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  • Feeling frustrated in bed? Does it take you long to ejaculate or you never get there? Watch this video until the end and learn what causes delayed ejaculation and what you can do to treat it.
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    00:00 Intro
    00:04 Delayed Ejaculation: What can you do about it?
    00:17 Definition of Delayed Ejaculation
    01:11 Definition of Ejaculation
    01:15 Emission
    01:28 Expulsion
    02:23 What causes delayed ejaculation?
    02:40 Psychological issues
    03:12 Physiological issues
    03:33 Low testosterone
    03:56 Congenital abnormalities
    04:00 Aging
    04:37 How to diagnose delayed ejaculation?
    06:33 How do we treat retrograde ejaculation?
    07:37 Anejaculation
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 527

  • @kevins5498
    @kevins5498 Рік тому +243

    It's been a lifelong issue for me, all the way back to my earliest sexual encounters as a teen. I attribute it to being desensitized by circumcision.
    It's usually faster solo, which can take anywhere from 20min, up to as long as 2 hours, or sometimes not finishing.
    With a woman, it typically takes at least an hour, rarely less than that, with it sometimes taking all night, (I've gone 5-6 hours several times) or just not happening at all, due to physical exhaustion and/or soreness. Condoms make it much worse and I rarely ever finish while wearing one.
    It has caused problems in my relationships and casual encounters, because women tend to get upset, self-conscious, or insulted that I'm not finishing quickly enough for them, or at all.
    I get distracting comments like: "What's wrong?", "OK, you can finish", "OK, finish", "No, really. Finish", "Does it not feel good?", "Can you even feel anything?", "Were you with someone else today?", "Are you just not into me?" etc. which really ruins the mood and makes it even more difficult to finish.
    I often dread getting physical altogether, especially with someone new, who doesn't understand.

    • @Don-mu2qh
      @Don-mu2qh Рік тому +18

      Similar lifelong problem. Also I can have an orgasm even though I don't ejaculate (but try explaining that to women). I had prostate cancer surgery and then a penile implant but neither affected the problem pro or con except that I don't masterbate anymore.

    • @Oiusea
      @Oiusea Рік тому

      I feel you bro 100%. Just tell them beforehand what to expect. Consider it as a blessing, you can go to town as long as you want ;). Have you tried 3some?

    • @Don-mu2qh
      @Don-mu2qh Рік тому

      @@Oiusea No. I like just straight monogamous heterosexual sex with women. I'm boring.

    • @gt7500
      @gt7500 Рік тому

      Disagree with circumcision, as millions of men have no issue. In fact some men cum too soon.

    • @nealsterling8151
      @nealsterling8151 Рік тому +21

      Similar story here.
      It's frustrating to say the least.

  • @Johnnyboi1991
    @Johnnyboi1991 2 місяці тому +27

    Lifelong issue here too. Sometimes it can be hours and still no finish. I used to love it but now its getting annoying.

    • @johnmaganda3257
      @johnmaganda3257 2 місяці тому +6

      Me too bro

    • @Johnnyboi1991
      @Johnnyboi1991 2 місяці тому +7

      @johnmaganda3257 it is nice to know that I'm not alone with this....good luck brother 🙏

    • @devilsaccount9360
      @devilsaccount9360 28 днів тому

      there is nothing wrong with this but what you are planning for a baby?

    • @Johnnyboi1991
      @Johnnyboi1991 26 днів тому +4

      @devilsaccount9360 actually I wouldn't mind having one but the real issue is when the girl that you're with thinks she's the issue...

  • @richiecolon3774
    @richiecolon3774 10 місяців тому +17

    I wish I had a urologist that had your ability to speak to these issues in a way that doesn't make it seem so taboo. Keep up the great work!

  • @anekelawrence2933
    @anekelawrence2933 Рік тому +57

    I think too much masturbation is a problem too

    • @Go.Shaman
      @Go.Shaman 21 день тому

      hope this helps someone out there:
      too much masturbation with visual assistance will cause it (western porn, as its usually uncensored)
      japanese porn is censored, if you try it, it feels a lot different.
      masturbating with just the imagination does not cause sex issues in bed for myself.
      wanking with the aid of uncensored porn will affect my arousal ability negatively.

  • @martinengelbrecht5384
    @martinengelbrecht5384 Рік тому +8

    Exercise, stay away from porn and masturbation, it's the devils food, eat food with no labels, take zinc, vitamin D3 and vitamin C. Take it slow in bed let it build naturally too much aggression makes one worry, enjoy and enjoy, relax, maybe to give a time limit, 15 to 20 minutes. Smaller movements are better, it's about doing it in a comfortable time, don't over stimulate in the beginning. Doing it for too long is going to desensitized you man parts, have a sensible time limit.

  • @user-cl7dv1ir6d
    @user-cl7dv1ir6d Рік тому +21

    Thank you finally someone talking bout this . Everyone else is tackling the premature ejaculation.

  • @jeffs7348
    @jeffs7348 Рік тому +10

    A smart beautiful DR that talks about things most doctors don’t we appreciate your knowledge DR R. Malik keep the videos coming no pun intended. Thanks again a few of your videos have helped me out tremendously.

  • @gregh_777
    @gregh_777 Рік тому +12

    its good seeing so many guys are going through the same thing (well not good). just feels like im the only one sometimes.

    • @davidkramer194
      @davidkramer194 Місяць тому

      I hate it so much. Wife is really not okay with it

  • @alexsterling739
    @alexsterling739 9 місяців тому +16

    I've dealt with this my whole life and I became really frustrated over the last few months as my gf and I like to have sex often and this issue does get in the way of the potential pleasure to be had.
    One thing I found through some research that has been really helping is...now hear me out...squeezing your butt. Assuming everything else is ok with you, changing your technique might help.
    We use our hips to thrust, but there might not be active glute engagement which is limiting the overall sensation.
    Squeezing your butt as you thrust puts pressure on your perineum which is connected to your prostate which is connected to the tip of your 🍆. Squeezing your glutes as you thrust increases sensation in this way. There's additional build up of internal pressure which increases blood flow, which increases sensation, that increases in pleasure, and voila, potentially an easier finish.
    If you lay down on your back, and squeeze only your butt, you'll see your hips naturally rise. Treat it like a workout, 3 sets of 15-20 at a medium speed and controlled pace and see how you feel. Focus on your glutes and that general area and you should start sensing a physiological response.
    Add this feeling/motion into your thrust and it should help with the overall experience
    Sounds weird, but it's helped me
    I hope this helps you, thanks for reading

  • @scott2228
    @scott2228 Рік тому +120

    It’s amazing how many women take it personal when a man can’t finish.
    1# factor for me is medications.

    • @MikeNaples
      @MikeNaples Рік тому +13

      They don't take it personal, they just tell their friends that you're probably gay.

    • @martinduplantis4484
      @martinduplantis4484 Рік тому +25

      It’s causing alot of relationship issue… i have been single for couple of years cause every women i sleep with i tell them before and they are always saying the same stuff… yes no problem and after the second or third time we have sex they keep asking : am i doing something wrong? Do you think i am attractive? Here we go again…

    • @johnnyboy3357
      @johnnyboy3357 Рік тому

      I'd build a harem if i can't finish, she can get out anytime

    • @jjs646
      @jjs646 Рік тому +11

      Yup… you would think the woman would be happy that you last a long time. They’re hard to please. If you finish too soon they’re not happy, if you go a long time and don’t finish not happy either. 😮 when I was on meds, I was just happy to have sex. The lady seem to definitely enjoy the longevity. She just can’t understand that I was pretty happy just having sex lol 🎉

    • @bf1lv
      @bf1lv Рік тому

      That's because most woman are used to the average male who is a two pump chump.

  • @michaelrivera6989
    @michaelrivera6989 Рік тому +25

    I’ve always had issues until I get really comfortable with the woman. I just need a sense of comfort and intimacy or it’s just difficult or impossible. Once I feel really compfortable, then no problem.

    • @Jukeboxxxz
      @Jukeboxxxz Рік тому +1

      Same!

    • @geno5169
      @geno5169 Рік тому +2

      Same with me

    • @john172867
      @john172867 Рік тому +4

      Absolutely. It's difficult for me to do it with escorts. There's just no intimacy there and even if there is some, it's rushed.

    • @iammfreee6701
      @iammfreee6701 Рік тому +2

      exactly

  • @Dulcimerist
    @Dulcimerist Рік тому +52

    The #1 cause of delayed ejaculation is antidepressants which boost serotonin. Paxil, Zoloft, Celexa, Lexapro, Prozac, Cymbalta, Effexor are some examples. If this is an issue, be sure to speak with your prescribing doctor about the problem. There are other types of antidepressants available which don't cause delayed ejaculation (e.g. Wellbutrin), so you and your doctor can work together to find what works best for you.

    • @TankGuy3
      @TankGuy3 Рік тому

      Effexor also modifies norepinephrine alongside serotonin.
      I must be one of the lucky ones, no issues and I'm on Effexor XR.

    • @willco601
      @willco601 Рік тому +3

      Don't forget about drinking/drugging and chain smoking.

    • @dingdong2103
      @dingdong2103 Рік тому

      For me 6-18 beers does the trick. Sometimes I run out of breath before coming lol.

    • @balancedactguy
      @balancedactguy Рік тому +1

      @@dingdong2103 You must be blowing wads of Beer!🤣🤣

    • @dingdong2103
      @dingdong2103 Рік тому

      @@balancedactguy Occasionally yes :) You know how Bam Margera became an alcoholic? Ville Valo (a fellow finn) taught him that you can start your morning by popping a beer :P

  • @Opry99er
    @Opry99er Рік тому +55

    I've found that if I get desensitized during sex, I just start giving oral or some other foreplay for a few minutes. It allows me to reset and try again. Tends to work pretty well. Sometimes you just get numbed, so you need to remove the stimulation for a few minutes to give yourself a fresh start.

  • @Shreadington
    @Shreadington Рік тому +38

    Dang, I've never heard of this. May the guys suffering from this find a resolution.

  • @UgetMe09
    @UgetMe09 Рік тому +16

    Im 30 and have had delayed ejaculation since i first had sex 10 years ago. I found with my current partner, the first 3 months we didnt really address the fact it took me over an hour to climax. But after talking about it, through communication and my partner understanding me more sexually, i found i can now climax in about 30-45 minutes which makes life a lot easier now! She has been trying to get me to go speak to a doctor about it but at the same time, i dont want to become a 2 pump chump

    • @Zetler
      @Zetler 5 місяців тому +2

      LOL this is a problem that none of my girlfriends want to solve. I’m not even sure if I want to fix it because it’s like possessing some sort of cursed super power.

  • @vinnylamoureux1187
    @vinnylamoureux1187 Рік тому +55

    Brothers. Do NOT overlook that your Rx for Zoloft is the cause. When I was on it, I could go for a month and it wouldn't get off. (slight exaggeration). It was a miserable experience and I never suspected that it could do that. Very happy when I stopped taking it.

    • @Dulcimerist
      @Dulcimerist Рік тому +5

      Paxil, in the same class as Zoloft, can also cause this.

    • @alfonso.chavez
      @alfonso.chavez Рік тому +3

      I loved it when Zoloft stopped me from finishing. I was a stud for two weeks

    • @McBlazington
      @McBlazington Рік тому +5

      Fluoxetine (Prozac/Lovan) is the same. It's even used off label as a treatment for premature ejaculation. Super common in SSRIs.

    • @anthonym5123
      @anthonym5123 Рік тому +1

      Im definitely on Zoloft, and I'm having the hardest time finishing.

    • @jakespeed6515
      @jakespeed6515 Рік тому

      Medical Cannabis or Ayahuasca helps this. Get off the Zoloft

  • @mikecon7634
    @mikecon7634 Рік тому +229

    I just finished.

  • @robertclark6992
    @robertclark6992 Рік тому +12

    I was having this problem. Which was going along with a reduced libido. Even though my Thyroid level would be in the "normal" range I found that after an increase in the level of hormone replacement the problem has be improved significantly. I have also taken your advise in another one of your videos which was helpful. However, No amount of behavioral or psychological modifications will work when the biology is off.

    • @BDF30
      @BDF30 Рік тому

      Can you describe a little more? I am on testosterone replacement my self. I ask the doctor for more but dont give it a try for me...

  • @Mark_L
    @Mark_L Рік тому +2

    I don’t listen to your posts for any particular interest for me personally. I do listen as you have a great way of explaining things from a medical point of view that is interesting and to a high level of specificity.

  • @user-ry5el5ci6f
    @user-ry5el5ci6f 8 днів тому

    Always love watching you. I have learned so much from you and have followed your advice many times and had positive results. Wish you were local to me so a in person appointment would be possible. Just listening to you always calms many of my concerns. Also I find you very attractive and sexy the way you describe different topics. Keep up the good work.

  • @skip123davis
    @skip123davis Рік тому +4

    could you PLEASE do a video or two on prostate cancer? i had prostatectomy, and have been miserable since. i would not do it again. i would just live with it.

  • @Thomasll88
    @Thomasll88 9 місяців тому +5

    What about side effects from certain medication?

  • @oncall21
    @oncall21 Рік тому +10

    The biggest cause of the inability to ejaculate is medication. Anti depressants are a huge culprit here along with urology drugs such as Flomax and drugs for the prostate and hair loss such as Finasteride and dutasteride.

  • @mhughes6303
    @mhughes6303 Рік тому +10

    This just started with me. I never had this problem in the past. I noticed over the past few years that my sensitivity is down. Recently, my testosterone levels really dropped. I've been on TRT since 2008 and it has worked great. As I have aged over the years my testosterone levels keep dropping. Erections are normally strong as long as I remain on TRT. This lack of ejaculation is weird, but I hope it can be corrected.

    • @user-su1iz9lf5i
      @user-su1iz9lf5i 4 місяці тому +1

      BROTHER TRT reduce the semen (if you want to know more about it the see video of beerbiceps on TRT )

    • @mattybricks8003
      @mattybricks8003 3 місяці тому

      Up ur trt dose do more frequent injections whatever u do total a week make into 3-4 shots

  • @jesuscortez726
    @jesuscortez726 Рік тому +6

    I’m not on any medication, i eat healthy and train hard 5 days a week. And my gf had a love/hate relationship with how long i last.. sometimes I can’t even finish lol.

  • @roddyoccultis4266
    @roddyoccultis4266 Рік тому +13

    That is why it is better to have group sex. I have two bisexual girlfriends who don't depend on me alone and therefore I am under no pressure. No pun intended

  • @user-vo7wq6vx6q
    @user-vo7wq6vx6q Рік тому +7

    Interestingly, you didn't specifically mention a large class of drugs that physicians frequently prescribe that can have a significant effect on ejaculation. A common side effect of SSRI's and SNRI's is delayed ejaculation (or anorgasmia.) While the SSRI may treat psychological/depression issues, long term use can backfire and affect (hopefully temporally) a persons sexual function.

    • @RepaKTANET
      @RepaKTANET Рік тому

      Can anti depreesants have this side effekt, Even after been of for 10 years?

  • @numerous_use
    @numerous_use Рік тому +24

    I've always had this issue since I can remember. Some guys think it's a gift to be able to last 1 hour. Saw Urologist for it. They told me the brain is the biggest sex organ. I really would like to know what meds, even off label, that are helpful for delayed.

  • @08201984midnight
    @08201984midnight Рік тому +36

    Delayed Ejaculating can also be from wearing a condom. I can not finish with a condom on.

    • @flowerpt
      @flowerpt Рік тому +3

      Especially a discount-store brand or one that's too tight. Check out reviews online for better brands and proper sizing.

    • @TheHalloweenmasks
      @TheHalloweenmasks Рік тому

      I need to wear a condom, otherwise I start to bleed.

  • @lgwappo
    @lgwappo Рік тому +18

    When I married at 27 I needed at least an hour most of the time. Sometimes longer. My ex would say she's getting sore & I need to finish or stop. Not sure what caused this but I only had sex twice before I met my ex. Decades later, same problem but my current wife lost interest in sex about 15 years ago.

  • @Kacer99281
    @Kacer99281 Рік тому +16

    I’ve had this my whole life, I thought I was the only one and was some kind of weirdo ☹️

    • @BenjaminWirtz
      @BenjaminWirtz 4 дні тому

      Yes there is lots of talk about premature ejaculation and I say to those guys "consider yourself lucky. You can still have kids if you want".

  • @paulnorton3607
    @paulnorton3607 Рік тому +8

    The lack of feeling in the nerves as you age can never return so nearly all remedies are pointless for the older man who just lacks sensation. No one ever says sorry, but there is no cure available.

    • @118Columbus
      @118Columbus 6 місяців тому

      That slaps hard… (no pun intended)

  • @MrGuitar1458
    @MrGuitar1458 Рік тому +7

    Difficult problem to address, very good information here. Thank you! 😊

  • @raymondfarrell6585
    @raymondfarrell6585 Рік тому +5

    I had a prostatectomy so this topic is interesting and brings up many issues including dry ejaculation. You might want to have a video on that topic alone!

  • @FarCry164
    @FarCry164 Рік тому +2

    I'm not sure you will see this as the video is a couple months old. I have delayed ejaculation after I go for a mountain bike ride. It is the day of the bike ride and sometimes the day after. It happened a couple times, now it seems to be after every ride. I'm not sure if it is now mental, because it has me nervous it will last forever! Your thoughts would be appreciated.

  • @igorjanakjiev966
    @igorjanakjiev966 Рік тому +12

    Stop drinking alcohol before sex and everything will be fine

  • @hiphopesq
    @hiphopesq Рік тому +3

    People need to stop saying that Dr. Malik helped them finish quicker and stronger.
    It may come off wrong.

  • @andrebots4224
    @andrebots4224 Рік тому +7

    My libido started going down in my late 40's now in my early 50's delayed ejaculation was a major issue between myself and my ex partner. Her pelvic floor dropped making it more difficult for me, and performance angst came to the fore from my side. I allways had the ability to "last" sometimes going for hours alternating between foreplay and penetration, i sometimes think that may also contribute to my current dillema.

    • @marcob4630
      @marcob4630 Рік тому

      sex is not all in life after '50!

  • @dbldblu
    @dbldblu Рік тому +3

    I started taking finasteride for a slightly elevated PSA and now have this issue and retrograde ejaculation. Quit the finasteride about a month ago, not back to normal yet.

    • @bobbruce4135
      @bobbruce4135 Рік тому

      Look up post finasteride syndrome. It's a huge problem. Peace.

    • @rompinronny
      @rompinronny Рік тому +2

      If that is similar to tamsulosin, ditto.

    • @bobbruce4135
      @bobbruce4135 Рік тому

      @@rompinronny Tamsulosin is less selective than Silodosin (Rapaflo). I had zero functions (not just EjD) on latter, but was okay on Tamsulosin. Finasteride is an anti-DHT (not an alpha blocker) and causes some permanent and very serious problems in many men.

  • @jmodified
    @jmodified Місяць тому

    Had this all my life. I have high-normal T-levels and take no meds. It's less of a problem when I'm in a relationship for a while and more comfortable. Lack of sleep makes it much worse. Adding nipple stimulation will cause me to finish almost every time within a few minutes - so once I figured that out, problem basically solved.

  • @GTLee9
    @GTLee9 Рік тому +11

    “Can’t finish” I can’t start 😅

    • @johnny5stacks60
      @johnny5stacks60 Рік тому

      The struggle is real. I wasn’t “starting” due to a really bad relationship that left me afraid of intimacy with anyone so I didn’t date for *ahem* SIX years. I’ve been dating an amazing woman for about a month now, but I can’t finish most of the time. She’s having a great time, and I’m literally faking orgasms lol she hasn’t noticed (yet), but id really like to finish. Im very attracted to her, but my dingus doesn’t want to cooperate

  • @auggiedoggie4968
    @auggiedoggie4968 Рік тому +6

    What are the off label treatment options?

  • @sebastiangruffydd2765
    @sebastiangruffydd2765 Рік тому +2

    Great topic but solutions are clear as mud.

  • @user-xu5uk6bs5j
    @user-xu5uk6bs5j 3 місяці тому +3

    I’m 41 and I’ve been having these issues for over a year. My wife thinks it’s because of her and it’s not.

    • @yowhat-mo6xo
      @yowhat-mo6xo 3 місяці тому

      At 40 yrs old for you I’ve learned t levels start going down. If you get it the levels up and checked you will function better.

    • @user-rm2my8ew8h
      @user-rm2my8ew8h 6 днів тому

      Yeah mine too

  • @whatsup3519
    @whatsup3519 Рік тому +4

    Pls, make a video about pair bonding, and promiscuous lifestyle.

  • @barryshafer
    @barryshafer Рік тому +9

    Thank you for your educational videos!!!

  • @vinnylamoureux1187
    @vinnylamoureux1187 Рік тому +3

    Doc, you failed to discuss the importance of assessing chemical reasons. Years ago, a doctor prescribed Zoloft for me. That ended any ejaculations for the next 2 years. The fun of making love for a long session (30 minutes or more) quickly fades when you can't get off. Stopped Zoloft, problem solved. Years later, the same problems with Flomax. Still struggling due to my age(73), but persevering anyway. Keep the rlag upright !!! And NEVER give up. Thanks for your great presentations, doc. Good Job😂

    • @danielmarois6766
      @danielmarois6766 Рік тому

      I understand how frustrating it is. I’m taking a lot of different meds and I don’t know which one is causing this. I can get hard but just can’t ejaculate. Any thought?

  • @jefferymcleodbeyoursfalway3170
    @jefferymcleodbeyoursfalway3170 3 місяці тому +1

    And your blood pressure medications

  • @ibassnote
    @ibassnote Рік тому +9

    No problem solo but I have had times during intercourse where I might get close but then it passes by and I have to actually concentrate to make it return. I’ve tried to use this control to my advantage being able to last as long as a woman needs before I finish. Sometimes it can be the opposite and I’m like a teenager and lose it quickly. I’m fairly certain it’s all in my mind.

  • @anthonyyoung6489
    @anthonyyoung6489 Рік тому +10

    I have this problem now. I used to have the opposite problem. Life is just too crazy.

  • @derekspringall5715
    @derekspringall5715 Рік тому +3

    What can be done when it’s a side effect of antidepressants?

  • @RichardSmith-pb8qk
    @RichardSmith-pb8qk 11 місяців тому +3

    It is frustrating when this happens, but I’m guessing in my case it’s aging. Happens most often though if I’ve already done it that day (myself or with partner). Went through a period where I would ejaculate with no orgasm at all and that was incredibly frustrating. Timing is still sometimes off (ejaculation will occur before orgasm), but by and large this kind of thing can be corrected.

  • @johnnacke2017
    @johnnacke2017 Рік тому +4

    Hi Doc, love your videos! I had a TURP operation; now I have to deal with retro ejaculation. Can this be repaired?

  • @Zetler
    @Zetler 5 місяців тому

    The footage in this video is so misleading. I have this problem and ladies love it. They always finish and often take advantage of the situation to extend the session into some sort of all nighter.

  • @spain-k4653
    @spain-k4653 Рік тому +10

    With my ex of 20 min was considered a quicky, mine is due to severe nerve damage over most of my body. I remember having a what I at the time called a mental orgasm were I felt a release but not evacuation. Thanks for your informative videos.

    • @BadWolf1958
      @BadWolf1958 Рік тому +4

      Same with my ex. She loved long sessions. She even taught me to control my time. I felt like a porn star back then. That was almost 30 years ago.

    • @kalaiolele8796
      @kalaiolele8796 Рік тому +6

      Hey Spain-k, you and me both! I was in coma for over a month and unconscious for another week or so (due to a car accident), and I was told that because of nerve damage I could have problems ejaculating and/or having orgasms. LOL! 20 minutes is a "quicky".

  • @LeviW2892w
    @LeviW2892w 6 місяців тому +1

    Thank you DR. Malik.
    Some might think that delayed ejaculation is a real benefit. But, as someone who has had this in the past, for me, it was not always. Sure, I could last as long as I wanted for my wife but, after a while she was no longer enjoying it and the desensitization caused me to lose my erection, not finish and causing her distress.
    Usually after a short rest period, I would regain my erection and finish which was fun but distressing at the same time.
    The biggest problem was my previous self-pleasure practice and, though I did not know it at the time, my ED med is designed to delay ejaculation. I have adjusted my solo practice and now that we understand about the med it makes our time together more fulfilling. If it looks like it make take too long, she knows exactly what to do for me to release and, I think she enjoys having that power.

    • @lizzialk
      @lizzialk 2 місяці тому

      I don't mean to pry, but if you don't mind answering, what does she do to release faster.
      My bf is going through this, but I'm not sure how to get him to release faster.

  • @bryancorrell3689
    @bryancorrell3689 Рік тому +13

    I think the effect of SSRI's should really be mentioned in any discussion of this topic.

    • @dingdong2103
      @dingdong2103 Рік тому +1

      I got prescribed SSRI's after a near death experience. When I read the side effects label I threw them to trash immediately lol

  • @ObeytheRussianBlue
    @ObeytheRussianBlue Рік тому +9

    Apomorphine and PT-141 both are great fixes of delayed ejaculation!!! You need a video on these 2 substances!!! Dr Rocket 🚀

  • @LegacyFarmandHomestead
    @LegacyFarmandHomestead Рік тому +20

    I had the same problem. Stopped watching porn and it completely went away in about 3 months

  • @mr.yuk4858
    @mr.yuk4858 Рік тому +22

    It only happened during sex. But when it comes to hand soloing, I can finish no problem. As the saying goes: If you want the job done right (or at all for that matter) you do it yourself. I guess that's one of the reasons why I don't want to get into another relationship (I get nothing out of it).

    • @dingdong2103
      @dingdong2103 Рік тому +4

      I found out that I had very big problems especially with young sexy women. Just the thought of getting them pregnant prevented me from finishing. Now that i'm in a steady relationship again, zero issues.

    • @john172867
      @john172867 Рік тому +6

      @@dingdong2103 Funny how psychological sex can be.

    • @dingdong2103
      @dingdong2103 Рік тому

      @@john172867 Yep they say sex happens 90% in the brain and somehow I can believe it.

  • @stevenzeluck
    @stevenzeluck Рік тому +7

    Ever since I am taking Viagra I have been unable to come. Please explain what I am doing wrong. Thank you Rena.

  • @steveramirez8270
    @steveramirez8270 Рік тому +2

    Thank youuuuuuuu, awesome video!

  • @jefferyrobertson7520
    @jefferyrobertson7520 Рік тому +3

    Valentine's Day Coming Up Rena

  • @panchovilla3304
    @panchovilla3304 3 місяці тому +1

    I experience this because of cardiac meds. 😢

  • @homelesstogreatness6626
    @homelesstogreatness6626 Рік тому +5

    Admittedly, I searched for this. I last long and finish strong but it must be tiring for my partner since we both have work. I think I kept edging unconsciously and it must be because of my first relationship long ago where we actually practiced having sex and I tried my best to last as long as I can.

    • @blairsterling6141
      @blairsterling6141 Рік тому +1

      Popping a big load unexpectedly can lead to pregnancy.

  • @martinduplantis4484
    @martinduplantis4484 Рік тому +6

    I have secondary hypogonadism. I have problem reaching orgasm but no erectile dysfunction. Apparently nasal spray of oxytocin can cure this but it’s not available in canada. Are you aware of any other meds? My free testo is stble now with déatestryl but my Dhea still low

    • @Dulcimerist
      @Dulcimerist Рік тому +1

      I have secondary hypogonadism due to a pituitary adenoma. Cabergoline treating the pituitary issues helped.
      Are you on any antidepressants? SSRI, SNRI, or pretty much any medication or supplement boosting serotonin can make it difficult to reach climax.

    • @martinduplantis4484
      @martinduplantis4484 Рік тому

      @@Dulcimerist thanks for answering i am on suboxone, i was on methadone before but i have been of any opiate for 5 years i have a cyst on pitutary gland it’s called aracnocele ( sorry i don’t have the english wording for it) not taking any antidepressant i will talk to dr about cabergoline. Thanks

  • @Vab1ar1
    @Vab1ar1 Рік тому +3

    I need an injury like this.. my wife will love me more.

  • @feliciasbeard
    @feliciasbeard Рік тому +1

    Paxil gave me problems before. Alone I could/would take at least 1hr. Now Lamictal and Effexor, and it's about same. They take away problems, and create new,

  • @141runn
    @141runn Рік тому +2

    knowing shes fertile is the #1 cause for me

  • @danm3570
    @danm3570 Рік тому +11

    this is actually one of these problem i have had for my life, probably contributes to why I'm happier being single. Don't think it's to do with testosterone though, I started lifting weights 2 years ago at 40 and now i'm lifting 37 kgs 4 to 5 hours continuously each week, and the muscle I've got now is from my testosterone. Actually it's probably to do with porn, like you explained in your earlier videos, because in my late teens i was crazy from drugs and watched porn a lot, and have had this problem since I then, though personally i'm not worried

    • @lauraz2896
      @lauraz2896 Рік тому +3

      Stop watching porn 🤷‍♀️

    • @dask1516
      @dask1516 Рік тому +2

      Testosterone only aids in energy and recovery, it doesn't build muscle it's just an aid and crutch.. building muscle if from you lifting.. I am doing anabolics and test and this seems to be a reoccurring issue

    • @danm3570
      @danm3570 Рік тому

      @@dask1516 that's interesting, i'll look that up, I also work very hard physically so that probably helps it all as well 😁👍

  • @vyking37
    @vyking37 Рік тому +2

    Is it some issue with delayed ejaculation, some mental/emotional issue, or maybe in some relationships, and with age, when ejaculatory orgasm isn't the desired result, when with a partner?
    Our society, and especially PORN, and other typically accepted ideals (like a man must have orgasm to have 'sex' with a woman?) just assumes a man must have an ejaculatory orgasm to be considered “sex” or 'satisfying'.
    What if the basal premise, is wrong? Not all people need orgasm, or ejaculation, to have satisfying sexually intimate and satisfying experiences with a partner. How many times have women sexually satisfied a man, but never had a reciprocal satisfaction, from him, after his?
    What about the seemingly rare man, that is personally satisfied, just pleasing his partner to her or his joy, orgasm, or multiple orgasms, but not needing anything physical/sexual, in order to feel that sense of joy and satisfaction?

  • @rohitshahi780
    @rohitshahi780 Рік тому +2

    Hi Dr.Rena, love your work. Can you also share some info about female hymen and tips to ease the first intercourse?

    • @domepiece11
      @domepiece11 9 місяців тому

      dilators, start small

  • @nemonbuckery5512
    @nemonbuckery5512 Рік тому +2

    Great video you learn new things everyday!!!!💪🏿✌🏿🐼👊🏾🍴🙏🏿🤔

  • @richps2
    @richps2 Рік тому +1

    Can you do a video on Peyronis disease? I am curious on why I hear some doctors won't treat it.

  • @rogerjohnson131
    @rogerjohnson131 Рік тому +2

    5:20 a presentation on retrograde would be great

  • @johnmoreno5965
    @johnmoreno5965 Рік тому +3

    Yes I'm glad to hear this I take a long time every time omg 😳

    • @johnmoreno5965
      @johnmoreno5965 Рік тому

      Aging stressing a lot plus lots of masturbating with back issues made me realize it could be a lot of variables. I have went threw periods of time where I stop masturbating only to still not be able to get it up. But when I do I can't ejaculate for at least an hour omfg what's wrong with me

  • @thejrm704
    @thejrm704 4 місяці тому +1

    Does anybody know what “off label” treatments she’s referring to? She s did not mention any and they are not listed in the description.

    • @bige2012
      @bige2012 3 місяці тому

      caborgoline is one most used. worked for me.

  • @shawnkidman3523
    @shawnkidman3523 Рік тому +8

    It seems like with me I don't have as much sensitivity around the head of the penis is why I have delayed ejaculation. Any thoughts would be appreciated

    • @gitanodel69
      @gitanodel69 Рік тому +2

      yup, kinda the same, if the girl is too wet I don t feel much and can t finish

  • @greenpighunter6930
    @greenpighunter6930 Рік тому +2

    Thank you Rena

  • @thane99x
    @thane99x Рік тому +1

    Tramadol causes problems finishing

  • @c1ashton
    @c1ashton Рік тому +1

    I had this problem when I was long-distance running. Could that have caused the problem?

  • @robertschoolfield1869
    @robertschoolfield1869 9 місяців тому +1

    What kind of doctor do you go to for this. Ive been to 2 urologists and they treated it like a joke

    • @RenaMalikMD
      @RenaMalikMD  9 місяців тому +1

      A urologist with expertise or trained in sexual medicine.

    • @robertschoolfield1869
      @robertschoolfield1869 4 місяці тому

      what states do you practice in?@@RenaMalikMD

  • @dboivin48
    @dboivin48 Рік тому +1

    It's great to have you explain these important things men should know.

  • @saintlouis1087
    @saintlouis1087 Рік тому +2

    “Sometimes I can’t even make a deposit” - Frank Reynolds

  • @FutureAIDev2015
    @FutureAIDev2015 Рік тому +2

    I think I have this issue as well but I also think that my particular case is caused by a birth defect as well as medication

  • @jrdan5004
    @jrdan5004 Рік тому +2

    Can drugs such as Viagra, Cialis, etc. help with delayed ejaculation? Also, the video mutes for 3 seconds starting at 4:41. Thank you!

  • @phishmastermike
    @phishmastermike Рік тому +1

    Honestly what would be worse this or premature.
    What would you prefer

  • @Aquamayne100
    @Aquamayne100 Рік тому +3

    Could you do a video on chronic marijuana use effect on libido

  • @joerogain8242
    @joerogain8242 25 днів тому

    I have more of a issue with starting.

  • @msalas5963
    @msalas5963 6 місяців тому

    I don't see the problem to what you so called "disease" that soumd like a blessing from God!!!
    Just watched this as this was "suggested" as im looking way to help my husband.
    SO HOW DO I GET SOMEONE INFECTED WITH THIS & HELP ADDRESSED HIS INSECURITIES???

  • @bigdaddy5948
    @bigdaddy5948 Рік тому

    It has a lot to with how excited he is

  • @lcmm55
    @lcmm55 Рік тому +3

    Over the last year, no ejaculation with my wife. Both age 68, erections at night are common, but getting started from flacid is not easy. I am guessing it may be desire, since my wife has gained some excessive weight.

  • @jeremyx3758
    @jeremyx3758 Рік тому +4

    Thx Doc
    I've a question after this disclosure
    I had a friend in the ⚔ military who had to be circumcized in order to experience ejaculation
    His foreskin was in essence choking/cutting off blood flow which prevented semen flow and hindering nerve-sensory to the head of his penis also
    The thing is...
    His girlfriend loved the longevity of their encounters which lessened greatly once he was able to orgasms faster/normally etc
    QUESTION...
    Do women typically enjoy when the man has delayed ejaculation?
    It seems likely bc most women feel men come to quickly on average

  • @NotUrDaddiesXLT
    @NotUrDaddiesXLT Рік тому +5

    I can ejaculate fine the first time. After that it takes me for ever and sometimes it’s just not possible if I have sex the following day or day after.

  • @charleshenderson1174
    @charleshenderson1174 Рік тому +3

    Thanks beautiful .

  • @stuartferreira7303
    @stuartferreira7303 Рік тому +1

    How can this possibly be a problem, its the journey that determines the value of the goal.

    • @bige2012
      @bige2012 5 місяців тому +1

      because going for an hour or more, or not popping at all, sucks. Even porn stars ned to get to the $$ shot.

  • @spymaster2455
    @spymaster2455 Рік тому +4

    I don't think that's a bad thing. At least for the woman. Because we know it takes a woman least 26 minutes to hit the big O.

  • @GtrMan863
    @GtrMan863 Рік тому

    Keep up the good work 👍👍

  • @mikelavelle5019
    @mikelavelle5019 Рік тому +4

    When I was 18 I could control it and last as long as I really wanted... most of the time. I thought every other man could do the same. now at 54 ... my new wife and I just kind of call a truce.. I feel stupid when I say " Oh.. yea .. I will later".

    • @Mark-sc9iu
      @Mark-sc9iu Рік тому +5

      My history exactly! I always could last a long time, but it was because I had control over it. My friends would say, are you doing it by thinking of other things while having sex. But it wasn't. I could literally control when I was ready to orgasm. But now, that control is gone and it takes a really long time to orgasm, if I do at all. Like you, sometimes I just have to say, it just isn't going to happen tonight. Embarrassing and difficult to deal with as a man.

  • @EsotericFleetMechanic
    @EsotericFleetMechanic Рік тому

    Any ssri could cause this. Also blood pressure meds. Electrolyte imbalances too.