sex for me is totally out of the question, because the doctors literally stitched closed my rectum, on the positive side, if ever I get abducted by aliens, they will have nothing to probe! LOL! All kidding aside, his wife said it took some convincing and a couple of shots of Jack Daniels, but she finally got him to use it, and told me that he came almost instantaneously. In fact, she said he ejaculated three times in one night, after going for years without any ejaculation at all. They have both labelled me there unofficial sex therapist, A title that I get a real kick out of, she’s pregnant now with twins, a boy and a girl, and their knitting the boy after me, but we don’t dare ever tell the kids how they came to be. In any case everyone, if either of the two message mentioning this video don’t work, speak to your doctor first of course, but try direct prostate stimulation, A.k.a. prostate milking, it works wonders, and for the very brief. I was able to enjoy it, I can tell you that prostate stimulation, whether you’re straight or gay, feels absolutely incredibly wonderful! They call it the male G spot, but whatever you call it, if it works, then go with it, and forget about all The stupid stereotypes out there. You would be amazed how many straight men enjoy prostate stimulation. It does not make them gay, and it does not make them any less of a man, it’s just another facet of the human body that very few are open minded to. So, if nothing else works, what have you got to lose? There actually quite affordable, the one that I bought my friend was only 35 bucks, that’s Canadian dollars, so probably around US$28? Good luck to you all, In a strange way you guys are lucky, at least you can still get an erection, my only options for that our medical interventions such as surgery to implant two small balloons in my penis, or to inject a medicine with a great big needle into the base of my penis, neither one is a very pleasant option, I can still have full sensations of a mind blowing orgasm, you can still ejaculate, I just can’t get erect, so I’ve made my peace with it, if only the general public has the slightest clue what we have to go through just to enjoy the simple pleasures of life that everybody else takes for granted.
TJ Devereaux this is the info I’m looking for. A “friend” of mind is a paraplegic, and recently told me this is the only way he can ejaculate. I’m just trying educate myself. Thanks for posting!
I also have crohn's disease and have had my rectum removed since then I can no longer Ejaculate I'd love to no where I could buy there devices any ideas?
Very interesting. I’m glad that there is something to address this issue and I sure hope you have some kids. Science keeps coming up with new things every day. My biggest hope is that there is a breakthrough discovery where the spinal cord can be repaired and you would have the use of your legs and abdomen again!! Never give up hope. Miracles do happen! ❤️
Wow! i could learn lots aboutstimulating toys from you man...! like to see just how You use them...try them out as well...not trying to sound too weird here...so ttyl bro..! 👍👍
Ur so brave and somehow don't seem depresses about all this. Thought for sure I would find this embarrassing to watch but ur very medical and 3rd person. Excellent vid. You're wife must be amazing. She didn't leave her husband. Ur surely amazing too Going to work? Wow
Thanks Debbie! I’m over being depressed about it but it’s still something I miss! And yes, my wife is an amazing woman. We are very lucky to have the life we have despite my injury.❤️
Hi Brian, I dont have spasms but my muscles and tendants are a little stiff at times.When I lay on my back my legs lift up like am sitting. Do you think an EMS or a TENS machine would help. Also, give to me your suggestions. Thanks brother.
Thank you very much for that information. I hope you have a healthy little boy or a little girl. I tried the e stim but did not know to use both channels like that. I thought they were separate. I wish you the best of luck.
I know it's several years too late lol technically you're not putting the neg to neg and pos to pos. you're just putting two neg leads at the base and two pos at the tip. The electricity still travels, from the pos at the top, down to the neg base. Having leads on the left and right sides just increases the effectiveness.
Wow.... what a cool video. That took guts to talk about something so personal but to help others. I have a question, what about prostate stimulations ? Does that help or do the trick?
Respect, infinite admiration and you truly inspire me!!!! I really wanted to comment on your ((comments turned off)) pool post.... lol and found this post....🤷♀️ where I could come and leave you some very well deserved love and sweetness!!! 💓💓💓💓
Hi Brian, thanks for sharing your experience, this helps lot. Can I ask if you still use same method after 4 years, also how long you have an erection after you disconnect the e-stim? ... thanks.
Hey mate I had my tens machine, pulse width at 260 (maximum) and pulse rate 130 and spun the nodules on top up to 7 and nothing was happening? Obviously when I’d touch the pads I’d feel the strong current but with them on my junk nothing happened! When you say after a minute or so you’d have to get the cup. How long exactly did it take and how could you tell it was about to happen?
Horto I think I set the pulse width at 300 and the rate at 100. Make sure the machine is on constant mode bc there are several other modes that won’t provide consistent electricity. I’d say it usually took less than 10 minutes for me. I’d start feeling really tight/spastic and could feel more pressure rising in my head when I was about at the finish line. As I ejaculated I’d get a lot more spasms too and my legs would kick. I’m not sure what your injury level is but if you are below a T7 you may have different results since I have a high injury. Make sure you have two pads on each side at the tip and the same setup at the bottom. Also, I would shave the hair to make sure I was getting as much contact with the pads. If you have more questions about pad placement let me know!
Paralyzed Living Paralyzed Living okay I’m not too sure about constant mode? I’m not sure mine has it! If I could post a photo I’d show you...I’m a C6 Complete...placement info would be great! Do you mean topside and underside or literally on each side curved around? The squares are quite big!... Also how did it all work out for you in the end? 😊
Horto if you want to shoot me a message on my Paralyzed Living Facebook page you can share a photo and I can go into more detail privately. I ordered smaller 1.5 inch pads since the regular size is a little too large to get sufficient contact. I put two pads on the left/right side at the tip (positive leads) and two in the same location at the base of the shaft (negative leads). It did the trick and we have a beautiful daughter to show for it!
Respect to you for talking about something so personal. Raising awareness and educating others.
I really appreciate how you approach this topic without the "sex" part of it. It's all so human, and need not cause embarrassment. Bless you, man.
This is a Man, guys, a real person that is just so sincere and humble. I wish all the best for you and your family
I am a new occupational therapist and a lot of this isn't covered in our classes, however, it is an incredibly important subject matter for a lot of clients! Thanks so much for all of your videos, I've been binging them for like an hour now!
I’m glad they help!! 🙂
@@ParalyzedLiving It's been 7 year since you made this video? How has the family building worked for you? I pray that you are getting all you want out of life, given your situation!
@@d.j.7069 my wife and I did have a daughter in 2018! She’s now 2.5 years old and definitely makes life brighter. 😊👍🏼
@@ParalyzedLiving Wow. this is exactly what I was going to ask. Wonderful video and I love your passion, lack of embarrassment and just putting it out there buddy! Impressive.
@@ParalyzedLiving Hi Brian, I am glad they helped you with all the respect. Kind regards, from, PaulLaw.
The information that you are putting out there is so down to earth and honest. Not something alot of people would be willing to share. I believe you are helping put out honest, positive help. Much respect!
I have the greatest amount of respect for you.
Your vulnerability and honesty are very refreshing. Thank you.
You’re helping so many people by being so open about this subject. You have my respect.
Idk why UA-cam recommended this but I’ll still watch
Haha same here
I hope you and wife were able to become parents... You made something so personal seem so informative and helpful...
Thanks Karina! We have a little girl now so our efforts paid off! 😊
You are so positive about your injury and have such a great attitude. I'm 23 and a T7 paraplegic as of 11-30-13. I'd love to speak with you about paraplegia, I think I have a lot to learn from you. I've watched almost every one of your videos and they help a lot.
Andrew Hunter Same here. He's very positive and very inspiring. I'm 29 with T-11 injury.
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@@justpractice7836 same here i am a 37 complete t-11 -t-12 i been in the been in the chair for 20 years
Do u guys celebrate Leg Day?
A reminder for me to not take anything for granted. I wish you health and happiness 💛
My husband has a complete injury c5/6 since he was 16 yrs old, hes now 40, and we tried IVF treatment (we had ICSI) and we were successful after a few fresh tries (plus multiple failed frozen cycles) and our daughter is now 3 years old. It was hard to keep going but obviously I am glad we stuck at it. I wish you and your wife all the best and encourage you to stay hopeful and positive. It can and does happen.
Jade Bowen so happy to read this. Congrats too. I've been a para t-5 complete for 20 yrs now. Been with my wife 15 yrs now. We can't await to have a lil one. We need the ivf route as well. Would love to talk more with ya. I'm on fb as well. be well.
Thank you for sharing! My husband is a similar level of injury to yours and I appreciate the information as we are researching children that are biologically ours together.
I have same injury do you think I'm able for sex ?
Bless his heart. His transparency is honorable and likely helping many.
Wow man. You’re amazing for tackling this subject. I wish you the very best brother.
You know what I love about you Brian? You just address this intimate issue head on with grace and dignity. While I'm not wanting to start a family, I do think it would be beneficial for me to explore, shall we say, blowing out the pipes once in awhile for sexual health. As always, thank you for just delivering quality information to a community that needs it.
Well done video.. You answered a lot of my questions. I'm a C5-C6 complete and It's been 3 years since my injury. I've tried multiple similar methods with no success. Only thing i haven't tried is the E-stim. Thanks for taking time to make this video!
Did it work?
For me unfortunately no, my nerve pain is too bad that attempting it makes my legs tingle really bad. I'd try to ignore it and try for 20+ minutes and then afterwards my legs would would feel ice cold and tingle for hours. It was extremely uncomfortable.
So helpful for some people who are very sensitive talking about these issues. I respect you so much!!! God bless you!!!!!
It's very hard to talk about. I've been a paraplegic since age 11. I was always shy and embarrassed and avoided intimacy.
MAN! Here is a real MAN!
Having testicle cancer, years ago (yes, my ball s of silicone🙄😅) i deal with quite the same problems. And I have to face more surgeries, but in a different area...
It's very rare to find someone here, who talks so honestly about a natural loss.
I only hope, that you know how IMPORTANT it is, to anyone, male or female dealing with sexual inediquacy, that you gave us your experiences.
I am very grateful for your gift!
Thank you!!!
What a lovely guy to make this video...very very cool open and vulnerable. You are a really cool guy to give this vital info to those who are clueless and missing out..very very kind hearted loving thing to fo.
Much respect. I was going to say I bet girls are crazy bout you, but then you said you’re married so they’d better not be flirting with ya. I’m a nurse and I used to work with spinal cord/CHI Pt’s back in the 90’s. I hadn’t heard the term autonomic dysreflexia in years til you said it. It brought back things I’d forgotten since I’m retired. Take care. Happy Life.
Thanks Chad!! AD is no joke! Hope you’re doing well!
@@ParalyzedLiving Hi Brian, take care and have a happy life. Kind regards, from, PaulLaw.
I like your openness on the topic. Everyone, with or without physical handicap, can learn something from this. Moreover, it breaks down barriers that physically challenged people can still live fulfilling lives, and perform normally like others in the bedroom.
Myself and my husband have been discussing starting a family but would love it to be as natural as possible. Thank you so much for your tips x
I am grateful for the information about a topic that can be difficult to address, complete respect to you
You have the most down to earth presentation style which allows you to deliver sensitive information in a positive and relaxed manner. Congratulations on a great video. I hope that you and your wife have been able to start your family. Best Wishes.
Thanks! We have a 2.5 year old daughter now so persistence paid off. It was an expensive road but totally worth it.
@@ParalyzedLiving
Congratulations on your 2.5 year old !!
And I agree. You are down to earth style is so positive.
Hugs to all..
@@ParalyzedLiving Hi Brian, congratulations on your video. I hope you and your wife and your beautiful daughter have been able to start your family. Kind regards, from, PaulLaw.
Bro I am a T6 Level paraplegic, I'm 25 years old. I became paralyzed when I was 13 years old. I live in a small town in the Caribbean and we have no information or resources on this topic. Do you have a facebook account. I would like to ask you some important questions. Thanks alot.
I hope you guys were able to connect
@@CordiallyCornelia they got married to each other
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hope u get helped
We're both the same age and i was Paralyzed at age 13 also.
That's crazy
Thank you for your videos. You approach these subjects with a very "matter of fact" attitude, and very personal and candid information.
NOTHING BUT RESPECT FOR YOU!!!
My newlywed neighbors dealt with this. He is partially paralyzed, they said they just couldn’t have children. 2 1/2 years later toddler and a newborn 🙂
I'm in nursing school and I gotta say it's super interesting to hear about this kind of stuff no one talks about. It just never occurred to me that people living with disabilities like spinal cord injury can still be sexual. You're blowing my mind here
Haha well I’m glad I can shed a little light on the subject. I’m now a father so “it” clearly still works!
Best of luck man. Your candor is amazing.
Thanks James!!
I had my SI in 1978 T12 incomplete and I have learnt more from you than any doctor that I have seen. I am going to try one or all of your methods and see what happen. Great video very informative my friend you are great. Keep up the good work and I hope your planning for a family all goes well.
Stephen Heath hey, I’m sorry to bother you but maybe you could please message me in private. I’m looking for more information about that specific type of injury for someone. Thank you!
Did you walk again?
Your video was awesome nice to see your positive attitude. I'm 34 now I got paralyzed with C5 C6 I was 18 when I got injured. You are lucky on better place. here is no ficilty I'm suffering.
Personally I do not have a spinal cord injury but I do have scoliosis. I get those really intense headaches you are talking about and I’ve only ever been told it’s because of my migraines or because I’m not relaxing enough. Thank you for sharing.
It's different. But I did find this on scoliosis. "Scoliosis may also interfere with the flow of cerebrospinal fluid ( CSF ). And when the CSF pressure in the brain is low, debilitating headaches can occur. With scoliosis, certain types of pain are warning signs that it’s time for a trip to the doctor." You can google "scoliosis affects cerebrospinal fluid flow" and get stuff on it. Also, you can get tension headache from tight neck muscles that are trying to stabilize a cervical curvature.
Interesting about the headache due to high BP. A tree fell on my mom’s car when she was 5 months pregnant with me. It broke her spinal cord at the T3/T4 level. She was able to give birth to me naturally 2 months later. She said her blood pressure went up and gave her that terrible, pounding headache like you mentioned. Thanks for sharing.
Bravo for you for spreading awareness and educating us!!! Xoxo
Interesting. Depending on the severity of the spinal cord the sensation of ejaculation can be present or not. Also, the STROKE part is actually scary, so Im glad I watched this video.
Thank you very much for the information. You're great, man. Good luck with the family!
Yeah bro, thanks for informing us & hope ur future is always improving, you're the best my man! 👍
Full disclosure: I only clicked because I wanted to watch.
Haha that would be a completely different website.😂
@@ParalyzedLiving Don't be shy drop the OF :>
Autonomic dysreflexia is horrible, thank you for the information on this issue
Eduardo Rosario yes it is horrible. Worst headache I’ve ever had and it would not go away.
@@ParalyzedLiving Hi Brian, get some more rest and get better. Kind regards, from, PaulLaw.
I have so much respect for you. You have such a great personality combined with your self confidence. Most guys would not be able to talk about this. And honestly, I don’t know how I would if it were me. But the reality is that you are way way beyond any petty fears . And on top of that, you are a very handsome guy. So really you are the complete package. .
Thank you for the comment! It is a topic not many would discuss publicly but I felt it was worth any slight embarrassment since others want to know! I’m glad you did too!
Good luck man I wish u all the best. What you’re doing will help a lot of people... 👍🏼
Just to warn anyone who considers using a massage gun to masturbate, DON’T!
I did 6 months ago and I have had a range of issues ever since. I obviously aggravated the pudendal nerve which has caused peripheral neuropathy that I can feel all around my body, mainly in feet and perineum which is horrible. Also has affected my urine flow, increased retention and sensitivity. It’s a constant reminder of what I have done and I wouldn’t wish this upon anyone. Be safe guys
I appreciate your transparency as I strive to get this candidness from all my acquaintances. More power to your channel.
Very informative, this is very interesting. I hope medical technology will create some miracle treatments for anyone with spinal cord injuries and of course many other physical problems men may encounter throughout their life in the coming decade. I wish you well.
I really appreciate you man and I highly respect what you do keep posting and stay strong 💪🏾
Oh, my good man, thank you for this. I'm not in direct need of this information, but I am in sore need of seeing people help each other in the world and you're pouring helpfulness out like a river. So generous. So kind. So good.
If there's a heaven, there's a very special place in it for you. If your rewards are earthly, know that you are helping countless people in many ways and they are all grateful.
Much respect for your honest video. I wish you well in your quest to start a family.
We all grown😮😅🎉🎉. This is something im sure alot of people wonder this but are afraid to ask or offend. Thank you!
I have had an AD headache caused from a different situation and I ranked the pain up with my original back fracture. I literally felt like my head was going to split open and I sincerely would not wish that pain on my worst enemy.
Gimp Geek Agreed, it was by far one of the most painful uncomfortable feelings. It lasted for well over an hour too.
I too agree that AD is the worst feeling in the world. It feels like a migraine times 1 million combined with nausea and profuse sweating.
I felt this pain 100 of times before thanks to the video at least I'm gonna try with the nifedepine next time.
Hi thanks for sharing my fiance is a t12 injury and I was wondering where you get the e stim at ?
Beautiful
Thank you for your courage in making this informative and educational video ❤
If they could put your attitude into a pill form it would sell more than viagra, much respect to you sir.
oh dang thanks bro gotta get these on Amazon NOW. It's been 3 years, long overdue! t I used to be a beast.
Keith Baza me too straight best it’s been 9 years for me Amazon i go 😂💪🏾💪🏾
You are doing an important job here, my respect!
My spine is incomplete but due to nerve damage I can’t do anything anymore. Nothing works but I’m old now and we have kids. Good luck.
Wonderful options for men, but what about women who have lost most or all sensitivity due to a spinal cord injury?
Unfortunately I don’t have a lot of knowledge in that area.🤷🏻♂️
@@ParalyzedLiving Oh I know, I wouldn't expect you to. I respect your tremendously for doing a video to assist other men dealing with this difficulty. I wish someone would address options for women.
I appreciate your help, where do you get the ferticare?
I bought mine used on an SCI forum but normally you need a prescription from a dr/urologist to order one from Ferticare.
Great for you to talk about subject that affect many.
Fascinating stuff. Props to you bud. Not sure how I got here from leaving autoplay on during clay crafts though.
There are quite a few men without injuries who find electrostimulation pleasurable. It is helpful for ED also. I am commenting to let you know that there are more advanced power boxes (not Tens units) that can purchased. These units can provide more power at a safe level. Anal electrodes that stimulate the prostate can be purchased so that both the penis, prostate and testicles can all be stimulated.
There are also websites devoted to electrostimulation and several companies that sell the necessary equipment and electrodes.
Wow. That must have been a momentous experience that felt great.
You are going to make a fantastic dad! Thank you for sharing your journey.
Thank you!! I now have a young daughter and it’s going well!
Thanks for your post. Very frank, but very important info.
My neuro says that it is extremely, extremely rare for someone below T-6 to have AD, but I wound up getting that with a L-1/2 SCI, so I agree with you that it is the worst feeling in the world! It feels like a migraine times 1,000,000, combined with horrible sweating, nausea and lightheadedness. I was given nitro glycerine spray to use if it happens. I don't get AD often, but it has happened after orgasm. Thanks for letting other know about that, because it will helps a lot of new SCI patients.
I am 30, i have a six years old T5/6 spinal injury, i need help in making these.
Complete or incomplete?
Thank you for mentioning the drug and the drug class! And obviously thank you for sharing!!
Good luck with your quest to starting your family. I think you and your wife have a beautiful future ahead. Keep up the positive attitude.
What about anal stimulation? I know it is a subject that most straight men would never consider, however, I happen to be gay, my injuries aren’t spinal, I have Crohn’s disease and had intestinal cancer. After 34 abdominal surgeries, I lost my ability to get an erection, but I can still ejaculate. I often visit websites dedicated to men who, due to medical conditions, cannot get a erection and/or ejaculate, and one common theme seems to work for everybody, and that is direct anal stimulation, and by that I mean prostate stimulation. I have a dear friend who is, just like you, dead from the waist down, and he tried everything in order to ejaculate, as he and his wife are desperate to have children, he was in a car accident one day after returning from their honeymoon. I suggested prostate stimulation, and at first he laughed at me, then, noticing that I was serious, started yelling at me, just out of sheer frustration, which I’m used to by now. He’s a wonderful man, and very open-minded, so I was pushing that open-mindedness to it’s limits. For his birthday I bought him a prostate vibrator. It’s not a dildo, it’s a small little device designed to directly stimulate the prostate, without having some huge intrusive sex toy inside you. I asked his wife if I could do this for him first, and she was all for it, because she too was dying to have children. She said that he had no problem getting an erection, but that he just couldn’t ejaculate, so her and I went shopping, and she picked it out, and I paid for. I know he will be far too embarrassed if I get it to them, so I got his wife to give it to him on my behalf. I didn’t ask him any questions, because I knew he would be uncomfortable talking about it. But I got a phone call the next day, I’ve never heard him so happy since before his injury. It worked!! He said he had never felt anything so powerful in his life, and then was teasing me about how he understood why I love gay sex so much, LOL! Little does he know, when I was 21 after my colon ruptured, they surgically removed my rectum and large intestine, so anal sex for me is totally out of the question, because the doctors literally stitched closed my rectum, on the positive side, if ever I get abducted by aliens, they will have nothing to probe! LOL! All kidding aside, his wife said it took some convincing and a couple of shots of Jack Daniels, but she finally got him to use it, and told me that he came almost instantaneously. In fact, she said he ejaculated three times in one night, after going for years without any ejaculation at all. They have both labelled me there unofficial sex therapist, A title that I get a real kick out of, she’s pregnant now with twins, a boy and a girl, and their knitting the boy after me, but we don’t dare ever tell the kids how they came to be. In any case everyone, if either of the two message mentioning this video don’t work, speak to your doctor first of course, but try direct prostate stimulation, A.k.a. prostate milking, it works wonders, and for the very brief. I was able to enjoy it, I can tell you that prostate stimulation, whether you’re straight or gay, feels absolutely incredibly wonderful! They call it the male G spot, but whatever you call it, if it works, then go with it, and forget about all The stupid stereotypes out there. You would be amazed how many straight men enjoy prostate stimulation. It does not make them gay, and it does not make them any less of a man, it’s just another facet of the human body that very few are open minded to. So, if nothing else works, what have you got to lose? There actually quite affordable, the one that I bought my friend was only 35 bucks, that’s Canadian dollars, so probably around US$28? Good luck to you all, In a strange way you guys are lucky, at least you can still get an erection, my only options for that our medical interventions such as surgery to implant two small balloons in my penis, or to inject a medicine with a great big needle into the base of my penis, neither one is a very pleasant option, I can still have full sensations of a mind blowing orgasm, you can still ejaculate, I just can’t get erect, so I’ve made my peace with it, if only the general public has the slightest clue what we have to go through just to enjoy the simple pleasures of life that everybody else takes for granted.
TJ Devereaux this is the info I’m looking for. A “friend” of mind is a paraplegic, and recently told me this is the only way he can ejaculate. I’m just trying educate myself. Thanks for posting!
Onde comprar este aparelho?
I also have crohn's disease and have had my rectum removed since then I can no longer Ejaculate I'd love to no where I could buy there devices any ideas?
You are so real and dignified.
Thanks for the video! What's your level of injury?
I admire you.thank you for sharing..your helping so many..good luck and god bless you.🙏💙😊
Very interesting. I’m glad that there is something to address this issue and I sure hope you have some kids. Science keeps coming up with new things every day. My biggest hope is that there is a breakthrough discovery where the spinal cord can be repaired and you would have the use of your legs and abdomen again!! Never give up hope. Miracles do happen! ❤️
I wonder who are those ignorants who dislike your videos
They're mad they're small and can't get it up or please a woman (or last more than 10 seconds)
@@DJcyberslash I'm not sure saying bad things about them is any better than their giving a thumbs down.
Probably some punks that think they're being funny.
@ Nicholas Mikah I don't understand why, real, honest information, questions that need to be answered.
@@morgancalvi6675 Sadly, you'll always get people with little understanding and even less heart❣🌹
This video is so important to the world, thank you so much for that! Hugs from Brazil ❤️🇧🇷
What about rectal stimulation? Stimulation of the prostate with a vibrator
Thank you so much for sharing! I have tried with my spouse and he gets discouraged. So, thank you!! ♥️
Hope you’ve been able to expand your family since making this video!
Yep sure did. I have a young daughter now. 😊👍🏼
@@ParalyzedLiving Hi Brian, say hello to your family for me please. Kind regards, from, PaulLaw.
Electric stimulated ejaculation is well known in SM...
Thankful respect for you and your video 💝
Wow! i could learn lots aboutstimulating toys from you man...! like to see just how You use them...try them out as well...not trying to sound too weird here...so ttyl bro..! 👍👍
will u be kind to give the specifications
Ur so brave and somehow don't seem depresses about all this.
Thought for sure I would find this embarrassing to watch but ur very medical and 3rd person.
Excellent vid. You're wife must be amazing. She didn't leave her husband. Ur surely amazing too
Going to work? Wow
Thanks Debbie! I’m over being depressed about it but it’s still something I miss! And yes, my wife is an amazing woman. We are very lucky to have the life we have despite my injury.❤️
We are humans, Thank you for sharing your private experience with us !! Much love
what type of Dr would one go to ask these types of questions to? any help advice is greatly appreciated.
Your main pmnr or doctor that follows you specifically for your spinal cord injuries
I went to a university urologist when I was investigating this
Hi Brian, I dont have spasms but my muscles and tendants are a little stiff at times.When I lay on my back my legs lift up like am sitting. Do you think an EMS or a TENS machine would help. Also, give to me your suggestions. Thanks brother.
I appreciate the lessons you are teaching us
Thank you very much for that information. I hope you have a healthy little boy or a little girl.
I tried the e stim but did not know to use both channels like that. I thought they were separate.
I wish you the best of luck.
Thank You for being brave enough to speak about this very private subject. helpful information.
I wouldn't have thought that putting the negatives with the negatives and positives with the positives would work. Can someone explain?
I know it's several years too late lol
technically you're not putting the neg to neg and pos to pos.
you're just putting two neg leads at the base and two pos at the tip. The electricity still travels, from the pos at the top, down to the neg base. Having leads on the left and right sides just increases the effectiveness.
Im a c6 4 years post injury and this helps alot! Ive made baby gravy a couple times since the new year. Where do you get the conductive loops?
In answer to another similar question, he wrote "If you look up “TENS conductive loops with clips” you can find them."
Excellent video! Very well done!
Wow.... what a cool video. That took guts to talk about something so personal but to help others. I have a question, what about prostate stimulations ? Does that help or do the trick?
Thank you!! I’ve never tried it but I’ve heard it can work. We did end up getting prego though!
@@ParalyzedLiving AWESOME! Congratulations Dad!
Respect, infinite admiration and you truly inspire me!!!! I really wanted to comment on your ((comments turned off)) pool post.... lol and found this post....🤷♀️ where I could come and leave you some very well deserved love and sweetness!!! 💓💓💓💓
Black Widow thanks for the love!! 😊
Hi Brian, thanks for sharing your experience, this helps lot. Can I ask if you still use same method after 4 years, also how long you have an erection after you disconnect the e-stim? ... thanks.
Hey mate I had my tens machine, pulse width at 260 (maximum) and pulse rate 130 and spun the nodules on top up to 7 and nothing was happening? Obviously when I’d touch the pads I’d feel the strong current but with them on my junk nothing happened! When you say after a minute or so you’d have to get the cup. How long exactly did it take and how could you tell it was about to happen?
Horto I think I set the pulse width at 300 and the rate at 100. Make sure the machine is on constant mode bc there are several other modes that won’t provide consistent electricity. I’d say it usually took less than 10 minutes for me. I’d start feeling really tight/spastic and could feel more pressure rising in my head when I was about at the finish line. As I ejaculated I’d get a lot more spasms too and my legs would kick. I’m not sure what your injury level is but if you are below a T7 you may have different results since I have a high injury. Make sure you have two pads on each side at the tip and the same setup at the bottom. Also, I would shave the hair to make sure I was getting as much contact with the pads. If you have more questions about pad placement let me know!
Paralyzed Living Paralyzed Living okay I’m not too sure about constant mode? I’m not sure mine has it! If I could post a photo I’d show you...I’m a C6 Complete...placement info would be great! Do you mean topside and underside or literally on each side curved around? The squares are quite big!... Also how did it all work out for you in the end? 😊
Horto if you want to shoot me a message on my Paralyzed Living Facebook page you can share a photo and I can go into more detail privately. I ordered smaller 1.5 inch pads since the regular size is a little too large to get sufficient contact. I put two pads on the left/right side at the tip (positive leads) and two in the same location at the base of the shaft (negative leads). It did the trick and we have a beautiful daughter to show for it!
@@ParalyzedLiving -- Congratulations! So happy for you. 😊👍
Sorry I missed the name of that pill what is it called
Hi there! Thanks for the info. I just got this tens unit. t4 complete here. Are you setting the setting to burst, modulation, or normal? Thanks!
It needs to be in normal/constant mode.
I like the 2nd messager better, because you could potentially disguise it like a light saber. Less questions if the kids find it !
Why did you use new electrical pands every time