My eyes are full of tears..i can say also, every parents don't take lightly to ur son ..it also necessary to teach every child that how to behave with girls... unfortunately it is not happening in our society...
In childhood my mom didn't left me in any relative's house or in neighborhood... I was then so angry at my mum.. Now I am very very thankful to her.. She always kept my privacy..
Ashamed of our society. Cannot imagine the horrendous ordeal she underwent. She was just a child scarred for her life. My heart goes out to her. Her courage is out of this world. A million salutes to her.
when I reached puberty - very clearly my mother explained that other than your Dad and own brother do not ever trust or be alone in a room with any male ..if ever that happened and it was inevitable then always make sure there was an open door nearby that you were at..and if despite that anyone did try anything immediately tell us parents we will always be there for you
"Forgiveness does not mean validation or an okay to the act that occurred". This is such an important point right here! My heart goes out to you Divya. You are a brave, beautiful and inspiring soul ❤️ and I'm so sorry that you had to seek permission to get support/ therapy. I'm hopeful that your parents continue to believe your truth and you find closure from this trauma. Speaking as a survivor myself.
Archana, literally every single female child at some stage or other will most certainly suffer this. For no society on earth allows it's women to rise to their full potential God has pre-ordained for them as 'divine enemies' of God's Enemy/enemies - whether they are the fallen angels or the fallen men.
@@ninaballerina2807 there r no Angels,no devil, don't believe in fake stories told to u ,if u believe then u r indirectly saying that devil is more powerful than god
@@truthseeker6041 You foolish ignoramus, unbeknownst to your deluded self, the Truth is there are THREE powers. In their ASCENDING ORDER they are: a) Firstly the evil dominion of the Fallen Man, b) Secondly the Dark dominion of the Devil, and c) Finally, the Sovereign and Holy Dominion of God over all. People like you who willfully remain subjected to the former two to hail the fallen men and the Devil & his band of rebellious angels/evil spirits as "God" or 'Gods' have no choice but to remain blinded and reject God, as also His surpassing Holiness and His holy & eternal Kingdom. Well, suit yourself. For only you are accountable for the choices you make.
You don't need a joint family for this Richa. This happens even in nuclear families or in situations where a family places too much trust on an outsider who takes advantage of this exact thing
When it comes to your daughter make sure not to trust any man if he is your family or outsider. All small kids are velnurable including boys It happens a lot in joint family. Be aware. Family is with when the accuse is outsider but if fa mily member does wrong the matter is suppressed. Parents should pay attention if they find any change in the behaviour of their children.
Even this happened to me , I was single child.. n this was d advantages my uncle has taken...child hood is precious, protect n save children from going through all this trauma.
Mam is yr pedophile uncle behind the bars ,have u told yr relatives to sham him and complete boycott of him ..If not with deepest of my sympathy u let other lil angles at their perils coz this monster again find lil shamim for himself
It was very courageous of you to come out and tell your parents about the abuse and tell people so that they can protect their children from such sick individuals. You deserve all happiness in life, God bless
Every mother should be a guardian angel for their children first. Must educate and help them to be aware of good and bad touches irrespective of the gender of the child.
It would be a great inspiration if you shared about healing.....How you came out of trauma......How you kept yourself positive facing all the challenges.....It will be a guideline for the girls who are facing child abuse.....A lot of respect to you from the bottom of my heart......🙏🙏🙏
Eye opener . Extremely sorry to hear this & kudos for talking it loud. Not easy at all. As a mother, I will watch out for my kids & will respect their emotions. Thank you ma 🙏
I am just 16 and I suffered from this 3 times . My own uncle molested me and I never told this to anyone but after watching, really I got motivated to express my pain infront of you all.. But now I have decided this will not happen with me again... I will stand up for me .....
Don't afraid to say the truth even your voice is trembling.I can relate with this . Every parent shall watch this hurt touching sad life story and also aware about the changing behaviour of their children. Lots of love to this brave girl ❣️❣️🌸
Sister there is no need to cry.... The only thing is just listen to ur daughter and dnt say no to her when ever she talks.. Be very Frank to her and always tell her about bad touch... Nothing will be happening with our daughters if we stand by them....
You are so courageous. All mothers should teach their daughters to speak up without any guilt or shame and expose that devil. So sorry for all the pain that you had to go through.
This pierced my heart into hundred pieces😫...what to expect from stranger men when even brother be it own or cousin can't see their sister as their sister 💔
I can feel your pain cz I also had the same experience. It was horrible. That's why I never leave my 2 yr baby girl anywhere. I always keep her by my side. And also never let anyone harassing other girls too. I did stand for them
My God.. I can feel your pain my girl. My heartfelt regards to you my child for having the courage to come out n speak abt it. May God bless you abundantly to blossom in life.
My cousin tried to touch me inappropriately,what i did was I shouted and called my mother..my mom slapped him and warned him ,if he ever tries to come close... Relatives and near dear ones are behind most of the the sexual and emotional abuses..which starts from childhood ...
You came out of that phase and when your sharing this with the world it will be very helpful to others to not go through that phase. Really your doing great. Hatsaff to you to take a stand on this issue.
This happens not just in joint families but also in own families by own brothers. Sometime even people pretending to be religious do this to very young innocent kids. I think parents need to teach kids as young as 4 years old and remind them till 8 years old or even older, that no one should touch them anywhere from above their knees up to their shoulders. And they have the right to tell that adult to stop it and to Quickly run to an adult to tell what just happened. Kids need to be told about their rights to their body.That way when someone crosses the line, kids will know it. I shared this with my Primary 2 kids- that no one should touch them other than parents between knees and shoulder. And if someobe does that, it is wrong and they should shout or run away and find an adult to share. It is parents and teacher's duty to bring awareness to kids about their right to their body. Children are too young to know when a paedophile crosses the line.
The demon who did this to an child and deprived of her childhood innocense should be charged and jailed .Only heaven knows whether this devil did to others in her family .Glad you stood up girl .Every indian book /novels refers to this crime by relatives .Psychos should be brought on in the open and punished .No such thing as forgiving this devil for his heinous crime .
It's not easy to deal with this . . Even after years we tend to remember those horrific scenes it affects our mental health . . Even I was the victim of child sexual abuse at the age of 7 . . Even today I can't open up easily to people or communicate properly I have always had a fear and anxiety 😰 going on inside me . .
I can really understand this pain but mam its hardest thing to go to the authorities and lodge fir and go to courts for ages and to get justice that's another suffering still it is the only way to stop this because if they fear that they would have to go prison and even once if the see prison it will shatter them from inside which needs to be done
I could notice the trauma in your body language even after so many years. I feel you. I was 13 then and now I am 40. Chill runs down my spine even today when I think of it. Kudos to you for talking about it on josh talks. More power to you.
Many of us have gone through similar experiences. Not as painful but painful enough. You still seem to be hurting dear girl. I can feel your pain and anguish. In many cases such perverted men themselves have been violated by some older woman known to the family. This cycle of abuse carries on until a strong action is taken against the perpetrators and they are shamed and reprimanded publicly. Not all victims turn in to monsters who victimize others
Joint families are hell !! Think twice before you marry your daughter in one! Parents, neighbours everyone be alert & keep our daughters safe.... all my love to you girl 🙁💝
That is why it is important that in school they teach kids about what is good touch and what is bad touch followed by sexual abuse. And also it is important that kids should have atlest one adult (parent/teacher/relative/friend's parent) with whom they are comfortable to talk about bad touch immediately when it happens. Thank you Divya Shah for talking about this very important thing and my best wishes to you for a healthy and happy life!
It is more important if a mother is listening to what child is saying and let the kid know what is good touch and what is bad touch before even going to school.I say this to my daughter that no one can touch your private parts thought she is just 2 but she understands and she knows now.nowadays anything and everything can happen😢
@@thecuisineexplorer I agree with you, mothers are the best teachers for this sensitive subject. But sometimes even in this modern age some mothers do not know how to start this sensitive topic about good touch/bad touch with their kids or sometimes they are hesitant to do so. In that situation professionally trained staff at school may teach this important topic to the kids.
Sorry for all u went through...love u for ur bravery and strength...ur helping millions to understand this torture and abuse...God bless you child..love and peace
Lots of respect to you. Hope your journey to recovery becomes fruitful. We all have gone through an abuse atleast once in a lifetime and I am super protective about my kids.
Very brave of you to expose your past ....Salute to you !! You definitely had a painful past. Wishing you a bright future and the very best in life . Good luck, Divya .
You are a true fighter......You faced a lot of pain......With a great courage you shared your experience.......I pray SHIV SHAKTI to Bless you ....Protect you forever .......🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I was abused by different people while growing up. Never told anyone until in my forties. I'm in my fifties now and still dream of being abused. I made sure I took extra care of my children , both male and female.
People go to take care of other responsibilities leaving their kid unguarded .I won't say the parents were not at fault. only that they didn't want to be bad in front of the family.I as a parent had to fight with my joint family to keep my child safe when other work were given more preference than my daughter. I was told let her b alone with this one ,that one , neighbour etc .But I always thought all other work can be handled by others but my daughter is my priority.i took her where I would go if not possible I would stay back .though it was not easy but am proud that my daughter didn't had to face this .Do we keep our valuables with others then y our kids. Some people say how will the child grow up it should be a habit ..... But I know man is adaptable and will learn .but till they are small it's our duty to protect them .
Child why,oh why could you not tell your Mom?why did you suffer?Wasn't your relationship with your mom a strong, loving and full of faith?I feel so angry, frustrated and ashamed as a mother.
Joint family is considered as safest place for children rearing but have heard many cases where children life and career were ruined by uncle aunts and even by grandparents
There are no laws for child abuse in India. None. Plus Culturally people worry about what society will think of them, retaliation, prestige, family relations before they put their children or siblings first. Men always want to hid all such stuff when they are usually the perps, although women have also do similar things. You can see by the commentors, that there are barely any comments from males.
@@plum_loco there is no law made, but a child below the age of eighteen is abused, it comes under pocso case.there are loopholes so the culprit may get bail
Never leave your child, even a tiny tot with any relative or an unknown person. I have seen sick minded people of this sort and I as a mother was very careful with my child, keeping my eyes wide open. All parents do not blindly believe people. Guarding your child is your prime responsibility.
@@drneetukushwaha9783 no dear , it's also higher class people but there happen rare cases, because they are more aware about their children then poor people. Because poor & middle class people are struggling to their daily needs material like food, clothing, health issues. So inspite of their wishing, they forget their children lots of things.
Wonderful Divya for your strength courage and the pure intention to help so many out there who never dare to speak the truth only to protect family status....your story is an inspiration to many who wants to come out of this stuck situation...God bless you brave girl 👏👏👏👏👏👏🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🤗🤗🤗🤗❤❤❤❤
As a teacher i recommend every mother don't let your children to mingle with your cousins .... parents feel they are with the relatives but actually they are in the goons
We shouldn't reach kids fear. That's what these criminals flourish on. They walk with their heads high , while the victim walks with their heads down in shame. It's got to be other way around. Kids should not feel threatened about every person they meet. They should be taught to be fearless and speak out to all those concerned and boldly tell the person to desist.
Very sad. This is true that in more than 90 % of cases, rapists are very well known to the family and have easy access and take advantage of it. We as parents should be very careful about our daughter's safety and should not believe anyone means anyone....
This talk should be in every language in the country, not just in English. All the parents should know. Elders in the family, neighbours and school teachers too should be aware. It took me twenty years to tell, and yet people didn't believe me. He was a very respected friend of the family.
My cousin sister is 2 years youngers than me...i am a boy and always felt that she is not given as much as freedom as her older older brother and cousin brother(me) from childhood.. Her mother seems to always be by her side but still she put a lot of restrictions on her... Today I am 18 and she's 16 and i now understand the harsh reality of a teenage girl in India and I now know the price of that extra care if not taken .. Today me and my older cousin brother will always be by her side no matter what problem may come
This is very true and is being done in society. Children are not safe in their own home . There are all around predators in family as well as society. Salute to you sis for telling this fearlessly.
I worry about this. I chose not to have kids. But all my friends and relatives who have kids....for some strange reason refuse to see such videos or discuss these issues. They want to pretend these things don't happen...won't happen to their kids because all the people they know are right people . They refuse to inform their kids of good touch vs bad touch! Modern education has not helped our generation either. Deep down....so many amongst us want to stay regressive in actual practice. I feel every mother atleast must teach both her son or daughter ...what is sexuality, choice...how to recognise someone is trying to molest them...and how to fight it and IF something happens...to scream and shame them and not keep suffering torture. Silence helps only the victimizer....never the victim. Never.
When a person is not punished for his sins it encourages him to repeat the same to other vulnerable. It is possible that pervert person will repeat same to other young child
After hearing these words, which I have read several times in different platforms and ironically in different times or year. Words didn’t change, though the faces changed many a times. I guess somewhere each one of us in the society is responsible for it. It’s time to reflect on our values and principles by which we govern our society. Our dresses, style, communication, living status, even the food we take has gone through a massive change, modified. But somewhere, we forgot to modify our culture and society, which has impacted our thinking patterns, mental health and results in heinous crime and behavior towards our own self and fellow beings. I wonder why ignore the fact that we are on earth for a purpose that to be fulfilled in a limited period of time, yet we as a human choose to behave as immortals.
I think it happen most of the child in village. but they think it is normal. this video will help them a lot remove their erroneous thinking thank you🙏🙏❤️
It's the fault of parents.what is d use of their education. Why they give birth if they can't take responsibility shame on such parents. Mother is one who know the matter after saying face of the child.shame on such parents.
Really True...I couldn't do anything for myself...but I will never let this happen to my children.And never leave your children with anyone, especially these relatives.
It is not just one story. I believe almost every 2nd girl kid suffers this somewhere. It can be neighbors,it can be relatives ,it can be teachers. It can be anyone. Parents need to protect their children going beyond the boundaries. The best thing is do not trust anyone. No one means no one . It is bitter statement. But if we want to give a healthy life to our children, specially girl child then we have to do this. Also need to make kids comfortable and approachable to yourself. We should give an idea to them about good and bad touch asap and what they need to do. We should tell them In advance that anything happens to you ,just tell us.. Do not hesitate. This we need to do in advance,so they should know okay there is my dad and mom who will listen me and to whom we can express everything. Always remember a child is not strong mentally physically and emotionally. They get scared,they hesitate,they shy ,they fear of things. So it is not journey of one day or month that you will make them comfortable with you and they will start following. It has to be years of training and confidence. So we should start early. Specially talk to each of your kids everyday for at least 15-20 minutes no matter what. It is not about having fun and family talk in group. Dedicate 15-20 minutes to each kid. Talk to them ,walk with them. You can ask about w How was the day,what are you planning,what is going on school. How was the day in sports. Any issues or concerns. your little smile and dedicated time will make them rock solid day by day.
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My eyes are full of tears..i can say also, every parents don't take lightly to ur son ..it also necessary to teach every child that how to behave with girls... unfortunately it is not happening in our society...
In childhood my mom didn't left me in any relative's house or in neighborhood... I was then so angry at my mum.. Now I am very very thankful to her.. She always kept my privacy..
Some kids get abused even at the parents house.
@@ummsakeena3132 that's also possible.. But chances r less
Same as my mom..
Same
Same
Ashamed of our society. Cannot imagine the horrendous ordeal she underwent. She was just a child scarred for her life. My heart goes out to her. Her courage is out of this world. A million salutes to her.
Soo true,even with me it has happened...
Parents think their children are with the close relatives ...
But close relatives are the monsters...
when I reached puberty - very clearly my mother explained that other than your Dad and own brother do not ever trust or be alone in a room with any male ..if ever that happened and it was inevitable then always make sure there was an open door nearby that you were at..and if despite that anyone did try anything immediately tell us parents we will always be there for you
"Forgiveness does not mean validation or an okay to the act that occurred". This is such an important point right here! My heart goes out to you Divya. You are a brave, beautiful and inspiring soul ❤️ and I'm so sorry that you had to seek permission to get support/ therapy. I'm hopeful that your parents continue to believe your truth and you find closure from this trauma. Speaking as a survivor myself.
Archana, literally every single female child at some stage or other will most certainly suffer this. For no society on earth allows it's women to rise to their full potential God has pre-ordained for them as 'divine enemies' of God's Enemy/enemies - whether they are the fallen angels or the fallen men.
@@ninaballerina2807 true
Forgiveness is an indication of validation.
@@ninaballerina2807 there r no Angels,no devil, don't believe in fake stories told to u ,if u believe then u r indirectly saying that devil is more powerful than god
@@truthseeker6041 You foolish ignoramus, unbeknownst to your deluded self, the Truth is there are THREE powers. In their ASCENDING ORDER they are:
a) Firstly the evil dominion of the Fallen Man,
b) Secondly the Dark dominion of the Devil, and
c) Finally, the Sovereign and Holy Dominion of God over all.
People like you who willfully remain subjected to the former two to hail the fallen men and the Devil & his band of rebellious angels/evil spirits as "God" or 'Gods' have no choice but to remain blinded and reject God, as also His surpassing Holiness and His holy & eternal Kingdom.
Well, suit yourself. For only you are accountable for the choices you make.
Divya well done for exposing this nightmare you suffered for 7 years. You are helping other victims of this awful trauma to speak up. 💚❤️💕♥️💜🌹💙
This is trauma, give to the law to get justice
Is her cousin behind bar ?
This is a true dark side of otherwise praised "Indian Joint Family" 😭
You don't need a joint family for this Richa. This happens even in nuclear families or in situations where a family places too much trust on an outsider who takes advantage of this exact thing
@@archie73in yeah you're right Archana 🌸
Gujju family lived in uae. Uncle who did this has died now.. m 50 now i still carry the pain n memory of what he did.
When it comes to your daughter make sure not to trust any man if he is your family or outsider. All small kids are velnurable including boys It happens a lot in joint family. Be aware. Family is with when the accuse is outsider but if fa mily member does wrong the matter is suppressed. Parents should pay attention if they find any change in the behaviour of their children.
@@archie73in yes… Never put your Gard down when it comes to kids safety and well-being.
Even this happened to me , I was single child.. n this was d advantages my uncle has taken...child hood is precious, protect n save children from going through all this trauma.
U r true... Single child means they take advantage...
Mam is yr pedophile uncle behind the bars ,have u told yr relatives to sham him and complete boycott of him ..If not with deepest of my sympathy u let other lil angles at their perils coz this monster again find lil shamim for himself
It was very courageous of you to come out and tell your parents about the abuse and tell people so that they can protect their children from such sick individuals. You deserve all happiness in life, God bless
Every mother should be a guardian angel for their children first. Must educate and help them to be aware of good and bad touches irrespective of the gender of the child.
And father?
Father is a warrior for their children.
I know a girl whose father told her to sleep with him holding his genital.She was in upper primary.
Monster in the human form.
Mothers should guard their children
It would be a great inspiration if you shared about healing.....How you came out of trauma......How you kept yourself positive facing all the challenges.....It will be a guideline for the girls who are facing child abuse.....A lot of respect to you from the bottom of my heart......🙏🙏🙏
Eye opener . Extremely sorry to hear this & kudos for talking it loud. Not easy at all. As a mother, I will watch out for my kids & will respect their emotions. Thank you ma 🙏
I am just 16 and I suffered from this 3 times . My own uncle molested me and I never told this to anyone but after watching, really I got motivated to express my pain infront of you all.. But now I have decided this will not happen with me again... I will stand up for me .....
Deepti go and share with your family too
@@Devin1681 yupp I have told everything to my mum and dad....
@@Deepti_prateek proud of you girl ❤️
@@Devin1681 thanks my sister...❣️❣️
@@Deepti_prateek blessings ❤️
Don't afraid to say the truth even your voice is trembling.I can relate with this . Every parent shall watch this hurt touching sad life story and also aware about the changing behaviour of their children.
Lots of love to this brave girl ❣️❣️🌸
Being a mother of a daughter I'm literally crying 😢 😭....
Me too😢
Be strong ❤️
Protect ur daughter from shit relatives....
Take extremely care
Sister there is no need to cry.... The only thing is just listen to ur daughter and dnt say no to her when ever she talks.. Be very Frank to her and always tell her about bad touch... Nothing will be happening with our daughters if we stand by them....
You are so courageous. All mothers should teach their daughters to speak up without any guilt or shame and expose that devil. So sorry for all the pain that you had to go through.
This pierced my heart into hundred pieces😫...what to expect from stranger men when even brother be it own or cousin can't see their sister as their sister 💔
I can feel your pain cz I also had the same experience. It was horrible. That's why I never leave my 2 yr baby girl anywhere. I always keep her by my side. And also never let anyone harassing other girls too. I did stand for them
My God.. I can feel your pain my girl. My heartfelt regards to you my child for having the courage to come out n speak abt it. May God bless you abundantly to blossom in life.
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Parents should always keep telling their children to tell them and share all their problems and issues, without any fear
My cousin tried to touch me inappropriately,what i did was I shouted and called my mother..my mom slapped him and warned him ,if he ever tries to come close...
Relatives and near dear ones are behind most of the the sexual and emotional abuses..which starts from childhood ...
My mother told me not to tell any one😢
My parents didn't support me. I was just 4..
My mother told me not tell anybody.... But i told about it to most people....
You came out of that phase and when your sharing this with the world it will be very helpful to others to not go through that phase. Really your doing great. Hatsaff to you to take a stand on this issue.
Awesome talk. You’re so brave my child. I’m sending you healing sweetie from South Africa 🇿🇦
My parents never allowed us to mixed with even with relatives,now I understood the safety he cared and protected us from such evil acts..
Empowering our children to speak out is every adult's responsibility. This young woman has helped us to understand how unsafe our homes can be
Kudos to you Divya and shame on the parents who talked about family ki izzat.
What izzat ? Izzat wali family me aisa ladka kaise pal raha tha ? Hypocrisy
This happens not just in joint families but also in own families by own brothers. Sometime even people pretending to be religious do this to very young innocent kids. I think parents need to teach kids as young as 4 years old and remind them till 8 years old or even older, that no one should touch them anywhere from above their knees up to their shoulders. And they have the right to tell that adult to stop it and to Quickly run to an adult to tell what just happened. Kids need to be told about their rights to their body.That way when someone crosses the line, kids will know it. I shared this with my Primary 2 kids- that no one should touch them other than parents between knees and shoulder. And if someobe does that, it is wrong and they should shout or run away and find an adult to share. It is parents and teacher's duty to bring awareness to kids about their right to their body. Children are too young to know when a paedophile crosses the line.
The demon who did this to an child and deprived of her childhood innocense should be charged and jailed .Only heaven knows whether this devil did to others in her family .Glad you stood up girl .Every indian book /novels refers to this crime by relatives .Psychos should be brought on in the open and punished .No such thing as forgiving this devil for his heinous crime .
@Kunna Kunna I agree with you a million times. No forgiving here
Very true, thank you for this advice
It's not easy to deal with this . . Even after years we tend to remember those horrific scenes it affects our mental health . . Even I was the victim of child sexual abuse at the age of 7 . . Even today I can't open up easily to people or communicate properly I have always had a fear and anxiety 😰 going on inside me . .
God bless you. Heal yourself.
I can really understand this pain but mam its hardest thing to go to the authorities and lodge fir and go to courts for ages and to get justice that's another suffering still it is the only way to stop this because if they fear that they would have to go prison and even once if the see prison it will shatter them from inside which needs to be done
I could notice the trauma in your body language even after so many years. I feel you. I was 13 then and now I am 40. Chill runs down my spine even today when I think of it. Kudos to you for talking about it on josh talks. More power to you.
Do cbt therapy from wel known psychologist
Many of us have gone through similar experiences. Not as painful but painful enough. You still seem to be hurting dear girl. I can feel your pain and anguish. In many cases such perverted men themselves have been violated by some older woman known to the family. This cycle of abuse carries on until a strong action is taken against the perpetrators and they are shamed and reprimanded publicly. Not all victims turn in to monsters who victimize others
Joint families are hell !! Think twice before you marry your daughter in one! Parents, neighbours everyone be alert & keep our daughters safe.... all my love to you girl 🙁💝
You are an example of a courageous lady. Respect for you.
That is why it is important that in school they teach kids about what is good touch and what is bad touch followed by sexual abuse. And also it is important that kids should have atlest one adult (parent/teacher/relative/friend's parent) with whom they are comfortable to talk about bad touch immediately when it happens. Thank you Divya Shah for talking about this very important thing and my best wishes to you for a healthy and happy life!
It is more important if a mother is listening to what child is saying and let the kid know what is good touch and what is bad touch before even going to school.I say this to my daughter that no one can touch your private parts thought she is just 2 but she understands and she knows now.nowadays anything and everything can happen😢
@@_.-c yes so true
@@thecuisineexplorer I agree with you, mothers are the best teachers for this sensitive subject. But sometimes even in this modern age some mothers do not know how to start this sensitive topic about good touch/bad touch with their kids or sometimes they are hesitant to do so. In that situation professionally trained staff at school may teach this important topic to the kids.
@@_.-c Yes this is very important reporting to the authorities who can take action.
Parents were more responsible for her situation.
Sorry for all u went through...love u for ur bravery and strength...ur helping millions to understand this torture and abuse...God bless you child..love and peace
I know how it feels.....
Anxiety, fear .....were gifted for lifetime
So sorry to hear about your childhood dear. 😢 You are brave and courageous lady. May God bless you and you overcome this trauma. 🙏 ❤️🙏
Lots of respect to you. Hope your journey to recovery becomes fruitful. We all have gone through an abuse atleast once in a lifetime and I am super protective about my kids.
I can relate . It took me years to come at peace and start healing
You also faced the same?
Very brave of you to expose your past ....Salute to you !! You definitely had a painful past. Wishing you a bright future and the very best in life . Good luck, Divya .
This is true, when you suffer from within, external medicines do not help.
The pain is still so visible in her eyes n her voice...my heart goes out to you...
Thank you Divya and Josh talks for creating an awareness among people. You truly have my respect from the bottom of my heart... 🙏🙏🙏
You are a true fighter......You faced a lot of pain......With a great courage you shared your experience.......I pray SHIV SHAKTI to Bless you ....Protect you forever .......🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I was abused by different people while growing up. Never told anyone until in my forties. I'm in my fifties now and still dream of being abused. I made sure I took extra care of my children , both male and female.
People go to take care of other responsibilities leaving their kid unguarded .I won't say the parents were not at fault. only that they didn't want to be bad in front of the family.I as a parent had to fight with my joint family to keep my child safe when other work were given more preference than my daughter.
I was told let her b alone with this one ,that one , neighbour etc .But I always thought all other work can be handled by others but my daughter is my priority.i took her where I would go if not possible I would stay back .though it was not easy but am proud that my daughter didn't had to face this .Do we keep our valuables with others then y our kids.
Some people say how will the child grow up it should be a habit ..... But I know man is adaptable and will learn .but till they are small it's our duty to protect them .
Child why,oh why could you not tell your Mom?why did you suffer?Wasn't your relationship with your mom a strong, loving and full of faith?I feel so angry, frustrated and ashamed as a mother.
Joint family is considered as safest place for children rearing but have heard many cases where children life and career were ruined by uncle aunts and even by grandparents
My heart goes out to u for standing for yourself n your Mum giving u all the support u needed
Was the pervert punished? If not, the story is incomplete
There are no laws for child abuse in India. None. Plus Culturally people worry about what society will think of them, retaliation, prestige, family relations before they put their children or siblings first. Men always want to hid all such stuff when they are usually the perps, although women have also do similar things. You can see by the commentors, that there are barely any comments from males.
Your parents are to be blamed to can't believe they were so unalert how can you not protect your child
@@plum_loco there is no law made, but a child below the age of eighteen is abused, it comes under pocso case.there are loopholes so the culprit may get bail
@@shyamaretnakumar5868 What is pocso?
@@plum_loco how ignorant you must be. There are dedicated laws for child abuse in India. Stop spreading misinformation
Hey girl I salute you...
Never leave your child, even a tiny tot with any relative or an unknown person. I have seen sick minded people of this sort and I as a mother was very careful with my child, keeping my eyes wide open. All parents do not blindly believe people. Guarding your child is your prime responsibility.
Same here
We need a documentry abt the so called "happy joint families"...
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I pray for your healing sister god will definetly give u a best time ahead
🙂💀.. Whenever Children
Suffer Society Suffer
Even after years , pain in your voice churns my stomach.
It's the big issues of most poor & middle class family 😥
❤️
Only middle and poor class...You bet
@@drneetukushwaha9783 no dear , it's also higher class people but there happen rare cases, because they are more aware about their children then poor people. Because poor & middle class people are struggling to their daily needs material like food, clothing, health issues. So inspite of their wishing, they forget their children lots of things.
Yes... This happens every joint family... Nobody listens... Story always unheard... And I still feel that trauma... Trying my best to change myself...
The worst things is ...U can't throw away that person as he is part of family
Right yrr, similarly with me.....
More power to you!! You are a warrior!!
Wonderful Divya for your strength courage and the pure intention to help so many out there who never dare to speak the truth only to protect family status....your story is an inspiration to many who wants to come out of this stuck situation...God bless you brave girl 👏👏👏👏👏👏🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🤗🤗🤗🤗❤❤❤❤
You are such a strong lady, hats off to you🙏🏻
i feel like her smile is gone...pls smile u brave girl!
She suffered a lot and a lot but still happy to see her courageous
You are so brave to say all this May Allah Help to heal you fully inshAllah ameen
As a teacher i recommend every mother don't let your children to mingle with your cousins .... parents feel they are with the relatives but actually they are in the goons
Brave woman , very brave....may she get peace in her life. Speaking out will help!
Appreciate your mom for standing up for you. And kudos for standing up for yourself first. You are an inspiration, Divya!
I pray for healing on continuous basis and wish you a wonderful life hereafter with peace and dignity.
We shouldn't reach kids fear. That's what these criminals flourish on. They walk with their heads high , while the victim walks with their heads down in shame. It's got to be other way around.
Kids should not feel threatened about every person they meet. They should be taught to be fearless and speak out to all those concerned and boldly tell the person to desist.
So sorry for what happened 😢
But u r an inspiration ✨️
Yeah ❤️
Same words by me..totally agree👍
Sad to tell not only it happens with girls it also happens with boys 😕 😪
Your courage and the journey towards light is just inspiring
Very sad. This is true that in more than 90 % of cases, rapists are very well known to the family and have easy access and take advantage of it.
We as parents should be very careful about our daughter's safety and should not believe anyone means anyone....
O my God he is an animal. You are a very brave lady
This talk should be in every language in the country, not just in English. All the parents should know.
Elders in the family, neighbours and school teachers too should be aware.
It took me twenty years to tell, and yet people didn't believe me. He was a very respected friend of the family.
Bless you my child 💗
Ur story is so sad but if u had explained it in hindi then many children's or parents who do not know English can also get knowledge about these all
it's painful and traumatic, hope you are okay.
My cousin sister is 2 years youngers than me...i am a boy and always felt that she is not given as much as freedom as her older older brother and cousin brother(me) from childhood.. Her mother seems to always be by her side but still she put a lot of restrictions on her... Today I am 18 and she's 16 and i now understand the harsh reality of a teenage girl in India and I now know the price of that extra care if not taken .. Today me and my older cousin brother will always be by her side no matter what problem may come
Hey it happens everywhere not only in India, fact is it is heavy in every country except India
This is very true and is being done in society. Children are not safe in their own home . There are all around predators in family as well as society. Salute to you sis for telling this fearlessly.
I worry about this. I chose not to have kids. But all my friends and relatives who have kids....for some strange reason refuse to see such videos or discuss these issues. They want to pretend these things don't happen...won't happen to their kids because all the people they know are right people . They refuse to inform their kids of good touch vs bad touch! Modern education has not helped our generation either. Deep down....so many amongst us want to stay regressive in actual practice. I feel every mother atleast must teach both her son or daughter ...what is sexuality, choice...how to recognise someone is trying to molest them...and how to fight it and IF something happens...to scream and shame them and not keep suffering torture. Silence helps only the victimizer....never the victim. Never.
This comment is all we needed! :)
Modern education has not helped....that's true. Macauley education is an absolute failure
so nothing happened to that boy for what he did. how could you leave him like this.
Can still see that pain on your face.
When a person is not punished for his sins it encourages him to repeat the same to other vulnerable. It is possible that pervert person will repeat same to other young child
How parents can ignore their child for izzat of their joint family? Parents must be frank n friendly with their child. Was your cousin punished?
After hearing these words, which I have read several times in different platforms and ironically in different times or year. Words didn’t change, though the faces changed many a times.
I guess somewhere each one of us in the society is responsible for it. It’s time to reflect on our values and principles by which we govern our society. Our dresses, style, communication, living status, even the food we take has gone through a massive change, modified. But somewhere, we forgot to modify our culture and society, which has impacted our thinking patterns, mental health and results in heinous crime and behavior towards our own self and fellow beings.
I wonder why ignore the fact that we are on earth for a purpose that to be fulfilled in a limited period of time, yet we as a human choose to behave as immortals.
She is still stammering...shows how traumatized she is🥺🥺
Every parents first responsibility is to their own children.
Oh god. Painful to hear itself. Can't really imagine what you would have gone through, your innocent childhood has spoiled.
Can't trust anyone with children so sad to hear your story. Your so brave God bless u
Me too want to help like this child..salute you madam ❤
You are a brave woman....my best wishes with you..
Well done Divya and great applause to your courage 👍👍
I think it happen most of the child in village. but they think it is normal. this video will help them a lot remove their erroneous thinking thank you🙏🙏❤️
*Our intuitions surely warns us something danger is coming at the situations like these 🥺💔*
It's the fault of parents.what is d use of their education. Why they give birth if they can't take responsibility shame on such parents. Mother is one who know the matter after saying face of the child.shame on such parents.
Oh, very moving story.
Hats off to you.
This is tragic brutal and inhumane.
Really True...I couldn't do anything for myself...but I will never let this happen to my children.And never leave your children with anyone, especially these relatives.
It is not just one story.
I believe almost every 2nd girl kid suffers this somewhere.
It can be neighbors,it can be relatives ,it can be teachers.
It can be anyone.
Parents need to protect their children going beyond the boundaries.
The best thing is do not trust anyone.
No one means no one .
It is bitter statement.
But if we want to give a healthy life to our children, specially girl child then we have to do this.
Also need to make kids comfortable and approachable to yourself.
We should give an idea to them about good and bad touch asap and what they need to do.
We should tell them In advance that anything happens to you ,just tell us..
Do not hesitate.
This we need to do in advance,so they should know okay there is my dad and mom who will listen me and to whom we can express everything.
Always remember a child is not strong mentally physically and emotionally.
They get scared,they hesitate,they shy ,they fear of things.
So it is not journey of one day or month that you will make them comfortable with you and they will start following.
It has to be years of training and confidence.
So we should start early.
Specially talk to each of your kids everyday for at least 15-20 minutes no matter what.
It is not about having fun and family talk in group.
Dedicate 15-20 minutes to each kid.
Talk to them ,walk with them.
You can ask about w
How was the day,what are you planning,what is going on school.
How was the day in sports.
Any issues or concerns.
your little smile and dedicated time will make them rock solid day by day.