It's been a lifelong issue for me, all the way back to my earliest sexual encounters as a teen. I attribute it to being desensitized by circumcision. It's usually faster solo, which can take anywhere from 20min, up to as long as 2 hours, or sometimes not finishing. With a woman, it typically takes at least an hour, rarely less than that, with it sometimes taking all night, (I've gone 5-6 hours several times) or just not happening at all, due to physical exhaustion and/or soreness. Condoms make it much worse and I rarely ever finish while wearing one. It has caused problems in my relationships and casual encounters, because women tend to get upset, self-conscious, or insulted that I'm not finishing quickly enough for them, or at all. I get distracting comments like: "What's wrong?", "OK, you can finish", "OK, finish", "No, really. Finish", "Does it not feel good?", "Can you even feel anything?", "Were you with someone else today?", "Are you just not into me?" etc. which really ruins the mood and makes it even more difficult to finish. I often dread getting physical altogether, especially with someone new, who doesn't understand.
Similar lifelong problem. Also I can have an orgasm even though I don't ejaculate (but try explaining that to women). I had prostate cancer surgery and then a penile implant but neither affected the problem pro or con except that I don't masterbate anymore.
I feel you bro 100%. Just tell them beforehand what to expect. Consider it as a blessing, you can go to town as long as you want ;). Have you tried 3some?
Exercise, stay away from porn and masturbation, it's the devils food, eat food with no labels, take zinc, vitamin D3 and vitamin C. Take it slow in bed let it build naturally too much aggression makes one worry, enjoy and enjoy, relax, maybe to give a time limit, 15 to 20 minutes. Smaller movements are better, it's about doing it in a comfortable time, don't over stimulate in the beginning. Doing it for too long is going to desensitized you man parts, have a sensible time limit.
I've dealt with this my whole life and I became really frustrated over the last few months as my gf and I like to have sex often and this issue does get in the way of the potential pleasure to be had. One thing I found through some research that has been really helping is...now hear me out...squeezing your butt. Assuming everything else is ok with you, changing your technique might help. We use our hips to thrust, but there might not be active glute engagement which is limiting the overall sensation. Squeezing your butt as you thrust puts pressure on your perineum which is connected to your prostate which is connected to the tip of your 🍆. Squeezing your glutes as you thrust increases sensation in this way. There's additional build up of internal pressure which increases blood flow, which increases sensation, that increases in pleasure, and voila, potentially an easier finish. If you lay down on your back, and squeeze only your butt, you'll see your hips naturally rise. Treat it like a workout, 3 sets of 15-20 at a medium speed and controlled pace and see how you feel. Focus on your glutes and that general area and you should start sensing a physiological response. Add this feeling/motion into your thrust and it should help with the overall experience Sounds weird, but it's helped me I hope this helps you, thanks for reading
I don’t listen to your posts for any particular interest for me personally. I do listen as you have a great way of explaining things from a medical point of view that is interesting and to a high level of specificity.
I’ve always had issues until I get really comfortable with the woman. I just need a sense of comfort and intimacy or it’s just difficult or impossible. Once I feel really compfortable, then no problem.
It’s causing alot of relationship issue… i have been single for couple of years cause every women i sleep with i tell them before and they are always saying the same stuff… yes no problem and after the second or third time we have sex they keep asking : am i doing something wrong? Do you think i am attractive? Here we go again…
Yup… you would think the woman would be happy that you last a long time. They’re hard to please. If you finish too soon they’re not happy, if you go a long time and don’t finish not happy either. 😮 when I was on meds, I was just happy to have sex. The lady seem to definitely enjoy the longevity. She just can’t understand that I was pretty happy just having sex lol 🎉
Brothers. Do NOT overlook that your Rx for Zoloft is the cause. When I was on it, I could go for a month and it wouldn't get off. (slight exaggeration). It was a miserable experience and I never suspected that it could do that. Very happy when I stopped taking it.
Im 30 and have had delayed ejaculation since i first had sex 10 years ago. I found with my current partner, the first 3 months we didnt really address the fact it took me over an hour to climax. But after talking about it, through communication and my partner understanding me more sexually, i found i can now climax in about 30-45 minutes which makes life a lot easier now! She has been trying to get me to go speak to a doctor about it but at the same time, i dont want to become a 2 pump chump
LOL this is a problem that none of my girlfriends want to solve. I’m not even sure if I want to fix it because it’s like possessing some sort of cursed super power.
I was having this problem. Which was going along with a reduced libido. Even though my Thyroid level would be in the "normal" range I found that after an increase in the level of hormone replacement the problem has be improved significantly. I have also taken your advise in another one of your videos which was helpful. However, No amount of behavioral or psychological modifications will work when the biology is off.
The #1 cause of delayed ejaculation is antidepressants which boost serotonin. Paxil, Zoloft, Celexa, Lexapro, Prozac, Cymbalta, Effexor are some examples. If this is an issue, be sure to speak with your prescribing doctor about the problem. There are other types of antidepressants available which don't cause delayed ejaculation (e.g. Wellbutrin), so you and your doctor can work together to find what works best for you.
@@balancedactguy Occasionally yes :) You know how Bam Margera became an alcoholic? Ville Valo (a fellow finn) taught him that you can start your morning by popping a beer :P
I've found that if I get desensitized during sex, I just start giving oral or some other foreplay for a few minutes. It allows me to reset and try again. Tends to work pretty well. Sometimes you just get numbed, so you need to remove the stimulation for a few minutes to give yourself a fresh start.
could you PLEASE do a video or two on prostate cancer? i had prostatectomy, and have been miserable since. i would not do it again. i would just live with it.
The biggest cause of the inability to ejaculate is medication. Anti depressants are a huge culprit here along with urology drugs such as Flomax and drugs for the prostate and hair loss such as Finasteride and dutasteride.
Interestingly, you didn't specifically mention a large class of drugs that physicians frequently prescribe that can have a significant effect on ejaculation. A common side effect of SSRI's and SNRI's is delayed ejaculation (or anorgasmia.) While the SSRI may treat psychological/depression issues, long term use can backfire and affect (hopefully temporally) a persons sexual function.
I’m not on any medication, i eat healthy and train hard 5 days a week. And my gf had a love/hate relationship with how long i last.. sometimes I can’t even finish lol.
hope this helps someone out there: too much masturbation with visual assistance will cause it (western porn, as its usually uncensored) japanese porn is censored, if you try it, it feels a lot different. masturbating with just the imagination does not cause sex issues in bed for myself. wanking with the aid of uncensored porn will affect my arousal ability negatively.
When I married at 27 I needed at least an hour most of the time. Sometimes longer. My ex would say she's getting sore & I need to finish or stop. Not sure what caused this but I only had sex twice before I met my ex. Decades later, same problem but my current wife lost interest in sex about 15 years ago.
well , i kinda have this problem starting 3 years ago until now , but its not because of aging ( im still 38 ) and i don't have any stress , depression or anxiety ,, but its began to happened when i started drinking ,, ( which is the only 1 thing that was not mentioned in the video for some reason ) .. since then , it became unsensitive , numb & almost impossible to finish during drunk time & hangover time ,, it takes maybe few days later until its back to normal again , and its still not 100% as sensitive as before 3 years ago anymore .. i didn't know that alcohol have this impact affection
Always love watching you. I have learned so much from you and have followed your advice many times and had positive results. Wish you were local to me so a in person appointment would be possible. Just listening to you always calms many of my concerns. Also I find you very attractive and sexy the way you describe different topics. Keep up the good work.
Doc, you failed to discuss the importance of assessing chemical reasons. Years ago, a doctor prescribed Zoloft for me. That ended any ejaculations for the next 2 years. The fun of making love for a long session (30 minutes or more) quickly fades when you can't get off. Stopped Zoloft, problem solved. Years later, the same problems with Flomax. Still struggling due to my age(73), but persevering anyway. Keep the rlag upright !!! And NEVER give up. Thanks for your great presentations, doc. Good Job😂
I understand how frustrating it is. I’m taking a lot of different meds and I don’t know which one is causing this. I can get hard but just can’t ejaculate. Any thought?
A smart beautiful DR that talks about things most doctors don’t we appreciate your knowledge DR R. Malik keep the videos coming no pun intended. Thanks again a few of your videos have helped me out tremendously.
I started taking finasteride for a slightly elevated PSA and now have this issue and retrograde ejaculation. Quit the finasteride about a month ago, not back to normal yet.
@@rompinronny Tamsulosin is less selective than Silodosin (Rapaflo). I had zero functions (not just EjD) on latter, but was okay on Tamsulosin. Finasteride is an anti-DHT (not an alpha blocker) and causes some permanent and very serious problems in many men.
That is why it is better to have group sex. I have two bisexual girlfriends who don't depend on me alone and therefore I am under no pressure. No pun intended
I've always had this issue since I can remember. Some guys think it's a gift to be able to last 1 hour. Saw Urologist for it. They told me the brain is the biggest sex organ. I really would like to know what meds, even off label, that are helpful for delayed.
My libido started going down in my late 40's now in my early 50's delayed ejaculation was a major issue between myself and my ex partner. Her pelvic floor dropped making it more difficult for me, and performance angst came to the fore from my side. I allways had the ability to "last" sometimes going for hours alternating between foreplay and penetration, i sometimes think that may also contribute to my current dillema.
Aging stressing a lot plus lots of masturbating with back issues made me realize it could be a lot of variables. I have went threw periods of time where I stop masturbating only to still not be able to get it up. But when I do I can't ejaculate for at least an hour omfg what's wrong with me
I have secondary hypogonadism. I have problem reaching orgasm but no erectile dysfunction. Apparently nasal spray of oxytocin can cure this but it’s not available in canada. Are you aware of any other meds? My free testo is stble now with déatestryl but my Dhea still low
I have secondary hypogonadism due to a pituitary adenoma. Cabergoline treating the pituitary issues helped. Are you on any antidepressants? SSRI, SNRI, or pretty much any medication or supplement boosting serotonin can make it difficult to reach climax.
@@Dulcimerist thanks for answering i am on suboxone, i was on methadone before but i have been of any opiate for 5 years i have a cyst on pitutary gland it’s called aracnocele ( sorry i don’t have the english wording for it) not taking any antidepressant i will talk to dr about cabergoline. Thanks
Simple question. Does Kegel exercises improves this problem? I am more interested in an alternative and natural solution, that doesn't include any kind of medication, pills, tablets or whatever.
The lack of feeling in the nerves as you age can never return so nearly all remedies are pointless for the older man who just lacks sensation. No one ever says sorry, but there is no cure available.
I'm not sure you will see this as the video is a couple months old. I have delayed ejaculation after I go for a mountain bike ride. It is the day of the bike ride and sometimes the day after. It happened a couple times, now it seems to be after every ride. I'm not sure if it is now mental, because it has me nervous it will last forever! Your thoughts would be appreciated.
The footage in this video is so misleading. I have this problem and ladies love it. They always finish and often take advantage of the situation to extend the session into some sort of all nighter.
Thank you DR. Malik. Some might think that delayed ejaculation is a real benefit. But, as someone who has had this in the past, for me, it was not always. Sure, I could last as long as I wanted for my wife but, after a while she was no longer enjoying it and the desensitization caused me to lose my erection, not finish and causing her distress. Usually after a short rest period, I would regain my erection and finish which was fun but distressing at the same time. The biggest problem was my previous self-pleasure practice and, though I did not know it at the time, my ED med is designed to delay ejaculation. I have adjusted my solo practice and now that we understand about the med it makes our time together more fulfilling. If it looks like it make take too long, she knows exactly what to do for me to release and, I think she enjoys having that power.
I don't mean to pry, but if you don't mind answering, what does she do to release faster. My bf is going through this, but I'm not sure how to get him to release faster.
The struggle is real. I wasn’t “starting” due to a really bad relationship that left me afraid of intimacy with anyone so I didn’t date for *ahem* SIX years. I’ve been dating an amazing woman for about a month now, but I can’t finish most of the time. She’s having a great time, and I’m literally faking orgasms lol she hasn’t noticed (yet), but id really like to finish. Im very attracted to her, but my dingus doesn’t want to cooperate
I had a prostatectomy so this topic is interesting and brings up many issues including dry ejaculation. You might want to have a video on that topic alone!
Paxil gave me problems before. Alone I could/would take at least 1hr. Now Lamictal and Effexor, and it's about same. They take away problems, and create new,
This just started with me. I never had this problem in the past. I noticed over the past few years that my sensitivity is down. Recently, my testosterone levels really dropped. I've been on TRT since 2008 and it has worked great. As I have aged over the years my testosterone levels keep dropping. Erections are normally strong as long as I remain on TRT. This lack of ejaculation is weird, but I hope it can be corrected.
Had this all my life. I have high-normal T-levels and take no meds. It's less of a problem when I'm in a relationship for a while and more comfortable. Lack of sleep makes it much worse. Adding nipple stimulation will cause me to finish almost every time within a few minutes - so once I figured that out, problem basically solved.
It is frustrating when this happens, but I’m guessing in my case it’s aging. Happens most often though if I’ve already done it that day (myself or with partner). Went through a period where I would ejaculate with no orgasm at all and that was incredibly frustrating. Timing is still sometimes off (ejaculation will occur before orgasm), but by and large this kind of thing can be corrected.
It only happened during sex. But when it comes to hand soloing, I can finish no problem. As the saying goes: If you want the job done right (or at all for that matter) you do it yourself. I guess that's one of the reasons why I don't want to get into another relationship (I get nothing out of it).
I found out that I had very big problems especially with young sexy women. Just the thought of getting them pregnant prevented me from finishing. Now that i'm in a steady relationship again, zero issues.
Is it some issue with delayed ejaculation, some mental/emotional issue, or maybe in some relationships, and with age, when ejaculatory orgasm isn't the desired result, when with a partner? Our society, and especially PORN, and other typically accepted ideals (like a man must have orgasm to have 'sex' with a woman?) just assumes a man must have an ejaculatory orgasm to be considered “sex” or 'satisfying'. What if the basal premise, is wrong? Not all people need orgasm, or ejaculation, to have satisfying sexually intimate and satisfying experiences with a partner. How many times have women sexually satisfied a man, but never had a reciprocal satisfaction, from him, after his? What about the seemingly rare man, that is personally satisfied, just pleasing his partner to her or his joy, orgasm, or multiple orgasms, but not needing anything physical/sexual, in order to feel that sense of joy and satisfaction?
Admittedly, I searched for this. I last long and finish strong but it must be tiring for my partner since we both have work. I think I kept edging unconsciously and it must be because of my first relationship long ago where we actually practiced having sex and I tried my best to last as long as I can.
No problem solo but I have had times during intercourse where I might get close but then it passes by and I have to actually concentrate to make it return. I’ve tried to use this control to my advantage being able to last as long as a woman needs before I finish. Sometimes it can be the opposite and I’m like a teenager and lose it quickly. I’m fairly certain it’s all in my mind.
I don't see the problem to what you so called "disease" that soumd like a blessing from God!!! Just watched this as this was "suggested" as im looking way to help my husband. SO HOW DO I GET SOMEONE INFECTED WITH THIS & HELP ADDRESSED HIS INSECURITIES???
Im very very aware of my psychological world and my chemistry world, and I really believe now, after blood work that my shbg is in the way it's a little too high and my free to start is actually binding to it, and it's not causing me. E, d, but it is causing me. Delay, and maybe because of the libido's not fully there to fully allow me to finish as much as I feel like I'm gonna fish every freaking second. The moments that I am having with a woman
With my ex of 20 min was considered a quicky, mine is due to severe nerve damage over most of my body. I remember having a what I at the time called a mental orgasm were I felt a release but not evacuation. Thanks for your informative videos.
Hey Spain-k, you and me both! I was in coma for over a month and unconscious for another week or so (due to a car accident), and I was told that because of nerve damage I could have problems ejaculating and/or having orgasms. LOL! 20 minutes is a "quicky".
It seems like with me I don't have as much sensitivity around the head of the penis is why I have delayed ejaculation. Any thoughts would be appreciated
I did shoot my white load one time but now I can't I think surgery will be helpful you think surgery for delayed ejaculation will be the best solution? If so then I refuse to get that my best option will be medicine Ford delayed ejaculation for myself.
what are some of the non fda drugs that can help with this issue? I think i am having this issue it is super frustrating strarted last year...not sure if it is libido or sensitivity im not that old
this is actually one of these problem i have had for my life, probably contributes to why I'm happier being single. Don't think it's to do with testosterone though, I started lifting weights 2 years ago at 40 and now i'm lifting 37 kgs 4 to 5 hours continuously each week, and the muscle I've got now is from my testosterone. Actually it's probably to do with porn, like you explained in your earlier videos, because in my late teens i was crazy from drugs and watched porn a lot, and have had this problem since I then, though personally i'm not worried
Testosterone only aids in energy and recovery, it doesn't build muscle it's just an aid and crutch.. building muscle if from you lifting.. I am doing anabolics and test and this seems to be a reoccurring issue
Hi Dr. Malik, i am 72 years of age, and i have an issue. With ejaculatiion. I DO have erections, but i take to long to ejaculate.. Can you please help me with this issue ? Even if it is a home remedy. Thank you so much, and god bless. ❤❤❤😊
Can I still fix this? I'm addicted to porn and have a hard time feeling good with foreplay like hands, mouth, etc. and I'm used to releasing it while laying in bed for years. I can release it on my own with no problems but when I try to do it with someone, it just doesn't feel good enough. I wanna ask everyone how they were able to overcome it or fix it and if it is even fixable naturally. Please keep the trolling to a minimum and any advice would help. Thank you.
Lifelong problem her for me. I am that 1% lifelong. I finally went to a urologist and after only 5 minutes said there is nothing they or I can do, frustrating
My doctor told me some years ago that I had retrograde and if I came off of the adderal the muscle in front of my bladder would probably work as it's supposed to.. about three years shortly after covid I lost all my work benefits and could not afford to keep them up on my own so I could not afford the prescriptions from my dr... I was also getting testosterone from him as well.. I still basically had the same problem every now and again there's a surprise. But it's been part of the downfall of most every relationship I've had since my divorce 12 years ago. It always gets mentioned somewhere along the line. I've also learned when it comes to self soloing it makes a huge difference to use something that's similar to the orifice you desire. As close as you can afford especially if you pull yourself off the market or you're just between phase for a month or two you really really need to stay in the game otherwise when you do get to be with someone you're going to be too used to your hand...
I wish I had a urologist that had your ability to speak to these issues in a way that doesn't make it seem so taboo. Keep up the great work!
It's been a lifelong issue for me, all the way back to my earliest sexual encounters as a teen. I attribute it to being desensitized by circumcision.
It's usually faster solo, which can take anywhere from 20min, up to as long as 2 hours, or sometimes not finishing.
With a woman, it typically takes at least an hour, rarely less than that, with it sometimes taking all night, (I've gone 5-6 hours several times) or just not happening at all, due to physical exhaustion and/or soreness. Condoms make it much worse and I rarely ever finish while wearing one.
It has caused problems in my relationships and casual encounters, because women tend to get upset, self-conscious, or insulted that I'm not finishing quickly enough for them, or at all.
I get distracting comments like: "What's wrong?", "OK, you can finish", "OK, finish", "No, really. Finish", "Does it not feel good?", "Can you even feel anything?", "Were you with someone else today?", "Are you just not into me?" etc. which really ruins the mood and makes it even more difficult to finish.
I often dread getting physical altogether, especially with someone new, who doesn't understand.
Similar lifelong problem. Also I can have an orgasm even though I don't ejaculate (but try explaining that to women). I had prostate cancer surgery and then a penile implant but neither affected the problem pro or con except that I don't masterbate anymore.
I feel you bro 100%. Just tell them beforehand what to expect. Consider it as a blessing, you can go to town as long as you want ;). Have you tried 3some?
@@Oiusea No. I like just straight monogamous heterosexual sex with women. I'm boring.
Disagree with circumcision, as millions of men have no issue. In fact some men cum too soon.
Similar story here.
It's frustrating to say the least.
Lifelong issue here too. Sometimes it can be hours and still no finish. I used to love it but now its getting annoying.
Me too bro
@johnmaganda3257 it is nice to know that I'm not alone with this....good luck brother 🙏
there is nothing wrong with this but what you are planning for a baby?
@devilsaccount9360 actually I wouldn't mind having one but the real issue is when the girl that you're with thinks she's the issue...
Same problem here. My gal likes it cause I can go for an hr but damn I'm tired.... Great abs though
its good seeing so many guys are going through the same thing (well not good). just feels like im the only one sometimes.
I hate it so much. Wife is really not okay with it
Your not the only one, trust me, and that's ok, it was still fun😊
I'm ok with, it as long as we had fun people...
Thank you finally someone talking bout this . Everyone else is tackling the premature ejaculation.
Thank you for your educational videos!!!
Exercise, stay away from porn and masturbation, it's the devils food, eat food with no labels, take zinc, vitamin D3 and vitamin C. Take it slow in bed let it build naturally too much aggression makes one worry, enjoy and enjoy, relax, maybe to give a time limit, 15 to 20 minutes. Smaller movements are better, it's about doing it in a comfortable time, don't over stimulate in the beginning. Doing it for too long is going to desensitized you man parts, have a sensible time limit.
I've dealt with this my whole life and I became really frustrated over the last few months as my gf and I like to have sex often and this issue does get in the way of the potential pleasure to be had.
One thing I found through some research that has been really helping is...now hear me out...squeezing your butt. Assuming everything else is ok with you, changing your technique might help.
We use our hips to thrust, but there might not be active glute engagement which is limiting the overall sensation.
Squeezing your butt as you thrust puts pressure on your perineum which is connected to your prostate which is connected to the tip of your 🍆. Squeezing your glutes as you thrust increases sensation in this way. There's additional build up of internal pressure which increases blood flow, which increases sensation, that increases in pleasure, and voila, potentially an easier finish.
If you lay down on your back, and squeeze only your butt, you'll see your hips naturally rise. Treat it like a workout, 3 sets of 15-20 at a medium speed and controlled pace and see how you feel. Focus on your glutes and that general area and you should start sensing a physiological response.
Add this feeling/motion into your thrust and it should help with the overall experience
Sounds weird, but it's helped me
I hope this helps you, thanks for reading
What about side effects from certain medication?
I don’t listen to your posts for any particular interest for me personally. I do listen as you have a great way of explaining things from a medical point of view that is interesting and to a high level of specificity.
I’ve always had issues until I get really comfortable with the woman. I just need a sense of comfort and intimacy or it’s just difficult or impossible. Once I feel really compfortable, then no problem.
Same!
Same with me
Absolutely. It's difficult for me to do it with escorts. There's just no intimacy there and even if there is some, it's rushed.
exactly
It’s amazing how many women take it personal when a man can’t finish.
1# factor for me is medications.
They don't take it personal, they just tell their friends that you're probably gay.
It’s causing alot of relationship issue… i have been single for couple of years cause every women i sleep with i tell them before and they are always saying the same stuff… yes no problem and after the second or third time we have sex they keep asking : am i doing something wrong? Do you think i am attractive? Here we go again…
I'd build a harem if i can't finish, she can get out anytime
Yup… you would think the woman would be happy that you last a long time. They’re hard to please. If you finish too soon they’re not happy, if you go a long time and don’t finish not happy either. 😮 when I was on meds, I was just happy to have sex. The lady seem to definitely enjoy the longevity. She just can’t understand that I was pretty happy just having sex lol 🎉
That's because most woman are used to the average male who is a two pump chump.
Brothers. Do NOT overlook that your Rx for Zoloft is the cause. When I was on it, I could go for a month and it wouldn't get off. (slight exaggeration). It was a miserable experience and I never suspected that it could do that. Very happy when I stopped taking it.
Paxil, in the same class as Zoloft, can also cause this.
I loved it when Zoloft stopped me from finishing. I was a stud for two weeks
Fluoxetine (Prozac/Lovan) is the same. It's even used off label as a treatment for premature ejaculation. Super common in SSRIs.
Im definitely on Zoloft, and I'm having the hardest time finishing.
Medical Cannabis or Ayahuasca helps this. Get off the Zoloft
Im 30 and have had delayed ejaculation since i first had sex 10 years ago. I found with my current partner, the first 3 months we didnt really address the fact it took me over an hour to climax. But after talking about it, through communication and my partner understanding me more sexually, i found i can now climax in about 30-45 minutes which makes life a lot easier now! She has been trying to get me to go speak to a doctor about it but at the same time, i dont want to become a 2 pump chump
LOL this is a problem that none of my girlfriends want to solve. I’m not even sure if I want to fix it because it’s like possessing some sort of cursed super power.
I was having this problem. Which was going along with a reduced libido. Even though my Thyroid level would be in the "normal" range I found that after an increase in the level of hormone replacement the problem has be improved significantly. I have also taken your advise in another one of your videos which was helpful. However, No amount of behavioral or psychological modifications will work when the biology is off.
Can you describe a little more? I am on testosterone replacement my self. I ask the doctor for more but dont give it a try for me...
The #1 cause of delayed ejaculation is antidepressants which boost serotonin. Paxil, Zoloft, Celexa, Lexapro, Prozac, Cymbalta, Effexor are some examples. If this is an issue, be sure to speak with your prescribing doctor about the problem. There are other types of antidepressants available which don't cause delayed ejaculation (e.g. Wellbutrin), so you and your doctor can work together to find what works best for you.
For me 6-18 beers does the trick. Sometimes I run out of breath before coming lol.
@@dingdong2103 You must be blowing wads of Beer!🤣🤣
@@balancedactguy Occasionally yes :) You know how Bam Margera became an alcoholic? Ville Valo (a fellow finn) taught him that you can start your morning by popping a beer :P
Yes. I take prestiq!!!! Very frustrating!!!!
I was about to mention this..
Yup. I've lived it.. 😂
I've found that if I get desensitized during sex, I just start giving oral or some other foreplay for a few minutes. It allows me to reset and try again. Tends to work pretty well. Sometimes you just get numbed, so you need to remove the stimulation for a few minutes to give yourself a fresh start.
Crazy how that works, but it does.
100
could you PLEASE do a video or two on prostate cancer? i had prostatectomy, and have been miserable since. i would not do it again. i would just live with it.
Me too
The biggest cause of the inability to ejaculate is medication. Anti depressants are a huge culprit here along with urology drugs such as Flomax and drugs for the prostate and hair loss such as Finasteride and dutasteride.
Interestingly, you didn't specifically mention a large class of drugs that physicians frequently prescribe that can have a significant effect on ejaculation. A common side effect of SSRI's and SNRI's is delayed ejaculation (or anorgasmia.) While the SSRI may treat psychological/depression issues, long term use can backfire and affect (hopefully temporally) a persons sexual function.
Can anti depreesants have this side effekt, Even after been of for 10 years?
I just finished.
Hahahahahaha 😀 😀 😀
Me too
Go wash your hand!
😂😂😂
Just have
Dang, I've never heard of this. May the guys suffering from this find a resolution.
I’m not on any medication, i eat healthy and train hard 5 days a week. And my gf had a love/hate relationship with how long i last.. sometimes I can’t even finish lol.
Valentine's Day Coming Up Rena
What are the off label treatment options?
I think too much masturbation is a problem too
hope this helps someone out there:
too much masturbation with visual assistance will cause it (western porn, as its usually uncensored)
japanese porn is censored, if you try it, it feels a lot different.
masturbating with just the imagination does not cause sex issues in bed for myself.
wanking with the aid of uncensored porn will affect my arousal ability negatively.
I think this is the most important factor among younger men. In combination with porn or a specific style of masturbation.
@@bartelgranthow can I fix this I mastibat a lot ?
How so?🤨
@@ralph3183 kwusi Igbo ncha mpa
When I married at 27 I needed at least an hour most of the time. Sometimes longer. My ex would say she's getting sore & I need to finish or stop. Not sure what caused this but I only had sex twice before I met my ex. Decades later, same problem but my current wife lost interest in sex about 15 years ago.
Hope you're finding some release somewhere.
Smoke cannabis. It will help.
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well , i kinda have this problem starting 3 years ago until now , but its not because of aging ( im still 38 ) and i don't have any stress , depression or anxiety ,, but its began to happened when i started drinking ,, ( which is the only 1 thing that was not mentioned in the video for some reason ) .. since then , it became unsensitive , numb & almost impossible to finish during drunk time & hangover time ,, it takes maybe few days later until its back to normal again , and its still not 100% as sensitive as before 3 years ago anymore .. i didn't know that alcohol have this impact affection
Always love watching you. I have learned so much from you and have followed your advice many times and had positive results. Wish you were local to me so a in person appointment would be possible. Just listening to you always calms many of my concerns. Also I find you very attractive and sexy the way you describe different topics. Keep up the good work.
Great topic but solutions are clear as mud.
Doc, you failed to discuss the importance of assessing chemical reasons. Years ago, a doctor prescribed Zoloft for me. That ended any ejaculations for the next 2 years. The fun of making love for a long session (30 minutes or more) quickly fades when you can't get off. Stopped Zoloft, problem solved. Years later, the same problems with Flomax. Still struggling due to my age(73), but persevering anyway. Keep the rlag upright !!! And NEVER give up. Thanks for your great presentations, doc. Good Job😂
I understand how frustrating it is. I’m taking a lot of different meds and I don’t know which one is causing this. I can get hard but just can’t ejaculate. Any thought?
Pls, make a video about pair bonding, and promiscuous lifestyle.
A smart beautiful DR that talks about things most doctors don’t we appreciate your knowledge DR R. Malik keep the videos coming no pun intended. Thanks again a few of your videos have helped me out tremendously.
I started taking finasteride for a slightly elevated PSA and now have this issue and retrograde ejaculation. Quit the finasteride about a month ago, not back to normal yet.
Look up post finasteride syndrome. It's a huge problem. Peace.
If that is similar to tamsulosin, ditto.
@@rompinronny Tamsulosin is less selective than Silodosin (Rapaflo). I had zero functions (not just EjD) on latter, but was okay on Tamsulosin. Finasteride is an anti-DHT (not an alpha blocker) and causes some permanent and very serious problems in many men.
That is why it is better to have group sex. I have two bisexual girlfriends who don't depend on me alone and therefore I am under no pressure. No pun intended
I've always had this issue since I can remember. Some guys think it's a gift to be able to last 1 hour. Saw Urologist for it. They told me the brain is the biggest sex organ. I really would like to know what meds, even off label, that are helpful for delayed.
My libido started going down in my late 40's now in my early 50's delayed ejaculation was a major issue between myself and my ex partner. Her pelvic floor dropped making it more difficult for me, and performance angst came to the fore from my side. I allways had the ability to "last" sometimes going for hours alternating between foreplay and penetration, i sometimes think that may also contribute to my current dillema.
sex is not all in life after '50!
Yes I'm glad to hear this I take a long time every time omg 😳
Aging stressing a lot plus lots of masturbating with back issues made me realize it could be a lot of variables. I have went threw periods of time where I stop masturbating only to still not be able to get it up. But when I do I can't ejaculate for at least an hour omfg what's wrong with me
I have secondary hypogonadism. I have problem reaching orgasm but no erectile dysfunction. Apparently nasal spray of oxytocin can cure this but it’s not available in canada. Are you aware of any other meds? My free testo is stble now with déatestryl but my Dhea still low
I have secondary hypogonadism due to a pituitary adenoma. Cabergoline treating the pituitary issues helped.
Are you on any antidepressants? SSRI, SNRI, or pretty much any medication or supplement boosting serotonin can make it difficult to reach climax.
@@Dulcimerist thanks for answering i am on suboxone, i was on methadone before but i have been of any opiate for 5 years i have a cyst on pitutary gland it’s called aracnocele ( sorry i don’t have the english wording for it) not taking any antidepressant i will talk to dr about cabergoline. Thanks
Simple question. Does Kegel exercises improves this problem? I am more interested in an alternative and natural solution, that doesn't include any kind of medication, pills, tablets or whatever.
The lack of feeling in the nerves as you age can never return so nearly all remedies are pointless for the older man who just lacks sensation. No one ever says sorry, but there is no cure available.
That slaps hard… (no pun intended)
Delayed Ejaculating can also be from wearing a condom. I can not finish with a condom on.
Especially a discount-store brand or one that's too tight. Check out reviews online for better brands and proper sizing.
I need to wear a condom, otherwise I start to bleed.
Thank youuuuuuuu, awesome video!
I'm not sure you will see this as the video is a couple months old. I have delayed ejaculation after I go for a mountain bike ride. It is the day of the bike ride and sometimes the day after. It happened a couple times, now it seems to be after every ride. I'm not sure if it is now mental, because it has me nervous it will last forever! Your thoughts would be appreciated.
Great video you learn new things everyday!!!!💪🏿✌🏿🐼👊🏾🍴🙏🏿🤔
The footage in this video is so misleading. I have this problem and ladies love it. They always finish and often take advantage of the situation to extend the session into some sort of all nighter.
Thank you DR. Malik.
Some might think that delayed ejaculation is a real benefit. But, as someone who has had this in the past, for me, it was not always. Sure, I could last as long as I wanted for my wife but, after a while she was no longer enjoying it and the desensitization caused me to lose my erection, not finish and causing her distress.
Usually after a short rest period, I would regain my erection and finish which was fun but distressing at the same time.
The biggest problem was my previous self-pleasure practice and, though I did not know it at the time, my ED med is designed to delay ejaculation. I have adjusted my solo practice and now that we understand about the med it makes our time together more fulfilling. If it looks like it make take too long, she knows exactly what to do for me to release and, I think she enjoys having that power.
I don't mean to pry, but if you don't mind answering, what does she do to release faster.
My bf is going through this, but I'm not sure how to get him to release faster.
What can be done when it’s a side effect of antidepressants?
Difficult problem to address, very good information here. Thank you! 😊
I have this problem now. I used to have the opposite problem. Life is just too crazy.
how it changed?
Same so odd
Careful what you wish for 😅
Same. Wondering now if my vasectomy was the cause for the change.
“Can’t finish” I can’t start 😅
The struggle is real. I wasn’t “starting” due to a really bad relationship that left me afraid of intimacy with anyone so I didn’t date for *ahem* SIX years. I’ve been dating an amazing woman for about a month now, but I can’t finish most of the time. She’s having a great time, and I’m literally faking orgasms lol she hasn’t noticed (yet), but id really like to finish. Im very attracted to her, but my dingus doesn’t want to cooperate
I had a prostatectomy so this topic is interesting and brings up many issues including dry ejaculation. You might want to have a video on that topic alone!
5:20 a presentation on retrograde would be great
Hi Doc, love your videos! I had a TURP operation; now I have to deal with retro ejaculation. Can this be repaired?
People need to stop saying that Dr. Malik helped them finish quicker and stronger.
It may come off wrong.
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Apomorphine and PT-141 both are great fixes of delayed ejaculation!!! You need a video on these 2 substances!!! Dr Rocket 🚀
Yes
Great fixes? From when?
Paxil gave me problems before. Alone I could/would take at least 1hr. Now Lamictal and Effexor, and it's about same. They take away problems, and create new,
Thank you Rena
This just started with me. I never had this problem in the past. I noticed over the past few years that my sensitivity is down. Recently, my testosterone levels really dropped. I've been on TRT since 2008 and it has worked great. As I have aged over the years my testosterone levels keep dropping. Erections are normally strong as long as I remain on TRT. This lack of ejaculation is weird, but I hope it can be corrected.
BROTHER TRT reduce the semen (if you want to know more about it the see video of beerbiceps on TRT )
Up ur trt dose do more frequent injections whatever u do total a week make into 3-4 shots
I’ve had this my whole life, I thought I was the only one and was some kind of weirdo ☹️
Yes there is lots of talk about premature ejaculation and I say to those guys "consider yourself lucky. You can still have kids if you want".
Had this all my life. I have high-normal T-levels and take no meds. It's less of a problem when I'm in a relationship for a while and more comfortable. Lack of sleep makes it much worse. Adding nipple stimulation will cause me to finish almost every time within a few minutes - so once I figured that out, problem basically solved.
It is frustrating when this happens, but I’m guessing in my case it’s aging. Happens most often though if I’ve already done it that day (myself or with partner). Went through a period where I would ejaculate with no orgasm at all and that was incredibly frustrating. Timing is still sometimes off (ejaculation will occur before orgasm), but by and large this kind of thing can be corrected.
It only happened during sex. But when it comes to hand soloing, I can finish no problem. As the saying goes: If you want the job done right (or at all for that matter) you do it yourself. I guess that's one of the reasons why I don't want to get into another relationship (I get nothing out of it).
I found out that I had very big problems especially with young sexy women. Just the thought of getting them pregnant prevented me from finishing. Now that i'm in a steady relationship again, zero issues.
@@dingdong2103 Funny how psychological sex can be.
@@john172867 Yep they say sex happens 90% in the brain and somehow I can believe it.
Can you do a video on Peyronis disease? I am curious on why I hear some doctors won't treat it.
Hi Dr.Rena, love your work. Can you also share some info about female hymen and tips to ease the first intercourse?
dilators, start small
Is it some issue with delayed ejaculation, some mental/emotional issue, or maybe in some relationships, and with age, when ejaculatory orgasm isn't the desired result, when with a partner?
Our society, and especially PORN, and other typically accepted ideals (like a man must have orgasm to have 'sex' with a woman?) just assumes a man must have an ejaculatory orgasm to be considered “sex” or 'satisfying'.
What if the basal premise, is wrong? Not all people need orgasm, or ejaculation, to have satisfying sexually intimate and satisfying experiences with a partner. How many times have women sexually satisfied a man, but never had a reciprocal satisfaction, from him, after his?
What about the seemingly rare man, that is personally satisfied, just pleasing his partner to her or his joy, orgasm, or multiple orgasms, but not needing anything physical/sexual, in order to feel that sense of joy and satisfaction?
What kind of doctor do you go to for this. Ive been to 2 urologists and they treated it like a joke
A urologist with expertise or trained in sexual medicine.
what states do you practice in?@@RenaMalikMD
Admittedly, I searched for this. I last long and finish strong but it must be tiring for my partner since we both have work. I think I kept edging unconsciously and it must be because of my first relationship long ago where we actually practiced having sex and I tried my best to last as long as I can.
Popping a big load unexpectedly can lead to pregnancy.
Hi rena!
No problem solo but I have had times during intercourse where I might get close but then it passes by and I have to actually concentrate to make it return. I’ve tried to use this control to my advantage being able to last as long as a woman needs before I finish. Sometimes it can be the opposite and I’m like a teenager and lose it quickly. I’m fairly certain it’s all in my mind.
Does anybody know what “off label” treatments she’s referring to? She s did not mention any and they are not listed in the description.
caborgoline is one most used. worked for me.
It has a lot to with how excited he is
I need an injury like this.. my wife will love me more.
probably not more.. just differently
For me like 40 min, i had issue after the covid vax.
Keep up the good work 👍👍
I don't see the problem to what you so called "disease" that soumd like a blessing from God!!!
Just watched this as this was "suggested" as im looking way to help my husband.
SO HOW DO I GET SOMEONE INFECTED WITH THIS & HELP ADDRESSED HIS INSECURITIES???
And your blood pressure medications
Im very very aware of my psychological world and my chemistry world, and I really believe now, after blood work that my shbg is in the way it's a little too high and my free to start is actually binding to it, and it's not causing me. E, d, but it is causing me. Delay, and maybe because of the libido's not fully there to fully allow me to finish as much as I feel like I'm gonna fish every freaking second. The moments that I am having with a woman
With my ex of 20 min was considered a quicky, mine is due to severe nerve damage over most of my body. I remember having a what I at the time called a mental orgasm were I felt a release but not evacuation. Thanks for your informative videos.
Same with my ex. She loved long sessions. She even taught me to control my time. I felt like a porn star back then. That was almost 30 years ago.
Hey Spain-k, you and me both! I was in coma for over a month and unconscious for another week or so (due to a car accident), and I was told that because of nerve damage I could have problems ejaculating and/or having orgasms. LOL! 20 minutes is a "quicky".
I think the effect of SSRI's should really be mentioned in any discussion of this topic.
I got prescribed SSRI's after a near death experience. When I read the side effects label I threw them to trash immediately lol
Ever since I am taking Viagra I have been unable to come. Please explain what I am doing wrong. Thank you Rena.
It seems like with me I don't have as much sensitivity around the head of the penis is why I have delayed ejaculation. Any thoughts would be appreciated
yup, kinda the same, if the girl is too wet I don t feel much and can t finish
I did shoot my white load one time but now I can't I think surgery will be helpful you think surgery for delayed ejaculation will be the best solution? If so then I refuse to get that my best option will be medicine Ford delayed ejaculation for myself.
what are some of the non fda drugs that can help with this issue? I think i am having this issue it is super frustrating strarted last year...not sure if it is libido or sensitivity im not that old
this is actually one of these problem i have had for my life, probably contributes to why I'm happier being single. Don't think it's to do with testosterone though, I started lifting weights 2 years ago at 40 and now i'm lifting 37 kgs 4 to 5 hours continuously each week, and the muscle I've got now is from my testosterone. Actually it's probably to do with porn, like you explained in your earlier videos, because in my late teens i was crazy from drugs and watched porn a lot, and have had this problem since I then, though personally i'm not worried
Stop watching porn 🤷♀️
Testosterone only aids in energy and recovery, it doesn't build muscle it's just an aid and crutch.. building muscle if from you lifting.. I am doing anabolics and test and this seems to be a reoccurring issue
@@dask1516 that's interesting, i'll look that up, I also work very hard physically so that probably helps it all as well 😁👍
It's great to have you explain these important things men should know.
I experience this because of cardiac meds. 😢
Hi Dr. Malik, i am 72 years of age, and i have an issue. With ejaculatiion. I DO have erections, but i take to long to ejaculate.. Can you please help me with this issue ? Even if it is a home remedy. Thank you so much, and god bless. ❤❤❤😊
I think most of the people know all of those lectures. Was hoping to hear something different from a doctor. Thanks
You are talking right to me.....thanks
Hi hru I was wondering if you have a website that I can ask you questions that I don’t want to ask on UA-cam
Could you do a video on chronic marijuana use effect on libido
What about surgery for BPH or bladder outlet obstruction causing blocked seminal vesicle ducts and surgical resection of them (TURED)?
I've never heard of bph. I wonder if I need it, I know for me it was delayed while I had gf. But I've noticed if I'm looking at guys it's quicker
Thanks, you just helped me!
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What type of doctor do i seek for an exam in this area???
Appreciate ❤️
Can I still fix this?
I'm addicted to porn and have a hard time feeling good with foreplay like hands, mouth, etc. and I'm used to releasing it while laying in bed for years. I can release it on my own with no problems but when I try to do it with someone, it just doesn't feel good enough. I wanna ask everyone how they were able to overcome it or fix it and if it is even fixable naturally. Please keep the trolling to a minimum and any advice would help. Thank you.
Lifelong problem her for me. I am that 1% lifelong. I finally went to a urologist and after only 5 minutes said there is nothing they or I can do, frustrating
I think I have this issue as well but I also think that my particular case is caused by a birth defect as well as medication
My doctor told me some years ago that I had retrograde and if I came off of the adderal the muscle in front of my bladder would probably work as it's supposed to.. about three years shortly after covid I lost all my work benefits and could not afford to keep them up on my own so I could not afford the prescriptions from my dr... I was also getting testosterone from him as well.. I still basically had the same problem every now and again there's a surprise. But it's been part of the downfall of most every relationship I've had since my divorce 12 years ago. It always gets mentioned somewhere along the line.
I've also learned when it comes to self soloing it makes a huge difference to use something that's similar to the orifice you desire. As close as you can afford especially if you pull yourself off the market or you're just between phase for a month or two you really really need to stay in the game otherwise when you do get to be with someone you're going to be too used to your hand...
I’m 41 and I’ve been having these issues for over a year. My wife thinks it’s because of her and it’s not.
At 40 yrs old for you I’ve learned t levels start going down. If you get it the levels up and checked you will function better.
Yeah mine too