My wife cheated on me and she was stunned how quickly I dropped her. My thought process behind this was I know exactly what I'm worth and I can find someone new with ease. Started working out again, got a promotion, and dating a very beautiful and more caring person than she ever was. By doing this she is a freaking wreck now. I honestly feel bad about her situation now. My life is better than ever and hers has just fell apart. Of course she's always hitting me up saying she wants to work things out but, no thanks. I know what I'm worth and I don't deserve to be cheated on...EVER.
And that will somehow ensure your next relationship is cheat-free, cheat-proof? Getting an education, hobby etc is just a new habit to 'bury' the pain. As soon as a new relationship starts those fears resurfaces and could cause insecurities detrimental to new 'love'. Golden rule: Never love someone more than you love yourself. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change(stolen)*
james bates No. That’s called working on yourself. She took time to better herself and from what I’ve seen. That’s what seems to hit hardest on cheating souses-moving on and living an improved life without them.
@@GarrettH-rl7ml 3 months after my ex cheated she tried to guilt and shame me from moving on and seeing other women. 5 years later she's fat, single and miserable while I'm fit and getting married soon.
People cheat because they want to, not because it's an accident. It was on purpose. And the amount of time, effort, work, and cover stories It takes to achieve this, is immense. If they put all of those things back into their relationship, it would be amazing.
as a male i had lots of that from females i hooked up with, my trying to help them only made the use and abuse me until i finally left, trash is trash on both sexes and i know lots of guys as a female i would not touch but females fall for the bad boys and then wonder why things dont work out.
Kimberley Hembree, but your mind is still set on revenge in that case. if you seek revenge on someone, i would ask if you ever actually loved them. revenge, by it's very nature, is a selfish desire, and real love is never selfish.
@@dursty3226 OH MY GOD !!? WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT !! OH YES , YOU CAN LOVE SOMEONE , BUT STILL HAVE STRONG FEELINGS FROM CERTAIN KINDS OF HURTS ,THAT SEEM TO TEAR YOUR VERY " HEART" OUT !?? YOU'VE BEEN BLESSED BY NEVER HAVE BEEN THE IN A PLACE IN YOUR LIFE , WERE YOU HAVE LOVED SOMEONE SO MUCH , THAT THEY LITERALLY HAVE THE ABILITY TO PHYSICALLY PUT AREAL PAIN IN YOUR BODY !! DO YOU KNOW THAT A PERSON CAN ACTUALLY DIE OF A " "BROKEN HEART "...... IT IS A VERY " REAL" CONDITION !!! PAIN TO YOUR ' SOUL' , IS AS REAL AS A' BROKEN ARM' !! AND ACTUALLY " FEELING " AS PAINFUL TO YOUR BODY AS THAT ' BROKEN ARM' ' !! SO BEFORE YOU WAX ALL " WISE " , AND SERINE "... MAYBE YOU HAVEN'T FOUND THAT CERTAIN ... SOMETHING ?!! GET MY DRIFT !! " IF " ...HAHAHAHAHA HEHEHEHEHE!! 😏
The best revenge is no revenge. When they cheats it shows who they are we don't need to tell them about all their faults. When we forgive it shows who we are. But the hardest part is to forget.
Sunam Dutta my wife cheated on me and I’m having a hard time with it . I’m not trying to get revenge I just want to fix what I can fix Even though she says everything is my fault.
When you love someone it's hard to let go. You put all your energy into someone who gives nothing back in return. Than just through their infidelity in your face like it's your fault, the reason why they cheat. But you know what I am going to work on myself spiritually, intellectually and learn to love myself.
@@Tonychavez8226 u should make yourself an important priority.. i m replying after a long time... dude go to gym.. flirt(no sex)... be an excellent option for other women hotter than your wife.... dude... make your children fall in love with ur new self.. be a best friend to them.. and change to 16 yrs.. ur wife will pled to be back with you
She did me a favor. Turned my life around. Learned to take better care of myself. Blocked her at every level, phone, text, FB etc. No contact rule in full effect.
Carol Dudeck dude it completely depends on where you live. Also those static’s are based on those who admit to cheating. Heating in generally is just out of hand.
Don't go back to a cheater. If your significant other don't value you as the person you are, then he/she don't deserve your time. Have respect for yourself!
Always remember that it isn’t your job to make your spouse happy. It’s there job to find individual happiness as well as yours. One cannot ever be happy with anyone else without first being happy with themselves. As an individual we need to be our best in all aspects. Personally, I’ve focused on trying to master the art of a good attitude. Attitude revolves around everything; work, sleep, eating, driving, being with family/friends, school etc...It’s is all in our perspective and the way we choose to look at things. Always remind yourself that working on you is a process. If you find yourself struggling, simply tell yourself “this is a process”. Individual happiness is something we all deserve. Also really soak in what Kim and Dr. Beam have to say. And remember whoever you are, you are not alone!
I agree with this girl. When I started loving myself than others, I can feel that I am complete. As I feel this completeness, I am not always affected by things happening with the lives of others. I can give up people when they let me down and I can do that because my sense of possession and self-worth do not depend on them.
I tracked down my wife's boyfriend. He actually turned out to be pretty cool. Turns out that she lied to him too by telling him that they were separated.
That's what my husband tells all the little girls too. Apparently I have a 10 milf body? But nobody believes i ever had a kid? They think my son is my brother i get carded everywhere. And the girls all know who I am, they reject him now. Guess who's so sorry, and thinks I will let him in again. Ha
absolutely true. I once was on that stage and didn't know what to do. after crying all my pains I prayed and ask the guidance of the Lord. He did not fail me. He teaches me to forgive to save my family. at first even just for my child but as years pass by we were able to fix it. now i must say forgiveness is worthwhile to those who worth it. cheating is just one test to a family. it's up to you if you just let it destroy you or you let it as a challenge for you to surpass.
My husband cheated once 10 years ago . We lost lot of money he spend on her. They went on trips and had lot of fun for two years at his expense alone. Past 10 years he did again we moved to other country. I’m super successful and we got money but he started hiding and lieing and started affair again with a woman . Went to 5 international trip telling me for business. Got speedster phone to call her only so I don’t never find out. Now I caught him and he is asking forgiveness for the kids. I am so upset and angry about this bullshit.
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I went though the shock of discovering my wife affair / I barely got through by the grace of God - and still not out.. depressed suicidal , couldn’t think- just loved her and forgave her and want to save marriage We still married , things aren’t perfect but trying to be the best me as she says. It’s a shame people do this to people it’s awful
I am in the same position as you. By the grace of God alone just like you I’ve found some comfort. I dont know you but you will be included in my prayers.
Herakles and thefus maximus, The Lord hears your prayers. i'll join you all in praying for peace, healing, and forgiveness. Father, turn all hearts toward you, to better love and serve you, amen. To those who have been cheated on, pour out your peace and guiding wisdom. To those who have cheated or are currently doing so, turn their hearts away from such desires, and back toward you. Bring healing to these broken marriages, for you've brought them together for your glory, and we have no business in separating what you have joined. Lord, if separation does occur, bring healing to reforge and strengthen the bond between spouses, and if cold hearts prevail, and divorce happens, pour out your divine grace on all involved, and bring healing. Lead your people to your heart, and bring us home to you. All this we ask in power, for your glory. Thank you, Lord.
In my experience the best you can do is be the best version of yourself. It’s sucks and it hurts. But you can hold your head high and be proud that you are a good person. Now let’s see what she says on the subject
SO, when you wife/husband is coming home later after being with their lover, you're supposed to accept it and just work on yourself? No fear of STD's? Just let them be aloof as though you don't exist and do PIES. Why waste your life with someone who doesn't care about you anymore? I get it about improving yourself, but how can you get past the betrayal going forward?
Well. I don't care. I am a Muslim and we have high morals and values. Once my husband cheats on me, I will divorce him. In our religion there is death penalty for adultery. And to me that's good.
OMG... I needed that video today. You are completely right. I've been trying to hurt my ex for the past 2 years and I realized 3 weeks ago that I am adding up Karma for myself... Whatever I did, didn't work. He will get it back to him one day, but it won't be through my anger or my vindictiveness. Also, I realized that I was living his life and forgetting about me. The best way is just move on and work on yourself...just like you said
Yuuuup, I took everything from my ex wife ahahahha. I get 4k a month from her got the house and cars. She got shit. She survives off ramen noodles every day. Roflolmao
I am doing my best to support my spouse who cheated. It hurts that she had an affair while I was trying to hard to connect with her. Everything I asked for was given instead to another, but I have to consider so much more than her actions. I am not keeping my distance, being supportive, but no longer not taking care of me. I'm starting to turn that around the last couple of weeks.
Hey just know it wasn’t you you need to created some mystery now and show her you love her bro you gotta be pimping make the relationship fun again everyday she’s a. Flirt flirtatious chick who needs love
After seven years my ....fiancé cheated with a mutual “friend” of ours. I still haven’t gotten over it and I’m constantly suspicious of him. Of course much more has happened the past three years since, but I’m Not sure how much longer either of us can go on like this. Sometimes I think we stay together because of the certain conveniences it affords both of us. 🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️
Did your partner have a lengthy affair with this friend of yours or did it occur just once? People cheat for all sorts of reasons. Often it had nothing to do with the quality of their existing relationship or the other partner. However the person who has been cheated on often chooses to take it as a personal criticism, especially if they already have a low opinion of themselves. Ask yourself what it was that really hurt you about the affair and why. Whether he can be trusted or not after several years is irrelevant because either way you are hurting and scared that he may cheat again, and suspect him every day which must put a massive burden on you both, yet this is better to you than being single and alone. Do yourself a favour and speak with a therapist about this. Find out what your attachment style is (probably anxious preoccupied/avoidant).
All of this makes sense. Although, once a cheater always a cheater. Example, have y ever broke a drinking glass do y glue it back together or do you up grade and buy a new set of drinking glasses? As f my story my husband cheated on me with all types of men and women. And, I went w him to counseling and did alot of the wrong things because I was hurt. I eventually stopped begging, following him, I even bought him a new phone f the holiday and said I do not even want to have the number. Next, I joined a gym, went back to work, and started college where I left off. Yes, I even got a new hair style and color for me. I started making breakfast f me and our children early enough so the cheater did not see me. He, made dates w me I would have plans or leave the date early. I drove him crazy f four years till final I gave him a divorse along with the bill and obtained all assests. I was never mean or fought him instead I would always look my best dressing f sucess and acting professional when he would have his visitation. He, asked me if I would ever take him back I said maybe in the next millennium or when Crist comes back. As f all I have done since our divorse I furthered my education, improved myself in so many ways I never knew possible, I traveled to 2 countries, and I am staying free from sexual transmitted diseases because I do not share my life w a cheater. Plus, I do not have to worry who my husband is with because I do not need one because I depend on me. And, in this life time God has blessed me with many things marriage is not one of those things for this life time. Instead, travel, education, love from my children family and community is apart of this life that I am know living. I thanked him for opening my eyes of lifes possiblies and told him to have a wonderful life.
This is by far the best advice i have received from anyone since the incident occurred. Thank you much and will join and like. Hats off to you and look forward to more informational videos.
This is the best advices ever . Intuitively, this is exactly what I done ; And when I found out the type of man she had dating , I felt even more better because I did want to teach the third party a testosterone lesson , when actually wasn’t necessary , I found compassion and forgiveness and THAT free me totally ; My wife ask me back We are working together on what when wrong ; it’s a beautiful path paintful too BUT If you have strong attachment into your relationship it’s works Bless all
Proud of you man I did the same exact thing we were separated for three months she dated somebody for a few months we started communicating more and things getting a lot better
Its hard if they dont let you leave like in my case, soon as i try to leave i get hurt and kept hostage until things "calm down" then still stuck suffering the thought of them still cheating
When my ex husband cheated for the 3rd time (yes I'm a fool . Lol) I finally said to myself "The next man who seems interested in me, I'm going to hook up with him, then tell my husband so he can feel as broken as I do" That right there, that's when I said it's time for me to go. I always say "if your wanting to cheat just leave" and so I did BEST DECISION OF MY LIFE.
I don't believe you were a fool for staying. You had your reasons, and it's a testament to faithfulness in the face of the unfaithful. I wish you the best!
My wife has been unfaithful and has given me guilt money and even said she could get over it if I cheated on her... but still won't tell me what exactly happened. The gaslighting has me going crazy.
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My wife cheated and now she wants a divorce. The thing that I think makes it hurt the most is that she didn't have a physical affair. It was an emotional affair that is becoming more now that we are apart and because of his situation I know that all she is going to be for him is a rebound.
If someone cheats, they do not value what they had with you... Fact! Walk away, do not blame yourself, it is their fault and they chose their actions, so it's time to choose your actions by walking away and living your life without that person. You are a good person... Never forget that.
I caught my boyfriend cheat. I send him some even, he replied that I’m metal and crazy lol he refused to accept the fact that I know everything.. we were together for 9 years so is sucks I feel sad because we plan to have baby this year. He’s been seeing other women; so I left.
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This video called me out to a tee. I’m just in the beginning of a wife after 20 years has had an affair. It’s been only two months and all I have been thinking about is how I can make her feel how much pain I”m in. This video made me break down. Thanks.
The PIES work. Had I not taken them up I would be in a downward spiral. Now 9 months later stronger than ever feeling more ready to take on life again. The acting out, the affair, or whatever you want to call has more to do with the other person's insecurities and looking for validation. Validation I couldn't give because I lacked my own self-development and self-love. These videos helped through my struggles but I coped and still standing for the marriage. Good luck!
I did all the wrong things at first, I was so angry because my husband left me after 14 years and watching my babies cry for him killed me, and I felt this incredible rage. I would let him have it every single time we spoke, but I felt worse afterwards. Now I just talk to him only if I have to and when I feel angry I cut it short. He started noticing that and wanted to come back, except he's still with the other woman... So I said NO! I'm a little happier and looking forward to starting a new life, possibly moving to a new place since I had to move in with my parents. My kids are excited to have our own place again😊
Friend advising to cheat back. So then you don't worry about what they doing cause u doing the same. To me it's not worth it. My problem is why can't they leave you alone after they cheat.
I forgave him multiple times and I’m tired specially after he told me to learn not to give everything in the relationship. I’m tired and I just want out.
When my wife once wanted a separation, I started contacting much younger women and it really helped to save the marriage. When she initially found out about my confident conversations with the young ladies, her reaction was crazy and she got extremely mad at me. I told her, she should get used to it, and I will definitely keep contacting other women, after she officially rejected me. We are now back together. She later admitted to me, that me talking confidently to much younger women made her jealous and finally made her wanting to end the separation. I still don’t understand her whole reaction, and what happened is still puzzling me. May be she saw me as a kind of beta male, incapable to find another women and was then surprised how quick and easy I found multiple young women, that were quite interested. She admitted, that she was surprised by her own jealousy. I still don’t understand the whole situation.
That's exactly what it is. She took you for granted and looked as you as cuck. Then once you got redpilled and stopped caring and started talking to other woman. She say the alpha in you. Woman hate(love) when you stand up for yourself in this way.
It has nothing to do with beta/alpha male stuff, she just liked you more than she thought. She doesn't want anyone else to have you. If she didn't care, she wouldn't have ended the separation no matter how alpha or beta you are.
My wife has an affair with her phone. With her sons, and her late husband. And her job. No joke. They’re more important than me. I’m way down on her list of priorities.
I’m not rolling my eyes at all lol I’ve learned these things after experience! When I started focusing more on myself and my happiness and not caring about what he does, where he goes, etc than he started paying more attention to me wondering why I’m not jealous anymore 😂 only thing that makes me mad is that he takes his side chick and her children out to do fun activities but doesn’t do anything fun with our kids or spend time with our kids..
My husband cheated on me and I’m trying to work everything but he keep saying that he has more connection with the other women and he didn’t felt that with me for two years. I don’t understand why he married me and after 1 month he will date different women just because I have emotional attitude cause of my pregnancy. I did everything already, I am trying to work for myself because I am stressed out and I feel sorry for myself and for the baby but he just keep saying it’s not gonna really work out anymore even if i can change.
Working on you should be default mode for everyone. Never stop if you are single or in a relationship. That part is good advice, but not mutually exclusive to revenge. Some payback can be very satisfying so long as it is not a singular fixation / obsession.
I agree, work on yourself! I'm finally at that stage. I had to get past that hurt and anger. I did all of the wrong things to and the stages were passing and I couldn't let it take my Life out of me. Your not going to control anything except yourself and he had to get through whatever it was going on in him. Nothing would be true or honest if you don't let whatever is going to happen, happen. Respect and love have to take their place within yourself because it will come back.
I thought catching him twice would have an impact. I think it is still happening... but I can't even ask without him getting mad that I'm holding it over him
I came home when the stbx was out went in our room and packed all her stuff in garbage bags and then dropped them in the kitchen. She came home and went back to change and when sh did I tossed the bags out the door, she came out of the room asking where her stuff was so I walked her over to the door and showed her and gave her a nudge out the door, then changed the locks after she got her bags and left.
Thank you, I wanted to here this. My husband cheated on me worse part our marriage is only 4 months. I feel so betrayed and asking myself so many questions. My biggest fear is that is that most people don't stop cheating once they started.
This Marriage Helper advice is actually very practical, helpful and easy to do especially some of the healing reasons given for working/improving on yourself physical fitness, other areas of life improvement etc.
I am quite pleased how it ended up 42 years ago my ex cheated on me. I treated her so bad for 2 years that she ended up in his arms. The long story he ended up abusing her, welfare etc with many children. Why perhpaps mine end result was a rearity.
Women and even virgins....never... marry a divorced man, and even if he has fornicated in his past or lived with a woman, question it hard. Why, how long for... I would write him off too and wait for God to supply you a godly man. A protector and a provider as well. Keep in mind that fornication and cohabitating can be recognized as legal marriage by state law.
I never felt what u decribe. I feelt happy i felt free. I felt like finally i had peace. Like a weight of my shoulder. He was weighin me down. He was driving me crazy.
Well yes i would but my spouse is not letting me work on myself. Just staying at home taking care od home and children.. While he js going to "business trips" dirst chance is to leave shit and work on myself, hopefully soon.
I don't care if I make him jealous. He don't care for me so why should I. He's the one that started it now it's time I end it. It's not fair he can I can't. It's to late for him
What if a wife discovered that her husband was cheating? Should she confront her husband before FOCUSING ON HER PIES...? Or Is it ok to just focus on her PIES without telling or confronting her husband that she already knew everything about the affair of her husband. Which is best thing to do? And effective? The husband still stays at home because he wife dont tell her husband that she knew about the relationship. And the husband will surely leave the house when the wife confront him that she already knew everything about the affair. Meaning the wife is afraid to confront her husband that she already knew because she does not want her husband to leave the house. Very stressful situation for the wife..
My wife cheated on me and she was stunned how quickly I dropped her. My thought process behind this was I know exactly what I'm worth and I can find someone new with ease. Started working out again, got a promotion, and dating a very beautiful and more caring person than she ever was. By doing this she is a freaking wreck now. I honestly feel bad about her situation now. My life is better than ever and hers has just fell apart. Of course she's always hitting me up saying she wants to work things out but, no thanks. I know what I'm worth and I don't deserve to be cheated on...EVER.
Good for you, you took proper action. You don't stay with a cheater.
That is exactly how it's done!!!
I’m going to do the same thing! Thanks
You took the high road and were rewarded!
How did u catch her cheatint?
It disgusts me the men and women willing to have affairs with a married person, so off limits get some morals!😡
True.. immoral behavior.. vl
True. My husband is having an affair and the woman knew the whole time he is married. They dont care.
Akila Karthik it’s filthy and remember God sees all!🙏
Without god there are no morals.
So true
Yes ma’am, when I learned that my husband cheated on me, I’ve decided to enroll college and I have finished my education degree
Marisa Avila same! ❤️
And that will somehow ensure your next relationship is cheat-free, cheat-proof? Getting an education, hobby etc is just a new habit to 'bury' the pain. As soon as a new relationship starts those fears resurfaces and could cause insecurities detrimental to new 'love'. Golden rule: Never love someone more than you love yourself. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change(stolen)*
james bates No. That’s called working on yourself. She took time to better herself and from what I’ve seen. That’s what seems to hit hardest on cheating souses-moving on and living an improved life without them.
@@GarrettH-rl7ml 3 months after my ex cheated she tried to guilt and shame me from moving on and seeing other women. 5 years later she's fat, single and miserable while I'm fit and getting married soon.
That’s exactly what I did , am on my final at university studying to become a social work
People cheat because they want to, not because it's an accident. It was on purpose. And the amount of time, effort, work, and cover stories It takes to achieve this, is immense. If they put all of those things back into their relationship, it would be amazing.
They always think we are fools when you treat them with kindness
If you treat them with kindness AND indifference, it will be very effective in the long run. Mark my words.
as a male i had lots of that from females i hooked up with, my trying to help them only made the use and abuse me until i finally left, trash is trash on both sexes and i know lots of guys as a female i would not touch but females fall for the bad boys and then wonder why things dont work out.
The best revenge is living well
Kimberley Hembree, but your mind is still set on revenge in that case. if you seek revenge on someone, i would ask if you ever actually loved them. revenge, by it's very nature, is a selfish desire, and real love is never selfish.
@@dursty3226 OH MY GOD !!? WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT !!
OH YES , YOU CAN LOVE SOMEONE , BUT STILL HAVE STRONG FEELINGS FROM CERTAIN KINDS OF
HURTS ,THAT SEEM TO TEAR YOUR VERY " HEART" OUT !?? YOU'VE BEEN BLESSED BY NEVER HAVE BEEN THE IN A PLACE IN YOUR LIFE , WERE YOU
HAVE LOVED SOMEONE SO MUCH , THAT THEY LITERALLY HAVE THE ABILITY TO PHYSICALLY
PUT AREAL PAIN IN YOUR BODY !! DO YOU KNOW THAT A PERSON CAN ACTUALLY DIE OF A " "BROKEN HEART "......
IT IS A VERY " REAL" CONDITION !!! PAIN TO YOUR ' SOUL' , IS AS REAL AS A' BROKEN ARM' !!
AND ACTUALLY " FEELING " AS PAINFUL TO YOUR BODY AS THAT ' BROKEN ARM' ' !!
SO BEFORE YOU WAX ALL " WISE " , AND SERINE "...
MAYBE YOU HAVEN'T FOUND THAT CERTAIN ...
SOMETHING ?!!
GET MY DRIFT !!
" IF " ...HAHAHAHAHA HEHEHEHEHE!! 😏
Exactly
So true my beautiful princess!!
True
My advice don’t get back with cheaters, I forgave my husband he cheated again. Stay strong you deserve better.
My situation right now only the second time i have no proof but my wifes behavior points to the way she acted last time but worse
Same thing happened with me . He cheated twice and blew up what we saved
Mine did too
Same 😔
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The best revenge is no revenge. When they cheats it shows who they are we don't need to tell them about all their faults. When we forgive it shows who we are. But the hardest part is to forget.
Sunam Dutta my wife cheated on me and I’m having a hard time with it . I’m not trying to get revenge I just want to fix what I can fix
Even though she says everything is my fault.
When you love someone it's hard to let go. You put all your energy into someone who gives nothing back in return. Than just through their infidelity in your face like it's your fault, the reason why they cheat. But you know what I am going to work on myself spiritually, intellectually and learn to love myself.
@@Tonychavez8226 u should make yourself an important priority.. i m replying after a long time... dude go to gym.. flirt(no sex)... be an excellent option for other women hotter than your wife.... dude... make your children fall in love with ur new self.. be a best friend to them.. and change to 16 yrs.. ur wife will pled to be back with you
u r a girl so being a sympethatic towards cheaters for ur kinds is common..
It's been two years for me and I haven't forgotten but TIME does heal it doesn't hurt as much as it did ...
She did me a favor. Turned my life around. Learned to take better care of myself. Blocked her at every level, phone, text, FB etc. No contact rule in full effect.
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Takes alot of strength Fred ..well done!
Selfrespect on fleek sir🙌
Marriage helper doesn’t promote NO contact though..
Works only if without children.
Not me I won’t stay with any man who cheats, they can go to hell
I agree. I tried to stay but Im out.
Woman cheat seem to cheat more than men now... the world is such a messy place now
Heavy hauling Idaho NOT true at all my lawyer said it’s almost equal now but men still slightly higher!
Carol Dudeck dude it completely depends on where you live. Also those static’s are based on those who admit to cheating. Heating in generally is just out of hand.
Affairs are a symptom! In a connected marriage an affair did not happen!
Absolutely true. Work on yourself, re-attract your spouse. It will make them feel miserable.
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this could be the best advice ever, especially coming from a man.
The best revenge is indifference.
I want to get to that space of indifference.
Don't go back to a cheater. If your significant other don't value you as the person you are, then he/she don't deserve your time. Have respect for yourself!
Always remember that it isn’t your job to make your spouse happy. It’s there job to find individual happiness as well as yours. One cannot ever be happy with anyone else without first being happy with themselves. As an individual we need to be our best in all aspects. Personally, I’ve focused on trying to master the art of a good attitude. Attitude revolves around everything; work, sleep, eating, driving, being with family/friends, school etc...It’s is all in our perspective and the way we choose to look at things. Always remind yourself that working on you is a process. If you find yourself struggling, simply tell yourself “this is a process”. Individual happiness is something we all deserve. Also really soak in what Kim and Dr. Beam have to say. And remember whoever you are, you are not alone!
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I agree with this girl. When I started loving myself than others, I can feel that I am complete. As I feel this completeness, I am not always affected by things happening with the lives of others. I can give up people when they let me down and I can do that because my sense of possession and self-worth do not depend on them.
The best revenge is totally ignoring her. Like she doesn’t exist. And move on
I tracked down my wife's boyfriend. He actually turned out to be pretty cool. Turns out that she lied to him too by telling him that they were separated.
Ooh sorry
That's what my husband tells all the little girls too. Apparently I have a 10 milf body? But nobody believes i ever had a kid? They think my son is my brother i get carded everywhere. And the girls all know who I am, they reject him now. Guess who's so sorry, and thinks I will let him in again. Ha
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I want to work on myself and be happy but I can't hold myself together. I'm too depressed and it shows
Prayers can do miracles God be the center in your life when you need help keep on praying.
Very true , prayer has kept me going and helped me to win many battles .
absolutely true. I once was on that stage and didn't know what to do. after crying all my pains I prayed and ask the guidance of the Lord. He did not fail me. He teaches me to forgive to save my family. at first even just for my child but as years pass by we were able to fix it. now i must say forgiveness is worthwhile to those who worth it. cheating is just one test to a family. it's up to you if you just let it destroy you or you let it as a challenge for you to surpass.
Please pray for me
I've been praying for a long time. Nothing happened. It's as same as usual. Maybe praying only works for those who always cheats.
@@sanjanasunuwar1550 read john 16:24
Don't get tired of praying..pray even harder!!
My husband cheated once 10 years ago . We lost lot of money he spend on her. They went on trips and had lot of fun for two years at his expense alone.
Past 10 years he did again we moved to other country. I’m super successful and we got money but he started hiding and lieing and started affair again with a woman . Went to 5 international trip telling me for business. Got speedster phone to call her only so I don’t never find out. Now I caught him and he is asking forgiveness for the kids. I am so upset and angry about this bullshit.
Sorry to hear this
Im taking counseling and this is exactly what they have been teaching me. Let the negativity go and make your own happiness!😁
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I learned to take care myself.
Every men and women who has cheating spouse the best revenge is take care of yourself
And wish them good luck
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I love all of your comments. You're right and I will do the same . Relationship is all about trust, not cheating.
I went though the shock of discovering my wife affair / I barely got through by the grace of God - and still not out..
depressed suicidal , couldn’t think- just loved her and forgave her and want to save marriage
We still married , things aren’t perfect but trying to be the best me as she says.
It’s a shame people do this to people it’s awful
I will be praying for you and your wife
I am in the same position as you. By the grace of God alone just like you I’ve found some comfort. I dont know you but you will be included in my prayers.
Herakles praying for you. I know this is painful. But don’t give up hope.
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Herakles and thefus maximus, The Lord hears your prayers.
i'll join you all in praying for peace, healing, and forgiveness. Father, turn all hearts toward you, to better love and serve you, amen. To those who have been cheated on, pour out your peace and guiding wisdom. To those who have cheated or are currently doing so, turn their hearts away from such desires, and back toward you. Bring healing to these broken marriages, for you've brought them together for your glory, and we have no business in separating what you have joined. Lord, if separation does occur, bring healing to reforge and strengthen the bond between spouses, and if cold hearts prevail, and divorce happens, pour out your divine grace on all involved, and bring healing. Lead your people to your heart, and bring us home to you. All this we ask in power, for your glory. Thank you, Lord.
In my experience the best you can do is be the best version of yourself. It’s sucks and it hurts. But you can hold your head high and be proud that you are a good person. Now let’s see what she says on the subject
SO, when you wife/husband is coming home later after being with their lover, you're supposed to accept it and just work on yourself? No fear of STD's? Just let them be aloof as though you don't exist and do PIES. Why waste your life with someone who doesn't care about you anymore? I get it about improving yourself, but how can you get past the betrayal going forward?
The thing is when you try to treat therm with kindness when they know you are aware of what they are doing, they turn to think you are a fool🤔
You are right they take you for a fool
Absolutely corrrrrrect!!
You’re right
Exactly
Exactly..my ex did to me same
Well. I don't care. I am a Muslim and we have high morals and values. Once my husband cheats on me, I will divorce him. In our religion there is death penalty for adultery. And to me that's good.
Tell that to my Muslim wife who finally move her a d lives with her lover without submitting the divorce papers we both signed.
I agree. Adulterers commit the worst crime. It destroys family and thus corrupts community and society.
Best way to make them jealous? Get a divorce/break up, and live your best life without them.
OMG... I needed that video today. You are completely right. I've been trying to hurt my ex for the past 2 years and I realized 3 weeks ago that I am adding up Karma for myself... Whatever I did, didn't work. He will get it back to him one day, but it won't be through my anger or my vindictiveness. Also, I realized that I was living his life and forgetting about me. The best way is just move on and work on yourself...just like you said
The best revenge is draining their finances
I feel the same about a woman that cheat
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omg yes. they will regret kt for sure. I'm about to file for child support and get about 1500 per month
Best revenge is be unemotional and move on. Take what’s yours and go.
Yuuuup, I took everything from my ex wife ahahahha. I get 4k a month from her got the house and cars. She got shit. She survives off ramen noodles every day. Roflolmao
@@justinsavedra7633 and you will survive herpes
I am doing my best to support my spouse who cheated. It hurts that she had an affair while I was trying to hard to connect with her. Everything I asked for was given instead to another, but I have to consider so much more than her actions. I am not keeping my distance, being supportive, but no longer not taking care of me. I'm starting to turn that around the last couple of weeks.
Hey just know it wasn’t you you need to created some mystery now and show her you love her bro you gotta be pimping make the relationship fun again everyday she’s a. Flirt flirtatious chick who needs love
@@GalloVerdesFarms We're divorced now. She couldn't make the decision to leave them and stay.
After seven years my ....fiancé cheated with a mutual “friend” of ours. I still haven’t gotten over it and I’m constantly suspicious of him. Of course much more has happened the past three years since, but I’m Not sure how much longer either of us can go on like this. Sometimes I think we stay together because of the certain conveniences it affords both of us. 🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️
Did your partner have a lengthy affair with this friend of yours or did it occur just once? People cheat for all sorts of reasons. Often it had nothing to do with the quality of their existing relationship or the other partner. However the person who has been cheated on often chooses to take it as a personal criticism, especially if they already have a low opinion of themselves. Ask yourself what it was that really hurt you about the affair and why.
Whether he can be trusted or not after several years is irrelevant because either way you are hurting and scared that he may cheat again, and suspect him every day which must put a massive burden on you both, yet this is better to you than being single and alone.
Do yourself a favour and speak with a therapist about this. Find out what your attachment style is (probably anxious preoccupied/avoidant).
Why stay with him at that point? He is unfaithful. Time to breakup.
Kimberly's shiny face and words, are always like a beacon, in our darkness.
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Its hard because I'm having bad panic attacks
You need someone to talk frankly to. You need someone with whom you can have a friendly discussion and open up.
This is good advice, it's been three years since my husband revealed his mistakes. I'm still angry and hurt and can't find any hope for happiness.
You are the first person to tell me that it's not my fault. You made my eyes leak.
Never give up. Hopefully you will get back your relationship permanently
All of this makes sense. Although, once a cheater always a cheater. Example, have y ever broke a drinking glass do y glue it back together or do you up grade and buy a new set of drinking glasses? As f my story my husband cheated on me with all types of men and women. And, I went w him to counseling and did alot of the wrong things because I was hurt. I eventually stopped begging, following him, I even bought him a new phone f the holiday and said I do not even want to have the number. Next, I joined a gym, went back to work, and started college where I left off. Yes, I even got a new hair style and color for me. I started making breakfast f me and our children early enough so the cheater did not see me. He, made dates w me I would have plans or leave the date early. I drove him crazy f four years till final I gave him a divorse along with the bill and obtained all assests. I was never mean or fought him instead I would always look my best dressing f sucess and acting professional when he would have his visitation. He, asked me if I would ever take him back I said maybe in the next millennium or when Crist comes back. As f all I have done since our divorse I furthered my education, improved myself in so many ways I never knew possible, I traveled to 2 countries, and I am staying free from sexual transmitted diseases because I do not share my life w a cheater. Plus, I do not have to worry who my husband is with because I do not need one because I depend on me. And, in this life time God has blessed me with many things marriage is not one of those things for this life time. Instead, travel, education, love from my children family and community is apart of this life that I am know living. I thanked him for opening my eyes of lifes possiblies and told him to have a wonderful life.
This is by far the best advice i have received from anyone since the incident occurred.
Thank you much and will join and like.
Hats off to you and look forward to more informational videos.
I did all the wrong things too but now I’m taking care of myself mentally and physically. I’ve lost 70 lbs and signed up for college.
Use my law of attraction, very good
@@HelenaHart_SPELLS yes thank you, it helped me restore my marriage
This is the best advices ever .
Intuitively, this is exactly what I done ;
And when I found out the type of man she had dating , I felt even more better because I did want to teach the third party a testosterone lesson , when actually wasn’t necessary , I found compassion and forgiveness and THAT free me totally ;
My wife ask me back
We are working together on what when
wrong ; it’s a beautiful path paintful too BUT
If you have strong attachment into your relationship it’s works
Bless all
How is the reconciliation now?
How’s it going now?
Proud of you man I did the same exact thing we were separated for three months she dated somebody for a few months we started communicating more and things getting a lot better
Still together !
Still together !
The best revenge is taking no revenge.
Trying to make a cheater jealous is so ridiculous. Just despouse of them who cares what they think.
Its hard if they dont let you leave like in my case, soon as i try to leave i get hurt and kept hostage until things "calm down" then still stuck suffering the thought of them still cheating
You're a prisoner of your own mind. They can't do anything to you. Threaten them with the police if it starts getting violent.
When my ex husband cheated for the 3rd time (yes I'm a fool . Lol)
I finally said to myself
"The next man who seems interested in me, I'm going to hook up with him, then tell my husband so he can feel as broken as I do"
That right there, that's when I said it's time for me to go.
I always say "if your wanting to cheat just leave" and so I did
BEST DECISION OF MY LIFE.
You go girl am still with my husband he cheating on me I need to live him do your husband looks for you
I don't believe you were a fool for staying. You had your reasons, and it's a testament to faithfulness in the face of the unfaithful. I wish you the best!
Thank you so much for this video. I think this will really me.
I can't tell you how much I needed this today, thank you!!
Very true
Same here
my wife cheated me twice , and Im really depress. and we have 3 daughters,
Work on you... THE best words ever said and this work wonders even if nobody cheated..
My wife has been unfaithful and has given me guilt money and even said she could get over it if I cheated on her... but still won't tell me what exactly happened. The gaslighting has me going crazy.
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Focus on yourself brother. We are men even though we are old and crippled, we still can get young girls. Rejection is redirection.
My wife cheated and now she wants a divorce. The thing that I think makes it hurt the most is that she didn't have a physical affair. It was an emotional affair that is becoming more now that we are apart and because of his situation I know that all she is going to be for him is a rebound.
My fear too!
Forgive a cheater but don't go back to them you practically risk your life doing so...
If someone cheats, they do not value what they had with you... Fact!
Walk away, do not blame yourself, it is their fault and they chose their actions, so it's time to choose your actions by walking away and living your life without that person. You are a good person... Never forget that.
I caught my boyfriend cheat. I send him some even, he replied that I’m metal and crazy lol he refused to accept the fact that I know everything.. we were together for 9 years so is sucks I feel sad because we plan to have baby this year. He’s been seeing other women; so I left.
I'm so sorry 😞
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So you managed to leave, and have no kids?....Run fast and hard, and never look back!!!
I wish i could leave as easily as you
Cheaters will ALWAYS Cheat Run if they tell you they've cheated in their past.
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This video called me out to a tee. I’m just in the beginning of a wife after 20 years has had an affair. It’s been only two months and all I have been thinking about is how I can make her feel how much pain I”m in.
This video made me break down.
Thanks.
The PIES work. Had I not taken them up I would be in a downward spiral. Now 9 months later stronger than ever feeling more ready to take on life again. The acting out, the affair, or whatever you want to call has more to do with the other person's insecurities and looking for validation. Validation I couldn't give because I lacked my own self-development and self-love. These videos helped through my struggles but I coped and still standing for the marriage. Good luck!
I did all the wrong things at first, I was so angry because my husband left me after 14 years and watching my babies cry for him killed me, and I felt this incredible rage. I would let him have it every single time we spoke, but I felt worse afterwards. Now I just talk to him only if I have to and when I feel angry I cut it short. He started noticing that and wanted to come back, except he's still with the other woman... So I said NO! I'm a little happier and looking forward to starting a new life, possibly moving to a new place since I had to move in with my parents. My kids are excited to have our own place again😊
I hope your situation is better now. All the best @Adri
You don't need him. Find someone else. He clearly doesn't have any respect for you or those he hurts.
Friend advising to cheat back. So then you don't worry about what they doing cause u doing the same. To me it's not worth it. My problem is why can't they leave you alone after they cheat.
I forgave him multiple times and I’m tired specially after he told me to learn not to give everything in the relationship. I’m tired and I just want out.
When my wife once wanted a separation, I started contacting much younger women and it really helped to save the marriage. When she initially found out about my confident conversations with the young ladies, her reaction was crazy and she got extremely mad at me. I told her, she should get used to it, and I will definitely keep contacting other women, after she officially rejected me.
We are now back together. She later admitted to me, that me talking confidently to much younger women made her jealous and finally made her wanting to end the separation.
I still don’t understand her whole reaction, and what happened is still puzzling me. May be she saw me as a kind of beta male, incapable to find another women and was then surprised how quick and easy I found multiple young women, that were quite interested. She admitted, that she was surprised by her own jealousy. I still don’t understand the whole situation.
That's exactly what it is. She took you for granted and looked as you as cuck. Then once you got redpilled and stopped caring and started talking to other woman. She say the alpha in you. Woman hate(love) when you stand up for yourself in this way.
It has nothing to do with beta/alpha male stuff, she just liked you more than she thought. She doesn't want anyone else to have you. If she didn't care, she wouldn't have ended the separation no matter how alpha or beta you are.
One way or another - looses the one who cares more.
Will you ever have any unfaithful wives speak on your channel? I'm curious on there perspective. Thanks
What exactly do you want to know?
@@katesavoy7035 what exactly are you lacking in your relationship where you have to find it elsewhere?
My wife has an affair with her phone. With her sons, and her late husband. And her job. No joke. They’re more important than me. I’m way down on her list of priorities.
I know this feeling
I’m not rolling my eyes at all lol I’ve learned these things after experience! When I started focusing more on myself and my happiness and not caring about what he does, where he goes, etc than he started paying more attention to me wondering why I’m not jealous anymore 😂 only thing that makes me mad is that he takes his side chick and her children out to do fun activities but doesn’t do anything fun with our kids or spend time with our kids..
Why do you stay married if he is continually cheating on you?
My husband cheated before marriage and during. HE is controlling and spiteful. I'm done.
That is true!, you have to work on ur self for you not for your cheater husband/wife🙏
Dont get married in the first place
Dont get attached
I disagree then the loser cheater wins
I agree. I will never ever have as much investment in a relationship ever again.
I been there. I know how u all feel. Love ur self and take care ur self. Go out do something that u never do that
enjoy ur happy life
My husband cheated on me and I’m trying to work everything but he keep saying that he has more connection with the other women and he didn’t felt that with me for two years. I don’t understand why he married me and after 1 month he will date different women just because I have emotional attitude cause of my pregnancy. I did everything already, I am trying to work for myself because I am stressed out and I feel sorry for myself and for the baby but he just keep saying it’s not gonna really work out anymore even if i can change.
I needed to hear this right now
I start following your videos and tried my best to do what you said. Well.. it worked!
Working on you should be default mode for everyone. Never stop if you are single or in a relationship. That part is good advice, but not mutually exclusive to revenge. Some payback can be very satisfying so long as it is not a singular fixation / obsession.
My question is, why wait until your spouse has had an affair to work on yourself. Do it ahead of time, and maybe they want stray.
I can't believe that I really and badly needed this today
Excellent presentation.
Thanks
The best advice ever, but perfecting is hard but not impossible, it is all in the mind.
I agree, work on yourself! I'm finally at that stage. I had to get past that hurt and anger. I did all of the wrong things to and the stages were passing and I couldn't let it take my Life out of me. Your not going to control anything except yourself and he had to get through whatever it was going on in him. Nothing would be true or honest if you don't let whatever is going to happen, happen. Respect and love have to take their place within yourself because it will come back.
I thought catching him twice would have an impact. I think it is still happening... but I can't even ask without him getting mad that I'm holding it over him
Leave him , because a person like that sucks
Marriage Helper 2.0 - Never get married
Hh
From now on I will live MY BEST LIFE. Not for someone else. I will help those that need it but I’m gonna start paying more attention to ME!!
I came home when the stbx was out went in our room and packed all her stuff in garbage bags and then dropped them in the kitchen. She came home and went back to change and when sh did I tossed the bags out the door, she came out of the room asking where her stuff was so I walked her over to the door and showed her and gave her a nudge out the door, then changed the locks after she got her bags and left.
Thanks for this excellent advice.
You are absolutely correct. You cannot control what your husband does.
True, its stupid to think otherwise. I don't want him back. Please, no. I just want to move on. He is living with someone else and I am OK.
The only way to get back...is to show no emotion...
Thank you, I wanted to here this. My husband cheated on me worse part our marriage is only 4 months. I feel so betrayed and asking myself so many questions. My biggest fear is that is that most people don't stop cheating once they started.
I don't think so
No because his still dating the girl even now, meaning he really like this girl.
Did you divorce now? Im glad you find out about it now. What if your married for so long years?
This is exactly what I needed
How about just walking away ...why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you 😕
She should have presented that as an important option. Staying with a cheater is not a good idea.
If you watch the whole series, leaving is ALWAYS your option. This is a series specifically for people who want to save their marriage.
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This Marriage Helper advice is actually very practical, helpful and easy to do especially some of the healing reasons given for working/improving on yourself physical fitness, other areas of life improvement etc.
I don't get JEALOUS I just sit back and let it ride.
Me and my wife have been separated and she’s dating someone else it’s that consider cheating? How do I get her back?
I am quite pleased how it ended up 42 years ago my ex cheated on me. I treated her so bad for 2 years that she ended up in his arms. The long story he ended up abusing her, welfare etc with many children. Why perhpaps mine end result was a rearity.
I think it's the most helpful video I ve seen all those weeks. Thank you, it's been really helpful
Thanks, Ermina! :)
Women and even virgins....never... marry a divorced man, and even if he has fornicated in his past or lived with a woman, question it hard. Why, how long for... I would write him off too and wait for God to supply you a godly man. A protector and a provider as well. Keep in mind that fornication and cohabitating can be recognized as legal marriage by state law.
It's pretty obvious what you need to do.....although it's probably not what you want to do if you are watching this.....
my husband cheats alot am moving out am done I don't feel anything for him
I never felt what u decribe. I feelt happy i felt free. I felt like finally i had peace. Like a weight of my shoulder. He was weighin me down. He was driving me crazy.
Thank you, I was already on this track just not done with the pain.
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Thank you. This is some of the best advice anyone could give. God bless you.
Will improving myself bring back my husband?
Use my law of attraction, very good
@@HelenaHart_SPELLS yes thank you, it helped me and restored my marriage
@@HelenaHart_SPELLS where can I see the video?
@@vhenthesaiyz you can use this look in my bio
It very well can if you do it the right way!!
Well yes i would but my spouse is not letting me work on myself. Just staying at home taking care od home and children.. While he js going to "business trips" dirst chance is to leave shit and work on myself, hopefully soon.
I don't care if I make him jealous. He don't care for me so why should I. He's the one that started it now it's time I end it. It's not fair he can I can't. It's to late for him
If your spouse is having an affair, leave them immediately
What if a wife discovered that her husband was cheating? Should she confront her husband before FOCUSING ON HER PIES...?
Or
Is it ok to just focus on her PIES without telling or confronting her husband that she already knew everything about the affair of her husband.
Which is best thing to do? And effective?
The husband still stays at home because he wife dont tell her husband that she knew about the relationship.
And the husband will surely leave the house when the wife confront him that she already knew everything about the affair.
Meaning the wife is afraid to confront her husband that she already knew because she does not want her husband to leave the house. Very stressful situation for the wife..
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