Slightly unconventional anti-stress advice that actually works
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- Опубліковано 1 жов 2024
- #personalgrowth #selfcare #mentalhealth
This video is primarily for entertainment purposes. I tried to make you smile, while squeezing in some helpful advice too.
That said, I think it is important to say that I do not mean to trivialise stress or anxiety. I have battled with these all my life, to the point where I ended up in a hospital because of chronic stress and had to quit my job. I know how difficult managing stress is and how severely it can impact one's daily life. I have also been in therapy for the past 7 years and I have come to terms with the fact that I will need therapy for the rest of my life - there is nothing wrong with this and I am happy that we live in times where taking regular care of your mental health has equal importance as taking care of one's physical health.
Recently, I have been feeling that all my content is very serious, so I wanted to try something different and bring some laughter into my videos.
Let me know what you think :)
Thank you for watching,
Daria
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I think there are not such thing like "negative emotions". There are only emotions. Some are pleasant, some not. All of them are essential for us to live life.
very well said! we need more parents who think this way! :)
I absolutely love your videos. You normalize anxiety and stress. And you always make me laugh. Thank you.
I am so happy to hear this - thank you so much for saying this :) I am not much of a comedian but would love to bring more joy and laughter into the personal development / selfcare narratives!
I 100% bought the yoga to gangsta rap.
It’s sort of true, I do run with hip hop and rap hahaha! 😆
Lol the "cleaning like it's a crime scene" reminds me of a video I posted a little while ago about how pretending to be a criminal is actually helpful for mental health! I love seeing that someone else thinks about this when living life haha. Also good video as always, I LOVE this channel!!
Wow I love this idea - I need to see this video! I will definitely check it out. And thank you so much 😊
i love how creative you are with getting across your videos message!
on another topic: where are the PJs from that you wear during the cleaning scenes? ❤
Oh thank you oh so much!! It’s from Victoria Secret, I got it a few years ago! It’s not the most comfy though, I think it’s polyester which isn’t super breathable
I've noticed that stress and anxiety come from insufficient boundaries in my life.
My ex-wife is extremely high conflict and when I don't enforce my boundaries I really let her get to me.
My new wife is awesome. But she's driven by threat awareness and when I don't enforce boundaries with her I can feel like the sky is falling.
But I grew up in an abusive home and I tend to feel guilty setting boundaries.
So when I don't set boundaries I can spiral. But when I set boundaries I can spiral.
I find that creativity unlocks my freedom. Video games, drawing, fantasy writing, video editing.
I am so happy you have your outlets. It’s not easy, overcoming difficult past. Someone very very close to me also grew up in an abusive home. I hope that you know that you deserve to always feel safe, and cared for. Even if others don’t give you that, you must make sure that you give yourself those feelings by taking good care of yourself. You deserve nothing but the best! I am also happy that your relationship now feels better.
V for Vendetta is my favourite movie for the philosophy, the emotional catharsis, the story-telling, and the warnings we're seeing in our governments in this modern day. Getting outside and even holding a door open or letting someone in off a side road when I drive helps keep me in the space of kindness which i think the world can always benefit from more of
Same, I absolutely love this move and somehow I feel it is more pertinent these days. There are so many interesting thoughts to consider in that film! Also love your reflection on kindness - it is a beautiful feeling we need to cultivate! Despite all the evil in the world - or perhaps even more so because of it - we need to spread kindness and goodness wherever we can!
The cemetery REALLY took me off guard 😂😂😂😂
haha happy I got that reaction :D it was so lovely, I could not recommend it more!
Really Good Video👌👌 However i tried serveral times but i can't cry 😑😑
Some people are like this, don't worry! There's nothing wrong with this! maybe one day it will come naturally!
i like your creativity
Thank you so much 😊❤️
Loving the crime scene idea
‘Gone girl’ level of chill 😂
I love your wrapping bubble suit! 😄 It was fun to watch and it may be totally useful. I love cleaning when I'm mad!
Thank you! Yes, it is nice to feel like something good or useful came out of a 'negative' emotion! and I really do feel a bit better once I have channeled that energy somewhere :D
I would definitely let you walk my dog
Hahah thank you 😊❤️ they would be well taken care of and for sure returned to the rightful owner 😍
How do you not have more views?! You deserve millions!
I don't know haha! I wish I could know if I am doing something wrong :D but thank you, that means a lot :) have a great week!
*I'm loving this new version of you, it's great to see how you're developing personally. It makes me very happy and joyful at the same time. I liked the yoga with the trap music, I do the same thing when I train boxing and I put on some songs with sad melodies* 😂😂😂
*Also, I liked the ear piercing. Daria, do you plan on putting more accessories on your ear? I was thinking about putting it on my ear as well hahaha.*
Oh thank you! I have had that piercing for long time, I just never wear big chunky earrings so no one sees it! For now I am ok but I do want to get a small tattoo one day :) maybe if I reach some big milestone or an achievement, to celebrate :)
@@lostinadmiration can't wait to see some tattoos from you hahaha
I would be really surprised if the bubble suit made the list 😅
Yeah me too. At least we used up all the bubble wrap 🤷🏼♀️😂
Oh, I used to watch all of the saddest drama movies and listen to the saddest songs and cry when I felt blue. This helped a lot! It somehow unlocked my own emotions and let me deal with them by releasing them through crying. Kudos to you for volunteer work!❤
Somehow I feel like our bodies sometimes naturally know of ways to self-regulate. You do something, no idea why, and then you read why and it all makes sense! I hope you are doing well these days!
The Bubble Suit! Did you ever watch Dude Where's My Car?
No I haven’t! Did they also make one in that show? 😂😃
As always it was a great helpful video. I love the calm vibes you bring to every video, it always relaxes my mind! Every topic seems well thought out, inspiring, and insightful ❤
Thank you, that means so much! Though honestly my life is so far from being calm and zen haha - actually the title 'Lost in Desperation' came from the joke that my husband makes that this would be a more fitting name for my channel :D but I am so glad I am able to help you feel better despite my actual real life messiness :D
@@lostinadmiration you are doing great!! Like you said in the video we all struggle and aren’t perfect. Being authentic is what makes your videos great!
The one thing I am fully sure of is that no matter what I comment, I will surely get your reply. That's the Biggest thing I like about you.
well, of course my Friend! we can just chat as usual haha. How are you doing Bhalla? :)
@@lostinadmiration Good What about you?
@@bhalla_rishav very good :) nice weather this Sunday! went to the seaside yesterday too. How is the weather in Rajastan?
@@lostinadmiration I don't know much about Rajasthan as I am from Chandigarh but I think it would be hot there in Rajasthan. Have you ever visited India?
@@bhalla_rishav oh sorry, thought you said you are from rajastan! Your city is so much up north, close to mountains! Must be beautiful! Yes, I have been to Goa, Delhi, Accra and Jaipur. Hope to come back soon to India because I love the food, yoga, nature and beautiful architecture. So many things to love about India! I am so impressed by your country.
gonna implement your advice ❤ i really liked the filming and script. it felt engaging and light hearted :')
i would love to hear your thoughts on stepping outside of the tsunami of self help/improvement. i feel like i've been collecting info or advice instead of taking action
I feel you - I am the same! I try to keep some balance in my Netflix/UA-cam content and reading: 50:50 ratio entertainment vs education :) Also, sometimes when I feel like it's too much, I just take a break! I made one short video about the whole experience of feeling like self-care / self improvement online is too much, if you'd like to have a look: ua-cam.com/video/M4l9AwZYGQ0/v-deo.html and thank you so much for your kind words!!!
Watching this from a very stressful place (mental health clinic my own personal hell), so thank you for making me laugh with the gangsta rap yoga 😂
I am glad to hear! Hang in there, sending you tons of love and light!
Thank you 🥰🌸
Thank you to you ❤️🥰
Instead, I went to an old cemetery to clean up graves 😳🫢😅😂🤣 and I hit the subscribe button.
I LOVE it when I find my people online :D welcome :) and let me know if you ever want to go together
Really great video, thanks!❤
Thank you for watching ❤️
lol I do hate that spa music that yoga videos often have, I tend to follow channels that have no background music in the yoga videos. well it's one channel lol Yoga with Adriene
same!!! check out some videos by Mandy Morrison: ua-cam.com/video/g_tea8ZNk5A/v-deo.html She is German (I think) but many videos are no talking / chill music (but not one of these spa vibes haha) I also love Andriene (and Benji!)
Easily the funniest and most engaging video I have seen on this topic! You are such a breath of fresh air❤ I never skip any ads to make sure you get the 💰
Makes me so so happy - especially since I find it so hard to be ‘funny’ in videos haha 🤣 I just come out awkward 😂 thank you so so much!!!
Published 6 minutes ago, video is 8 minutes long.
Here I am commenting 😆
Thank you so much for watching and the support!!!! 🥰
Thank u as always💙
Thank you to you ❤️🥰
This video needs to spread ❤ amazing!!
thank you so so much for saying this !!! means a lot :)
This was a lot of fun to watch😍😂List of advice updated accordingly 😉
Makes me so happy to hear - thank you 😊
My pleasure☺
Loved the bubble wrap part 😅. No limits to your innovation 😮.
Negative emotions like 'sorrow' should be expressed as cry. I understand that.
But what about 'anger'? Should it also be expressed to avoid storage? because expression of anger on someone leads to regret at a later time and also harms the relationship.
I think we need to convey all emotions, otherwise they build up and are expressed anyway, just in a way that is not conscious / maturely handled. But it is important to have healthy outlets - for me things that help with anger are running (this time actually listening to some intense music, like rap or gaming soundtracks), boxing classes, writing my emotions, walking and listening to music.. things like this. I also sometimes call my best friend to have a vent session :D If you do not express it 'your way', which is managed, contained and healthy, I think it will somehow still make it into your life. My therapist described this feeling to being in a swimming pool and trying to hide a ball underwater - it's very draining and short-lived.
thanks for watching as always!!!
@@lostinadmiration Thanks a lot Daria for explaining so elaborately about ways of conscious expression of anger. This had been a long time unconscious dilemma for me and supression of anger by yoga was not working out well. Thanks 😊
yeah I think also different things work for different people so there is always this test and learn phase :) I hope you'll find what works for you :)
i thought about floor sleeping
btw, best thing I've done. almost 5months in
wow, that's some Count of Monte Cristo stuff! I never heard of this, have to read about it! thank you for sharing!
@@lostinadmirationyes, it's a cool thing, but be careful with its practical use, girls have some anatomical features and sleeping on the floor can even be harmful in some cases.
good to know! I will definitely read about it. One thing I did notice when camping was that after a week of cold showers (or no showers), coming home everything I used to take for granted suddenly felt like luxury (which it is in a way).
I love this
So happy to hear ❤️
@@lostinadmiration The humour in this video is incredible I actually laughed aloud
that makes me so happy :D I was a bit anxious about how it is going to turn out haha
I'm gonna try writing a complainded letter! That is a great idea! Not to the people that wronged me but to the world that put them in my life, haha.
I feel you! Please, dear universe send them back to wherever they came from, nice people only from now on!
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@@lostinadmiration 😍😍Twoja kreatywność nie ma granic🥰🥰
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Dear I am always always waiting for your new videos on every Monday 🥹🩷✨ you are my truly truly inspiration and I will always support your channel so so much
Means the world. I appreciate you so so much! Have a wonderful week
Self compassion is so underrated, so good that you're mentioning it ❤️ cleaning is also my too to avoid tasks that I don't want to do 😂 and a good cry from time to time is really helps 🫶🏼
I could definitely have a cleaning or a crying session with you and enjoy it ❤️ miss you and excited to see you very soon!
Yes 😍😍 @@lostinadmiration