Dr Syl Reacts to 'Rapist Interview-James'
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- Опубліковано 8 лют 2025
- Dr Syl is a Junior Doctor from Sydney, Australia. He has completed multiple psychiatry terms including 2 terms in High Security Forensic Psychiatry Units. In this video he watches Rapist Interview - James, from the Soft White Underbelly Channel. If anything in this video was distressing please consider calling LifeLine 131114 (Australia-wide).
The key observations from Dr Syl in this video were traits of Cluster B personality vulnerabilities such as insecure attachment & impulsivity as well as a differential of delusional disorder (which would need to be corroborated with collateral). It's important to remember this is all speculation aimed at highlighting the complexity of mental health.
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00:00 - Introduction
I stopped watching Soft White Underbelly about a year ago. Delving into the minds of the traumatized, and those who traumatized others, felt like I was sinking into the abyss with them. There is an innocence and peace of mind that cannot be recovered. I commend those who make it their work to help people who have been subjected to the sharp end of life.
Same reason I stopped. But also because the interviewer is so damn tactless sometimes. Hurts to see him almost retraumatizing some people by asking dumb questions/acting in disbelief (i am specifically thinking about a video of a young woman who was sex trafficked and horrifically sexually abused as a child, interviewer was referring to the abusers as her "clients" like what the actual fuck dude, poor girl looked shocked when he said that)
I stopped watching him also. Something was very disturbing about his choice of content
@@lsusanna3 exactly, but looking away does not make the abyss go away. If we do not dare to stare or look evil in the eye, we cannot defeat it or help people move on. Lots of respect to all those people out there that truly dare to stare without blinking, doing all they can to pull these people out.
@@hashtagmateyeah, some people really really put Mark? on a pedestal but I find him incredibly condescending & really not all that empathetic
I thought about unsubbing. But for a different reason. I have never been so triggered by some of the people (just a few of them) that I find extremely idiotic and annoying and/ or evil. And I cannot overcome the temptation to troll.
This was so interesting to listen to. He's definitely had a hard life, but he also doesn't really seem to accept any kind of personal responsibility. He feels bad about "what happened" but doesn't consider himself the cause of the things he's done. He never really apologizes, and seems stuck in the place of "of course all this happened because my environment was messed up and I was taught to be this way." He seems to spend a lot of energy defending that he is a product of his circumstance.
And in many ways he is a product of his circumstance one way or another, but if that's all he can see himself as, I don't really think he's in a position to move past that. That was probably the saddest part of listening to this for me.
most people act out of instinct and conditioning not choice.
@@twilitand that is a choice in and of itself
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And that he kept saying I can’t change
I tried. There’s more help for people than ever before. Even though there. Needs to be more help available for mental illness.
And honestly to HIS victims it doesn't matter in the slightest that he was traumatized blablabla it doesn't fucking matter it's no excuse to hurt other people. If anything it should make you think "i know how horrible and painful this is, i don't want anyone else to go through this"
As a former "bomb defuser" eod tech, we do have fear. We just keep it tamped down and hidden when we need to. Now that I'm retired, I'm a mental mess.
Thank you for your sacrifice and service. Welcome Home, I hope you will be able to rest and get better.
I hope you're ok Michael❤
Please get as much Reiki as poss.
I always assumed people they put in those positions get paid highly for their secret death wishes .. like volunteering to be a kamikaze pilot, these guys knew what they were getting into .. there have been times in my life I could have done a job like that, but people's levels of fear/anxiety/wills to live, do fluctuate .. I once saw a volunteer position to go to Vietnam to locate unexploded bombs advertised on tv way back in the 90s, I never forgot it because today I find it interesting
Hope you are healing and doing better michael, thank you for risking your life every day on your job to save others ❤
Methamphetamines are most likely the culprit for the mouth movement. Not to mention him moving around so much. I've witnessed people on that drug, and his body language hits every data point for someone using excessively.
he's definitely tweaking during the interview
Yes indeed methamphetamine does cause Tardive dyskinesia but so does Anti- psychotic medication. I have seen it on 90 year old patients on Haldol or other med's. It also affects their gait they walk with a shuffle. There are meds that counteract it.
Mark (the soft white underbelly guy) finds many of his interviewees in places like Skid row, so this wouldn’t be surprising.
Lol I came here to say this, I guess meth isn’t as big a problem in Australia because I definitely would’ve thought meth before antipsychotics on a SWU interview.
@@batacumbabut also med students and therefore doctors, are more likely to come from a good family and have no real idea of how tough the world can be and what problems some people face. Of course someone privileged (not hating- i'm privileged too that's why i'm extra mindful) would first think medication and not illegal drugs
Committing child molestation takes this to a whole other level. I have no sympathy whatsoever when it comes to children. I’m a childhood trauma survivor so I know firsthand what this does to you.
There's evidence that suggests that the highest predictor for becoming a child molester, is being molested as a child. IM NIT CALLING YOU OUT WITH THIS BTW.
Like I totally understand how you rationalize and cope, I'm at the point where I think this is also a cope, where he's "getting back" at his abuser, this coincides with BPD possibly as he's reliving trauma, and a lot of the times the "objects of desire" resemble the abuser.
Imo, women are going to internalize and men externalize. Women use social violence, men use physical violence.
It's not shocking to see how men are just more prone to violence, and than when you add on the gender roles and expectations for masculinity, that shit alone drives the murder rate up probably by 60-70% more than it needs to be 😂
I think gender roles play a part, but I truly think that the disparity of testosterone levels is probably the determinant factor.
@AnimosityIncarnate The problem with this is that most of the data comes from people who have a reason to lie. How do we know that child sex offenders were abused as children? Well, because they tell us they were, after they’ve been caught, often when they’ve been imprisoned, when they have reason to say things to try to explain or excuse their actions.
@@AnimosityIncarnateThat’s a common misconception, but the evidence doesn’t actually support that assertion. It’s just such widespread “knowledge” that it’s hard for people to believe it isn’t accurate. It can definitely be a contributing factor, but it’s not the biggest predictor, and the overwhelming vast majority of people who were molested as children never commit a sexual offense in their lives, which makes it an especially insidious false belief for society to have.
so if it was just adults it would be a lesser level??? both acts are despicable and evenly terrible.
He should have never been let out of prison, I know this is going to sound terrible, but I'm glad someone took him out. He's absolutely terrifying!!
I agree. He was a menace to society.
You are fine...and correct.
Really wish we had a mandatory mental health requirement for prisoners. Instead we just let them sit and ruminate and become even more angry at life while wasting it away
Sometimes the animal's got to be put down. All there is to it.
You really missed the point of this video. This world is so blinded by the anger and hate (no matter if its justified) that we dont see the solution.
Like, yeah keep killing them, fill up the prisons, cuz that has worked out great? Its time to start looking to real science and facts, and the facts is that PREVENTION and TREATMENT is the only thing that's gonna work. People, sick people, will keep on doing crimes, no matter the punishment.
That's what being sick mentally is, you do it anyway, until you get treatment and in some severe cases, you get to live permanently in a facility and not getting out (not prison!). That's just plain facts, your government needs to start putting as much MONEY as they are putting on military and such on stuff like CPS (and get it to actually do what its supposed to do, PROTECTING children!) And on your health care and psychiatric services.
We need to start protecting and treating our children and young before its becomes a problem! You cant just wait until stuff becomes a problem and then think killing people is the solution. That's just sad, and it doesn't help
And this is coming from a rape victim. I was raped as both a child and an adult with a disability, and I want this problem gone more that ANYTHING, that's why we need to start looking at the long term solution and not on a short term "solution" (that isn't even working short term...)
Also, PLEASE guys, be respectful to each other when talking, it's a sensitive subject
It’s hard to feel sorr for a rapist
and you dont have to
In your opinion
@@terrytownsend5583 we get it. You relate to them
I don’t feel sorry for him. He did have a poor childhood, but it doesn’t mean that he had to do criminal acts.
@@laurieberry162here’s crime and then there is horrific crimes and rape or any abuse of children are horrific crimes
The lip smacking could be drug abuse, not anti-psychotic side effects. I feel like drug abuse is highly likely for him especially because he ended up homeless at a young age.
Look, not everyone who's had a very harsh childhood become rapist.
Yes and many rapist had a good childhood and are a golden boy, spoiled type of narcissist.
and nobody said that
@@FixedFace Well then the message should be clear.
@@MaryCooksMemorableDishes that may have been Jame’s argument, but definitely not Dr Syl’s. He mentioned multiple times how therapy can successfully rehabilitate people.
No one even hinted at that
This is the first time I’ve ever heard someone actually mention the freeze part in a fight or flight situation. Thank you so much for that! It feels so validating to hear that this is a genuine human response and not a flaw or weekness.
The whole video is super interesting, that comment in particular just stuck out to me as people freeze so often in critical situations and feel somewhat guilty afterwards, yet we’re just doing what we can to survive. Thank you for pointing that out ♥️
I agree, it’s really nice to hear someone making a point of mentioning the freeze response in a video like this!
I could be wrong, but I think it’s also called tonic immobility (or maybe it’s just a similar thing but not exactly the same - I’m not completely sure!).
It was definitely a lightbulb moment when I learned about this stuff though! 🤗🙂
Idk if they’ve done it yet or not but they are suppose to be adding “fawn” to those 3 - spellcheck my spelling….. but, it’s basically trying to please whatever is the threat
Get this too;
Fight/ Flight/Freeze/FAWN
See Sam Vaknin for psychodynamics of these...
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@@KateLaw1030 opps: toatally agree...👍🏻🍀
@@PortraitoftheArtistasanOldDog8 yeah, "fawn" part is all too often overlooked in this.
I know someone with a very similar criminal history, and watching this interview left me stunned how much the two men resemble each other in their whole body language and attitude.
Visually they seek to get acknowledged for their masculinity, legs apart, both feet on the ground, one fist put in their hip, the other one used for grandiose gestures, like “Look at me, I’m so manly, tough and don’t take shit from anybody.”, but when you ask them for their mindset it’s all about being a victim.
Also very similar is this vibe of pride they cannot hide when talking about their crimes, but when being asked why they did it they just respond with “Aaah...don’t know. It just happened.” by trying to literally “wipe it off” with a hand gesture, like waving away a bad smell in the air.
I got to know the mother of the man I know, and absolutely nothing on her stroke me her being as abusive and dominating as he priorly described her to me. To me she appeared as a very quiet woman who’s genuinely scared of her own son, and as a mother who’s deeply saddened and ashamed by what her son has become. He’s told me about so much oppression and brutal violence, including sexual abuse, done to him by his mother, blaming it entirely on her how he turned out.
I’m sorry if I am wrong, but I simply don’t believe him. I can’t.
I wonder if people like this sometimes simply develop false memories, in order to avoid taking responsibility for their own actions and in order to avoid becoming overwhelmed by their own guilt, like “Don’t look at me, I’m not to blame. There’s someone else who made me this way.”
Once you see it you can't unsee it. Absolutely 🫡
Absolutely top comment. Listening to this interview this was my gut feeling - that I’m sure he’s had some difficulties in his life but he’s also looking for an excuse for his crimes.
I cannot judge based on few lines here of if either man had the childhood they say they do. I have been wrong with how I perceive people sooo many times. But, being an ex gambler of the degenerate kind, also suffering from addiction issues since I was 15.. I have in time became a masterful liar.. I don't use it ever, except when I find myself in a situation, where the worst possible outcome could be something very drastic.
So coming out as very capable liar, I got to say, problem with false memories is really bad. I had an experience where I was given money to buy dinner.. This was during my first gambling phase.. Long story short, I blew it.. Since my parents already knew about my problem, and it was probably a year or two into it, I could not stomach the idea of coming honest and just saying I am sorry, I gambled it away.. So I made this elaborate story about how I was jumped in my hood and robbed by two guys with one holding a knife..
It took me about 30 minutes to imagine every part of the situation, and I even hit myself a few times for bruises and when my mum see me, she got angered and we went to police and I made an official report of what happened. Two months later, cops call me to see some pictures and voila, they managed to find the exact same guy from my false memories.. Since then I don't think cops, at least in my country are stupid or incapable.. And also I got a wonderful memory of being robbed..
Ofc, I didn't blame the poor sod who they find for something he didn't do. I always lied to avoid strong confrontations or those that couldn't benefit any side, never out of spite or being malicious.
Nobody would ever believe the horrible abuse my soft-spoken, sweet mother inflicted on me but that doesn't mean she didn't do it. I also don't hurt other people, though, so 🤷
You sound like you need psychological help.
Why do you hate masculinity and attribute these properties to it? It's just bodylanguage.. But of course it must be all men trying to mimic these hand gestures to appear more manly and grandiose.. I would try an anti depressant in your case, can tell your brain is stuck in hateful memories.
When I watch the video of him and examine his physical movements (peri-oral movements and fidgety, abrupt movements of the body)--while it could be associated with tardive dyskinesia as a result of anti-psychotic use--I think it could very well be caused by signficiant historical or current substance use, like methamphetamines. This is a hallmark trait of previous drug use and I see it regularly in my career in the social services.
Right? It's so obvious. Is England a meth free zone? This guy is a doctor? In what Utopia did he train?
@@KK-mm8msMeth is way less common in Europe than it is in America.
@@ivansyomkin2156 He is from Australia. The Australian Criminal Intelligence Commission's (ACIC) latest report found that in December 2021, methylamphetamine consumption in Australia was the highest per capita when compared with nations in Europe, Asia and Oceania. Australia has topped the list of methylamphetamine use among more than 20 countries. It's certainly an issue that physicians or physicians-in-training would be or should be aware of there.
@@KK-mm8ms He's Australian from Sydney, Australia. According to the latest report from the Australian Criminal Intelligence Commission’s (ACIC) Wastewater Drug Monitoring Program (December 2021), "Of the illicit drugs, meth was the most consumed over the 5-year study." So, methamphetamines or "ice" as it is called colloquially there is indeed a huge issue in Australia.
@@thecopperhorseman yes. But often if you don’t work in addiction services here you just don’t know. What we call dual diagnosis should be studied more.
I suffered childhood SA since i was a little girl and then subsequently was SA’d when I was a teenager and I’ve always struggled with it and felt incredibly alone my whole life. Even being married and having children.. that loneliness is deep rooted. The thing he said about “it happened before he can remember”, I completely understand what he meant because it was happening to me since i can remember & before that because they’re was no 1st time in my memories, it was just always happening and i can remember being very small, very young and those memories are vivid and i have nightmares and reoccurring night terrors.. so not that i wasn’t seething with rage listening to him.. i found it interesting hearing someone go though that and become was he has yet i would end myself before i could even let 1 brain cell consider anything like he did. Btw i found your channel by accident 😅
I'm sorry for what you went through and hope you are continuing to heal ❤ but see how you have been through the same thing and you didn't go on to hurt others. This guy is using it as an excuse to hurt others. Sorry to bother you with that, just needed to point it out. Anyways the point stands: you are a wonderful human and deserve a happy and safe life, I hope you have that now!
Hugs. You are incredibly strong. I wish you all the best.❤
Not to make any kind of excuse here, but it’s fairly common for abused girls to grow up into targets of abuse and it’s also fairly common for abused boys to grow up into violent abusers. I think testosterone levels may very well be an important variable. And to be clear not all child victims follow these paths, and my comment is one of introspection not judgment.
May you find rightous rationality in sensual complexities as others continue to try. Dont give up!
Honestly reading this I thought I wrote it for a second. Our lives are eerily similar. I hope you're getting therapy and doing okay 💜
I’m a third-year psychological science student from Brisbane and your videos are so helpful! Such valuable content. Love your work :)
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You can have emotional memories before regular memories. I have CPTSD, and when disgnosed learned thats how you can have emotional flashbacks just the same as regular flashbacks.
I too have CPTSD because of an animal like him.
I’m a retired clinical/ developmental psychologist & in spite of what a lot of people say, I find the content on SWU very interesting & insightful. The creator hasn’t got a background in mental health, but he genuinely asks some very important questions & he attempts to understand the reasons for the backgrounds & behaviours in a significant amount of his content. Thankfully the vast majority of people have never had any experience with people like the individuals interviewed on Soft White Underbelly. SWU approach reminds me of experiences that I’ve had as a clinician when I was working in a forensic disability & mental health facilities & working with people in correctional institutions. The beginning of understanding the person’s background, symptoms & environmental contributors.
The pushback that I’ve observed from commenters on Soft White Underbelly generally comes from people who feel that Mark has a responsibility to “fix” the people that he is interviewing; the only way that these people can be supported is by committing to the therapy, avoiding environments & people that reinforce their unhealthy practices & by changing their behaviours. I’ve over simplified why Mark isn’t responsible for these people, but at the end of the day the purpose of his videos is to educate the general population about people who come from very complex backgrounds & as a result those people become involved in behaviours, alcohol & drug addiction, homelessness, prostitution, criminal activity etc etc.
As s female survivor of female adolescent offenders, and personally knowing three other survivors, I assure you female offenders are far more common than the statistical claims. I’ve tried for years to tell my story to professionals, and the blatant refusal to accept the commonality of this type of abuse was fierce .
The reason for that is that it is rare, your case is your case. But statistical analysis goes further than anecdote. If you were to know me, my case and the few other friends whom I sadly share the experience of CSA with, you’d think the main perpetrators were teenage boys. But statistically this is also not the case.
I know of a couple people too, they’re way too ashamed (due to being straight men) to admit that it hurt them deeply.
All instances of sexual assault and offender statistics are far more common than statistics claim, people underreport. Men still safely hold the lead for inflicting sexual abuse on everybody; women, children, and other men included.
Coming from a woman, I wish there was more awareness for people who suffered SA in hands of women. It's a complex issue that intersects so many other issues with our society, however we should NEVER silence people that were victims of SA, regardless of the gender identity, sex or sexuality. Male SA should be taken more seriously. I'm sorry that people have failed you this way, you're strong and what happened to you is valid.
My ex husband- who was extremely abusive, manipulative, etc- had antisocial personality disorder. He told me he lost his virginity at 8 to a 16 year old female cousin. He was proud of the fact. He was Hispanic and he associated it with machismo. I told him if the same thing happened to me with a male cousin, it would be horrific. He refused to understand that he had been sexually abused. Because it was a female abuser on a male victim.
What do you think about the action of “fawning” in addition to flight, flight, and freeze… it is a response that involves “giving in” and complying in order to stay safe in circumstances… it has been associated with codependency later in life. Thank you for any insight you have in this also! 🙏💙🌀
I definitely find the Soft White Underbelly videos fascinating, but there’s something unethical going on, even if I can’t put my finger on it exactly.
I saw a video if him talking to a sex worker (He used the word “Prostitute”) and being horrifically patronizing. I felt like my jaw dropped on the floor when he said something like “You know that’s bad, right?” The value of these interviews could be giving voices to the voiceless but he decided his voice was pretty important to add in there.
If you watch videos of him, he’s very smug. He makes videos people want to see, including myself, but at what cost to the people in the videos? I can imagine that some like to feel heard, but some just need money and may feel violated for Mark to be famous. I’m sure the woman he scolded felt that way.
Or you’re just assuming that’s what it means
@@TGoonYT Do you read comments before trolling? 😂
you don't even know what trolling is. you're being sensitive over nothing@@sazonada
he pays ppl…
I only watched his video with the schizophrenic Chris, but he did come off as smug in that video, yes. I guess it's just a question of if you're doing an interview about this person, how important do you think it should be to have your subject state that the thing they did as bad so that the audience can hear it as opposed to just trying to sift through with other questions and perhaps understanding the pathology a little better
14:15 Many people who experienced s.a. reported that their attacker acted like they were on a date, horrific as that sounds. It may be related to this weird attachment deficit they have.
You bring up so many vital issues!!! And your “Getting worked up” is heart-warming. Thank you!! “Not being able to say no”…and “emotional arousal” is so real “survival mechanism”. Thank god you bring up freeze which hit me so hard as i aged when a few really bad things happened though thanks in part to dissociation i avoided all the pitfalls of addiction, crime etc. or even having children which i would have loved to (did work with foster children and had i means was certified to be a foster parent) but was scared unless part of a social support network (before i knew what those are) that I’d mess up like i saw so many adults do in my childhood. And bringing up men victims of sexual abuse..i was oblivious until I accidentally ended up helping a friend’s uncle who had been an alcoholic since his teens …his family didn’t know his mother sexually abused him and yet when i supported him in opening up with them it made sense in hindsight which is interesting - thank god his family cared enough to think back and question not take either extreme of denial or instant belief either. . County mental health throws almost everyone on antipsychotics here in rural US and likely CAUSES or worsens mental health issues. They don’t ask enough questions nor spend enough time with a person to get to know them. No time for a “Wide range of differentials”, which you are so very good at. If you don’t know about repressed memories read up on Ted Bundy case and survivor and how she ended up being able to give description she couldn’t recall and also either on showtime or MAX there is a docuseries i forgot name of about a woman who witnessed her father murder someone and not until the end did my skepticism turn away from the woman and now lands directly on how in the world her father’s lawyers could still have doubt…fascinating to watch for psychology and sociology whatever you end up believing.
Risperidone (an anti-psychotic) is used to treat aggressiveness and violent mood swings in ADHD and Autism, as well as personality disorders as you mentioned.
I already love when you do these types of videos but I’m even more excited to watch your videos after you finish becoming a psychiatrist hint hint 👀
I have a lot of feelings about this that I'm not quite sure how to express (not quite sure exactly what I'm feeling actually). I understand that learning why people commit violent acts may help prevent people from committing them in the future but I don't know about giving it a public platform. Not that this interview was glorifying or in any way condoning what he's done but... I just don't know. Anyone else feeling confused about this?
Yeah I would agree. We shouldn't give antisocial/violent behavior any sort of positive attention, especially not rape. I imagine that it is important to know what goes on in the mind of a rapist to prevent people from being victimized, but giving a rapist a public platform might further boost their ego and allow them to think their behavior is justifiable. Even though mental illness (on the part of the perpetrator) is definitely involved in rape, that does not make their actions any less despicable. The same goes for pedophiles, MBP perpetrators, etc.
So many of the soft white underbelly interviews are questionable, and confronting and some are really hard to listen to. To say some people's stories shouldn't be told or shared for people to hear, seems wrong though doesn't it? Now the deeper I went into the channel it became very clear, at least to me anyway, that this guy doing the interviews really wants to help people. In order to help people you need to understand how fucked up people can be. So horrible stories or just very confronting topics, in theory it should be helping us all learn to be more empathetic and not judge people until we understand. To be honest I have seen so many of the interviews on that channel, but I would skip past this one because, well I figured why would I want to hear about that. But now watching it with this intelligent and articulate fellow Aussie explaining some of it, made me realise everyone's story is worth listening to. I think so anyway😊
@15:16 its to understand that people have reasons for what they do. its to learn empathy on all levels.
this video is not giving a platform for this behavior. Understanding why people do certain things is a key factor
in helping achieve the ultimate goal of society for "Everyone living together in a positive environment".
I think we have to understand where this information is coming from. If you listen to what he says, everybody abused him including his sister, he was locked up for raping his mom but he was just doing what he was taught, he truly didn't know the difference between right and wrong sexually. He's doing his best to spin the narrative to make it look like he had no choice in the matter. I look at is like this: as long as I recognize the source, and not take it at face value, I can watch this interview. It provides less of an insight into his psyche and more of how he wants to be seen by everyone else.
Psychoanalyst Carl Jung was famous for his concept of “The Shadow” which are the parts of ourselves that we want to keep hidden. That includes violent urges and desires like rape. He argued that a critical part of healing and overcoming the Shadow is to “bring it to light” by confronting it, understanding it and accepting it (which is different from allowing or condoning violent acts). This process is called integration. Jung was very successful at helping clients heal by applying this approach. I think philosophy and religions which shun and shame and try to hide evil actually make things worse. The evil doesn’t go away, it just gets repressed and will eventually come out in potentially worse ways. We see it with abusive clergymen, hypocritical politicians and people in all parts of society. Like it or not, this man shares the same human nature that you and I do. I believe it’s healthy to witness his story as it can shed light on darkness that may also dwell within each of us.
James actually died of a stab wound in his tent a year or so ago.
what goes around, comes all the way back around
I hope his tent is ok!
This was really interesting and I think you should do some more of these. I enjoy all of your content, and I happen to have to seen quiet a lot of soft white Underbelly. It would be very interesting to dive into the 'why' of so many of those stories.
Oh and there's a pretty high chance he's on meth, that may explain the crazy mouth movements. seems to be common from what I understand, and the guy interviewing does meet most of them in skid row.. one of americas biggest open drug markets.
love your channel and your perspective on things, keep up the good work man.
I can unfortunately remember traumatic moments when I was a year and a half. Those memories are clear as day.
As a former meth user- those movements? Meth. Also, I think he's making involuntary movements because he's not telling the whole truth about some things. He thinks before answering. I think he's trying to answer in a way that creates more sympathy for himself. He knows what he did was wrong but he cares about how he's viewed. If I had to guess, antisocial personality disorder. He's exactly like my ex husband in presentation of self vs reality of past actions.
28:00 Wouldn’t putting psychopaths and sociopaths in the military just reinforce them to be even more violent? It seems like it would cancel out any benefit from concurrent therapy/treatment. You don’t hire a drug addict to test new street drugs because “they’re good at it.”
Plus I think the military is one of the last places we want psychopaths and sociopaths to be.. there are too many cases of abuses by soldiers in other countries, and we would probably also benefit as a world from having more soldiers question and resist the commands they get from psychopathic politicians. The argument to put psychopaths in the military serves psychopaths in power; it doesn’t serve humanity. I think it would be better for them to do “nothing” than serve in the military.
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Ya, in fact I kind of....don't fw military ppl at all bc I feel like you gotta be a little bit violent or seeking that kind of outlet if you join, it's a big red flag for me if you're under 85 and were happy to serve (USA🚩🇺🇸🚩)
I've always associated that mouth movement with methamphetamines. I had no clue anti psychotics could be the culprit. This is exactly why I'm binging this channel I'm learning a lot from you
Hey bud - great analysis of an informative (although disturbing) interview. I think that too often in society we feel that as soon as we've labelled someone as mentally ill, then we're done and can go about our day, when in fact, if we don't dig deeper we won't really understand how these problems and pathologies arise and how to possibly intervene in advance before people get hurt in the future.
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A 7 minute TED talk by a guy who, as the title suggests, was VERY close to becoming a school shooter but backed out at the last minute because of an intervention. He talks about how he got to that state and all the things going through his mind and why he wanted to and how thankful he is that he didn't go through with it.
*Paul Bernardo - Police interrogation of notorious serial killer*
A longer interview with a psychopath and narcissist. (Peterson actually references this video as one of the best examples of psychopathic narcissism) He's being interviewed in jail about murders he committed and he completely turns it around on the cops and lawyers for being rude to him and ungrateful for his help.
Cheers buddy.
I don’t think that his mouth movements were a “clear sign” of tardive dyskinesia or antipsychotic medication use. I’m a nurse and have had plenty of patients that have not been on antipsychotics who do these mouth movements - and these folks are people who don’t have teeth! Whether or not they have worn dentures at any point doesn’t seem to change the intensity or frequency of these movements, although, I have more frequently worked with people that do have access to dentures and when they aren’t wearing them, they do these mouth movements! Based on the position of this man’s lips, and the way he speaks, it appears that he doesn’t have teeth, or doesn’t have many teeth. I’d reckon that’s the cause.
Don’t forget fawn! Fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. :) Agree with much of your content, love how tactfully and compassionately you talk about the subject matter. You are an excellent psychiatrist, I think, because we can see your thought process, just as we see the obvious issues presented by the videos. Excellent basic knowledge for those interested in mental health.
I refused to watch that one. That "person" does not deserve space or understanding. Even the idea that we have to have an indepth view of him makes my blood boil.
What if he were a woman instead??
@@maxhatush5918 doesn't matter. The manipulation, violence, intrusion and ruining someone's life remains the same
Understanding doesn't mean we have to be empathetic or anything. It's just knowledge, how could someone turn out so horribly? People are watching out of morbid fascination mostly
I was a LCSW and a survivor and I know I could not treat this POS.
This MF Needs To Get Deleted
He'd playing the victim sooo hard
He was a victim?
He was a victim tho idk why everyone is so against him 😄
He acts like he is trying to think of a story when asked about manslaughter. He seemed almost proud he was violent and wanted everyone to know but couldn’t come up with the manslaughter story quick enough to say on camera.
I've seen people on PCP and crack chew their mouths like that.
There are people who don’t do PCP, crack etc. Tardive dyskinesia
Truly an amazing channel i recommend it to everyone, its insane how much trauma is in our world and right under our noses. Theyre great about making you think youre gonna hate someone, find out their story, and instead feel sad for them. Ive been through a lot of horrible things, but they really squash the idea that my life is the worst/its not fair/why me kinda feeling. We all suffer, and we all nees laws that work with the people not against them! Healthcare includes mental care and can really save a life, both the person and potential victims they would hurt later on. We have the ability to become a healthy society it just needs to be done. And these kinds of archives of stories are fantastic little windows into 21st century trauma and i hope one day down the line they're studied. Humanity needs to not just improve but also heal. Healing is a huge part of growth and getting better as a species.
It takes a special kind of person to be able to work with people who have mental/behavioral issues and those who have been deemed outcasts of society. It's not for everyone. But for those of us who have the patience, resilience and emotional capacity to be involved in their lives, i believe it's important that they have light shed on their circumstances. Of course it's hard to sympathize/empathize with a rapist or anyone involved with crime, but with compassion or willingness to learn the WHY aspect, nothing would ever change. Compassion is my religion. ❤️
From a little ole psych tech to you, thank you for your kindness and compassion, Dr. Syl.
As a student of psych and someone who works in the mental health sector, I am enjoying your videos and your comments, so I have subscribed :)
I've watched several of mark's interviews and it really helps you to understand why people turn out the way they do. Some of the things These people have been through just harrowing. The lives they've led.
And yet so many have had awful lives and don't go on to commit them against others. The level of sympathy for bad people is... and yet good people who have experienced the same thing are discounted because it didn't turn them into abusers.
He may be lying to minimize his responsibility.
It’s a possibility.
Fascinating video with the insight of the perpetrator and your analysis. That’s one of the more disturbing videos I’ve seen on The White Underbelly channel, which is a fascinating channel for insight into other’s history, perceptions, and psychology.
I’m glad you said that you sympathized with him, as so do I, a fault of mine, fawning narcissists, trying to help them and give insight.
I find your content validating and insightful. You’re a great asset to society.
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I agree with you that many factors make up
Who we are; however there still has to be accountability for everyone.
I have been around mentally challenged people and even they respond to reward etc response. They are held accountable.
And we need to focus on victims as well so that they don’t get lost in understanding of the whys of others choices. Everyone needs compassion, second chances and listening but sadly some are just evil and they enjoy it. Some truly don’t want help or change. You can’t fix the world. Just wanted to add that.
Just discovered your channel. You seem to be in the right profession with a kind caring heart. Just remember this world is not perfect and you can only do what you can do. Take care of yourself!
Thanks for bringing a light to a much needed area that needs more funding and support.
First of all, the mouth movements look like methamphetamine intoxication. It's possible he was given antipsychotics in prison, so it could be tardive dyskinesia.
Second, moving to a new area makes me think of "the geographical cure:" thinking their problems are tied to a particular area and the people there. Unfortunately, it doesn't work.
The geographical cure! I've never heard that before. That's so true.
what about him screams bpd to you? violent tendencies (not at all involved in diagnosis), anxious preoccupied attachment. possible dissociation. there's nothing that shows unstable or difusse sense of self, no self harm or suicidality, nothing that shows frantic efforts to avoid abandonment. he doesnt mention flashbacks or nightmares, disorganised attachment, structural dissociation, intense mood swings. idk im getting emotional about this because i feel like you're grasping at straws and perpetuating stigma and i think it's irresponsible
I agree!
It presents differently in males vs females
Nothing in the video suggests borderline. Anyone trying to diagnose that is misinformed and the Dr is being quite unprofessional in throwing out comments like that. Borderline is a mood disorder that typically only becomes evident when the person is in a romantic relationship - then all the insecurities and extreme emotions come out. He has very clear antisocial traits, amongst other things, but it would be impossible to claim borderline personality disorder from the video.
You have such visible compassion with this & maybe other cases as opposed to the usually dispassionate clinical approach of many other professionals when interacting with their patients Having this ability, It's quite admirable/touching for you to have chosen the profession which you have. Kudos.
I believe he was stabbed to death. I was very shocked to hear about it all. There were more interviews with him in Mark's subscription channel
Can you link them? I can't find them
@@astrosandorbits5532 it's a paid channel or you can do 7 day free trial
Thank God!
The world is a safer place without him.
We got sex offenders living near me. They were doing it with children and adults. There are photos of the men who did these crimes who live near me.
Great video, thank you!
I'm studying psychotherapy, and your explanation of the videos helps me to see another way of looking at things.
You are very informative and knowledgeable.
It's nice to listen.
Thanks again
You don't consider the rape of a child a ln act of violence....oh I can absolutely assure you, its horrifyingly violent
right. Anyone who can abuse a child like that is a monster. Like how could you?!
This 'James' guy could easily be cast in a tough-guy action movie, as he has the rugged look and tonal voice qualities to complete the character attributes necessary for a movie role. ☝️🙄
Maybe you should reconsider whether you consider CSA violent. It's always a violent act. Even if it's not. It is. It is.
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Every video of these that you make i pick apart my understanding and put it all back together again. I’m almost done with my bachelor of nursing and hoping to stay safe and practice in the mental health/addiction space. Thankyou 🙌
I've followed Mark Laita and watched his Soft White Underbelly videos for several years. I strongly recommend them. They help you see another side of life as you hear stories from drug addicts, alcoholics, prostitutes, pimps, and many others. He also does interviews of people from Appalachia, where I'm also from. Of particular interest is the Whitaker family in West Virginia, whose members are inbred and suffer from severe physical, mental, cognitive, and verbal issues. Whoever Mark interviews, whatever their story and whatever they've done, Mark is patient, kind, caring, and respectful of them all. He gives everyone a chance to speak and be heard.
And so much of this is related to poverty. Poverty creates so many problems. Guaranteed if I was living on the streets or couldn't afford a place to live and had to worry every month about how I was going to pay rent, had no health insurance so you know if you get sick you are going to be in trouble, constant worry -- I'd be drinking or taking massive amounts of drugs. I grew up poor with a disabled dad and even though my parents tried to hide the worst of things from us, I was ALWAYS worried. When I finally got health insurance and was more financially secure it was heaven on earth. Now that we had 2009 crisis, employment issues due to age, and $250,000 embezzled from us I am SICK with worry again -- having a husband 13 years older than myself and no family makes that daily stress crazy -- I have essentially been worried since I was 7 when my dad got sick -- had a break for about 15 years and now I am back to understanding how much the world sucks when you don't have money
I can't watch it. I don't know why the general public needs to know the Whitakers. It's a damn tragedy but it's a public health & elder care matter at this time. They do not need to be on camera. There's not much to tell that would help anyone outside of true professionals who've worked with them for years, cases like theirs are extremely rare, it's not like awareness needs to be raised. And they are not great representatives of other issues facing Appalachia, it's just looky loos calling themselves compassionate. It's like people who want to ask my mom questions to learn about her 6 inch leg discrepancy. You know you've never seen it before and won't again, what we need to learn is minding our business
Most of the answers he gets are lies, still interesting, but important to remember
@@standdownrobots_ihaveoldglory The thing is that Mark's viewers have raised thousands of dollars, at least $20K, to help and support the Whitakers. Public assistance will never give them something like that.
@@standdownrobots_ihaveoldgloryyou don’t know his relationship with the Whittakers, or anyone he interviews for that matter. Whatever you think of his videos is fine, but the truth is the Whittakers have had a significant improvement in all aspects of life because of Mark and his videos. You can argue the videos are exploitative in nature, but the best kind of journalism is forcibly exploitative. It’s no different than when journalists take pictures of war victims or starving civilians. Someone has to show the world somehow and those people aren’t in a position to fix everything themselves. You can’t rely on professionals to help everyone in need when society is formed by everyone and we all need a helping hand at some point in life, professionals included
Even more complex than "fight, flight, freeze" it's "fight, flight, freeze, FAWN" which adds an even spicier complicating flavour to the mix. With "fight" or "flight" people might feel that they "took charge" of the situation in some way, or were able to extract themselves from danger or fight their way out (or attempt to). With "freeze" they obviously run the risk of having feelings later of having "let it happen" and with "fawn", even worse, of "encouraging it"!! All that has got to be unpacked with sometimes years of therapy.
I like that u mention ACES. I’m a childhood trauma survivor and have been in a long recovery process and reading and studying all facets of toxic family of origin dynamics.
Antipsychotics are often over prescribed and inappropriately prescribed and forced in county mental hospitals and so he may also be suffering from that, the long term side effects.
So...his rape of his mother "just happened." As much as we are supposed to sympathize with this maladapted individual, I think it's safe to say that this guy was one very sick puppy. I think the psychiatric community needs to realize that these types will give whatever story will tug at the most heart strings. They rarely take any real responsibility for any evil act they do. It would be interesting to hear his mother's side of th story.
Absolutely
No words about when mommy diddled him as a baby, sweetheart?
@@maxhatush5918 you sound like a child abusing person who has no empathy for helpless kids.
Thank you so much for your in dept analysis of this interview. I'd seen it, I think SWU takes on a very important and loaded endeavour, and that it's useful to the interviewees as well as us audience. I do have to take prolonged breaks from it though as it's pretty heavy for the soul.
I also want to thank you for bringing up the well less known from of fight or flight, which is freezing. I've been there when I was 7, and hearing this is very enlightening. I'm one of those male survivors who didn't really have a chance to express myself until now. Being about to start transactional therapy, after decades, I feel better equipped to start this somewhat scary journey from watching your videos.
also how can you say child molestation isnt a violent crime? emotionally always but physically it often is too. i hate when people call it a paraphilia, as if it's some kind of extreme kink. many of them aren't even attracted to children but theyre attracted to the power dynamic. it seems like you've never questioned any of the stuff youve learnt, where's the peer centred learning, where's the intersectional approach? the dsm isn't the bible. all the things you're talking about happen out in the wild, in the context of the social patterns we live under
Seriously, that part made me do a double take.
I will NEVER empathize with someone who WILLINGLY decides to hurt a child. You ALWAYS have a choice, I have trauma that I’d NEVER inflict on others. They don’t deserve that. To this day I vowed to protect every child in my life, they don’t deserve to be hurt and traumatized man, I’m not empathizing with anyone who could hurt a child.
Me neither and I don't like kids ...just playing they alright the parents right now I'm no so sure anymore though at least my generation...we ain't special that's for sure .
Children are small. Adults, especially adult men, are large. I don’t think it takes a lot of imagination to see why child molestation is considered a violent crime. There is a reason we call them “predators”.
^^Also to mention the bodies and minds of children are NOT fully developed. Sexual penetration will kill a child, damage their body permanently and traumatize them for the rest of their life. I have no sympathy for sexual predators.
NOW DARE he compare himself to a soldier!!!
For all the bpd sufferers who are getting offended,bpd is often caused by trauma or neglect inflicted at toddler age..why are you so against him having it,are you a dr? No,just cos your not a rapist ,that’s good for you,open your minds! No one’s judging you personally,we are discussing him, not bpd
Nothing in the video suggests borderline. Anyone trying to diagnose that is misinformed. Borderline is a mood disorder that typically only becomes evident when the person is in a romantic relationship - then all the insecurities and extreme emotions come out. He has very clear antisocial traits, amongst other things, but it would be impossible to claim borderline personality disorder from the video.
Did you notice he did a nervous laugh after he said he had molested children?
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Fight flight freeze and fawn. Fawn is another one that happens and is also totally understandable and makes total sense. All of the responses do
Many shrinks could learn alot watching Mark and Soft Whute Underbelly..
When a person has a self protective mechanism that makes them deny their own experiences they will try and make you seem crazy/question your own memory. I would assume his mother was mentally ill/narcissist also.
He was the 'outcast' in his family. When he told the court about his mom, they all got angry because he now was affecting what their lives are like and probably didn't want anything to change. Not giving him an excuse for the crimes that he committed but when you don't have anyone to guide him and teach him right from wrong it makes life thousand times harder.
Thank you for this analysis of a very dark soul. Both you and Mark Laila are gifted healers who use your medical and photographic artistry, respectively, to shed light on the most unlit recesses of human beings that so many would prefer to lockup, throw-away and punish rather than engage with and/or attempt to rehabilitate. “God Bless Us, Everyone!” as Tiny Tim would say!🆘❤
Sexual assault is alarmingly common, and we don’t live in a world without context. There are structural power imbalances that contribute to this fact. Human trafficking is the most lucrative black market industry on the planet - that doesn’t happen in a void. It happens in a global context of power imbalances between men and women, and that is an important part of the story to focus on. I do believe in treating people as individuals and understanding their motives. But I wouldn’t like to think that an interview with one rapist would explain the global phenomena of rape.
I was 12 & a boy at the time back in 1977. The perpetrator was a 23 year old woman. A woman who was on a mission to get pregnant. I almost took my own life over it just over a year ago. In the end I plucked up the courage to go to the police. The police said they can not just compare DNA as the mother was the one who commited the crime not our son who is now 45 and was the result of the sexual assault. He is totally unaware of the lengths his mother went to and laws she broke just to conceive him. At the moment the case is in the hands of the prosecution. It's up to them to decide if the case goes forward. If it does go forward then & only then can DND test be undertake.
I’m so sorry that happened to you, that’s an unthinkable situation to be in. I hope you’re doing well
@@vikki-333 Thanks lovey. I'm coping I have someone by my side I can rely on when my heads in bits.
James is deceased. I think he was stabbed in his tent.
I don’t like how he pushes the assumption that the molestation is a delusion. I’ve seen interviews of women who raped their son, and there are cases where adults have orchestrated basically gang rape/abuse on children that were in their care by pushing other kids to abuse one kid a little more and more until the abuse was horrific. It’s fine to speculate that it’s a delusion, but he supported the opinion that it’s a delusion by saying that the mother clearly didn’t believe she abused him when she said it didn’t happen in a court case. That’s exactly what an abuser would say.
I’m not assuming one way or another- none of us have enough background to make assumptions- but it’s very possible he was sexually abused by family members.
I found that confusing, too. Both things can be true, but his reasoning seems delusional. He talks about his own abuse very casually, as if he talks about this a lot. So maybe he's learned that if someone hurt him, then he shouldn't be punished for hurting others. That's delusional.
@@GlasPthalocyanine many abused people who have talked about it a lot can talk about it casually. I was anally raped when I was 14. I’ve talked about it with a therapist and could easily talk about it casually. This guy was almost certainly required to talk about it in sexual offender programs. Maybe the first couple telling weren’t so casual. We just don’t know.
@@Itsme.KatieG yes. But if you look at the balance of his anger in what he says, in the whole conversation, you can see that he is most angry about being arrested for rape. In people that I know with BPD, that's the biggest theme in their lives. They are always trying to figure out why nobody believes them. Even if they're just being arrested for shoplifting, they just don't understand why the police chose to believe the store detective, or the cctv. It's all about their ego and plausibility. He almost doesn't care that he was arrested. He just can't figure out why his victims weren't arrested, too. That's the delusion. He can't figure out how he can do that to his mom, and then she doesn't want him in the house. None of that means that he was never abused, but you can't see the facts because, from his point of view, the biggest insult was to his ego.
I thought the same thing
It is quite common for people, especially men, who have suffered repeated sexual abuse to become abusers themselves. It happens because its a messed up way of taking their power back. It is extremely important for victims to get help and therapy as soon as possible after their trauma.
Although mark (the man interviewing james)...a very empathizing human soul...I discern that there are deeper issues with him going on...to continue to help people who dont want to help themselves..and sit blunt faced through some of the most horrific information of the lives of others.....
I feel like theres something from his past hes trying to change, compensate, or reconcile with..
Its actually disturbing to think about...that the nice guy, so well kept together behind the camera... is actually a mess himself...just my thoughts tho...
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Remember, Mark Laita's Soft White Underbelly, he's a photographer, & his videos are giving a voice to many different lives ❤😊
Part of me empathizes with a sexual assault survivor, but to turn around and assault children, well ... I have no qualms about him being murdered. Hopefully he will find some sort of absolution in the next life. Also, I have real problems with SWU, it seems a bit exploitative.
I think he said over a period of 26 years, he did 18 years in prison and the first stint was a full 10 years in a row in prison.
This man’s mouth movements are due to not having teeth and having dry mouth also. Not to say that he is not on antipsychotics but I doubt that he would even take meds. This man was basically living by his own rules. He was raised by animals and carried on the behavior. I wish that I could have heard his entire story and then your input…I might have learned more from the video.
The guy wanted to connect with people, and didn't like being alone so he goes to LA where everyone is fake. :( Being from the midwest this was a culture shock to me. Even the gas station clerks felt "fake" like everyone is wearing a persona or mask. In the midwest, we're more upfront, blunt and honest. I wasn't ready for just how "fake" people were in LA.
Just found your channel. Very interesting stuff. With regards to this video, I think he may have the mouth movements because he's missing some or all of his teeth. That is not to say he's not on medication, but people with dental problems often have the same movements.
The fact that Dr. Styl said that he feels really sorry for this rapist means to me that he has a lot of love, compassion and understanding for people.
A lot of people hate on Mark Laita, but he himself admits there's an exploitive nature to his work inherently, but that the good it does far exceeds that. Which I agree with. He is helping out so many people on the street and extends an immense amount of compassion and humanity to them. I think its disgusting how people sitting behind their computer screens can judge him and his work, when they're probably just like the majority who walk past these people every day and won't even look at or acknowledge them on the street.
Dr. Sly, I'm a retired therapist (worked primarily with sex offenders, and batterers) and I appreciate your knowledge...and especially empathy....
I say the exact same thing about empathy - even though it’s hard at times… I truly believe the exact same thing, we are all just 4 year olds with more hair lol
Love Soft White Underbelly. Thank you for doing this reaction.
That was fascinating. I couldn't tell if he was making an argument about the army because of the violence and sexual deviation and abuse he grew up in resulting in his world view. Or if he doesn't think he can change because of what he has been through and feels rejected by a society that made him what he is.
Outrageous. I come from a military family and this is profoundly insulting. He is trying to elevate his status on the basis of his violent acts.
from what I read the reactions to traumatic events are fight, flight, freeze, fawn. the fourth wasn't mentioned in the video (people pleasing, overwhelmed, lack of identity...)
I think there is more to sexual trauma as a child, that makes for a brain to behave in maladaptive ways toward relationships (rapes/rage) without a person having the DSM be a perfect fit. He then may kill to conceal the rape/failure to connect.
I am sorry to write this, but not to mention how smart he is , also Dr. Syl is too adorable!!!!
could you do a video how lay people can compassionately interact with folks struggling with mental health? I have a neighbor who has a lot of similar behaviors to this person. I do not think my neighbor is a rapist, but he is always talking openly about how violent he is and his childhood trauma. I similarly hear a need and desire to connect. He is a Vietnam veteran so I give him a wide berth, but sometimes it scares me and I don't know how to draw a boundary without escalating him and I want to be neighborly, he does a lot of good for our little community. And with the houselessness crisis, we are interacting with mental health issues in more and more public places, how can we safely interact with respect and dignity? for example, walking through a park with a homeless camp, be polite but avoid eye contact? I'm curious if you have any tips about how we can live together?
You can treat them ...like any other people. Kindly , empathetically. No excessive staring, excessive eye contact, mockery.. you know, the common courtesy. No pointed questions. If you just are passing - walk with purpose and awareness of surroundings.
If someone is having, clearly, a break from reality either as form of psychotic break , degenerative disease or as a result of drug abuse then confrontation isn't the best option, ever .
The approach, well...
It's the same with dementia patients - instead of saying "what you are fearing/saying is stupid and I don't believe you/ there's no one there / np one is following you or staring at you" you can always say "I see your point/ I'm trying to understand/ let me check if there's someone there / where did you see them, let's check together/ I'm sorry if you took offense, I was looking at what is written on your shirt/ on something behind you".
Regarding outreach in homeless camps..
Don't be scared but also don't be threatening. Don't be too formal but also don't pretend to be one of them.
Walk like you belong here, scan environment intently as if always looking for a familiar face - you can ask someone if You know X Y Z if you feel you are being watched with hostile intention. It's better to de-escalate a potentially violent situation if you caused suspicion by asking and paying for someone to "hook you up with X since XYZ isn't there" and just throw it out rather than be menaced in any way. It's no secret drug abuse is connected to homelessness intimately - for many reasons - and frankly, being a fellow user, whether current, former or curious can dispell a lot of barriers if you want to reach out to people living in homeless camps. That's how we got into doing sex work outreach and harm reduction outreach - the caveat being the intentions being genuine. Don't ever try to bullshit a person that spent time on the street - they read through made up niceties like hydrofluoric acid eats through bones.
You know your stuff. I was going to pass it because of childhood trauma but you breaking it down gives an insight.
Fight, flight, freeze and fawn.
I'm pretty positive he wasn't being inconsistent on the prison time. He says he did 26 years, 18 in prison, leaving 8 in juvenile detention and/or county jail and of the 18 years in prison he did a 10 year stretch for a certain crime.
I’m really, really trying to take everything this man says at face value but a lot of what he says and the way he says it are just suspicious.
If he is as lonely as he says, and I believe he is, I wonder if he was lying or exaggerating because it’s what he thought the interviewer wanted to hear. Almost trying to impress him in a very strange bid for approval and company.
Soft White Underbelly pays his subjects, so they try to give a good interview...
I don’t believe anything he says
He tried the manipulation and pity play with those claims.
A cluster B rarely says the truth.
Even then, he says it for a reason, and only when it's suit' himself.
Love the video, thank you
It’s fight, flight, freeze and FAWN. As a child protection practitioner I see this survival strategy the least, but have found that the severity of the abuse suffered by children who fawn is the worst of the worst.
I agree 🖐️ It carried into adulthood and the workplace. Relationships , "friendships".
It's like sharks smelling blood in the water. 😔
It's very difficult, because you have to figure out on your own how to be an adult by parenting yourself. You hopefully encounter kind people along the way who see your worth, that helps immensely.
That helps awaken the fighter inside you and your inner strength awakens and they sense that. You've learned you have WORTH and start standing up for yourself.
It's very difficult, but so worth putting in the work, life changing really. 👍
Hi, I know this was posted a year ago, but this man reminds me of someone I looked after. I looked after a woman who was taken off the streets, and said to have a mental disability, but nothing known or written down other than ocpd. The way he talks, his movements, his mouth movements, his pauses, his ups and downs in speaking... The thing is with the woman i looked after, she would say things if you asked her even if they weren't true. If I called her out on it she would admit after that it was a lie. It's hard to believe if what he's saying is fully true or if some of it isn't quite right. It could be truths that have been altered or changed in his mind or come out verbally .. In a certain way.. Only way to tell would be to come back to him a month later and ask him an open ended question about what his childhood was like without putting any words or ideas into his head. *shrugs*..but I'm no doctor lol
Cluster B have a tendency of not taking responsibility for their actions, they are very manipulative and lie for almost no reason at times. They are not trustworthy. What I find is strange is how people are believing everything he says, and having sympathy for his childhood, and yet is anyone showing any for his victims? What if his victims have genuinely experienced early age trauma before encountering him. I wouldn't believe anything this guy says. This video, and the comments are an insight into why victims are never believed. Especially child abuse victims/survivors.
People who have not had any, or very few, adverse experiences have a tendency of invalidating and minimising trauma and similar.
It's disgusting you'd blame all people with cluster b disorders here. Almost 100% we are abused children who becomes cluster b, it is also genetic. With that said, he definitely could be lying about his sexual abuse but usually that trauma begins in childhood and the adults go on to abuse. Love your YT armchair diagnostic credentials here.
@@AliciaM5555 who are you talking to? It is suggested he is a cluster B personality. 100% of those abused as children are not cluster B, in fact many abused children do not have a personality disorder. Your suggestion of false "facts" either proves to me you know nothing about it, or your deliberately lying to make me look like I don't know what I'm talking about. Many cluster B's have BPD, and that can occur with no history of abuse/trauma. Like I said cluster B's have a tendency of lying and attempt to discredit, invalidate or participate in character assassination of others, especially those they disagree with. I have experienced it before, and I will again. As you seem to think that "almost" all abused children have cluster B personality disorders, and go on to abuse others as adults confirms my prior supposition about you. In reality this is generally what uneducated people think, and an excuse for them to discredit others. I have not blamed all cluster B's. Are you trying to shame me by saying it's disgusting? Don't try, it won't work. Did I say cluster B's have a tendency of trying to manipulate people, in a variety of ways, including attempting to make them feel ashamed.
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Btw Dr Syl, he said that he spends a good amount of time before the interviews telling the person all the reasons they SHOULD NOT do the interview, and then allows them to decide whether they still want to or not.